The Difference Between ADHD and Anxiety Signs

 – Hey, Psych2Goers. Do you have trouble paying attention? For example, zoning out while watching this video? Do you think you have ADHD because of this? Oftentimes, people mistake symptoms of anxiety for ADHD because of some of the similar traits they share. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention data, about 3 in 10 children with ADHD have anxiety. So to help you get a better understanding of the difference between ADHD and anxiety, here are six signs to look out for. Number one, you have poor focus because of worrying thoughts.
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Are you always distracted by your worries, so much so that you’re unable to focus on the things you’re doing? When fear and apprehension dominate your thoughts, it may cause you to become restless, and have trouble sitting still, paying attention, or staying focused in class. According to John Waldrop, MD from Weill Cornell Medical College, when you experience anxiety, your prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain which is essential for thinking, learning, and remembering, is shut down. Your brain is concentrated on staying safe.In contrast with ADHD, you aren’t consumed by worrying thoughts. Instead, it has more to do with an imbalance in your hormones: dopamine and norepinephrine, which causes you to be distracted. Number two, you don’t tend to have as many problems with impulsivity. Do you often find yourself speaking out loud in class without raising your hand? Perhaps you were even labeled as the troublemaker in school because of the way you can never sit still. According to Dr. John, a person with ADHD may feel as if there are dozens of controllers trying to control their brains at the same time without checking in with each other first. So if you find that you don’t appear to have as many problems with impulsivity but just struggle to speak up or stand up because of your nerves, then you may have anxiety rather than ADHD. Number three, you have trouble completing your schoolwork because of perfectionism. Do you have trouble completing your schoolwork? Perhaps you find yourself procrastinating even if you only have just one assignment to you.This struggle could be because you have so many points you wanna make in so many ways to phrase the words that leave you wanting to throw up your hands and ignore them. You’re avoiding starting your assignments because you can’t have it is less than perfect. If you can relate to this, then it’s more likely you’re struggling with anxiety and not ADHD. Dr. John stated that while people with ADHD may experience difficulty completing their schoolwork or performing tasks, it’s often due to trouble with concentration rather than perfectionism.Number four, you are generally more sensitive to social cues. Are you very sensitive to how you come across to other people? Do you find yourself often uncomfortable with your social environment? Perhaps you find it challenging to eat in front of other people, or tend to avoid speaking in public because of an overwhelming fear that people will judge you negatively. According to Dr. John, if your answers are yes to the above questions, it’s more likely that you have anxiety rather than ADHD. This is because people with ADHD usually struggle with understanding or missing social cues rather than being hypersensitive to them. Number five, you experience a racing heart, clamminess, tense muscles, headaches, nausea, or dizziness. Do you often experience headaches, nausea, or dizziness? These are just some of the symptoms of anxiety. Dr. John stated that anxiety comes from a tiny almond-shaped part at the back of your brain called the amygdala.As a watchman for your brain, it is constantly watching out for danger. And whenever it detects danger, it triggers a fight or flight response. However, for anxious people, the amygdala is large and hypersensitive. Because of this, it ends up sending out a lot of false alarms. You can think of it as a watchman who cries wolf too often. As a result, your brain may sense threats even in non-threatening situations. And number six, you are unlikely to show problem behaviors when you’re feeling calm, safe, and doing things you enjoy.How do you act when you’re having fun? Whether it’s listening to your favorite music or playing video games, you may find yourself feeling calm and safe while doing the things that you genuinely enjoy. You are neither restless nor feel like you need to catch your breath. According to Dr. John, anxious individuals are unlikely to display any problem behaviors when feeling calm and safe and doing something they enjoy. On the contrary, people with ADHD will experience problem behaviors even when they engage in a particular fun or exciting activity. For example, a person with ADHD may become so engrossed with painting a picture that they tune out or completely ignore everything else. This behavior is known as hyperfocus. Did you relate to any of the signs we’ve mentioned? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe, and share this video with those who might benefit from it. And don’t forget to hit the notification bell icon to get notified whenever Psych2Go posts a new video. As always, the references and studies used in this video are added in the description below.Thanks so much for watching and see you in our next video. 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5 Things People With Anxiety Secretly Do Alone


– Hey Psych2Goers, welcome back. Think you've never experienced anxiety before? Well, you might not have realized it because people experience anxiety in different ways. Your idea of anxiety might not align with how you experience it. And you may not notice anxiety in someone who grapples with it privately. So, it's important to remember to always be kind because you can never know what others are struggling with when they're alone. If you're dealing with anxiety, know that you're not alone in facing these challenges. Anxiety is a normal part of life.


It alerts us to dangers and helps us prepare for a wide variety of situations. But according to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, DSM, anxiety becomes a disorder when it starts to impact daily functioning and different aspects of life. With that said, here are five things people with anxiety secretly do alone. Number one, overthink, overthink, and overthink. Anxiety disorders are characterized by excessive or disproportionate worry and fear that gets in the way of daily activities. It may not be as obvious to other people, but those who struggle with anxiety tend to overthink while in the presence of others and when alone. Many people who struggle with anxiety tend to dwell on negative thoughts about themselves and their past. They may replay these past events in their head over and over, trying to think of what they could have done differently.


And may also imagine possible future events to try and anticipate things that might go wrong. Two, confine themselves to their comfort zone. Everyone feels anxious now and then, but those struggling with an anxiety disorder constantly adjust their lives to cater to it. They may stick to activities that calm their racing thoughts, or engage in pursuits that allow them to avoid the things that make them feel anxious instead of choosing activities purely for fun or interest. Like re-watching the same shows over and over because they don't have to feel anxious anticipating what might happen next. Some people may not even be able to leave the house out of fear of being in places and situations where escape may be difficult.


Or they may struggle to leave the house without a certain person they're scared to lose. Three, withdraw from social interaction. Some people with anxiety may have a limited social life and turn down invites, not out of a lack of interest, but to stay home to calm certain worries and fears. In some cases, the person may seem uninterested in spending time with others due to a crippling fear of feeling humiliated, rejected, or looked down on in social interactions. People with anxiety may withdraw socially to cope with their fears and might avoid their phones or ignore or turn off their notifications to manage their feelings of anxiety, and then feel overwhelmed and anxious later when they see the backlog of messages. Number four, procrastinate or struggle to finish tasks. People with anxiety, especially high functioning anxiety, may seem like completely put together achievers, but they may also grapple with getting their work done when they're alone, because anxious thoughts may force them to procrastinate.


Anxiety also affects working memory, which makes it difficult to focus long enough to complete tasks. And so, they may then have to rush to get things done on time, adding extra stress. Then number five, tossing and turning in bed. Having anxiety doesn't immediately translate to nervous, jittery energy that others can easily detect. Someone with anxiety can seem calm and rested, when in reality, they might be tossing and turning at night, unable to fall asleep because of their anxious thoughts. If they do manage to get some sleep, they might be restless or riddled with nightmares about their anxieties. For example, those with separation anxiety disorder may have nightmares about being separated from their loved ones. Anxiety disorders are complex and varied, but remember that a certain level of anxiety is normal and anxiety disorders are those that cause significant distress or impairment in different areas of life.


If you or anyone you know, are struggling with an anxiety disorder, please don't hesitate to reach out to a qualified mental health care provider. Can you relate to any of these signs? Share with us in the comments and remember to like and share this video with someone who might benefit too. As always the references and studies used are listed in the description below. Until next time, take care friends..



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7 Things Only People With Social Anxiety Will Understand

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Before we begin, we would like to thank you all so much for your love and support for our channel Psycho2go.’s mission is to make psychology and mental health knowledge more accessible to everyone, and we hope we’ve helped you along the way.Now let’s begin As a child.I loved to be the center of attention.I wasn’t afraid to introduce myself or speak up, but now there are days when I find it difficult just to look someone in the eye.It was frustrating to watch my peers build relationships with ease.While I struggled just to make a connection at all For years, I blamed shyness and lack of self-esteem for these changes, But it wasn’t until college that I truly learned about social anxiety, Just as with any mental illness.Social anxiety affects everyone differently.For me, it even changes from moment to moment.Sometimes my nervousness reveals itself in stuttering or repetitive speech.Other times I freeze, I’ve learned a myriad of coping mechanisms, some more helpful than others, and techniques to understand the root of my anxiety, but none have been more beneficial than therapy Finding communities such as Psych2go, where I have a voice, as well as the Support system to reach out and relate to, also help me practicing using my voice with confidence, Even when I feel so fragile that I could shatter It’s. Okay, if you don’t, feel ready to join a community or speak up about your experiences, but the team at Psych2go wants you to know that we are here.Here are seven things: people with social anxiety will understand, Number one being social can be draining, While not everyone with social anxiety is an introvert.Many people can feel exhausted after a social event.Worrying can be tiring and trying hard to keep your anxiety under control while interacting with others can be enough for you to require time to recharge for the rest of the day.It’s, okay, to push yourself to be social but be sure to know your limits and respect them.Pushing yourself too far may end in more anxiety and exhaustion than you began with, And it’s important to take care of yourself and your needs.First, Two: you prefer texting over calling.Do you relate to the dread that comes when you receive a phone call For? They fear that calling someone will bother the other person For others.They may not know who is calling or know what to say when they pick up.Phone Calls can be sudden, disruptive, and unpredictable. So you may worry about what the other person is going to tell you Number three.You feel anxious without direct interaction.Sometimes you might feel anxious without directly talking or interacting with someone Just being aware that someone is watching.You can be difficult For some that occurs when they’re eating or doing other simple tasks.The fear can stem from judgment for doing something wrong or differently, but more often than not people don’t pay attention as closely as you think, Number four.When it comes to friends, quality is greater than quantity, Not everyone.’s idea of fun includes hanging out with a huge group of people or going to a party.It can be intimidating to be around a lot of people.You don’t know, And you’d – much rather prefer to spend time with a few close friends.The beauty of life is that no two experiences are the same, So there’s a friend out there for everyone, Even if you may be socially anxious.Five, it’s, not all in your head. Social anxiety can manifest as physical sensations for a lot of people.These symptoms are similar to feeling embarrassed, sweaty, hands, blushing hyperventilating, but can feel more intense and last longer.Facing social situations can potentially lead to panic attacks for some people, while others feel physically ill or faint.These physical symptoms may be scary, but they rarely are threatening to one’s immediate health Number.Six, you feel, like everyone is judging you When you’re socially anxious it can feel like you’re under a magnifying glass all the time.You feel overly conscious about yourself and project those worries onto other people about their perceptions of you, but just because you’re monitoring every detail about yourself, doesn’t mean everyone else is too In reality.People aren’t as focused on you, as you think, and they likely have their worries too And number seven.You are your harshest judge.When you’re socially anxious, you might find yourself comparing how you think act, or look to others.This self-criticism can seriously hurt your mental and emotional health and it’s important to treat yourself more kindly While it might feel like others, make connections more easily or have it so. Well, it’s important to remember that everyone is going through their things and they have worries and concerns.Just like you do.When it comes to social anxiety, it can be hard to interact with people or make friends when you’re overly worried.The truth is, though, there is no normal when it comes to being social.Everyone has their way of socializing with others, And you’ll find someone who you connect with on the same level.There’s nothing wrong with leaving early or spending another night at home with your dog.We hope you enjoyed this and found some comfort.What have your experiences been with social anxiety? 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10 Signs of High Functioning Anxiety


[Music] high functioning anxiety isn't actually considered a mental health diagnosis instead it's a term many people can relate to when they have anxiety and can still carry out everyday tasks at a functional level it could be the valedictorian in your class your co-worker who has an exceptionally polished resume or it might even be you it's no surprise that this has become widely relevant when roughly 40 million adults struggle with anxiety when someone tells you you're fine or always has a smile plastered on their face they might actually need your help here are 10 signs of high functioning anxiety 1.


You're an overachiever do you consider yourself a perfectionist type a and a planner people with anxiety always feel like they need control in order to feel at ease whether it means making big to-do lists showing up at a meeting early or staying up late studying for a test they already memorized by heart the individual stays busy in order to feel productive one research study shows that it's only when you feel in control that you can deal with stress two no is rarely used in your vocabulary getting things done becomes more important than your health if you sacrifice eating meals on time or cancel plans with friends to do someone else a favor you might have high functioning anxiety you'd rather suck it up and get the work done instead of saying no fearing that it might pile up otherwise you may also be afraid to reject others afraid that you'll hurt them so you bite the bullet and you hurt yourself instead 3.


What is sleep apparently never enough for people with anxiety how can it be when you're constantly tossing and turning in bed consumed by your worries anxiety doesn't need a reason to keep you up you have everything checked off your to-do list and still worry about a million other things 4. you crack cynical jokes for fun are you sarcastic or make jokes about dying chances are you aren't as happy as you seem when you tell the punchline if you're laughing and putting on a show when you're actually suffering this is anxiety it forces you to entertain and mask your intensities behind your witty combat remember you don't have to put up a front lower your guard and tell people what's going on 5. negative self-talk is common and it's so common that you don't even consider it negative just your usual way of thinking people with anxiety are the hardest on themselves they can stand in front of the mirror and pick out flaws at a snap of a finger or beat themselves up if they make one minor mistake they don't give themselves a break always seeking to be a better worker student citizen the list goes on six your coworkers consider you a mystery you might be the helpful reliable worker everyone loves so it's no surprise that you'll get asked to go out once it's time to clock out but you'll usually decline remaining an enigma other people will find it hard to read you not because you want to seem cold or detached but letting loose and socializing without preparing ahead of time actually terrifies you 7.



You're easily startled it's normal to get jumpy during a horror movie but are you startled even during the slightest disturbance afraid that others might find you spineless therapist and right says you may resort to unhealthy habits such as drinking drugs or endless social media scrolling as a distraction eight bad days are normal for you excessive ruminating panic attacks and an inability to relax have all become ingrained in your daily routines that good days become once in a blue moon but instead of outwardly complaining or calling up a friend to talk about it you might just bottle it up since it happens every week you worry that others will find you annoying or a burden nine you constantly seek validation anxiety makes rationality hard to achieve that's why the individual often seeks logic from others they fear their judgment isn't enough so they rely on the support and guidance of friends family and co-workers they don't mean to lean on people 24 7 but it significantly quiets down their loud thoughts on the flip side however some may worry about being a burden so they choose to suffer silently instead of reaching out to others 10.


You're afraid of letting people down you don't know how to break the news to your loved ones if you're not happy with your so-called dream career or don't want the same things as them you often succumb to other people's expectations working hard to be a role model and no matter how tired you are of being you your anxiety will push you to continue performing as if your whole life counts on it did you enjoy this video jaiden animations also covers her own personal struggles with anxiety we think her content holds value and will be helpful for you be sure to check out her videos and show some love thanks for watching you



