Sociological Approach to Reducing Risk and Increasing Resilience Addiction Certification Exam Review

 This episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing education webinar. On-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation through ALLCEUs. Register at ALLCEUs.com/CounselorToolbox. I’d like to welcome you to today’s presentation on the sociological approach to reducing risk and building resilience. As I was putting together This presentation it was kind of like right in the wake of when Harvey hit. And then you know recently we’ve had the shooting in Las Vegas, and some of the counselors, especially counselors in training that can’t be practiced independently yet that are in some of my social media groups and in my professional groups have been talking about how frustrating it is and even some of us who are licensed but just can’t wake up and go help the Red Cross right now about how frustrating it is not to be able to help and how much we want to help so what I usually do because you know I I’m generally not upwardly mobile where I can just drop everything and go to a crisis what I did after 9/11 was look at what things in that situation could I positively impact and how could I do it in a way that made sense but you know for my life because I can’t you know at that point I for 9/11 I had an infant at home and you know other stuff so we’re going to look when we’re talking about addressing issues like the opiate epidemic or the major problem of depression almost I guess anxiety almost one in four people has anxiety issues and we’re gonna look at some of that and try to figure out what can be done what can we do from where we are in a way that makes sense because yes we can influence politics and advocacy but what can we do with small chunks of time that are beneficial to helping the cause as well as you know could help the clients we have currently so we’ll define the socio-ecological not model which is Broth and Brenner’s model we’re going to apply it to addiction and mental health issues and explore different variables in this model and then discuss how this framework can be used in prevention and treatment of co-occurring or independently occurring disorders so we’re going to talk about how it may sense to conceptualize not only the development of addiction but also the development of things like eating disorders and mood disorders in terms of a socio-ecological model and even some things like bipolar and schizophrenia can be a person being genetically predisposed or whatever but there could be certain environmental factors that could you know trigger that first psychotic episodes so we want to look at what might be going on and how can we help prevent or treat now prevention can take the form of three different activities if you will prevent the problem so helping people not get depressed at all ever so starting to provide those skills and tools when people are knee-high to a grasshopper hopefully preventing worsening of the problem so people don’t get severely clinically depressed where they can’t get out of bed so the early intervention services and effective you know frontline resources and preventing associated fallout okay the person gets to press gets clinically depressed well let’s see if we can help them avoid losing their job because they can’t get out of bed to go to work develop additional health problems from being depressed or developing an addiction in order to self-medicate that depression so we’ve there are three different methods or avenues we can take in prevention and you know we want to look at them all because when you’ve got somebody who’s becoming clinically depressed you know they’re depressed you know situationally whatever something happened and it started to turn into something more than just a couple of days it’s going to start having associated fallout early and you know it’s not going to be huge they’re not going to lose a job right off they’re not going to start having major family problems right off but they are going to start having little hiccups because that depression causes an imbalance in their in their environment and we know environments like to maintain homeostasis and you know the kids are gonna be like well Mom why aren’t you getting up and doing these things and what’s going on and you know things are going to start changing and the person will need to be able to deal with that so the socio-ecological model explores and explains human behavior as the interaction between the individual and environmental systems there’s a fifth one that is more of your longitudinal but we’re going to talk about the four main ones today the micro the meso the EXO and the macro systems the microsystem involves well let’s start before that the individual if you look at the model is sort of the bull’s eye here and the individual is not considered a system but it involves all of the things about the individual including biology and personal learning that make people who they are okay so this person exists within a microsystem and that micro system is their family peers School Church synagogue whatever and health services things that they probably interface with regularly work should also be on that but it’s for some reason it’s not on this diagram anyway the mesosystem is the interconnection between microsystems so how do family and peers interact I don’t know about you thankfully my family might be very accepting of most of my peers but I know other friends of mine who brought home peers who were not as well accepted by their family so there was some conflict between the the family and the peers and we know how much peer pressure and peer relationships are important in an adolescents’ lives which creates conflict and consternation how does the family interface with school how does Pierce how does your peer group interact with school and do they see it as a good thing to do they see it as worthwhile you know etc so when we’re talking about the microsystem and the mesosystem we’re talking about things that people interface with daily so I want you to think about how the mesosystem and you can feel free to chime in on the chat room if you want how does the mesosystem family peer school church you know recreational activities health services impact the development of mental health or illness now you notice I’m trying to kind of switch ears for health because we want to promote health and we can look at the opposite for mental illness but you know if you have positive family peer interactions it’s probably going to support mental health it’s probably going to support decision-making in the adolescent it’s probably going to I mean and I’m thinking adults and adolescents here but family and friends you know if you want to think about you know how do you get along with your significant others peer groups and do they interface well or is it kind of like oil and water how does the how does your family interface with your work how do they deal with how many hours you have to work whether you’re getting called in at night or getting emails or text messages at 8 p.m. or you know what are their expectations and how does that influence if there’s a conflict you know if the family doesn’t like what’s going on at work or the fact that you know your boss is emailing you at 8 p.m. then it can create conflict within the environment which can lead to increased anxiety and depression and Yabadabadoo now how does mental health or illness impact the mesosystem so again thinking about how if someone is clinically depressed how does it impact their family how does it impact their peers and if you have a family member who has you know clinical depression or generalized anxiety how does it impact how your family interfaces with everything else because you know you end up having somebody or somebody in the family who may be caretaking for the person who has depression or anxiety or whatever the mental health issue is who’s not able to do the stuff that they were able to do so the rest of the families kind of pick slack so how does that affect how they interface you know the rest of the family members interface with school and work you know maybe they end up showing it more exhausted so it’s important to look at the mesosystem the exosystem involves links in a social setting in which the individual does not have a direct active role so for example how would I impact my spouse’s work and again if I am the identified patient and I’ve got clinical depression and I’m calling my spouse to come home because I just can’t be alone or my spouse is late to work or unproductive because he’s always exhausted when he gets to work because he has so much to do since I am you know not able to do as much right now then it could negatively impact his work and so we want to look at how that impacts how the home environment impacts work and how work impacts the home environment the macro system describes the culture socioeconomic status poverty ethnicity etc so what we’re looking at in the macro system is really the larger you know not just within your city maybe or even closer to your neighborhood we’re looking at what you see in the media what you see on national TV your your statewide elections your national elections your state laws and culture and what’s being communicated if you are a religious person what your religious culture communicates because you know religion generally is not just in one little area it’s international or national so what types of things does that communicate to to the person and how does that influence the development or not development if you will of depression anxiety or addiction so again think about how the exosystem of the social setting in which the individual doesn’t have a directive or an active role think about how much people were influenced after the elections I mean yeah we had a role if you went out and voted you had a role but you don’t decide the election so once that happens how do you know the exosystem impact you know your your emotions your other community events employment etc and how those things impact the family I know you know there was a lot of consternation and concern among some of my friends who are Jewish after the last election so their families experienced a high ink or a great increase in anxiety development of mental health or mental illness how does all this stuff that’s going on in the exosystem and stuff that you don’t have direct control over how does it impact the development of mental illness you know or mental health and we’re going to talk more specifically in a couple of minutes and again likewise how does mental illness or mental health impact the exosystem if you have a healthy workforce if you have healthy people who are actively participating in work and going to community activities voting to participate then you’re probably going to have a healthier outcome than if you have people who are not able I mean they’re so depressed they’re not able to even get out and participate so we want to look at the reciprocal nature it’s not one way the community doesn’t just affect us you know it may affect us but then how we react affects the community how does the attitude of the culture impact the community if you’ve got a a culture that is accepting of certain ideologies they’re accepting of LGBTQI they’re accepting of people who are Muslim in their religion they’re accepting of people who are Christian and their religion they’re accepting of you know fill in the blank if the culture is accepting of that how does that affect the community and those people within the community who might you know otherwise not have been accepting does it kind of pressure them in or does it cause anxiety and consternation in those people how does the attitude of the culture for example about premarital sex and marriage affect the family how does it affect the development of and again we’re thinking about anxiety depression and addiction so how does it affect the development of stress which may lead to mood disorders or problems and how did the community families and individuals with mental health or mental illness impacts the culture you know so we have an impact on our culture we get together we see you know we have Generation X Generation Y but the baby boomers all had their sort of or we all have our sort of unique cultures and things that we bring to the table and things you know that was given to us we said no we don’t want to thank you very much so there is a give-and-take among the individuals within the culture and that’s good because that means we can start small you know start in our locale and create this positive mesosystem and then build from there if If you have a positive community then that’s probably going to spread think about when a company goes and dumps fertilizer for example into a waterway it doesn’t just stay there over time that fertilizer bleeds out and you start having algae blooms everywhere things don’t stay I mean in our society things don’t stay in one place for very long they tend to move they tend to migrate so positive will migrate that’s awesome negative can also migrate so we want to look at how can we enhance the positive migration and keep down the negative if you will so now let’s start talking about what can we do and how can we operationalize all of this we realize that if we affect the individual it’ll have a positive effect on the meso system which can have a positive effect on the exosystem Yabadabadoo so great we also realize that one of the only things we have a lot of control over is the individual ourselves so a lot of people come to counseling individually score so this is where we’re going to start so what things contribute I start by listing risk factors for the development of mood disorders and addictions and then we talk about capital you know what you have in order to you need to have to prevent these things and then prevention strategies so that’s kind of how we’re going to go it’s not going to stay depressing individuals with chronic pain are at higher risk of mood disorders or addiction addiction because of the pain management you know drugs that are out there and you know once they start taking payment management drugs opiates a lot of times the brain quits producing endogenous opioids the natural painkillers so when they first come off the body doesn’t automatically pick up so it takes a little while for the person’s pain tolerance to build back up which keeps some people from wanting to get off the medication among other things but chronic pain can also be debilitating it can make people lose some abilities that they used to have or crush some dreams if you will you no, I think I’ve told you before that I have a bad shoulder and carpal tunnel so I can’t garden the way I used to you know I still go out and do it but I’ve got to pay attention and only be out there for an hour too instead of spending six hours out on the farm which is frustrating to me it was only mildly frustrating but my grandfather when he started developing Parkinson’s couldn’t make his miniatures anymore and he made gorgeous miniatures and I know that’s not chronic pain but it’s kind of the same thing if you’ve got rheumatoid arthritis he couldn’t make his miniatures and he became devastated and became withdrawn so understanding that pain has multiple influences that can cause depression that may trigger a grief reaction that we need to help people address now the things I put in bold are things that we as clinicians can easily help people prevent or/or address chronic pain we can help For people with low self-esteem that’s a no-brainer if people don’t feel good about themselves and they’re looking for external validation they’re going to be at a higher risk for anxiety fear of abandonment fear of not being good enough fear of failure and depression a sense of hopelessness and helplessness substance use especially early substance use can cause changes in the prefrontal cortex leading to problems with impulse control and decision-making but it can also disrupt the balance of neurochemicals leading to symptoms of depression and/or anxiety so it’s important to understand that especially the earlier the substance use starts the greater the chance that it’s going to cause some sort of brain changes and we’ve also found that a lot of people, not the majority but there is a percentage a significant percentage of people that when they start using early they kind of quit developing coping skills after that they find something that works they’re like oh I like this I think I’ll use that from now on when we start talking about people who started drinking or smoking marijuana when they were you know 9 10 11 12 you might see more mood issues or addiction issues in those people than people who didn’t start using mood-altering drugs as early as a history of abuse can contribute to the development of PTSD but not everybody who is abused develops PTSD but there can be episodes of anxiety and depression as well as it increases the chances of the development of addiction genetic vulnerability we know that mood disorders and addictions tend to run in families and they’ve done studies that have shown that there is a genetic component doesn’t mean it’s going to happen it just means you have this gene there that could be triggered so we don’t want we want to make sure that clients know that they are not just doomed you know they can prevent triggering that but they need to be aware that they may be more vulnerable inappropriate coping responses if we are not born with coping skills so if somebody doesn’t know how to cope with life on life’s terms because either because they’ve always been shielded or because they’ve never had anybody helped them maybe they were kind of on their own from the get-go so they learned to lash out and get angry or withdraw and get depressed but they never really learned how to deal with the stuff they’re gonna be at higher risk of mood and addictive disorders we can help people develop coping responses are one of the things you want to look at when people are using seemingly unhelpful behaviors is to remember to ask what is the cause of this so we want to look at what is the root cause of what is prompting this behavior and what is the benefit of the current behaviors and I’m going to keep reminding you of that as we go through this violence and aggression you know again what’s the cause of the violence and aggression did people do this person learn that’s how you cope with distress in their family of origin is it a protective mechanism because they’ve experienced situations where that has helped them deal with conflict before what prompts this and what the benefit to it when they act out when they’re violent and aggressive what is the benefit it gives them power it pushes people away they just enjoy hurting people hopefully that’s the minority but we want to ask that because we can’t figure out an alternative until we know what the function is same thing with risk-taking and impulsivity there are certain theories that says some people need more stimulation than others they get bored easily so they tend to be higher risk-takers and maybe more impulsive than you want to ask if this person doing this you know I have a friend who is an adrenaline junkie you know skydiving rock climbing you name it he’s done it and you know more power to him I don’t see a purpose of jumping out of a perfectly good airplane but he he thrives on that and when he can’t get out and do those sorts of things he feels good so what is it about this risk-taking and what kind of risk-taking it risk-taking as in holding a balloon liquor store or is it risk-taking as in doing something like skydiving which is theoretically safe and what’s the benefit it makes gives them a rush makes they feel good helps him you know escape or whatever great that’s fine the rebellious nests you know again what is and this is a key for adolescents especially but even if you’re a supervisor working with employees if they’re being rebellious you want to look and say what’s the point what’s the benefit to being rebellious what are they holding on to and refusing to let go of that you want them to let go of or what are they refusing to do that you want them to do and what’s the benefit to it if they are being rebellious and they’re staying like think again adolescents staying out all night OK well what’s a motivating factor is it to get under their parent’s skin probably not is it to conform to peer pressure you know oftentimes that’s maybe the case but you have to look at the individual and say ok how can you do this in a way that helps you move forward rejection of pro-social values if the people who espouse the pro-social values are the people that the person rejects then they’re probably going to reject those values so we want to look at you to know if you’re rejecting those what values are you espousing and why are those important to you and why are you rejecting these over here you know not saying it’s right or wrong I’m just trying to understand where you’re coming from and you know that’s something that we’ve got to be sensitive to and different people are going to hold different values lack peer refusal skills to stay out late to get into trouble to use drugs to have early sex whatever it is those things a lot of times indicate poor communication skills and low self-esteem need to be accepted you know all that stuff that’s challenging during during teen and early adolescent years those are things we can help with being bullied you know that’s a risk factor when people are bullied they tend to get depressed and when they’re bullied they may turn to substances to try to make themselves feel better to numb the pain they make self-injure there’s a lot of different things might happen we can help people develop skills to deal with being bullied since we don’t understand a hundred percent why people bully we need to help the victims become survivors we need to help them have the tools to be able to deal with it and understand why it happens without letting it hurt them early and persistent problem behaviors that’s just so broad but again look at why the person’s child acting out an early sexual activity could be a history of sexual abuse could be a dysfunctional family of origin and the child is trying to get out I worked with a 14-year-old who once told me she was gonna get pregnant as soon as she turned 15 because that’s when she could get into housing on her own so she was intentionally going to get pregnant at 15 and there was a reason for it she was very clear about her logic a lot of times it’s peer pressure and acceptance but uh asking what is that what is the cause and is this cause going to keep the person from developing healthy coping skills and being happy is potentially going to lead to depression peer rejection you know that hurts so helping people figure out how to navigate peer rejection because you’re not going to be liked by everybody academic failure we can help with now not necessarily as clinicians but we can advocate for the person we can help them find tutors resources etc lack of information on positive health behaviors put it out there most of the time youth these days have a pretty good idea of what’s healthy and what’s not they just aren’t motivated for it they’re motivated for something else when addictive behaviors are you used to cope with stress or unpleasant feelings I said coping skills may fail to develop or when they’re used to enhance self-confidence such as drinking before going to a party then they may start to develop anxiety and self-consciousness when they don’t have a drink on board so it may start prompting the development of some mood disorders in addition to the fact that repeated use especially in a young brain can cause some neurotransmitter imbalances using addictive behaviors also to enhance other experiences ties it to those experiences making them person more likely to use those and similar situations desensitizing the brain’s pleasure centers so what am I what do I mean I mean if you typically drink when you are watching football then you’re going to be more likely to drink every time you watch football it’s just one of those things you do when you watch football if you’re one of those people who eat when they watch TV then when you watch TV you’re more likely to eat when you go to the movies because that’s a similar situation you’re more likely to want to have popcorn or eat so it’s important to understand that with addictive behaviors if you have something that produces pleasure it can be triggered you know the person can start thinking about it in a similar situations using repeatedly can cause neurochemical imbalances in genetics you know you can’t be born with a neurochemical imbalance not enough serotonin too much whatever and poor health behaviors as I’ve talked about a bunch of times not enough sleep quality poor nutrition and high stress can also cause neurochemical imbalances so we can educate people about some of the things that can cause depression and anxiety so they can prevent it we can educate parents so they can start coaching their kids from the get-go so personal recovery capital to develop what we need to be happy and healthy human beings we have to have certain things to help us along the way we need to have the things to enable us for physical health think about Maslow’s pure hierarchy bottom level is all your health and biological needs we need to have our physical health and that includes nutrition Slee and you know not being in pain all the time sometimes you’re gonna feel pain that’s being human that’s being alive but we need to have our health for the the most part we need to have financial assets to get our basic needs met you now get that food keep clothing on our back transportation roof over our heads health insurance and access to medication and there are two different things health insurance covers theoretically going to the doctor and the mental health counselor etc access to medication is not covered under a lot of insurance so remember that most pharmaceutical companies have patient assistance programs that can help clients access their medication if they can’t afford it because some medication is a really expensive safe housing conduct that’s conducive to recovery and that’s not just addictions if you’ve got somebody who is clinically depressed or highly anxious living in a radically dysfunctional household where there’s lots of yelling or arguing or other people who are similarly dysfunctional it’s probably not going to prompt those positive cognitions and mindfulness and everything that we’re trying to establish doesn’t mean they can move unfortunately a lot of people can’t so we got to talk about how can you create an area in your housing environment that’s safe people need to have adequate clothing to stay warm to be able to dress for work and you know go to their job and be dressed appropriately and transportation to get their needs met most of us don’t live in a city where we can just walk but walking I guess is a form of transportation we need to be able to access the resources that are out there whether it be food or going to work so we can pay our light bill or whatever it is values awareness people need to know what’s important to them to figure out what they need to do to be happy a sense of purpose helps people keep going and we can help people with this I mean these are easy exercises when you give them a values activity worksheet you know what are your top five values when you look at the sense of purpose what is your purpose in life and a lot of us don’t know but we know what we want it to be or we can start theorizing about what is the purpose of what I do as a job on a day-to-day basis, what is the purpose of this activity that I’m doing so they can start to see some meaning in the stuff they do we can help people develop hope and optimism and we’ve talked about that one people need to have a perception of their past present and future they need to be able to look over the past and it may suck or it may be great but they need to be able to look back over it and go yep that’s it they need to be able to look at their present and realistically assess what they’ve got and maybe what they don’t have but realistically assess what they’ve got and look at their future and go where do I want to go from here because you’re here and you don’t want to stay here forever you can’t stay here forever because times gonna move on what next people need to be able to see but understand that they’re not necessarily controlled by their past or stuck in the present that they have the ability to make choices every single moment to work toward what they want for the future education training and job skills people need to be able to make a living that’s just the way it is you need to be able to feed yourself and put a roof over your head so we can make referrals to job training agencies we can make referrals to social service agencies problem-solving skills interpersonal skills and self-esteem are all things that we are super skilled at teaching and we can teach these in chunks they don’t have to be these long groups don’t have to be big drawn-out sessions we can provide people snippets you can provide somebody with the concept of distressed tolerance and the improve acronym in a handout and have them look at that or in an email you know if you email your clients once each day or on your blog there are a lot of different ways, you can just get that information out there and in front of people so I can look at it I call I tell my clients it’s bathroom reading you know I usually give them a handout or two and I just put it on the back of the toilet and when you’re in there you know take a look at it if it’s useful great if not bottle it up and throw it in the the trashcan I’m good with that but there’s no pressure and I’m not putting extra assignments on them I’m just providing information about a skill and then if they want to pursue it further when they come back to counseling we can talk about it so what can we do we can promote positive health and wellness behaviors by educating people about why they’re important and what to do and where to find more information you know because some of these things like nutrition we can’t be prescriptive but we can point people in the direction of where to get good advice and information and we can also model this you know in our treatment plan at least in mind I try to make sure that people are putting a print emphasizing getting enough quality sleep eating well and maybe exercising at least moving around if they don’t want to call it exercise but taking care of themselves and getting some relaxation and recreation in their bonding to a pro-social culture is difficult for us to do for people or do with people we can talk about what are your hobbies what are things that you enjoy doing and encourage people to try out volunteering or get involved in meetups to engage in activities with other people but that’s something that they’re going to have to do on their participation in extracurricular activities again kind of the same thing we can point them in the right direction of volunteerism meetups things through their through their church or their synagogue or their you know whatever clubs that they’re involved in positive relationships with adults now obviously this is more important if we’re working with children or teenagers we want to help children and teenagers kind of see where adults don’t have their head that far in the ground but we also want to help adults learn how to more effectively communicate with teenagers because a lot of adults lecture at and I know this and you’ll you’ll understand when you’re older and you know lots of that kind of stuff so things that we can do to enhance relationships with adults is to educate people about you know how to effectively communicate with teenagers for example who are trying to find their way and trying to assert independence and resisting some rules how do you deal with that how do you communicate with them in a way because a lot of parents have difficulty navigating that boundary between friend and parent so we can help with that active workshops in the community workshops you can do at churches at libraries those are things you can do there you can put them on for like an an hour once a month it’s good if you’re it’s free but it’s a good promotion for your practice if you know you go out and do it and people come to learn something from you, they’re like hey that might be helpful social competence it’s another one of those things that we can do in little snippets we can provide tips and tips and tools whether infographics on an Instagram page are really useful for a lot of teenagers they want something that’s you know in a picture and fast it’s a snapshot so social competence checklists are another really good thing if you’re teaching different types of skills for communication or how you’re supposed to use different forks I know the first time I went to a formal dinner I was looking at all the silverware going I have no idea what to do with this stuff the sense of well-being and self-confidence we can help people develop this by encouraging them to focus on what they do well we want to make sure they have plans well that means goal setting and since a lot of people don’t know how to goal-set they don’t have goals, so they’re just kind of floating out there not looking at the future we want to help people look at the future and figure out how they’re going to get there so they’re like wow this is doable this is attainable this is another thing you can put work put worksheets on your website you can do short workshops to help people figure out how to look at how to define or learn how to define a rich and meaningful life and figure out how they’re going to define their goals and achieve their knowledge about risks associated with addictive behaviors now a lot of kids you know think back to the old dare programs I had a lot of clients tell me that those programs only taught me how to you safely I was like well that’s not what they were intended for but we do want to educate youth about you know still about the risks of some of those drugs and even adults not just youth educate people about how dangerous or how potentially addictive opiates for example can be after three to five days your body has already started to build up a tolerance that’s kind of scary so helping people understand that but also addictive behaviors like pornography a lot of teens don’t think about it a lot of adults don’t think about it until they’re stuck in it or online gambling you know those are some things that can kind of catch people unawares because they didn’t think about it wasn’t a substance we typically think of addictions as substances since it’s not a substance they didn’t think about the effect that the pleasure from those activities were going to have on our neurochemicals and create a a situation where they didn’t feel okay they didn’t feel normal they didn’t feel happy without having that in their life because their dopamine receptors had been blunted individual prevention strategies the big summary is we want to promote attitudes beliefs and behaviors that ultimately provide the person with healthy coping skills whether it’s through health class whether it’s through workshops I know at organizations I’ve worked at before the Jaypee would come in and do periodic workshops that’s a great way to connect with people and reduce utilization if you do psycho-educational prevention group because an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure we want to make sure that they’re aware of positive health behaviors and how to access those resources in Gainesville I don’t know about up here but I know in Gainesville the mall used to open at six o’clock in the morning so people could walk inside in a safe place and you know be out of the elements and yadda-yadda so just letting people know that that existed was a big step because they were like well I don’t want to join a gym and go to the mall with effective interpersonal skills we want to make sure people know how to effectively communicate set boundaries all that stuff that we talked about this can be taught it’s nice if your local news is willing to use you to do you know wellness minute I find one of the best places to do that is either right before or right after the weather because most everybody Tunes in for the weather, I may not stick around for the animal of the day or whatever well I always do but I’m always tuned in for the weather so if you get either right before or right after that you tend to get higher viewership and reach more people and a minute gives somebody a chunk of something that they can use today-specific approaches may include education and life skills training in schools you know is provided to the kids and have them share it with their parents through the media and community center or library workshops those are all great ways to get stuff out I encourage you if you want to get into providing prevention and helping to help your community helping people to prevent getting depressed or anxious or developing other problems to look at doing some of these very time-limited things because you don’t want to lose a lot of billable hours but we still want to be able to do more than we’re doing at least that’s what a lot of a lot of us tend to feel like the mesosystem so we’ve been talking about the individuals so far because that’s where we can have the greatest effect the mesosystem examines close relationships that may increase the risk of experimenting with high-risk behaviors or developing mood disorders people’s closest circle of peers partners and family members influence their behavior and contribute to their range of experience if you’ve got a child that grows up in a household where the parent or parents are clinically depressed they’re not able to model effective coping skills where they model cognitive distortions guess what jr. Is gonna pick up if you are in a household where you know you’re in college and you’ve got four other roommates and all of your your other roommates tend to be negative and naysayers you’re either probably going to move or you may that might start wearing off on you a little bit likewise if they are you know all kinds of go-getters that can wear off on you too so you know there’s going to be an impact risk factor is peer and family reinforcement of negative or unhealthy norms and expectations so if your family says you know people suck they’re always going to take advantage of you what are you going to take away from that and is that going to contribute to you probably having difficulties with trusting and maybe developing depression possibly so we want to look at what kind of messages is the peer group or family sending to the individual that may contribute to the development of mood or anxiety disorders early sexual activity among peers could communicate that well this is the norm so everybody’s doing it ties to deviant peers and gang involvement you know especially at that particular group there’s a lot of pressure to conform or there’s a negative consequences family members who don’t spend much time together and this could be because parents work a lot this could be because everybody’s you know involved in all kinds of other stuff but they found that when families are disengaged the parents tend to miss out on subtle cues when families are disengaged even if they don’t have children in the mix that there tends to be a weakening of those bonds supportive bonds so people are at higher risk for development of depression and anxiety because they don’t have that you know everybody’s behind me sort of feeling parents who have trouble keeping track of youth can indicate that the youth may be at risk for developing substance or more mood disorders lack of clear rules and consequences you think about even just being at work when there’s a lack of clear rules and consequences you don’t exactly know what you’re supposed to do I know for me that creates doodles of anxiety I like manuals and to date pretty much every job I’ve ever taken I’ve walked in and there hasn’t been a manual and I’ve been like okay there must be a manual written and that’s been my first thing now I’m kind of on the structured side so I don’t expect everybody is that way but most of us tend to experience a little bit of anxiety about failure about acceptance if we don’t know what’s expected so it’s important whether it’s a family or a job situation to make sure there’s clear rules and consequences you know what’s expected and what’s going to happen if you mess up or if you don’t meet this expectation there also needs to be consistent expectations and limits you know when people especially children but a lot of us tested our limits when we were kids and even as adults you know I know you know going back to working in organizations I would have staff who would test limits and see how long they could go without turning in a progress note before I’d be knocking on their door going paperwork it’s natural for people to kind of test limits especially with stuff they don’t want to do stuff that’s not rewarding family conflict and abuse can cause a high risk of depression and anxiety whether adults or children I mean if there’s a a lot of conflict and chaos it’s exhausting and it can cause a lot of dysphoric emotions and loss of employment that’s kind of self-explanatory protective factors close family relationships so as clinicians we can encourage people to identify who they consider their family it may not be their blood relatives or their family who are there for them who can they call it 2:00 in the morning and how can they nurture those relationships encourage people to develop relationships with peers that are involved in pro-social activities like hiking or volunteering in the community consistency of parenting is important in terms of producing children who are who are stronger healthier more resilient encouraging education and parents who are actively involved can help prevent future depression because they’re creating children who can join the workforce and have that individual capital to prevent depression and anxiety and cope with stress positively and this is a family protective factor and a peer for protective factor why because we learn from observation so if our peers cope with stress positively by prayer or exercise or whatever it is they do and our family has other positive ways of coping with stress and we’re going to have a greater venue of stuff to choose from supportive relationships with caring for adults beyond the immediate family is encouraged so we want children to grow up being able to interact with teachers coaches with you know Scout leaders whomever and start seeing that people outside of the nuclear family are trustworthy sharing and family responsibilities including chores and decision making and that’s true for children teenagers and even adults you know if you’re living in the same household it important that everybody feels like they have a say in what’s happening and participates in the upkeep of the family environment and family members are nurturing and support each other and this is one where I tend to stop and I do a love languages little mini class to help people remember that we don’t always experience nurturance in the same way so understanding one another’s love language is really important to be able to nurture in a way that’s meaningful to that other person peer and family interventions are designed to identify norms goals and expectations in the family foster family problem-solving skills so there’s not just one person always fixing it develop structure and consistency within the family unit promote healthy relationships and engage peers and family of choice in the recovery process so if somebody’s already depressed we need to be able to hopefully engage everybody that’s involved in this person’s immediate environment in helping them move towards recovery and you know preferably not dragging them back down so we want to engage them and make sure that people have a supportive others school and work risk factors lack of clear expectations both academic or performance-wise and behavioral lack of commitment or sense of belonging at school or at work if you just kind of go and you feel like a number you punch in punch out that may not make you feel appreciated which can contribute to depression and you know just bad feelings high numbers of students failing academically at school and work translates to high amounts of turnover if you never know who’s going to get laid off it increases stress and anxiety and parents and community members who are not actively involved in keeping kids in school and helping make sure that the workforce workforce is strong but we want to make sure that people have access to how when it’s needed we want to make sure that people have access to tutoring in school if they need it to prevent failing school they have access to transportation to get to work now those are things those are meta concepts that are more on the community level but it’s important that as a community member you know we look at different things that we may be able to participate in advocacy and say you know it’s really important to get a bus system going I live out about 30 miles east of Nashville and we must have the the train that goes from my city out to Nashville so people have access to more jobs so that was important for us to get past the City Commission protective factors school and work positive attitudes gotta find a reason why you’re doing this you know and sometimes it’s hard to find a reason for algebra but we need to help kids find a reason for that we need to help adults find a reason for why they’re going to work why are they doing what they’re doing regular attendance shows you know it is associated with higher mood less less risk of mood or addictive disorders because you’re able to get up and do it and interface with people and get that social support hopefully from your colleague’s high expectations are communicated effectively in setting and positive social development is encouraged you know whether it’s at work or at school, there are goals there are things you’ve got to accomplish there are performance objectives but we also want to encourage morale and positive social bonding whatever the setting having a positive instructional climate again whether at work or school, I know we learn things when we’re on the job we learn things and I don’t want people to feel like they’re having difficulty like they’re stupid I want people to feel like anything that we teach them as a challenge and something that may be beneficial down the road leadership and decision-making opportunities are really important again for students or employees to prevent burnout keep morale up reduce anxiety and increase a sense of personal empower and connection and active involvement for everybody is fostered and the school or organization is responsive to the student’s needs making sure that in school in the case of school they have access to tutoring resources it’s a safe environment for them to be in and the children that are going to that school have enough food in their bellies you know they can’t learn if they’re hungry all the time workplace is a little bit different but we still need to be responsive to people’s needs in terms of you know family requirements whether they need to if they’re going back to school shifting schedules a little bit we need to try to work with people instead of being completely rigid and it’s my way or the highway when possible to promote the best mental health characteristics of settings in which relationships are often associated with the development of mood disorders and addictive behaviors so we want to look at the characteristics of schools that are they safe are they positive environments are they cheering squads or are they places where people know they’re gonna go and get thrown under the bus same thing with workplaces you know when you walk into a place you get most of we get a sense and you’re either like oh this is a cool place to work or oh I can’t wait til I can get out of here you know we want to go toward the other end and neighborhoods when you go into a neighborhood – people take care of their environment do they or do they have trash strewn all over their lawn all of these things communicate how people feel about their environment and generally how they feel about themselves and whether they have the energy to take care of stuff or they just feel completely disenfranchised and don’t care more about community risk factors no sense of connection to the community neighborhood disorganization rapid changes high unemployment a lack of strong social institutions lack of monitoring of youths activities imbalanced media portrayals of safety health and appropriate behavior misleading advertising and alcohol or drugs readily available a lot of stuff we do we’re not going to be able to affect on the community level so much but we’re gonna hit them real quick we want to improve the climate process and policies within community schools and workplaces to make it safe and promote positive health behaviors prevention strategies are designed to reduce social isolation reduce and address stigma increase awareness of local recovery models you know who’s out there that has recovered and can serve as a role model improve economic and housing opportunities so people have a house a safe roof over their head and they can you know earn money and feel good about themselves increasing the accuracy and improving the positivity of media messages and increasing physical and financial ability availability of recovery so like I said I live in a little town so it’s nice that we have a community mental health center here so people don’t have to rely on going into Nashville but also making sure that services are financially available whether you have a free clinic once a month or you know make sure you’ll you take Medicaid but there are still a lot of people who have no insurance so where do they go the socio-ecological model identifies how the end the individual impacts and is impacted by not only his own characteristics but also those of family peers community and culture prevention takes the form of preventing the problem preventing the worsening of the problem and preventing associated fallout like I said as clinicians a lot of what we’re going to do is target the individual providing them with resiliency skills to deal with some of this adversity that might be around them and to help them sort through some of those media messages and go yeah that’s not even true you know if I drink this vodka I’m not suddenly going to have 14 supermodels hanging on me or whatever it is that’s being communicated so encouraging people to be informed and Wylie consumers any change in the the system will affect other parts of this system so if it’s a positive change is probably going to have positive changes negative has negative changes addressing addictive and mood disorder behaviors require a the multi-pronged approach we need to look at the individual and you know provide provide as many skills as possible there because that’s where we’re going to have a lot of our impact especially in prevention but we also need to realize that this person resides within a family you know whether they live alone which sometimes is less problematic or they live in a household with other people, we need to make sure that where they lay their heads at night where they spend their non-working hours feel safe and is conducive to recovery where they work or go to school also needs to feel safe and be conducive to recovery and that’s part of the community so we need to kind of look at these areas and if they aren’t safe or they don’t feel safe or aren’t conducive to recovery, we need to help people how to figure out how they can fix that or address it like I said they may not be able to move so what can you do to set some boundaries to create as much safety as you can how can you do this and there are a lot of different techniques that I’m sure you already have that you used to help people but it’s important again not to just focus on the individual because they don’t live in a bubble we need to look at everything right and are Are there any questions now we have or I have added a Wednesday class, so you don’t don’t have to come but if you have unlimited membership same time same station Wednesday so Tuesday Wednesday and Thursday we have a class from noon. CST 1 p.m. EST 2 for an hour all righty I will talk to y’all maybe tomorrow maybe on Thursday have a great day if you enjoy this podcast please like and subscribe either in your podcast player or on YouTube you can attend and participate in our live webinars with Doctor Snipes by 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Addressing Vulnerabilities to Prevent Anxiety, Depression and Pain

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Abandonment Anxiety – Video doctor Snipes

