this episode was pre-recorded
as part of a live continuing education webinar on-demand, CEUs are
still available for this presentation through all CEUs register at allceus.com/counselortoolbox I’d like to welcome everybody to today’s
presentation on trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy part 1 treating trauma and
traumatic grief in children and adolescents in this first part we’re going to define
trauma-focused CBT and talk about what we’re dealing with here because trauma-focused
CBT is a best practice and it is a manualized best practice so you’re going to learn about it
today but you’re not going to have enough skills where you can say you are certified in TF
CBT however I will provide your resources should you want to go out and pursue those so we are
going to talk about TF CBT as a best practice and implementing fidelity but I’m going to
also take a few detours and as I always do and talk about how this might be able be
useful with adults who have a history of trauma in childhood we’ll explore the components
of trauma-focused CBT and their intended functions, we’re not going to get through all of
those today but we’re going to start and we’re going to explore ways to use TF CBT with adult
clients so TF CBT works for children who have experienced any trauma including multiple traumas
so what we’re talking about is children who come to your office who are presenting with
trauma-related issues it’s effective with children from diverse backgrounds and works
in as few as 12 treatment sessions so a lot can be accomplished in 12 sessions they’re not
necessarily weekly sessions they can be spaced out a little bit part of it depends on the age
level of the child how long ago the trauma was any concurrent developmental or mental health
issues that might be present yada yada yada so it may be a little bit longer it may be a little
a bit shorter in terms of calendar time but you can also extend the number of sessions because
some of these things for example when they start talking about cognitive coping differentiating
between thoughts and feelings, some children take a while to get the hang of the
the nuance between the difference between thoughts and feelings so you might have to do two or
three sessions helped them to identify feelings and use the feelings thermometer this
has been used successfully in clinics schools homes foster care residential treatment facilities
and inpatient settings so there’s not an environment in which it can’t be used provided
that there is a supportive caregiver that can be of assistance obviously if you’re working with
a 10 or 11-year-old or a little bit younger or an older adolescent but you know any child who may
need some support outside of session we don’t want to be creating a crisis and then leaving them
kind of defend for themselves between sessions without some sort of emotional and cognitive
support so there must be a relationship that there is a bond if you will a
the rapport between the clinician and the caregiver who may not be the biological parent or the caregiver
and the child it does work even if there is no parent or caregiver to participate in treatment
however again we need to be selective about how we’re using that so if you have a child and
you’re going to use this particular approach and there’s no parent or caregiver to participate
it may be safer to use it in a residential setting or an inpatient setting where there is a
clinician somewhere where they can get emotional support because as you’ll see when we get into
the trauma narrative gets intense TF CBT is intended for children with a trauma history
whose primary symptoms or behavioral reactions are related to the trauma so if you’ve got someone
who has an unfortunate childhood but you think their behaviors may be more related to the peer group
maybe more related to conducting disorder or FASD or something else that may not be appropriate
because what we’re going to look at with TF CBT is reducing the PTSD symptoms the hyper-vigilance
avoidance behaviors etc as well as improving social skills and helping the person identify and
communicate their feelings and needs traumatic stress reactions can be more than simply symptoms
of PTSD and also present as difficulties with affect regulation we’ve talked before about how
people who are experienced who have experienced trauma may develop a situation where they are more
likely to experience emotional dysregulation the HPA axis kind of tightens up and holds on to the
stress hormones hold on to the stress reaction but then when it does perceive a stressor it goes
from 0 to 250 there’s no I’m going to get a little bit upset it is either nothing or it is a huge
mountain there’s no mole hills there so there may be problems with affect regulation there may
be problems in relationships because of difficulty trusting other people because of difficulties with
their self-perception and systems of meaning which you know we’re getting to in a few minutes but
the way they conceptualize the world because all of a sudden their world was turned upside down
somatization feelings coming out as physical symptoms so headaches body aches more illnesses
more days where they just don’t feel well and you know sometimes they just really don’t feel well
however, is it because of a bacteria or a virus or is it because of a stress reaction that is
kicking off all kinds of imbalances in hormones and neurotransmitters so we want to look at what