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Best Practices for Anxiety Treatment | Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

this episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing   education webinar on-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation   AllCEUs.com/Anxiety-CEU I’d like to welcome everybody to today’s presentation on best practices for the   treatment of anxiety I am your host, Dr. Dawn Elise Snipes now not too long ago we did a presentation on strengths-based biopsychosocial   approaches to addressing anxiety while those are wonderful you know I thought maybe   we ought to look at you know what’re some of the current research so I went into PubMed which is   I don’t know it’s a playground for me it’s where you find a lot of journal articles and you   can sort I sorted by articles that were done and meta-analyses that were done within   the past five years so that gives us an idea about current research I mean there’s a lot   of stuff that is still the same like some of the medications that were known to work ten   years ago are still known to be you know good first-line treatments but there are also some   newcomers that we’ll talk about and there are also, some changes that we’re going to talk about so we’re going to explore some common causes for anxiety symptoms to treat, we need to and of course, this does play into the biopsychosocial aspect we need to   understand kind of what causes it because anxiety that’s caused by for example somebody having a   racing heart may be different than anxiety that’s caused for somebody who has abandonment issues so   we’re gonna treat the two things differently so we want to look at some of the common causes we’re   gonna look at some common triggers for anxiety Do you know what are some of these common themes that   we see in practice I will ask you to share some of the themes that you see that underline   or underlie a lot of your client’s anxiety and identify current best practices for anxiety   management including counseling interventions medications physical interventions and supportive   treatments so we care because anxiety can be debilitating and a lot of our clients   have anxiety a lot of our clients have anxiety comorbid with depression and they’re looking at   us going how can I feel anxious and stressed out and like I can’t sit still and be depressed at the   same time you know when you’re depressed you’re supposed to want to sleep well a lot of times   people who have both issues want to sleep but they can’t so I want to help clients   understand that also sometimes anxiety when people are anxious for long enough the body   starts kind of holding on to the cortisol the body recognizes at a certain point this is a   losing battle I’m not going to put energy into this anymore so it starts withdrawing some of   its excitatory neurotransmitters so to speak and people will start to feel depressed the   brain has already said this is hopeless this is you’re helpless to change the situation so   then people start feeling hopeless and helpless which is sort of the definition if you will of   depression low-grade chronic stress and anxiety arose energy and people’s ability to concentrate   so if we’re going to help them become their uber selves we need to help them figure out how to   address anxiety not just generalized overwhelming debilitating anxiety but also panic social anxiety   and those minor anxiety triggers that come along that may not meet the threshold for diagnosis   anxiety is a major trigger for addiction relapse if you have a client who is self-medicated before   or had an addiction for some reason anxiety is a major trigger increased physical pain when anxiety   goes up people tend to tense their muscles when they tense their muscles they tend to feel more   pain I mean think about when you’re stressed you tend to have more pain like in your neck your   back and things that already hurt may hurt more why because serotonin which is one of our major   anti-anxiety neurotransmitters is also one of our major pain modulators so when serotonin levels are   too low because anxiety is high then our pain perception is going to be more acute and people   can have sleep problems if they’re stressed out your body thinks there’s a threat you’re not   going to be able to get into that deep restful sleep you may have you may sleep a lot but it’s probably not quality sleep which means your neurotransmitters may get out of whack   your hormones make it out of whack and your body is going to start perceiving yourself in a   persistent state of stress when you’re exhausted the body knows that we may be the weakest link   in the herd so it continues to secrete cortisol to keep you on alert a little bit so you   may again you may be resting kind of like when you have a new baby at home those first couple   of months that my children were home from the the hospital I slept but I didn’t sleep well I mean   the slightest little noise and I was awake and I was looking around and you know I felt it I felt   exhausted and a lot of new parents do so triggers for anxiety abandonment and rejection and we’re   going to talk about ways we might want to deal with these things but some of the underlying   themes that I’ve seen in a lot of clients and when I do the research and a lot of what themes that   come out include low self-esteem if someone has low self-esteem they’re looking to be externally   validated oftentimes they’re looking for somebody else to tell them you’re lovable you’re okay so   that can lead to anxiety about not having people to tell them you’re okay which makes   their relationships tenuous and can make them dysfunctional irrational thoughts and cognitive   distortions may lead people to believe that if I’m not perfect for example I am not lovable so we’re   going to look at some irrational thoughts and cognitive distortions unhealthy social supports   and relationships when you’re in a relationship it takes two to tango and even if your client is   relatively mentally and physically healthy if they are in a dysfunctional relationship they can fear   abandonment and rejection if that other person is always saying if you don’t do X I’m going   to leave you or if that other person is always cheating on them or whatever so relationships   can trigger abandonment anxiety and ineffective interpersonal skills can lead to relationship   turmoil and social exile if our clients are in relationships even if they’re not completely   dysfunctional if our clients are not able to ask for what they need and set appropriate boundaries   and manage conflict effectively because conflict happens in every relationship then they may start   to argue more which may lead to fearing may lead to relationships ending in the past and them going   well every relationship I get into ends which means I must not be lovable so they start fearing   abandonment and rejection these are four areas that we can look at one more assessing clients   another issue is the unknown and loss of control a lot of times negative self-talk and cognitive   distortions can contribute to that if I don’t have control of everything then it’s all going to be a   disaster negative others when clients hang out or when people hang out with negative people it   kind of wears on you after a while you notice that people who tend to be more negative   pessimistic conspiracy-minded tend to hang out with people who are also negatively pessimistic and   conspiracy-minded so if you’re hanging out with somebody who tends to be anxious then the anxiety   can be palpable and it can kind of permeate physical complaints can lead people to be   anxious because they don’t know what’s causing it like I said earlier sometimes if your heart starts   to race if you don’t know what’s causing it for you can start thinking I’m having a heart attack or   I’m gonna die when people have panic attacks for the example they truly think they’re having a heart   attack and it’s I’ve had them they are very very unpleasant experiences but when people   start having physical complaints and it can be you know they have a weird rash that they can’t get to   go away or whatever but when they don’t know what it is and they can’t control it they can’t   make it go away they start thinking about all the worst-case scenarios and going online and   getting on WebMD which usually gives you all the worst-case scenarios um so physical complaints   are important we need to normalize the fact that nobody’s pain-free all the time and you know the   fact that you may have an ache or a pain or a lump or a bump or you know a cough most likely you know   when we look at probability the probability of it being something significant is pretty small now   do you want to get it checked out probably but you know the probability that is anything to be   worried about is relatively small and a sense of powerlessness can trigger fear of the unknown   and loss of control for somebody who doesn’t feel like they have any agency in their life   if they have an external locus of control or if they felt victimized all of their life then   they may fear not being in control they may be holding on and saying okay this is the one area   of my life I can control when I grew up you know I grew up in a very chaotic environment I had no   control I was bounced around in the foster system yadda yadda yadda now that I’m an adult you know I   can control these things and I am going to hold on with white knuckles and if I can’t control   everything then that terrifies me to death and loss are other triggers for anxiety and it can   be people or pets and pets are important I don’t want to minimize pets because you know they are   little parts of a lot of our families so making sure we check that my daughter’s dog for example   is it’s getting old she’s getting older she’s 14 now I think and you know she’s in decent health   we took her to the vet and the vet said yeah she’s got a little heart murmur but that’s expected for   a 14-year-old dog and but when she goes out if she doesn’t come back when I call her I have this rush   of anxiety for a second oh my gosh I hope this wasn’t the day so anxious around losing people   and you know if she when she crosses the bridge she will and you know I’m okay with that I’m   I have a harder time dealing with my daughter’s emotional turmoil when that happens and because   she’s grown up with this dog so you know those are the types of things that we want to talk about   with our clients what things are weighing on you that you may not even be thinking about because I   know in the back of my mind there’s always that worry about one of our donkeys and her dog jobs   and promotions can trigger anxiety if people are afraid they’re gonna lose their job if they’re   always afraid that you know they’re gonna walk in and get a pink slip or get fired you know we want   to help them look at how realistic they are you doing what you need to do to achieve   and keep your job and sometimes it’s not easy to the answer I mean the first thought that a lot of us   have is well you know if you’re doing the right a thing so just do it but there are those bosses   out there and I’ve had some amazing bosses a lot of them and I’ve had two horrendous   bosses and those two bosses I could never I never felt like I was able to do anything right   and so going to those jobs there was always this anxiety about what I’m what am I going to get in   trouble for today so you want to talk with people about does your job cause anxiety what can you   do to moderate that anxiety the same thing with promotions people may get anxious about whether   they’re going to get promoted to safety and security you know when you lose safety and security you can   feel anxious so if there’s a break-in at the house next door or shooting down the road   or you start watching the news you can feel very unsafe and insecure quickly so we want to   help people figure out how safe and secure are you really and a lot of it goes back to looking   at facts when people lose their dreams and hopes or fear that they’re going to lose their dreams   and hopes they can start to get anxious you know they have this dream that they’re going to be   a doctor or I just finished the presentation on helping high school students transition to college   and a lot of high school students for example start college with these wide eyes and hopes   to save the world and they want to be doctors and engineers and this and that and they get   into it and they realize that it’s a lot harder then they thought or they realize that you know   what I don’t like this but I’ve already committed to it so what do I do I want to help   people but I can’t I can’t cut it doing this you know for me I figured out in my second year that   I wasn’t going to medical school because I wasn’t going to pass calculus and that caused a lot of   anxiety it was like okay what am I gonna do now Do you know what career should I choose to help people figure out do they have dreams that have maybe kind of crashed and burned and you have to   find new ones you know okay that one we’ve got to accept it figure out that it’s not going to be and   what can you do now people may also have dreams about relationships they get into relationships   and see themselves with this person forever and then this relationship ends and or starts to   get rocky and they’re like but that’s my dream what happens if that’s got to happen because   it’s my dream I don’t know how to function if that goes away we want to help people be able to   rewrite their narrative and then sickness spiders and other phobias kind of go in with death a lot   of times when people get sick they start getting anxious that oh my gosh what if this is terminal   oh my gosh what if this is you know incurable if I get bit by a spider it’s gonna kill me and   which is rare you know there are very few spiders that is actually that poisonous same thing with   snakes going over bridges I’ve shared with you all that is not one of my irrational fears you know I   am just terrified that you know something’s going to happen and I’m going to get pushed off the side   of the bridge which is completely irrational but we need to help people look at those and identify   the thoughts that they’re telling themself about those phobias and dealing with that anxiety failure   is another –trigger for anxiety especially in this culture our culture American culture is large part puts a high premium on success and perfectionism so when people realize that   they’re not perfect they may start to get anxious because they feel like if I’m not perfect then I’m   a failure you know those cognitive distortions of all-or-nothing thinking and they start with that   negative self-talk you know you can’t do anything right so those are some of the issues that you   know we often see in counseling sessions so what do we do you know somebody comes in and is like   I can’t live this way doc anxiety depression and substance disorders as well as a range of physical   disorders are often comorbid so this is the first the thing we need to realize is that   we’re very rarely dealing with a very simple the diagnosis you know when somebody comes in we need   to figure out you know if they come in and they’re presenting with depression all right let’s talk   about that and then we start realizing that there depression started to occur after a long period   of being anxious okay so we need to deal with that but we also need to help them   with their sense of hopelessness and helplessness we need to develop that sense of empowerment and   then substance disorders we know that substance use is often a way of self-medicating but we also   know that it monkeys with the neurochemicals in the brain and can contribute to anxiety and   depression the same thing to physical issues pain from physical disorders anxiety about having   physical disorders medications you’re taking for physical disorders can all contribute to anxiety   so we need to look at the person as a whole and go what are all the things that are contributing to   the anxiety and what are all the things that the anxiety is contributing to so we have started having this big list of stuff that needs to be addressed and then we can start figuring out okay   where we start so knowing that these things are comorbid helps researchers explore pathways   to mental disorders so they can start figuring out you know what little string can we pull to   unravel this blanket of anxiety so it doesn’t suffocate somebody and for us, as clinicians, it   provides us key opportunities to intervene in you know sometimes clients will come in and start talking about their anxiety and their physical issues you   know maybe their anxieties about you know heart palpitations and because that’s a common one we   may want to encourage them to go see the doctor to get that ruled out you know rule out anything that   has to do with hormone imbalances or you know heart conditions or anything else that might be   contributing to it which can help them address it and if they do have physical disorders let’s   go with hormone imbalances that are contributing to the heart palpitations then they can start to   treat that if they don’t start to treat that then no amount of talk therapy we do is going to get   them to the quality of life that they’re looking for because they’re still gonna feel those so   we want to make sure that we’re addressing them holistically anxiety disorders should be treated   with psychological therapy pharmacy therapy or a combination of both and what they found and this   is no surprise this is kind of old news is that counseling Plus pharmacotherapy tends to have the   best outcomes but separating the two have similar outcomes in many cases but that’s just   looking at and I hate to call it simple anxiety but we’re just looking at anxiety symptoms here   we’re not looking at the full quality of life and we want to make sure that we’re also including any   medical issues behavioral therapy is regarded as the psychotherapy with the highest level   of evidence, there are a variety of cognitive behavioral approaches ranging from acceptance   and commitment therapy to dialectical behavior therapy to CBT to debt you know any of those that   deal with the thoughts and the cognitions that fall in that realm and it is effective in the current conceptualization of the etiology of anxiety disorders includes an interaction of   psychosocial factors such as childhood adversity or stressful events and a genetic vulnerability   so the psychosocial factors and these are other things when we do our assessment we want to pay   attention to because our approach to treatment is going to be different for people for example   who have trauma-related brain changes maybe then for somebody who doesn’t so, we want to   look at childhood adversity and stressful events that it may have caused basically what I tell clients is like rewiring of the brain there are trauma-related brain changes in soldiers and   especially in children or in people who’ve been exposed to extreme trauma that is designed to   protect them but it also can cause complications kind of later on in dealing with anxiety coping   skills that were learned that are ineffective you know sometimes people grow up in a household or an   environment or a situation where they don’t learn effective coping skills so we need to kind of help   them unlearn those and learn new ones build on their strengths and trauma issues that may still   need to be dealt with such as domestic violence you know if they grew up a lot around a lot of   domestic violence they may think you know I’m out of that situation it’s over I don’t want to   think about it it’s not bothering me anymore or a parental absence and I put absence because it can   be death it can be a parent that just packed up and left it could be a child that got put up for   adoption whatever put the child in a position of feeling like they were rejected by a parent can   be very traumatic and bullying among other things but there are a lot of trauma issues that people   once they’re out of that situation often say you know I’m out of it it’s not a big deal I dealt   with it let’s move on and they don’t realize the full ramifications and how that’s contributing to   their current anxiety and their current self-talk and cognitions of current stressors if somebody has   a lot of current stressors that are also going to impact whether they develop generalized anxiety   you know we’re kind of stacking the deck here and the current availability of social support if they   don’t have effective current social support then they’re gonna have difficulty bearing the weight   of everything on their shoulders so we want to look at all these psychosocial factors when   we do our assessment now going back to the trauma issues if you’ve taken the trauma courses at   all CEUs you know that some people are not ready to acknowledge that the trauma is still bothering   them or work on the trauma and that’s okay we can educate them that it might be an issue and   then let them choose how to address it but we want to bear in mind the fact that you   know this could be sort of an underlying force motivating some of the current cognitions and genetic vulnerability so you take any three people and you put them or 300 people and you   put them through roughly the same psychosocial situations they’re all probably going to react   a little bit differently based on their prior experiences but also because of their genetic   makeup there are certain permutations and they found four we’ll talk about later that make the   brain more or less responsive to stress and more or less responsive to serotonin which   is your calming chemical so brains that are less responsive to serotonin isn’t going to you know   send out as much or send out serotonin as easily so people can stay kind of tensed and wired that’s an oversimplified explanation but that’s all you need for right now so genetic   vulnerability impacts people’s susceptibility to the effects and development of dependence   on certain substances which can increase anxiety when people are detoxing from alcohol when they’re   detoxing from benzos when they’re detoxing from opiates they can feel high levels of anxiety when   they take opiates some people find that opiates have wonderful anti-anxiety properties not that   I am advocating for the use of opiates I’m just client experiences have shown that that   can be true so some people are going to be more susceptible to the anti-anxiety effects   of certain substances and some people are going to be Cerrone to become dependent on substances   where others may not and that part of that is genetic vulnerability and they estimate about   30% the predictability of the development of anxiety disorders is genetic and genetics   also impact which medications are effective if you have genetic makeup then SSRIs might   be helpful if you have genetic makeup be then atypical antipsychotics may be more effective   and SSRIs might not do anything which is why a lot of our clients get so frustrated because they know there’s no way to figure out exactly what I guess there is now that there’s genetic testing   out there but up until then it was harder to figure out which medications to start with and   most physicians matter of fact I don’t know of a single physician that starts by   saying well let’s do a genetic profile to see what med to start you out with most we’ll start with events as with an SSRI or some other anti-anxiety medication some sort of benzo   that’s been my experience so we may want to encourage clients to consider genetic   testing if they’re having difficulty finding a medication regime that works for them and they   are feeling like they have to have medication genetic vulnerability also affects what’s going   to make somebody more vulnerable now than all of you in class today you know thinking about sleep you   know sleep may not be a big deal for some of you I know people who can go days or weeks with four   or five hours of sleep and they feel fine it’s not a big deal, not me I need eight or nine hours   of sleep so genetically for whatever reason I am programmed to need a lot of sleep so when I don’t   get that much sleep I tend to be it tends to be harder for me to deal with life on life’s terms   and I know that that makes me more vulnerable to being irritable so genetic vulnerability affects   who can become addicted and affects what medications work best and affects what situations are going   to tend to make somebody more vulnerable to anxiety so our medications and I know the type   on here is small but we’re going to go through the first-line drugs are the SSRIs selective   serotonin reuptake inhibitors and SNRs is selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors   now the names are a little bit deceptive because selective norepinephrine reuptake inhibitors also   increase available serotonin but the mechanism of action is different the mechanism of action   for each SSRI is a little bit different as well which is why you can put somebody on Prozac and   they have an awful experience and you can put them on Zoloft and they have a much better experience like I said earlier a lot of the research pre five years ago had been done on medications and   Zoloft Paxil luvox Lexapro Celexa and their generics have all been found to be effective   at treating anxiety in certain people no one the medication works for everybody in the last five   years Effexor has come on the radar and it has been found effective according to the hamilton   rating scale for anxiety so that’s another one to consider if clients are not successful or getting   the treatment effect that they need for on some of the other medications obviously, none of us   probably are prescribers but we do need to educate clients about why the first drug or even the third   drug that the doc tries may not work so they don’t start feeling helpless and hopeless like   I said earlier there are at least four different genetic variations which are correlated with the   development of generalized anxiety disorder and different medications are more or less effective   depending on the genetic makeup of the person there’s a high mortality rate moving on to two   benzos the recommendation has switched to back off from the use of benzos now for   some doctors will prescribe an SSRI and for the first four weeks while the SSRI is building up   in the system they will also prescribe a benzo to be taken as needed to moderate the   anxiety and you know you could argue on either side of that, if somebody has a history of substance   use or substance dependence benzos are really a bad idea because they do have a high rate of   dependence but the other reasons that they are now cautioning against the use of benzodiazepines is   that there’s a higher mortality rate among benzo users compared with non-users there’s an increased   risk for dependence with use for more than six months and that’s a long time to be using benzo   and when we’re talking about dependence and six months we’re talking about somebody who uses it   like every four hours or every eight hours depending on your benzo every single day not   a PRN user if somebody’s using it at night to help them go to sleep or you know three or four   times a week when the anxiety gets high the risk of dependence is relatively low but a   lot of people with anxiety because if they find the right benzo makes them feel so much better   they may not want to be off of it and for a lot of people when that benzo reaches its half-life and   starts getting out of the system even more their anxiety spikes you know they have rebound anxiety   which they want to medicate with more benzos that’s gonna be an issue for them to discuss   with their doctor there’s also an increased risk of dementia identified in long-term benzodiazepine   users again this is for the people who use you know throughout the day every day for six months   or relatively every day for six months or more and it doesn’t matter if it’s you know we’re   talking about somebody who’s 65 or somebody who’s 35 who’s been using benzos for you know   six months a year two years the risk of later life dementia is greatly increased according   to the research benzodiazepines also don’t treat depression okay so if you’ve got somebody who has   concurrent anxiety and depression there’s a much higher suicide risk if they’re on benzodiazepines   so being aware and generally that suicide risk comes from overdosing on benzodiazepines but   not always other treatment options you know if the benzos aren’t something that people want to touch   you know they scare the living daylights out of me and SSRIs and SNRIs don’t seem to be working   then tricyclic antidepressants can be tried on those your older generation antidepressant Seroquel   is used a lot and there are some there’s some research that shows it can be effective   with anxiety like some of the antidepressants and depending on the person the benzos Seroquel can   make people very very very sleepy so you know it may not be the side effects of the Seroquel   the weight gain and the fatigue and you know sleepiness may be an unacceptable side effect for   some clients and boosts perón is the third option boost Barone works more like an anti-depressive   serotonin reuptake inhibitor and that it takes you know four weeks or so to kind of build up in   the system studies have shown that there’s really no long-term benefit to taking it but after six months   to eighteen months of use it has been shown to be effective in talking with clients a lot of   clients report that boost bar when they take it doesn’t necessarily help them stop being anxious   like a benzodiazepine does but it helps them not go from zero to 200 in 2.3 seconds it kind of you   know keeps them from having this gush of a freak out reaction every time something goes wrong which   a lot of clients report helps because they feel more stable throughout the day after remission   medication should be continued for six to twelve months and during that last six months first six   months keep it as is last six months you know they say that tapering is best it’s best not   to stop somebody cold turkey on any of these but it’s important for people once they’re   in remission to not just suddenly go okay I feel better I don’t need any of this anymore they need   to work into it and make sure they’ve developed the skills and tools that they need to deal with some of the anxiety that is going to happen in life so physical signs and symptoms   of anxiety may include fatigue irritability muscle tension or muscle aches try laying feeling twitchy   being easily startled trouble sleeping nausea diarrhea irritable bowel syndrome headaches so the   first thing we want to do with clients when we’re talking to them well second thing first thing is to say get a physical to let’s rule out physiological causes of this but we can also help clients   look at you know what might be causing these things that you can do to mitigate it what might   be contributing to your fatigue what might be contributing to your irritability and your muscle   tension or your muscle aches I mean let’s look at economics did you recently get a new bed or do you   need to get a new bed what about your desk chair I know you know I get more muscle tension and muscle   achy when I do a lot of mousing because I have deplorable posture being becoming aware of that   helps and then I’m like okay well I know it caused unfortunately, it’s unpleasant but it’s not a   big deal trembling or feeling twitchy you know that can be caused by low blood sugar that can   be caused anxiety that can also be caused by early onset Parkinson’s symptoms you know   there’s you know it can be worst case scenario or it can be something benign so we want   to have people figure out you know when you start trembling or feeling twitchy is there something   that it’s related to you know I know when my son gets excited he’s he just sits there   and you can see him almost shake because he’s so excited about something so we want to have people prevent misidentification we don’t want them to jump to that worst-case scenario we don’t   want them to go onto WebMD and go oh my gosh I’ve got cancer I’ve got this debilitating disease and   I’m going to die in six months probabilistic Lee speaking it’s not gonna happen yes get a doctor’s   opinion I’m certainly not going to tell them it’s all in your head I want them to get an   evaluation but I do want to in the meantime help them think about how likely is   this and other things for headaches and this is one another one of those that can be frustrating   as we get older our eyesight starts to go and you know there was a period there I did fine   and then after I hit 45 my eyesight just started to like steadily and kind of rapidly in my mind   decline so I have to get my eyeglass prescription changed every couple of years and that can cause   headaches so instead of starting to worry about oh my gosh I’ve got a headache all the time   maybe I’ve got a brain tumor you know I know that it’s probably my glasses or I’m grinding my   teeth so other biological interventions that have been evaluated there’s something called   the floatation rest system that reduced environmental stimulation therapy reduces sensory input into   the nervous system through the act of floating supine which is on your back in a pool of water   saturated with Epsom salt you know I’m looking at this going sounds good and you can’t   quite get the same experience in a bathtub because you’re not floating you’ve got pressure points and   you’re still hearing stuff clients can sort of simulate it with you know earplugs or whatever   but it’s if they can access this it’s been shown to be effective the float experience is   calibrated so that sensory signals from visual auditory olfactory gustatory thermal tactile or   tactile vestibular gravitational and preceptive channels are minimized which means you don’t see   here taste touch smell feel nothing as is most movement and speech so you want people to lay just   like completely motionless and not talk which can be hard for some people