 This episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing   education webinar on-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation   through all CEUs registered at all CEUs comm slash counselor toolbox I’d like to welcome everybody today to the presentation love me doesn’t leave me addressing   fears of abandonment the purpose of this presentation is really to help us help clients   increase their awareness of their story including beliefs about behavioral reactions to situations   that trigger their fear of abandonment so how do we do that well the first thing we need to   figure out is what fear of abandonment is and how can we identify it in a clinical set setting then   we’re going to explore the concept of schemas or core beliefs and these are things that are formed   in early childhood you know if you remember prior classes we’ve talked about early childhood   cognition is generally very dichotomous in children Young children can’t look at   that gray area so these schemas if they’ve gone unchecked can lead to some very extreme belief   patterns which lead us into common traps in thinking reacting and relationships if your   schemas are based on all-or-nothing you either love me or you’re going to leave me hence the   name of the book then your reactions are going to tend to be more extreme and more all-or-nothing   which increases anxiety because then anytime a person who perceives any amount of disapproval is going to go to that extreme so we want to talk about bringing it more toward the   middle line and helping people learn to appreciate and love themselves for themselves while they may   not approve of the behaviors of other people they can still love other people so just because somebody   doesn’t approve of your behavior doesn’t mean necessarily that they’re going to abandon you so   we’re going to talk about that and then we’ll learn skills necessary to help people accept   their past as part of their story maybe they do have a lot of abandonment issues and you know   some people do and it is painful it cuts to the core especially when those abandonment   issues occur in early childhood when kids going what that does so we’re going to talk about that   and help people learn how to integrate it into their present and we’ll learn the skills necessary   to acknowledge that their past does not have to continue to negatively impact them in the present   so if they were abandoned when they were a child you know we need to deal with that however if they   continue to expect that every significant person in their life will abandon them notice I use the   word every because we’re still in those extremes then they’re going to think that the past is negatively   impacting them in the present so we’ll talk about how to sort of moderate those belief systems how   does this impact recovery whether you’re talking about addiction or mental health issues connection   is a basic human need we are not meant for the most part to be Hermits in the middle of the   woods there are introverts and in my husband’s an introvert he has a couple of excellent friends   he needs quiet time each day he doesn’t need to be surrounded by people and he’s fine but I mean   we’ve got human connection he’s not going to be one that’s just going to you know move out to the   middle of nowhere I’m an extrovert on the other hand and I tend to have a lot of acquaintances   and a lot of friends I draw energy from being around other people so just because   someone doesn’t have 150 acquaintances doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t need connections so   we want to recognize that connection is a basic human need when infants are born they are put   on their mother’s chest when we embrace each other whether it’s mother and child or friends   or whatever a chemical called oxytocin is released and it’s our bonding chemical we are programmed we   are hardwired for connection and oxytocin is a very rewarding chemical so we want to recognize   this that if people are so afraid of abandonment that they push everybody away what are they losing   as far as quality of life as infants and children survival is dependent upon the relationship with   the primary caregiver so if mom or dad wasn’t happy if mom or dad was rejecting the young   child was pretty much helpless to think about a child who’s growing up in a family that’s just riddled   with addiction and mental health issues and the primary caregiver or caregivers are completely   emotionally unavailable they may be physically there but they may be so high or so depressed or   so psychotic that they cannot attend to the child’s needs what does that communicate to   the child the child feels abandoned the child feels a sense of neglect for people’s beliefs about   other people and relationships were formed largely based on their interactions with their caregivers   so if this child was going Mom I’m hungry and nothing happened or worse yet child was going Mom I’m terrified and nothing happened or they were just given a pacifier and told to shut up   then that is they were told they were communicated to that, their beliefs their feelings their wants, and their needs were not important so they were being rejected healthy relationships serve up as   a buffer against stress so even if they had all these negative experiences in early childhood teenage years you know maybe up until they walked into your office it doesn’t mean it   has to continue and how much can they gain from having healthy relationships with a lot of clients   that I work with who have pretty significant abandonment issues can’t even fathom trusting   someone enough to be in a healthy relationship so we’re going to talk about how to sort of ease into   that because you’re not going to say don’t let your past influence your future and we’ll wave   a magic wand and they’re ready to trust people even once you point out that what happened in   the past was largely not their fault or maybe not even if their fault at they they’re still going   to have difficulty not accepting responsibility and going everybody leaves me so what talk about   that addressing beliefs that formed as a result of these relationships the past dysfunctional   relationships we can help people create a new understanding of events was mom or dad or   caregiver being rejecting were you being abandoned emotionally and physically because of   you or because mom or dad just was able to do what they needed to do to be a caregiver then they were doing the best they could with the tools they had but it wasn’t enough to meet   your needs so we want to talk about alternate explanations for why parents and caregivers may have   behaved in that way if you have a young child well an adult now but who was put up for adoption or   abandoned by their caregivers at a young age the a young child was probably very confused because   one moment their caregiver was there in the next moment they were in the system so they were   trying to figure out what did they do wrong and why doesn’t that person love me anymore it must be   me because children really can’t see well you know mom is not able to function as a parent   right now or dad is having difficulty coping we want to help people better understand themselves   in their reactions so that when they start getting this urge to just cut all ties and be like you   know what fine you know I’ll take my ball and go home no problem what does that mean at there’s a   certain point in all relationships in all healthy relationships that you know sometimes people have   to distance themselves from one another because it’s becoming dysfunctional but for the most part, people will in relationships encounter hiccups will encounter disagreements but in   healthy relationships, they can work through them in relationships with people who fear   abandonment there are going to be two extremes there’s going to be complete compliance and   please don’t leave me or complete disengagement and whatever I don’t care the final thing we want   to do is help make people more conscious of what they’re doing so they can make healthy   decisions in their current relationships so when they get that urge to either comply or disengage   is that a healthy normative reaction right now or are you reacting out of your past experiences the abandonment experience in childhood survival depends on caregivers a four-year-old left alone   for five days is not going to do so well you know they may be able to scavenge food but   once the food runs out where do they get it you know there’s only so much that a child   can do an infant can’t even get food so survival depends on their caregivers and if   their caregivers fail to meet those needs there are high levels of anxiety and I will refer regularly   to emotionally unavailable caregivers and emotionally absent in addition to physically   unavailable or absent because some parents and I worked in the field of co-occurring disorders for   over two decades and some parents just they are so overwhelmed and so paralyzed by life itself they   can’t even attend to anything else that’s going on they’re doing good just to be breathing but   if they have a child and that child’s needs are getting neglected and fear of abandonment is a natural   survival response when your food source goes away what happens you start to freak the freak out so   this is normal we look at this and say that that’s that’s natural if a child thinks about the first   time you take a child to kindergarten or pre-k or daycare or whatever it is and you drop the   child off even if they’re securely attached what do they cry because they’re afraid that   mom or dad won’t come back and they’re afraid of this new situation that’s changed securely attached   children will you know to adjust and then be happy to see mom or dad when they come back but the point   is there’s that initial oh crap reaction meeting biological needs and safety are key triggers for   anxiety at any age so we’re talking about housing we’re talking about safety we’re thinking about   Maslow’s hierarchy if somebody is not meeting the child’s needs or if the person is not getting   their needs met then they may have high levels of anxiety and I add to the safety concept not   only physical safety but also emotional safety people need to feel safe in their heads and   they need to be free from emotional abuse when focused on survival people can’t focus elsewhere   so if they’re not getting their physical needs met guess what you know if you take somebody who   is in pain who is sick who is hungry and who is homeless are they going to work on self-esteem   are they going to work on relationship skills no, they’re focused on survival they need to have   those basic needs met they need to have a certain sense of security if they are in a situation that   is dangerous physically obviously they’re not going to be focusing on how I can better myself   when they’re worried about somebody coming in and hurting them physically likewise, it’s hard to   focus on how can I better myself when everywhere they turn they perceive someone telling us you’re   not okay you’re stupid you’re lazy you’re bad you were the worst decision I ever made in my   life they can’t focus on personal growth when all they’re getting is these verbal beatdowns all the time so people need to have acceptance if they don’t have acceptance kind the opposite of   acceptance is abandonment two kinds of extremes again we’ll bring it back to the middle every   stressful situation becomes a crisis the in securely attached child now you can go back to   and read Bowlby’s work on secure and all that kind of stuff great reading but for the short version   of this presentation remember that certs securely attached children feel anxiety when their parents   leave but then they can adjust and they’re happy to see the parents return in securely attached   children feel a great amount of anxiety when their parents leave and are terrified that mom or   dad won’t come back and then when mom or dad does come back it’s your very very clingy or very very   rejecting so with this child that’s in securely attached it’s just like one to a hundred as soon   as something happens that they think they may be abandoned you see this pattern again in adults who   are still struggling with these abandonment issues that schema that they’ve formed and I’m getting a   little ahead of myself that schema that they form says if you let this person at your site or if   this person disagrees with you or if this person criticizes you they’re rejecting you and they’re   going to abandon you so we want to you know check in with those cognitions and look for trying to   make those thoughts a little bit more helpful in infancy or early childhood if caregivers were away   for long periods because of work because of the military if they were in jail if they just   chose to be away or if they passed away children may experience some abandonment issues now if   the parents are away because a parent is a way because of work or military or even jail and the   other parent can help the child work through it there’s much less drama if you will there’s much   less issue with abandonment issues in totality now if it’s whatever parent it is if the pay   if the father happened to be the one went away that person may have some residual issues with   adult figures in their life that they need to deal with but they may not know I’m not saying that   every child of a soldier or a service person is going to have abandonment issues that are so   not true however if the experiences of the time apart was not handled in a way where the child   felt secure then it could have consequences that are going into the present day if in early childhood   caregivers were consistently or unpredictably physically or emotionally present so think about   a parent who has major recurrent major depressive disorder addiction or is just ill-equipped to deal   with a child when I was working at the treatment center in Florida I had 14 15 16 year old young   women coming in and having babies and you know what does a 14-year-old know about giving birth   and raising a child it’s not that they weren’t necessarily trying you know they didn’t have great   role models raising them in most cases and so they don’t have anything to work with they don’t know   how to be a parent they’ve never been taught so it’s not always I don’t want to pathologize or   make the parents look like bad people because I believe that people do the best they can with   the tools they have at any given time parents don’t choose to be sucky parents sometimes it   happens but I don’t believe they choose to anyhow off my soapbox in later childhood as the   child becomes elementary school middle school age if they’re a poor family fit or they feel   like they’re the black sheep they just don’t have the same beliefs that the other people do   they don’t seem to have the same interest that their family does they may not feel accepted   especially if the family’s going no that’s wrong to believe and invalidate them so going back to   that psychological safety if they’re constantly being told their ideas are stupid they’re wrong   they have the wrong point of view and they can feel very isolated something can happen that   ruptures the relationship with the primary care giver whether it’s abuse or you know some other trauma and introduction of a new less emotionally or physically safe caregiver can also   lead to abandonment if the child feels like the biological caregiver chose a new spouse over him   or her say if you see where I’m going with that because if this new person comes in and is less   safe is abusive in some way emotionally physically sexually it doesn’t matter the child is going to   feel like they didn’t have a voice the child is going to feel like the biological caregiver   didn’t care and brought this other person in any way which leads to feelings of rejection   and abandonment so what are the reactions fight-or-flight whenever there’s a threat we   fall back to fight or flight or freeze but we’ll talk about that when there’s a threat our anxiety   goes up and we say in the past in these kinds of situations, if I fought, did I succeed if so then   we’ve got fights in the past did I succeed, and if the answer’s no then the response is to flee pretty simply so anger towards someone unavailable if they got angry and felt like it got them   some sort of acceptance from somewhere that might be the prevailing reaction sadness when someone   goes away a sense of helplessness this person just left me shame or self-anger about feeling   needy or about pushing someone away with fears related to rejection and isolation, nobody will ever love my loss of control or the unknown everybody always leaves see how I’m using these extreme   words again and fear of failure I can’t maintain a relationship nobody wants to be with me because   I’m not good enough so the questions for clients in these situations what caused these fears as a   child so when someone starts to have these fears about a relationship, if the relationship starts   to get rocking first question is what is it that you’re afraid of in this situation if you stay   together what is it that you’re afraid of if this the person leaves what is it you’re afraid of and how   likely is it that this person is going to leave based on whatever is going on right now so let’s   get some objective evidence here and another the tool you can use is the challenging questions   worksheet in cognitive processing therapy if you google it challenging questions worksheet   CPT or cognitive processing therapy helps people walk through the logic in some of their   cognitions and identify some known as unhelpful distortions so then after you figure out kind of   what the fear is then we say what caused that as a child in the past when you felt like this what   caused that and how was this reasonable or helpful you know in the past when you felt like this and   you reacted in anger what was the outcome and how was it helpful in some sort of way you know   did it get somebody to pay attention to you did it gets somebody to come to comfort you, okay so you   were identifying the function of the current behaviors and then we want to say what causes   these fears now a lot of times it’s the same symp or similar stuff but we could say how are these   reactions now unhelpful because as independent you know adult-type people we can fend for ourselves   we can put food on the table we can go to work we can do we can function independently whereas this   is a child we couldn’t you know there were just some barriers to that does that mean again that   we should live in isolation and say well I don’t need anybody no that’s not what I’m   saying what I’m saying is is these fears that are overwhelming about abandonment that causes   people to push others away or cling on like you know whatever clings on uh are these reactions   helpful in the present day you know do you still need to hold on to people like there’s no tomorrow temperament based on their temperament children need different types and amounts of caregiver   interaction um some children are wide open and easily overstimulated you know my son was that   way when he was born well to this very day um when he’s awake he is like the Energizer Bunny   on methamphetamine I’m he’s just going going going and talking and talking to himself and   he needed a lot of structure and he would get overstimulated easily but we were able to help   him figure out how to handle that instead of getting mad at him for what seemed to be acting   out we were able to help him channel and figure out when he needed to take a break the introvert   may not need as much one-on-one attention with the caregiver may need a comforting word   here and there but they may not need the amount of the attention that an extrovert may need an extrovert   tends to need more interaction with parents with family with other people because they draw energy   and they think while they talk and they think while they talk with other people so they feel   a lot more isolated if they are isolated so we want to understand the person’s temperament and   how they may or may not have gotten their needs met how they may have been told they were wrong   and invalidated when they were younger and you can hear some of this is kind of going towards   Linda hands DBT environment um but what we want to look at what you need now how can we create   an environment that’s accepting and welcoming to you now based on their needs and caregivers’ reactions children form schemas or core beliefs about the world and others so if they state their   opinion and it’s squashed or it’s ridiculed then they’re going to form this core belief that it   is not safe ever to share my opinions because I am always wrong now we’re talking about children here   but a lot of times think back for yourself there I think most of us have at least some all-or-nothing   dichotomous thoughts that come in every once in a while and you know we can catch them but if   these dichotomies go unaddressed the person starts feeling very lost and very abandoned because it’s all-or-nothing important points about children under 7 from 8 to 12 children are developing   alternative cognitive skills they’re starting to be able to think abstractly they’re   starting to be able to see the gray area and alternate explanations but even you know during   that period so zero to 12 children are having difficulty envisioning all the possibilities   so anything that happens before that we want to encourage them to look at the schemas that were   formed and challenge them to examine whether they are currently accurate and helpful children think   dichotomously when they’re that young it’s all or nothing it’s good or bad it’s not kind of sort   of something it is what it is I mean even think about thinking back to grades that we would get   it was satisfactory or unsatisfactory there was no ABCD F when we were in elementary school and   I don’t remember middle school then it was a dichotomous grading scale you either did it or you   didn’t children are egocentric so whatever happens they say what was it about me that made this   happen if mom’s in a bad mood what did I do if you know Mom is rejecting stupid well I’m   stupid children are very egocentric so you take all or nothing combined with all about me and you   can see we’re creating the perfect storm of children can only focus on one aspect at a time when I work   with adult clients you know they come in and they tell me that they had an interaction with their   boss he was walking down the hall and he was in a bad mood and I just knew I did something and so   we talked about that and I’m like how do you know that because he had it he had an angry look on his   face okay what are some other possibilities what else might have been going on with him then and a lot of times we can brainstorm ideas about a call he just got or where they just   left a meeting that didn’t go so well or who knows what else in this day and time when we’ve   got our cell phones and PDAs and everything there are a lot of things that can trigger a   mood besides just whoever you pass in the hallway children can’t think about those other things that   might have triggered the mood they see somebody unhappy and they’re like I’m sorry um so we want   to encourage as adults we want to encourage them to say all right what are the other possibilities even as children I try to work with my kids to encourage them to look at alternate reasons   why somebody may be acting a certain way children can’t think abstractly and consider those possible   options um even with kids you know knee-high to a grasshopper if you’re in a situation and   maybe in a store and somebody behaves not kindly to you, you can talk about that later with the kids   and say you know that was kind of unpleasant to go through what you think might have caused that   and brainstorm three ideas my favorite number is three I don’t know why but brainstorm three ideas   for alternate explanations for why that person may have been in an unpleasant mood if children   learn to do this when they’re younger it’s a a lot easier to transition to as adults schemas   are a broad way of perceiving things based on memories feelings and thoughts it’s   our go-to perception of what something’s going to be like we have schemas about everything if   you go to church you have a schema about what’s going to happen when you go to your mother’s   house you have a schema about how mom’s going to behave and what’s going to happen we form these   it’s our brain’s short shortcut instead of having to analyze every situation it says oh I remember   this been here before it’s probably going to be like X Y Z unfortunately sometimes things change   and one of the things we see in addictions treatment as is as caregivers into recovery and get a hold on it and start working that a new way of life and sobriety and all that stuff   old family members or family members still expect that old behavior they have that schema that when   Jane comes in this is what’s going to happen because they’re remembering how she behaved and   acted in her addictive self so we want to help people identify their schemas and check them   sometimes they’re still accurate sometimes not so much schemas that trigger abandonment fear center   around the cell acceptability is this person going to like me which is one of the reasons we do a lot   of self-esteem work in reducing abandonment fears because we want to reduce the need for people to   solicit external validation we want them to say I’m all that and a bag of chips and I would love   to play with you but if you don’t want to play I’m okay with that love ability if they were   told they were unlovable if they perceived they were unlovable then in the present, they   may fear isolation they may fear that they’re not lovable so they will try to do whatever they can   or likewise they will build a lead wall that is 5 feet thick around them so nobody can   hurt them they may have fears about their own competence you know thinking back to Erikson   you never thought some of these theorists from the past would keep coming up even in current practice   but they do if a child going through that period of industry versus inferiority Erik Erikson’s   stages of psychosocial development and they felt like a failure all the time or they were never   good enough the parents never recognized their positive achievements then they may question their competence and feel like a failure if they feel like a failure they may feel they may believe   that nobody wants to be around them so they will leave so if I fail they will leave and fears may   center around adaptability some people are not able to tolerate any loss of control they’re just   like that they’re holding on with a death grip to the relationship to anything that’s going on and   it starts to go wonky they are going to freak out so we want to look at what does it mean if you’re   not in control of everything what does it mean if you trust that this person is going to do the   next right thing if you are doing the next right thing as well schemas that trigger abandonment   fears can also be sent around center around others if someone is rejecting distant cold or is unable to   handle the person’s needs then the person may not feel acceptable so if they are in relationships   with people like this then we need to look at is Is it you who’s not acceptable or is something else   going on with that person that may be making them unable to deal with anybody else’s stuff   right now the person may feel isolated if other people are absent if people fail to keep promises   they may feel like nobody’s ever there for them competence if other people are always critical   then the person will question their competence and if others are unpredictable a lot of the time   when people who have anxiety about abandonment they come from situations where other people have   not been predictable or if they were they were unpredictably absent and relationship of self to   others if they are afraid about their ability to relate with others if they’re afraid of rejection   if they’re afraid that if they start to love they will be rejected and then they will be isolated   forever if they are afraid of the unknown and they I just want consistency more than anything and   as soon as consistency starts to waver a little bit because as we grow things change and people   with abandonment issues don’t like things to change because that’s not predictable and that’s   not consistent so they may have difficulty if one the person starts to change what they do I see this   a lot not saying that it’s an abandonment issue necessarily but when law enforcement officers   retire you know because they can retire after 20 years so they may start a new career and   that causes a lot of change schedule changes they’re not law enforcement anymore and the   spouse sometimes has culty adjusting to it as does the retired officer but controllability   if the person holds on to relationships and everything in their life with white knuckles   because they’re so afraid if they let go of control that they are going to disappear or   disintegrate then if something seems like it’s not in their control, it’s going to be a catastrophe so attachment Styles secure if there’s an emotionally available caregiver the child   will seek the caregiver for comfort and guess what the caregiver will be there and will more   often than not meet the need for comfort with the the correct type of comfort so hungry cold scared kind   of following the child’s upset when the caregiver leaves especially in new situations but the child   gets over it it’s not a child that’s going to sit there and cry for eight hours and then the child’s   happy when the caregiver returns in this kind of attachment the child learns to trust others will   be responsive to their needs and validate their needs a child learns to be self-reliant and try   new things but if they fail they know they can return to the home base they can go out and go well   that didn’t go as planned and the caregiver will be there to say alright let’s figure out what to do   next not You are such a failure the child learns to adapt to a variety of situations because when   they’ve been faced with something that’s a little scary caregivers have been there to kind of coach them   on and go you got this it’s scary I got it but you can do it the child learns to deal with   stress because the caregivers are there to coach them or to process it with them afterward because the   caregiver is not always physically there but if you’ve got children you know sometimes they’ll   come home from school and they’ve had a really bad day and you’d pull them aside and go you know   what’s going on let’s talk about it so in this way the child learns to deal with stress and the child   learns to have accurate expectations of others in the secure attachment, emotionally available   situation remember children are egocentric so if mom’s upset the child goes what did I do or Oh my gosh I hope mom’s not going to leave in a secure situation sometimes the parent has to   say something like Mommy had a really bad day at work today has nothing to do with you I need to go   take a timeout that helps a child understand that you know what it’s not all about me and   I can understand that sometimes moms upset for something besides me and I can understand that   if moms Up said it doesn’t mean she’s going to leave so obviously, this is the ideal situation   avoidant attachment styles the rejecting or harsh caregiver the person depends less on the caregiver   for security because every time they go saying mom Mom I had a nightmare can I come into bed with you   they’re met with going back to your bed and the caregiver rolls over it’s not oh I’m sorry you had   a nightmare let me walk you back to your room when the child is separated from the caregiver   there’s little response when the caregiver leaves or returns because the kids like what uses that   person to me the child learns not to depend on a caregiver for comfort connection or security   now imagine yourself a four-year-old child or a six-year-old child thinking I can’t count on my   caregivers for comfort connection or security that must be a terrifying place to be and I   can see why you would develop some pretty strong defense mechanisms the ambivalent relationship between the   cave caregiver is inconsistent or can bow can’t talk caregiver is inconsistent or chaotic this   is true in a lot of homes where there are at least one parent who is battling some sort of   addiction or mental health issue so the parent may or may not be available you don’t know what   the good days are going to be you don’t know what the bad days are going to be so the child may be   anxious and afraid to try new things or explore because they’re like things are going good right   now I don’t want to top will be an applecart just going to sit here and ride it out a child may be   clinging and demanding trying to elicit a response remembering negative attention is better than no   attention at all and the child is upset when the caregiver leaves but also inconsolable when the   caregiver returns because you know I was upset I was scared you went away but you came back and   that’s good but I don’t know when you’re going to go away again and if you’re going to come   back so it’s this constant anxiety of abandonment core abandonment beliefs all people leave so we   want to challenge that by identifying exceptions mistrust people will hurt reject take advantage   of me or just not be there when I need them you know what that’s true sometimes because people   have their stuff so when this happens let’s look at whether it’s happening all the time and/or   let’s also look at what else might be going on with that person that caused them to hurt reject   take advantage or not be there when you needed the emotional deprivation I never get the love I   need nobody understands me cares about me or even ever tries to meet my needs here how dramatic and   extreme that is so one of the things as clinicians we can do is say if you are getting the   love you needed what would it look like what would be different what is it that you need   that you’re not getting once we identify then we can create a plan to get it but a lot   of times other people don’t understand or may not be able to interpret what you need so let’s help   let’s try to figure out how to make this happen nobody understands me alright let’s talk about   why that might be and you know let’s look at some people who’ve kind of gotten a grasp sometimes   with clients with abandonment beliefs nobody understands me translates to I don’t give a buddy   a chance and I cut them off as soon as they become confused and because they associate confusion with rejection so we might talk about communication skills we might work on what it is that people   don’t understand and how to better communicate that and where to find people who have similar   interests nobody ever even tries to meet my needs you know where I would look for exceptions   but I would also challenge the person and I would say when do you meet your needs what do you do   to take care of yourself a lot of times clients with abandonment beliefs are so freaked   out and afraid of being abandoned that they’re not taking care of themselves either they’re   just living and paralyzed going back to fight flee or freeze they’re living a paralyzed state   of I want to be loved but if I love I’m gonna get hurt and I don’t know what to do they don’t even   love themselves so we want to start talking about if you had your best friend you know create this   best friend persona what would he or she say to you what would he or she do right now let’s try to   help you understand yourself with mindfulness exercises are good here because a lot of times these   clients don’t understand themselves they’ve got so much anxiety they’re so afraid and they don’t   know where it’s coming from because a lot of it has been going on for so long defectiveness   if people knew me they would reject me you know not everybody’s going to like you why do you need   everybody to like you why is it important that everybody likes you and failure I don’t measure   up and I’m not able to succeed I usually put pull out the obnoxious quote that if you haven’t failed   you haven’t tried and we talked about what it means to get outside your comfort zone and you’re   not going to be perfect at everything you’re not going to be Michael Phelps you’re not going to be   the president of the United States that doesn’t mean that you’re a failure that doesn’t mean you’re a failure so what things are you good at what can you and have you succeeded at and   go back and look over things like you graduated high school not everybody does that you know   raised a family, not everybody does that so we want to challenge all nothing’ languages we   want to look for exceptions and we want to look for in what ways can you provide yourself the   validation so you don’t fear abandonment you don’t need other people to tell you you’re okay because   guess what you’re telling yourself I’m okay and before I go on to unhelpful reactions I do want   to point out that if we tell people to tell themselves you know I’m okay that sounds great   but if they don’t believe it if it’s not supported with evidence, it’s probably going to slow   their growth because they’re sitting there going telling themselves I’m okay and in the back of   their head going you know you’re not so we need to get that internal critical voice to kind of   hush up by providing the person with the objective evidence of why they’re okay why they’re good   enough and that’s a slow process it’s not going to happen overnight but encourage people to figure   out why they believe what they believe and then you can work from there okay unhelpful reactions   fighting with someone you don’t want to leave me because so the person may engage in a dominant   sort of posturing behavior aggression hostility blaming and criticizing trying to tear down the   other person to say you know what I don’t care and it would help if you were grateful that I’m in your life recognizing and seeking to get attention and validation or approval so if they feel something’s going   wrong in a relationship they may start trying to do something to gain recognition to prove that   they’re worthy of a relationship for what they do versus who they are manipulation and exploitation   said lying justifying I did this because you made me so sometimes we all occasionally do things that   aren’t the nicest people who fear abandonment have difficulty saying you know what I screwed   up and they’re more likely to go you made me do I wouldn’t have done it if you would have X   Y & Z people again who are worried about a relationship is going to fall apart and may also make excuses for   other people’s inappropriate behavior it’s like you know I hate what this person does but   if I don’t make excuses for it if I condemn it then this person is going to leave in counseling   we can talk about the difference between loving a person and loving a person’s behavior you know I   love my kids to death there is no question about that but some of their behavior makes me want to   climb a wall I’m very clear to separate from them the difference between the behavior that I dislike   and them because you know like I said I love them to pieces and we want to help people start making   this differentiation if they don’t do it already and clinging and chasing is the other fight   reaction stalking and messaging somebody 47 times on Facebook in an hour all these kinds of behaviors   and even online bullying those sorts of things can be fight reactions in response to feeling like   there’s a threat of abandonment flight is more of the I don’t care if you leave so the person   will withdraw physically and emotionally and maybe even numb themselves with some sort of   addictive behavior or distract themselves with something completely different or find a new   person just proof that you know what I didn’t need you because I’ve got this new person now questions for clients about core beliefs all people leave okay so what does it look   like if somebody’s available to you if they don’t abandon you who in your past left you   or was unavailable emotionally now a lot of I find it helpful for mental health   and addiction clients to have them write an autobiography because then we can go back   and kind of review it and identify the core people at certain stages in a person’s life what did the person who left you do to make you feel rejected or abandoned in retrospect   you know it was hard to see the difference what was going on back then because you were a kid in   retrospect what are the alternate explanations for why this may have happened was it you or was it more about them who in your past has been available to you emotionally most of   the time people can point to one maybe two people who have generally been there it’s unreasonable to   expect someone always to be there who in your present is available to you emotionally you   know maybe they’ve only been in your life for six months or a year but they are available and I say   emotionally because you know not everybody can be available physically all the time we’ve got   jobs kids all that kind of stuff but can you pick up the phone and call them or text them and say   hey you know what I’m struggling right now what do you do in your current relationships that cause people to leave do you push them away if so how what are alternatives to pushing them away cutting all ties and just saying fine be that way I wipe my hands off you if you cling how do you do   this in what ways do you perceive yourself as being clinging and what are some alternatives   to holding on with all desperation and mistrust people will hurt reject or take advantage of me or just   not be there when I need them so again what does it looks like when somebody’s or what does it feel   like when someone is trustworthy and safe who in your past was untrustworthy or unsafe what do they   do they taught you this and what are alternate explanations who in your past has been trustworthy   and safe who in your present is available and trustworthy What do you do to yourself that   is unsafe or dishonest that’s one of those tricky questions you’re there talking about other people   other people then it’s like what do you do to yourself how do you lie to your   self or how are you mean and hateful to yourself how does your distrust of other people or even   yourself impact your current relationships some people distrust their internal intuition so   much that they don’t want to make friends with other people, they’re like I can’t tell who’s   going to hurt me and who won’t so just yeah I’m going to wipe my hands of it all what could you   do differently what do you think you could do to start building trust and what does   it look like to build trust because Trust doesn’t just appear it builds gradually emotional deaths   deprivation I don’t get the love I need nobody understands me so again what does it look like   when somebody understands you and meets your needs who in the past failed to meet your needs   emotionally and how can you deal with that now you know it may have been mom it may have been   ex-husband it may have been you know who knows how can you deal with it now yourself so you can   put it to rest who in your past is understood you who in your present understands you how   can you start again better understanding yourself because it’s hard for other people to understand   us when we don’t even understand ourselves and what can you do to start getting your needs met one of the things was starting to get your own needs met is to figure out what your needs are and   this is one of the exercises I have people do as a homework assignment they keep track of what is   it they want daily keep a log and then let’s talk about what common themes were seeing   if people knew me they would reject me okay so how do you know when you’re accepted or acceptable to   someone who when you’re past may make you feel defective are there alternate explanations and   how can you silence those old tapes because that person that statement stays as a heckler   in the gallery we need to hush the heckler what can you do part of it could be talking back and   saying you know what I’m not going to listen or I don’t have time for this right now who’s   been accepting and supportive who is in your life that’s accepting and supportive and how can you   start accepting yourself and being compassionate so some compassion focus training mindfulness work   to help people understand themselves and start being compassionate with themselves understanding   their vulnerabilities and cutting themselves some slack I don’t measure up I’m not able to succeed   okay that’s a pretty big success you know what is what success means success means different   things to different people so what does it look like to you to be successful let’s kind of hammer   that out what is it if you are successful what would be different what in your past has made   you feel like a failure what are some alternate ways of viewing it such as a learning experience   or something I had to go through to grow or you know brainstorming alternate explanations for   why people fail they don’t have a response to sometimes I ask them to kind of take on   a flip role and say pretend you’re a parent and your child comes home and they’ve tried out for   the football team and they didn’t make the team they failed what are you going to tell on what   have you succeeded at doing in the past what are you good at in the present and we want to   pay attention to minimization here because a a lot of our clients are not good at identifying   their strengths what does being successful mean in terms of your relationship with others do you have   to be successful to be loved and be a good relationship you know you’re going   to be successful in a relationship if you’re but do you have to be financially successful and powerful whatever you define success as in order to be in healthy relationships who are   three successful people you know and what makes them successful in your eyes does success equal   happiness you can do a whole group on that and what do your kids need to do to be successful   in life you know we want our kids to succeed we want our kids to be happy so what is it that I   envision my child’s life to be 10 to 15 years from now triggering relationships the abandoner is   unpredictable unstable and unavailable the abusive relationship is untrustworthy and   unsafe the deprived err depriving relationship the a person is detached or withholding the Devastator   is always judgmental rejecting and critical and the critic is critical and narcissistic usually   a lot of times people replay their past to try to kind of get it right the second time so we want   to look at do you have a habit of getting into relationships with people who are not safe we can   also ask them how do you exhibit these behaviors in what ways are these behaviors present your   current relationships and in what ways were these present and your primary caregiver relationships behavioral triggers abandonment and mistrust if somebody starts acting differently they change   their behavior in some way a person who fears abandonment goes oh that’s not good if they’re   not getting constant reassurance that’s that external validation can trigger   abandonment fears so again we want to work on internal validation and why is it that you   feel you need constant reassurance from the other person’s relationships feel threatening so   work relationships those sorts of things the a person who has abandonment issues won’t want   their significant other around other people and they become hyper-vigilant to rejection   and disconnection even if it’s just somebody going I had a really bad day I need 20 minutes   and go into the room and shut the door the person with abandonment issues will likely   have a high level of anxiety so we want to ask how these behaviors have threatened them in the   past what are alternate explanations for why this is happening with this person right now and what   would be a helpful reaction to these behaviors now so this is happening what would be a helpful   reaction instead of assuming that the sky is going to fall defectiveness and failure so if   somebody is critical if they have unexplained time apart there’s absent or inconsistent reassurance   or if the person tells them they’re a failure these or they fail at something these could   all be behavioral triggers they could be like I failed at something I’m not getting reassurance   this relationship is fixin’ to end questions how is this threatened you in the past alternate   explanations and what would be a helpful reaction to this particular situation right now envisioning activity what does a healthy the relationship looks like presence versus abandonment   acceptance versus rejection emotional support versus emotional unavailability trustworthy   versus untrustworthy and safe versus harmful these are extremes what does it look like to   be a middle ground there are going to be exceptions you know things are going to happen so what does   a healthy relationship look like and how do you deal with exceptions if somebody’s not always   present how can you create this relationship with yourself that’s the big one and then how can you   create this relationship with others’ mindfulness questions what am I feeling what’s triggering it   am I safe right now and if not what do I need to is this bringing up something from the past if   so how is this different how am I different then I was when I was six or four and how   can I silence my inner critic and finally what would be a helpful reaction that would move me   more toward my goals and a positive emotional experience summary core beliefs   about the self and others are formed in early life due to children’s lack of knowledge of other   experiences and primitive cognitive abilities these core beliefs are often very dichotomous   core beliefs can be formed around events or experiences outside of the conscious memory   identifying and being mindful of abandonment triggers in the present can help people 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How to Release Fears and Traumas with Hypnosis

 Alright, we are living. Welcome, guys. Welcome to the journey within It’s a journey of deconstruction and reconstruction of death and rebirth and today, I’ve got a very special hello hypnotist the founder of Twin Ravens Hypnotherapy and Research J Robert, Parker, In The House. Thanks for having me, man. Thank you. Thank you, dude. I think this will be a fun conversation cuz I mean, we. Absolutely. We both study hypnosis and I’d be very interested to get your perspective, you know, and how you got into this. So, um yeah, if you can share a little bit about who you are, how did you even get into this strange world of hypnosis? Uh, that’s an odd story. Um so, previously before the pandemic had been working as a chef uh that restaurant was actually where I met my partner. We did the stereotypical line cook ends up with the waitress thing. Interesting. And uh the the pandemic hit. And I had kinda seen the writing on the wall long before it had an effect. Long story short, you’ll say we both ended up out of jobs and it failed me to kinda pull something out of my bag of tricks to make money. I live in a very, very small town and there’s not a lot of ways to go about that. So, I ended up reading tarot cards professionally. And I was making a pretty good living doing that. And I noticed that I was reading people’s fortunes so to speak. And more using the archetypes of the tarot cards. Uh reframe their problems to them and help change their perspective And I got a lot of satisfaction out of that. And I started looking into what is a way that I can do only that. Uh and of course in an abnormal way. That I can do that cuz why not? And the Facebook algorithm. uh that one random point but HMI in front of me. previous to that, I hadn’t had any experience with hypnosis. I wasn’t even sure if it was real. I was in that camp And I talked to someone from admissions and they intrigued me. I figured why not give it a shot? This seems very interesting. And I think I was about two classes into 101 before I got my mind blown. The first time I saw the physiological responses of hypnosis. The things that can’t be faked. That is just reactionary. it just blew my mind. And then eventually I got to perform hypnosis and then, eventually, I got to experience it and that was a profound thing because uh going to that school, taught me a lot about myself and one of the things I came to learn is uh a lot of what I considered to be unusual behavior in myself. Uh wasn’t and a lot of what I consider to be unusual behavior in others, was it? I was just very extreme on one end of the suggestibility scale and I remember in class, they were explaining the traits of the intellectual suggestible of it’s like, oh, cool. That’s me and I took the suggestibility test and I scored like, eighty-two, my first time I wanna say. Jeez, man, that’s such an interesting thing because you’re, I mean you’re so rare and for you to be in hypnosis and experience hypnosis, uh I’m curious like who hypnotized you and how do they do it, right? Because you’re like the hard type. it was actually in a practice and it was with somebody I mean, I guess I should mention, this guy named Paul Villa Real and he’s since graduated, I believe. And uh, I told them what my suggestibility was and he said, cool. Can I try something? And he did what’s called an auto dual induction and that was the first time that it happened to me and that got me. It got me well enough that the next day, I wrote my custom version of that script uh based upon what worked for me and that was a very unusual thing because Previous to that, II did most of my experience with trance with self-hypnosis. Like, I can kinda help people along whenever they’re practicing on me because I was very aware of that state in myself and where I’d been there in the past, all that stuff. but in terms of outright just being hypnotized by somebody, uh that was the first time, and uh That was profound. Uh, the things that I learned and saw in that first time still kind of uh guide a lot of what I do for my clients. Because one of the things cuz I don’t remember too much of what was addressed. But one of the things that stands out to me as I was introduced to the future version of myself like 5 years in the future or so And that was profound to me. And that person that I saw kind of sticks out in my head and every day I think about what I can do to get to that point. And I have used that to a very great therapeutic effect with certain clients. Uh, I got the specialization in transgender hypnotherapy And one of the things I found with my transgender clients is that that class made me realize so much that it wasn’t just a psychological thing that it was a it was a physiological thing. And in that, that means that your brain is telling you that you look one way. And what you’re seeing in the mirror is telling you something very different. What if you were able to meet who you know you are? What if you were able to meet the person that looks how you know you’re supposed to look? And I find that having that, giving that to that person is substantial to their sense of self and their sense of well-being. Interesting. So, that does sound intriguing for so for someone who is, you know, they’re looking to meet their future, you know, 5 years from the future self. How how can we do that? Um, do you do that through self-hypnosis? Is this a visualization? Um. Um. Visualization. Visualization. I tend to use the LAL. Uh the uh for anyone listening that doesn’t know what that is. It’s a type of hypnotic induction or deepener where you start at a certain floor on an elevator and go down. The elevator opens and you meet this person and I make no attempt to describe this person. It is simply you in advance and II tell you to notice how this person looks, how they hold themselves, how they smell, like how, how they and depending on your suggestibility is kind of how profound that experience is. I um I don’t get hardly any visualization. Uh, I get weird flashes. Uh, I can’t smell anything. I don’t get anything auditory but I get a very heavy kinesthetic response. Uh. Interesting. Fuel things. Yeah. In imagination, right? In hypnosis. It’s not like you can’t smell things right now. Yeah. In the context of hypnosis. Right. Um. feel like if you tell me to walk downstairs, I will like to feel the stairs under my feet and things like that. That’s fascinating. Okay. So, uh for people who are listening, they’re like no idea like suggestibility type, intellectual, physical, you know, you know. Maybe like. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Cuz like we know, we know exactly what we’re talking about cuz we’re from the same college but um I mean, you break that down and uh yeah. Yeah, just go from there. Okay. Well, you’re the host. Why don’t you explain suggestibility to your audience? I’m Good, man. I could, I could. So, I was like, yeah, why not and you can critique me. But I’m not the one So as you, like you were saying, right, we’re all, first of all, we all can go into hypnosis. That’s a very, very natural state. And um, we, but we’re just on this kind of this uh, scale of suggestibility and some people do better with certain suggestions. versus others, and I lean towards kinda where, where you’re at, where it’s like, we do the, the indirect stories, and then on the other side is the very more paternal, hey, you’re gonna feel this, this is gonna happen, you are now in hypnosis, X, Y, Z, right? And that still does, that can work for me and you know, for others, but, not honestly for you, right? Cuz you’re, you’re very objectively something. If you are literal with me, you just hit a brick wall. Yeah. So I mean like go ahead. Go ahead. I respond very well to stories and um that is so my entire life like I literally when I was a teenager my friends used to text me and just say tell me a story. I just make something up. And to this day if you tell me to make up a story, I can. Like, just off the top of my head. And I uh, a big revelation and it was initially thanks to the man that uh ended up being my mentor. uh, Joe Burns. Oh, dude. Yeah. Awesome. Yeah, and he told me, to throw the script away. Don’t work off script and I took that to heart because it’s much more intimate and so now, that’s what I do. I make up stories. Those same stories that I used to make up for my friends. I now just make up for clients that a lot of the paperwork that I have them do uh for their life history and the um the questions that I ask and the initial consultation and session are kinda getting to know like what story you wanna be told, how you want your story told, and for example, I have a client who recently came to me and this person is a software engineer. Uh a somnambulistic software engineer nonetheless and II just decided because this came at a time in my career I become very frustrated with pre-written scripts. Like I had thrown one away in the middle of a session. Hm. And those three sessions that I had that day I told myself like I’m not gonna prepare a script. I’m gonna figure out my inductions. I’m gonna ask some questions. And I’m just going to make myself go. And I did. And those were three of the best sessions I’ve done. And what I end up doing with the software engineer is I spoke to them with metaphors of code, visualizations of computers, and debugging. And um, Sure enough, that that that safe place in their head was represented as a computer bank. what the way they perceived that computer bank uh mandated where I took that therapy. Just to kind of adjust their visualization. And that’s had fantastic results. Right. So, it’s like when we tailor the therapy to the individual client who’s gonna have, you know, a different background. They’re gonna have different metaphors and um now, this is good cuz um the way I explain like the unconscious and the conscious is that the unconscious is just the realm of metaphors and emotions and it that that seems to be the reason why uh we humans love stories. It’s all. Yeah. Metaphors. Exactly and I ask people. One of the examples I give is, have you ever watched a movie and gotten angry or sad or happy? Uh based on what was on screen. Of course, the answer is inevitably yes. Yeah. So, yes, why? You consciously, logically know that you are watching a falsehood. You know these things aren’t happening. So, why do you feel these emotions? And the answer is that. Your subconscious does not differentiate fact and fiction. It’s a metaphor. It’s a and that’s all it sees that’s well, everyone but the high physicals. Uh, the high physicals don’t tend to dig the metaphor or anything like that. You just gotta tell them how they wanna be and it’s fine but uh for everyone else, it’s and at this point, because of this mentality I’ve taken with my I guess be hypnotic storytelling. Every time I watch a movie now or read a fiction book. I start noticing ways that I can retell that story for different applications or specific scenes. One of the most amazing movies I’ve seen recently is uh have you ever seen that Disney movie Inside Out? Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Uh. Yup. Have you seen it recently? No, that was like, wasn’t that like a decade ago? Yeah. You should rewatch that. Uh mental health professionals helped write that movie and it is still used in the mental. Well, that makes so much feel today. Yeah, that makes so much sense, dude. Yeah. When you rewatch it, with knowledge of the subconscious and metaphor It’s it blows your mind. So, okay. There’s that scene where they enter the subconscious and the critical mind is represented by those two idiot guards. And how do they pass by the critical mind? They confuse it. That’s my hat. No, that’s my hat. Wow. They do a confusion abduction to get rid of the gatekeeper of the subconscious. And more than, when they’re actually in the subconscious, and this speaks to a lot of what I say about fear. One of the first things they see is a giant vacuum cleaner. Um because the way that girl’s subconscious remembered that is because the way we remember our fears is in that moment in time. Frozen at that moment in time. So to that fear and that perception. That’s a giant vacuum cleaner because she was very small when she got that fear. And that has a lot to do with how I address fears and hypnotherapy. Because one of the things I stress is when we have a fear or a trauma which I argue is the same thing because we’re not afraid of something and we as we’re traumatized by it and if we’re traumatized by something, we have a fear. And what I it’s all where it happened at the time. For example, if you became afraid of a vacuum cleaner as a baby or a very small child, the vacuum cleaner would appear much larger because according to your memory and your perception, which cannot be changed until it’s addressed in hypnosis, that thing’s giant or maybe you were bitten by a dog when you were a child and you remember it as just Kujo, some giant, hell hound that almost tore your ankle off because it was so intense and traumatic. Where and hypnosis, maybe it’s just a Jack Russell Terrier that bit your ankle. Hm. When you were 6 years old and you had the emotional intelligence of a 6-year-old. So, you’re going to retain that memory as a 6-year-old until you readdress it and allow that person to uh gain a new subconscious understanding and association of that event. So, I’m gonna try to play advocate here and say, okay, I get it that, you know, when we were six, maybe we’re scared of a vacuum cleaner cuz it seemed very big or a dog or whatnot and we had to distort perception, right? But now that we’re adults and that we have developed our prefrontal cortex and our reasoning and now, we can go and we can experience that, you know, dogs are generally safe for the, for the most part, and happy and man’s best friend, or the vacuum cleaner, you know, it’s fairly harm is. Right and so uh why can’t we just maybe um do a little bit of exposure therapy, a little bit of cognitive behavioral therapy, and just say, hey, this is uh, this is false, this, you know, you can, sometimes. Um, and it depends on how traumatic the memory is. And really, a lot of the way that fears are addressed in hypnosis has to do with uh, desensitate, desensitization, that the same things you would do in the physical world you can do mentally. If you were afraid of dogs rather than go so far as to address that fear live and in person with the dog you could go through that same process of consciously and realize that you have control over that emotion. There’s uh as you know there’s something called circle therapy. Where in hypnosis you are presented with a fear or an anxiety and you are asked to recall that fear and the emotions associated with that fear. Consciously. So, you bring it up on purpose. And then it’s at the same time you tell them to bring it back down. And the purpose of this is for one, every time you tell them bring it back up. It’s a little less. But they gain the understanding that your emotion and your reaction is under your control. The way that you choose to react to this fear is 100% under your control. And once there is that realization, fear tends to fade. or it’s not yours. Uh, that’s an interesting thing I’ve encountered before. What do you mean? Oh, it’s not yours. just that. Um so, I did uh a podcast couple of months ago. Uh about fear. It was called fear. It’s run by two clowns and they were interviewing a German spy who had a fear of heights. And I uh and this is on my website by the way. Everything I’m about to say you can listen to this interview. But this person, this man, um not the shy away from it. He’s a government killer. Like he is what he did. He was in special operations. He went into places he couldn’t talk about and did things he couldn’t talk about. He was afraid of heights. As unusual as that is. And uh this was all done in about twenty minutes. I transit him. I took him back to that moment on the plane. Cuz he got that fear from his first training jump when he was seventeen. And in the process of just walking him through that moment. He realized something. That he had forgotten about until that moment in hypnosis obviously, this person was a very high physical. So, they said they could feel the vibration of the engines. They could smell the gas on the plane. They were there. Um, the kid that jumped before him screamed in terror and he went from being fine and calm to terrified. But he didn’t remember that. And so at this moment, he realized that this fear he had been carrying for decades wasn’t even his and I called him out of a trance, and within 5 minutes of that, he was hanging off the side of a balcony. Saying like, I don’t feel a thing. Huh. So, yeah. This is all in hypnosis. Yes. Um. And not the balcony thing. Yeah. That’s what’s interesting. So, he remembered in hypnosis the um. The other kind. Where’s my cause? Just got scared. And it wasn’t even his fear that that kid’s fear transferred to him and before he had time to process it, he was kicked out the door. So, this entire time, he’s been perceiving this event as his fear when as you know, if we’re around someone afraid or scared or happy, if but for a short moment, we feel that before we process it out as not ours but what if you didn’t get that chance? What if you feel that fear and before you could be like, man, that kid was scared. Somebody’s grabbing you by your collar being like, your turn. and he just perceived that as his fear. So, yeah, fear didn’t belong to him. Wow Yeah. So, I’d be curious um on your philosophy when it comes to trauma, right? So, for that particular case, I guess he just, he was able to kinda remember and and and bring up that unconscious material and then, oh, hey, this is not my fear. Um but do you think for trauma? Before we even get to that, what do you mean when you say trauma? Trauma is any event. leaves an impression later down the line. Usually negative. Uh, I guess it should be specifically negative. Um, something that leaves an imprint, something that uh like, okay, this would be just seen in the movie Inside Out. Trauma is when a negative memory becomes a core memory. that that it becomes a core memory is an aspect of your personality. So, it’s. Oh. Whenever something negative becomes a core aspect of your personality. Because of course, we all go through negative things but what if that negative thing is so extreme or its perception is so extreme that it formed every opinion and perception that you had after that event because it was a core part of your personality? Hm. That’s why that movie’s so good. Like, dude, I need to rewatch. You do. I took notes. I’ve got notes somewhere on that damn movie. Well, yeah. I feel like I’ve matured so much since then and then with the knowledge of hypnosis and now, parts therapy. So, I don’t know if you ever heard of uh internal family systems or any kind of parts therapy. I’m sure you, I mean, we, it’s, it’s been mentioned here and there in the college. Yeah. But um yeah, it’s so amazing now that I’m in like parts therapy and I’m sure it would, you know when you see all the different emotions like, oh, that makes so much sense. Like, yeah, we have all these different parts of us that sometimes different things and it gets into conflict, you know? So. One of the things that I’ve really kind of come to realize through doing this work and that I tell all of my clients is we are all at our core children. We are all scared eight-year-old kids. We’ve kind of got that cuz that’s when we form our core beliefs from zero to eight. So, by the time we’re eight, that’s our core self. Yeah. And that, that you, all exist and that what it means to be an adult is to learn how to parent yourself. How to parent your inner child. And that’s a perspective that I ask a lot of my clients to take. Because II asked them especially the ones that have children. Like the way, you talk to yourself. When you talk to your child like that. Yeah. But is that the way your parents talk to you? if you didn’t like that, why are you continuing to treat yourself like that? Why, why don’t you give yourself that same understanding? Because what, think about it. We all wanna stay up later than we should. We all wanna eat **** that we shouldn’t but we have that voice in our heads. Like, no, you have obligations in the morning. You have to get up or you know, that’s gonna upset your stomach or whatever have you and it’s the same things you tell a child but you have to tell yourselves. So, the way that you speak to yourself in that regard is very important. Yeah. Um what I’ve realized at least for myself, is that there’s even more than one inner child. Yeah. You know, there are lots of parts of us um that that have different goals and different perceptions and might get, you know, yeah, might get into fights or something. Um and so, it’s not even just the inner child but like, how do we parent all the different parts of us and realize that there is no bad part? You know, you wouldn’t call a child bad. You just would. Exactly. You know. Um, re-educate them. I heard something. I can’t remember if it was in class or in something I was watching. But it said that everyone has good intentions. Yeah. Everyone. No matter how evil or messed up. If anything there are always some manner of good intentions at their core. Yes. It could be wildly misperceived. It could be a mental illness. there are always even, even crimes of hate, even when somebody murders someone else, they’re trying to satisfy something in them. They’re trying to make something in them go away. So, they’re trying to take care of themselves. Yup. Or they feel some weird obligation to fulfill. It’s all manner of reasons but all all of these things boiled down to. They are for themselves or someone else or whatever have you. It’s good intentions. Just like your subconscious Yes. Always has your best intentions in mind. Even with traumatic things. Even with bad reactions. It is still just trying to protect you. Yeah. Just trying to preserve its homeostasis. It’s normal. yeah. Now, that’s powerful. And I think when we understand that, you know, I think sometimes we can like vilify the subconscious or vilify these different behaviors but they’re all serving some kind of purpose. So, you know, if you’re, if you’re traumatized, it’s trying not to get you into that painful situation. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So, if you have crippling anxiety, it’s you’re subconscious, it’s your mind trying to protect you. You just have this fear reaction that’s out of control. And It’s there’s a lot to be said in terms of healing just for the awareness of that. So much of my work and especially my breakthrough work with clients has been through subtle changes in perspective. And that’s it. It’s not much more than that. It’s sometimes there are some changes to behaviors or thoughts changes. But a lot of it has to do with um the way you look at a situation, how you perceive it, why you think this way, why you think this way about yourself Although it’s stereotypical in therapy, I find myself asking the question, why are you feel that way? Where does that come from? A lot. Right. And there’s always something. There’s always another layer deeper until you get to that aha moment. And you can tell whenever something has left their mouth that even they didn’t think of. They’d never even made that association before. And just by having that come into their conscious mind by being able to consider that logically. You’ve already gone so far in that healing. It’s like when we raise our awareness and take different perspectives, then, behaviors start to shift. Well, it’s like uh I’m not a big NLP guy but there are some aspects in neuro-linguistic programming that I like and one of those is the mindfulness aspect. The idea of being aware of what you’re thinking. Uh taking control over your thoughts. I thought Joe did a very good example when he talked about how he was crossing the road and he started getting this perception of these men in this car at this crosswalk about how they wanted to do him harm and he started getting anxious about this imagined situation and he stopped himself and he forced his thoughts to something ridiculous. I forgot what he said he pictured those guys in this car doing but immediately changed his thought pattern. Yeah. And he was able to just walk away and he looked back and he said, they’re just both on their phone doing nothing. And that’s right. He’s told me that story too. That’s right. Yeah. And II love that story. It’s hilarious But it’s a very good example. Because so so often we let our thoughts kinda run out of control. And it does us some good to stop and think like why do you think that? Why are you thinking that way? Why? Why do you believe like there’s something to be nervous about in this situation? Where is that coming from? Hm. All your trail back. Figure out why you’re nervous. So we’re so for somebody who likes you asked them that like oh why are you nervous? Why are you afraid? And they’re like I don’t know. No idea. Well. What? How did you ask? Mhm. What makes you nervous? How do you feel when you’re nervous or afraid? Um did you, were you always afraid of this? If you weren’t always afraid of this, when’s the last time you remember not being afraid of it? When is the first time you remember being afraid of it? most time in my experience, people haven’t taken that logical path back. They just stop with, I don’t know. They it’s that self-examination is difficult. Um, a good example of this is I had a client that said that They wish that they were able to perceive themselves as others perceive them, as strong as others perceive them and I said, well, why don’t you think you’re strong? got into a car wreck and I felt like I could have done better and I felt like I failed. Why do you feel like you failed? Well, because I couldn’t be there when my grandfather died. and there was just this dawning realization when they said that. And I was like, you never said that out loud, have you? No. There you go. So, that is currently on the table for the next time and uh it’s just a good example of just keep following the path back. If you do, there there’s always a reason for the behavior. It’s never an I don’t know. There’s an I don’t want to remember. There’s uh I choose not to know but. Yup. There’s not a mystery. There’s always a reason that Could be had through questioning, figuring out when and where, and all of that. Yeah. Yeah. So, I’m curious cuz there are different schools of thought and not even hypnosis but in therapy that maybe, hey, don’t go back to the cause.  You know, that’s just bringing up things that um that don’t necessarily need to be brought up or you can retraumatize people. X, Y, Z, focus on the solution, focus on the future, and more of like the positive thinking kind of approach. Um, I’m curious about what your thoughts on that are. It depends on the trauma Uh if it’s something like that they view as very grievous, it is something bad. I don’t ever ask people what their traumatic thing is. Like, you can just tell me that something bad happened in 2,000 seven. And that’s all I need to know. Uh, beyond that, all I, with, with that, I will, there’s a couple ways. But you, there’s no direct reexperience. You don’t take them back and make them live through it again. It’s antithetical to the goal. What you do is you take away that association. You make that not a core memory. They don’t focus on the events. They focus on the resolution. And the letting goes after that resolution. There’s a method that I very much enjoy that involves having them perceive this event on a screen. And they fast forward and rewind and fast forward and rewind until all that exists before the event and after the event. that that association is. And then after you establish that, you let them let go of that memory, of that association. And Trauma is very dependent on what happened. And uh sometimes it’s dependent upon um my referral. Because many times whenever it’s complex trauma uh I’m speaking to them on referrals from a mental health professional. Mhm. And a lot of it has to do with my communications with that mental health professionals. Whatever you learn. You know you’ve done. What do you need to be done? Um, it’s very important if you do find yourself working with uh medical doctor or mental health professional to get on the same page with them. Like involve yourself in that client and have them help you, help them, help that client. It’s a team effort at that point. It’s so dependent because II work with people with combat PTSD. I have uh postpartum depression. It’s just a matter of where this trauma and negative behavior come from. Often, uh with the combat PTSD, it’s always really heartbreaking to do those and I’m very happy that I get a chance to work with those men and women. there’s a lot that’s, for example, like what they’re not allowed to feel. Because you’re expected to, I literally soldier on. Hm. And there comes a time that that’s not a thing anymore. That you have to address what has happened to be able to heal. And I see a very similar thing in combat veterans that I see in people who suffer from trauma. they’ll go back to the closest safe save point in their head Uh it’s usually sometime when they’re a late teenager or soldier. It’s generally seventeen, or eighteen. And they’ll start adopting the traits that age. because they have all of these traumatic memories from older when they were older. So, it seems like psychologically, they just go back to the last time they were safe and untraumatized because it’s no longer safe to be an adult and I see that repeated time and time. Yeah, it’s. Wow. Interesting yeah, it must be very, very difficult to work with. Yeah, people who experience extreme, extreme trauma. Mm-hmm. So. I’m glad you are. But it’s one of those things like, once I realized what hypnosis was capable of and what it could do I kinda felt obligated to offer my services to them because it doesn’t matter what you think politically. It doesn’t matter what you think about war or the war or soldiers, the government, or anything like that. It has to do with these are deeply traumatized people who not getting the care and resolution that they need. I just feel obligated that if I have this toolset that allows me to give them that resolution, I should, that it doesn’t matter anything at all if I’m anti-war, pro-war, anti-government, pro-government, none of that. None of that matters. It’s just people. It’s just men and women who have seen things and done things that no one should be asked to see or do. And that’s it. That’s all it is. I’ve had a chance to see a wonderful change in those people because so much of it is it’s just difficult for them to deal with that, to face that. Whatever it is that they see. to do that is profound. To give them a safe place to do that. That is guided and secure. And it’s an interesting thing that for some reason people are hesitant to seek out psychotherapy. I have no problem with hypnotherapy. That. Really? Yeah, and I don’t know why that is. it’s fine and generally, I will encourage someone that if this isn’t something that they’ve seen a therapist for and they need to in the process of things, just be like, okay, now that we’ve kind of helped you through this, you need to consider bringing on someone else as well.

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And therapy isn’t the cure-all. It’s great for a bunch of things but sometimes you need other stuff. Yeah. Yeah. In fact, like, the way I see it is to attack it from every angle. Mm-hmm. Absolutely. Yeah. There’s no reason not to bring in everyone who could help. Yeah Perfect. So, uh I’m just going back to um you know, how you got into hypnosis and you talked about, you know, self-hypnosis and I’m sure that that has helped you and I mean, it’s helped me. I think it can help a lot of people where they can just utilize this modality, get over, get over some fears maybe, you know. Absolutely. I’m curious how, how you do self-hypnosis and what’s worked for you. So, that’s changed recently Longest time I did it as we were trained. And uh one of the things I’ve started to focus on recently. my self-hypnosis work and with my clients is nostalgia. This weird thing that exists in our minds seems to be separate from everything else. And what I do to self-hypnotize now is II focus on one of my far-off memories. Like one of my distant distant nostalgic childhood memories. Now form that as solidly as I can and just start doing breathing exercises. And focusing on that nostalgic moment and gets me right into a trance every time. Interesting. And do you think that would work with other intellectual suggestions? You know, high E note? Uh, I have clients that nostalgia has started to become a major part of our work. Because, um, I don’t even know how to define it. It doesn’t exist in a space like other memory. It’s it’s different. It’s more intense. It’s standard memory. It doesn’t have that feeling that’s associated with it. And I don’t know what that feeling is. Um actually, that’s one of the things that I want to focus on the most with research as that’s what nostalgia is and what its uses are about hypnosis. Yeah. Um and it’s, I’ve already started using it with a few clients, this notion of focusing on intense nostalgia to facilitate trance and I’ve had very good effects. Yeah. Well, that’s that reminds me of Erickson and I’m sure you know his story by the way, for people that are watching that and not familiar with Eric’s uh Milton Erickson, he was one of the greatest hypnotherapy of all time and did very indirect, artfully, vague, lots of metaphors and stories and god just brilliant results as a genius and um you know, when he was younger, he had polio, couldn’t move, thought about a memory of when he could and then all of a sudden 30 minutes later, he found himself Maybe. Well, that’s why a lot of the clients that I’m working with nostalgia are my clients that have self-perception issues and self-confidence issues Because nostalgia exists in a point of pure happiness. You don’t have negative nostalgic memories. Really? And yeah. This nostalgia by its very definition is positive. Huh, and it’s it may or may or may not be true because memory sucks but it doesn’t matter because your perception of that memory is nothing but positive. Nothing but happy. And so by recalling these memories, you’re able to recall this happiness. Uh, one of the more interesting bits of homework. That I’ve given my clients is uh sometime between now and our next session. Go on YouTube and look up an hour of old commercials or old cartoon intros from your childhood or something Like that. Um. Cartoon Network. Yeah. Something. I’ve uh I spent like 2 hours one night just watching intros to cartoons from the nineties. Like that’s it. And I’ve kind of become very focused on it. I very much love that sensation of nostalgia. I think it’s important therapeutically. That’s kind of why I put so much effort into exploring it myself. Yeah. Uh, Anytime I have like a nostalgic memory or thought, I kind of try to capture that and examine it and like figure out what I could do to bring myself back to that time and just that ponder ance alone has a hypnotic effect And I don’t know what it is about where nostalgia exists in the memory. it’s its present. there is an odd field of science. That’s kind of coming up now. That’s the quantum sciences. And there are some individuals doing work right now. or up to it including hypnosis that are fascinating. Um, the main person I’m speaking about is this guy named Doctor Dean Raiden who is the head of the Institute of Noetic Sciences. And yep I heard of them. Uh, he wrote a book called Real Magic. That is the scientific research and analysis behind certain processes. Like ESP whatever have you. Um, and it’s done strictly from the view of science and research. And These things are related to hypnosis because if the institute can be said to have any goal or direction, it’s consciousness research. Why? What are we? Why are we? I kind of think. Yeah. And the book doesn’t answer any of those questions but this book does provide uh an interesting indication of the direction of science and what we’re looking at in the next twenty years. One of the most fascinating things uh about living in this time certainly isn’t the plague or climate death but uh there is a concept called the singularity and there’s a version that exists in AI and there’s a version that just exists as humanity and the idea of the singularity in terms of humanity. Are that human technological eras exponential? That to get from the bronze age, the iron age was like two 2,000 years from the iron age to the industrial age like a thousand. Industrial age. It only lasts two hundred. Then, you get to the point now that the internet age only lasts twenty years. So. Oh, we’re not, are we, Oh yeah, you’re right. Uh-huh? I was just trying to think like, well, yeah. And. Previous to that, the computer age only lasted like fifty And so, now we are approaching this point in human evolution and development that um progress. The human era can no longer be measured. That each human technological era begins to overlap itself. And that progress became becomes foreseeable by the organic mind. we have a date for that. And it’s twenty-forty-five. Uh between twenty forty-five, 2055 is when the singularity is supposed to occur. And what? So what is that what is that mean exactly? That means human technological progress becomes infinitely fast. Every day there are new technological breakthroughs. Every day there is more progress. Um. How does even determine this state? Do you know? Well. I don’t know. Smarter men than me have done this math. Yeah. But it’s you see it evident in human evolution. These cuz there’s there were times in our history when thousands and thousands of years were spent the same. centuries were spent the same. There was no real development. It was just kind of an age. Living in the era that we live in now, it becomes very difficult to conceive of that. Because even if you’ve been around for twenty years, you’ve seen insane amounts of progress. And that simply just didn’t happen. Previously. Right. Ever since the industrial age for better or worse, we’ve sprinted towards this exponential progress, and as to what singularity looks like, oh no. Uh, I surely just hope it’s not a new iPhone a day. Uh, I’m hoping it’s not the AI, you know, um. Oh, god. Take me over the world and. The matrix. I uh. I’m kind of opposed to AI. Kinda not. Because to get AI, we have to first solve the consciousness problem, and we solve the consciousness problem. Good luck. That pretty much unlocked the singularity right there. But at the same time okay, let’s say if we unlock consciousness, let’s say we’ve created an artificial intelligence. We have created a thinking, feeling machine. The feeling of what? How do you know that consciousness implies emotion? What, how do you know what that emotion is? Right. Right. It’s defining consciousness. Mm-hmm. Which is the tricky part. So, and then one of the interesting questions I’ve, it’s been posed to me is does emotion evolve? Are we more emotionally intelligent now than we were 500 years ago? You gotta remember 500 years ago, what was considered fun was watching the local heretic gutted in the public square. So, I have to think that, yeah, we have grown. I, I do think we’ve owned in some ways, and at the same time, you know, there’s always going to be some kind of watching people get, you know, it’ll be a violent movie. Um. Yeah. Yeah. US, UFC, you know, we I mean II remember. Yeah. I don’t know how old you are but. I’m almost forty. There was a show on in the 90s called America’s Funniest Home Videos. That’s right. And it was hosted by Bob Saggett for some reason. And uh there used to be a rule. But it first came out. That no one could get hurt. And the video. It was an explicit rule. What? no1 could be injured. Yes. Well and then the dude getting hit in the nuts by a football One 3 years in a row. And they realized their entertainment value. Exactly. Cuz when I watched it, it was like 80% of people getting hurt. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. And uh that’s an interesting aspect of humanity that to my knowledge, only the Germans have attempted to quantify. Uh, they have a word called uh Shodden Freuda. Which basically if I remember right, translates to the sad joy. And it is the pleasure that you get from other people’s pain. It is you who laugh at someone falling downstairs. It’s the reason you laugh at anything like that. Though the Germans have a word for it. It is Yeah. It exists Universally. And that is the very reason that um that that things like America’s funniest home videos or **** exist. Yeah. And it has to be II wonder really what is it psychologically that makes us like that? Is it a survival aspect of that ain’t me? Yeah. Yeah, I don’t know. Well because one of the weird questions I’ve never heard answered is uh why do we laugh? Like what even is laughter? Right. What is humor? Yeah. Uh-huh. and um because it wouldn’t exist for no reason. Laughter has to have a function the most interesting notion that I’ve heard is it was made as a diffused mechanism. The whole idea of why we find humor or awkwardness humorous. Because of like let’s say you were walking around the pack way back in the day. And you heard the Bush’s Russell. And everyone gets scared. You see the rabbit jumps out, so you laugh. And that signal which creates a neurological response in any human that hears it Is a way to signal the all clear. And maybe it’s a way to signal that hey that wasn’t me that just slammed into a **** curve on a bicycle or something like that. Like I don’t know what that is. I don’t define what humor is or why we laugh, to begin with. Right. Difficult question. And then you make it even more complex by the fact that some animals laugh. Really? Uh. Huh. Rats will laugh. Horses will laugh. Um, horses have displayed complex humor. Rats will laugh. Rats, you could tickle a rat. It’ll laugh. Giggle. That is so strange. Wow. They’re hyper-intelligent. Um, A horse. There’s some search horse prank on YouTube and you will get nothing but videos of horses taking revenge on people and laughing about it or playing a prank on their handler or something. it’s pretty. That’s always been the strangest thing to me because that implies very complex emotional intelligence to have humor. Yeah. Well, we’ve strayed. This is a very interesting topic for sure, man. Philosophical, psychological, like cultural, uh what’s called anthropology, anthropological questions. Um kinda tying it back to hypnosis. Well, I mean and you were talking about singularity and consciousness. Was that, were you going somewhere that in terms of hypnosis? Who knows? Um well, probably where I was going with that. Um if not, where I’m going now is that what we do is going if it’s not already it is going to become vital to consciousness research and what it means to have that type of increased development that we can analyze ourselves and others in ways that we haven’t been able to in the past. I’ve heard some theories that the notion of metaprogramming. Being able to actively change our thoughts and behaviors is uh an evolutionary step that is not something we’ve always had. That this ability to change everything about ourselves to suit our purposes is evolutionary. And I will take that one step further one of the things that I propose in many of my interviews is we don’t have free will. If everything of what we do is a product of association and learned behavior. How is that in any way an expression of choice? Now where free will comes in is when you choose to alter that behavior to suit your life when you choose how you want to view something. When you choose how you wanna act and react to something. Right, but aren’t those also dictated by past programming, by culture, um your knowns, so to speak? Yeah. You know. Could be. But it is the conscious choice of say if you have anxiety and you wish to resolve it. That is a conscious choice. Um. Right. Another example of a guess is if you don’t like a certain food, well, it stops. Like it. But you can’t. Okay, well, what if you could make that choice? What if you could just choose to make a certain food or like reading or like something in particular? What if your association was different? And that’s where the change comes in. That’s where the choice comes in. At least I think. That’s just uh the logical quandary that I like to present to people. Yeah. You know, this whole free-will discussion, man. That’s above my pay grade. I do mean on most days, I lean towards, you know, there probably is in free will but What I will say is I think it’s important for us to believe that there’s free will even if there’s not. Just to function in society and for mental health and yeah. Um, there are a lot of things like that that you don’t have time to get into today but it exists for you. You just have to play along to function. The biggest landmine in thought projects I could think of is simulation theory. Because you can neither prove it nor disprove it. So you could just continually fall that rabbit hole. So what is simulation The idea that we live in a simulation? Okay yeah, the matrix. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah yeah. There is no way to prove it. There’s no way to disprove it. Yup. And I have no couple of people that fell far down that hole. Yeah. So, now, this is not a lot of quantum physicists, okay? And obviously, I’m not anywhere near that realm and intelligence but from what I’ve heard and read and understand as a layman is that there is an interpretation that will lead to us being in a simulation, there are some quantum physicists who would say that, and um. Uh, who’s the deal? That it is. Yeah. Statistically more likely that we’re in a simulation than not. Is it? Yeah. Yeah. And it the singularity comes into that because it assumes that any civilization that gains enough technology to run a simulation will do so simply to gather information and that given our technological progress, it is more likely that we have reached that point and we are in a simulation, then, it is not. So, wait, maybe the similarities are just when our when our holes pop open and we all get to come to to play in the real world. You know what? I think this ties nicely into hypnosis. Yeah. Okay. Because our beliefs, our core beliefs, a lot of them, are just BS. Yeah. It’s all perception. Reality is perception and as hypnotists, we can help you change that perception. Yeah, I don’t know if you, if you’ve been part of like a stage hypnotist show, hypnosis show? No, I’m opposed to stage hypnosis. What? Uh. It’s something I’ve to develop and like, yeah, I get that reaction a lot but speaking to clients and speaking to podcasters doing interviews, Stage Hypnosis is responsible for 90% of the misconceptions and falsehoods about hypnosis. And I could say To me, hypnosis and hypnotherapy is a very, very, very powerful tool and it needs to be regarded as such and if we’re up on stage using what is supposed to be a powerful tool to make people stand on their head, that doesn’t allow people to view it with the, the gravity that they should because, to them, it becomes this, this parlor trick this and more than that, I’ve encountered people who’ve had negative experiences with stage hypnotists. Uh because of what they’ve experienced on stage, they would never get hypnotized again. I’ve thought about that a lot. Would I ever do stage work? And I think at this point, the answer is no. Uh, I would do parlor work within a small setting like Transing one person in front of a small group just as a demonstration. That’s fine but doing it as a spectacle in front of a crowd. I think personally, this is only my opinion that it robs hypnosis of some of the dignity that it deserves. Hm. And I understand why it exists cuz yeah, it’s a neat thing But like, given how important I feel that hypnosis is to, in the understanding of it is to our health. Did damages its capacity to do so, by it being a stage show. Here, here’s my kind of argument. Um, because if show somebody that, you know, hey, I can make you bark like a dog, cluck like a chicken, uh via the power of hypnosis. Imagine what it’ll do therapeutically. Imagine how easy it is for you to quit smoking or lose weight or you know. How many are to go to anxiety? Going to be convinced with that versus how many people are going to be convinced that it’s fake or that? Yeah, I know I get a process or that it’s mind control. Yeah. And that’s the contribution to the negativity that comes in. And the media doesn’t help because every time you see a movie where hypnosis is involved outside of uh black magic, that one movie from the forties. Um, it’s all **** Like it’s all just weird. if that’s not actually how that works. But it makes people believe it. That’s why you ask someone to imagine what a hypnotist is. The first thing they think is that. Yeah. I have one somewhere. Hey, it’s a legit induction man. It works. I know. That’s the whole reason I dug mine out is because like man if I’m a hypnotist I wanna trans someone with a pocket watch. Exactly. That’s why I got it too. Just for that. Yeah. Yeah. I got you. Oh, I feel like this might be a good stopping point, man. It’s been a fun conversation. I don’t know if there’s anything that you. Yeah, man. Thank you for coming on and um uh is there anything maybe you wanna end with before um you know, ask you how people can find you and work with you? Um well, one of the things I always like to end with, you’ve already mentioned that hypnosis is natural. It’s normal. It’s not a metaphysical thing that this is a natural function of the human mind and that there’s no reason not to utilize it for positive change. It’s there anyway. We’re not adding anything. So, it’s something that I believe anyone can benefit from But if anyone wants to get a hold of me, uh like I was so enthusiastically introduced, my name is Jay Robert Parker. I own Twin Ravens Hypnotherapy and Research LLC and you can get a hold of me through my website at WWW dot Ravens dot ORG. Very nice. And you are doing group hypnotherapy as well. Oh, yes. Um I, if you go to a meetup, uh meetup .com and search for twin ravens hypnotherapy. I have a bi-weekly group hypnosis that I’m starting up. Uh, just kind of as an experiment, see how well it catches on but it’s just uh every other week, just doing some general relaxation, motivation, just basic stuff, and way. Anyone that wants to be able to experience hypnosis gets the opportunity. It’s not the same as one-on-one but your results may vary. Some people get a very profound experience. Some people likely do but you always get something. You let them know what it is. Yeah. And awesome. Great talking to you man. Absolutely. And I just wanna vouch for Robert’s skill and his compassion and passion in this work cuz I’ve been in one of those group uh hypnotherapy sessions. And it was very powerful. So I recommend anyone who wants to experience the power of hypnosis, to change their lives, to go with, to with Robert and you’re in good hands. So, thank you, man. Thank you for coming on. Absolutely. Thanks for having me. Alright. Peace out, guys.As found on YouTubeHUMAN SYNTHESYS STUDIO 👀🗯 Attention: Have Real Human Spokespeople In Your Videos Saying Exactly What You Want In MINUTES! 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 this episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing   education webinar on-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation   through all CEUs registered at all CEUs comm slash counselor toolbox I’d like to welcome everybody today to the presentation love me doesn’t leave me addressing   fears of abandonment the purpose of this presentation is really to help us help clients   increase their awareness of their story including beliefs about behavioral reactions to situations   that trigger their fear of abandonment so how do we do that well the first thing we need to   figure out is what fear of abandonment is and how can we identify it in a clinical set setting then   we’re going to explore the concept of schemas or core beliefs and these are things that are formed   in early childhood you know if you remember prior classes we’ve talked about early childhood   cognition is generally very dichotomous in children young children don’t have the ability to look at   that gray area so these schemas if they’ve gone unchecked can lead to some very extreme belief   patterns which lead us into common traps in thinking reacting and relationships if your   schemas are based on all-or-nothing you either love me or you’re going to leave me hence the   name of the book then your reactions are going to tend to be more extreme and more all-or-nothing   which increases anxiety because then anytime a person who perceives any amount of disapproval   obviously is going to go to that extreme so we want to talk about bringing it more toward the   middle line and helping people learn to appreciate and love themselves for themselves while they may   not approve of the behaviors of other people they can still love other people so just because somebody   doesn’t approve of your behavior doesn’t mean necessarily that they’re going to abandon you so   we’re going to talk about that and then we’ll learn skills necessary to help people accept   their past as part of their story maybe they do have a lot of abandonment issues and you know   some people do and it really is painful it cuts to the core especially when those abandonment   issues occur in early childhood when kids going what that does so we’re going to talk about that   and help people learn how to integrate it into their present and we’ll learn the skills necessary   to acknowledge that their past does not have to continue to negatively impact them in the present   so if they were abandoned when they were a child you know we need to deal with that however if they   continue to expect that every significant person in their life will abandon them notice I use the   word every because we’re still in those extremes then they’re going that the past is negatively   impacting them in the present so we’ll talk about how to sort of moderate those belief systems how   does this impact recovery whether you’re talking about addiction or mental health issues connection   is a basic human need we are not meant for the most part to be Hermits in the middle of the   woods there are introverts and in my husband’s an introvert he has a couple of really good friends   he needs quiet time each day he doesn’t need to be surrounded by people and he’s fine but I mean   we’ve got human connection he’s not going to be one that’s just going to you know move out to the   middle of nowhere I’m an extrovert on the other hand and I tend to have a lot of acquaintances   and a lot of friends I draw energy from being around other people so just because   someone doesn’t have 150 acquaintances doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t need connections so   we want to recognize that connection is a basic human need when infants are born they are put   on their mother’s chest when we embrace each other whether it’s mother and child or friends   or whatever a chemical called oxytocin is released and it’s our bonding chemical we are programmed we   are hardwired for connection and oxytocin is a very rewarding chemical so we want to recognize   this that if people are so afraid of abandonment that they push everybody away what are they losing   as far as quality of life as infants and children survival is dependent upon the relationship with   the primary caregiver so if mom or dad wasn’t happy if mom or dad was rejecting the young   child was pretty much helpless to think about a child who’s growing up in a family that’s just riddled   with addiction and mental health issues and the primary caregiver or caregivers are completely   emotionally unavailable they may be physically there but they may be so high or so depressed or   so psychotic that they cannot attend to the children’s need what does that communicate to   the child feels abandoned the child feels a sense of neglect for people’s beliefs about   other people and relationships were formed largely based on their interactions with their caregivers   so if this child was going mom I’m hungry and nothing happened or worse yet child was going   mom I’m terrified and nothing happened or they were just given a pacifier and told to shut up   then that is they were told they were communicated to that their beliefs their feelings their wants   and their needs were not important so they were being rejected healthy relationships serve up as   a buffer against stress so even if they had all these negative experiences in early childhood teenage years you know maybe up until they walked into your office it doesn’t mean it   has to continue and how much can they gain from having healthy relationships with a lot of clients   that I work with who have pretty significant abandonment issues can’t even fathom trusting   someone enough to be in a healthy relationship so we’re going to talk about how to sort of ease into   that because you’re not going to say don’t let your past influence your future and we’ll wave   a magic wand and they’re ready to trust people even once you point out that what happened in   the past was largely not their fault or maybe not even their fault at all they’re still going   to have difficulty not accepting responsibility and going everybody leaves me so what talk about   that addressing beliefs that formed as a result of these relationships the past dysfunctional   relationships we can help people create a new understanding of events was mom or dad or   caregiver really being rejecting were you being abandoned emotionally and physically because of   you or because mom or dad just was able to do what they needed to do to be a caregiver at that point   in time they were doing the best they could with the tools they had but it wasn’t enough to meet   your needs so we want to talk about alternate explanations for why parents and caregivers may have   behaved in that way if you have a young child well an adult now but who was put up for adoption or   abandoned by their caregivers at a young age the a young child was probably very confused because   one moment their caregiver was there in the next moment they were in the system so they were   trying to figure out what did they do wrong and why doesn’t that person love me anymore it must be   me because children really can’t see well you know mom is not able to function as a parent   right now or dad is having difficulty coping we want to help people better understand themselves   in their reactions so that when they start getting this urge to just cut all ties and be like you   know what fine you know I’ll take my ball and go home no problem what does that mean at there’s a   certain point in all relationships in all healthy relationships that you know sometimes people have   to distance themselves from one another because it’s becoming dysfunctional but for the most part, people will in relationships encounter hiccups will encounter disagreements but in   healthy relationships, they can work through them in relationships with people who fear   abandonment there are going to be two extremes there’s going to be complete compliance and   please don’t leave me or complete disengagement and whatever I don’t care the final thing we want   to do is help make people more conscious of what they’re doing so they can make healthy   decisions in their current relationships so when they get that urge to either comply or disengage   is that a healthy normative reaction right now or are you reacting out of your past experiences the abandonment experience in childhood survival depends on caregivers a four-year-old left alone   for five days is not going to do so well you know they may be able to scavenge food but   once the food runs out where do they get it you know there’s only so much that a child   can do an infant can’t even get their own food so survival depends on their caregivers and if   their caregivers fail to meet those needs there are high levels of anxiety and I will refer regularly   to caregivers who are emotionally unavailable and emotionally absent in addition to physically   unavailable or absent because some parents and I worked in the field of co-occurring disorders for   over two decades and some parents just they are so overwhelmed and so paralyzed by life itself they   can’t even attend to anything else that’s going on they’re doing good just to be breathing but   if they have a child and that child’s needs are getting neglected and fear of abandonment is a natural   survival response when your food source goes away what happens you start to freak the freak out so   this is normal we look at this and say that that’s that’s natural if a child thinks about the first   time you take a child to kindergarten or pre-k or daycare or whatever it is and you drop the   child off even if they’re securely attached what do they cry because they’re afraid that   mom or dad won’t come back and they’re afraid of this new situation that’s changed securely attached   children will you know adjust and then be happy to see mom or dad when they come back but the point   is there’s that initial oh crap reaction meeting biological needs and safety are key triggers for   anxiety at any age so we’re talking about housing we’re talking about safety we’re thinking about   Maslow’s hierarchy if somebody is not meeting the child’s needs or if the person is not getting   their needs met then they may have high levels of anxiety and I add to the safety concept not   only physical safety but also emotional safety people need to feel safe in their own heads and   they need to be free from emotional abuse when focused on survival people can’t focus elsewhere   so if they’re not getting their physical needs met guess what you know if you take somebody who   is in pain who is sick who is hungry and who is homeless are they going to work on self-esteem   are they going to work on relationship skills no, they’re focused on survival they need to have   those basic needs met they need to have a certain sense of security if they are in a situation that   is dangerous physically obviously they’re not going to be focusing on how can I better myself   when they’re worried about somebody coming in and hurting them physically likewise it’s hard to   focus on how can I better myself when everywhere they turn they perceive someone telling us you’re   not okay you’re stupid you’re lazy you’re bad you were the worst decision I ever made in my   life they can’t focus on personal growth when all they’re getting is these verbal beatdowns all the time so people need to have acceptance if they don’t have acceptance kind of the opposite of   acceptance is abandonment two kinds of extremes again we’ll bring it back to the middle every   stressful situation becomes a crisis the in securely attached child now you can go back to   and read Bowlby’s work on secure and all that kind of stuff great reading but for the short version   of this presentation remember that certs securely attached children feel anxiety when their parents   leave but then they can adjust and they’re happy to see the parents return in securely attached   children feel a great amount of anxiety when their parents leave and are terrified that mom or   dad won’t come back and then when mom or dad does come back it’s your very very clingy or very very   rejecting so with this child that’s in securely attached it’s just like one to a hundred as soon   as something happens that they think they may be abandoned you see this pattern again in adults who   are still struggling with these abandonment issues that schema that they’ve formed and I’m getting a   little ahead of myself that schema that they form says if you let this person at your site or if   this person disagrees with you or if this person criticizes you they’re rejecting you and they’re   going to abandon you so we want to you know check in with those cognitions and look for trying to   make those thoughts a little bit more helpful in infancy or early childhood if caregivers were away   for long periods of time because of work because of military, if they were in jail if they just   chose to be away or if they passed away children may experience some abandonment issues now if   the parents are away because a parent is a way because of work or military or even jail and the   other parent can help the child work through it there’s much less drama if you will there’s much   less issue with abandonment issues in totality now if it’s whatever parent it is if the pay, if the father happened to be the one, went away that person may have some residual issues with   adult figures in their life that they need to deal with but they may not know I’m not saying that   every child of a soldier or a service