the effect are these traumas having on this youth or person and if we address this trauma and if we
help help them come to some sort of resolution or acceptance of the trauma and integration into
their world view of why this trauma happened and making meaning from it will help improve
these areas will help them reduce their hyper-vigilance etc and for many clients the answer is
yes and I talked earlier about the fact that this may be useful now it was designed for children
and adolescents but many of the adults I’ve worked with are very Alex thymic they are very unable
to identify their emotions their very unable to express their feelings sometimes they don’t even
know where their fear is coming from they’re just sort of paralyzed with fear and don’t trust the
world and they’re angry at everybody and if it comes from a traumatic experience then helping
them explore how that trauma is impacting them in the present can be useful in their
recovery process so these issues that TF CBT may help improve aren’t just limited to children and
adolescents they can present in adults who were traumatized as children and who didn’t develop
the skill to effectively deal with the trauma components of CBT TF CBT psychoeducation we’re
going to start by teaching them what they need to know about the trauma we’re going to talk about in
depth about these so I’m not going to detail them very much here parenting skills and if you’re
dealing with an adult oftentimes I will provide what I call reap Aron ting skills if your parent
were here or if your parent would have responded how you would have wanted how would they have
responded how can you do that for yourself now because sometimes you don’t have a significant
other or a caregiver with an adult client either but we want to help them figure out how to self
nurture if needed relaxation and stress management skills because some of the stuff we’re fixing to
talk about is going to be extremely distressful so you have some wiggle room if you will in terms of
what skills do you teach here they prescribe some but as far as relaxation and stress management affect
expression and modulation DBT skills seem to fit well into this framework for helping
people tolerate the distress not act on their impulses understand where the emotions are coming
from and preventing vulnerabilities and all that other stuff that can help them function outside of
session and when they’re not doing their homework help them feel like they’re able to focus on
something besides the trauma because we’re just kind of ripping the band-aid off that wound
at a certain point and they may have difficulty focusing on anything else likewise some children
and adolescents will come to you when that trauma is still relatively present and all they can think
about is that trauma or it regularly comes up for them and so we can help them learn skills so
they can start living more of what they might consider a meaningful life that’s not dominated
by memories of this trauma while we’re working through the process we want to give them a little hope
that there’s relief in sight cognitive coping and processing are provided next and enhanced by
illustrating the relationships among thoughts feelings and behaviors so initially cognitive
coping skills are taught and then all of this is going to be applied later as soon as we
get into the trauma narration helping the youth work through narrating the trauma and cope
with the feelings and thoughts that come up in vivo mastery of trauma reminders so any of those
triggers that are triggering flashbacks that are kicking off hyper-vigilant situations we’re going
to address as they come up in the trauma narration we’re going to help the person identify what it
is about certain situations that bring up this particular memory and how we master how to do
we deal with it and then finally conjoint Parent Child sessions and these don’t come till the end
all along the parents or the caregivers are participating in the process assuming there is a
parent or caregiver and understand learning a little bit more about what’s going on but we’ll
talk about what the clinician does in the parent sessions as well as what the clinician does in
the child sessions as we go through each stage effects of TF CBT reduction in intrusive and
upsetting memory so that’s awesome and you know if you think about what’s the function of these
intrusive memories a lot of times it is because either they haven’t been integrated into the
person’s schema of the world and well-being and or they still feel unsafe they have some cognitions
that is telling them they need to be alert they need to be aware they’re not safe so helping them
identify any cognitions and triggers that may be causing intrusive and upsetting memories
and addressing those again in the in vivo desensitization avoidance helping people reduce
their avoidance of certain situations and certain activities so they don’t feel like they are
confined basically to their prison it helps reduce the emotional numbing of a lot of people when they
go through trauma it’s so overwhelming and they’re so afraid if they feel they won’t be able to stop
feeling so they numb emotionally it’s protective it makes sense and as they develop the skills to
handle this and as they learn they can tolerate the distress of the memories of the trauma it