with anxiety in the study   the study I looked at fifty participants reported significant reductions in stress muscle   tension pain depression and negative effects and it was accompanied by significant improvement in mood   characterized by increases in relaxation happiness and well-being I read the study I’m like where can   I sign up you know it sounds in looking at some of the research this was more effective for   addressing anxiety than something like a massage Tai Chi also produced significant reductions in   anxiety there was approximately a 20% treatment effect 25% treatment effect in patients with   anxiety and fibromyalgia who practiced twice a week for a year now you know we want to look at   the confounding things here is it the Tai Chi itself or is it learning to control the muscles   and becoming more in tune with your body and learning to control your breathing helps   people reduce their anxiety either way you know Tai Chi helps people do that and it was shown that   after a year after the first six months, there was a significant treatment effect but after a year   you know it kept growing and after a year it was about 25% so Tai Chi can be effective acupuncture at the HT 7 median Meridian can attenuate anxiety-like behavior induced by   withdrawal from chronic morphine treatment through the meditation of the GABA receptor system   what does that mean that means if you if the acupuncture is done in very certain places the anxiety behavior the GABA a receptor system GABA is your main calming relaxation   neurochemical that is triggered and causes your body to sort of flood that receptor system and   this research was done on people who were detoxing from morphine treatment but we can look at   generalizing the results and I would be interested to see further studies on it pain other things we   need to do to help people with anxiety when people are in chronic pain they often have anxiety that   oh my gosh this is getting worse or it’s never gonna get better or I just can’t take this pain   anymore or they may get anxious that they’re going to be rejected because they can’t do some of the   things they used to do because they’re in so much pain so there’s a lot of guilt and anxiety that   can kind of revolve around pain what can we do to help clients guided imagery is generally very   helpful if we can help them imagine you know if that pain in their shoulder imagine the pain is   like the color red flowing out of their arm or other focus mindfulness so you know when you   think about something you know when you get a shot if I don’t think about it it doesn’t hurt near as   much as if the nurse says okay now one two three and you know she’s counting down and I’m getting   prepared and I’m focused on it I had another nurse one time who she was just talking   to me and you know put the alcohol on my arm and just kept on talking and didn’t tell me she was   getting ready to give me a shot and before I knew it she had given me a shot and she was like okay   we’re done I’m like you didn’t give me a shot yet she said yes I did it’s like oh so not focusing   on it and next time you have an itch for example if you’ve ever been driving on the interstate and   you can reach on your foot I get those on the bottom of my foot sometimes and I’m like okay   I’m not going to pull over to each my foot if you focus on something besides the itch eventually it   goes away I’m not saying the pain is gonna completely go away but the more people focus on it the more   it hurts physical therapy can help so encourage them to get a referral and encourage them to do a   self-evaluation if nothing else of ergonomics in their car at work where they watch TV and spend   most of their time at home and they’re sleeping so those are the four places that they spend most   of their time what do their ergonomics look like and that can help a lot of people mitigate   a lot of pain hormones are another thing that we need to look at imbalances of estrogen and   testosterone can contribute to anxiety symptoms heart palpitations fatigue irritability having   people get a physical we can’t as clinicians do anything about it but doctors can rapid heart   weight rate sweating palpitations are not uncommon in women in perimenopause or menopause so a lot   of women start feeling like they’re developing generalized anxiety and/or something’s going wrong   when they start reaching that mid-40s to mid-50s area and they start having some of these symptoms   again we’re not going to diagnose it but we do want them to recognize that it may not be anything   you know is catastrophic this is something that a a lot of women experience and help them figure out   how to deal with that supportive care biologically now you know this isn’t gonna treat anything but   we can help them minimize their vulnerabilities help them create a sleep routine so their brain   and body can rebalance this can help repair any adrenal issues that may be going on and improve   energy levels people with anxiety don’t sleep well so helping them figure out how to get some quality   sleep is important nutrition minimizing caffeine and other stimulants are going to be a big help   because those make people feel anxious and encourage them to work with a nutritionist to try to prevent   spikes and drops in blood sugar which can trigger the stress response when your blood sugar goes way   up or way down you can start getting kind of shaky and feel weird and that can cause people anxiety   because they might think oh my gosh I’m having a stroke or a heart attack or you know I don’t know   what these tremors are so it’s important that they don’t miss identify symptoms and encourage   them to drink enough water dehydration can lead to toxic Ardea which is increased heart rate   sunlight vitamin D deficiency is implicated in both depression and anxiety mood issues   vitamin D has been found in those main areas where serotonin receptors are found vitamin D receptors   are found so we know the serotonin and vitamin D have something going on sunlight prompts the skin   to tell the brain to produce neurotransmitters and set circadian rhythms which impact the release of   serotonin your calming neurochemical melatonin which is made from breaking down serotonin and helps you sleep and GABA so sunlight actually helps increase the release of GABA when it’s   time to start calming down and going to sleep exercise studies have shown that exercise can   have a relaxing effect and encourage clients to start slowly there’s not a whole lot of new research   on exercise and anxiety aromatherapy has been used a lot, especially in other countries in   the treatment of people with anxiety people with hospital anxiety people women who are giving birth   and they have some birth anxiety there they’ve been found to be effective in a lot of   those studies essential oils for anxiety include lavender rose Bedevere ylang ylang bergamot   chamomile frankincense and Clary sage encourage clients to just go to a health food store and   you know sniff some of these and see if it makes them feel happy and calm and content the aromatherapy   molecules enter the nasal membranes and they will start triggering neurochemical reactions   and so you don’t need to apply it you don’t need to ingest it all you need to do is so encourage   clients if they’re open to it to think about this because aromatherapy can be integrated into their bedroom for example with an atomizer or a Mr.It can be incorporated in a lot of different places   again where they’re not applying it or ingesting it in any way all they’re doing is smelling it   they’ve used it in defusing aromatherapy in hospital emergency rooms and they found that it   reduces stress and irritability the people in emergency rooms and I’ve been to enough emergency   rooms over the years to know that people who are in ers typically are not in the   best mood so if it can help those people then it’s probably going to have some sort of an   effect so psychologically helping clients realize that their body thinks there’s a threat for some   reason that’s why it triggered the threat response a system which is what they call anxiety so they   need to figure out why is there a threat you know sometimes it’s like the fire alarm going   off in my house it just means that the windows are open and there’s a strong breeze there is no fire   there is no problem there’s just a malfunction it’s a false alarm a lot of times clients get this threat reaction they get this stress reaction and it’s not a big deal right now so they   can start modifying what their brain responds to and again those basic fears that a lot of people   worry about failure rejection loss of control the unknown and death and loss distress tolerance is   one of those cognitive interventions that have taken center stage in anxiety research and   it isn’t about controlling your anxiety you know helping people recognize their anxiety acknowledge   it and say okay I’m anxious it is what it is how can I improve the next moment instead of   saying I’m anxious I shouldn’t be anxious I hate being anxious and slang with that anxiety let it   go just accept it is what it is have the client learn to start saying I am feeling anxious okay so   distract don’t react because I explain to them the whole notion of feelings comes in the crest and goes out   in about 20 minutes it’s like a wave so once they acknowledge their feeling if they can distract   themselves for twenty or thirty minutes you know they figured out there was no real threat if they can distract themselves for twenty or thirty minutes those emotions can go down and then   they can deal with it in their wise mind and encourage them to use distancing techniques instead of   saying I am anxious or I am terrified or whatever have them say I am having the thought that this   is the worst thing in the world I am having the thought that I cannot handle this because thoughts   come and go and that comes from acceptance and commitment therapy functional analysis makes it   possible to specify where and when with what frequency with what intensity and under what circumstances   the anxious response is triggered so it’s important that we help clients develop the   ability to do functional analyses on their own so when they start feeling anxious they can stop and   say okay where am I what’s going on how intense is it what are the circumstances and they start trying to figure out what causes this for them so they can identify any common themes from   their psychoeducation about cognitive distortions and techniques to prevent those circumstances or   mitigate them can be provided so if the client knows that they get anxious before they go into   a meeting with their boss and it’s usually a high the intensity of anxiety okay so we can educate them and help them identify what fears may be related to techniques to slow their breathing and calm   their stress reaction and help them figure out times in the past when they’ve handled going in   and talking to their boss and it wasn’t the end of the world you know there’s lots of   different things we can do there for them there but the first key and it gives them a lot of   a huge sense of empowerment to start becoming detectives in their own life and going okay now   under what situations does this happen positive writing this was another cool study each   day for 30 days the experimental group and this was high school-aged youth in China but you know   the experimental group engaged in 20 minutes of writing about positive emotions they felt that   day so they’re writing about anything positive that make them happy that made them enthusiastic gave them hope whatever long-term expressive writing positive emotions so after 30 days it   appeared to help reduce test anxiety by helping they develop insight and use positive emotional words so it got them out of the habit of using the destruction and doom words and encouraged them   to get in the habit of looking at the positive things and being more optimistic it’s a cool activity that clients can try it’s not gonna hurt anything if you have them journal each day   for 30 days mindfulness also came up in the research and was shown to be effective in   a meta-analysis of six articles about mindfulness based stress reduction four about mindfulness-based cognitive therapy and three about fear of negative appraisal and emotion regulation was reviewed all of these showed that mindfulness was an effective strategy for the treatment of   mood and anxiety disorders and is an effective in therapy protocols with different structures   including virtual modalities so you know if you’re doing it via teleconference mindfulness can still   be helpful mindfulness helps people start learning how to observe what’s going on and become aware of   what’s going on more aware of those circumstances which will help them complete their functional   analysis but it also helps them become aware of vulnerabilities and head off things in the past   and if they’re taking better care of themselves that they’re living more mindfully then they may   not experience as many situations that trigger their anxiety mindfulness also encourages clients   to learn acceptance that radical acceptance of it is what it is I’m not gonna fight it I’m angry   right now I am anxious right now however I’m feeling right now is how I feel and that’s okay it’s hard for clients to get to that but once they get a hold of that and they truly believe it   and they can say all right it’s fine I’m not gonna feel this way forever I’m gonna do something else   until the feeling passes it helps and that’s where the labeling and letting go comes in mindfulness   can also help them identify trigger thoughts what thought were you having right before you   started feeling anxious if people are mindful or let’s start back when people are not mindful they   often notice or don’t notice that they’re getting anxious until they’re like super anxious   when people are mindful they become more aware of subtle cues address unhelpful thoughts when they   say or believe it’s a dire necessity for adults to be loved by significant others for almost   everything they do always running gonna happen why is it a necessity what we can encourage them   to do is concentrate on their self-respect on winning approval for practical purposes you   know for promotions or whatever but it’s not about me being lovable it’s about me getting a promotion   and making more money and focusing on loving rather than being loved because when we give   love we generally get love back with unhelpful thought number two people feel they aren’t able to stand   it if things are not the way they want them to be or are not in their control so encourage clients   to focus on the parts that are in their control and other things in life which are going well and   to which they’re committed number three misery is invariably externally caused and is forced   on us by outside people and events just by reading that makes me feel disempowered so encouraging   clients to focus on the fact that reactions such as misery or happiness are largely caused by the   view that people take of the conditions so if you see it as a tragedy and devastating then   it’s probably going to produce misery if you see it as an opportunity and a challenge it’s   probably going to produce a different emotional reaction, if something is or may be dangerous or fearsome people, should be upset and endlessly upset about obsessing about it a lot of   people with anxiety get stuck on this you know if I feel like it’s fearsome I need to worry about   it getting on a plane for example if I fear that that’s dangerous that I need to think about it   and worry about it that’s not going to do any good so encourage clients to figure out how to   face it and render it harmless if possible and when that’s not possible accept the inevitable   so looking at airplanes you know facing it means researching to figure out how dangerous   is it really and realizing that it’s not that dangerous so that helps render it a little   bit harmless in their mind it proves to them that it’s not as dangerous as it could be and when   it’s not possible accepting the inevitable you know you got a fly so getting on there figuring   out how you’re gonna get through it hurricanes are the same way people especially in places   like Texas Louisiana Florida may obsess as soon as it starts coming to hurricane season or if a   hurricane is spotted out in the Atlantic somewhere they start checking the weather every hour or more   wondering what the path is going to be and you know what there’s you can’t change the path of the   hurricane so all you can do is board up your house evacuate if necessary and deal with the fallout child driving is just another example I’ll give you know my children are learning how to drive and   that’s kind of scary and fearsome you know what’s gonna happen when they’re out there you know you   see crashes all the time well render it harmless by making sure they’ve got good training on how   to drive make sure they’re good drivers and then accepting that some things are just not within   my control it’s easier to avoid than face life difficulties and responsibilities well running   from fear is usually much harder in the long run so encourage clients to look back at times when they’ve avoided difficulties and responsibilities and the eventual outcome you know what happened   there people believe they should be thoroughly competent in achieving in all possible respects   or they will be isolated rejected and failures we need to encourage clients to accept themselves as   imperfect with human limitations and flaws and focus on what makes them loveable human being   what qualities like courage and intelligence and creativity and those things that can’t be taken   away what inherent qualities do they have that make them awesome people because something once   strongly affected people’s lives they should indefinitely fear it if you got lost you know   when little kids get lost it’s terrifying when you’re grown up if you get lost you turn on the   GPS and you figure out your way but some people still, you know freaked out about getting lost if   they got lost once so we want to help people look back at past episodes that may be contributing to   the current anxiety and compare the situation’s you know are you the same person or is this not   a big deal now that you’re older wiser stronger encourage them to learn from past experiences   but not be overly attached to or prejudiced by them yeah you could have maybe got lost in the   past and it was a horrible experience well you were six I can see where that would be terrifying   and a horrible experience but it doesn’t have to continue to impact you that way now when you’re   you know 26 getting lost you know could be an opportunity to try a new restaurant or something   people must have complete control over things well this doesn’t happen so encourage clients   to remember that the past and the future are uncontrollable we can’t change the past it is what   it is we can learn from it so it doesn’t repeat but we can’t change it and the future is largely   uncontrollable I mean there are a lot of things I can do to stay moving toward a rich and meaningful   life but life is going to throw me curveballs sometimes and there’s nothing I can do to plan for   or control that we can control our actions in the present to stay on our preferred path and general   develop general skills to deal with adversity should it arise so we want to help clients   develop those general problem-solving skills and the general support system so when they are thrown   a curveball you know it doesn’t knock them upside the head people have virtually no control over   their emotions and cannot help feeling disturbed by things well encourage them to think about the   fact that they have real control over destructive emotions if they choose to work at improving the   next moment and changing inaccurate thoughts then they’re not going to experience the destructive   emotions as intensely or as frequently when you feel an emotion you feel how you feel but again   you don’t have to wrestle with it fight it and nurture it you can say this is how I feel how   do I improve the next moment when it comes to cognitive distortions encourage them to find   alternatives when they start to personalize things if somebody laughs when you walk out of the room   then the and the person starts getting anxious thinking oh they were making fun of me I wonder   what they thought I wonder if I had something stuck to the back of my dress and they start   getting all panicked about it that doesn’t do any good encouraging them to think you know what   our three alternate explanations that hadn’t but had nothing to do with you for why they laughed   magnification of the worst thing you know taking something and saying if this happens then it’s   going to be a catastrophe and minimization going along with that a lot of times when people magnify   and see a catastrophe they minimize not only their strengths and resources but all the   other stuff that they’ve got going for them all they’re seeing is this catastrophe so encouraging   them to focus on the facts of what is actually happening and what is the high probability   event and encourage them to get information and look at the broader picture you know yes you   got into a car crash and your car is totaled and that is unfortunate you know it sucks but   you know that is not going to cause you to lose your job and then become homeless and penniless   and yadda-yadda it might cause your insurance to go up but okay so you don’t have a car but what   are the resources that you have who can who do you work with that might be able to give you a   ride to work you know let’s look at the resources you have and work around so problem-solving helps   with magnification and also focusing on you know let’s be grateful for what didn’t happen you know   you could have been killed but you weren’t the car was totaled it’s replaceable all or nothing   thinking again have them think about what else could have been happening like Brittney suggested   finding the exceptions instead of saying she always does this look for exceptions when has   she not done that what else has she done instead of this selective abstraction and filtering is   when people look for the good the bad and the ugly a selective abstraction means you kind of   see what you expect to see so if you expect something to be devastating you see only the   devastating aspects of it which kind of goes with the magnification and minimization you filter out   the stuff a lot of times when people are in a bad mood or are anxious they see the negative because   that’s the state of mind they’re in so encouraging people to complete the picture alright there’s   all this bad stuff now what’s the good stuff you know to encourage them to look at the good the bad   and the ugly so they get a wide view of exactly what’s going on and encourage them to remember   that hindsight is twenty-twenty when people have something embarrassing happens or they get anxious   about something that happened they look back and they go I should have or I could have or oh I   wish I wouldn’t have when you were in that the situation you did what you did and you know   maybe you may have had a reason for it or you know you may have not had other options or it may have   just been a bonehead thing to do but okay so you made one mistake hindsight is 2020 that’s gonna   that mistake is gonna stand out just like the great big letter on the eye chart because you’re   thinking back and you’re looking at it and that’s all you see but encouraging clients to remember   that other people are too busy worrying about themselves to remember what they did jumping   to conclusions encourages clients to remember to get all the data if your significant other male   significant other comes home and is smelling like perfume don’t just jump to the conclusion that he   was cheating on you maybe he went to the mall to get a new tie and walked through the   perfume area and got spritzed or bought you some perfume or who knows maybe the person sitting next   to him at work sprayed her perfume on the desk and some of it filtered on there are all different   reasons that that might happen so encourage people to get all the data mind reading we can’t do it   you know you can’t read somebody’s mind you don’t know what they’re thinking so ask them what you think about this don’t assume anything and emotional reasoning encourages people to step back   from a situation and ask themselves am I feeling anxious about this because I’m feeling anxious and   I’m looking for reasons that it should be scary or am I feeling anxious about this because it’s   really scary for some reason there are facts support my anxiety a lot of times when we go into   new situations we may feel anxious because it’s a new situation but when we step back we say you   know what there’s nothing to be worried about here you know no big deal I got this and   move on so instead of rolling with it and trying to figure out okay I feel anxious so there must   be a reason not necessarily very likely a false alarm other psychological interventions relaxation   skills encourage people to learn how to relax not only physically but mentally diaphragmatic   breathing helps encourage them to breathe through their stomach and put their hand on their   belly and feel their belly expand and contract slows breathing down which triggers the rest and digestion reaction in the brain which is calming meditation can be helpful for some people some   people find trying to quiet their minds too frustrating because they’ve got too much   monkey mind going on that can be later or maybe never for some people, we don’t want to increase   their anxiety with interventions cute progressive muscular relaxation also has a lot of research   support and remembers with cute progressive muscular relaxation we’re Sakura get them   to attach a cue AK you word like relax or breathe with the relaxation response so they tense their   muscles and then relax their muscles and as they relax their muscles they say their “quack”-word   like relaxed and they work from head to toe or from toe to head tensing and relaxing different   muscle groups so they become more aware of what a tense muscle feels like versus a reactive relaxed   muscle there are great scripts that are online that people have already recorded that can walk   people walk clients through CPM are I highly encourage it because once they get used to it   then they can just think that cue they can think relax and as they exhale they will start to feel   their entire body kind of relaxing because it’s trained when it hears that just like when you hear   the word pop quiz when you were in high school you had a stress reaction well we want to use   it in reverse and train the body so that when it hears a cue word relaxes helps them develop   self-esteem because fear of failure and rejection a lot of times come from needing other people’s   approval to help them develop a rational idea of their real self develops compassion self-talk   instead of saying I’m an idiot or I’m stupid or I’ll never measure up to anything encourage them   to talk to themself like they would talk to their child or hopefully their best friend and encourage   them to spotlight strengths whenever they feel like they’ve got an imperfection to identify these   three strengths that they have so they’re you know balancing out the imperfections and the strengths of cognitive restructuring reframes challenges in terms of current strengths, not past weaknesses   so if you’re going to give a presentation in front of 60 people and you hate public speaking instead   of thinking about you know this is terrifying because the last time I went up in front of people   I forgot everything I was going to say and drop my note cards well that’s a past weakness what   is your current strength you’re prepared to know the material you ‘yoyo’ so encourage people   to look at all the strengths and resources they currently, have them develop an attitude of   gratitude and optimism because as I said with that the positive writing exercise when people   are in a grateful optimistic frame of mind they tend to see more of the good stuff they see the   bad stuff too but they can also see more of the good stuff and some of the bad stuff they see   opportunistically instead of as a devastation acceptance and commitment therapy says that some of the reasons that we’re miserable are fear we get fused with our thoughts we think I   am terrified well if I am terrified then I can’t I mean if I am I can’t get rid of anything I am   if I’m having the thought that I’m terrified well I can get rid of a thought I can forget   things easily encourage people to evaluate their experience and empower them to look at things as   challenges and opportunities instead of hardships encourage them not to avoid their experiences so   things that are scary gradual exposure and finding exceptions like for me bridges you   know I love public speaking so that’s not a thing but when I go to a bridge you know when   I Drive to the bridge you know when I’m on the bridge somebody else is driving I get used to   doing that when I Drive over a bridge than when I Drive over one of those bridges that open up   I hate those bridges um I know y’all are just like oh my gosh yeah it’s an irrational fear I realize   that but instead of going straight for the bridge that opens up going for the little bridges first   and then thinking back over times that I’ve gone over bridges and there’s been no problem you know there are exceptions nothing happened it wasn’t a big deal sometimes I didn’t even notice it until   somebody pointed out hey look down there at that pretty water and I’m like oh we’re on a bridge so   encourage people to not avoid their experiences get used to them embrace them and learn that they   have the power to deal with them and stop reason giving for the behavior you know use the challenging   questions if something is fearsome let’s look for at the evidence for and against it instead   of you know making excuses for social interventions improve their relationship with their self which   goes with self-esteem improvement people are going to feel less anxious about getting their needs and   wants to be met if they know what their needs and wants are so part of that is becoming mindful cuz a lot   of our clients don’t know what they need and want they just want to feel better but they don’t   know how they don’t know what they need to feel better so helping them identify their needs and   wants and encouraging them to be their own best friend you know when they get a promotion take themselves   out to dinner pat themselves on the back whatever it is don’t rely on other people to do it because   other people it’s not that they don’t care but other people are often very involved in thinking   about their stuff and they may not notice encourage them to develop a method of internal   validation so they can feel like they are all that ‘no bag of chips and they realize why they   are lovable human beings and they accept the the fact that everybody is not going to like them   and nobody is gonna like them all the time and that’s okay you know my kids don’t like me all   the time my husband doesn’t like me all the time I’m okay with that I know I can be challenging but   you know most of the time you know they like me and that’s okay and there are some people you   know who don’t like me at all and okay there’s nothing I can do about that helping our clients   develop an okayness with that helps relieve a lot of anxiety because a lot of people feel like they   have to be liked by everybody and if somebody doesn’t like them it’s like what did I do wrong   oh my gosh encourage them to develop healthily supportive relationships with good boundaries   develop assertiveness skills so they can ask for help when they need it anxiety a lot of times you   know that’s the body saying there’s a threat well if there’s a threat maybe you need some help you   know dealing with it so people need to be willing and able to ask for help and not feel like that’s   going to lead them to be rejected and allow them a certify this will allow them to say no to requests   again without feeling like that’s going to result in them being fully rejected describe the ideal   healthy supportive relationship and encourage them to separate the ideals from the reals you   know let’s look at if you had the best relationship what would it look like okay you know warden June   Cleaver we got that now how realistic is that you know let’s look at you know rephrasing this   a little bit so it’s less extreme you know warden June Cleaver never fought their kids were perfect   you know all those extreme words let’s look at what’s real what happens in real relationships encourages people to identify who would be a good partner in supportive relationships   I’m not meaning necessarily romantic I’m meaning friends and where they can be found you know where   would you find people that you could be friends with and encourage them to play through what it means when gaming cuz a lot of times again this goes with my reading you know what it means when your friend doesn’t return your text right away what does it mean when your friend cancels   dinner on Friday night what does it mean when you see where I’m going with this and a lot of   times clients with anxiety and rejection issues and low self-esteem will go to the worst-case   scenario so encourage them to go back to finding the exceptions what else could have been happening   what else could it be that caused this and it’s not about you so anxiety is a natural emotion that   serves a survival function excessive anxiety can develop from lack of sleep nutritional problems   neurochemical imbalances failure to develop adequate coping skills cognitive distortions low   self-esteem and a variety of another stuff recovery Ambala involves improving health behaviors making sure your body’s functioning 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Anxiety & Anxiety Recovery Frequently Asked Questions / Part 2