person is going to have abandonment issues that are so   not true however if the experiences of the time apart was not handled in a way where the child   felt secure then it could have consequences that are going into present-day if in early childhood   caregivers were inconsistently or unpredictably physically or emotionally present so think about   a parent who has major recurrent major depressive disorder addiction or is just ill-equipped to deal   with a child when I was working at the treatment center in Florida I had 14 15 16-year-old young   women coming in and having babies and you know what does a 14-year-old know about giving birth   and raising a child so it’s not that they weren’t necessarily trying you know they didn’t have great   role models raising them in most cases and so they don’t have anything to work with they don’t know   how to be a parent they’ve never been taught so it’s not always I don’t want to pathologize or   make the parents look like bad people because I believe that people do the best they can with   the tools they have at any given time parents don’t choose to be sucky parents sometimes it   happens but I really don’t believe they choose to anyhow off my soapbox in later childhood as the   child becomes elementary school middle school age if they’re a poor family fit or they feel   like they’re the black sheep they just don’t have the same beliefs that the other people do   they don’t seem to have the same interest that their family does they may not feel accepted   especially if the family’s going no that’s wrong to believe and invalidate them so going back to   that psychological safety if they’re constantly being told their ideas are stupid they’re wrong   they have the wrong point of view and they can feel very isolated something can happen that   ruptures the relationship with the primary care giver whether it’s abuse or you know some kind   of other trauma and introduction of a new less an emotionally or physically safe caregiver can also   lead to abandonment if the child feels like the biological caregiver chose a new spouse over him   or her say if you see where I’m going with that because if this new person comes in and is less   safe is abusive in some way emotionally physically sexually it doesn’t matter the child is going to   feel like they didn’t have a voice the child is going to feel like the biological caregiver   didn’t care and brought this other person in any way which leads to feelings of rejection   and abandonment so what are the reactions fight-or-flight whenever there’s a threat we   fall back to fight or flight or freeze but we’ll talk about that when there’s a threat our anxiety   goes up and we say in the past in these kinds of situations, if I fought, did I succeed if so then   we’ve got fights in the past did I succeed and if the answer’s no then the response is to flee pretty simply so anger towards someone who’s unavailable if they got angry and felt like it got them   some sort of acceptance from somewhere that might be the prevailing reaction sadness when someone   goes away a sense of helplessness this person just left me shame or self-anger about feeling   needy or about pushing someone away fears related to rejection and isolation, nobody will ever love my loss of control or the unknown everybody always leaves see how I’m using these extreme   words again and fear of failure I can’t maintain a relationship nobody wants to be with me because   I’m not good enough so the questions for clients in these situations what caused these fears as a   child so when someone starts to have these fears about a relationship if the relationship starts   to get rocking first question is what is it that you’re afraid of in this situation if you stay   together what is it that you’re afraid of if this the person leaves what is it you’re afraid of and how   likely is it that this person is going to leave based on whatever is going on right now so let’s   get some objective evidence here and another the tool you can use is the challenging questions   worksheet in cognitive processing therapy if you google it challenging questions worksheet   CPT or cognitive processing therapy really helps people walk through the logic in some of their   cognitions and identify some know unhelpful distortions so then after you figure out kind of   what the fear is then we say what caused that as a child in the past when you felt like this what   caused that and how was this reasonable or helpful you know in the past when you felt like this and   you reacted in anger what was the outcome and how was it helpful in some sort of way you know   did it get somebody to pay attention to you did it gets somebody to come comfort you, okay so you   were identifying the function of the current behaviors and then we want to say what causes   these fears now a lot of times it’s the same symp or similar stuff but we could say how are these   reactions now unhelpful because as independent you know adult-type people we can fend for ourselves   we can put food on the table we can go to work we can do we can function independently whereas this   is a child we couldn’t you know there were just some barriers to that does that mean again that   we should live in isolation and say well I don’t need anybody no that’s not what I’m   saying what I’m saying is is these fears that are overwhelming about abandonment that causes   people to push others away or cling on like you know whatever clings on uh are these reactions   helpful in the present day you know do you still need to hold on to people like there’s no tomorrow temperament based on their temperament children need different types and amounts of caregiver   interaction um some children are wide open and easily overstimulated you know my son was that   way when he was born well to this very day um when he’s awake he is like the Energizer Bunny   on methamphetamine I’m he’s just going going going and talking and talking to himself and   he needed a lot of structure and he would get overstimulated easily but we were able to help   him figure out how to handle that instead of getting mad at him for what seemed to be acting   out we were able to help him channel and figure out when he needed to take a break the introvert   may not need as much one-on-one attention with the caregiver may need a comforting word   here and there but they may not need the amount of the attention that an extrovert may need an extrovert   tends to need more interaction with parents with family with other people because they draw energy   and they think while they talk and they think while they talk with other people so they feel   a lot more isolated if they are isolated so we want to understand the person’s temperament and   how they may or may not have gotten their needs met how they may have been told they were wrong   and invalidated when they were younger and you can hear some of this is kind of going towards   Linda hands DBT environment um but what we want to look at what do you need now how can we create   an environment that’s accepting and welcoming to you now based on their needs and caregivers’ reactions children form schemas or core beliefs about the world and others so if they state their   opinion and it’s squashed or it’s ridiculed then they’re going to form this core belief that it   is not safe ever to share my opinions because I am always wrong now we’re talking about children here   but a lot of times think back for yourself there I think most of us have at least some all-or-nothing   dichotomous thoughts that come in every once in a while and you know we can catch them but if   these dichotomies go unaddressed the person starts feeling very lost and very abandoned because it’s all-or-nothing important points about children under 7 from 8 to 12 children are developing   alternative cognitive skills they’re starting to be able to think abstractly they’re   starting to be able to see the gray area and alternate explanations but even you know during   that period so zero to 12 children are having difficulty envisioning all the possibilities   so anything that happens before that we want to encourage them to look at the schemas that were   formed and challenge them to examine whether they are currently accurate and helpful children think   dichotomously when they’re that young it’s all or nothing it’s good or bad it’s not kind of sort   of something it is what it is I mean even think about thinking back to grades that we would get   it was satisfactory or unsatisfactory there was no ABCD F when we were in elementary school and   I don’t remember middle school then it was a dichotomous grading scale you either did it or you   didn’t children are egocentric so whatever happens they say what was it about me that made this   happen if mom’s in a bad mood what did I do if you know Mom is rejecting well that was stupid I’m   stupid children are very egocentric so you take all or nothing combined with all about me and you   can see we’re creating the perfect storm of children can only focus on one aspect at a time when I work   with adult clients you know they come in and they tell me that they had an interaction with their   boss he was walking down the hall and he was in a bad mood and I just knew I did something and so   we talked about that and I’m like how do you know that because he had it he had angry look on his   face okay what are some other possibilities what else might have been going on with him at that   point in time and a lot of times we can brainstorm ideas about a call he just got or where they just   left a meeting that didn’t go so well or who knows what else in this day and time when we’ve   got our cell phones and PDAs and everything there are a lot of things that can trigger a   mood besides just whoever you pass in the hallway children can’t think about those other things that   might have triggered the mood they see somebody unhappy and they’re like I’m sorry um so we want   to encourage as adults we want to encourage them to say all right what are the other possibilities even as children I try to work with my kids to encourage them to look at alternate reasons   why somebody may be acting a certain way children can’t think abstractly and consider those possible   options um even with kids you know knee-high to a grasshopper, if you’re in a situation and   maybe in a store and somebody behaves not kindly to you, you can talk about that later with the kids   and say you know that was kind of unpleasant to go through what you think might have caused that   and brainstorm three ideas my favorite number is three I don’t know why but brainstorm three ideas   for alternate explanations for why that person may have been in an unpleasant mood if children   learn to do this when they’re younger it’s a a lot easier to transition to as adults schemas   are a broad way of perceiving things based on memories feelings and thoughts basically it’s   our go-to perception of what something’s going to be like we have schemas about everything if   you go to church you have a schema about what’s going to happen when you go to your mother’s   house you have a schema about how mom’s going to behave and what’s going to happen we form these   it’s our brain’s short shortcut instead of having to analyze every situation it says oh I remember   this been here before it’s probably going to be like X Y Z unfortunately sometimes things change   and one of the things we see in addictions treatment as is as caregivers into recovery and   really get a hold on it and start working that a new way of life and sobriety and all that stuff   old family members or family members still expect that old behavior they have that schema that when   Jane comes in this is what’s going to happen because they’re remembering how she behaved and   acted in her addictive self so we want to help people identify their schemas and check them   sometimes they’re still accurate sometimes not so much schemas that trigger abandonment fear center   around the cell acceptability is this person going to like me which is one of the reasons we do a lot   of self-esteem work in reducing abandonment fears because we want to reduce the need for people to   solicit external validation we want them to say I’m all that and a bag of chips and I would love   to play with you but if you don’t want to play I’m okay with that love ability if they were   told they were unlovable if they perceived they were unlovable then in the present they   may fear isolation they may fear that they’re not lovable so they will try to do whatever they can   or likewise they will build a lead wall that is 5 feet thick all the way around them so nobody can   hurt them they may have fears about their own the competence you know thinking back to Erikson   you never thought some of these theorists from the past would keep coming up even in current practice   but they do if a child going through that period of industry versus inferiority Erik Erikson’s   stages of psychosocial development and they felt like a failure, all the time or they were never   good enough the parents never recognized their positive achievements then they may question their   own competence and feel like a failure if they feel like a failure they may feel they may believe   that nobody wants to be around them so they will leave so if I fail they will leave and fears may   center around adaptability some people are not able to tolerate any loss of control they’re just   like that they’re holding on with a death grip to the relationship to anything that’s going on and   it starts to go wonky they are going to freak out so we want to look at what it means if you’re   not in control of everything what does it mean if you trust that this person is going to do the   next right thing if you are doing the next right thing as well schemas that trigger abandonment   fears can also be sent around center around others if someone is rejecting distant cold or is unable to   handle the person’s needs then the person may not feel acceptable so if they are in relationships   with people like this then we need to look at is Is it you who’s not acceptable or is something else   going on with that person that may be making them unable to deal with anybody else’s stuff   right now the person may feel isolated if other people are absent if people fail to keep promises   they may feel like nobody’s ever there for them competence if other people are always critical   then the person will question their own competence and if others are unpredictable a lot of the time   when people who have anxiety about abandonment they come from situations where other people have   not been predictable or if they were they were unpredictably absent and relationship of self to   others if they are afraid about their ability to relate with others if they’re afraid of rejection   if they’re afraid that if they start to love they will be rejected and then they will be isolated   forever if they are afraid of the unknown and they I just want consistency more than anything and   as soon as consistency starts to waver a little a bit because as we grow things change and people   with abandonment issues don’t like things to change because that’s not predictable and that’s   not consistent so they may have difficulty if one the person starts to change what they do I see this   a lot not saying that it’s an abandonment issue necessarily but when law enforcement officers   retire you know because they can retire after 20 years so they may start a new career and   that causes a lot of change schedule changes they’re not law enforcement anymore and the   spouse sometimes has culty adjusting to it as does the retired officer but controllability   if the person holds on to relationships and everything in their life with white knuckles   because they’re so afraid if they let go of control that they are going to disappear or   disintegrate then if something seems like it’s not in their control, it’s going to be a catastrophe so attachment Styles secure if there’s an emotionally available caregiver the child   will seek the caregiver for comfort and guess what the caregiver will be there and will more   often than not meet the need for comfort with the the correct type of comfort so hungry cold scared kind   of following the child’s upset when the caregiver leaves especially in new situations but the child   gets over it it’s not a child that’s going to sit there and cry for eight hours and then the child’s   happy when the caregiver returns in this kind of attachment the child learns to trust others will   be responsive to their needs and validate their needs a child learns to be self-reliant and try   new things but if they fail they know they can return to the home base they can go out and go well   that didn’t go as planned and the caregiver will be there to say alright let’s figure out what to do   next not you are such a failure the child learns to adapt to a variety of situations because when   they’ve been faced with something that’s a little scary caregivers been there to kind of coach them   on and go you got this it’s scary I got it but you can do it the child learns to deal with   stress because the caregivers are there to coach them or to process it with them afterward because the   caregiver is not always physically there but if you’ve got children you know sometimes they’ll   come home from school and they’ve had a really bad day and you’d pull them aside and go you know   what’s going on let’s talk about it so in this way the child learns to deal with stress and the child   learns to have accurate expectations of others in the secure attachment, emotionally available   situation remember children are egocentric so if mom’s upset the child goes what did I do or   oh my gosh I hope mom’s not going to leave in a secure situation sometimes the parent has to   say something like mommy had a really bad day at work today has nothing to do with you I need to go   take a timeout that helps a child understand that you know what it’s not all about me and   I can understand that sometimes moms upset for something besides me and I can understand that   if moms up said it doesn’t mean she’s going to leave so obviously this is the ideal situation   avoidant attachment styles the rejecting or harsh caregiver the person depends less on the caregiver   for security because every time they go saying, mom mom, I had a nightmare can I come into bed with you   they’re met with going back to your own bed and the caregiver rolls over it’s not oh I’m sorry you had   a nightmare let me walk you back to your room when the child is separated from the caregiver   there’s little response when the caregiver leaves or returns because the kids like what uses that   person to me the child learns not to depend on a caregiver for comfort connection or security   now imagine yourself a four-year-old child or a six-year-old child thinking I can’t count on my   caregivers for comfort connection or security that must be a terrifying place to be and I   can see why you would develop some pretty strong defense mechanisms the ambivalent relationship between the   cave caregiver is inconsistent or can bow can’t talk caregiver is inconsistent or chaotic this   is really true in a lot of homes where there are at least one parent who is battling some sort of   addiction or mental health issue so the parent may or may not be available you don’t know what   the good days are going to be you don’t know what the bad days are going to be so the child may be   anxious and afraid to try new things or explore because they’re like things are going good right   now I don’t want to top will be an applecart just going to sit here and ride it out a child may be   clinging and demanding trying to elicit a response remembering negative attention is better than no   attention at all and the child is upset when the caregiver leaves but also inconsolable when the   caregiver returns because you know I was upset I was scared you went away but you came back and   that’s good but I don’t know when you’re going to go away again and if you’re going to come   back so it’s this constant anxiety of abandonment core abandonment beliefs all people leave so we   want to challenge that by identifying exceptions mistrust people will hurt reject take advantage   of me or just not be there when I need them you know what that’s true sometimes because people   have their own stuff so when this happens let’s look at whether it’s happening all the time and/or   let’s also look at what else might be going on with that person that caused them to hurt reject   take advantage or not be there when you needed the emotional deprivation I never get the love I   need nobody understands me cares about me or even ever tries to meet my needs here how dramatic and   extreme that is so one of the things as clinicians we can do is say if you are getting the   love you needed what would it look like what would be different what is it that you need   that you’re not getting once we identify then we can create a plan to get it but a lot   of times other people don’t understand or may not be able to interpret what you need so let’s help   let’s try to figure out how to make this happen nobody understands me alright let’s talk about   why that might be and you know let’s look at some people who’ve kind of gotten a grasp sometimes   with clients with abandonment beliefs nobody understands me translates to I don’t give a buddy   a chance and I cut them off as soon as they become confused and because they associate confusion with the rejection so we might talk about communication skills we might work on what it is that people   don’t understand and how to better communicate that and where to find people who have similar   interests nobody ever even tries to meet my needs you know here I would really look for exceptions   but I would also challenge the person and I would say when do you meet your needs what do you do   to take care of yourself a lot of times clients with abandonment beliefs are so freaked   out and afraid of being abandoned that they’re not taking care of themselves either they’re   just living and are paralyzed going back to fight flee or freeze they’re living a paralyzed state   of I want to be loved but if I love I’m gonna get hurt and I don’t know what to do they don’t even   love themselves so we want to start talking about if you had your best friend you know create this   best friend persona what would he or she say to you what would he or she do right now let’s try to   help you understand yourself with mindfulness exercises are really good here because a lot of times these   clients don’t understand themselves they’ve got so much anxiety they’re so afraid and they don’t   know where it’s coming from because a lot of it has been going on for so long defectiveness   if people knew me they would reject me you know not everybody’s going to like you why do you need   everybody to like you why is it important that everybody likes you and failure I don’t measure   up and I’m not able to succeed I usually put pull out the obnoxious quote that if you haven’t failed   you haven’t tried and we talked about what it means to get outside your comfort zone and you’re   not going to be perfect at everything you’re not going to be Michael Phelps you’re not going to be   the president of the United States that doesn’t mean that you’re a failure that definitely   doesn’t mean you’re a failure so what things are you good at what can you and have you succeeded at and   go back and look over things like you graduated high school, not everybody does that you know   raised a family not everybody does that so we want to challenge all nothing’ languages we   want to look for exceptions and we want to look for in what ways can you provide yourself the   validation so you don’t fear abandonment you don’t need other people to tell you you’re okay because   guess what you’re telling yourself I’m okay and before I go on to unhelpful reactions I do want   to point out that if we tell people to tell themselves you know I’m okay that sounds great   but if they don’t believe it if it’s not supported with evidence, it’s actually probably going to slow   their growth because they’re sitting there going telling themselves I’m okay and in the back of   their head going you know you’re not so we need to get that internal critical voice to kind of   hush up by providing the person with the objective evidence of why they’re okay why they’re good   enough and that’s a slow process it’s not going to happen overnight but encourage people to figure   out why they believe what they believe and then you can work from there okay unhelpful reactions   fighting with someone you don’t want to leave me because so the person may engage in dominant   sort of posturing behavior aggression hostility blaming and criticizing trying to tear down the   other person to say you know what I don’t care and you should be grateful that I’m in your life recognition seeking to get attention validation or approval so if they feel something’s going   wrong in a relationship they may start trying to do something to gain recognition to prove that   they’re worthy of a relationship for what they do versus who they are manipulation and exploitation   said lying justifying I did this because you made me so sometimes we all occasionally do things that   aren’t the nicest people who fear abandonment have difficulty saying you know what I screwed   up and they’re more likely to go you made me do I wouldn’t have done it if you would have X   Y & Z people again who are worried about a relationship is going to fall apart and may also make excuses for   other people’s inappropriate behavior it’s like you know I really hate what this person does but   if I don’t make excuses for it if I condemn it then this person is going to leave in counseling   we can talk about the difference between loving a person and loving a person’s behavior you know I   love my kids to death there is no question about that but some of their behavior makes me want to   climb a wall I’m very clear to separate from them the difference between the behavior that I dislike   and them because you know like I said I love them to pieces and we want to help people start making   this differentiation if they don’t do it already and clinging and chasing is the other fight   reaction stalking and messaging somebody 47 times on Facebook in an hour all these kinds of behaviors   and even online bullying those sorts of things can be fight reactions in response to feeling like   there’s a threat of abandonment flight is more of the I don’t care if you leave so the person   will withdraw physically and emotionally and maybe even numb themselves with some sort of   addictive behavior or distract themselves with something completely different or find a new   person just proof that you know what I didn’t need you because I’ve got this new person now questions for clients about core beliefs all people leave okay so what does it look   like if somebody’s available to you if they don’t abandon you who in your past left you   or was unavailable emotionally now a lot of I find it helpful for mental health   and addiction clients to have them write an autobiography because then we can go back   and kind of review it and identify the core people at certain stages in a person’s life what did the person who left you do to make you feel rejected or abandoned in retrospect   you know it was hard to see the difference what was going on back then because you were a kid in   retrospect what are the alternate explanations for why this may have happened was it really   you or was it more about them who in your past has been available to you emotionally most of   the time people can point to one maybe two people who have generally been there it’s unreasonable to   expect someone to always be there who in your present is available to you emotionally you   know maybe they’ve only been in your life for six months or a year but they are available and I say   emotionally because you know not everybody can be available physically all the time we’ve got   jobs kids all that kind of stuff but can you pick up the phone and call them or text them and say   hey you know what I’m really struggling right now what do you do in your current relationships that cause people to leave do you push them away if so how what are alternatives to pushing them away cutting all ties and just saying fine be that way I wipe my hands off you if you cling how do you do  this in what ways do you perceive yourself as being clinging and what are some alternatives   to holding on with all desperation and mistrust people will hurt reject or take advantage of me or just   not be there when I need them so again what does it looks like when somebody’s or what does it feel   like when someone is trustworthy and safe who in your past was untrustworthy or unsafe what do they   do they taught you this and what are alternate explanations who in your past has been trustworthy  and safe who in your present is available and trustworthy what do you do to yourself that   is unsafe or dishonest that’s one of those tricky questions you’re there talking about other people   other people then it’s like what do you do to yourself how do you lie to your  self or how are you mean and hateful to yourself how does your distrust of other people or even  yourself impact your current relationships some people distrust their own internal intuition so  much that they don’t want to make friends with other people they’re like I can’t tell who’s  going to hurt me and who won’t so just yeah I’m going to wipe my hands of it all what could you  do differently what do you think you could do in order to start building trust and what does  it look like to build trust because Trust doesn’t just appear it builds gradually emotional deaths  deprivation I don’t get the love I need nobody understands me so again what does it look like  when somebody understands you and meets your needs who in the past failed to meet your needs  emotionally and how can you deal with that now you know it may have been mom it may have been   ex-husband it may have been you know who knows how can you deal with it now yourself so you can   put it to rest who in your past is understood you who in your present understands you how   can you start again better understanding yourself because it’s hard for other people to understand   us when we don’t even understand ourselves and what can you do to start getting your needs met you one of the things was starting to get your own needs met is to figure out what your needs are and   this is one of the exercises I have people do as a homework assignment they keep track of what is   it they want on a daily basis keep a log and then let’s talk about what common themes were seeing   if people knew me they would reject me okay so how do you know when you’re accepted or acceptable to   someone who when you’re past may make you feel defective are there alternate explanations and   how can you silence those old tapes because that person that statement stays as a heckler   in the gallery we need to hush the heckler what can you do part of it could be talking back and   saying you know what I’m not going to listen or I don’t have time for this right now who’s   been accepting and supportive who is in your life that’s accepting and supportive and how can you   start accepting yourself and being compassionate so some compassion focus training mindfulness work   to help people understand themselves and start being compassionate with themselves understanding   their vulnerabilities and cutting themselves some slack I don’t measure up I’m not able to succeed   okay that’s a pretty big success you know what is what success means success means different   things to different people so what does it look like to you to be successful let’s kind of hammer  that out what is it if you are successful what would be different what in your past has made  you feel like a failure what are some alternate ways of viewing it such as a learning experience  or something I had to go through to grow or you know brainstorming alternate explanations for   why people fail they don’t have a response to sometimes I ask them to kind of take on   a flip role and say pretend you’re a parent and your child comes home and they’ve tried out for   the football team and they didn’t make the team they failed what are you going to tell on what   have you succeeded at doing in the past what are you good at in the present and we really want to   pay attention to minimization here because a a lot of our clients are not good at identifying   their strengths what does being successful mean in terms of your relationship with others do you have   to be successful in order to be loved and be a the good relationship you know obviously you’re going   to be successful in a relationship if you’re but do you have to be financially successful and powerful all whatever you define success as in order to be in healthy relationships who are   three successful people you know and what makes them successful in your eyes does success equal  happiness you can do a whole group on that and what do your kids need to do to be successful  in life you know we want our kids to succeed in us want our kids to be happy so what is it that I  envision my child’s life to be 10 to 15 years from now triggering relationships the abandoner is  unpredictable unstable and unavailable the an abusive relationship is untrustworthy and  unsafe the deprived err depriving relationship the a person is detached or withholding the Devastator  is always judgmental rejecting and critical and the critic is critical and narcissistic usually   a lot of times people replay their past to try to kind of get it right the second time so we want   to look at do you have a habit of getting into relationships with people who are not safe we can   also ask them how do you exhibit these behaviors in what ways are these behaviors present your   current relationships and in what ways were these present and your primary caregiver relationships behavioral triggers abandonment and mistrust if somebody starts acting differently they change  their behavior in some way a person who fears abandonment goes oh that’s not good if they’re   not getting constant reassurance that’s that external validation can trigger   abandonment fears so again we want to work on internal validation and why is it that you   feel you need constant reassurance from the other person’s relationships feel threatening so   work relationships those sorts of things the a person who has abandonment issues won’t want   their significant other around other people and they become hyper-vigilant to rejection   and disconnection even if it’s just somebody going I had a really bad day I need 20 minutes  and go into the room and shut the door the person with abandonment issues will likely   have a high level of anxiety so we want to ask how these behaviors have threatened them in the   past what are alternate explanations for why this is happening with this person right now and what   would be a helpful reaction to these behaviors now so this is happening what would be a helpful   reaction instead of assuming that the sky is going to fall defectiveness and failure so if   somebody is critical if they have unexplained time apart there’s absent or inconsistent reassurance   or if the person tells them they’re a failure these or they fail at something these could   all be behavioral triggers they could be like I failed at something I’m not getting reassurance that this relationship fixing to end question how is this threatened you in the past alternate   explanations and what would be a helpful reaction to this particular situation right now envisioning activity what does a healthy the relationship looks like presence versus abandonment   acceptance versus rejection emotional support versus emotional unavailability trustworthy   versus untrustworthy and safe versus harmful these are extremes what does it look like to   be a middle ground there are going to be exceptions you know things are going to happen so what does   a healthy relationship look like and how to do you deal with exceptions if somebody’s not always   present how can you create this relationship with yourself that’s the big one and then how can you   create this relationship with others’ mindfulness questions what am I feeling what’s triggering it   am I safe right now and if not what do I need to is this bringing up something from the past if   so how is this different how am I different then I was when I was six or four and how   can I silence my inner critic finally what would be a helpful reaction that would move me  more toward my goals and toward a positive emotional experience summary core beliefs  about the self and others are formed in early life due to children’s lack of knowledge 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Documentation Review Addiction Counselor Exam


Welcome to the Addiction Counselor Exam Review. This presentation is part of the Addiction Counselor certification training. Go to http://www.ALLCEUs.com/certificate-tracks to learn more about our specialty certificates starting at 149 dollars Hi everybody and welcome to this presentation of Documentation Principles and what you're supposed to do in documentation. Over the course of the next hour or a little bit more yeah buckle in guys it's going to be a while we're going to discuss the elements of good documentation we're going to talk about different types of documentation that you need to know how to do this is not a instructional manual or presentation on how to write good treatment plans or good progress notes this is really hitting the highlights so if you hit or you get to a place where you hear about a type of documentation you don't feel comfortable with especially treatment planning from what I've been told on the current certification exams treatment planning plays a big role so you want to make sure that you know how to identify effective interventions but that's a different class today we're just going to hit the highlights of what you need to know about documentation so documenting the treatment process the client record is the most important tool to ensure continuity of care that's going to help every person on the treatment team collaborate and coordinate that's going to help you track progress remember what you did last week and what you're doing in the future you know what your goals are it's going to help the client visualize what's going to happen so documentation is really important and remember if it doesn't get documented it didn't happen and that's true in terms of billable services you know don't not document something because you make a mistake because that'll still come back to bite you but in terms of reimbursement and you know showing that you did what any good therapist would do in order to prevent liability document document document it's your best friend there are ways to shorten documentation there are a lot of times that you can use check sheets and things create check sheets in private practice to make it a little bit easier for yourself but it is important to have that documentation documentation contributes to service delivery by reducing the replication of services so if I look and I see that jimbob's already been referred to a psychiatrist well then I don't need to make a referral for Jim Bob to a psychiatrist if I look and I see that he's already interacting with workforce development services then I don't need to refer him there because it's already been done so it saves some effort on everybody's part it presents a cohesive longitudinal record of clinically meaningful information which is gibberish for saying you can see the clients progress you can see what's worked you can see what hasn't worked you can see incremental changes and more importantly sometimes the client can see incremental changes so they can look back you know six weeks and at what you were talking about back then and how they were presenting and how they were feeling and then look at today and you can compare and contrast so they can see that yeah everything may not be coming up roses but there has been a significant improvement documentation helps ensure reimbursement for services you don't ever want to say is going to ensure because the people who are reimbursing have the right to not reimburse you know they can deny claims so but you know you're not going to get paid if you don't document so you have to document in order to have any hope of reimbursement and good documentation will reduce the number of denials that you get and it assists in guarding against malpractice because you're documenting what was done by whom and if they were adequately credentialed you know if you're referring somebody for a nutritional assessment to a dietitian a registered dietitian you're going to note that in the record if you are providing nutritional assessment and information yourself you're probably not a registered dietitian which means you're not adequately credentialed so you know you could see the difference but you're showing that you're referring to other professionals and you're taking adequate precautions in the event that somebody's in crisis or you know needs some other sorts of assistance clinical documentation records professional services you do an intake we all know what intakes are differential diagnosis it shows how you arrived at your conclusion that this person has substance induced depression or or whatever you're going to show how you ruled out some of the medical conditions you're going to show how you ruled out underlying mental health pathology placement criteria are used in decision making so you have the a Sam generally sometimes it's the locus and you can use that to show you know the powers-that-be if anybody ever comes and look at looks at the record why you made the recommendation for residential or outpatient or or whatever recommendation you made you can show your clinical justification by the patient placement criteria which is really awesome now sometimes the client is gonna say no you know you're recommending residential but I'm not willing to do that and you're gonna document that in the chart what your recommendation is and what the client chooses to do because they do have the ability to choose but again you know you're showing that you made a good honest effort to put them in what appears to be the best placement it documents treatment and other services provided so we can see what's going on if I'm looking at a record and of somebody and I'm hearing that they're on medications but I have no record of any sort of a doctor and you know I've read assessments before and it just drives me batty where they talk about a client being on antidepressants for example but then the client never gets any sort of mental health diagnosis and I'm like well what are they on the meds for if the doc is prescribing meds the doc clearly thinks that they have some sort of mental health issue so you want to identify what's going on what services you're providing what refer you're making the response to any interventions think about it this way you know if that client comes back for another episode of care and we know in recovery oriented systems of care that treatment is episodic and you may not be there the next time JimBob comes back but the next therapist can go back and review the record and figure out what's worked what didn't where the kind of where you left off and build upon that instead of having to recreate the wheel which saves a lot of frustration a lot of time and it enhances client engagement if they feel like they can go in and kind of hit the ground running instead of having to you know start back at square one it identifies referral services and the outcome not all referrals are going to go swimmingly but generally they do and you want a document that you're attending to the clients biopsychosocial needs if they need housing you're referring to the appropriate agency that can help them get housing if they need you know food stamps you're referring to the appropriate agency where they can get that there's a little bit of case management sort of stuff going on here because a lot of times you don't have a case manager but it's important because a client who is homeless hungry in pain and sick is not going to do really well on dealing with their depression or their self-esteem because they're not getting their basic needs met so you want to show that you're you know taking everything into account it shows the clinical course the record can help you identify and look back retrospectively and see you know what things may trigger an episode what things may trigger a relapse what things tend to mitigate it and help it you know not become so severe what sorts of interventions worked and looking at the course you can see when it started and whether it's continuing to get worse or whether it's starting to get a little bit better and instead of having long relapse periods you have shorter episodes maybe of lapses and it shows reassessment and treatment plan reviews people change you know as they get better that's awesome they're changing and the treatment plan will need to be updated to reflect their current needs and wants we want to do reassessments at least every 90 days but preferably every 30 days a lot of insurance companies and if you look at the level of care guidelines it's really important because they can deny payment if you're not doing a treatment plan review every single week for people who are in intensive outpatient partial hospitalization or residential that's not true of every insurance provider but it is true of a lot of them so you need to know how frequently you need to do these things in order to prevent denial of payment records compliance with state accreditation and payer requirements so you know clinical documentation helps you you know document exactly what's going on in Florida for example the state tells you certain services that have to be provided at the IOP level and at the residential level and you need to be able to document that if you're getting state funding you need to be able to document certain things if you're accredited by Jayco are you're gonna have to be able to show in the record that your treatment is you know in line with their guidelines you know they're going to look around at what's going on now but they also want to look at the charts to see you know how you actually follow through an entire course of care and it helps you maintain payer compliance I can't state this enough and we are in it to help people don't get me wrong and I hate to harp on dumb reimbursement however if you don't get reimbursed you don't keep your doors open so it's important to know what each payor requires in terms of you know how quickly does the intake need to be done how quickly does the treatment plan need to be done some payers say three days some payers say a week how frequently does the treatment plan need to be updated does the person have to see a psychiatrist within a certain period of time for your high levels of care the answer is yes so all this stuff is in what's called the level of care guidelines and each independent insurance provider has their own level of care guidelines so my recommendation and what I do in my practice is identify all of the providers that I accept and then I take the most stringent requirements for everything from all the different providers so I'm going above and beyond for some but I'm at least meaning every single providers minimum requirements and it takes a little while to do the crosswalk but it is well worth it because it helps you have a clinical record that applies whether it's Blue Cross and Blue Shield or Aetna or United or you know whomever documentation eases the transition to other programs and to referral sources if you call up a referral source and say you know maybe you're working with a client who has trauma issues and you're referring to an EMDR therapist and you call them up and say hey I got this person coming over and who's gonna need EMDR services sending them your way well that doesn't give them anything to work on so instead of again having them rip open that wound and go through you know a bunch of stuff that they've already talked about with you that was painful and distressing the clinical record can help ease that transition so the receiving therapist the EMDR therapist can review it and kind of know what they're dealing with and then start a little bit ahead of the game and it prevents duplication of information gathering when possible you know everybody seems to have to get demographic information well if there's a centralized clinical record that has the demographic information then everybody can add to that instead of having to get the same demographic information from clients every single time it facilitates quality assurance it documents the appropriateness clinical necessity and effectiveness of treatment when you are writing your integrated summary you are going to identify things in the intake that you did that support your diagnosis and support your intervention so you're gonna identify I'm doing this because in order to meet this need we're going to use this intervention so it identifies the clinical necessity you'll talk about appropriateness and that's in terms of diagnosis that's in terms of treatment setting and that's also in terms of age and culture so you're gonna if you use different interventions maybe use cognitive behavioral for some things and you use experiential for something else or maybe you refer to IOP for one thing for one client and you refer another client to outpatient or residential the appropriateness can be defended with your integrated summary and your patient placement criteria and then the effectiveness of treatment is going to be seen in your progress notes and your reassessments so you're going to be identifying okay we accomplish this goal accomplished that goal accomplished the next goal and you're gonna hopefully be marking them off and if you're not marking them off you're you're going to have addendums where you did you know an adjustment to the treatment plan in order to help the client start making progress towards that sometimes you're gonna scrap a goal because something else comes up that's more important I worked with one client who was just an amazing woman but she found out when she was in treatment with us that she had breast cancer well you know getting housing and getting a job those kind of goals kind of went out the door when that came up and the one of the main focuses of treatment for awhile became remaining clean and sober managing her anxiety and managing her feelings and you know recovery from the breast cancer and she went into significant chemotherapy and we were blessed enough to be able to keep her on our unit while she was going through chemo because she didn't have any family but you can see how sometimes you know there's a great treatment plan but then life happens and you got a drop back in punt and the treatment plan is going to show and the reassessment is going to show why you changed gears or changed directions so nobody goes well what in the world happened there you know I thought she was gonna discharge and then three months later she's still on the unit what's going on well you know we can we were able to justify why that was important it substantiates the need for further assessment and testing if you have a client who comes in who may have fetal alcohol spectrum issues you know because we know that alcoholism runs in families it's not uncommon for clients to have a mother who was an alcoholic now you know I'm not saying that every mother's an alcoholic and every person who has an addiction has a parent a mother who's an alcoholic but I'm saying the likelihood is higher if you're working with somebody with an addiction that their mother and for fetal alcohol spectrum disorders this has to be the mother because it's taint damage to the fetus that's done in utero so you know dad doesn't have anything to do with that so if you think the person has FASD or an F ASD you can refer because you need to get neurocognitive testing and all kinds of other things done but that will help them get set up for higher level services and reimbursement on multiple levels through SSI potentially if they have significant impairment its documentation supports termination or transfer of services if they've reached maximal gains at this level of care it's going to show or and kind of along the same thing if something happens and they can't participate in this level of care right now they need to be transferred to a crisis stabilization unit documentation will show why they were discharged from one place and sent to another it identifies problems with service delivery by providing data to support corrective actions when I worked at the facility I worked out we had multiple programs we had case management and outpatient residential and detox and crisis stabilization and yada yada yada and sometimes there would be too cooks in the kitchen so referrals wouldn't go off as planned or one person would think they were running the master treatment plan while another program would think they were running the master treatment plan and then reimbursement would get messed up so we were better able to figure out who was the single point of contact for this client and what the treatment plan was adding two methods to improve and assure quality of care so if we figure out that yeah this is working really well but you know we have this great intensive outpatient program but our aftercare program is really non-existent and it's it's imperative to have an aftercare program let's look at how we can do this in order to help people stay clean and sober it provides information that's used in policy development program planning and research another example that we used during the time that I was working at the at that clinic we realized that there was a need for a mother baby unit there wasn't one in our 13 County region so we wrote a grant and we created a unit that reached out to mothers who were still pregnant ideally didn't have to be but ideally still pregnant we helped them stay clean and sober until they delivered and then they stayed with us for another six months so we identified a gap in services you know because pregnant and postpartum women were really not getting a lot of services and we met that need and documentation provides data for use in planning professional development activities it helps you see what might be a need if you've suddenly got a lot of people coming in who have trauma issues then staff maybe need to be trained on trauma focused cognitive behavioral or cognitive processing therapy in order to better serve that particular population or you may have an influx of clients from a different culture you know right now in Florida there are a lot of people that have come into Florida from Puerto Rico after the hurricane so there's a need for services that are truly sensitive to people from Puerto Rico so it helps you identify who's coming through our doors what are their needs and what kind of training would benefit our staff so they can serve them more effectively and it fosters communication and collaboration between multidisciplinary team members a lot of times I would never see the doctor or the psychiatrist when they would come to see the clients that were on residential but I knew that they were reading my notes and they knew I was reading their notes because we had to initial so it made sure that all of the people in the team are at least communicating via the chart if not a team meeting unfortunately when you get into documentation you also get into big sticky issues with confidentiality and with substance abuse you need to be really aware of the Code of Federal Regulations 42 part 2 or CFR 42 part 2 and this handles the confidentiality of alcohol and drug abuse page patient records 42 CFR part 2 applies to all records relating to the identity diagnosis prognosis or treatment of any patient in a substance abuse program in the u.s.