empowers a lot of clients there’s a reduction in hyperarousal depression and anxiety behavior
problems when you’re dealing with adolescents or children, especially ones who don’t have the
ability to articulate their feelings and their thoughts that are underlying these
feelings and how they relate to the trauma I don’t know many adults that can do that so
children typically act out physically to either protect themselves or try to get some
sort of protection comfort attention so they feel more secure so it’ll help reduce some of
that as we empower the child to identify what’s going on and articulate their needs more effectively
communicate with their parent and also deal with some of the stuff that’s making them still feel
threatened or afraid reductions in sexualized behaviors trauma-related shame interpersonal
distrust and again social skills deficits if a youth has been dealing with this trauma issue
for a while, they may have avoided other people because they don’t trust other people they’re
afraid of other people haven’t made sense of it so they may not have developed the social skills
that other youth have developed because they have been avoidant situations that might trigger
the trauma memories so who is is inappropriate for if the primary issue is defiant or conduct
disordered it if you don’t believe from a clinical standpoint that this is coming from a
the root of trauma history and addressing trauma is probably not going to do it now do these
children who are oppositional defiant conduct disordered have traumas in their history sure
probably they do but are those traumas causing the behavior or are those traumas sort of
irrelevant and one thing that you’ll find is a lot of we’ll talk about it more in a minute
a lot of people have multiple traumas but they may have resolved certain ones and be okay with
they but others are still open wounds don’t use it if the child is suicidal homicidal or severely
depressed if a child is in that particular state we don’t want to start poking the bear
especially in an outpatient setting but even in residential and even residential with adults I
was always extraordinarily cautious and hesitant to do any sort of trauma work in the first 30 to
60 days I had a client in residential substance abuse treatment I mean the first 30 days they’re
still kind of sobering up there are a lot of impulse issues and in the next 30 days there’s usually a
a lot of mood issues so I want them to feel like they’ve got a handle on things before we start
ripping band-aids off open wounds if possible and if you’re obviously if you’re dealing with a
a child the safety and ethics would just tell you when this might not be appropriate additionally
when children remain in high-risk situations with a continuing possibility of harm such as in
many cases of physical abuse or exposure to domestic violence some aspects of TF CBT may
not be appropriate for example attempting to desensitize to trauma memories is contraindicated
when real danger is present I took that verbatim from the TF CBT training or one of them
that is cited in your booklet or your class it is important to understand that not all of
these children are coming or existing living in an environment that is healthy and you may
have a parent who is court-ordered or ordered by child welfare to bring the youth to counseling
to address trauma issues but that child is going back to a chaotic situation so again it’s going to
be an ethical decision on your part once you have all of the training and you’ve become
certified and TF CBT it would be an ethical decision at that point whether or not to implement
the program to fidelity and you know we want to make sure that the child is cognizant
of any real and present dangerous challenges, they always come up, especially when you’re dealing with
families if the carrot parent or caregiver does not agree that the trauma occurred and we’ve all
dealt with this whether you deal with adults who were traumatized as children and they say nobody
believed me when I was a child and I tried to get somebody to here or whether you’re dealing
with a child right now who is with a caregiver or removed from a caregiver it doesn’t matter
but the caregiver was present at the time and the caregiver doesn’t believe the trauma occurred
it can be a huge barrier because that caregiver is not going to be able to be as supportive if the
The caregiver agrees the trauma occurred but believes that it is not affecting the child significantly
or thinks that addressing it will make matters worse then we can do some education here we can
identify symptoms that are coming out that are present which may be caused by the trauma and we
can show the research of TF CBT as well as other methods if you choose not to use TF CBT but you
can show the caregiver how addressing this trauma can mediate or mitigate some of those symptoms if
the parent is overwhelmed or highly distressed by his or her emotional reactions and is not
able to attend to the child’s experience so if the parent feels guilty for what happened or you
know such as in the cases of domestic violence the parent is dealing with their trauma
because they are surviving domestic violence they may not be able to attend to the issues of the
child at that point and it’s not a judgment it’s just how much energy you have and if you’re
trying to survive yourself you’re probably not going to be able to devote your full attention to
jr.