 Drew Linsalata: on episode 217 of the anxious truth, we’re gonna do 10 More of the most frequently asked questions about anxiety and anxiety recovery. So let’s get to it Hello, everybody, and welcome back to the anxious truth. This is podcast episode number 217 to one seven were recorded at the end of July 2022. Welcome, I am Drew Linsalata, creator and host of the anxious truth. This is the podcast that focuses on all things anxiety, anxiety disorders, and recovery. So welcome. If you’re new here, welcome aboard. If you’re a returning listener, welcome back. Today we’re going to do part two of our frequently asked questions. These are 20 of the most frequently asked questions about anxiety and anxiety recovery that I encounter in my many years in this community and doing this work that I do. Last week in Episode 216, we did the first 10. So go back and listen to that if you have not. And today in 217, we’re going to do the second 10. The show notes for these two episodes are quite detailed. So you can find the show notes for this episode at anxious truth.com/ 217. And I have included in there all the links to all the other resources and podcast episodes that I’ll talk about here. So go to the anxious truth.com/ 217. And check that out. And while you’re on my website, I would like to remind you that the anxious truth is more than just this podcast episode. There are 200, and somewhat other podcast episodes as a ton of free social media content. There’s my free morning newsletter called The anxious mourning. And there is three excellent books and anxiety and anxiety recovery that I have written that are helping 10s of 1000s of people around the world. So while you’re on the anxious truth.com, check out all of those resources, they’re good, and most of them are free, so go ahead and avail yourself of them. And if you are enjoying my work, and it’s helping you in some way, and you would like to help me keep it free of sponsorships and advertising. All the ways to do that can be found at the anxious truth.com/support. So check that out. Never required, always appreciated. So let’s get into part two of our frequently asked questions. And we’ll get right into it. We’re going to do 10 today. So question one this week is whether recovery is possible, even if you’ve suffered for many years. And the answer to that is sure is this is a short answer. Many, many members of our community can turn things around even after years of dealing with disordered anxiety. For me, it was over 2025 years of my life on and off and three or four major episodes. So yeah, the amount of time that you have suffered with this. I’m not gonna say it doesn’t matter completely, but it is certainly not a reason why you could not get better you can do that. Yes, you may build some habits, but at some point, the hole can only get so deep. And I think that’s what people worry about, like, oh, I keep digging a deeper and deeper hole. I’ve been digging for 20 years. So how am I ever going to crawl out of this hole? That’s not the right way to visualize it. I like to say the hole can only get so deep once you are to the point where you’re avoiding everything your housebound or stuck in one room or you’ve got yourself down to eating only three foods because you’re afraid or you know, you’re super restricted there’s, there’s only so much restriction you can impose on yourself. So assume that the hole has gotten as deep as it is ever going to get. You just start decorating and get comfortable in that hole. you personalize it, hang artwork like you put in a stereo system, and listen to your favorite music while you’re there. So if the hole doesn’t get deeper, you just get more comfortable in it. That doesn’t matter. You can turn this around, it doesn’t matter how long you have suffered, I promise you can get better. I was 20-plus years, 25 plus years. I know people even longer than that, that have dealt with this, and one woman over 40 years. And she has turned things around. She’s well on the way to recovery. So yes. In terms of resources, Episode 124 of the anxious truth talks about that. So you can go check that out. So question number two today? What if I don’t have panic attacks, and I just feel anxious all day? So there are two things that I want to address in this question. First of all, there’s a misconception that people that have panic attacks are somehow calm or not anxious between attacks. And that is 100% not true. Like people with panic disorder, I had panic disorder, I was anxious all day long, too. So if you’re in that boat, and you don’t have panic attacks, the first thing I want you to be aware of is that that’s not necessarily a special condition. And it’s not like people that do have panic attacks, have attacks, and then are calm the rest of the day. It doesn’t work that way. So don’t feel bad about that. Now, being anxious all day can be the result of the same mechanism that drives things like panic disorder, you can start to learn to be anxious just because you’re anxious. And the longer this goes on that becomes part of the puzzle for a lot of people. Like I’m anxious all day long. I can’t figure out why. So now I start to become anxious about being anxious. That’s one of those things or another reason why you might be anxious all day long. And this starts to get into the realm of generalized anxiety or generalized anxiety. disorder. A lot of people that have gad are anxious all day long, but not everybody that’s continually anxious has gad. So really God is defined by excessive worry and focus on external things to the health of your family, your health, doing good at work, not letting people down taking care of everything being perfect being a people pleaser, like those are things where we are trying to control the world to an excessive degree. And that’s sort of the hallmark of generalized anxiety disorder, it’s based on that sort of stuff. And then it gets off the rails and gets carried away. So people with gad can have a general background anxiety that lasts all day long too. So there could be that and then you could also begin to just be anxious about being anxious because you can’t solve the anxiety problem. So it’s not that this is a special thing or it can’t be fixed. Sometimes if you’re the in that gad camp, get a look at some of the underlying things that go with that. Things like excessive worry, overthinking over planning, perfectionism, and people-pleasing, are things that can drive anxiety state, but that you think could be good things about your personality. Gotta look at that. So I talked about this in Episode 119. I had Dave Carbonell on and we talked about generalized anxiety disorder, and episode 148 of the podcast covers this. But if you’re anxious all day long, you don’t have panic attacks. It’s okay, you can still get better I promised. So Question three, how can I drive during a panic attack or anxiety spike, it’s not safe. So this one, I did two podcast episodes that specifically talked about this Podcast, episode number 55. podcast episode number 105. We’re specifically about driving and driving anxiety. So there’s an assertion here that people will make that when you are in a high anxiety state or a state of panic, that you lose control and have no agency anymore. Like some external force rolls in and possesses you and makes you do things or prevents you from doing things. This is a thing that you have to start to challenge has that ever been True? Now, you are most certainly afraid you’re very uncomfortable. But the choices that we make in those moments in an attempt to alleviate that fear and escape from the discomfort are not involuntary. So, when talking about whether is it safe to drive during a panic attack, you have to realize that, yes, a rapid heartbeat during panic is involuntary, you can’t control that, and yes, maybe feeling a little short of breath is involuntary. Yes, feeling nauseous is involuntary. Feeling a little depersonalized is involuntary. That’s all true. But the things that we do to add fuel to that fear, fire, omg omg, calling for help trying desperately to get to a safe place trying to run away from it. Those are voluntary. Those are choices that we make. So you can’t control how you’re going to feel. But we do have some agency in what we do about that. And you have to realize that the uncontrollable feeling or the idea that you will completely lose control of your mind and your body or that you do lose control of your mind and body is you know what you’re doing, and you know what that activity looks like, and you’re calling that uncontrollable. But really, we do have choices, we are making choices to do those things. So it’s important to consider that because that sort of challenges the narrative that says it’s not safe to drive because I lose control. Well, no, you choose to help to fuel a frantic state in your frantic effort to try and get away from the fear. But there is a choice there. And there’s an agency that’s important when you’re talking about driving. And I would urge you to consider another thing. And that is all the times that you have been anxious behind the wheel or experienced full-blown panic behind the wheel, and you have run home with that car or pulled over immediately or got off the highway or the motorway. In all of those situations, you are surprisingly adept at maneuvering your vehicle, even though you’re insisting that you can’t and you must stop maneuvering the vehicle. So sometimes we have to insert a little bit of objectivity here, take two steps backward from that emotional reaction of oh my god, I’m out of control. It’s horrible. And look at the facts like, Am I out of control? Or am I just worried that I will be and have I ever even shown any sign of being unable to control my vehicle? Now, I’m not saying that driving with a panic attack is comfortable or easy in any way, shape, or form and it’s okay to pull over and let it pass. It’s okay. But you got to start to challenge that narrative. But in the end, you’re the only ones that get you’re the only one that gets to decide whether you should drive or not. I can’t tell you Yes, go ahead and drive. I can tell you to start to really try and think objectively about the way you’re evaluating that. And let reality be a bit of a guide. But I cannot tell you now, go ahead and drive you only you can determine that. Again, take a listen to podcast episodes, 55 and 105. And maybe those will help. So let’s go on to our next question. Question five. What if you have a real medical condition? Okay. This is unfortunately, common human beings have medical conditions all the time. More than one thing can be true at a time. So when this happens, you have to remember that you have an actual medical or health issue and can also be caught in the grips caught in the grips of disorder and anxiety, those two things will get glued together, and you will stick them together and think that they are one big giant ball of fear. But really, they are not. So there are two things in the face of a health challenge or a medical condition, that medical the condition can cause actual restrictions, lifestyle restrictions, but it can also cause fear, uncertainty, vulnerability, anxiety, worry, and normal things like human beings that are having health problems will normally experience those states. But then there’s the extra state on top of that. So that’s the medical condition itself and the normal human reaction to that. And then there’s the disordered part that comes on top of that, which is now I am going to excessively worry beyond what is helpful about my health condition. I’m going to try to make predictions, I’m going to write giant horror stories and screenplays in my head about what might happen even though it’s not happening. Now. I’m going to ruminate and worry and ruminate, and worry and research and Google, and I’m going to try to solve this problem in my head. But you can’t, that’s the part that you don’t have to do that part is not required, that part is not helping you in any way. It’s kind of hurting you in terms of mental health. Right? So you have to recognize there are two things, oh, I’m worried right now, I’m concerned, I’m afraid I feel uncertain and vulnerable because of this medical condition. Okay, that’s okay. And that sucks. And my heart goes out to you. But that’s part of being human. But the part where you latch on to it and spend 24 hours a day, every waking moment trying to solve this problem and writing stories about it in your head that’s not needed, then in many cases, your anxiety level goes up, because you’re doing that, and then you’re anxious because you’re anxious. So it’s important to step back again, try to insert a little objectivity, and say, Oh, I see what’s going on here. I don’t have to say, Well, I have a health condition, and it sends my anxiety through the roof. No, I have a health condition. And that makes me feel certain things. And then I am adding on top of that with some of the habits that I think are safety or protection for me. And I can recognize that and begin to tease that apart and start to work on those other habits. So that’s my answer to what if I have a real medical condition, people will often say like, well, I have a real medical condition. So all bets are off to bed like I’m going to have to be an anxious mess. No, that’s not true. Now I did an episode of the podcast with my friend Jessica Seidner. Jessica doesn’t have anxiety disorders, like, as we are aware. But we did a great episode together, where she talked about having to deal with the increased anxiety of breast cancer diagnosis, which came right on the heels of losing her husband. So she had a lot going on with her medical condition and a huge life loss. And her anxiety went up because it normally did. And we talked about how she had to work through that which might be helpful. I also did an Instagram live on this topic, probably a year and a half or two years ago. So again, if you go to the show notes for this episode, the anxious truth.com/ 217. Under this question, you’ll see that link to Instagram. So next question, we are on to question number 6789 10. Okay, so the question, I think five or six, how do you accept anxiety or surrender to it? So this is a question I get every day. And this question is really like other statements in code? This question is really, it’s super scary to surrender. So please tell me how to do it without being afraid or uncomfortable. Right? So there is no way to do this without being afraid or uncomfortable. And I know that’s a glib answer, a brutal answer. It’s it sounds like a cold answer. But we need to confront these things. It doesn’t help us to try desperately to make it easier or fluffy, or it doesn’t work that way. So you also have to recognize that when you ask the question, but how am I supposed to accept this or surrender to it? What you’re doing is insisting that you must continue to resist it. But why? Why do you think you have to continue to resist it? So if you are in this camp right now, where you want to keep asking, but I don’t understand how I’m supposed to surrender, or how I’m supposed to accept it. What you’re telling me is number one, I don’t want to be afraid, which I understand I’m not picking on you for that nobody wants to be afraid. And number two, no, no, no, I How am I supposed to I can’t if I drop all this resistance, then it’s going to come and get me? And my answer is yes. Correct. So how can I accept or surrender is an insistence that you’re not supposed to accept or surrender because you have to continue to fight it and resist it? Because if you don’t, you won’t be safe. And if you want one big step that you can take toward acceptance and surrender, is to face the harsh, brutal, cold reality that all the things that you are doing to resist it, stop it, make it go away. All your rituals and safety behaviors and escape behaviors are doing nothing. Don’t leave a big pregnant pause. They’re lit doing nothing, no amount of tapping your cheeks sniffing oils, drinking cold water popping men’s calling for help snapping rubber bands, chanting, counting backward from 100. None of those things is doing anything because that danger has never actually existed. So in terms of how can I accept and surrender, I will say if I walked up to you and said, I am so tired from having to hold up the moon all the time, but I can’t stop holding up the moon or it will fall to the ground, you would look at me and say, no, no, you can stop holding up the moon, because you’ve never been holding up the moon, it doesn’t fall to the ground, it’s okay, you can let go. The same thing applies here. So the thought that you can’t possibly accept anxiety or surrender it and by the way, acceptance doesn’t mean liking it, do not get confused, you can still hate it, and you can still want it to not happen. That’s all normal and you can’t control that’s human, you’re allowed to be human. Accepting doesn’t mean liking it. But accepting and surrendering means you will drop all of those safety behaviors, all of those resisting behaviors, because you must face the realization that they are doing nothing, they have no impact on your safety at all.  They’re just designed to make you feel different. But feeling different isn’t safer at all, because you’re never in actual danger from feeling anxious. Right? So you’re gonna have to confront the reality behind that question. But how am Did I suppose to surrender or accept? Well, look what those questions mean. So next question is, what exposures can I do get ready for dot dot dot, pick an event, a wedding, a concert, a family vacation, something. And so in the end, this is a simpler answer. You have to remember what exposures are therefore, people think, or they get confused. And they think, Well, I’m learning to drive on the highway. Again, I’m learning to go shopping, I’m learning to stay home alone. Again, you’re not learning to do anything. The only thing that you’re learning to do, which is portable across situations and challenges, and context is learning how to get better at experiencing anxiety and fear. So we only do exposures, do specific things like drive go for a walk or stay home alone or eat food that you’re afraid of. So that it will trigger that anxiety, we were intentionally triggering anxiety, fear, uncomfort, discomfort, uncertainty, all of those things were intentionally triggering them so that you can practice feeling them and moving through them in a new way, a the more productive way that ultimately teaches you that you don’t have to save yourself from them. So if the exposure is not to the event, the task, or the place where the food or whatever the exposure is to the feelings, then every exposure is an exposure that works for other things. Right? So if you’re getting ready to go to, for instance, you’re going to a concert all you got tickets to a concert, how can I expose myself to that? I mean, yes, can you do things that sort of mimic a concert? Yeah, that doesn’t hurt in any way. But remember, you’re only you’re not afraid of the concert, you’re afraid of how you will feel at the concert. So if you want to take a cruise around the world get better at staying home alone for two hours. That’s what I tell people all the time. If you want to go back to work, then get better at walking around your block. Because you’re really in the end, you’re learning a new way to relate to anxiety across all contexts. And if you can adopt this, then you don’t have to worry about specific exposures for every single thing you might have to do in your life, life gets a lot simpler that way. And your recovery starts to become a little wider and more durable. So it’s really important, like think about that. I’m only doing these things because they trigger my anxiety, the anxiety, fear, that’s the exposure, not the task or the place. So let’s move on to the question. You know, in 10. I know which one I want to take, we’re on seven right now. This question is what does this method work if I have trauma too. So first of all, I always have to say this is not a method like I’m not teaching them. This isn’t the drew method. It’s not my method. I didn’t invent any of this. These are just the principles of a cognitive behavioral approach to anxiety disorders. So there are parallels between anxiety disorder, recovery, and trauma resolution, that’s 100% True, a lot of things will look the same. If you’re working with a trauma resolution specialist, some of the things that you would hear would sound a lot like the things that I talked about, but they’re not the same. And the issue here is, let’s assume that you do have a traumatic background and you’ve experienced some traumatic events in your life. And maybe that that trauma did spawn your anxiety disorder that can happen. But then what I always say is that one problem, the trauma has now become two problems. You have trauma and an anxiety disorder. Right? So you have to realize that it doesn’t mean that the anxiety disorder doesn’t count because it’s only the trauma if you had one problem now you have to That’s okay though, don’t freak out. You can successfully deal with both of those issues. A lot of people do, right? A lot of people do that work on both fronts. But traumatic experiences do not mean that the anxiety disorder doesn’t count, so some people are under the assumption that like, well, this all sounds good, but I have trauma. So what you’re saying doesn’t apply to me. Okay, you may have trauma, and I’m very sorry for the things that you’ve lived through. That’s possible. But in the end, if you will have learned to be afraid of your heartbeat, or your breath or you have learned to be afraid of, you know, depersonalization or jelly legs, and you refuse to go out of the house, or you are convinced that you have some sort of health problem, and you will only eat foods as a result. Maybe some trauma spawned that, but But knowing about that trauma doesn’t help you become less afraid of your heartbeat. Now you’re afraid of multiple things. So maybe you are having, you know, you’re afraid of the experience. But now you’re also afraid of yourself. So you have to do both things. But of them, if two problems, you can solve them both. So traumatic experience can be a roadblock 100% to executing the recovery plan that we’re always talking about here. It’s 100% true if you have lived experiences that teach you that you are always unsafe, the world is dangerous, you are weak, you’re not capable, you’re stupid, and you’re not worthy of being better. trauma can do that to you. And if you have those beliefs about yourself, because of your past experiences, that can 100% present a roadblock to doing the work that I was talking about, have to acknowledge that and I always will always well never going to invalidate that. So in that situation, you’re going to have to work on that too, right? You’ll have to work on that. It’s kind of hard. And this is different for everybody, right? There’s no set answer to this on the other side. So in that situation, you may find you have to do a little bit of work on yourself before you can effectively do this recovery work that I’m talking about. Some other people find that their anxiety disorder is so bad, that they’re so wracked with panic and irrational fear that they can’t do the trauma work until they put out this fire. So some people have to do this first and then go back to the past and do that work. Some people can do it at the same time. It’s individual, it depends. So there’s no set answer to this. But I can tell you that you can recover from both trauma and anxiety. And the things that I’m writing about which are geared toward anxiety recovery can be effective while you do that. It’s just a very individual situation. But please don’t feel that since you have lived the traumatic background, you can’t get better. That’s not true. That’s not fair. And I understand why you might think that but it’s not true. You can get better. It’s not easy. But there’s hope for you too, I promise. So last few questions. This is a really common one I’m accepting, why am I still anxious? So I might argue that if you are asking why you’re still anxious, then you’re not accepting. We can’t qualify for our acceptance. I’m accepting. I’m accepting this, but I also want it gone. Well, you can’t have both of those things. Think about that for a second. I know it sounds a little bit glib and a little silly. But think about it. There’s truth in there. I’m accepting this, but I also don’t want to accept it, and I’m not accepting it. I know you want your anxiety to go away, but accepting and doing all the things we talked about. It’s not a recipe for banishing it, right? If that’s why you’re doing this like you are hoping that if you do the Claire weeks acceptance or the Dru surrender, or the Josh Fletcher willful tolerance, if I do this, then it will stop. You’re trying to skip the part where you have to experience the anxiety and use it as a classroom. It’s super important. So if you’re trying to skip that, and you’re just hoping that okay, I except, wait a minute, how come it hasn’t gone away? You’re missing the whole process. And you’re going to wind up disappointed, frustrated, and do and ask this question I don’t understand. I’m accepting why isn’t gone away. So expectations are important. Understanding the concepts of recovery. Why are you accepting that is that the whole thing? Or is it just part of it? That’s important, aiming at the right target is important. So in this situation, I did episode 192 of the podcast, which is linked in the show notes here, go listen to that, that will probably help you. And this is related to question number nine, which is, I’m doing my exposures. But it’s not working. This is what you think you’re doing. I’m doing all the things I’m doing exposures but not working. Why? And there are a couple of common explanations for this. Number one would be we’ll ask you a couple of questions. And this is right at the show notes. Are you trying to do exposures without being too afraid? Are you trying to do your exposures without triggering high anxiety or panic? Are you only doing exposures now and then when you’re forced to or when you’re having a good day? Are you doing exposures while also using all of your soothing and coping tools to calm you down if it gets uncomfortable? These are all red flags as to why exposure might not be working. So remember what I said a couple of questions before the point of exposure are not doing the task. The point of the exposure is experiencing the fear the anxiety, the discomfort you want that you need that if you’re trying to find ways to do your exposure tasks without feeling that or minimizing it or soothing or calming it or making it’s easier Don’t do the exposure, there’s no point in it. Because you’re not, you’re not learning to drive again, you’re learning how to get better at experiencing anxiety. So this is one of the main reasons why people will say my exposures aren’t working well, okay, but you’re not doing exposure, in some cases, for a common mistake. The other thing would be that you know, that you’re supposed to experience that experience, panic, but you are still hanging on to those who escape behaviors and those rituals. So some people get close to like real exposure, I would say real exposure, but most effective exposure, but they still hang on to like, well, there’s a line that I just can’t cross with anxiety and panic. And when I get close to that line, I will break out all of my copings skills. And I will break out my, safety skills and my make it go away skills. And that’s the response prevention part. So we’ve talked about exposure and response prevention, ERP, which is very commonly used in the OCD community, you hear ERP in that community all the time, but even for all of the anxiety disorders. Exposure is always ERP. So doing the things, you’re doing the things, you’re intentionally triggering this comfort, and you’re doing that without using your old responses, your safety responses, and soothing responses, you’re preventing those responses. So one of the reasons why another key reason why exposure might not be working air quotes for you is first of all, what does working mean? It doesn’t mean to make it go away. Remember, it means teaching you how to get better at being anxious. But why do you think it’s not working? Well, one of the reasons is doing the exposure without doing the response prevention. I’m out there driving on the highway, but I’ve got my mints and my cold water and I got my radio on, I’m calling and I’m talking to my friend or I bring my husband or my girlfriend with me that that’s one good reason why it might not be working. Right. So if you go to anxious truth.com and just search for the word exposure, you’ll see quite a few podcast episodes where we talked about this in more detail. And then question 10 Final question for the day. This is a big one. How do I deal with a setback? So this is a such question I hear every single day and I the word setback, I almost want to be stricken from the vocabulary. Many times when people are in the recovery process, they feel like they’re doing great because they’re not experiencing anxiety or panic. Like they’re feeling good. That’s, that’s awesome. We want everybody to feel good. I want you to feel good to write, I want you to have good days. We all want to have good days. Everybody deserves a good day. So when you start to string good days together, and you’re feeling pretty good. And it’s been a while since you had a panic attack, or it’s been a while since you had those scary thoughts or it’s been a while since you’ve had an anxious day and then you have an anxious day or the thoughts come back or you have a big panic attack one night. A lot of people will say up, it’s a setback. That’s not a setback. That’s not a setback, right? If the core principle of recovery, is to learn that anxiety and panic are not emergencies, then how is feeling that a setback, it’s no longer an emergency, you are trying to learn that it’s not an emergency, we do not declare it a special event. We don’t retreat from it. So setback is usually a red flag word and it indicates that you’re still insisting that the only successful recovery is one year where you will never feel anxious or panicky ever again. And if you’re trying to recover to that degree, where you never you can guarantee that you never panic or ever have another scary thought in your life. You’re going to be disappointed and frustrated. So setback is not feeling things. If you haven’t felt anxious for two weeks, and then today you feel anxious. Well, your job today is to move through those feelings and practice being better at being anxious. That’s not a setback. That’s just life happening. And that’s an opportunity to get even better. Like we want it we get to the end of the road to recovery when we don’t care if we’re anxious or not. And I know that if you’re in the thick of it right now you are thinking that is an insane statement. But that is truly where you are headed with this. That is when the war is over. So if every time you experience anxiety, you yell setback and want to know what to do I do with a setback? You’re kind of missing the point and you’re not being fair to yourself. Okay, so the only true thing that I might call setback is setback is also really what happens when we say up all bets are off and I’m going to return to my old rituals. I’m gonna go back to my figuring it out trying to fight it trying to resist it hiding from it. Going back to my compulsive. My compulsions, like that, might be setbacks. Yes, if you start to revert to those old habits, I’ll call that a setback with you. But how you feel and what you think is not the setback. But even if you do start to revert to those old habits as soon as you waive the setback flag and one piece of advice just remember, oh wait, I have to start doing what I was doing before. No problem that happens to everybody move forward again. So if anxiety returns after some time, right at the show notes here your job is not to wring your hands and try to figure out why and how to stop it and declare a disaster. Your job is to surf through it, move through it like you presumably did as part of the progress that you said you had made. So I did do an episode on this early on in 2015 of the podcast, episode 14 talks about the nonlinear nature of recovery and goes over setbacks. But I know setback is a thing that we talk about all the time in this community. Hopefully, this helps. And that is it. Those are our second 10 frequently asked questions about anxiety and anxiety recovery. We are done with episode 217. If you have not heard to 16 go ahead and listen, because those are the first 10 questions you know, we’re done because he told me that music. Anyway, I will pay you out as usual. 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6 Lies Your Anxiety Constantly Tells You