So this is in addition to HIPAA and hi-tech and all of those substance abuse clients have additional protections there's a prohibition data that would identify a patient as suffering from a substance use disorder or as undergoing substance use disorder treatment you can't identify that information unless you have a specific release of information so if you're seeing somebody for mental health issues but they've also got you know a substance use disorder you can't divulge that that's separate information and their record is extra protected 42 CFR part 2 allows for disclosure where the state mandates child abuse and neglect recording sometimes the child abuse and neglect is directly related to the substance use or you're the only provider and you're in a substance abuse treatment program and you have to make a mandated report yeah it's allowed it allows for disclosure when cause of death is being reported so if you have a client in your program who dies and you have to report the cause of death you can disclose at that point or if the client passes away when they're on your on your facility and unfortunately it happens sometimes then you know obviously people are going to know where that person died because the everybody's going to come pick them up and do the investigation and you can disclose when there's an existence of a valid court order sometimes the courts will say this is important to know and that's varies by jurisdiction so in order to release information you have to have a written release and a written consent requires 10 elements and this is so important because so often I see releases of information that don't contain all ten elements number one do not ever have a client sign a blank release of information you know saying you know just in case we need it just sign it so I haven't know that's a big big big big no-no so anyway the release of information to be valid and if it's not valid then technically you can't release the information so it has to have all ten of these elements the names of the program's making the disclosure the name of the individual or organization that will receive the disclosure the name of the patient who is the subject of the disclosure you know that's all pretty standard the specific purpose or need for disclosure that gets a little bit you know why are you making this disclosure because the client requested it because of a court order in order to coordinate care what's the need a description of how much and what kind of information will be disclosed generally it's not everything you need a special release of information according to HIPAA in order to release progress notes as opposed to release other information so you know on ours we have we'll check boxes so you can identify whether its assessment attendance drug trip drug testing results etc you have to have a patient's right to revoke the consent in writing and the exceptions so there has to be a paragraph somewhere that lets the patient know that they have the right to revoke consent in writing you know at any time unless and there are a few exceptions but there they're few and far between and your legal department will handle that some agencies say clients can revoke consent verbally however the requirement is only that it has to be done in writing so if a client wants to revoke consent they need to write it down and give it to you showing that they want the consent revoked and then you know if they're there you cross through the the consent form you write void you date it you put your initials on it and they put their initials on it that's the ideal situation they can mail in a letter revoking consent as well you have to have the date or condition when the consent expires if not previously revoked now my program we always did a standard one year or 90 days depending on the program unless the client revoked consent however your program may be different or the client may choose the wind' the timeframe the signature of the patient and/or other authorized persons so if the patient is a minor or is not able to sign for themselves and they have an authorized representative you know you need those signatures your signature and the date on which the consent is signed so generally you have a witness there and you have the date that the witness and the person signed it so it has to have all ten of these things when used in the criminal justice setting expiration of the consent may be conditioned upon the completion or termination from a program so when Jim Bob gets released from jail this consent expires is can happen information can be shared within an agency on a need-to-know basis only with people on the treatment team only so it need to know you know if you're not on the treatment team then you don't need to know so we used to have this big medical records room and you would walk into it and there were literally thousands of files could I have pulled a file off the off-the-rack and looked at it and read it yeah I could have but that's not okay that is a violation of HIPAA as well as a bunch of others because I have no need to know about any random patient that is being seen so it's important to make sure that you've got good control over who can access records information sharing can be done with the release it can be done to the client you don't have to have a release to give the information to the client or under specific circumstances and that goes into confidentiality we'll talk about a little bit later agencies generally have policies for who is allowed to release information so the lady at the front desk probably can't release information it probably has to come from the therapist or from the risk manager clients have the right to review and amend their records if they request to view or amend the record is denied then we must provide a written explanation to the client so you know generally write your notes and write your everything assuming the client is going to read it use objective information don't be you know derogatory in any sort of way explain your findings and you know keep the client involved if they request to amend the record and and the agency denies it for some reason it says no you can't see your record or no you can't amend it there has to be a really really good reason we had some circumstances where the client wanted to amend the record and our executives decided that the amendment they were going to make was not didn't seem to really have a good grounding in reality the client was allowed to submit their amend in their handwriting and it was added to the case file and noted that this was a client amendment to the case file so your agency may handle it multiple ways but unless you provide them really good reason they have the right to review and amend the record now that doesn't mean take out something that you put in there because once something's in the record it's in the record henceforth and forevermore but they can add an addendum and so can you all right HIPAA and hi-tech these protect insurance coverage of workers when they're when they change or lose their job this is the idea what it was supposed to be for its safeguards the privacy of their information so if you're changing jobs or whatever you know nobody can really access your information to find out anything about you before they hire you etc it combats waste in healthcare delivery because it insures or hope hopefully ensures that we're communicating and the portability part of HIPAA means clients can take their record from one place to the other so you don't have to duplicate the intake and all a bunch of the other stuff necessarily and it simplifies administration of health insurance those were the that was the hope of HIPAA it kind of ballooned out of that so what do we need to know about HIPAA medical records are legal documents all states have policies regarding record retention medical records of adults are retained for seven years medical records of minors may be retained for longer so you need to know what your state requirements are agencies and solo practitioners should have policies identifying retention and storage policies so how long do you store it how do you store it how do you keep it safe who has access to it yada yada yada back to CFR 42 all records must remove patient identifying information and sanitize software printer ribbons FAQs hard drives and printer hard drives when you're talking about disposing of files you need to dispose of them in a way that removes patient identifying information and if you use hard copy still if you have software and this includes the hard drive in your copier a lot of people forget that one that has to be wiped and printer ribbons have to be destroyed fax hard drives have to be destroyed and printer hard drives have to be wiped and I guess wiping is really what we're calling it you don't have to actually physically destroy it but it has to be completely wiped don't just delete the file if you delete the file it goes in bits and pieces into your computer's never-never-land so to speak but people can put those pieces back together that's actually what my husband does for his you know career is find those pieces that have had been lost or somebody tried to delete something and he gets it back all client records and identifying information must be kept out of sight of unauthorized personnel well we know that so we keep our records behind to close to closed and locked doors okay that's great we have passwords in order to get into computer systems that's great but there are other things like lists and rosters you know sign-in sheets technically are supposed to be kept out of sight and people aren't supposed to be identifying information attendance records you don't want have want to have clients coming up and signing their own attendance record where they can see who and their groups been there for the past five days and who hasn't appointment schedules you don't want to be a client a client to be able to see what your schedule is for the week and who's coming in to see you computerized information must be on an encrypted hard drive full encryption of the whole hard drive not just that one folder client records need to be kept you know secure and phone messages you don't want to have the secretary sitting there with 17 phone messages across her desk while other people are coming in and checking in and then looking and going oh I didn't know Bob Jones was the client here so you need to make sure that phone messages are kept you know if they have the little message sheets keep them in a like a cigar box or a pencil box and then disseminate them to the therapists as appropriate therapists do the same thing don't have receipt books or phone messages just out where any client can see them if you discontinue your program you decide to close your practice or your practice gets bought by somebody else it must you must remove patient identifying information from your records or destroy your records including sanitizing any associated hard copies or electronic media to render the patient identifying information non retrievable in a manner consistent with the policies and procedures established under CFR 42 part 2 unless the patient gives written consent to transfer the records to the acquiring program so if somebody buys your program your your practice you have to keep those files for that 7 year period or whatever but and you're not going to transfer those unless you have written release from the client or if there's a legal requirement that records be kept for a period specified by law which doesn't expire until after the discontinuation or acquisition of the program so again if you haven't met your 7-year requirement that's generally a legal requirement you still have to hold on to those records but you're not going to pass them on and definitely not pass them on with patient identifying information to the new program unless you have a written release records which are paper must be sealed in envelopes or other containers and labeled as follows records of insert name of program required to be maintained under insert the statute or regulation until a date no later than insert the appropriate date so basically it says I have to hold on everything in this box or in this envelope that is sealed until XYZ date and time at which time it will be destroyed all hardcopy media from which the paper records were produced also need to be sanitized in order to render the data non retrievable records which are electronic must be transferred to a portable electronic device with implemented encryption so a hard drive that has that is encrypted so there's a low probability of assigning meaning without the use of confidential processes or key so you know what's on that hard drive it's encrypted so nobody else can access it even if you know they were to put it into a computer but you still have the client information there the electronic records must be transferred along with a backup copy to separate electronic media so that both records and the backup have implemented encryption so you don't want to just have one hard drive because hard drives can fail you need to have backups in order to say you're securely sir securely saving the data within one year of the discontinuation or acquisition of the program all electronic media on which the patient records or patient identifying information resided prior to being transferred must be sanitized so again you want to check with your legal department to see where the seven year rule falls but if it's outside of that seven year rule then definitely within a year after that the information needs to be destroyed portable electronic vise device or the original backup electronic media must be sealed in a container along with any equipment needed to read or access the information this is important because technology moves quickly and you know back when I started working on computers we had those you know five and a quarter floppy disks you can't find a computer now that can read those most computers don't even have CD drives in them anymore everything has to be on a thumb drive so you need to make sure that not only is the information there but it will be readable in the future and then there's a special thing records of this program required to be maintained under this legal authority until a date not later than duh so you want to label everything so you know what it is when it's to be destroyed okay so many agencies govern the content scope and quality of documentation the single state authority or SSA in your state has state service and licensing rules so it's important to communicate with your SSA and that's generally also the agency that does your licensing so when you get licensed as an independent provider you'll know what the regulations are the SSA may set forth time frames for documentation completion and who needs to sign and credential the documents so if you're a registered intern or you're not certified yet who has to co-sign on your documentation accreditation bodies also put their two cents in about documentation and they addressed quality from an organizational leadership and client care perspective so generally accreditation bodies are looking at quality of care and quality of documentation so good quality documentation will hopefully show good quality care many agencies govern the content scope and quality of documentation including third-party payers who set the guidelines through their level of care guidelines and other provider agencies so if you are when I worked with the Department of Corrections for example they had certain very specific requirements for the documentation of my clients so what types of documentation are there there's lots screening is the first type of documentation and good screening identifies the referral source the presenting problems background biopsychosocial information and this isn't going to be an in-depth everything but it's going to get a general idea about what's going on so we can rule out or rule in physical issues social relationship interpersonal issues as well as psychological issues is going to note the person's emotional and mental status at that time it will note their strengths and preferences for treatment for recovery for interventions and it will make a recommendation for assessment or other referral as needed so sometimes screenings just happen like it workplace affairs the screening happens and it's like yep you seem to be fine no further action needed by the bank and that chart is closed for others you may determine that the person may need a physical to rule out you know things like hyperthyroid that may be causing symptoms that look like hypomanic symptoms or look like stimulant intoxication you may need to refer to detox you may there are a lot of referrals that may need to be made but a screening is not a diagnostic interview it's when you identify whether there's a likelihood that the person may have a problem that needs further assessment intervention documentation so intervention is like your entry level services intervention documentation includes client identifying information the source of the referral client placement information you know why were they put into your program when were they put in how long are they going to be there the screening information that got them to that point informed consent for services including any drug testing that may be required and drug testing has its own form that needs to be signed dated credentialed by the client and counselor and witnessed and if you've done drug tests you know all this but it's important to get that informed consent for intervention services there's a release of information that has all the ten necessary components as needed so if you need to talk to a referral source get a release of information signed the intervention plan which is a lot broader or whatever you want to say than a treatment plan is signed dated and credentialed by the client and counselor and witness so you know you know this with your documentation you've probably done this already you know with intakes and everything else the client signs it you sign it you both date it and you have to make sure your credentials are on it if you're not already certified or licensed then you have to have somebody who is certified or licensed cosign on it most of the time intervention documentation also includes copies of correspondence or reports with referral sources and a transfer or discharge summary at the end of the intervention service administrative documentation in general this is going to be the stuff that's used for billing it's not the clinical it needs to be accurate concise include recommendations referrals case consultations legal reports family sessions and discharge summaries what you're like well that's kind of clinical isn't it a little bit but in order to get reimbursed the administrative side of things we have to have good documentation in all of those areas administrative documentation is conducted at admission and specified intervals throughout care so your administrative documentation is going to be a reassessment it's going to be your treatment plan updates it's going to be all of those things so types of administrative documentation your client identifying and demographic information referral source name and address financial information assigned client rights document assigned informed consent for treatment document any releases of information that you need assigned orientation to the program indicating that the client did receive orientation outcome measures that help identify whether your program is being successful and when you know when JimBob meets these criteria he or she is going to be ready for discharge and client placement information that goes back to your a sam or your locus medical documentation which is often in another section of the file includes the medical history the nursing assessment the physical exam the lab tests which almost always have to include a TB and pre-admission physical records of medical prescriptions and changes in medications that occurred you know what prescriptions were the person on when they got there and what what did they take while they were in your program even if you're not residential you need to know what meds they're on and any changes that their doc may make or your doc and what are they discharged with your medication administration records so if you're in residential then the client is probably going to or may receive medication while he or she is there so the medication administration records need to become part of the chart to show you know when Jim Bob took his medication who administered it and yadda-yadda and nursing notes so any notes that your staff nurse makes regarding the client's progress now clinical documentation is the stuff that we enjoy doing screening assessment treatment planning progress notes and your discharge summary so we're going to get into those in the in a few minutes I do want to mention electronic health records really quickly because you know you have all this administrative medical and clinical documentation a lot of times now it's going into an electronic health record health information technology is the secure management of health information on computerized systems it helps track data over time track progress of those who leave treatment and monitor quality care within practice just like documentation does but when it's on a computer it's a whole lot easier to run a program and get pretty little charts spit out behavioral health lags in adoption of these electronic health records because of cost technical limitations you know there's a lot of different players who want different things so creating a standardized electronic health record for behavioral health has been really difficult lack of standardization of data elements lack of interoperability of systems between you know doctors and therapists and whatever you know you have to have if your doctor has a system made by X Y Z and you have a system made by Acme they still have to be able to talk it's kind of like getting an apple or a Mac computer and a Windows computer to talk doesn't always happen so we need to make sure that the different electronic health records out there can communicate with one another attitudinal constraints we don't like change an organizational lack of expertise in health information technology management most programs don't have a technology director especially smaller programs so integrating this is really overwhelming and it can be really costly if everybody has to have a computer in order to put in there their client information general elements of clinical documentation whether it's administrative clinical or medical must be clear concise accurate written in ink time stamped or dated so you have to have all that information in there if you write I've had some staff members their handwriting was atrocious you could not read their notes or their assessments to save their life that is not good clinical documentation because it doesn't help anybody documentation is an ongoing responsibility for all professionals and should be completed as soon as possible after the contact don't wait until Friday to do all your notes for the week ethically you need to do it as soon as possible and I'll give you a little hint when I do groups oftentimes I will have a sheet that I pass out at the end of group has the client identify three things they got out of group and then you know a couple other questions about you know how they're feeling if they feel like they need a treatment plan reassessment and just a few other things to give me information then I have something in the clients handwriting to put in the chart but I also have the brunt of the progress note kind of done already and if you use soap notes or DAP notes you can kind of put that on there and have the client fill out what they think they would put for their notes that's helpful in group for individual individual sessions are generally supposed to be 45 to 50 minutes so I end right about 45 minutes maybe a little longer tend to run late and the client and I create the progress note together that way they review what we talked about they review the progress they've made they review what they're supposed to be doing in the upcoming week and they know what's going in the chart so it's not mystical and magical you know they are an active participant and I have the note done before the end of the hour so it's kind of a win-win-win all around okay documentation of sure's accountability the responsibility for accurately representing the client situation rests with the counselor and the clinical record not the client so like I'm saying we can get all of this input from the client but making sure that it's accurate when we put it in there and you know pulling it all together is incumbent upon us good clinical documentation spares the client from repeating painful details so we're not going to have them you know if you're talking with a client about a trauma situation you're gonna put enough in your clinical record that you don't have to have them remind you you know remind me again about what happened when your house burned down or what no that's rude um so you want to have enough documentation that gives you an overview or the next counselor sort of an overview of what happened and then if they need to delve into details later they can language language must be objective but descriptive so if you're saying that the client is decompensating well that doesn't tell me anything in what way as evidenced by you know the client is I diagnosed with the client with depression because they have these symptoms as evidenced by that is your best friend phrase as evidenced by documentation must identify persons places direct quotations and sources of information so if the client says you know I'm really feeling off my game you can put that in there so we know kind of where the clients coming from we want to use direct quotes from collateral sources that we get and identify who gave us this information clinical documentation is a legal record and the clinicians signature and credentialing indicates the truthfulness of it so if you sign it then it happened the treatment plan good treatment plans are hard to come by they're really easy to write if you don't overthink it but I find that most people overthink it so there's a hole that's actually a couple of classes on treatment planning because it is so important not only to guide treatment but to help clients learn how to set goals and achieve them treatment plans are a contract between the client counselor and treatment team each being responsible for its development and implementation the clinician needs to recognize that treatment occurs in different settings over time so you know treatment may be happening but you know counseling is only part of what going on there also in maybe case management or vocational rehabilitation or you know so treatment occurs medical in different settings and we need to be able to integrate all that into the treatment plan much of the recovery process occurs outside of or immediately following formal treatment when people do their homework assignments and they have their aha moments when they generalize their progress when they create that support system on the outside treatment is often divided into phases engagement stabilization primary treatment and continuing care treatment planning plots out a roadmap for the treatment process treatment plans are completed once a diagnosis is made a level of care is determined and the client is admitted to the program now after the initial assessment there's usually an initial treatment plan done but the real treatment plan generally needs to be completed within three to five days after admission once the clinician has finished the assessment paperwork and everything level of care is determined based on diagnosis and the clients strengths and assets so if you're familiar with the a Sam for example recovery environment is one of those dimensions that we look at and if they've got a really strong recovery environment then the option may be or decision may be made to refer the person to eiope instead of residential whereas if they have a really poor recovery environment then we may opt to refer the person to residential so they have a better chance in the first 30 to 60 days of you know getting a handle on things treatment plans address all biopsychosocial needs not just mental health they establish what changes are expected through achievable goals clarifies what interventions and counseling methods will be used to help the patient achieve those goals sets the measures that will be used to gauge success and that's where we go with as evidenced by again so if the client says you know instead of saying I'm going to quit using drugs they may say I'm going to develop a healthier life so how do we know when the client has developed what he or she defines as a healthier lifestyle well as evidenced by I'm going to develop a healthier lifestyle as evidenced by getting eight to nine hours of sleep a night eating a relatively nutritious diet as decided upon but between myself and the dietitian developing healthy support systems yada yada you see what I'm getting at so you're going to be able to go through and anybody would be able to go through and Mark off and say either yes or no achieved it achieved it achieved it achieve the goal so it's kind of a yes or no thing treatment planning incorporates the clients strengths needs abilities and preferences and I'm big on this you all probably know that if you took our addiction counselor certification training course temperament is huge extroverts and introverts have different needs judgers and perceivers have different needs auditory and visual learners have different needs and people in general based on their culture and just their cognitive aptitudes are going to have different strengths and needs so we want to form the treatment plan around the clients strengths and build off what's already there what already works referrals are made to other agencies as needed when referrals are made collaboration is essential to keep clients from falling through the cracks so treatment planning is going to identify you know client will get enrolled for Medicaid well you're probably not going to do that so you're going to identify who the client is going to see at whatever office they've got to go to in order to get enrolled in Medicaid but that's going to be part of the treatment plan treatment planning information even within the agency is restricted to need-to-know and treatment plans may have to be co-signed by a clinician who is already certified or licensed the function of the treatment plan well treatment planning is an action-oriented process that lays out logical goal directed strategies for making positive changes just like if you're going to make lasagna from scratch and you're gonna follow a recipe same sort of thing here and based on your preferences you know when I make my marinara sauce I use roma tomatoes that is my preference I know other people who use different kinds of tomatoes so different preferences I know that I want to do it in a shorter period of time so I'm not going to make the the noodles from scratch that's a need that I have because I don't have the time to make noodles from scratch so my recipe is going to be slightly different than my stepfather's recipe but that's okay and treatment planning is the same way just think of it very very simplistically like a recipe don't get too overwhelmed and tried trying to make it too complex because clients aren't going to be able to make complex treatment plans and treatment planning establishes a collaboration between you and the client so you can mutually prioritize agreeable goals you figure out what do you want I've worked with clients who were involuntary and you know they didn't really want to quit using however they were on probation and they wanted to get off probation well I wanted them to get off probation but I wanted him to quit using in order to get off probation they had to be clean during the time they were in treatment so that became our goal because that was mutually agreeable you know it's like well your goal is to get off probation in order to do that you got to stay clean so let's work together to make that happen during the next 16 weeks and generally it worked that way achievable goals are selected by assessing and prioritizing client needs and taking into account their level of impairment if you've got a client who is significantly impaired they've got major clinical depression they're detoxing from five years of stimulant abuse they're not going to be going out and getting a job next week that's you know well down the road so the goals we're looking at now are more like stabilization and engagement you want to take into account motivation what does the client want to achieve because they're not going to be real motivated to achieve what you want to achieve unless they want to get out they want to get discharged from the program successfully and in order to do that they've got to meet your goals but ideally help them identify goals that are meaningful to them and you're going to look at the real world influences on needs so if they're going to be discharged in 30 days even though they may not be quite ready to start looking for housing if they need to have housing when they get out in 30 days then that's probably going to be a high priority treatment plan goal because you don't want them being discharged to the street treatment plants consider client needs readiness preferences and prior treatment history looking at what did and didn't work because there's no sense repeating something that you've done four times that hasn't worked yet we're going to look at their personal goals and then we'll look at obstacles like transportation and childcare and those sorts of things that might preclude someone from going into residential or make it difficult for them to get the evening IOP for example treatment plans have SMART goals specific measurable achievable realistic and time limited these goals are broken down into smaller objectives so you know think about it like you want to climb a staircase well that's great that's your goal you want to climb a staircase in the next 45 days wonderful you're gonna be taking a little while at each step but each step is an objective so your end goal is the top of the staircase what is the first thing you need to do to start moving towards the top of that staircase what's your first step all right once you get that done what's the next thing you got to do again think of the recipe first thing you've got to do is find the recipe then you've got to figure out what you've got on hand then you've got to figure out you know what you need from the store then you've got to go shopping you know one step at a time don't make it too complex treatment plans anticipate the type duration and frequency of services so you know a lot of times we may say if they're in IOP there's going to be three hours a day five days week for the first month and then once they accomplish certain goals then they can step down to three hours a day three days a week etc treatment plans identify who's responsible for what so if the client has to go do something it's going to be clearly indicated that the client needs to make the appointment with social services to get enrolled in programming versus the counselor will make the appointment for the client to go to Social Services you know whoever supposed to do it it needs to be noted and there has to be a timetable you know this needs to be accomplished by X date if it doesn't get accomplished by X date it's not the end of the world however you need to do a reassessment and go okay why didn't this happen what do we need to adjust it incorporates client input and participation in development it helps the client prioritize presenting issues so I mean they come in and generally there's a whole litany of stuff that they need to work on and it can feel really overwhelming but I liken it to a woven blanket for clients that woven blanket is over your head right now you can't breathe you can't see it's miserable it's hot any string you pull on is gonna start making air holes in that blanket and making it lighter and eventually you will unravel the whole blanket so let's figure out you know of the issues that you've got going on right now which are most you think are most important to work on and which are you most motivated to work on what string are you willing to pull first you get input from client on their goals and objectives so what is there as evidenced by look like you know if I am happier as opposed to being depressed what is that going to look like if I am healthier as opposed to unhealthy what is that going to look like how am I going to know when I'm living a healthier lifestyle and both the counselor and client sign the plan the clinician may also facilitate and manage referrals because oftentimes we don't have case management that we can rely on at minimum the plan is a flexible document that uses a stage match process to address identified substance use disorders so stage match process if you think back to the stages of readiness for change pre contemplation contemplation preparation action and maintenance each stage requires different interventions so that's tip 35 from Samsa if you need to refresh it looks at the recovery support environment it addresses potential potential mental health conditions you know based on readiness for change for that issue you know somebody may be in the action stage of readiness for change on their substance use but not you know ready to do a lot about their anxiety it's usually the opposite but whatever so you need to make sure that you stage match by issue because the person is not just going to be globally in the action stage of change there are going to be some things that they're not really that ready to work on yet you want to identify potential medical issues employment education spiritual issues social needs and legal needs and there are other things like childcare and other wraparound services that can go into this too but these are the big ones initial treatment plans are done an admission or within 24 hours based on information from the assessment and screening and serves as the initial roadmap they include presenting problems preliminary goals type frequency and duration of service and the signature and date of the client and counselor with counselor credentials so again this is the initial treatment plan as you get into treatment and start to know the client a little bit better you're going to formulate a more in-depth treatment plan this one has to be done either at admission or within 24 hours an individualized treatment plan has the problem and a problem description that answers the question why are you here that's the problem not the goal I'm here because I have a substance use disorder what's my goal to not have a substance use disorder it identifies the clients strengths you know we are going to build on strengths so client will build on his to stay clean and sober yada yada it has concrete measurable goals concrete means you can observe them you can see them you can either say yes it was done or no it wasn't not yeah it was probably accomplished it's yes or not the objectives are there so that big goal is broken down into those smaller steps it has strategies for achieving those smaller steps so you know if the first step is to start building a recovery support network well that's wonderful how are you going to do that strategies answer how you start going to a a meetings you know start going back to church call up your five closest friends that are healthy supports whatever the treatment plan includes the diagnosis usually that's up at the top the signature of the client and counselor and the signature of the clinical supervisor if required ongoing assessment and collaboration is used to regularly regularly review the treatment plan and make necessary modifications many IOP and residential programs have to review the treatment plan once a week with the client and get the client to sign off sometimes you get a 30-day reprieve but you need to know what your payers and your state requires review should be completed at minimum at major or key points in the client's treatment course including admission obviously you're going to develop it readmission you know maybe they discharged and they were out for three months and then they relapsed and they're back well you may be able to look at their treatment plan and see where they're supposed to be because they were in an IO P program and work with that but you're gonna need to reassess it at readmission at transfer at discharge if there's a major change in their condition such as you know they'd have a manic episode or they're admitted to the crisis stabilization unit for suicidal ideation you're gonna do a reassessment and after 12 months regardless of what's going on after 12 months progress notes document the clients progress in relationship treatment plan goals and objectives each progress note should have the problem name and number because most clients will have like three treatment plan problems and then multiple like say eight objectives underneath it so maybe substance abuse recovery is the first treatment plan problem okay so that's problem number one and goal number a if you will the first goal is to start developing a recovery support system so in the treatment plan if I talk with the client about developing that recovery support system then I'm going to identify that we talked about problem 1a and what we what we addressed the progress note identifies what the client says and does generally I mean you're not going to do it verbatim it puts in counselor observations and assessments if the client seems to be doing really well as evidenced by and the clients observations and assessments I always put those in there too how do they think they're doing and what's their evidence as evidenced by and continued plans to address the presenting problem you also may need to document any new information if they get into a new relationship get a new job breakup whatever that will go in the progress notes the format for most people is the soap format the first part is the specific objective information and the last part is the assessment the interpretations and the plan for how to proceed you want to document the clients progress progress notes are based on what the client says and it does what the clinician observes the clients attitude demeanor nonverbals you know how compliant they are with treatment the counselors knowledge and experience so counselors are going to be able to differentiate between a lapse and a relapse for example they're going to be able to differentially diagnose if the client starts presenting with some symptoms of depression for example the clinician is going to rule out the use of depressant substances they're going to rule out detoxification from stimulants they're going to rule out hopefully medical conditions and they may rule in mood disorders or something so differential diagnosis is important to look at the physical and other potential causes for symptoms and danger to self or others I encourage my staff at every single treatment meeting to identify whether the client had any suicidal or homicidal ideation espoused I mean if they said I'm suicidal or I wish I could end it all that needs to be documented and to identify if the client had future plans was oriented to place and time you know just a general Mini Mental Status exam at every contact is really good to protect you and even in group I mean you're looking at people and are they bright and are they oriented and are they talking about future things or they withdrawn and sad and tearful and talk about how you know there doesn't seem any point in being there well you know if you hear that you probably need to pull them aside and talk to them more in depth so you know get a some documentation that you had good contact with the client and you have a good kind of idea about the pulse of things progress notes are not a verbatim transcript but a cohesive summary so one page you know don't write a dissertation the discharge summary discharge planning begins at admission discharge planning begins at admission okay I know I said it twice because it's that important you see client Jim Bob and you know your things are going well but then client Jim Bob goes out and relapses and never comes back well he's discharged at that point you don't know when the client is going to discharge necessarily so if you begin discharge planning at admission which actually is required by most insurance companies then you have a plan and you and Jim Bob have made a plan for this is how you're going to progress these are the options and resources available to you so Jim Bob has something to work off of in case he never returns you want to summarize in your discharge summary the service is delivered you know the discharge summary is done when Jim Bob is actually discharging discharge planning begins at admission so the discharge summary summarizes any services you did deliver how well the client accomplished goals and objectives and any discharge recommendations including referrals continuing care etc the elements of the discharge plan include the referral source you know because this is going to go back to the referral source saying Jim Bob discharged this is the summary of what happened presenting problems and the reason for services treatment goals methods and outcomes outcomes generally pertain to the person's ability to attain recovery build resistance and work learn live and fully participate in the community of choice so discharge summary is basically a big summary of the entire treatment episode it's going to indicate the condition of the client at discharge your prognosis and you know that's a little subjective but we got to make it follow up recommendations including continuing care and the aftercare plan and the counselors signature date and credentials you want to include the reasons for discharge on the discharge summary but reasons for discharge can be varied treatment completion that's the idea they may lead leave AMA or against medical advice that's not so ideal but it happens treatment non-compliance they're just not getting with the program or they're showing up and they're under the influence or you know a variety of reasons that it's therapeutically indicated to discharge them or treatment was just incomplete you know again they left before treatment finished they just it wasn't some what treatment incomplete is a lot like AMA but those are the four main reasons for discharge identified for the review exam organization of documentation is gonna vary a little bit between each agency but each page has to have the clients name and some sort of identifying number all entries must be signed if you make an error in documentation you line through it once you don't scratch it out you line through it once initial it date it and write error above it notes of any sort should never be removed from a file if you have late entries or Corrections they're put in as a separate document and noted as an addendum to you know progress note from to one of 18 or whatever so clinical document character at documentation characteristics need to be written knowing that others will read it it needs to be objective you know stay away from vague terms like client is doing well if you use a vague term then explain it as evidenced by uses descriptive behavioral terms client is oriented to person place and time not client seems to be with it today you know you want to use descriptive behavioral kind of clinical terms it avoids jargon so you don't want to overuse clinical clinical terms and it keep it simple again remember the client may read this it's concise and it's positive you know these are the steps the client is making this is the progress the client is making yes the client has had a setback but hey he returned for treatment and you know we're picking up and figuring out what we did wrong you don't want to be doomsaying and talking about how the client is non-compliant and resistant and just doesn't seem to want to be here and you want to keep it as positive as possible focusing on the strengths and the progress and making lemonade whenever you your client gives you lemons all right well that was a lot that we 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Physiology of Addiction and Mental Health Issues

this episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing education webinar   on-demand CEUs are still available for this presentation through all   CEUs register at allceus.com/counselortoolbox I’d like to welcome everybody to today’s presentation of addiction and co-occurring disorders   part two the physiology of addiction and mental health issues over the next hour we’re going to   discuss somewhat generally because there’s a a lot of stuff to go over neurotransmitters which   we’ve talked about some before but then we’re also going to talk a little bit more today than we’ve   talked in the past about sex hormones thyroid hormones and stress hormones and how all of those   interact in the body to increase or decrease the availability of certain neurotransmitters we’re   going to go on from learning about the different hormones and neurotransmitters to discussing   the physics all the physiology of emotion and motivation and again we’ve kind of covered that   but we’re going to go over it real quick again we’ll talk about the physiology of sleep what   happens during sleep and what happens to those hormones or neurotransmitters when you don’t   get enough sleep what happens when you eat why is eating sometimes rewarding what happens when   people take stimulants whether it’s caffeine or methamphetamine what happens when we turn up the   system and how does that affect the availability of certain neurotransmitters and then we’ll talk   about the physiology of depressants so we’re looking in general at what these things do as   far as the physiology of addiction we’re going to talk generally about that right at the very   end so your inhibitory neurotransmitters are those brain chemicals turn down   the system so instead of being hyped up and awake and yadda-yadda your calm you are relaxed you are   maybe even sleepy too drowsy so your inhibitory neurotransmitters are the ones that kick   in or counteract the excitatory ones serotonin is your primary inhibitory neurotransmitter it’s   broken down to make melatonin and help you sleep okay so we know that it’s also responsible   for a lot of our bowel function angle and also for not it’s implicated in nausea and motion   sickness and they found that there are a lot fewer side effects to serotonin antagonists than there   are to dopamine antagonists when we’re talking about helping people who have motion sickness   and nausea so anyway just a little aside there but serotonin is 80 percent of it is actually in your   GI tract and it is implicated in bowel function so when we’re thinking about clients who may have   an imbalance in serotonin and who may have greater pain sensitivity we want to start thinking about   you know how is their GI working and is are some of their problems with you know stomach problems   pain irritable bowel that kind of stuff is that caused by a serotonin imbalance or is that causing   a serotonin imbalance or maybe serotonin is not implicated at all and it’s something completely   different serotonin is also implicated in anxiety and aggression if you don’t have enough of it you   tend to be more anxious and aggressive because you’re not having the turn down if you will low   serotonin has also been implicated in poor impulse control so we like serotonin but we   found and we’re gonna talk about that throughout this class of serotonin has often been given the   go-ahead or been implicated for a whole lot of things and we’ve said okay if this happens then   it’s low serotonin if this happens then it’s low serotonin and as it goes but no the research is finding that that’s rarely true that most of our problems whether it be GI problems   or mental health problems or addictive issues don’t necessarily involve serotonin at all there   is a subset of people for whom it does but the majority of people which is why antidepressants   are ineffective for about 70 percent of the population for them shortie of the people it’s not   serotonin so we do want to keep that in the back of our mind yes serotonin is everywhere throughout   the body 80% of it is in our gut and our gut is not necessarily going to communicate directly   with our brain we cannot measure neurotransmitter levels effectively in a live human being just not   how it works right now there are tests out there that say they can measure your neurotransmitter   levels and that’s true but it’s not telling you how much of that neurotransmitter is in your gut   or your muscles or wherever versus in your brain so those tests for our purposes as mental   health clinicians and people who come to us who may want to know well what antidepressant should   I be on they’re not all that effective okay so depression has been debunked as   being linked to serotonin in the majority of cases serotonin is implicated as one of those   neurotransmitters involved in pain control in people with lower serotonin tend to have a lower pain   threshold so it hurts more and that doesn’t mean that they’re sissies or anything like that   it just means that they are more reactive or they feel more pain because they don’t have the same   level of serotonin and maybe endogenous opioids kind of coursing through their system serotonin is   also like I said involved in sleep an interesting fact is that alcohol impairs the body’s ability   to convert tryptophan which is an amino acid to serotonin so when you have somebody who’s   an alcoholic let’s think about how this works if they are drinking and maybe they’re eating   a perfectly healthy diet and they just happen to drink a lot if their body can’t convert tryptophan   to serotonin then all of these problems up here that may be implicated by low serotonin can start   to rear their ugly head because the body can’t To make serotonin out of anything else it has to make   it from tryptophan and if it can’t make serotonin then it can’t make melatonin which is involved in   sleep and you’re gonna see how important all that is later so the take-home message with that is   that alcohol is something to be considered for moderation especially if we have a client who   is struggling with depression maybe they’re not an alcoholic but they need to consider the long-term   impact if they want to feel better is preventing their body from making using the building blocks   to make the neurotransmitters that they may need is it worth that drink remember that serotonin has been found in research to be implicated in low serotonin is implicated in   people with generalized anxiety disorders so it hasn’t been completely just been debunked   for everything but researchers and clinicians finally are starting to realize that there are   a multitude of reasons that somebody could have a mood issue that somebody could have even low   serotonin okay if the person has low serotonin alright that’s fine let’s address it but what   is causing the low serotonin we’ll look at that more in the next few slides GABA is your   other major inhibitory neurotransmitter it has sedative depressive and anti-anxiety properties   to them the really interesting thing it’s and when I say depressive I mean it slows down everything   it’s not that it makes people depressed but it’s your anti-anti-anxiety natural anti-anxiety   neurotransmitter helps improve concentration by filtering out background noise so you’re able to   focus a little bit better when you’ve got normal levels of gaba help with impulse control   think about when you’re anxious when you’re a little bit revved up when you’re stressed out   and somebody scares you maybe you’re a little bit more jumpy well think about if you have GABA at   the right levels in your system and you’re not stressed out and somebody scares you are you as   jumpy are you as impulsive a lot of our impulses are associated with wanting to make a threat or   a pain go away so if you’re not perceiving as many threats you’re probably not going to be as   impulsive another little interesting side thing is that glucose you know sugar is necessary for the   formation of GABA so people with hypoglycemia can have a reduction in GABA and an increase   in anxiety so think about if your blood sugar gets low even if you are not hypoglycemic but   you know you got to work back-to-back patients you didn’t take time for lunch yet back-to-back   patients you’re on the drive home from the office your blood Sugar’s low you are you more likely to   respond with some anxiety or irritability to things that happen versus when you are well   nourished and your blood sugar is kind of stable for most people, they’re gonna say yeah I tend to   be a little bit cranky err when my blood sugar is low and shake gear alright so those are our   two inhibitory neurotransmitters glutamate is generally acknowledged to be the most important   neurotransmitter for brain functioning and it’s excitatory it gets you up it gets you   going it gives you energy and it’s responsible for helping us learn and remember things so if   you’ve got low levels of glutamate you know you might have difficulty concentrating and learning   now the interesting thing is that glutamine which is an amino acid you eat glutamine   is converted into glutamate all right well that makes sense so you eat something it is turned   into this neurotransmitter that’s excitatory the interesting thing is gaba is made by the breakdown   of glutamate so you have if you have glutamate then you can have Gaba if you don’t have enough   glutamate then you’re not going to have enough GABA so it’s a balance like taking a warm bath   and you know this is important to remember simply because we want to know what’s rubbing   us up and what’s slowing us down norepinephrine or noradrenaline depending on where you are is what   they call a catecholamine it increases arousal and alertness promotes vigilance and focuses attention   so you’re hearing a theme here about attention and memory it enhances the formation and retrieval   of memories so in your norepinephrine that’s your motivation chemical is secreted it encourages you   to pay attention to remember and to be able to go and file things away and access them easily it can also promote restlessness and anxiety if you have too much so it’s all about moderation   when I talk about too much or too little of a neurotransmitter everything is always about all of the other neurotransmitters and hormones so we can’t just necessarily get a measurement and   go well you’ve got too much of this well we have to know what the levels of everything else are it   would be kind of like making a marinara sauce and saying you a teaspoon of garlic is how much you   need but that teaspoon would be enough if you were making maybe two quarts of marinara sauce   but if you are making 4 gallons all of the other spices and everything would be in much   larger proportions so what a teaspoon be enough so we need to know what proportions all the other   chemicals are at in order to know how much we need and since we can’t measure them we’re just kind of   left guessing dopamine is another catecholamine and it’s broken down to make norepinephrine now   normally we think of dopamine as our pleasure reward chemical which it is don’t get me wrong   it’s that’s what is there for and it tells us I want to do that again but it’s broken down to   make our focus concentration motivation chemical interesting so we need dopamine to make   norepinephrine we need norepinephrine to want to get up and go so if we are draining our dopamine   system through addictive behaviors or some other reason guess what we’re not going to be able to   make enough nor epinephrine or those receptors that usually receive the norepinephrine and the   dopamine are going to be basically unresponsive and you’re going to knock on the door and nobody’s   going to open so dopamine is broken down to make norepinephrine which is your motivation chemical   high levels of dopamine in the brain generally enhance mood and increase body movement too   much dopamine may produce nervousness irritability aggressiveness and paranoia so think about cocaine   if somebody takes a whole lot of really good cocaine this is probably what we’re going to   see because the levels of dopamine in their brain just skyrocketed and everything else didn’t catch   up there was no signal to all the other chemicals to go okay we’re gonna have a surge here so we   have all of those neurotransmitters that are responsible for helping us feel happy serotonin   helps us feel theoretically calm and content and focused gaba is an anti-anxiety medication   or not medication but a neurotransmitter and then dopamine glutamate and norepinephrine are all   of our excitatory ones they’re the ones that get us guess what excited happy excited mad excited   whatever the excited is they Rev us up and that’s what we label with our emotional feeling states   so what is this HPA axis thing that I talk about every once in a while in response to stress the   level of various hormones change and reactions to stress is associated with an enhanced secretion   of several hormones including your gluta Co corticoids which is cortisol your catecholamines   to increase mobilization of energy sources which is blah blah blah blah blah you get   stressed your body sends out the message that we need some energy we need some fuel for this   fight-or-flight response cortisol is activated and it’s a glue to co corticoid which tells your body   we need to prepare we need to get some glucose going so got energy for this fight-or-flight   thing catecholamines adrenaline and dopamine are released that’s your body going okay we have this   energy now let’s get the team revved up the other thing that happens though is jörgen a door opens   are suppressed your body goes you know we don’t really have time for sex right now so let’s not   worry about it so your sex hormones tend to be suppressed under high stress levels okay well   who cares you’re gonna find out in a little while but that’s kind of a big deal because there is a   strong relationship between the amount of and the balance of our sex hormones and the availability   of serotonin-norepinephrine and dopamine in our bodies oh well sweet this here we are androgen or   testosterone what we want to look at is what does it do it helps helps us with concentration mood   and not enough of it can result in an increase in belly fat they found that in men depending on the   research that you look at somewhere between 30 and 40 years of age they start losing somewhere   between 1% and 1.5 percent of their testosterone each year and so you’re thinking well you know   that’s not that much but you’ve also got to remember that everything’s in a balance so   they’re losing their testosterone but what else is not decreasing estrogen so some articles have kind   of termed it manopause if you will the increase in estrogen can increase irritability difficulty   concentrating and belly fat as well as Gyna mastika or the development of excess fat in   the breast area so something interesting to look at if you’re dealing with patients male patients   who are over the age of 40 who are having suddenly if you will depression or anxiety issues or are   talking about their midlife crisis that those all of those things could be precipitated by in their neurochemistry because of a drop in testosterone not necessarily but it’s one   positive or one possible reason estrogen believe it or not is a neuro stimulant estrogen revs us   up receptors for estrogen are very abundant in the emotional center of the brain called the   amygdala and the hypothalamus which is involved in what we just talked about the HPA axis which   tells us to fight flea or freeze estrogen increases serotonin receptor responsive ‘it   increases the number of serotonin receptors in the body and enhances serotonin transport   and uptake so we might hypothesize and we don’t know any of this for sure that if someone’s mood   disorder started or fluctuates in response to fluctuations in their estrogen then there might   be a serotonin component to this mood disorder because estrogen is so intimately connected with   serotonin availability high levels of estrogen are associated with anxiety one thing that they found   in American culture and industrialized nations but especially American culture is we have a   lot of chemicals and stuff that we eat that tend to and habits that we do that tend to increase   our levels of estrogen creating something called estrogen dominance but high levels of estrogen are   associated with anxiety so one thing clients may want to do especially female clients but   you know if you have a male who is feeling like estrogen may be increasing too much I have them   look at what they’re doing as far as lifestyle factors to see if there’s anything that might be   increasing their estrogen levels low levels of estrogen are associated with depression because   there’s not enough serotonin going around but also because estrogen is a neuro stimulant and if it’s   not there then there’s no stimulation so alright so now looking at first we started implicating   just neurotransmitters and going well if you don’t have enough of this or too much of this then you   might be depressed well now we’ve added to the mix and said well guess what these imbalances   over here in the neurotransmitters may be caused by something completely different such as sex   hormones progesterone is another sex hormone an imbalance in the ratio with estrogen is implicated   in mood disorders so progesterone kind of calms down estrogen they’re yin & yang if you will kind   of like GABA and glutamate it’s referred to as the relaxation hormone the interesting thing here is   synthetic progesterone which is present in a lot of birth control is associated with depression   whereas naturally occurring progesterone levels haven’t had that same associate association drawn   in the research literature so another thing to look at with our female clients is possibly to   ask them have they and if they’re presenting with depressive symptoms have they changed their birth   control regimen or have they recently gotten pregnant or had a baby or stopped nursing and   that was one I learned you know when I stopped nursing my first child was your body actually   maintains different levels of hormones and makes sense maintains different levels of hormones when   you’re nursing so you’re producing milk and stuff and then when you stop nursing there’s a whole   different hormonal cascade that happens so there are multiple different times that estrogen can   change and progesterone levels can change ganado trope ins hormones synthesized and released by   the anterior pituitary promote the production of sex hormones so remember earlier I said that when   we’re under stress our body releases cortisol and cortisol tells our body you know what we   don’t need to produce those sex hormones right now so let’s connect it all if you’re under a lot of   stress you may not be producing enough estrogen which is why a lot of women when they’re under a   lot of stress tend to have more erratic cycles but even in men when your sex hormones are not being   produced because your body’s focused on fight or flee it makes the availability of serotonin   and norepinephrine and dopamine less available so chronic stress can alter the availability   of sex hormones which alter the availability of neurotransmitters okay you wanted some good news   we got some good news oxytocin is our bonding hormone and they found that it can counteract   cortisol and vice-versa it’s not just getting a hug though so I mean hugs are great don’t get me   wrong but a lot of research has indicated that people who have companion animals and pet their   companion animal it can be a horse it can be a dog it can be a cat a bunny rabbit whatever it   is that does it for you where you feel that sensation of bonding 15 minutes of petting   that animal raises oxytocin levels and which counteracts cortisol sweet thyroid hormones   yet a whole nother category so we’re moving off of the sex hormones onto our thyroid you have   two types of thyroid hormones thyroxine and the other one that I can’t pronounce t4 and   t3 t4 is broken down to make t3 they are always in a balance they’re always in a ratio too much   thyroid hormone which typically is t3 speeds things up and too little slows things down so   think about somebody who’s hypothyroid they have symptoms of depression one of the things we want   to rule out early on with our patients who present with the pressive symptoms is thyroid problems   the patients with too much thyroid hormone may present with anxiety symptoms so again we want   to look and say is there a physiological cause to the neurotransmitter imbalance the pituitary gland   hypothermic hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis so this is the middle of that stress axis here   the pituitary gland releases thyroid stimulating hormones to get the thyroid to release t4 and t3   majority of the thyroid hormones produced by the thyroid are t4 but t3 is the most usable form so   it sends out t4 which is kind of you know it’s just kind of there it’s not a real hard worker   at all but along the way it gets converted to 3 t3 which is a workhorse this conversion is the   critical element because a lot of times doctors will test thyroid secreting hormone and t4 alone   and they’ll say well you’re secreting enough and there’s plenty of t4 to be broken down to t3 so I   don’t know why you have hypothyroid symptoms but the piece that they’re missing is they may not be   we may not be adequately converting t4 to active t3 so it’s important if you think you have thyroid   issues going on to work with an endocrinologist who’s going to do more than just a superficial   test or if you go to a GP you have and they do just a TS h t4 test comes back normal but you’re   like no something’s not right there are more tests that can be done to be more specific about what’s   available because if we’ve got a client who goes to the doctor and says doc you know I feel awful I   can’t wake up I’ve got no energy they run these tests they say well there’s nothing wrong with   you that just disempowers the client the clients going well nothing’s wrong with me I don’t know   why I feel this way I have no hope for getting better because I don’t know what’s wrong so I   want to make sure that we educate them about all the possible things that they might be able to   look into I don’t dump all this on my clients at first you know when I go through the assessment I   start listening for things and then I encourage them to get a full blood panel done and then we   talk about all that when they come back and then narrow it down to other things that they   may want to look at further testing for if the general assessment didn’t come back with anything overactive thyroid produces anxiety feelings of nervousness butterflies heart racing trembling   irritability and sleep difficulties under activity depressive symptoms the other interesting thing   and I don’t know what other word to use is if it’s either overactive or underactive the   person can have mood swings and have sleeping difficulties so we don’t want to just say well   you’re having mood swings it must be hyper we don’t know so we want to look at maybe the   thyroid gland is sputtering and giving a little bit and then not enough and then a little bit   and then not enough it’s just important for them to understand what the thyroid hormone   does other cognitive issues difficulties with concentration short-term memory lapses and lack   of interest and mental alertness are also common in hypothyroid but they’re also common in a whole   bunch of other things I mean most of these sound like what the criteria for depression   so we’re trying to sort through and figure out what may be going on with that particular client hypothyroidism led to a significant decrease of responsiveness of the serotonin system so again   here’s something else if you don’t have enough estrogen or if you don’t have enough thyroid the   serotonin system may be implicated and we know that serotonin insufficiency is implicated in   generalized anxiety disorder so one of those little paths to kind of be aware of optimal   thyroid function may be necessary for optimal response to antidepressants antidepressants   mean the serotonin is still there but if estrogen and thyroid are responsible for transporting it   around and making sure it gets taken up in the right places then if those two systems   aren’t working no matter how much serotonin is in the system of it’s not getting to the   right places it’s not do the job hypothyroidism generally increases enzyme activities and GABA   levels now you may go well sweet we want more gaba but we don’t too much gaba has too much   of a depressive effect so the person may not be motivated may feel apathetic about things they   can’t get excited about anything so there is such a thing as being too chill thyroid hormone plays   a role in the output of dopamine the precursor to norepinephrine our motivation chemical not enough   thyroid hormone not enough excretion of dopamine not enough get up and go and norepinephrine has   also insufficient norepinephrine has also been implicated in depression so you know   serotonin is not even in there we’re talking about thyroid dopamine and norepinephrine stress hormones so we’ve moved on cortisol it’s released from that HPA axis cortisol   triggers a decrease in leptin and an increase in gralen which increases appetite and food intake   cortisol is telling you there is a threat we need energy we need to mobilize the sugars   because it’s a glucocorticoid but we also need to get more sugars in here so we have energy for the   fight-or-flight as long as it goes on which is why a lot of people who are chronically stressed also   feel like they’re chronically hungry they’re just like I’m famished all the time and it may not be   that their body needs all that energy all those calories right now their body may be hoarding it   because they think they’re going to have to it’s gonna have to fight or flight flee for a long   time cortisol also affects the endocrine system including thyroids insulin regulating blood sugar   and your sex hormones all right well that’s not good so when people are stressed they maintain   higher levels of cortisol when they maintain higher levels of cortisol basically every bodily   system and all the neurotransmitters are impacted adrenaline is another stress hormone you know we   think about it when somebody gets really upset or excited or whatever they have a rush of adrenaline   alright sigh Roxon is also released from the kidneys and are from the thyroid and helps you   get fatty acids which are long term long term energy fat has nine calories per gram sugar has   four calories per gram so fat is a much denser source of energy effective chronically elevated   cortisol includes impaired cognitive performance you’re not thinking as well dampen thyroid   function yep eventually the body goes there’s no point the stress is not going to go away there’s   no point in continuing to fight so I’m going to turn down the sensitivity of the symptom blood   sugar imbalances sleep disruption elevated blood pressure lowered immune function and increased   abdominal fat so if a client starts talking about how they’re stressed they’re hungry all the time   and they keep suddenly gaining all this weight in their belly we might start looking at chronic   stress and interventions that we might use for chronic stress including mindfulness meditation   exercise you know anything that we can throw their way in addition to having them get a full   physical to make sure there’s nothing else going on like you know actual hyper hypothyroid caused   by a physiological problem low levels of cortisol brain fog cloudy headedness mild depression low   thyroid function again blood sugar imbalances such as hypoglycemia and remember when you’ve   got blood sugar imbalances and not enough sugar then your body cannot produce enough gaba which   means you’re not going to have enough naturally relaxing chemicals fatigue especially morning and   mid-afternoon sleep disruption low blood pressure lowered immune function and inflammation so these   are all things that we can produce to work our clients to say cortisol it’s not public   enemy number one but it’s pretty close to it so let’s look at how your cortisol levels how you’re   sustained chronic stress might be impacting your mood your health and your sleep and think   about different ways we can reduce that because that’s more tangible and cortisol is measurable   obviously the doctor has to do that but it is measurable in general when we feel emotions a   stimulus is received by our peripheral peripheral nervous system the brain responds by triggering   the amygdala which is our emotion center and the hypothalamus assesses if you will the need   for fight or flee it goes there’s a threat or there’s no emotional memory that helps the brain   determine the types of neurochemicals to secrete and in what amounts if the hypothalamus goes   yeah no big deal then you’re going to have more inhibitory neurotransmitters then if you have your   hypothalamus going that’s a problem what we need to look at and this adds another layer is when   there is too much of a chemical or hypersensitive receptors so hypersensitive receptors are like the   person that you know that jumps when you tap them on the shoulder somebody who’s hyper vigilant when   they are activated they go from 0 to 100 and it’s just like in sensitive receptors on the   other hand when they’re activated they may not do anything at all so you may have enough chemical in   the system but if the receptors are not receptive then the chemical can’t do its job so if serotonin   is sitting outside the receptors door just kind of knocking on it going let me in and that door   never gets opened then it doesn’t matter how much serotonin is sitting in the synapse it’s not going   to do any good so as I said before all every time I talk about too much and too little it’s   always relative to the proportions of the other hormones and neurotransmitters for that person anxiety irritability and anger our fight-or-flight response can be caused by dot dot dot too little   serotonin where you have anxiety coming on because serotonin is not there to help   the person calm too little GABA again not enough calming too much norepinephrine too much estrogen   too much testosterone or too much thyroid so any of these too much is going to cause one   symptom either anxiety or irritability or anger and too little will probably produce something   more on the depressive continuum now happiness and excitements an interesting one because happiness   and excitement are excitatory neurotransmitters they’re going to get your heart rate going they’re   gonna get your blood blood flowing they’re gonna get your breathing a little bit faster think about   Christmas Christmas morning when you run down the stairs in order to see what’s under the Christmas   tree or something else that is really exciting your body is secreting dopamine norepinephrine   glutamate and maybe a little bit of serotonin in there but these are the same chemicals that   are going out during a stress response it’s how the amygdala processes everything so we still   need these excitatory neurotransmitters we can’t just shut them down and go well that’s causing too   much problem let’s turn it down well if we turn it down we’re also turning down the body’s ability to   Spahn to happy stimuli and like I said depression can be caused by serotonin insufficiency or excess   and why is it excess when you have too much serotonin or too little serotonin you can   have high levels of anxiety they found and high levels and anxiety trigger the stress response   system after a certain period of time the stress response system goes you know what I can’t stay   this hyped up for this long I’ve got to turn down my sensitivity I’ve just got a you know let it all   go which starts leading to feelings of apathy and depression it can be caused by nor norepinephrine   insufficiency dopamine insufficiency thyroid insufficiency or gain too much or too little   estrogen the good thing is I Roy dand sex hormones can be measured so we can easily   or somewhat easily help the person rule those in and/or rule those out as can cortisol so if they   have chronically elevated or chronically low levels of cortisol they’re going to have some   mood symptoms but we can figure out that that’s going on and we can help educate the patient to   why they’re having the symptoms they are it’s not all in their head the New England Journal   of Medicine on major depression said numerous studies of norepinephrine and serotonin in   plasma urine and cerebrospinal fluid as well as post mortem Studies on the brains of patients   with depression so we’re talking about humans not just rats studies have yet to identify the   purported deficiency reliably so while we’re talking about depression being caused by if   you will norepinephrine or serotonin deficiency there’s no real research that can reliably say   yes this is it 100% of the time or even 95% of the time it’s more like yeah 15 percent of the time   so yes deficiencies in norepinephrine and and or serotonin does cause depression in some people but   that is a small subset and they found that there are 20 or 30 small subsets of different causative   factors estrogen and progesterone modulates sleep and too much estrogen can cause insomnia so again   if you have too much estrogen well you may have plenty of serotonin going on you also may not be   able to sleep sleep deficiency promotes elevated cortisol and further disrupts our feeding hormones   now for cortisol is elevated we’re not going to get good restful sleep sleep deficiency is   related to a 30% reduction in thyroid hormone levels so again remember that the body finally   after chronic stress will start turning down the thyroid it’s just like there’s no need to   exert any more effort because this is a losing proposition with sleep deficiency the thyroid   hormone levels go down cortisol levels go up which is your stress chemical so everything’s   starting to get out of whack when people eat serotonin suppresses appetite and increases   with feeding so as we eat our serotonin levels go up especially for eating carbohydrate-rich foods   but anytime we’re eating so if there’s not enough serotonin people’s appetite suppression may be off   but that’s also one of the reasons that people eat for comfort is because serotonin helps them feel a   little bit better so when they’re eating serotonin goes up dopamine is associated with safety ATP   handy which is great but if you don’t have enough dopamine then you may never feel satisfied as we   talked about before cortisol increases appetite and neurons involved in the regulation of feeding   are located in the hypothalamus so when you’ve got that hypothalamus pituitary adrenal axis all   activated all the time the HPA axis you’re feeding is going to be probably way up here   because the hypothalamus is going there’s a threat we need food we need we need energy and all of   these chemicals are involved in stress response stimulants stimulants set off the stress response   system by causing the body to kind of dump if you will sigh roid hormones stress hormones and   suppress sex hormones you know that HPA axis it’s activated excitatory neurotransmitters dopamine   and norepinephrine gets secreted so if you’ve got a lot of pleasure reward focus and concentration   going on and you’re just like woohoo yeah you’re probably gonna want to do that again but when   that wears off when stimulants wear off they wear off a whole lot faster than what our normal neuro   chemicals would normally do so when they wear off there’s a sudden lack of stimulation pleasure and   reward and there’s an excess of gaba and other other neurochemicals when people drink alcohol   initially gaba goes way up when they drink the alcohol and they feel relaxed and disinhibited and   all that kind of stuff the alcohol wears off and all of a sudden in proportion to everything else   there’s way not enough gaba so anxiety goes way up so what we want to remember is when we’re taking   substances or engaging it well taking substances specifically they are going to impact and wear off   in a much different rate than what would happen from our body normally excreting or causing   those neurochemicals to be excreted depressant increase gaba and may increase serotonin so they   found that alcohol may increase serotonin it also increases gaba but again when it wears off you got   a problem what there are other depressants out there besides alcohol though so it’s important   to know what are your clients taking what are they using recreationally not to be judgmental you know   if you have a couple drinks in the evening it is what it is what other things are you taking are   you using including looking herbs like valerian Valerians are pretty powerful depressant so it’s   important to know what what they’re taking so they know what impact is having on their body   there are a variety of neurotransmitters that are implicated in moods sex stress and thyroid   hormones among others modulate the secretion and absorption that is modulate the availability of   these neurotransmitters so if there’s a lack or an insufficiency proportionally speaking of   norepinephrine what we want to ask is not how do we increase it but what’s causing it why is there   an imbalance in norepinephrine in this particular patient dysphoria is about having an imbalance not   necessarily too much or too little you may have too much X in relation to Y too much glutamate   in relation to GABA so talking with your clients if they start taking medications talk with them   about how they feel and whether it’s getting worse you’re getting better to help understand you know   are we targeting the right things here sleep deprivation directly contributes alterations   in hormone and neurotransmitter levels and excessive eating may be caused by high cortisol   levels because the brain thinks it needs to store energy for the long fight sex hormones impact the   availability of serotonin but oxytocin has been shown to inhibit cortisol so pet a dog get a hug   do something to promote bonding it will help with stress levels dysphoric moods are caused   by a neurotransmitter imbalance but what causes that imbalance in each person berries greatly   and they found it even berries greatly among people with PTSD so just like depression PTSD   does not have one simple cause a cascade effect can happen when any one of these systems goes   offline so if the thyroid system goes offline has a dysfunction for some reason it may negatively   impact all the other symptoms because it’s going to change the balance and the ratios   of all the other hormones and chemicals involved in those feedback loops so final thoughts chronic   stress impairs sleep which causes imbalances and hormones and neurotransmitters involved   in eating sleeping mood attention motivation and sex disruptions in nutrition can fail to   provide the building blocks for the hormones and neurotransmitters so it could be something as   simple as you know eating junk food every day sleep impairment is associated with decreases   in thyroid hormones and increases in cortisol and dysregulation of eating so if somebody’s hungry   all the time but they’ve got a low mood and you know they present with depressive symptoms we   may want to look at what’s going on and could it is a factor contributing to this is sleep   um but any of these things could also contribute to problems with sleep estrogen and testosterone, imbalances can cause depression or anxiety like symptoms and thyroid hormone imbalances can also   cause depression and anxiety-like symptoms so the the take-home message is this stuff is stinkin   complicated but what we know is everything is intimately interconnected so we don’t   want to just start by saying well it sounds like you’ve got this and try to pigeonhole everybody   into one particular causation we need to understand what’s going on with them and since   we can’t measure brain neurochemicals to figure out exactly which one’s out of whack that’s where   the part art comes into psychology as part art and part science okay so are there any questions you I think you’re all probably feeling like me when after I wrote this I worked on research for about   20 hours and I was all but drooling at myself by the end I was like really I tackled a pretty   deep subject for an hour and you may need to go back and look at the presentation to kind   of make all the connections and connect the dots as it applies to your clients but let’s   see thinking about autism symptoms and these issues and body functions and hormones yeah   I mean certainly autism is correlated and I’m pretty ignorant as to the neurophysiology of   autism but I would think that there’s a strong correlation with the neurotransmitters so I   would look at other systems to see if there are something that’s going offline that may be   contributing to the neuro neurotransmitter imbalance when symptoms are exacerbated which makes me think you know again I don’t know as much I don’t know   much about autism but when a client begins stemming I’m wondering if those impulsive   behaviors mean there’s high levels of anxiety at that point so I’m   wondering what’s happening with the stress response system in the GABA feedback loop I would love after you guys kind of digest 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DBT Skills Emotion Regulation | Counselor Toolbox Podcast with Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes

 CEUs are available at AllCEUs.com this episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing  education webinar on-demand, CEUs are still available for this presentation   at AllCEUs.com/counselortoolbox I’d like to welcome everybody to today’s presentation of dialectical behavior therapy   techniques emotion regulation we are going to start by reviewing the basic premises of   DBT and the reason we’re doing that we’re only going to do it in this one because emotion regulation we’re starting kind of at the beginning but we want to go over what is   the theory underlying a lot of what we’re going to talk about we’ll learn about the HPA axis and   this isn’t something that Linehan talks about in DBT but it is important for understanding   our physiological stress reactions will define emotion regulation identify why emotion regulation   is important and how it can help clients ourselves staff yay and we will finally explore some   emotion regulation techniques there are things besides just preventing vulnerabilities that   we can provide to clients to help them regulate their emotions before moving into that distress   tolerance realm of skills and activities so basic DBT premises everything is interconnected when you   get up in the morning if you’re having a bad the day you know you didn’t sleep well your back   hurts you’re cranky you got a lot of stuff to do it’s raining outside you know yay   you’re noticing all the negatives your thoughts maybe more negative you may be more likely to   notice the negative you may be more likely to have what we call commonly call a bad attitude if you   start to have a better attitude what happens to what you observe and we’ll talk about that in a   little while the reality is not static what is true right now in the present may not be true which is you know was the future from what the present was half a second ago so reality   changes when we look at a situation when we look at an event, we’re looking at how am i reacting and   what is my feeling about the situation right now you know we can learn to change where we’re at but   with the information, I have right now what’s going on and a constantly evolving truth can   be found by synthesizing different points of view because most of the time as humans it’s just kind   of part and parcel of being humans we don’t have the whole picture and I did the best I could with   these little graphics here think back if you will to some of PJ’s experiments when he was trying to   demonstrate egocentrism when we’re looking at this yin and yang sort of model the girl’s stick   figure what does she see if you ask her what color is this orb she would probably say black   because we’re assuming she sees the black side if we ask this little thick figure model over   here what color is the orb she’s seeing the white side so he’d say white now if we asked a little   confused guy who is standing kind of on the third side or the south side he sees both of them so he   hears the stick figure girl say it’s black he sees a stick figure boy say it’s white and he’s   going well it’s kind of both you can synthesize both perspectives and figure out that this is   an orb that has multiple colors even though she can’t necessarily see those colors and he can’t   necessarily see those colors so BBT says let’s try to take a look and see if there are blind spots   see if there are things we’re not seeing or things we didn’t observe the basic assumptions of DBT   and well people do their best if we didn’t think that we probably wouldn’t be in this profession so   people are doing their best with the tools they have and the knowledge they have at any given   time and I added that extra part people want to get better and be happy most people don’t   want to be miserable if it seems like they don’t want to get better then we need to ask ourselves   what is the benefit to staying miserable why is it is scarier more threatening more awful to look at   getting better or being happy and that’s one of those motivational things we’re not going to go   there today but in general people are going to choose the most rewarding option when prevents   presented with multiple options okay now this one area in that I kind of diverge from the official   statement is clients need to work harder and be more motivated to make changes in their lives I’ve   had a lot of clients who have been working their butt off but they may not have the right tools   it’s like trying to unscrew something that is Phillips head with a butter knife they’re working hard but it’s not going anywhere because they can’t get any traction so I crossed out the   work harder and I tend to replace it with work smarter clients need to work smarter they need to   have more tools they need to have more effective tools and some of the tools they have may be awesome if we just tuned them up a little bit sharpen their oil and grease them whatever you   need to do and be more motivated to make changes in their life and you’re saying well they’re in   therapy they’re coming here for whatever reason there why aren’t they motivated to make changes   well again let’s look back at motivation and what’s the most rewarding choice is if they tried to make   changes before and it hasn’t worked out and they’ve been told that it was their fault they   were being resistant or you know they were blamed in some way or they just felt disempowered what’s   going to make them motivated to try to do that again please let me run the gauntlet most   people don’t want to do that so we need to help clients work smarter and understand that they are   working hard and they need to continue to do so and we’re going to help them get more effective   tools and we need to help them get more motivated we need to help them see that this time it’s going   to be different maybe a little bit different but this time we’re trying something new it may   be different even if people didn’t create their problems they still must solve yep you know   if you grew up in a dysfunctional household you didn’t create that problem but it is negatively   impacting you today so you’re going to have to fix it if you want to be happy which is the   whole goal of the lives of suicidal or addicted people are unbearable and when we’re talking   about DBT we’re generally talking about people who are highly emotionally reactive and suicidal self-harm those behaviors are away at this point that they’re trying to figure out how to tolerate   what seems like an unbearable situation in their head addiction is much the same way it provides   some relief from something they feel they have no control over people need to learn how to skillful   live skillfully in all areas of their life well yeah because every area is interconnected if   you’re stressed out at work do you just leave work go home and you have not stressed out   anymore no that’s not the way it works it would be great if it did but it’s just not even if you   don’t take all your stresses of work home with you it has taken a toll on your energy level so when   you get home you’re more vulnerable to emotional upset or just fallen asleep on the couch at 6:00   p.m. Whatever it is so we need to help people learn how to live skillfully in each area so   the exhaustion or negativity or whatever it is from one area doesn’t bleed over into the other   area so we need to learn how to juggle stresses in all of our areas to prevent vulnerabilities   and people cannot fail in treatment when someone relapses when someone you know backslides whatever   word you want to use I look at it as a learning the opportunity I say okay you made a different choice   than we wanted you to make a different choice than you were hoping you would make so let’s learn from   and figure out why that was the most rewarding choice than what was on your treatment plan   the goal that you’re working toward why what happened what were you more vulnerable so you   didn’t choose the newer behaviors because they weren’t as readily available let’s use this as   a learning opportunity to figure out what’s going on it’s not a failure it’s a learning moment or a   teachable moment so what is emotion regulation emotional dysregulation will start there   results from a combination of high emotional vulnerability so you’ve got somebody who is   kind of reactive and extended time needed to return to baseline so that when they get upset it takes them   longer to de-escalate and get back to baseline and an inability to regulate or modulate one’s   own emotions so I want you to think about some the time that you’ve been driving on the interstate   and you’re just driving along cruising along and heaven forbid if this has happened I hope not   but if it did you’re probably just late a semi comes along and runs you off the road onto the shoulder   and oh my gosh you get onto the shoulder your legs just to go in like this you can’t even press the   gas pedal because you are so stressed out you’re gripping your knuckles are white from gripping the   steering wheel so tight your heart racing you’re breathing fast you’re in full-out fight-or-flight   mode so you went from a1 on the stress meter you know kind of cruising along aware of the   fact that you need to be cognizant of dangers to a5 of oh crap that could have been bad alright so you take a couple of deep breaths you your breathing goes down a little bit you get to   the point where you can press the gas pedal and you pull back out onto the highway now   are you returning to baseline and just like la-dee-da cutting around like you were before most   likely not you’re a little bit more on edge and you’re checking your bat rearview   mirror more often you’re looking back making sure nothing’s in your blood spot more awesome   so you’re not returning to that same level of less stress Tunis if you will you stay a little bit   elevated because your brain is gone you know I thought it was kind of a safe situation but I’m   realizing now that not so much so I’m going to keep you on higher alert and it’s going to take   longer for you to return to baseline because you’re looking for those threats now you’re   much more aware that it could happen to people who come from invalidating environment people who are   regularly chronically stressed they’re constantly looking around for anything else that is going to   threaten them anything else that’s going to stress them out so they’re not going from a 1 to a 5 back   down to a 1 again they’re going from a 1 to a 5 back down to a 2 and then back up to a 5 and then   now we’re only going down to a 3 it’s that stress is ramping up so we need to figure out how   to help people deescalate get back down to that one and realize okay I got this that was an unpleasant situation but I got this now emotional vulnerability refers to the situation in which   an individual is more emotionally sensitive or reactive than others or then they normally would   be you know some people this is kind of and when we’re talking about personality disorders this is   pervasive when we’re talking about someone who has been under a bunch of stress for six months   this may be a situational sort of thing that we need to help them figure out how to get out of   but it may not be something that is completely and utterly pervasive in any event when you are   stressed you know you’re already kind of on edge and something happens do you react the normal way   that you normally would if you were just like sitting there and going off oh well okay let’s   figure out how to handle this or does it throw you up sort of into the stratosphere and for a   lot of people with emotional dysregulation when they’re their relaxation is on the brink   of chaos so they’re standing there teetering and they’re going okay I cannot take one more   wind or it’s going to push me over and then they call them damp they get upset and they’re kind   of on freefall for a while they get their balance again but then they’re still right there on that   precipice they never come down so what we want to look at is what’s going on with these   people that’s making them more reactive that’s making them more alert and more hyper-vigilant to stresses and stressors some of these may be because of differences in the HPA axis which   play a role in making people more vulnerable or reactive and we’re going to talk about the HPA   axis in a minute environment of people who are more emotionally reactive or often invalidating   and what does that mean well pick Jane Jane has had a heck of two years you know   there’s just been death after death a job loss she lost her home she’s living in an apartment   right now but she’s not happy and you know yeah you can just pile stuff on okay so James struggling right now she’s holding on and really trying to do the next right thing she’s trying   to make ends meet trying to do what’s right by our kids just feeling stressed out and   then something happens something that most of us would react with it to you know it’s annoying but   it wouldn’t throw us into utter chaos well James on that precipice Jane’s already at a four maybe   a four and a half depending on the day so when this happened just that too puts her on a scale of one to five puts her at a six-and-a-half which is in freefall but people   may not understand that they may not understand what’s going on in Jane’s life and they’re like   this is not that big of a deal why are you just overreacting which makes Jane feel guilty   Phil is self-conscious and feels misunderstood so then she feels isolated and rejected and we’ve   talked about basic fears being rejection isolation failure loss of control