Over here so we need to look at timing if the parent is suspicious distrustful or doesn’t
believe in the value of therapy again we can do some education here rapport building and go
slow if the client and I my experience has been this occurs when the client is court-ordered or
ordered by child welfare the parent does not trust the system and by the fact the system
referred them to you you’re part of the system so start low go slow try to be as compassionate
open and honest as possible I try with all of my clients but especially with my clients who are
involuntary I am very open about what’s in my records and what I write down because that could
go to the court which could you know potentially reflect upon them you know we talked about what’s
going in into the chart I don’t use subjective judgment everything’s objective unless we talk
about something and they say yeah I’ve made progress here or I feel like I’m backsliding here
and then we talk about how to how that’s going to be put in the notes I don’t lie I don’t cover-up
but I do want to make them feel more comfortable with what’s being written in that magic file that
gets stored away that nobody can see if the parent is facing many concrete problems such as housing
but consume a great deal of energy again if it’s a domestic violence issue and they’ve moved out
and they’re living in a homeless shelter or a domestic violence shelter the parents may be
exhausted and just not able to fully attend to the increased emotional and psychological demands
of the child during this therapy you know they’re going to be doing good to help junior through
the present crisis let alone anything else or if the parent is not willing or prepared to
change parenting practices even though this may be important for treatment to succeed and
there are few and far between situations where this may happen one of the situations would be
if you have a parent who is the biological parent and you have a boyfriend or girlfriend
who is abusing the child and you know that comes out and there needs to be some change in the
the way that children are introduced to new people or there may need to be some change in another
situation and how to indiscipline there are a lot of variations that may come up but ultimately
we need the parent’s full buy-in we need them to be willing to work with children on emotions
identification and cognitive coping and all this other stuff which ultimately ends up helping them
most of the time anyway because I don’t believe any of these skills can be harmful to a person at
At least the initial skills of the trauma narrative if it’s done inappropriately or incorrectly can be
very very harmful but we’ll get there specific strategies that can be undertaken through perseverance
in establishing the therapeutic alliance reach out to contact and try not to serve as the all-knowing
omniscient person but asking them what they need asking them what changed with jr.
Asking them for
feedback and suggestions about what helps when jr. gets like this and so you can brainstorm put
the parent in the expert role of being the parent imagines that explore past negative interactions
with social service agencies or therapy not that we can undo that but we can make sure not to
repeat it and if they start acting disengaged we can evaluate the situation and come back and
say is this reminding you of that prior situation or you know are you feeling disempowered again or
whatever the case may be being fully aware that n TF CBT you have two very distinct clients plus a
the third one is the family so you’ve got a lot of different things to juggle if you want to explore
the parent’s concerns that may make them feel as if they’re not being understood or accepted
the lead listens to or is respected and that gets a little dicey sometimes especially when we start
talking about cultural sensitivity about belief about why the trauma occurred or a
variety of other things that we’ll talk about it’s important to be able to hear the parent and
come from a culturally sensitive and culturally informed perspective it’s also important if
the parent feels guilty for some reason you know and sometimes they will be cognizant of
any nonverbals or any statements that you make that might make them feel that way and if it comes
out or if there’s no other way to say it you know talk about any feelings they may have that about
being not believed or not respected and how can you best facilitate making them feel respected
and accepted and all that stuff explore and help them to come overcome barriers to participating
in treatment, if it’s transportation if it’s a job if it’s something else there may be some
brainstorming that’s required and a little bit of case management and I recognize that most of us
when we work in private practice or agency work don’t get any credit for billable hours for
case management but it has to be done in the best interest of the client and emphasize the centrality
of the caregiver’s role in the child’s recovery making sure that they understand that this can’t
succeed without their help by using parent sessions to reduce parent caregiver distress and guide them
through structured activities that empower them in interactions with the child so you’re going to
bring them in each week and you’re going to talk to the parent independently about what’s going on
what you’re covering how juniors behaving how you can help them help jr.