 Narrator, Hey Psych2goers, welcome back. When was the last time you felt completely at peace with your life and self? Sometimes our minds can linger in dark spaces with negative influences like anxiety Are there times when the voice of anxiety is louder than your own? Does it become difficult to discern between thoughts based on reality and thoughts that are merely lies clouding your mind, Identifying which thoughts are fear-based and false is the first step in shifting your mindset, which then helps you shift your self-image and life as a whole. So with that said, here are six common lies. Your anxiety may try to trick you into believing and how you can reframe those thoughts instead Number one. Everyone is focused on their flaws. The first time, gym, goers are often hesitant and timid due to the lack of experience and confidence in a new environment. They think they’ll stick out as the least experienced person in the room or that other gymgoers will judge them harshly over their body. What they don’t realize is that everyone there is too focused on themselves and improving their bodies to worry about others Replace the gym with other social settings, and you’ll realize the same applies. Remember that everyone has insecurities of their own, including the person you’re, interacting with Reclaim your mental space by focusing on being present with your setting or the people, you’re sharing time with You, ‘ll find that the less you focus on internalizing. Those negative feelings and the more you focus on being yourself, regardless of those insecurities the more confident you’ll, feel Number two. You’re not ready. Think of someone you admire, whether fictional or not If they refuse their call to action, whether that be accepting an invitation to a magical, wizarding school or volunteering themselves as a tribute in the Hunger Games all because they felt like they weren’t ready for Their world. Would be deprived of an important contribution When faced with a choice, to take a leap of faith? Remember that greatness comes when you act before. You feel ready Trust yourself to learn along the way and trust that your path will unfold gradually. As you carry on Number three, Your self-worth should be earned. The only factor that changes how connected you feel to your level of self-worth is a belief that is influenced by what you’ve been taught. Sometimes it’s not about adding more to your life through money, accomplishments, and material possessions to feel self-worth. Sometimes it’s about removing limiting thought patterns and unlearning the beliefs that convinced you to think less of yourself Throughout life. You may be conditioned by negative experiences, people, or trauma to believe that self-worth is something you must earn before you’re allowed to claim it, but that isn’t true. While there are things you should work hard to earn in life like a dream, job, or financial independence, self-worth is a feeling you innately deserve to have Number four. You must complete X by Y time in your life to be successful. Are you telling yourself? You must reach a certain goal at a certain time in your life to be deemed successful, or do you have a checklist with milestones you’d like to hit and are hard on yourself for not making those goals when you plan to This lie is exaggerated, Even further, when you look around and feel as though everyone is more successful than you or doing better in life than you are, The truth is, everyone is on their timeline and life is not a race. What looks like immediate success on the surface could be a goal that was years in the making for someone you admire. A successful goal is worth celebrating, no matter how long it takes. What matters most is your determination and persistence in making it happen. Number five. It or you will always be this way. Anxiety can trap your mind in a loop, causing you to believe that its presence will be a constant all your life. Your anxiety will lie to you by recalling all the times you failed to overcome it. You might think that you, ‘ll, always feel weak in the face of your fears or insecurities, but all of that is part of anxiety,’s negative influence, Bad memories are more easily remembered than good ones due to survival and evolution. When undergoing a negative experience, the two emotional, processing regions of the brain alerts you to what feels dangerous In an attempt to protect you, your brain imprints, these negative feelings into your memories, so that you can better prepare for future possibilities of similar experiences For every negative Memory that you have tried thinking about two other positive memories as well. This practice will help reframe your past in a positive light and can encourage a more optimistic view of your future And number six Change is bad. Are you afraid of change? Many of us are We’re scared of change because of its uncertain nature. Anxiety brings this fear to a new level, sometimes to the point where you feel paralyzed A bad breakup two years ago might leave room for the love of your life to arrive later. Not making the baseball team now could lead you to discover a passion for a new sport, and a conflict with a friend could be what deepens your bond with them. In a way you could, ‘t have imagined possible. Change can be good as long as you allow it. So did you relate to any of these When these thoughts or lies arise? Don’t force yourself to fight them off. If that proves to be a challenge at first, Allow them to appear like clouds forming in the sky, watch them pass through your mind, and let them float away You don’t have to believe or hold onto any of them With practice you’ll find They float into your mental space less and less Know that these thoughts are not your own and that there is an inner voice, encouraging you with positivity, underneath those fear-ridden thoughts. 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DBT Skills Emotion Regulation | Counselor Toolbox Podcast with Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes

 CEUs are available at AllCEUs.com this episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing  education webinar on-demand, CEUs are still available for this presentation   at AllCEUs.com/counselortoolbox I’d like to welcome everybody to today’s presentation of dialectical behavior therapy   techniques emotion regulation we are going to start by reviewing the basic premises of   DBT and the reason we’re doing that we’re only going to do it in this one because emotion regulation we’re starting kind of at the beginning but we want to go over what is   the theory underlying a lot of what we’re going to talk about we’ll learn about the HPA axis and   this isn’t something that Linehan talks about in DBT but it is important for understanding   our physiological stress reactions will define emotion regulation identify why emotion regulation   is important and how it can help clients ourselves staff yay and we will finally explore some   emotion regulation techniques there are things besides just preventing vulnerabilities that   we can provide to clients to help them regulate their emotions before moving into that distress   tolerance realm of skills and activities so basic DBT premises everything is interconnected when you   get up in the morning if you’re having a bad the day you know you didn’t sleep well your back   hurts you’re cranky you got a lot of stuff to do it’s raining outside you know yay   you’re noticing all the negatives your thoughts maybe more negative you may be more likely to   notice the negative you may be more likely to have what we call commonly call a bad attitude if you   start to have a better attitude what happens to what you observe and we’ll talk about that in a   little while the reality is not static what is true right now in the present may not be true which is you know was the future from what the present was half a second ago so reality   changes when we look at a situation when we look at an event, we’re looking at how am i reacting and   what is my feeling about the situation right now you know we can learn to change where we’re at but   with the information, I have right now what’s going on and a constantly evolving truth can   be found by synthesizing different points of view because most of the time as humans it’s just kind   of part and parcel of being humans we don’t have the whole picture and I did the best I could with   these little graphics here think back if you will to some of PJ’s experiments when he was trying to   demonstrate egocentrism when we’re looking at this yin and yang sort of model the girl’s stick   figure what does she see if you ask her what color is this orb she would probably say black   because we’re assuming she sees the black side if we ask this little thick figure model over   here what color is the orb she’s seeing the white side so he’d say white now if we asked a little   confused guy who is standing kind of on the third side or the south side he sees both of them so he   hears the stick figure girl say it’s black he sees a stick figure boy say it’s white and he’s   going well it’s kind of both you can synthesize both perspectives and figure out that this is   an orb that has multiple colors even though she can’t necessarily see those colors and he can’t   necessarily see those colors so BBT says let’s try to take a look and see if there are blind spots   see if there are things we’re not seeing or things we didn’t observe the basic assumptions of DBT   and well people do their best if we didn’t think that we probably wouldn’t be in this profession so   people are doing their best with the tools they have and the knowledge they have at any given   time and I added that extra part people want to get better and be happy most people don’t   want to be miserable if it seems like they don’t want to get better then we need to ask ourselves   what is the benefit to staying miserable why is it is scarier more threatening more awful to look at   getting better or being happy and that’s one of those motivational things we’re not going to go   there today but in general people are going to choose the most rewarding option when prevents   presented with multiple options okay now this one area in that I kind of diverge from the official   statement is clients need to work harder and be more motivated to make changes in their lives I’ve   had a lot of clients who have been working their butt off but they may not have the right tools   it’s like trying to unscrew something that is Phillips head with a butter knife they’re working hard but it’s not going anywhere because they can’t get any traction so I crossed out the   work harder and I tend to replace it with work smarter clients need to work smarter they need to   have more tools they need to have more effective tools and some of the tools they have may be awesome if we just tuned them up a little bit sharpen their oil and grease them whatever you   need to do and be more motivated to make changes in their life and you’re saying well they’re in   therapy they’re coming here for whatever reason there why aren’t they motivated to make changes   well again let’s look back at motivation and what’s the most rewarding choice is if they tried to make   changes before and it hasn’t worked out and they’ve been told that it was their fault they   were being resistant or you know they were blamed in some way or they just felt disempowered what’s   going to make them motivated to try to do that again please let me run the gauntlet most   people don’t want to do that so we need to help clients work smarter and understand that they are   working hard and they need to continue to do so and we’re going to help them get more effective   tools and we need to help them get more motivated we need to help them see that this time it’s going   to be different maybe a little bit different but this time we’re trying something new it may   be different even if people didn’t create their problems they still must solve yep you know   if you grew up in a dysfunctional household you didn’t create that problem but it is negatively   impacting you today so you’re going to have to fix it if you want to be happy which is the   whole goal of the lives of suicidal or addicted people are unbearable and when we’re talking   about DBT we’re generally talking about people who are highly emotionally reactive and suicidal self-harm those behaviors are away at this point that they’re trying to figure out how to tolerate   what seems like an unbearable situation in their head addiction is much the same way it provides   some relief from something they feel they have no control over people need to learn how to skillful   live skillfully in all areas of their life well yeah because every area is interconnected if   you’re stressed out at work do you just leave work go home and you have not stressed out   anymore no that’s not the way it works it would be great if it did but it’s just not even if you   don’t take all your stresses of work home with you it has taken a toll on your energy level so when   you get home you’re more vulnerable to emotional upset or just fallen asleep on the couch at 6:00   p.m. Whatever it is so we need to help people learn how to live skillfully in each area so   the exhaustion or negativity or whatever it is from one area doesn’t bleed over into the other   area so we need to learn how to juggle stresses in all of our areas to prevent vulnerabilities   and people cannot fail in treatment when someone relapses when someone you know backslides whatever   word you want to use I look at it as a learning the opportunity I say okay you made a different choice   than we wanted you to make a different choice than you were hoping you would make so let’s learn from   and figure out why that was the most rewarding choice than what was on your treatment plan   the goal that you’re working toward why what happened what were you more vulnerable so you   didn’t choose the newer behaviors because they weren’t as readily available let’s use this as   a learning opportunity to figure out what’s going on it’s not a failure it’s a learning moment or a   teachable moment so what is emotion regulation emotional dysregulation will start there   results from a combination of high emotional vulnerability so you’ve got somebody who is   kind of reactive and extended time needed to return to baseline so that when they get upset it takes them   longer to de-escalate and get back to baseline and an inability to regulate or modulate one’s   own emotions so I want you to think about some the time that you’ve been driving on the interstate   and you’re just driving along cruising along and heaven forbid if this has happened I hope not   but if it did you’re probably just late a semi comes along and runs you off the road onto the shoulder   and oh my gosh you get onto the shoulder your legs just to go in like this you can’t even press the   gas pedal because you are so stressed out you’re gripping your knuckles are white from gripping the   steering wheel so tight your heart racing you’re breathing fast you’re in full-out fight-or-flight   mode so you went from a1 on the stress meter you know kind of cruising along aware of the   fact that you need to be cognizant of dangers to a5 of oh crap that could have been bad alright so you take a couple of deep breaths you your breathing goes down a little bit you get to   the point where you can press the gas pedal and you pull back out onto the highway now   are you returning to baseline and just like la-dee-da cutting around like you were before most   likely not you’re a little bit more on edge and you’re checking your bat rearview   mirror more often you’re looking back making sure nothing’s in your blood spot more awesome   so you’re not returning to that same level of less stress Tunis if you will you stay a little bit   elevated because your brain is gone you know I thought it was kind of a safe situation but I’m   realizing now that not so much so I’m going to keep you on higher alert and it’s going to take   longer for you to return to baseline because you’re looking for those threats now you’re   much more aware that it could happen to people who come from invalidating environment people who are   regularly chronically stressed they’re constantly looking around for anything else that is going to   threaten them anything else that’s going to stress them out so they’re not going from a 1 to a 5 back   down to a 1 again they’re going from a 1 to a 5 back down to a 2 and then back up to a 5 and then   now we’re only going down to a 3 it’s that stress is ramping up so we need to figure out how   to help people deescalate get back down to that one and realize okay I got this that was an unpleasant situation but I got this now emotional vulnerability refers to the situation in which   an individual is more emotionally sensitive or reactive than others or then they normally would   be you know some people this is kind of and when we’re talking about personality disorders this is   pervasive when we’re talking about someone who has been under a bunch of stress for six months   this may be a situational sort of thing that we need to help them figure out how to get out of   but it may not be something that is completely and utterly pervasive in any event when you are   stressed you know you’re already kind of on edge and something happens do you react the normal way   that you normally would if you were just like sitting there and going off oh well okay let’s   figure out how to handle this or does it throw you up sort of into the stratosphere and for a   lot of people with emotional dysregulation when they’re their relaxation is on the brink   of chaos so they’re standing there teetering and they’re going okay I cannot take one more   wind or it’s going to push me over and then they call them damp they get upset and they’re kind   of on freefall for a while they get their balance again but then they’re still right there on that   precipice they never come down so what we want to look at is what’s going on with these   people that’s making them more reactive that’s making them more alert and more hyper-vigilant to stresses and stressors some of these may be because of differences in the HPA axis which   play a role in making people more vulnerable or reactive and we’re going to talk about the HPA   axis in a minute environment of people who are more emotionally reactive or often invalidating   and what does that mean well pick Jane Jane has had a heck of two years you know   there’s just been death after death a job loss she lost her home she’s living in an apartment   right now but she’s not happy and you know yeah you can just pile stuff on okay so James struggling right now she’s holding on and really trying to do the next right thing she’s trying   to make ends meet trying to do what’s right by our kids just feeling stressed out and   then something happens something that most of us would react with it to you know it’s annoying but   it wouldn’t throw us into utter chaos well James on that precipice Jane’s already at a four maybe   a four and a half depending on the day so when this happened just that too puts her on a scale of one to five puts her at a six-and-a-half which is in freefall but people   may not understand that they may not understand what’s going on in Jane’s life and they’re like   this is not that big of a deal why are you just overreacting which makes Jane feel guilty   Phil is self-conscious and feels misunderstood so then she feels isolated and rejected and we’ve   talked about basic fears being rejection isolation failure loss of control and the unknown well James   kind of experiencing all of those right now and the people around her instead of being validating   and going okay you were already stressed out I can see how this was just the straw that broke   the camel’s back they’re going what is your the problem so she doesn’t feel like she’s got   social support she’s out there on an island unto herself so we want to help Jane with emotional   regulation because we know she’s up here and we know she doesn’t like going into that freefall   but how do we help her emotional regulation is the ability to control or influence which emotions you   have when you have them and how you experience or express them and that’s a quote straight out of   Linda hands book so emotion regulation prevents unwanted emotions by reducing vulnerabilities   so you can go through life you can go through the day you can experience stress but instead   of feeling overwhelmed or enraged you might feel mildly irritated for a second and then choose to   move on emotion regulation helps people learn how to change painful emotions once they start so you   don’t get stuck nurturing that emotion or feeding into it and being angry with yourself because you   got angry about something you have no control over it teaches that emotions in and of themselves are   not good or bad they just are it’s your brains hardwired way of responding based on waiting for   it the information that it has at this particular point in time spiders if you’re afraid of spiders that is your brain’s way you see a spider and you feel fear it’s your brain’s way of going threat   spiders can be a poisonous big threat so you want to get away from it that’s your body’s way your brain’s way of going let’s survive we want to do this now you can figure out you can learn more   about spiders so in the future when you encounter then you realize that they’re not you know 99% of   them are not threatening to humans but right now at this moment your brain is saying warning getaway you probably want to do that so it teaches that emotions internet themselves are just   prompting us to do something they are survival responses and suppressing them makes things worse   telling yourself I shouldn’t feel afraid does that do any good if your kid comes to you and tells you   that you know I’m having a crappy day or I hate this does it usually do any good to tell them   well you shouldn’t feel that way feel better you know just be happy does that work I’ve never had   an experience where that worked now it may work for some people but so we want to help people   identify their emotions and not get consumed by the emotions are effective when acting on   the emotion is in your best interest so sometimes it’s in your best interest expressing your emotion   gets you closer to your ultimate goals sometimes expressing your emotion gets you closer to your   short-term goals like making the pain stop and true pain is unpleasant however in the   big scheme of things 15 minutes from now 3 hours from now is that getting you closer to the goals   that you want to achieve or was it just a stopgap expressing your emotions will influence   others in ways that will help you so if you want to influence others in ways that are positive and   will help you then emotions can be very kinder that can be very helpful emotions are sending you   an important message and we already talked about that so I’m thinking the devil’s advocate amigos   well I can think of a client that goes you rage is a great emotion to express is it in my best   interest yeah gets people to leave me the heck alone does it get me closer to my ultimate goals   yeah it reduces my stress by getting people to leave me the heck alone will it influence others   in ways that will help you, yeah it make them go away and are these emotions sending you an   important message yet rage is telling me that these people like everybody are a threat to me   so in the short term when you look at it that way it can be tricky to see but we want to help   people get outside of this immediate threat and say where you want to be what happiness looks like to you or however you want to define that ultimate goal and then once you get into   distress tolerance was your Thursday talk about how do you endure unpleasant emotions so you don’t   take the stopgap route now on to our favorite HPA axis the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis   is our central stress response system and doesn’t get too caught up and all the psychobiology of   this I think it’s good to be cognizant of but we’re not prescribing hypothalamus   place in the brain release is a compound called corticotropin-releasing factor or CRF   which triggers the release of adrenocorticotropic hormone from the pituitary gland which triggers   the adrenal glands to release stress hormones particularly cortisol and adrenaline now your adrenal glands are actually on your kidneys and why is that important what I want you   to see or understand is there are a lot of systems involved there are a lot of hormones involved   there’s a lot of stuff involved it’s not just box you know you’re releasing a bunch of chemicals in   your body that are altering the neurochemicals and the other hormones to prepare you for spiders   the adrenals control chemical reactions over large parts of your body including the fight-or-flight   response and produce even more hormones than the pituitary gland so you’ve got these adrenals   this is kind of your stress area if you will it produces steroid hormones like cortisol which   is a gluteal corticoid which means it makes your body release glucose what we know is that glucose is blood sugar energy all right so it increases the availability of glucose and fats for the long-term   fight-or-flight reaction it also produces sex hormones like DHEA and estrogen okay why is that   important because we know that when estrogen goes up serotonin availability goes up so if there are the adrenals are busy doing something else it may cause other hormonal imbalances and   it also produces stress hormones like adrenaline that is going to ramp you up they’re going to   increase your respiration increase your heart rate all that kind of stuff so once you have that whole   reaction we talked about and the perceived threat passes cortisol levels return to normal great this   is what happens in the ideal situation but what if the threat never passes what if we’re working with   a client who is constantly fearing rejection and isolation they need external validation   because they don’t feel good enough as they are they don’t have social support because their   emotional reactivity kind of pushes everybody away so they’re constantly feeling this threat   of rejection isolation failures loss of control and the unknown they’re holding on just like you   were holding on to the steering wheel after you ran off the road and you got back on you know   you kept chugging because you wanted to get to your destination but you were scared witless okay so you’re chugging along what’s going on what’s going on in that body the amygdala   and the hippocampus are intertwined with the stress response the amygdala modulates anger   fear or fighter flight and the hippocampus helps to develop and store memories when you’re under   stress and think about a time when you are under a lot of stress were you effective at learning and   paying attention to the good things and the bad things or were you just trying to make the pain   stop and make the threat go away from the brain of the child or adolescent is particularly vulnerable   because of its high state of plasticity which is why do we see people who tend to have personality   disorders much of their trauma and stuff really started early in their development and which is   why it’s pervasive in every area or many areas of their life, bad things are learned emotional   upset prevent learning new positive things to counterbalance it if you’re in a bad mood if   you’re scared if you’re threatened you know if you’re hungry homeless put whatever stuff is   there are you paying attention to the bluebirds that are flying around and singing   pretty songs or are you paying attention to the fact that you got an a on a test maybe   not so, we need to understand this person who lives in a chronically stressful environment may also   have an overactive HPA axis so they’re already they’ve already got some adrenaline and   cortisol going on they live kind of in this state of hyper-vigilance and then something happens and   they’re just like through the roof kind of like when you scare a cat what happens to the brain   one is a chronic threat to its safety and a constant the underlay of anxiety is constant undercurrent as   it learns your brain forces synaptic connections from experience and pruned away connections that   aren’t utilized by people who feel a lack of control over their environment are particularly vulnerable   to excessive stimulation of the stress response now it’s not just children abuse and neglected   children pop right up there but abuse and neglected adults think about a client you’ve   worked with who’s been in an abusive relationship for years does she have all the happy connections   or is she pretty much terrified exhausted and stressed out most of the time adults with   anxiety or depressive disorders it doesn’t even have to be an abusive or neglectful situation if   you have someone that forever whatever reason has clinical anxiety or depressive symptoms they are   in this state of constant threat and constant of people if you will so they’re not seeing they’re   not able to learn and take in as much of the good stuff so there’s more bad stuff coming in   they’re paying attention to more of the bad stuff or unpleasant stuff the synaptic connections   that form the foundation of people’s schema of themselves in the world become skewed towards   the traumatic event at the expense of a synaptic Network-based on positive experiences and healthy   relationships so we had this client here and these are her negative experiences she has a lot of them   and she’s got these going through her head a lot and it’s not they don’t just go away whenever she   meets somebody and she’s like well they’re going to leave me whenever something happened she feels   isolated and alone she may fear so she’s got really strong connections to those memories   and past experiences and when you’re in the midst of all this, there’s not a lot of happy stuff and   even when she appears happy a lot of times she’s faking it she’s not seeing and remembering all   the happy stuff she just wants to avoid the pain another example I could give you is thinking about   a city planner now a city planner only has a the certain budget just like we only have a certain   amount of energy the city planner looks and says what roads and what connections between cities get   the most traffic and let’s devote our resources and strengthen those connections because we know   we’ve got all kinds of traffic going over there and those roads that don’t travel those   back roads we don’t need to pay much attention to them right now because we need to make sure that   those roads that are used the most are strong but that’s the best analogy I can give without   putting out strings and everything else but so the hyper-vigilant state active IDEs activated   by the stress response that disrupts our ability to focus and learn you know we’re just trying to   not die we’re trying to not be consumed by pain it impairs the ability to form new memories and   recall information due to the physiologic changes in the hippocampus, it’s not time to learn and   process and do all that kind of stuff have you ever tried to study for a test when you had 16   other things going on that you are stressed about how well did you remember this stuff over here sometimes people relate things to prior experience well most of the time so maybe they’ve had a lot   of dysfunctional relationships and they start to get in a relationship which side is going to be   triggered the negative memories are the positive memories and then you have somebody who may be   attached to some positive relationships they start to get into a relationship and they remember some of   the positives because there have been some really good relationships but you know they may remember   the negative too but most likely they’re going to remember more strongly the positive so what’s   their reaction going to be if we’re trying to help our clients develop a healthy support system we   need to help them address some of those highways that are going towards the negative memories emotion regulation is transdiagnostic or useful with many disorders it helps people increase their   present focused emotion awareness it says right now right here right now what are your feelings   what are your physical sensations what are your thoughts and what are your urges it helps people   increase cognitive flexibility because it helps the kind of step back and take a look and say   okay what are my options let me step back from being intertwined with this feeling and go okay   I feel angry got it what are my options here what do I usually do what I want to do when I’m on   autopilot what are some other options I could do that might help me move toward where I want to   go identifying and preventing patterns of emotion avoidance and emotion-driven behaviors we don’t   want to get into the situation of constantly trying to avoid unpleasant emotions by lashing out by   hurting ourselves or by doing things reactively when I feel this way I must smoke a cigarette I   must cut myself I must fill in the blank we want to help people find alternate ways and be able   to step back and say that is an option is it the option I want to choose today increasing awareness   and tolerance of emotion-related physical sensations sometimes these physical sensations   are just so powerful and so overwhelming and sometimes the rush of adrenaline and that foggy wibbly-wobbly feeling you get in your head when you have just adrenaline coursing through your   veins is so overwhelming that people don’t know what to do with it and are afraid it won’t stop   so let’s help them increase their awareness and tolerance of this helped them understand that it   passes and use emotion-focused exposure procedures when they get upset help them think about things   in the group sessions that get them a little bit revved up you know we don’t want to precipitate   a full-scale crisis or talk about something that happened last week that got them upset and let’s   apply these procedures emotional behavior is functional to change the behavior it’s necessary   to identify the functions and reinforcers of the behavior so when they did it you know let’s talk   about cutting because you know that is one of those behaviors that we see are self-injury it’s what is the function of that behavior cutting or self-injury is a way of inflicting physical   pain where the person has control and they focus on that and they feel a sense of mastery when the   stuff going on in their head feels completely uncontrollable and intolerable it diverts their   attention and it also is something that they they can control how much pain they’re in so   that’s how it’s functioning now is the best the response we want no but we can see why somebody   might engage in that behavior and what reinforces that behavior well when they do that not only do they   get a reprieve from this emotional turmoil that they don’t feel like they can touch or control   or do anything with but their body also releases endorphins release natural painkillers to kill   that physical pain which makes them feel a little a bit better so they’ve got kind of a double whammy   on reinforcers there so we understand that now we need to find something else that they   can do and help them figure out how to tolerate the turmoil emotions function to communicate to   others and influence and control their behaviors and serve as an alert or an alarm to motivate   one’s behaviors so let’s talk about the first one communicate to others so I’m communicating to   a rat around me the people around me through my emotions what’s going on if I’m angry I’m lashing   out I’m going to influence people’s behavior and they’re probably going to back off if I am sad   or crying or scared that might bring them closer and in a more supportive sort of thing you know   again you’ve got to look at some of the behavior self-injury can elicit a caretaking response but   these emotions before somebody start acting out the behaviors the emotions serve as   a cue that okay Sally is getting ready to go in free fall so they can start reacting sooner and   it serves as an alert or an alarm to the person to motivate their behaviors if they know you’re   on the precipice if you know you’re right on the edge of being vulnerable cranky being irritable that day can motivate your own behaviors to figure out how to reduce some   of your vulnerabilities and identify obstacles to changing emotions now we can’t just say be   happy and all of a sudden somebody’s like oh I don’t know why I didn’t think of that I’m just   going to go ahead and be happy that’s just not how it works we want to look at organic factors   do they have an organic long-standing chemical imbalance of some sort and it may not be neurochemical it may be hormonal they may have too much estrogen too much testosterone too little   estrogen too little testosterone whatever let’s figure out you know have them go see their doctor   and figure out if there is something fibroids or moans whatever that might be affecting their   mood okay once we identify anything that we can tweak there we can’t measure neurotransmitters   we’re out of luck there because they’re found in so many places in the body that there’s no   way to isolate how much serotonin is actually in the brain can’t do it yes we want to look at   other factors that are biological imbalances neurochemical imbalances that are caused by   chronic stress that cause addiction to sleep deprivation and nutritional problems so what sort   of chemical imbalances are we precipitating by keeping the stress going and keeping the   adrenaline going keeping your body revved up all the time we want to look at obstacles well   let me stay with biological factors here real quick the organic things if we can refer to the   physician and we can figure out ways to address those that give the person one step forward so   they’re not feeling as depressed or they’re not feeling as reactive people with hyperthyroid you   know when their thyroid is overactive may have some anxiety issues or some other mood issues   that can be addressed with medication then we Looking at situationally caused things is the ways we can help them reduce their chronic stress sometimes there are some easy right-now sort of   solutions other times but chronic stress comes from issues that are so long-standing it’s going   to take a while it’s not that we can’t do it but it’s going to be a process so we move on and we   say okay addiction we know that when people use stimulants rev them up and then they crash and   it makes them more than emotional yo-yo caused by the substances or the addictive behaviors   also makes them more vulnerable to emotional reactivity sleep deprivation is all kinds of   hormones out of whack and tends to make people more irritable that’s one almost everybody can look at   addressing right now and nutritional problems if they’re not eating well not eating at all encourage them to see a nutritionist to make sure they’re getting something balanced that   they will adhere to not something that they look at and go yeah that looks great but no   way I’m eating nuts skill factors what can we help they with we can identify cognitive responses that   are obstacles which as I can’t do that I won’t do that resistance in some way my response   to that obstacle is set to look at it and weigh the positives and the negatives do a decisional   balance exercise to address the cognitive responses and figure out why is the dysfunctional   or unhelpful reaction more rewarding why is it more rewarding to be angry or scared than to look   at doing things and thinking of things that will help you feel happier what’s the disconnect generally, it comes back to prior failures and fear of failure because they’ve been down that road before   and it’s such a letdown when they’re feeling good for like three weeks and then they   crash behavioral responses that are obstacles to changing emotions if somebody lashes out when they   get upset they lash out and throw things and then they feel guilty so this behavioral   response may lead to having more difficulty changing emotions because we’ve got to help   them figure out how to pause before the behavioral the response so they don’t compound the situation with   more negative emotions and environmental factors people places and things being in environments   where you’re surrounded by people who either agon negativity or who bring out you know they’re there   with you they’re talking about conspiracy theories they’re just negative about everything or they’re   critical of you or remind you of situations where you’ve been criticized before so first, we want to   help people identify and label emotions a lot of our clients are relatively Alex Simon you   know they have a small repertoire if any of noting their emotions they just generally go   from situation to reaction and label what they felt is kind of a mystery so we want to help them   and doing it retrospectively is fine at first because that’s probably all you’re going to be   able to get the event profiting the emotion what were your thoughts your physical sensations and   your urges help me describe this in enough detail that if we were going to give it to an actor or an   actress they could recreate the situation what expressive behaviors were associated with that   emotion you know did you cry did you throw things did you hit the wall what were your   interpretations of that event at the moment not retrospectively but at the moment what   were your interpretations of what was going on what history before the event increases your   vulnerability to emotional dysregulation lots of big words what happened before that that   already stressed you out or had you on edge and you know we go through a whole bunch of   different things and this is you know behavior chaining we’re looking at kind of what led up to   the event what made you more vulnerable and what were you feeling at that time and then what were   the after-effects of the emotion or the reaction on your other types of functioning so after this   event and you went into freefall and you got angry and you lashed out and you screamed and you threw   things how did that affect your work how did that affect your relationships with your family how   did that affect your mood and just generally your sense of being in yourself for the rest of the day changing unwanted emotions okay so we started labeling them we figure out what we’re feeling   we figure out that yeah when we feel that way we act in ways that you know make us feel worse afterward what do we do about it let’s change All alright we already talked about the obstacles   and we’re trying to address those but in a moment check for facts ask yourself what are the facts   for and against your belief if you believe that someone did something to be antagonistic towards   you okay what was their motivation what is the facts for and against that also ask yourself is   this emotional or factual reasoning am I making a decision based on how I felt I felt attacked   therefore I must have been being attacked or facts you know I felt attacked yes but that was   because this person said ABCDE and all of those were very attacking and I felt like I needed to   defend myself so those are to check the facts sort of steps or you can go with problem-solving so   let’s change the situation that’s called cause any unpleasant emotion like I said with spiders at the moment you may not have enough information to not feel scared but maybe your spouse loves hiking and camping and you want to go but you’re afraid of those aren’t spiders so how   can you change the situation so spiders don’t trigger that same reaction increase knowledge   increase exposure there are a lot of different ways but problem-solving says ok what can I do   so my reaction my correct reaction is not one of threat or anger but it is one of at least mild   acceptance prevent vulnerabilities which helps reduce reactivity if you are a hundred percent   you know you get up and you’re like this is going to be a good day to day things that come your way   are probably going to roll more like water off a duck’s back then smack you upside the face like a   mud pie so we want to prevent vulnerabilities from the turn down the stress response because when you’re not   when you’re not up here already then you know you can fluctuate a little bit more and they   help the person be aware of and able to learn and remember positive experiences so if you turn down   that vulnerability and somebody’s in a good place or a better place than they were at least they’re   going to be able to notice and we’re going to want to encourage them to notice the positive   experiences you know instead of thinking that all people are threatening all people are going to   hurt me all people are going to leave they might notice that you know there’s Sally over here who’s   worked here for 15 years with me and you know she’s there she sometimes calls in sick but then   she comes back she’s generally in a good mood you know she’s not such a bad person and   you start noticing some of the things that are not self-fulfilling processes building mastery   through activities that build self-efficacy self-control and competence smuggle we don’t   want to say you don’t want to set a goal where somebody needs to go an entire week without   having an emotionally reactive response let’s say go for hours or maybe even a whole day that   would be wonderful but first, we’ve got to talk about how to reduce those vulnerabilities so we   set the person up for success what things can you do and well and we’re going to get down here in a   minute what can you do if you wake up and you’re feeling vulnerable you know the creepy crowds   are going around they cancel school for the entire week for school the county   school system kids are off for an entire week because of illness right now but you wake up in   the morning and you’ve got a fever and a sore the throat you’re like I don’t want to go   to work and get out of bed today what can you do to prevent being grumpy and overly reactive   throughout the day’s mental rehearsal and this can go for if you’re getting ready to do something   scary or threatening seeing yourself do that and do it successfully and this can even be during the   day just envisioning yourself getting up and eating your breakfast driving to work going through your   day seeing that one person at the office that always has some sort of snarky comment to say or   whatever irritates you laughing at it or dealing with it just fine going through everything in your   day as you would like to see it happen envision it see see what you can do rehearse it rehearse how   to handle negativity you know if you know you’re going to have to go in for your annual evaluation   with your boss okay so mentally rehearse how it’s going to go how are you going to react what’s   going to happen so you’re prepared for it you have your responses and it takes some of the unknown   out of the situation physical body mind care pain and illness treatment and the acronym for this is   please I changed one of them to laughter it used to be physical illness and that was both   PNL but I like laughter anyway we’ll get there when you’re in pain or when you’re sick you’re   vulnerable to being a little bit cranky you know that’s just because your body is already saying you are   weak you know back in the day when you had to defend yourself against predators the sick ones   and the ones that were in pain were the ones that usually got taken out first as a part of   our brain that still remembers that for whatever the reason so when we’re in pain or when we’re sick   our body keeps that cortisol keeps our cortisol levels higher and the stress response a little bit   higher so we want to deal with those things but know if we wake up and we’re in that situation  moment that was a little bit more vulnerable so we need to handle it with care and laughter you can’t   be miserable and happy at the same time laughter releases endorphins laughter helps people feel   a little bit better and find something to laugh at and have on my phone I keep comedy skits every   once in a while I’ll just pop one in even if I’m not having a bad day pop it in because I   like to laugh eat two-sport mental and physical health avoid addictive or mood-altering drugs   or behaviors that are going to put you on that the up-and-down roller coaster that goes up and it   goes even further down than you were when you started to get adequate quality sleep and exercise also helps increase serotonin and release endorphins which help people be in a better mood mindfulness is a judgemental observation and description of the current emotions we’re not   going to go deep into this right now another class on mindfulness and you can also   google it remembering that primary emotions are often adaptive and appropriate I know I   said that like six times much emotional distress is a result of your secondary responses shame over   having it I shouldn’t feel this way anxiety about being wrong you know maybe this   is the wrong way to respond or you know what if I’m wrong about this or rage doing due to feeling   judged for feeling that way I feel this way and you’re telling me I shouldn’t how dare you   so mindfulness is kind of an exposure technique because it helps people identify that yes I feel   that way but it helps them learn to step back and figure out how to not judge that and just go okay   I feel that way better or worse whatever that’s how I feel exposure to intense emotions without negative   consequences that non-judgmental acceptance just going all right is what extinguishes the   secondary emotional responses of feeling guilty about it or feeling ashamed or angry at yourself   for being angry so think of it this way if you can’t see this one’s the best Bruce Lee picture I   could come up with scenario one is an unpleasant experience the person has an unpleasant emotion and then feels guilt shame or anger for feeling that an emotion so instead of having to deal with one   emotion one-on-one now you’re having to fight for different unpleasant emotions and you start acting   to try to stop the avalanche of negativity in the absence of adequate skills now Bruce Lee he was   able to take out four or five at a time but most of us you know we would be beaten because all of   these adversaries would be coming at us and we would be building on them in scenario two and   this is where we want people to get they have an unpleasant experience which is part of life they   identify unpleasant emotions again part of life is sucky but part but they can deal with one emotion they’re like okay I’m angry what do I do about it instead of I’m angry   what do I do about it and I’m guilty and you see how you know she’s got this she can take that   one emotion so what we’re helping people do is uncomplicated this regulation is common to many   disorders people with dysregulated emotions have a stronger and longer-lasting response   to stimuli yes they’re already kind of stressed out they’re already hyper-vigilant if you want   to say they’re already wound up a little bit and then something happens and it amps for months now   we have a scale of 1 to 5 if they’re already on a 4 and it amps them up 2 points they’ve fallen   off the scale they’re in freefall so we need to understand that what we perceive as an excessive   emotional reaction they may not have been starting from the same place that we were, we’re starting   from a 1 if they’re starting from a 4 you know then their reaction to the same thing you seemed   pretty reasonable emotional dysregulation is often punished or invalidated and increases hopelessness   and isolation emotional regulation means we help people use mindfulness to be aware of and reduce   their vulnerabilities so we help them take it so they’re not at a 4 there may be a 2 you know   they’re in therapy for a reason we’re going to help them work on the other stuff and get them   down to a 1 but right now let’s help them figure out ways, they can take down their stress response   take down their just underlying anxiety, and stuff identify the function and reinforcers for current   emotions when they happen was understand where they came from because they’re functional do that   chaining worksheet check for facts ok now that I know how I feel I know what my reactions are   I know what my thoughts are I know what my urges are let’s check the facts in the situation for   and against that forces people to kind of step back which lets the urge sail out some and then problem-solves what can I do right now to improve the situation and what can I do in the future   so I don’t necessarily experience this exact the same situation again how can I break that mold okay so emotion regulation doesn’t provide us with a whole lot of distress tolerance skills, emotion regulation is really about preventing vulnerabilities and helping people figure out   okay here’s where I’m at how do I pause so then I can choose from my disgust distress tolerance   problem-solving or interpersonal effectiveness skills but it’s a big step how awesome would   it be if you could eliminate some of your vulnerabilities and think about it just for   a minute or two what vulnerabilities you’ve got going on in you right now and how many   of those you know could you potentially over the next week or two kinds of address sleeping and eating maybe you have 16 things going on and you could pare it down to eight there   are a lot of different things that you might be able to kind of pull out of the rabbit hat   if you will and what kind of a difference would it make if you’re talking to your staff and looked around at your organizational environment what vulnerabilities are there environmental   vulnerabilities physical vulnerabilities my best friend’s working somewhere right now where pretty   much everybody is required to work doubles because they are so short-staffed they’re going to start   getting vulnerable pretty soon so look around what can you do to moderate that so they can   model effective emotional regulation but they can also not be emotionally dysregulated by a   client who has emotional dysregulation issues all right so that concludes our 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7 Signs It’s Social Anxiety, Not Shyness