and the unknown well James   kind of experiencing all of those right now and the people around her instead of being validating   and going okay you were already stressed out I can see how this was just the straw that broke   the camel’s back they’re going what is your the problem so she doesn’t feel like she’s got   social support she’s out there on an island unto herself so we want to help Jane with emotional   regulation because we know she’s up here and we know she doesn’t like going into that freefall   but how do we help her emotional regulation is the ability to control or influence which emotions you   have when you have them and how you experience or express them and that’s a quote straight out of   Linda hands book so emotion regulation prevents unwanted emotions by reducing vulnerabilities   so you can go through life you can go through the day you can experience stress but instead   of feeling overwhelmed or enraged you might feel mildly irritated for a second and then choose to   move on emotion regulation helps people learn how to change painful emotions once they start so you   don’t get stuck nurturing that emotion or feeding into it and being angry with yourself because you   got angry about something you have no control over it teaches that emotions in and of themselves are   not good or bad they just are it’s your brains hardwired way of responding based on waiting for   it the information that it has at this particular point in time spiders if you’re afraid of spiders that is your brain’s way you see a spider and you feel fear it’s your brain’s way of going threat   spiders can be a poisonous big threat so you want to get away from it that’s your body’s way your brain’s way of going let’s survive we want to do this now you can figure out you can learn more   about spiders so in the future when you encounter then you realize that they’re not you know 99% of   them are not threatening to humans but right now at this moment your brain is saying warning getaway you probably want to do that so it teaches that emotions internet themselves are just   prompting us to do something they are survival responses and suppressing them makes things worse   telling yourself I shouldn’t feel afraid does that do any good if your kid comes to you and tells you   that you know I’m having a crappy day or I hate this does it usually do any good to tell them   well you shouldn’t feel that way feel better you know just be happy does that work I’ve never had   an experience where that worked now it may work for some people but so we want to help people   identify their emotions and not get consumed by the emotions are effective when acting on   the emotion is in your best interest so sometimes it’s in your best interest expressing your emotion   gets you closer to your ultimate goals sometimes expressing your emotion gets you closer to your   short-term goals like making the pain stop and true pain is unpleasant however in the   big scheme of things 15 minutes from now 3 hours from now is that getting you closer to the goals   that you want to achieve or was it just a stopgap expressing your emotions will influence   others in ways that will help you so if you want to influence others in ways that are positive and   will help you then emotions can be very kinder that can be very helpful emotions are sending you   an important message and we already talked about that so I’m thinking the devil’s advocate amigos   well I can think of a client that goes you rage is a great emotion to express is it in my best   interest yeah gets people to leave me the heck alone does it get me closer to my ultimate goals   yeah it reduces my stress by getting people to leave me the heck alone will it influence others   in ways that will help you, yeah it make them go away and are these emotions sending you an   important message yet rage is telling me that these people like everybody are a threat to me   so in the short term when you look at it that way it can be tricky to see but we want to help   people get outside of this immediate threat and say where you want to be what happiness looks like to you or however you want to define that ultimate goal and then once you get into   distress tolerance was your Thursday talk about how do you endure unpleasant emotions so you don’t   take the stopgap route now on to our favorite HPA axis the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis   is our central stress response system and doesn’t get too caught up and all the psychobiology of   this I think it’s good to be cognizant of but we’re not prescribing hypothalamus   place in the brain release is a compound called corticotropin-releasing factor or CRF   which triggers the release of adrenocorticotropic hormone from the pituitary gland which triggers   the adrenal glands to release stress hormones particularly cortisol and adrenaline now your adrenal glands are actually on your kidneys and why is that important what I want you   to see or understand is there are a lot of systems involved there are a lot of hormones involved   there’s a lot of stuff involved it’s not just box you know you’re releasing a bunch of chemicals in   your body that are altering the neurochemicals and the other hormones to prepare you for spiders   the adrenals control chemical reactions over large parts of your body including the fight-or-flight   response and produce even more hormones than the pituitary gland so you’ve got these adrenals   this is kind of your stress area if you will it produces steroid hormones like cortisol which   is a gluteal corticoid which means it makes your body release glucose what we know is that glucose is blood sugar energy all right so it increases the availability of glucose and fats for the long-term   fight-or-flight reaction it also produces sex hormones like DHEA and estrogen okay why is that   important because we know that when estrogen goes up serotonin availability goes up so if there are the adrenals are busy doing something else it may cause other hormonal imbalances and   it also produces stress hormones like adrenaline that is going to ramp you up they’re going to   increase your respiration increase your heart rate all that kind of stuff so once you have that whole   reaction we talked about and the perceived threat passes cortisol levels return to normal great this   is what happens in the ideal situation but what if the threat never passes what if we’re working with   a client who is constantly fearing rejection and isolation they need external validation   because they don’t feel good enough as they are they don’t have social support because their   emotional reactivity kind of pushes everybody away so they’re constantly feeling this threat   of rejection isolation failures loss of control and the unknown they’re holding on just like you   were holding on to the steering wheel after you ran off the road and you got back on you know   you kept chugging because you wanted to get to your destination but you were scared witless okay so you’re chugging along what’s going on what’s going on in that body the amygdala   and the hippocampus are intertwined with the stress response the amygdala modulates anger   fear or fighter flight and the hippocampus helps to develop and store memories when you’re under   stress and think about a time when you are under a lot of stress were you effective at learning and   paying attention to the good things and the bad things or were you just trying to make the pain   stop and make the threat go away from the brain of the child or adolescent is particularly vulnerable   because of its high state of plasticity which is why do we see people who tend to have personality   disorders much of their trauma and stuff really started early in their development and which is   why it’s pervasive in every area or many areas of their life, bad things are learned emotional   upset prevent learning new positive things to counterbalance it if you’re in a bad mood if   you’re scared if you’re threatened you know if you’re hungry homeless put whatever stuff is   there are you paying attention to the bluebirds that are flying around and singing   pretty songs or are you paying attention to the fact that you got an a on a test maybe   not so, we need to understand this person who lives in a chronically stressful environment may also   have an overactive HPA axis so they’re already they’ve already got some adrenaline and   cortisol going on they live kind of in this state of hyper-vigilance and then something happens and   they’re just like through the roof kind of like when you scare a cat what happens to the brain   one is a chronic threat to its safety and a constant the underlay of anxiety is constant undercurrent as   it learns your brain forces synaptic connections from experience and pruned away connections that   aren’t utilized by people who feel a lack of control over their environment are particularly vulnerable   to excessive stimulation of the stress response now it’s not just children abuse and neglected   children pop right up there but abuse and neglected adults think about a client you’ve   worked with who’s been in an abusive relationship for years does she have all the happy connections   or is she pretty much terrified exhausted and stressed out most of the time adults with   anxiety or depressive disorders it doesn’t even have to be an abusive or neglectful situation if   you have someone that forever whatever reason has clinical anxiety or depressive symptoms they are   in this state of constant threat and constant of people if you will so they’re not seeing they’re   not able to learn and take in as much of the good stuff so there’s more bad stuff coming in   they’re paying attention to more of the bad stuff or unpleasant stuff the synaptic connections   that form the foundation of people’s schema of themselves in the world become skewed towards   the traumatic event at the expense of a synaptic Network-based on positive experiences and healthy   relationships so we had this client here and these are her negative experiences she has a lot of them   and she’s got these going through her head a lot and it’s not they don’t just go away whenever she   meets somebody and she’s like well they’re going to leave me whenever something happened she feels   isolated and alone she may fear so she’s got really strong connections to those memories   and past experiences and when you’re in the midst of all this, there’s not a lot of happy stuff and   even when she appears happy a lot of times she’s faking it she’s not seeing and remembering all   the happy stuff she just wants to avoid the pain another example I could give you is thinking about   a city planner now a city planner only has a the certain budget just like we only have a certain   amount of energy the city planner looks and says what roads and what connections between cities get   the most traffic and let’s devote our resources and strengthen those connections because we know   we’ve got all kinds of traffic going over there and those roads that don’t travel those   back roads we don’t need to pay much attention to them right now because we need to make sure that   those roads that are used the most are strong but that’s the best analogy I can give without   putting out strings and everything else but so the hyper-vigilant state active IDEs activated   by the stress response that disrupts our ability to focus and learn you know we’re just trying to   not die we’re trying to not be consumed by pain it impairs the ability to form new memories and   recall information due to the physiologic changes in the hippocampus, it’s not time to learn and   process and do all that kind of stuff have you ever tried to study for a test when you had 16   other things going on that you are stressed about how well did you remember this stuff over here sometimes people relate things to prior experience well most of the time so maybe they’ve had a lot   of dysfunctional relationships and they start to get in a relationship which side is going to be   triggered the negative memories are the positive memories and then you have somebody who may be   attached to some positive relationships they start to get into a relationship and they remember some of   the positives because there have been some really good relationships but you know they may remember   the negative too but most likely they’re going to remember more strongly the positive so what’s   their reaction going to be if we’re trying to help our clients develop a healthy support system we   need to help them address some of those highways that are going towards the negative memories emotion regulation is transdiagnostic or useful with many disorders it helps people increase their   present focused emotion awareness it says right now right here right now what are your feelings   what are your physical sensations what are your thoughts and what are your urges it helps people   increase cognitive flexibility because it helps the kind of step back and take a look and say   okay what are my options let me step back from being intertwined with this feeling and go okay   I feel angry got it what are my options here what do I usually do what I want to do when I’m on   autopilot what are some other options I could do that might help me move toward where I want to   go identifying and preventing patterns of emotion avoidance and emotion-driven behaviors we don’t   want to get into the situation of constantly trying to avoid unpleasant emotions by lashing out by   hurting ourselves or by doing things reactively when I feel this way I must smoke a cigarette I   must cut myself I must fill in the blank we want to help people find alternate ways and be able   to step back and say that is an option is it the option I want to choose today increasing awareness   and tolerance of emotion-related physical sensations sometimes these physical sensations   are just so powerful and so overwhelming and sometimes the rush of adrenaline and that foggy wibbly-wobbly feeling you get in your head when you have just adrenaline coursing through your   veins is so overwhelming that people don’t know what to do with it and are afraid it won’t stop   so let’s help them increase their awareness and tolerance of this helped them understand that it   passes and use emotion-focused exposure procedures when they get upset help them think about things   in the group sessions that get them a little bit revved up you know we don’t want to precipitate   a full-scale crisis or talk about something that happened last week that got them upset and let’s   apply these procedures emotional behavior is functional to change the behavior it’s necessary   to identify the functions and reinforcers of the behavior so when they did it you know let’s talk   about cutting because you know that is one of those behaviors that we see are self-injury it’s what is the function of that behavior cutting or self-injury is a way of inflicting physical   pain where the person has control and they focus on that and they feel a sense of mastery when the   stuff going on in their head feels completely uncontrollable and intolerable it diverts their   attention and it also is something that they they can control how much pain they’re in so   that’s how it’s functioning now is the best the response we want no but we can see why somebody   might engage in that behavior and what reinforces that behavior well when they do that not only do they   get a reprieve from this emotional turmoil that they don’t feel like they can touch or control   or do anything with but their body also releases endorphins release natural painkillers to kill   that physical pain which makes them feel a little a bit better so they’ve got kind of a double whammy   on reinforcers there so we understand that now we need to find something else that they   can do and help them figure out how to tolerate the turmoil emotions function to communicate to   others and influence and control their behaviors and serve as an alert or an alarm to motivate   one’s behaviors so let’s talk about the first one communicate to others so I’m communicating to   a rat around me the people around me through my emotions what’s going on if I’m angry I’m lashing   out I’m going to influence people’s behavior and they’re probably going to back off if I am sad   or crying or scared that might bring them closer and in a more supportive sort of thing you know   again you’ve got to look at some of the behavior self-injury can elicit a caretaking response but   these emotions before somebody start acting out the behaviors the emotions serve as   a cue that okay Sally is getting ready to go in free fall so they can start reacting sooner and   it serves as an alert or an alarm to the person to motivate their behaviors if they know you’re   on the precipice if you know you’re right on the edge of being vulnerable cranky being irritable that day can motivate your own behaviors to figure out how to reduce some   of your vulnerabilities and identify obstacles to changing emotions now we can’t just say be   happy and all of a sudden somebody’s like oh I don’t know why I didn’t think of that I’m just   going to go ahead and be happy that’s just not how it works we want to look at organic factors   do they have an organic long-standing chemical imbalance of some sort and it may not be neurochemical it may be hormonal they may have too much estrogen too much testosterone too little   estrogen too little testosterone whatever let’s figure out you know have them go see their doctor   and figure out if there is something fibroids or moans whatever that might be affecting their   mood okay once we identify anything that we can tweak there we can’t measure neurotransmitters   we’re out of luck there because they’re found in so many places in the body that there’s no   way to isolate how much serotonin is actually in the brain can’t do it yes we want to look at   other factors that are biological imbalances neurochemical imbalances that are caused by   chronic stress that cause addiction to sleep deprivation and nutritional problems so what sort   of chemical imbalances are we precipitating by keeping the stress going and keeping the   adrenaline going keeping your body revved up all the time we want to look at obstacles well   let me stay with biological factors here real quick the organic things if we can refer to the   physician and we can figure out ways to address those that give the person one step forward so   they’re not feeling as depressed or they’re not feeling as reactive people with hyperthyroid you   know when their thyroid is overactive may have some anxiety issues or some other mood issues   that can be addressed with medication then we Looking at situationally caused things is the ways we can help them reduce their chronic stress sometimes there are some easy right-now sort of   solutions other times but chronic stress comes from issues that are so long-standing it’s going   to take a while it’s not that we can’t do it but it’s going to be a process so we move on and we   say okay addiction we know that when people use stimulants rev them up and then they crash and   it makes them more than emotional yo-yo caused by the substances or the addictive behaviors   also makes them more vulnerable to emotional reactivity sleep deprivation is all kinds of   hormones out of whack and tends to make people more irritable that’s one almost everybody can look at   addressing right now and nutritional problems if they’re not eating well not eating at all encourage them to see a nutritionist to make sure they’re getting something balanced that   they will adhere to not something that they look at and go yeah that looks great but no   way I’m eating nuts skill factors what can we help they with we can identify cognitive responses that   are obstacles which as I can’t do that I won’t do that resistance in some way my response   to that obstacle is set to look at it and weigh the positives and the negatives do a decisional   balance exercise to address the cognitive responses and figure out why is the dysfunctional   or unhelpful reaction more rewarding why is it more rewarding to be angry or scared than to look   at doing things and thinking of things that will help you feel happier what’s the disconnect generally, it comes back to prior failures and fear of failure because they’ve been down that road before   and it’s such a letdown when they’re feeling good for like three weeks and then they   crash behavioral responses that are obstacles to changing emotions if somebody lashes out when they   get upset they lash out and throw things and then they feel guilty so this behavioral   response may lead to having more difficulty changing emotions because we’ve got to help   them figure out how to pause before the behavioral the response so they don’t compound the situation with   more negative emotions and environmental factors people places and things being in environments   where you’re surrounded by people who either agon negativity or who bring out you know they’re there   with you they’re talking about conspiracy theories they’re just negative about everything or they’re   critical of you or remind you of situations where you’ve been criticized before so first, we want to   help people identify and label emotions a lot of our clients are relatively Alex Simon you   know they have a small repertoire if any of noting their emotions they just generally go   from situation to reaction and label what they felt is kind of a mystery so we want to help them   and doing it retrospectively is fine at first because that’s probably all you’re going to be   able to get the event profiting the emotion what were your thoughts your physical sensations and   your urges help me describe this in enough detail that if we were going to give it to an actor or an   actress they could recreate the situation what expressive behaviors were associated with that   emotion you know did you cry did you throw things did you hit the wall what were your   interpretations of that event at the moment not retrospectively but at the moment what   were your interpretations of what was going on what history before the event increases your   vulnerability to emotional dysregulation lots of big words what happened before that that   already stressed you out or had you on edge and you know we go through a whole bunch of   different things and this is you know behavior chaining we’re looking at kind of what led up to   the event what made you more vulnerable and what were you feeling at that time and then what were   the after-effects of the emotion or the reaction on your other types of functioning so after this   event and you went into freefall and you got angry and you lashed out and you screamed and you threw   things how did that affect your work how did that affect your relationships with your family how   did that affect your mood and just generally your sense of being in yourself for the rest of the day changing unwanted emotions okay so we started labeling them we figure out what we’re feeling   we figure out that yeah when we feel that way we act in ways that you know make us feel worse afterward what do we do about it let’s change All alright we already talked about the obstacles   and we’re trying to address those but in a moment check for facts ask yourself what are the facts   for and against your belief if you believe that someone did something to be antagonistic towards   you okay what was their motivation what is the facts for and against that also ask yourself is   this emotional or factual reasoning am I making a decision based on how I felt I felt attacked   therefore I must have been being attacked or facts you know I felt attacked yes but that was   because this person said ABCDE and all of those were very attacking and I felt like I needed to   defend myself so those are to check the facts sort of steps or you can go with problem-solving so   let’s change the situation that’s called cause any unpleasant emotion like I said with spiders at the moment you may not have enough information to not feel scared but maybe your spouse loves hiking and camping and you want to go but you’re afraid of those aren’t spiders so how   can you change the situation so spiders don’t trigger that same reaction increase knowledge   increase exposure there are a lot of different ways but problem-solving says ok what can I do   so my reaction my correct reaction is not one of threat or anger but it is one of at least mild   acceptance prevent vulnerabilities which helps reduce reactivity if you are a hundred percent   you know you get up and you’re like this is going to be a good day to day things that come your way   are probably going to roll more like water off a duck’s back then smack you upside the face like a   mud pie so we want to prevent vulnerabilities from the turn down the stress response because when you’re not   when you’re not up here already then you know you can fluctuate a little bit more and they   help the person be aware of and able to learn and remember positive experiences so if you turn down   that vulnerability and somebody’s in a good place or a better place than they were at least they’re   going to be able to notice and we’re going to want to encourage them to notice the positive   experiences you know instead of thinking that all people are threatening all people are going to   hurt me all people are going to leave they might notice that you know there’s Sally over here who’s   worked here for 15 years with me and you know she’s there she sometimes calls in sick but then   she comes back she’s generally in a good mood you know she’s not such a bad person and   you start noticing some of the things that are not self-fulfilling processes building mastery   through activities that build self-efficacy self-control and competence smuggle we don’t   want to say you don’t want to set a goal where somebody needs to go an entire week without   having an emotionally reactive response let’s say go for hours or maybe even a whole day that   would be wonderful but first, we’ve got to talk about how to reduce those vulnerabilities so we   set the person up for success what things can you do and well and we’re going to get down here in a   minute what can you do if you wake up and you’re feeling vulnerable you know the creepy crowds   are going around they cancel school for the entire week for school the county   school system kids are off for an entire week because of illness right now but you wake up in   the morning and you’ve got a fever and a sore the throat you’re like I don’t want to go   to work and get out of bed today what can you do to prevent being grumpy and overly reactive   throughout the day’s mental rehearsal and this can go for if you’re getting ready to do something   scary or threatening seeing yourself do that and do it successfully and this can even be during the   day just envisioning yourself getting up and eating your breakfast driving to work going through your   day seeing that one person at the office that always has some sort of snarky comment to say or   whatever irritates you laughing at it or dealing with it just fine going through everything in your   day as you would like to see it happen envision it see see what you can do rehearse it rehearse how   to handle negativity you know if you know you’re going to have to go in for your annual evaluation   with your boss okay so mentally rehearse how it’s going to go how are you going to react what’s   going to happen so you’re prepared for it you have your responses and it takes some of the unknown   out of the situation physical body mind care pain and illness treatment and the acronym for this is   please I changed one of them to laughter it used to be physical illness and that was both   PNL but I like laughter anyway we’ll get there when you’re in pain or when you’re sick you’re   vulnerable to being a little bit cranky you know that’s just because your body is already saying you are   weak you know back in the day when you had to defend yourself against predators the sick ones   and the ones that were in pain were the ones that usually got taken out first as a part of   our brain that still remembers that for whatever the reason so when we’re in pain or when we’re sick   our body keeps that cortisol keeps our cortisol levels higher and the stress response a little bit   higher so we want to deal with those things but know if we wake up and we’re in that situation  moment that was a little bit more vulnerable so we need to handle it with care and laughter you can’t   be miserable and happy at the same time laughter releases endorphins laughter helps people feel   a little bit better and find something to laugh at and have on my phone I keep comedy skits every   once in a while I’ll just pop one in even if I’m not having a bad day pop it in because I   like to laugh eat two-sport mental and physical health avoid addictive or mood-altering drugs   or behaviors that are going to put you on that the up-and-down roller coaster that goes up and it   goes even further down than you were when you started to get adequate quality sleep and exercise also helps increase serotonin and release endorphins which help people be in a better mood mindfulness is a judgemental observation and description of the current emotions we’re not   going to go deep into this right now another class on mindfulness and you can also   google it remembering that primary emotions are often adaptive and appropriate I know I   said that like six times much emotional distress is a result of your secondary responses shame over   having it I shouldn’t feel this way anxiety about being wrong you know maybe this   is the wrong way to respond or you know what if I’m wrong about this or rage doing due to feeling   judged for feeling that way I feel this way and you’re telling me I shouldn’t how dare you   so mindfulness is kind of an exposure technique because it helps people identify that yes I feel   that way but it helps them learn to step back and figure out how to not judge that and just go okay   I feel that way better or worse whatever that’s how I feel exposure to intense emotions without negative   consequences that non-judgmental acceptance just going all right is what extinguishes the   secondary emotional responses of feeling guilty about it or feeling ashamed or angry at yourself   for being angry so think of it this way if you can’t see this one’s the best Bruce Lee picture I   could come up with scenario one is an unpleasant experience the person has an unpleasant emotion and then feels guilt shame or anger for feeling that an emotion so instead of having to deal with one   emotion one-on-one now you’re having to fight for different unpleasant emotions and you start acting   to try to stop the avalanche of negativity in the absence of adequate skills now Bruce Lee he was   able to take out four or five at a time but most of us you know we would be beaten because all of   these adversaries would be coming at us and we would be building on them in scenario two and   this is where we want people to get they have an unpleasant experience which is part of life they   identify unpleasant emotions again part of life is sucky but part but they can deal with one emotion they’re like okay I’m angry what do I do about it instead of I’m angry   what do I do about it and I’m guilty and you see how you know she’s got this she can take that   one emotion so what we’re helping people do is uncomplicated this regulation is common to many   disorders people with dysregulated emotions have a stronger and longer-lasting response   to stimuli yes they’re already kind of stressed out they’re already hyper-vigilant if you want   to say they’re already wound up a little bit and then something happens and it amps for months now   we have a scale of 1 to 5 if they’re already on a 4 and it amps them up 2 points they’ve fallen   off the scale they’re in freefall so we need to understand that what we perceive as an excessive   emotional reaction they may not have been starting from the same place that we were, we’re starting   from a 1 if they’re starting from a 4 you know then their reaction to the same thing you seemed   pretty reasonable emotional dysregulation is often punished or invalidated and increases hopelessness   and isolation emotional regulation means we help people use mindfulness to be aware of and reduce   their vulnerabilities so we help them take it so they’re not at a 4 there may be a 2 you know   they’re in therapy for a reason we’re going to help them work on the other stuff and get them   down to a 1 but right now let’s help them figure out ways, they can take down their stress response   take down their just underlying anxiety, and stuff identify the function and reinforcers for current   emotions when they happen was understand where they came from because they’re functional do that   chaining worksheet check for facts ok now that I know how I feel I know what my reactions are   I know what my thoughts are I know what my urges are let’s check the facts in the situation for   and against that forces people to kind of step back which lets the urge sail out some and then problem-solves what can I do right now to improve the situation and what can I do in the future   so I don’t necessarily experience this exact the same situation again how can I break that mold okay so emotion regulation doesn’t provide us with a whole lot of distress tolerance skills, emotion regulation is really about preventing vulnerabilities and helping people figure out   okay here’s where I’m at how do I pause so then I can choose from my disgust distress tolerance   problem-solving or interpersonal effectiveness skills but it’s a big step how awesome would   it be if you could eliminate some of your vulnerabilities and think about it just for   a minute or two what vulnerabilities you’ve got going on in you right now and how many   of those you know could you potentially over the next week or two kinds of address sleeping and eating maybe you have 16 things going on and you could pare it down to eight there   are a lot of different things that you might be able to kind of pull out of the rabbit hat   if you will and what kind of a difference would it make if you’re talking to your staff and looked around at your organizational environment what vulnerabilities are there environmental   vulnerabilities physical vulnerabilities my best friend’s working somewhere right now where pretty   much everybody is required to work doubles because they are so short-staffed they’re going to start   getting vulnerable pretty soon so look around what can you do to moderate that so they can   model effective emotional regulation but they can also not be emotionally dysregulated by a   client who has emotional dysregulation issues all right so that concludes our 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Group Counseling Modules 1 & 2 Based on SAMHSA TIP 41

 This episode was pre-recorded as part of a live continuing education webinar on demand. Ceus are still available for this presentation through all CEUs registered at all, CEUs comm slash counselor toolbox. I’d like to welcome everybody to group therapy, which is a product of treatment improvement. Protocol 41. Today we’re going to be going over chapters 1 and 2 tips 41. They did make it into an in-service, which is what I loosely based. The next set of presentations on and we’re, going to talk about some of the different ways you can use group and make it beneficial and hopefully easier than some other ways of approaching treatment. So, in the first part of today’s presentation, the goal is to provide an overview of group therapy which is used in substance, abuse, and mental health treatment, and, as I said, I’m, loosely basing it on it, but a lot of times the groups That we’re doing in substance abuse are the same ones. We’re doing in mental health. We’re going to discuss the uses of group therapy in treatment, define five therapy models, explain the advantages of group therapy and modify group therapy to treat and address substance abuse issues. So group therapy is awesome because it supports members in times of pain and trouble. It’s something that we can make available to the community mental health center that I worked at before and if you’ve worked in community mental health or even private mental health. Maybe a lot of times. There are waiting lists to get into IOP to get into PHP to get into residential to get into detox. So one of the things that we started instituting was an intervention-level psycho-educational group, so we were able to sort of keep a tab on people who are on our waiting list. They got on the waiting list and they started coming to these groups that provided them with tools provided them skills. We weren’t treating any particular issue. We were focusing more on life skills, distress, tolerance, emotion, regulation, and all that other DPP kind of stuff. Helping them get through, was also enabling us to provide them with some hope and keep their motivation going. Group therapy can enrich members with insight and guidance. I found, and one of the reasons I love doing group so much is because you can ask a question to a group of 10 people and get 8 or 10 different answers to it, and the cool thing about that is that each person has their blind spots, so what they might not have thought about before might still be germane to them, and somebody else puts it out there. So when you start putting asking questions and putting the answers on the board or using the flip chart papers and having stations around the room that people go and contribute to the group process, you start getting a lot more feedback from individuals and they’re going To come up with ideas and suggestions and thoughts that not only each other had never had so they’re going to enrich each other’s lives, but they teach me something every single time. So I loved doing and still do love doing group and it’s. A natural ally with addiction, treatment or treatment in general group therapy enables us to provide a basic framework of information to people in a cost, effective manner. You know there are a lot of things like emotion, regulation, distress, tolerance, self, esteem, skills, effective interpersonal communication relationship skills, and self-esteem. I may have already said that we give to all of our clients whether it’s substance, abuse or mental health, and everybody who’s coming through the program. Has this curriculum? If you will go through now, it’s going to apply a little bit differently to each one and they’re going to take the stuff they get from those groups and they’re going to be able to take it back to their Therapists and say this is what I learned in group. If it is just a group process, then they’re going to be able to talk among each other and come up with their ideas, but IOP, PHP, and residential all have individual accounts. One component, if you’re doing an intervention level group 0 05 on the ACM. If you will, you may not have that individual therapy component. So you want to make sure that when you provide members with information – and you help them start gaining insight you tie it up in a nice little bow at the end and help them apply it. So what did you get out of today?’s group that could have been helpful last week and how could you have used it then go back around the room and say from whatever you got from today:’s group or what’s a morsel you got from today,’s, group that You’re going to use next week, and how do you expect to do that? So I encourage them to take one or two morsels and figure out how they can use that in their particular life. A little bit of a slide track here. In support groups, if somebody is going to celebrate recovery or 12 step group, or even a depression or anxiety management group, I encourage them when they walk out of the group to be able to answer the question. What was in that group for me? What can I take away from that now? It may be, I know what I don’t want to do, or it may be. That was a great idea that so and so had, but I want them to answer that question every time, not just walk out of a group and go well. That was a good group. Why? Why was it a good group? What did you get out of it? Group therapy, as opposed to self-help groups and support groups, if you will have trained leaders, so you do have a lot more ability to facilitate what’s going on and kind of point people in directions that you want them to go. Where support groups may have facilitators, but they don’t have the training that clinicians do and group therapy produces healing and recovery from substance abuse and mental health issues. You see a lot of people gain. Hope you see a lot of people gain optimism. You see a lot of people learn tools from one another and nobody can comic con. If you will – and I had to figure out a way to say that a little bit nicer than the way I usually do. But when people are in recovery and you can even think about it with your teenagers, if you’ve been around known more if you have them, teenagers hear what their parents say and they’re like yeah, okay, whatever old, fuddy-duddy, but when their Parents or when their peers say it, it carries a lot more weight, so sometimes the hope and faith and tools and stuff that they hear from their cohort has more impact than what we say. If we’ve created a good supportive, healthy, nurturing environment, group therapy has a lot of power to it because it’s basically like having a bunch of code therapists and the ability to control it a little bit more than in group therapy. You can address factors associated with addiction or these factors by themselves, such as depression, anxiety, anger, shame, temporary cognitive impairment, character, pathology, ie, personality disorders, medication management, and pain management. So let’s go through these a little bit. Depression groups are wonderful. Now we’re going to talk about different types of groups and there’s everything from the traditional therapy group where people are sitting in a circle and or however, usually in a circle and sharing what’s going on in their particular situation. To psycho-educational and skills groups, where we’re, providing them the tools to understand what’s going on and the tools to deal with what they’re experiencing, and you know with depression. One of the groups I’m, going to do is depression. Well, any of these is to talk about what is it. What causes it? Where did it come from? How is it impacting you to have people start figuring out what that means to them, then we’re going to start talking, probably in the next group, about what are some ways we can start addressing this and what has worked for you. What what has worked in the past and what things might you want to do? Try? Temporary cognitive impairment can be addressed in the group in the sense that we can provide some life skills coaching. We can provide for early recovery and substance abuse. For example, a lot of people come to our groups, or at least where I used to work. They would get out of detox and they weren’t fully detoxed. Yet they had two days under them and the drug was out of their system. For the most part, you know, except for like marijuana or benzos, but they were still not on their game so getting them to just get there on time, be prepared, pay attention, and process what’s going on was huge. We didn’t expect to make huge therapeutic gains, but what I wanted was somebody to be able to dress up and show up. If you will character, pathology can be addressed in groups, one of the basic reasons that Marsha Linehan created dialectically. Behavior therapy was to address borderline personality disorder and DBT is very strong in skills groups. Now it has individual components and coaching components as well, but she uses the skills groups to help people with character, pathologies, and borderline personality disorder, among other things, start learning about what are these symptoms. What do they mean? What does it look like and how can I deal with them and then they personalize it in their sessions? Medication management is huge for me, whether it’s, somebody who’s on antidepressants or somebody who’s on methadone. I don’t care, but I think it’s really important for people when they start taking medication, especially psychotropic medication, whether it’s, addiction or mental depression, or anxiety to be able to go into a group and talk with others who’ve Been on similar medications understand the side effects understand that gets better understand what they’ve done, that helped them deal with the side effects. For example, a lot of my clients used to be on Seroquel and Seroquel is extremely sedating, so a lot of them found that they needed to take it at night. But I had a small group of people who, when they took it at night, you know they would go to sleep at like 11, 00 get up at 6 30 and they were still groggy. As I’ll get out from the Seroquel and among themselves, they started talking about okay, so I need to take it at 7, 00 every night for it to be out of my system. So I can function the next morning they worked it out by talking about how long before it starts sedating you and how long the sedating effects last, but it helped clients stay more compliant with their medication because a lot of times and not knock Psychiatrists or doctors, but the ones that I’ve had experience with. For the most part, I’ve had a couple of awesome: attendings they don’t have the patients they don’t have time in their schedule to hear all of the issues and help the client brainstorm, and a lot of times they don’t think to share with the patient. These are the most common side effects that people tell me they experience. Yes, they get the handout from the pharmacist. There are like six pages, long and in eight-point font of all the potential side effects. But what do people feel like when they start taking it? This Zoloft is another one. You know that’s, what one is commonly prescribed and a lot of patients feel kind of like they’ve got the flu. They feel dizzy for the first two-to-three days and then that wears off, if they understand that, if they have a place where they can go and talk about the side effects and talk about how to deal with some of the side effects, it helps. And this is also a place where they can talk about things like weight, gain and fatigue, and lethargy. And how do you deal with this when you’re on this Giller medication, it doesn’t have to be facilitated by a nurse or a doctor. That’s more helpful if it’s facilitated by a clinician. What we want to do is encourage patients to become aware of what their potential obstacles are to be maintained to remain med, compliant, and identify some ways to address them. Some intervention that might be effective and then go talk to their doctor, so they are armed with knowledge when they go see their psychiatrist and say I’m having these problems, it also gives them a chance to talk to other people and understand what it looks like if the medication is working for them and gives them hope if they have to change two three four times to find the right medication, so medication management obviously, is a group that I think is important. If you’ve got clients that are medicated on pain, management,’s, pain can cause depression and anxiety. Your body perceives pain as a stressor, so anybody who has pain may experience negative affect, especially if it goes on for a while, so helping them figure out ways to deal with the pain and ways to deal with breakthrough pain. If you’re dealing with somebody who’s in recovery, then you’re also dealing with the issue of pain management without narcotics, so pain management groups can help teach stress management skills, progressive muscular relaxation, and sharing nonpharmacological interventions that they can discuss with their doctor, such as massage physical therapy, acupuncture yay, it also is a place that people get hope again. This is going to keep coming up with group therapy hope because they hear other people’s stories and yeah. I hear that after John’s accident, he was in agony for six months and he was able to get through it, so they can share and support one another. Another group provides positive peer support for abstinence from substances or addictive behaviors. Remember we want to check our clients, and assess our clients to make sure they’re, not engaging in addictive behaviors like internet gaming, pornography, gambling, food-ish food, and eating addiction. Anything like that, but it also provides positive peer support for positive action in any direction. So if it’s growth goals, if it’s depression goals, the group is there to cheer you on. They’re also there to notice when you’re starting to lose your motivation and point it out and help you increase that motivation groups reduce isolation. So if you’re dealing with someone who’s got empty nest syndrome, someone who’s got depression, someone who’s got it up an addiction. It helps them understand that they’re, not the only one dealing with that and they can share and support, enabling the members to witness the recovery or transformation of their fellow group members and see how other people deal with similar problems, because we all I mean There’s what twelve people in class today. So if I throw out any problem, I’m probably going to get at least eight or nine different suggestions for how to deal with it and that’s cool, but that’s. The awesome part about group two because they can share. What do you do when you can’t get to sleep at night? What do you do when the anxiety is so oppressive that you feel like you can’t breathe, rich, and provide information to clients who are new to the recovery process? So they know what to expect they’re not going to be giddy as all get out. Twenty-four hours, seven days a week, 365 days a year, probably ever that’s not reality, but it helps them learn what the recovery trajectory looks like helps. They accept the fact that they’re going to be bad days and it helps them see how they can be empowered in the process. It provides feedback on group members, values, and abilities. They’re going to hone in on their values, and you know I encourage them in my groups and obviously from a multicultural perspective. I think it’s vital that we encourage members to explore their values and accept or reject them as they are and do not meet them. For me to say whether your values are right or wrong, I want you to know what your values are and make sure that they’re. Yours, not something that came from the media or something that just kind of popped into your head. You don’t know where it came from that you, don’t agree with, and sometimes that will come up, especially as it pertains to medication, use or controlled drinking, or anything like that. But it also provides feedback on their abilities, and this is where I focus more than values. What is it that you have done already? What are your strengths if you went three hours yesterday without being depressed and crying that is awesome? What did you do? How did you do it? How are you able to do that, I want to highlight that ability, so we can build on it. We want to highlight the exceptions to the problems and offer the sort of family-like experience where people get a sense of belonging and support when groups are run well, even if their skills are psycho-educational groups when a group member leaves drops out relapses, whatever happens, They just if they suddenly leave. It affects the entire group. When you’ve got a well-run group and a group member graduates or completes treatment, there’s still a whole process and sort of a grieving process, as that person leaves the family and launches out of the nest. Whatever you want to say, we the way I’ve always run groups and what the way I was taught was. We always celebrate that at the end of somebody,’s treatment, or experience after the last group that that person attends we have a little bit of a