Etc sometimes you need to
delay joint sessions until the parent or caregiver can offer the child support and sometimes that
means not even starting treatment really until the parent and caregiver parent or caregiver
can be on board now you can get started with psychoeducation emotions identification feelings
identification and stress management and coping skills you know there were not really
poking a bunch of bears so you can probably safely get started on that if it’s sometimes it’s
court-ordered and they have to start treatment by April 1st or something so there are things you can
do but you may need to delay the actual beginning of the trauma narrative until the parent is
able to be available to educate everybody on how therapy works and instill in everyone not just
the parent optima optimist that well optimism about the child’s potential for recovery you
know sometimes they’ve been dealing with this child’s acting out behaviors for so long they’re
just like you know we’ve already been to three other therapists I don’t know what’s going to
fix it or I’ve done everything I know how to do good luck so we can talk about you know a
different approach or we can talk about what they’ve done that’s worked for a short period
of time and build on those strengths to instill optimism and hope and empowerment so
initially, when we talk about psycho-education it’s important to provide accurate information
about the trauma when children are traumatized they can be confused and not completely understand
what happened they may blame themselves and they may hold on to myths because they’ve been misled
and/or deliberately given incorrect information so one of the best ways we can help is to correct
that information provides information about how often this happens and whether you know it’s okay
to do this that or the other psychoeducation clarifies inappropriate information children may
have obtained directly from the perpetrator or on their own so the perpetrator may have told them
that this is how I express love or this is how you need to be disciplined because you don’t learn
this is how I was disciplined whatever it is or they could have gotten it on their own they could
have gotten it from school from the internet or just come up with it in their little heads trying
to make sense of what happened psychoeducation also helps them identify safety issues the
difference between safe situations and dangerous situations and as we get through this I really
want you to get away from the notion that TF CBT and childhood trauma are only physical and sexual
abuse there are so many other traumas as evidenced by the adverse childhood experiences survey that
I want you to wrap your head around that and there are things they didn’t cover in the aces such as
bullying and natural disasters so we want to help children whatever the trauma is the trauma made
they feel unsafe so we want to identify safety issues if the trauma was a hurricane then we want
to talk about what hurricanes are how often they hit what to safety plan etc so every time a
the thunderstorm comes they don’t freak out and we want to use psychoeducation to provide another
way to target faulty or maladaptive beliefs by helping to normalize thoughts and feelings about
the traumatic experience you know it makes sense that that was scary and makes sense that
you’re angry it makes sense that you feel this way and we can talk about why that makes
sense and why it makes you feel that way through cycle education you’re getting the child to start
talking about the specific trauma that he or she experienced in a less anxiety-provoking way by
talking in Jen wrong about the type of trauma so you’re talking about natural disasters you’re
talking about plane crashes you’re talking about domestic violence so they start learning about
it and then eventually you’re going to move down to their experience with it so like I said there
are a ton of different traumas and the ACE study even acknowledges that these are just the ten most
common ones that they heard however there are many many many different traumas and types of trauma
some of the biggest ones are physical and sexual abuse physical neglect emotional abuse
and neglect and the Aces identified mother treated violently I would say anyone in the household
treated violently it’s not just the mother’s substance misuse within the household and that
can be by the parents or by siblings household mental illness parental separation or divorce and
an incarcerated household member so those were aces but then like I said there’s also bullying
the death of a parent or sibling is extremely traumatic hurricane tornado natural disaster and
then I put the fire out separately because sometimes fire can be man-made sometimes it can be a wiring
problem but sometimes it can be Jr was playing with matches now even if jr.