 (light upbeat music) – [Narrator] Hello, Psych2Goers and welcome back. All right, so how do you know it’s a disorder and not a trait? Who wouldn’t be a bit awkward when walking into a room full of strangers? Shyness is a trait. It’s the initial awkwardness that precedes forced small talk. The mere dislike of the spotlight, but it’s not distressing. Social anxiety, on the other hand, is the pervasive, intense fear of being judged, humiliated, rejected, or embarrassed in a social setting that leads to anxiety or avoidance. Although shyness and social anxiety share similar physical symptomatology, some traits differentiate them. And please remember this video is meant to be informative and should not be used as a rubric for self-diagnosis. If you have any personal questions or concerns regarding this topic, please consult a licensed professional. With that said, here are seven signs that you’re not just shy. Number one, avoiding or escaping very public settings. When you find yourself in new surroundings, do you open up after a while or stick to a familiar group of people? Or maybe a bathroom nearby or leaving early seems like a better sanctuary? Although a shy person may feel uncomfortable at a party where they don’t know anyone, someone with social anxiety will avoid public settings altogether. This symptom can devolve into agoraphobia. Public situations such as dining out at a restaurant, dating, or returning an item to a store can be harrowing for someone with an anxiety disorder, where there are opportunities for rejection or embarrassment. If avoidance is not possible, those who have social anxiety may try to escape the whole situation by using extreme avoidance and escapist tactics or safety behaviors. The problem with safety behaviors is that they provide the illusion of surviving the event. However, you still feel guilty for not controlling your anxiety. Number two is feeling very self-conscious in front of others. Do public settings make you feel uncomfortable? Does it feel as though people are watching and judging you? You might not even have everyone’s attention, yet you still have an inexplicable fear that at some point something will happen and everyone will start judging you. To someone who doesn’t suffer from social anxiety, this might sound illogical, but that’s the thing. Social anxieties sometimes don’t have logic. They can arise at the most random moment and make you suddenly feel as though the spotlight has fallen on you. Some physical symptoms involve sweating, heart palpitations, and panic attacks. Number three is fear of physical symptoms that may cause you embarrassment. Can you feel a certain set of physical symptoms kicking in as soon as you step out? Do you constantly cool your burning cheeks with the back of your hands? One way social anxiety can pass shyness is through physical cues. Both have physiological similarities such as blushing, sweating, rigid posture, and trembling. However, for someone with social anxiety, their bodily response can make them anxious. These physical symptoms add to the workload of stepping out into society. You constantly worry about how others might judge you for displaying these outward symptoms. Even having your mind go blank for a few seconds can make you feel like you left a poor impression. Number four, fear that others will notice that you look anxious. Are you quick to avert your eyes after a quick greeting? Are you more comfortable looking around while interacting with others? While shyness can be the initial driving force, it wears off with time to the point that you become comfortable holding steady eye contact. On the contrary, social anxiety does not wear away after the first few moments of interaction. As you feel its presence, all the while you are reluctant to engage in open interaction. Since your social anxiety is a tangible experience for you, you fear that it’s also noticeable for those around you. Thus, producing more anxiety. Number five, having anxiety in anticipation of a feared activity or event. Is the mirror your trustee audience months before a public event? Before a big event, like a presentation, it’s normal to feel a bit anxious. If it’s shyness holding you back, it can diminish over a while. However, if you experienced social anxiety, you might think for months about all the things that could go wrong. In some cases, these thoughts can accumulate in your mind and lead you to avoid the event or situation. This behavior can be particularly damaging if it’s school or work-related. Having an honest support system can help alleviate the worst of the jitters. Number six, a past negative social experience. Is there a rigid memory of things going awry in a social setting? When you first experience a setback at a social event, it tends to take root in you in the form of dread. However, if it was just shyness, the next time you encounter such a setting and come out unscathed, some of that dread chips away. But when you’re socially anxious, no amount of chipping away is sufficient. You are always expecting the worst possible consequences. You lose interest in even working on basic social skills. Although the definitive cause for social anxiety is unknown, researchers believe that underdeveloped social skills can lead to social anxiety. Being teased or bullied for being socially awkward can lead you to fear further social interactions and exacerbate social anxiety. And number seven, spending time after a social situation analyzing your performance and identifying flaws in your interactions. Do you mull over conversations way into the night? Are you constantly thinking up how you should have responded long after the topic is over? Sometimes we revisit past moments to learn from them and become better. But obsessing over a past detail usually ends with insecurities creeping out from the corners of your mind to make you feel inferior. However, for someone with social anxiety, obsessing over a small detail does not feel like a choice. Social anxiety is about seeing yourself through the lens of someone else. Hence, you might be prone to dwelling on and analyzing past interactions, especially conversations. The trigger is in the part of the conversation that you keep replaying. Only when you figure out a better response can you let it go. Letting go is a difficult step and it might take some time to learn. Everyone experiences anxiety to varying degrees. Hence, professional advice tailored to meet individual needs is essential to ensure positive results. Your apprehensions are by no means a reason for you to swear off from society. By seeking appropriate support and help, you can soon view the outside world as your conquered battlefield. Have you ever had the two mixed? What has helped you cope with social anxiety? Feel free to leave a comment down below with your thoughts, experiences, or suggestions. If you found this video helpful, be sure to hit the like button and share it with those out there, pondering the two. Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification bell for more new videos. Thanks for watching.As found on YouTubeShow me the simple steps to overcome shyness & cure social anxiety ➫ The Shyness and Social Anxiety System was created by Sean Cooper, a former social anxiety sufferer. Learn how to overcome your quietness, erase your insecurities and be confident around people using proven psychology.