little pizza party or something to celebrate. Let people say their goodbyes and have a good sense of closure. A lot of our clients did not have good family experiences, so we want them to have the experience of being supported, being able to have different opinions and disagree with others, but being respected and being able to care about groups encouraged coach support and reinforce What they’re doing? Well, we don’t have to focus on what they’re doing wrong. You know, we can talk about that. An individual – or you know it may become germane to the group, but what we want to do is reinforce what they’re doing. Right from a management perspective groups allows a single treatment professional to help several clients. At the same time, as I said, there are a core set of groups – educational modules, if you will that, I think all clients need to be exposed to so group is a great way to do it instead of saying the same thing six times a day to Each one of your clients having a group available with the advent of media and Internet, just like we’re doing right now. Web chat web groups. You can do some skills-based groups, you know if they’re, not treatment. You don’t have as many issues with confidentiality, but you can also have videos online that you have them watch, learn from complete a worksheet and then come and participate in a one-hour group, instead of maybe having to sit through the whole lesson, which is An hour or so and then participate in the group, so there are a lot of different things that you can do using group techniques to reach a bunch of people in with one treatment provider. In the same hour. Groups add needed structure and discipline because, generally the group leader has a certain goal for the group or has a certain style of managing the group, so it can help sort of add a rhythm. If you will to the group process. Now we’re talking about traditional therapy groups. You’re going to be sort of like the parent that controls the rhythm of the family. If you’re talking skills or psycho, read groups, you’re going to be setting more of a tone like a teacher and creating a learning experience, but it adds structure, so people feel safe. They know what they can share, what they’re. What’s too much sharing or what’s inappropriate sharing and it helps people also learn to bite their tongue, wait their turn all those other things that can be helpful in life. They instill hope in a sense that, if that person can make it so can I so they see people doing a little bit better yeah. They also see some people doing a little bit worse, sometimes, but that’s an opportunity for them to be able to reach out and provide support, and that helps the person providing support as much as it helps the person receiving it. I truly believe that most people get a sense of contentment if you will, by being able and being able to reach out and help someone that they are concerned about, it provides support and encouragement to one another outside the group setting now this gets a little dicey Depending on your groups and your agency philosophy in reality, in substance abuse groups, the people that are in your group are probably going to be going to the same support group meetings so telling them not to ever contact each other outside of the group is unrealistic. They’re going to see each other in the community, so it’s important to help them understand how to set boundaries and what’s? Okay, behavior, and what’s? Not okay, behavior between group members, other groups, other facilities are less stringent on that and encourage the clients to reach out to one another outside of the group setting. So, depending on the group, the issue, your agency, all that kind of stuff there’s going to be more or less sharing. What I want to see, especially, is, if you have, for example, in IOPS three hours here and have three groups with breaks. I want to see people talking outside a group. I want to see people sharing, not just all sitting in there going when do we get out of here? I want them to develop relationships and learn how to effectively communicate so group therapy is not individual therapy done with an audience. It is not a mutual support group. It’s designed to help people develop and practice knowledge and skills in a microcosm. You’re, creating a mini family or a mini-community. It aids patients in learning how to develop healthy, supportive relationships and also how to terminate relationships, because sometimes when people graduate they move on it, which doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re going to continue to interact with the clients in the group. Alright. So the second half of this class, we’re, going to look at the group therapy models used in treatment, explain the stages of change, and discuss three specialized group therapy modules that may be used for the stages of change. I’ve gone over this before for new people. I’ll go over it again, real quick think about getting into a pool in the summer. It’s hot it’s like 90 degrees. You are sweating bullets, pre-contemplation, and you’re still laying on the lawn chair going. I ain’t hot. Yet no, I’m not anywhere near hot enough to go near that pool contemplation you’re starting to get hot and sweaty, and you’re looking at the pool going. You know that might be a nice change in preparation. You move to the side of the pool and you’re dangling your feet in the water trying to figure out. If you’re ready to take the plunge because it’s cold, I mean compared to the 90 92 5 degrees C is outside and you know your 98 6 body temperature water is cold, so you’re preparing action is when you jump in you. ‘re, like I, can’t take it anymore. I’m too hot to jump in the pool. Now, if that pool is too cold, if it’s too painful to stay in there because you’re just like a ho ho, you may jump back out again and back into preparation or further back. If you get in there and get moving – and you know, get your body temperature back up that’s – sort of basically like treatment – and you’re getting the swing of things, then you just want to maintain. So you don’t get cold again and recurrence is when you get out you get hot again and go through this process again so pre-contemplation, I ain’t got a problem. Contemplation yeah, I’m a little uncomfortable, but I’m not ready to do anything yet preparation. I’m starting to get ready to make a change because this is uncomfortable, but I’m not very it action I’m on it, and maintenance is keeping your gains and maintaining a steady state, so variable factors for groups, the group leader group or Leader of focus, so if you’re focusing on a part of it, is your training. You know if you are more Rogerian client-centered in your training versus cognitive, behavioral versus DBT versus AC T, whatever your theoretical underpinnings are and what you choose to focus on. In that particular group, there’s a lot of stuff. We can focus on whether it’s cognitive, physical, or emotional. We want to another thing that affects it is the specificity of the group agenda. If you’re going to have a group and it’s on self-esteem, well that’s not specific, so we could go sixteen different ways till Sunday if you’re looking at self-esteem and disarming the internal critic. Now that’s much more specific for that group, so that’s going to affect what that group looks like for that session or that says sessions how similar or different your group members are. If they have a lot of different experiences, you’re going to have a different experience as a group leader. Then, if you have a lot of people who have the same experiences, open, ended or determinant duration of treatment, if you’ve got a group that somebody can join and if they want to stay for 104 weeks, they can stay for 104 weeks. That’s up to them versus a group that is 16 weeks long that’s also going to affect how your group goes. What do you cover, how connected do group members become? I use 104 weeks just to sort of overemphasize. I hope nobody stays in the group for 104 weeks, but the level of leader activity is. I have seen groups where its leaders will throw out a discussion and are like okay topic for today is what do you think about it, and let the group facilitator with a little bit of nudging here and there versus other groups where the leader is very involved In goes around goes okay, Sam.What do you think about this sally? What do you think about it and that affect how people react and what they expect it? Doesn’t necessarily affect what they get out of it, but these are variables that could affect how someone meshes with the group. Not everybody is going to like a real open, ended, a loosey-goosey group I don’t. You know I’m structured. So I prefer to be in groups where I know what the agenda is, and what we’re going to do. In my groups, start with a review from the last group that’s the first five minutes, and check in with everybody. Next, in five minutes we do a 15 to 20-minute psycho, ed piece, and then the last. You know 30 minutes of group. I spend going around the room and having people tell me, what is it that you got out of this? What do you think you could use this next week etc and apply it to what they know that’s how my groups go, so they’re, really very structured. You’ve got to be able to drop back and punt. If a client is in crisis or something strikes a nerve with them, you know you might have to change up a little bit. But overall you’re sort of setting the tone for what’s going to happen in the group, the duration of treatment, and the length of each session. You’re going to cover a lot more in a 3 hour of IOP session. That and treatment is five days. A week for 12 weeks, then you’re going to cover in a treatment program that’s one hour a week for eight weeks, just knowing what you’re going to try to cover will affect the depth or the breadth of what you go through. The arrangement of the room also affects how the people interact. If you have them set up in theatre, style, or classroom style. People interact differently than if they’re all sitting around in a circle, and if you ever want to experiment with that, it is interesting to notice how much differently people interact and how much more they seem to participate when they’re sitting sort of in A circle versus when they’re in theater style and I feel like they can hide and the characteristics of the individuals. Sometimes you’re, going to have people who are enthusiastic and chatting. Sometimes you’re going to have people who are not, and it could be for a whole host of reasons. It could be a bad fit, it could be their involuntary, or it could be they just got out of detox. It could be that they’re. All are just at that level of clinical depression that they’re having a hard time staying with the group and it’s up to us to adjust to try to meet the needs of as many people in a group as possible. Now, while I’m saying this, they didn’t say to size of the group. Here, the recommended size of the group is 8 to 12 people. If you’re dealing with adolescents or people with severe and assistant Mental Illness, it’s more along the lines of 812. For your average group 15 for psycho-educational and skills groups any more than 15. You’re doing a class and not a group. Psycho-egg groups assist individuals in every stage of change, pre-contemplation contemplation, yay. It helps clients, learn about their disorders, their treatment or intervention options, and other resources that might be available to them, such as assistance with prescriptions or physical therapy, or whatever other wraparound services. We often call it might be available. They can also be used to provide family members with an understanding of the person in recovery, so family egg groups can be awesome because then you get to understand and hear what the family thinks is going on and expects is going to happen in treatment and What they’re seeing and hearing, and you can normalize for them what’s going on with the client, so somebody recovering from clinical depression or somebody with bipolar disorder. You know this is what recovery looks like this is what living with the disorder looks like. This is what being on this medication looks like, I, ‘ve had a lot of patients because I deal with mainly co-occurring. I’ve had a lot of patients who have bipolar disorder, and you know some sort of substance abuse issue. They start taking. Seroquel, because that seemed to be the drug of choice for our prescribing at that particular time and they would start acting all groggy and family would freak out going you’re using again, and so Family Education groups were a great time for us to educate. Not only about the disorder but also about treatment, medication, side effects, and how to interact with the loved one to be as most supportive as possible. So ad groups educate about a disorder or teach a skill or tool and work to engage the clients in the discussion. I don’t want to stand up there in the lecture. I want them to be able to throw out ideas. So if I say you know what is it that you do when you’re struggling with somebody, because they just great on your every last nerve, what are some things you do to solve that problem or to deal with it? I don’t want to just tell them everything I want to do something more Socratic and encourage them to tell me how they work with it, and if they come up with something that’s, not quite on point. As far as being the most effective or healthiest approach, then we’ll talk about it and we’ll say well. I’m sure that’s worked for you. I’m wondering you know if there’s a kinder gentler way to do it, or you know you kind of massage it a little bit to morph it into something useful. We want to prompt clients to relate what they learn to their issues, including their disorders. You know how you, how this relates to your depression, but also your goals, your challenges, and your successes? Psycho-ed groups are highly structured and follow a manual or curriculum, and it doesn’t have to be a manualized curriculum that you buy from somewhere. You can create your curriculum, but you teach the same thing and it’s sequential and it follows a teach, apply practice method. So you teach a skill, you have them talk about how they would apply it, how that might apply to them, and then you have them practice it in role plays or imagine how they might use it. Next week, basic teaching skills are required for psycho-ed groups, though, which requires that you understand the basic components of learning, and I call these the three C’s capture, which is how you get the knowledge I mean you got to get it into your brain. Somehow I am a visual kinesthetic learner. I learned virtually nothing from sitting in lecture classes. I’m off in la la land in about 30 seconds. I know this about myself, so I need to have material that I and see, which is why I do powerpoints here some of y’all may not might not even be looking at the screen. You may be often doing something else and listening to me more power to you. However, you get the information in your brain is great. Global and sequential. Some people are global. They need the big picture when they’re doing a puzzle. They want to see the box first to do the frame and then fit all the pieces in sequential people. Don’t want the box that’s cheating they look for pieces and put them together and then try to figure out how all the pieces go together to make a hole and then their wall out as a whole. To appeal to both of those at the beginning of the group give an overview of what you’re going to cover in the group, and if you can sort of a written agenda it’s, not always practical. I always tried to put it up on the whiteboard. We always had issues with how many copies we were allowed to make and stuff. So in the interest of saving trees, try to give them some sort of an agenda, so they know what the progress is or what they can expect from group talk about it, so people can hear it and apply it through role plays having them apply it to themselves. Make them manipulate that information in their mind and provide visual representations like bullet points of what you’re going over. If you can’t, if copies again are an issue, have them bring a notebook and write on a whiteboard, so they can see it. So you’re presenting information in as many ways as possible. Conceptualization is relating the information to building blocks. So if you’re teaching a unit on cognitive distortions, then you’re going to talk about maybe using extreme words or nothing talk. So I might say tell me about a time that you’ve said something like you always do this and then what we’re going to talk about, how to change that and how you know. Thinking about things that way might be contributing to some of their distress and then caring. This is the biggest one which is again why I have clients when they leave a group, ask themselves: what could I get out of that? Why was that important to me if they’re not motivated to remember it, they’re not going to think back to high school biology or college humanities archaeology? 101. For me, I learned what I needed to learn for as long as I need to learn. It’s to pass the test, and then I forgot it all because I didn’t care about it, so we want them to care or they’re not going to remember so get it in their heads and help them relate it to something they know and make Them care about it, make them figure out why it’s important to them, foster an environment, to support participation, encourage participants to take responsibility for their learning, use a variety of learning methods that require sensory experiences, which means talking about it. You know talking about it listening to it and maybe drawing art therapy try to incorporate as many senses as possible. I always find that role plays are a big hit. You can also break up concepts and have to break up your group into smaller groups and have each of the smaller groups reteach a concept to make sure that they understand it and be mindful of cognitive impairments. So if you’ve got someone who is impaired in some way, make sure that you have some sort of method to ensure that that person is keeping up with the rest of the group. If it’s a diverse group skills development cultivates the necessary skills to prevent a relapse, depression, anxiety, and addiction and achieve an acceptable quality of life. Part of the skills groups assumes that the clients lack needed skills such as coping skills, interpersonal skills, and communication skills, hence the term skills group. So we want to allow clients to practice skills in groups. Psycho-ed groups provide the knowledge and, if you remember basic treatment, planning, and knowledge skills and abilities, so you know it, you learn how to use the skill and then the ability is a put those skills into practice. So we want them to be able to practice. These skills in a safe microcosm, you want to focus on skills, directly related to recovery and those to thrive in general. Think about Maslow’s hierarchy. They need to get those biological needs met, they need food, shelter, medication, pain management, health, safety and safety from themselves and love and belonging. So we want to help them make sure they’re getting those not just focusing specifically on depression or anxiety skills development groups have a limited number of sessions and a limited number of participants. So everybody can practice. We don’t want a big auditorium. We want that 8 to 15 number ideally, and there used to strengthen behavioral and cognitive resources. Skills groups focus on developing an information base on which decisions can be made and actions can be taken. So when they’re thinking when they practice the pause and they’re trying to decide okay, what is the best reaction to this current situation that’s when skills kick in and they’ve got a menu of skills to choose from cognitive, behavioral Groups, conceptualize dependence on substances as a learned, behavior that subjects to modifications through various interventions, which is a bunch of garbage garbled a for CBT groups, really look at using as a triggered behavior in response to pain. You want the pain to go away and your drug of choice does that. The same is true for self-injury or a variety of other symptoms that we see in our patients. So we want to look at what’s triggering those and how can we. What are they trying to meet? What need are they trying to meet with that behavior and how can we help them meet that? Otherwise, sorry, my nose is itchy today, work to change, my learned, behavior by changing my thinking, patterns, beliefs, and perceptions and include psychological elements like thoughts, beliefs, decisions, opinions, and assumptions. Cbt groups develop social networks that support abstinence, so the person with dependence becomes aware of behaviors that may lead to relapse and develop strategies to continue in recovery. Now that’s for addictions, groups for anxiety and depression, the same is true. We want them to have social networks with other people who experience the same diagnosis. If you will so, they can become aware of relapse. Warning signs when are starting to become impatient. They’re not sleeping as much, whatever their relapse warning signs are for their condition, disorder, whatever you want to call it, so they can develop. Strategies to stay, happy and healthy educational devices are used in CBT groups including worksheets role plays, and videos that encompass a variety of proof, and approaches that focus on changing the way we think and the behavior that flows from it. I cannot stand feeling this way can be changed too. I don’t like feeling this way, but I know it will change. In the next moment. Cbt techniques teach group members about self-destructive, behavior and thinking that lead to maladaptive behavior. We look at those unhelpful, cognitions and their effects of them. How does that impact you in your relationships? The way you perceive the world and your general sense of empowerment and happiness? They focus on problem-solving and short and long-term goal-setting which a lot of people don’t know how to do. Imagine how much better people and more empowered people feel when they figure out hey. I know how to do that. I know how to see a problem, develop a plan and solve the problem and they help clients, monitor feelings and behavior, particularly those associated with their diagnosis. Support groups are useful for apprehensive clients who are looking for a safe environment and they boast remembers efforts to develop and strengthen their ability to manage thinking and emotions and interpersonal skills support groups. Don’t have a trained facilitator necessarily, so they’re. Not necessarily. How do I want to say this? They’re only as effective as the effectiveness of the group leader and the health of the group leader, support groups, address pragmatic concerns, and generally improve members, self-esteem and self-confidence they’re. Often open-ended with changing members, encourage discussion about members, current situations, and recent problems. So we’re less focused on education and skill building and more focused on what’s going on with you today, and they provide peer feedback and require members are accountable to one. Other support groups vary with group goals and member needs and include facilitating desilting discussion among members while maintaining appropriate group boundaries, which can be a little difficult, especially with untrained if there are no trained facilitators there. These groups can help the group the whole group work through obstacles and conflicts. So if you’ve got people that are arguing within the group remember, this is a microcosm. This is a little family, whether it’s a support group or any other kind of group. These people meet every week and there are going to be conflicts, so we want to help people work through these and develop acceptance and regard for one another support groups ensure that interpersonal struggles among group members do not hinder group development. So if you’ve got a relationship budding between two people, not unheard of, or if you’ve, got a huge conflict, getting ready to happen between two people. You want to make sure that doesn’t interfere with the group process, so you may need to handle that outside of the group, or you know, figure out how to address it. Interpersonal process groups recognized conflicting forces in the mind, some of which may be outside of one’s. Awareness determines a person’s behavior, whether it’s helpful or unhelpful. So interpersonal process groups help people identify the developmental influences and other things that have gotten them to where they are, that influence, how they act and react the way they do currently, and bring a lot of stuff into awareness. Oh, that makes sense that I react that way because that’s how my mom used to react or when I did that when I was a kid I got in trouble for it whatever the case may be interpersonal process groups delve into major developmental issues. Searching for patterns that contribute to the problem or interfere with recovery abandonment issues is one that comes up a lot looking at the family of origin and their coping skills. We want to learn. What did you learn when you were growing up that is? You are using now and how effective is that for you, these groups use psycho dynamics or the way people function psychologically to promote change and healing and rely on the here-and-now interactions of members. So we’re focusing on all this stuff. That made you who you are and gave you the tools that you have right now, how’s that working for you? So there are multiple types of groups that are available to assist clients in achieving their goals. We view current coping skills as creative adaptations to what they’ve learned and ways to get their needs met. They may not be the healthiest coping skills, but they are serving a purpose. So we want to look at the way. Clients are coping acting interacting. Just look at their behaviors and ask ourselves what’s the benefit to that? What’s motivating is that, because we always choose the behavior. That seems – and I emphasize the word seems to have the most reward to it, based on reward and effort groups, help strengthen the healthy skills, but they also help point out some of the unhealthy ones, and again a lot of times it has more to it. If it comes from a peer, as opposed to, if it comes from a therapist skills required to facilitate groups, overlap significantly a lot of my psycho, groups are also kind of skills groups. I kind of do a psycho, ed skills blend when I do groups that are, my style though, and the group facilitator needs to figure out his or her style because you’re going to set the tone for your group. Not everybody is going to thrive in your group. Just like not everybody is going to mesh with you as an individual therapist, knowing your style and being confident is one of the first steps to having a really strong group experience. Types of groups include psychoeducational, which provides your knowledge, and classroom-type format. Skills development provides takes the information that knowledge and helps people translate it into skills. Okay. Now I know what an unhelpful thought or a cognitive distortion is. What do I do about it? Skills group is the: what do I do about it and let’s practice it. So when I have this thought, what can I do? Cognitive behavioral groups kind of integrate those but focus strongly on what’s going on with the individual and the thoughts if you think, of the ABCs, the automatic beliefs that may be perpetuating or maintaining the unpleasant consequences and support groups are those groups that Are not facilitated by a trained facilitator or by a clinical facilitator. In some groups like smart recovery, the facilitators are trained, but they’re, not necessarily clinicians and group members are accountable to one another more so than accountable to a group leader who starts the group by telling people what they’re going to learn and do and why it’s useful to them make them care, give them that global perspective of what’s going to happen and then go through the information step by step or sequentially. So all of your learners are getting as much as possible provide an overview of what you’re talking about have written material like I said, if copies are a big issue where you come from it’s, not unheard of, or if you just don’t like making lots of Xerox copies, write it on a whiteboard and encourage clients to bring a notebook and write it down. Clients will remember things better if they have to write them down because they’re going. To paraphrase it, which is a form of kinesthetic learning before they write it down most likely because they want to write down as little as possible, discuss the material and apply it ask for their input. How do you deal with this? What do you think about this option? How could you use this? How could you have used this last week and what do you think you might? How do you think you might use it next week and give me an example of what that would look like for you? Can also have them roleplay, maybe they’re having somebody in the group having a particular issue with a supervisor or roommate. You may choose to roleplay that in a group and have them apply a skill that you’re talking about. Have each group member close by identifying one thing they got at a group and how they are going to use it in their recovery plan. Again, it brings it back to caring, has the kind of tie it up into a neat bow, and is able to walk out with one tool. Yep give them two too many tools in one group and they’re going to walk out, and none of them are going to get used. You give them one tool and they walk out. They may try to use it throughout the week and then next week in the group, you can ask them how’d it go. If you enjoy this podcast, please like and subscribe either in your podcast player or on YouTube, you can attend and participate in our life. Webinars with doctor Snipes by subscribing at all CEUs comm, slash counselor toolbox. This episode has been brought to you in part by all CEUs com providing 24 7 multimedia, continuing education, and pre-certification; training to counselors therapists, and nurses, since 2006 use the coupon code consular toolbox to get a 20 discount off your order. This month,As found on YouTubeHi, My name is James Gordon 👻🗯 I’m going to share with you the system I used to permanently cure the depression that I struggled with for over 20 years. 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10 Ways to Deal with Social Anxiety

 Welcome to happiness isn’t brain surgery with Dr. Snipes. This podcast was created to provide you the information and tools Doc Snipes gives her clients so that you too can start living happier. Our website DocSnipes.com has even more resources videos and handouts and even interactive sessions with Doc Snipes to help you apply what you learn. Go to DocSnipes.com to learn more. Hey everybody and Welcome to happiness isn’t brain surgery with Doc Snipes: Practical tools to improve your mood and quality of life. Tonight we’re talking about 10 ways to deal with social anxiety a lot of people have social anxiety and that’s basically having unreasonable fears that you know are kind of excessive when it comes to being in any kind of social situation some people have only social anxiety when they’ve got to do things like perform or public speaking or something like that other people have social anxiety when they have to go to work when they have to be in crowds they don’t like going to the shopping center or the mall where there are a lot of people around so depending on your level of social anxiety, some of these things may be helpful to help you work through and deal with your social anxiety the first is to minimize stimulants stimulants Reb you up anxiety Rebs you up when you take stimulants if you drink too much coffee you may feel anxious so if you’re drinking stimulants before you go into an anxiety-provoking situation you may miss attributing your anxiety about the social situation when in actuality it was the caffeine or the nicotine the other thing that you want to do is pay attention when you’re at some of these events that you’re minimizing your stimulants the other thing and I’ll you know this is not stimulant alcohol is technically a depressant but when alcohol starts to wear off about it 30 minutes after you drink your drink it starts to wear off and there’s an anxiety rebound with alcohol so if you have high anxiety if you have social anxiety drinking to quell that anxiety is probably not your best bet because in the end it’s gonna kind of backfire and bite you in the ass know your temperament not everybody likes being around big groups of people I draw energy from being around people so I love being around groups but my daughter on the other hand is much more of an introvert and she would prefer to be around you know two or three people at a time she gets exhausted when she has to be in big groups of people it doesn’t mean she’s got social anxiety so know what your preference is for being around people so when you’re developing your self-confidence when you’re developing your skills when you’re working through social anxiety you’re not putting yourself in situations that would stress you out anyway so know your temperament if you’re an introvert when you’re making your exposure hierarchy which we’re going to talk about it in a minute you’re gonna start with something like going out for coffee with a friend to Starbucks or maybe even having a friend over for coffee in your house depending on how bad your social anxiety is and then you’re gonna work up from there but if you are an introvert you’re never gonna be relaxed in a group of a large group of people so I just understanding the difference between being anxious and feeling like you’re gonna crawl out of your skin and be uncomfortable or have it be very draining to be in a large group of people who understand your temperament that’s part of it so you can say you know this is normal I am not the type of a person who likes to be in a large group of people so it’s going to take some preparation and it’s going to take a lot of energy but I can do it knowing your triggers different things trigger anxiety for different people some people have anxiety when they feel like they’re going to be evaluated so if they’re doing a presentation for their colleagues or their peers they’re more likely to be more anxious than if they’re say hanging out with five other parents at a kid’s play date or something some people have one of their triggers is authority figures I know whenever I had to present in front of the CEO or in front of my department chair or whoever gave me more anxiety than presenting even in front of a class of a hundred and fifty students so it’s kind of all about what your particular triggers are if the other trigger you might want to consider the situation you know if you feel like you are on stage if you feel like you are the center and everybody’s looking at you that’s probably going to be a lot more anxiety-provoking than if you are mixing and mingling with other people at a party so know what triggers your anxiety so thinking about how your social anxiety impacts your life what kinds of things can you not do or what kinds of things do you find are just terrifying to keep a list of all of those things starting with the things that only make you a little bit nervous about things that you would rather you know pull your eyebrows out then do and start at the beginning start with the things that only cause you a little bit of anxiety imagine them rehearsing and doing them in your mind see yourself going through them successfully for example a job interview or a first date imagine what it’s going to be like what the other a person is going to say how you’re going to respond and how it’s all going to go well just keep imagining that until you can imagine it or think about it and you don’t feel stressed than when you go in to do it it’s going to be a lot easier once you get past that first thing move on to the next thing that causes a little bit more anxiety all right start at the beginning again imagine doing it see yourself going all the way through maybe it’s doing a public speech see yourself getting dressed for it getting ready for walking out on stage and delivering the speech and seeing it go well you’re not going to see yourself tripping and falling you’re not going to see yourself stuttering and stammering or dropping all your note cards or anything those are the things the cat strophic thoughts that you have that are likely not going to happen I want you to imagine it going perfectly rehearse it in your mind until you can do it literally with your eyes closed then when you go out to do it, it’s going to be that much easier because you’ve already done it 20 times in your own head and been successful at it so just do it like you practiced keep a rational outlook a lot of times social anxiety is caused by catastrophic self-statements things that you tell yourself people are judging me they’re laughing at me people are gonna think I’m an idiot um whatever your thoughts are so keep a list what those thoughts are and write counter thoughts to the people are judging me well they may be but do you care so if people are judging me that’s on them if people are laughing at me well at least they’re laughing but in reality what other reasons could the people have had to be laughing what are three other explanations for why they might be laughing besides laughing at you so look at your catastrophic self statements like I told you before imagining that you’re going to go out on stage and you’re gonna walk out there you’re gonna trip over your own two feet and you’re gonna wipe out on the way to do this presentation and humiliate yourself well that’s pretty darn catastrophic so think about exactly what is going to happen what are you going to do and how rational how realistic how likely is it that all these things are gonna happen and you know if that is one of your fears watch the movie Miss Congeniality because she is going at as Miss America I think is who she’s trying to portray and she falls flat on her face and she just picks herself right back up and walks on and nobody thinks anything of it after that it’s not like a week later or 20 minutes later in the movie, people are still talking about her falling she did she over it and you know move past it when you make a big deal out of it when people start to think about it a little bit more practice breathing when we get stressed we tend to breathe more shallowly and more rapidly when you breathe slowly and deeply you’re triggering the relaxation response in your body it doesn’t mean you have to take those big giant deep breaths as you do at the doctor’s office or anything that’s overly dramas is it but focus on your breathing if you start feeling yourself getting an anxious breath in for a count of three hold for a count of three and breathe out for a count of three and you know again it doesn’t have to be noticeable that you’re doing it you can do it in a meeting and nobody will even know but if you can slow your breathing you’ll slow your heart rate and you’ll trigger the relaxation response to help you deal with your anxiety sometimes we’ve just got to suck it up and go through things that create a lot of anxiety for us I remember one place I worked once a month we would have to get up in front of all of our colleagues and all of the executives and give a report on how our department was doing I hated doing that I hated being up there giving this report not because of the content of the report I just hated being up there in front of everybody and it was no big deal but it would cause me a little bit of anxiety if I had to do it so distress tolerance techniques were always useful because it was an eight-hour meeting so it might be four hours of me sitting there anticipating going up and having to give my speech so what would I do during the four hours while I was waiting I would do activities I would listen to what other people were saying I would make notes I would sometimes go through clinical charts and sign off on documentation and not pay attention but you know I digress contributing so if you’re at a party you can’t do it in a meeting but if you’re at a party for example and used feeling anxious get up maybe help the hostess out or the host out in the kitchen go around pick up glasses pick up trash throw things away do something to be helpful to contribute so you’re not feeling like you’re having to sit there and be on the spot comparisons can help too you can just kind of blend back into the wall a little bit and compare how you’re doing to how other people are doing or how you’re doing to how you’ve done in the past because you’re probably doing better now than you did then trigger opposite emotions is another way of dealing with distress if you’re feeling anxious you know bring out the opposite tell a joke find something funny find a video or something that makes you laugh and share it with other people because that’ll make you start laughing and feel more relaxed and release endorphins you can also just push away some of those thoughts that keep coming into your head I’m gonna make a mistake I’m gonna say something stupid they’re judging me it’s gonna be awful just push those thoughts away and Do you know what no I can do this and I’m going to push through the final the thing you can do in this particular set of distress tolerance techniques is sensations focus on sensations some people have a rubber band that they snap on their wrists to kind of help them focus on something else some people wring their hands I don’t recommend that because you know that just kind of shows you’re anxious and keeps your anxiety going listening to loud music you can go into the bathroom and splash cold water on your face unless it’ll make your mascara run there are a variety of things you can do that you can also find go and find some coffee because coffee is hot and that focus on how the coffee feels in your hands when you’re holding the cup focus on the taste of the coffee that hot sensation will kind of distract you from other things that are going on so focus and we’re going to talk about one thing at a time in a minute another set of distress tolerance techniques that can help our imagery and we’ve talked about rehearsing it before you go to the party imagine what you’re going to do before you go to the mixer or your in-laws or wherever it is you’re going that’s potentially going to cause you anxiety imagine going through it and doing it successfully to find meaning in what you’re doing so sometimes you know maybe you’re going to your spouse’s holiday Christmas party and it’s like the last thing you want to do because you don’t like big crowds like that you don’t know anybody but find meaning in it why are you doing this is because it’s helpful to your spouse you’re providing support and you know maybe you can find somebody that has similar hobbies or something before you go if you’re going to your spouse’s Christmas party for example try to find out who might be at the party that shares similar hobbies and stuff I know my husband works with people who do organic gardening and who are kind of health-conscious I won’t say fanatical but health-conscious like I am and we like to use a lot of lentils and beans and cook in health healthy ways so identifying those people I can’t talk about what they do at work because that’s just way out of my wheelhouse and over my head but I can talk with them about these other things so I’m not just standing there looking around and feeling like I’m out of place so find meaning in what you’re doing and try to find connections and commonalities with other people before you go and then you know I can have I would have my spouse introduce me to one of the people that does organic gardening for example and then we could start talking once you get more comfortable then you’re going to feel more at ease walking up to people and going hey you know and striking up a conversation and finding out commonalities if you’ve got children a lot of other people have children so you can talk about your kids or if you’ve got pets you can talk about your pets your dog’s people love their dog’s prayer can help sometimes you just got to take a breath and say a prayer before you walk into that situation to kind of get you through and get you going practice relaxation if you’re feeling stressed just again don’t have to get out of your chair you don’t have to go anywhere but practice tensing and releasing your muscles clenching your fists and releasing your hands and feel the difference between tense and released and then tense kind of your whole upper body and you don’t have to do it like this because that’s obvious but you can kind of tense up a little bit and relax and feel the difference between stressed and relaxed and then when you do it one more time you tense and when you relaxed you feel all the stress just draining out of your body out of your fingertips so that’s a kind of guided relaxation to help you when you’re kind of on the spot one thing at a time when you’re in a the social situation there is a lot of input there is a lot of stimulus going around a lot of people focus on one thing at a time if you start getting overwhelmed if you’re at a party maybe you can go over and get something to eat and focus on talking to one person at a time or focusing on what you’re eating or you know find something that you can focus on so you’re not trying to keep up with everything that’s going on takes a mental vacation or a physical vacation sometimes you just got to excuse yourself and go to the bathroom and hide out for five minutes and that’s okay you know sometimes you need to go somewhere where you know nobody’s watching and you can take those good deep breaths and go you know I got this it’s gonna be okay I’m doing fine give yourself a pep talk look realistically over how the night’s gone and the majority of it has gone okay yeah they’re probably going to be some hiccups and Pho paws here and there and if there are that’s okay it happens to everybody nobody is perfect at their social interactions all the time and that’s okay but look over it realistically to realize that tonight is going okay it may not be going the way you had hoped it would but it’s going okay there’s nothing catastrophic ly wrong and remember that we are a lot more important in our minds than we are in anybody else’s mind so when we make a the mistake we will remember it for six months but other people probably forget it’s about sixty minutes later it’s just you know even if it’s something like you walked out of the bathroom and you had your dress tucked in the back your panties did that before trusting me not something I want to repeat but I would bet if I asked any of my staff now yes I did it at work about that incident they’d look at me and go no I don’t remember that I remember it because it was mortifying but nobody else cared they were passed it by the next day nobody thought anything about it so remember that a lot of stuff that seems huge and glaring to you is only because it happened to you and other people are so involved in their own life they probably didn’t notice or won’t remember that fear is an acronym standing for false evidence appearing real so always examine the evidence if something happens and you think it is the absolute worst thing in the world and you’re just gonna die how likely is it that that’s true is it the worst the thing in the world is people judging you so look at the evidence how do you know this is going on for certain and what are other explanations for what might be going on mentally rehearsing those stressful social situations get ready for it the job interview the first date and for some people even going to the doctor can be a stressful social situation because they get kind of a white coat syndrome where they don’t they’re afraid to speak up to their doctor, I found that if there is a certain set of things that you need to say like if you’re going in to talk to your boss or you’re going in to talk to your doctor sometimes it’s helpful to write down a list of the points that you want to cover with them or the symptoms that you’re having so you can go over it and make sure you get everything said and you don’t end up kind of getting shut down when I used to go have supervision with my boss you know I only got supervision for one hour once a week and that was if I was lucky so I would go in with a whole laundry list of things and it could be the stuff that I was upset about or having difficulty with and I could have a laundry list and just go through it and mark it off so I would make sure that I got everything said and I covered and we were on the same page by the end of the the meeting finally practice mindfulness and focus on your surroundings to know how you feel if you start feeling anxious a step back and ask yourself why am I anxious what do I need right now to feel calmer try to do this periodically so you don’t wait until your anxiety is off-the-charts focus on your surroundings look around to find places and little niches that you might feel comfortable maybe there’s somebody else sitting over in the corner and you can go sit down with them and chat maybe there’s an empty seat somewhere that you can just go sit down and take a breath or go out on if it’s a patio or a party maybe you can go out on the patio for a few minutes oftentimes there’s somebody sitting out on the patio trying to get a little peace so you can find a situation that’s less anxiety-provoking two little bonus things I’m going to tell you with social anxiety a lot of times people are afraid that they’re going to offend someone and these days it is so easy to offend people so what I tell my clients and my kids and what I try to remember myself is before I speak or when I’m talking to people if what I’m saying is true helpful important necessary and kind then you know there’s probably a good chance I won’t offend them look on your social media look at the comments people leave on other people’s posts and stuff and see if they meet these criteria true helpful important necessary and kind 90% of the time the answer is no well I won’t say that much about 50% of the time the the answer is no there are a lot of times people will just say nasty stuff that didn’t need to be said and that can be offensive but if you practice and focus on making sure what you say is true helpful important necessary and kind and if you’re following me that spells out think then the chances that you’re going to offend somebody are greatly reduced if the person still gets offended it’s probably more about them because you aren’t trying to offend them you weren’t trying to be hurtful you are trying to be helpful and kind therefore it may be more about their stuff whether they have an issue with you or they have an issue with something else that’s going on and you just happen to be kind of in the way it’s more about them you can’t control how they react to things it’s their responsibility if you’re being nice and they take it the wrong way and they get offended that’s their perception and they need to work on that the other bonus that I’ll tell you to take away is something I got from dr.Seuss and I love something he says about the judgment of those whose minds don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind so the people who matter in your life they’re going to be people judge you all the time that’s just the way humans are but those who mind what you do those who get offended those who judge you all the time they don’t matter the people who matter to you don’t mind if you make a mistake don’t mind if you’re not perfect they probably embrace all of your imperfections so before you approach a social situation remember not everybody’s gonna like you that’s just it’s not possible to have everybody like you so remember the wise words of dr. 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