Accidentally started
the fire does that make it any less traumatic no it probably makes it more traumatic because then
there’s a whole sense of guilt and responsibility but it’s still a trauma that has to be dealt
with so I put a link to the adverse childhood experiences website if you want to go look more
about that but we’re going to move on psycho-education involves specific information about
the traumatic events the child has experienced not the child’s event we’re not going to go
into police records or something, we’re just going to talk about specific information about
domestic violence or whatever body awareness and sex education in cases of physical or sexual
maltreatment and there are caveats for getting parental consent and permission and all that other
stuff and Risk Reduction skills to decrease the risk of future traumatization now going back to
those other things it’s not just about physical or sexual abuse so we want to look at what was the
the risk created by you know how can you reduce your risk of being bullied how can you reduce your
risk of being traumatized in a tornado you know you can’t stop the tornado from coming
and they’re everywhere so what do you do and talk about a safety plan the same thing with fire
information needs to be tailored to fit a child’s particularly particular experiences and level
of knowledge obviously, you’re going to provide different information to a seven-year-old than
you are to a 17-year-old provide caregivers with handout materials to reinforce the information
discussed in session so this may help educate the parents about some of it but it lets them
know what you talked about and it gets us all on the literal same page you’re providing them a
handout of everything you went over with Junior and we want to encourage caregivers to discuss
this information at home reinforces accurate information about how safe or unsafe they
are and obviously, we’re going towards safe and reinforced accurate information and develop
a safety plan so they feel confident that at home they’re going to be taken care of when you
start psychoeducation you do want to get a sense of what the child already knows and you can use
a question-and-answer game format in which the child gets points for answering questions which I
love this suggestion so you can ask them if you know what is a hurricane or is a tornado and see
if they know and see if they know how much time and much-advanced warning we have for a tornado
versus a hurricane or you know whatever situation you’re talking about you see I did a lot of posts
Hurricane Katrina counseling in northern Florida so that’s one of those things that comes up for
I am talking with children about how likely is it that a category 5 hurricane is going to hit
again but encouraging them to give your aunt’s give answers and if they give the wrong answer you
know it’s great to try now you know try to coach them into a correct answer or provide them the correct
one but give them credit for at least making an effort sample questions might include what is
you know and put in the type of trauma what is bullying how often do you think bullying happens
and why does bullying happen you know those are some questions you can ask to just open a dialogue
about bullying, if this child has been a victim of bullying and is and is traumatized so cultural
considerations meet the child and family where they are by presenting information in a way which
they can relate it to their belief system and you may need to consult with their spiritual
guidance guides leaders whether it be a pastor or you know whatever to get some guidance
on how to handle certain aspects of whether it was the will of God and in the case of sexual abuse
how to handle the concept of virginity and how to handle the concept of bad things happening to bad
people and whatever else they think is coming from or their parents are instilling in them in a
belief system we want to make sure that we’re not necessarily contradicting it and going oh mom dad
and the church is wrong but we also want to help them try to integrate this in a way that can help
they have strong self-esteem so reaching out to those spiritual leaders and the family asking what
their belief system about certain things can be very helpful assess the general beliefs about
the trauma if something happened or when something happens ask the parent or the family that’s there
not necessarily the child but you want to get a sense of what the family stance is on why this
happened what it means how it’s going to impact life hence foreign henceforth and forever more
focus on the events they perceive as traumatic to the family but most especially the child if the
child’s going back to the Aces you know maybe the parents got divorced but the child doesn’t
see that as traumatic because there was domestic violence ahead of time the domestic violence was
traumatic the divorce was a relief so wherever the child is with each trauma we want to
be respectful of what they perceive is traumatic and tailor the information so the family can be
more receptive to it as supportive as possible and sometimes you need to make sure that the language
you know make sure the language is not jargony about general views of mental health and mental health
treatment should also be assessed and addressed in the psychoeducation piece not only with the child
but also with the family, if they are suspicious of it don’t understand it think that you’re just
going to magically fix Junior we want to demystify the process and talk about what is the purpose of
the assessment what is the purpose of each one of these activities and why am I doing this or why
are we doing this as a team and how can it help and then we also want to provide information to
D stigmatize and normalize mental health issues and seeking treatment some cultures are still
resistant to seeking treatment and I use the term cultures broadly because there’s
a stigma associated with it so normalizing for them how many people go to treatment how common
PTSD is or whatever the situation you’re dealing with it doesn’t mean they have to like it but at