Anxiety Disorders (Series 1)

 Hello, welcome, back to Mind Matter with Dr. Ogochukwu Ojiaku. Last time we discussed Prejudice, and discrimination around mental illness, and how we can fight stigma and support individuals with mental illness. If you have not watched the last video already, please endeavor to do so, in other to stay up to date. Today we will be discussing anxiety disorders. This is going to have multiple series. Anxiety disorders are among the most common of all psychiatric illnesses. It is a mental health diagnosis that is characterized by feelings of worry, apprehension, and intense fear that are strong enough to interrupt one’s daily activities. I wanted to discuss anxiety today because many people are unaware that anxiety can be a mental health disorder that requires professional intervention. Of course, Anxiety is a normal human emotion. However, there are different levels of anxiety disorders there is; Mild, moderate, and severe levels, and then there is panic disorder. Mild and moderate levels of anxiety are normal levels actually, these two can be motivational (For instance, if you have an upcoming exam, this is the type of anxiety that motivates one to study harder to be successful on the exam), (In the mild level of anxiety: vital signs are normal, however, there are often increased awareness of one’s surroundings; in the moderate level of anxiety, there is mild increase in heart rate, a moderate increase in muscle tone, a subjective feeling of worry, or apprehension and narrowed perception); then we have the severe level of anxiety and Panic disorder these two levels are considered pathological, which means they are abnormal. The severe level of anxiety causes the pupils to dilate, diaphoresis, increased muscle rigidity, causes urinary frequency, diarrhea, and sweating profusely. Panic disorder on the other hand causes significantly increased symptoms. However, today, we’ll be focusing on the mild, moderate, and severe levels of anxiety. In our future series, we will address the different types of anxiety which will include panic disorder. Anxiety is considered pathological • When it is disproportionate to events, • When it is sustained over a long period of time • When it impairs one’s function • And when it is unrelated to any identifiable event or situation in a person’s life. This type of anxiety interferes with perceptions, memory, judgment, and motor responses, so they require professional treatment and therapeutic intervention. Initially, anxiety present as several physical illness states. People experiencing anxiety may complain of, chest pain, heart palpitation, sweating, and even feel as if they’re about to have a heart attack. Of course, we want to make sure that the Individual gets proper work up, to rule out cardiac-related issues or other possible causes of their symptoms.Often, anxiety is diagnosed or correctly identified after unnecessary assessment and diagnostic evaluation, this is due to the high level of somatic symptoms of anxiety disorder. Research has shown that untreated high levels of anxiety predispose people to other serious health problems; therefore, with that said, the first step to seeking treatment is to talk to your medical provider to make sure that your symptoms are not due to other physical problems. Of course, If anxiety is diagnosed, a mental health professional can work with you to design the best treatment plan for you. Sadly, many people with anxiety disorder do not seek treatment, because they are unaware that anxiety is treatable. As stated earlier, anxiety is among the most common psychiatric illnesses, it is distinguished by the degree of anxiety experienced by the client, the duration of the anxiety, the severity of the anxiety and the behavioral manifestation seen in the client experiencing the anxiety. It is important very important to know that Anxiety ranges from acute state to chronic disorders and they are often associated with physical symptoms such as chest pain, chest tightness, weakness, and shortness of breath) In the future, we will explore the different types of anxieties that exist, which will include: panic disorder • Agoraphobia • Specific Phobia • Social Anxiety • and Generalized Anxiety Disorder If you or someone you know is experiencing a medical or mental health emergency, please call 911, you can also call the crisis line number (866-903-3787) or go to the nearest emergency room for treatment. Our email address is located in the description please feel free to send us your general questions. We will randomly select questions to be addressed in our future videos. Please like, comment, subscribe, and share this video with your friends and families. Thank you for watching. I am Dr. Ogochukwu Ojiaku. Thank you. .As found on YouTubeShow me the simple steps to overcome shyness & cure social anxiety ➫ The Shyness and Social Anxiety System was created by Sean Cooper, a former social anxiety sufferer. Learn how to overcome your quietness, erase your insecurities and be confident around people using proven psychology.