At least it will give them a little bit of a nugget to understand that they’re not the only ones if
they are from a cultural group a minority cultural group of some sort you might want to provide
information about how common this particular issue is in their group I’ve done a lot of work
with law enforcement and emergency responders and they’re kind of their little group so
we talk about how common depression is among law enforcement and emergent emergency responders
specifically, because they face so much so many different stressors than you know Joe Schmo over
here so it D stigmatizes and normalizes a little bit now they still may not talk about it and
go well hey you know 37% of us have clinical depression no that’s probably not going to happen
but at least in the back of their mind, they can go you know what I’m looking around this room and
I can bet that at least one other person’s on antidepressants or something and feel a little
less unique and isolated in parent sessions you want to provide a rationale and overview of the
treatment model educates parents about the trauma and talks about the child’s trauma-related symptoms
so we’re going to go over what is hyper-vigilance what is the function it why people become
hypervigilant after trauma and what might it look like in a child because it presents very
differently for different children so we might want to give some ideas and say does this sound
like Johnny or does this sound like Johnny and help them understand why these behaviors may
be coming out we want to talk about how early treatment helps prevent long-term problems okay
maybe the trauma happened three years ago but still, it’s better than waiting ten more years and
you know Johnny’s still not having any Ellucian will want to talk about the importance of talking
directly about the trauma to help the children cope with their experiences and not hedging and
this will be on a case-by-case basis but the manual walks you through handling this discussion with
the parents about exactly how much detail do I go into if Johnny brings it up at home reassure
parents that children will first be taught skills to help them cope with their discomfort
and that talking about the trauma will be done slowly with a great deal of support so we’re not
just going to plop them down and go okay and tell me about the day that all this happened which
is what the child has experienced already if it was reported to law enforcement and/or the child
welfare they’ve probably had somebody sit down and say get right to the nitty-gritty at least
once or twice and it’s completely dehumanizing so we want to reassure parents that we’re not
going to do that to the child again will help the caregiver understand their role in the child’s
treatment since this modified since this model emphasizes working together as a team so I’m not
just going to be educating you it’s not going to be a parallel thing where I go in and I work with
Johnny and then I tell you what I did and then I work with Johnny I’m going to work with Johnny
and then we’re going to discuss what Johnny and I did in session and I’m going to get input from
you and we’re going to talk about how you feel about it and then I’m going to provide you with tools
so you can help Johnny outside of the session because you’re going to be with them for six-and-a-half
other days that I’m not and this can’t work if it’s just one hour once a week and we want to
elicit parent input questions and suggestions as much as possible because they’ve been living with
their kid for you know however many years so they probably have an idea about what works and what
doesn’t so we’ll start with both parents and children in their respective sessions helping
them understand what control breathing is and how it helps slow the heart rate and trigger the
wrist and digest sort of reaction in your body when your breathing slows your heart naturally
slows because the stress reaction tells your brain you’ve got to breathe fast and the heart
rates got to go fast well when you override that then you’re kind of overriding the whole system
and we’ll also talk about thought stopping and this is especially helpful if the trauma is recent
or and/or ever-present in the mind of the youth so they can say I am NOT going to talk about that right
now I’m not going to think about that right talk about distraction techniques go back to
your DBT stuff talks about improving the moment and accepts to help the child develop skills to
handle and work through when those thoughts pop up replace unthawed unwanted thoughts with
a pleasant one so talk about it in session when thoughts like that come up what would you
prefer to think about and then really get into the Nitty Gritty the five senses what do you see
smell hear taste you know help me get into that situation or that thought this teaches that
thoughts even unexpected and intrusive ones can be controlled so that gives them hope and again we’re
not exacerbating the thoughts right now we’re not bringing up their particular trauma and
having them get into detail we are just helping them deal with what’s happening normally on a
day-to-day basis so they feel like they have more control for the older kids you can have them
people log about when this technique is used what they were thinking about and how effective the
thought stopping was and then review it and help them tune it up if it’s not really effective and
give them praise for when they use it effectively relaxation training persons of Asian or Hispanic
origin tend to express stress in more somatic or physical terms so just be aware of that but that
doesn’t mean that Caucasians don’t relaxation training is good for anyone and the medical
school of South Carolina training recommended that relaxation is stress-free and
workbook by Davis Schulman and McKay so and it is still in publication when deciding how to
present relaxation techniques are creative have the child help you to integrate the elements
into the technique that makes it more relevant to them so, what are you thinking about when you
relax you know I know I like to go to the woods but maybe this kid likes to think about a video
game or play with their dog whatever it is but helps them make it relevant to them and then have
they identify other things they do to relax like drawing listening to music walking and making a
list of those things so they can refer to it when you’re teaching relaxation training especially if
you’re doing something like progressive muscular relaxation be sensitive to the child’s wishes if
they don’t wish to close their eyes or lie down which could trigger memories of the trauma we’re
not going there yet so if they feel vulnerable lying down or taking orders like that because
you can imagine how being told to lie down and close their eyes might be a trigger for certain
abuse survivors you know be cognizant of that and say you know get into a comfortable position
or how where would you like to sit while we talk about this like I said parents can often
benefit from the relaxation training as well so because they’re dealing with their issues
about the trauma but they’re also dealing with trying to figure out how to help Johnny and any
of them deal with any of Johnny’s misbehaviors or problematic behaviors then they move on to
feelings identification so it helps the therapist judge the child’s ability to articulate feelings
if you can tell me what makes you happy that’s great but if you can’t then you know we need to
work on figuring out what makes you happy you also want to help the child rate the intensity
of the emotion don’t let them stick with happy mad sad glad and afraid you know let’s talk about
different emotions and use the emotion chart with little faces on it or you can use the emotion
thermometer so is it a hot emotion or is it a cool emotion and helps the child
learn how to express feelings appropriately in different situations I mean sometimes they’re
going to be angry but it might not be appropriate to you know get up and stomp out of the room or
whatever however they communicate it so help them figure out how to articulate that so they can be
heard and supported some children have difficulty discussing or identifying their feelings so
you might try stepping back and discussing the feelings of other children or characters from
books or stories so you know think about Puff the Magic Dragon if they’ve read that you know
that dates me a little bit there but you know how did the little boy feel and talking about things
different characters and different stories where there are elements of anger and shame and loss and
all of that stuff helps children identify how they experience emotions if they seem detached
from the experience because sometimes they just they’ve shut it off it was just too overwhelming
so we want to talk about you know when you’re happy what does that feel like or when you’re
angry what happens what does your body feel like when you’re angry and they might be able
to tell you they hear their heartbeat in their ears or everything gets all fuzzy or whatever
but help them start tuning in to how they react and connecting that with an emotional word and then
after all, that’s done they can identify feelings they can identify feeling intensity now we want to
differentiate between thoughts and feelings many children describe thoughts when they’ve been
asked about a feeling so if you ask them how they feel they may say I want to run away so
you want to say okay well I hear that you want to run away so I’m wondering if you are bored and you
you’re bored and want to get away from it or if you’re scared can you tell me a little bit more
about what it means to you to want to run away during feelings identification the parent
sessions normalize what is going on with their child and help the parent understand that some
children may be seemingly in constant distress or detached from the trauma and that’s okay
we all react differently to traumas so again we’re going to share with the parents what we’re
Do let them know any specific difficulties if any juniors have encouraged the parent to praise
the child for appropriate management of difficult motions and I put in parenthesis successive
approximations because they’re not going to get it a hundred percent right every time so if they
try to effectively manage their emotions even a little bit let’s give them praise for that and
then help them figure out how to do it a little bit better the next time so instead of having a
complete meltdown maybe they got up and stomped out of the room well that’s an improvement so
then we want to talk about how to shape that behavior so it’s a more appropriate communication
if parents have difficulty identifying their own emotions provide them with examples so
continually ask them questions about how you feel when it’s a rainy day outside and how to do you
feel when somebody’s supposed to call you and they don’t how do you feel when and have about 15 or 20
examples and you can have them on a piece of paper and even give it to the parent to take home for
their homework if parents are overcome with their own emotions about the trauma validate
their feelings and explain how children need to see that their parents can handle talking
about the trauma so there the children need to see the strength and the parents which is what you’re
going to work on in parent sessions to make sure that the parents have the resolve and the skills
handle talking about this topic with junior TFC BT can be an effective intervention
for children or adolescents whose primary presenting issue is trauma-related emotional or
behavioral dysregulation TF CBT is not appropriate for clients who are actively suicidal and severely
depressed or currently abusing substances we want to make sure they’re clean
and sober as much as possible TF CBT starts with psychoeducation and then teaches stress
management and coping skills to aid in the management of distressing feelings psycho IDI
helps to clarify the inappropriate information children may have and start getting them a little
a bit more comfortable talking about the topic in general before we start going deeper and
feelings identification helps participants start effectively labeling and communicating their
feelings so they can receive the support and nurturance they need from their caregivers
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