Number six, you use your emotions to get people to do what you want. Have you intentionally
made someone feel guilty just to get your way? Expressing your emotions can be great for your mental health. Appropriate self-expression facilitates open communication and prevents many resentments. However, unleashing your
emotions becomes destructive when you use it to
manipulate another person. This may include impulsive
shouting or screaming, using threats or ultimatums, blaming them for fights you started, or using information they’ve told you in confidence against them to maintain control and power. Number seven, you use silence as a weapon. Are you the type who deals with conflict by shutting down and running in the other direction? Have you ever used the
silent treatment on others to get what you want? Emotional withholding, a form of emotional abuse that involves using affection,
validation, love, and praise, against someone is a
form of emotional abuse that includes what you might know as the silent treatment. Although it’s normal for any relationship to go through periods of silence, it may become abusive
when you start to use it as a way to punish,
control, or manipulate. Withholding affection or positive emotion through silent treatment is a toxic way to gain the upper hand in any relationship. This also includes talking to everyone about the issue, except the other person involved or wanting the other person to feel bad or guilty. Do you relate to any of
the signs mentioned here? If so, what do you plan to do next? Tell us in the comments below. If you find this video insightful, please like and share it with others who may benefit from it. Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification bell icon for more psychology content. All the references used are also added in the
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(light upbeat music) – [Narrator] Hey, Psych2Goers. Welcome back to another video. To start, we would like to thank you for all the support you’ve given us. Psych2Go’s mission is to make psychology and mental health more
accessible to everyone. Now, back to the video. Have you ever put someone down for their appearance or intellect? Emotional abuse is one of the more common forms of abuse that uses behavioral or emotional tactics to gain a sense of control or to maintain the upper
hand in a relationship. It may be subtle and hard to recognize since it often gets swept under the rug as just a part of normal disagreements. Before we begin, we would like to mention that this video is for
educational purposes only and is not intended to offend or trigger any of our audiences. This video is created so that anyone who sees themselves
in these behaviors can use this information to improve their relationships and lives. With that said, here are seven signs you might be emotionally abusive. Number one, you jokingly insult people. Have you ever made a joke to hurt the person you’re making fun of? While family and friends may enjoy playful banter with each other, teasing and playful put-downs can end up crossing the line into emotional abuse when the jokes become aggressive and used intentionally to send a negative and hurtful message across. This especially applies when you continue teasing the person or brush it off as only a joke, even though they’ve told you to stop and that your comments
have become hurtful. Number two, you dismiss others’ feelings. Have you ever purposefully ignored or dismissed how someone felt because you thought they deserved it? Everyday life can sometimes be so hectic, that you lose sight of what’s happening in other people’s lives. After all, you can’t know how your loved ones are
feeling all the time. But not recognizing someone’s feelings may become emotionally abusive when you tell them their
feelings are wrong, or that they have no right to be so upset. This psychological invalidation of brushing someone’s feelings off as irrelevant or dramatic can lead to feelings of rejection, alienation, and depression. Number three, you like
to embarrass others. Do you bring up someone’s
embarrassing moments to make them feel guilty or ashamed? Have you ever humiliated
someone out of anger or because you feel threatened? It’s one thing to laugh
about the past moments in a fun and loving way, but this may quickly
become emotional abuse when you go out of your
way to humiliate them as a way of punishment or a reminder that you are the one in control of your relationship. Humiliating someone in front of people or when they’ve asked for you to stop can be incredibly damaging to their mental and emotional well-being. Number four, you like to push buttons. Did you know that constantly
doing and saying things to get others to react is also a form of emotional abuse? Doing unpredictable things to keep the other person on their toes can be a form of emotional abuse. Instead of being spontaneous to do things you both enjoy, you may use this unpredictable tactic to say or do things to purposefully anger and upset them, especially in front of other people. This may include broadcasting a secret they told you in confidence, or making social media posts you know will trigger them. Number five, you tell people their version of reality is wrong. Have you ever dismissed
someone’s experience as imagined? Gaslighting is a psychological term for negating someone else’s reality and it involves intentionally using someone’s words, feelings,
or actions against them. The goal is to completely
discredit anything the other person has to say so that the abuser can maintain control over the narrative. This may include telling
them they are crazy, accusing them of lying or making decisions for
them without their input. Number six, you use your emotions to get people to do what you want. Have you intentionally
made someone feel guilty just to get your way? Expressing your emotions can be great for your mental health. Appropriate self-expression facilitates open communication and prevents many resentments. However, unleashing your
emotions becomes destructive when you use it to
manipulate another person. This may include impulsive
shouting or screaming, using threats or ultimatums, blaming them for fights you started, or using information they’ve told you in confidence against them to maintain control and power. Number seven, you use silence as a weapon. Are you the type who deals with conflict by shutting down and running in the other direction? Have you ever used the
silent treatment on others to get what you want? Emotional withholding, a form of emotional abuse that involves using affection,
validation, love, and praise, against someone is a
form of emotional abuse that includes what you might know as the silent treatment. Although it’s normal for any relationship to go through periods of silence, it may become abusive
when you start to use it as a way to punish,
control, or manipulate. Withholding affection or positive emotion through silent treatment is a toxic way to gain the upper hand in any relationship. This also includes talking to everyone about the issue, except the other person involved or wanting the other person to feel bad or guilty. Do you relate to any of
the signs mentioned here? If so, what do you plan to do next? Tell us in the comments below. If you find this video insightful, please like and share it with others who may benefit from it. Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification bell icon for more psychology content. All the references used are also added in the
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Number six, you use your emotions to get people to do what you want. Have you intentionally
made someone feel guilty just to get your way? Expressing your emotions can be great for your mental health. Appropriate self-expression facilitates open communication and prevents many resentments. However, unleashing your
emotions becomes destructive when you use it to
manipulate another person. This may include impulsive
shouting or screaming, using threats or ultimatums, blaming them for fights you started, or using information they’ve told you in confidence against them to maintain control and power. Number seven, you use silence as a weapon. Are you the type who deals with conflict by shutting down and running in the other direction? Have you ever used the
silent treatment on others to get what you want? Emotional withholding, a form of emotional abuse that involves using affection,
validation, love, and praise, against someone is a
form of emotional abuse that includes what you might know as the silent treatment. Although it’s normal for any relationship to go through periods of silence, it may become abusive
when you start to use it as a way to punish,
control, or manipulate. Withholding affection or positive emotion through silent treatment is a toxic way to gain the upper hand in any relationship. This also includes talking to everyone about the issue, except the other person involved or wanting the other person to feel bad or guilty. Do you relate to any of
the signs mentioned here? If so, what do you plan to do next? Tell us in the comments below. If you find this video insightful, please like and share it with others who may benefit from it. Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification bell icon for more psychology content. All the references used are also added in the
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Research also found connections
between anxiety disorders and changes in a person’s sleep cycles. When you’re anxious and
ruminate before sleep, this affects rapid eye
movement or REM sleep, which may induce more unsettling dreams and result in a higher likelihood
of sleeping disruptions. Having nightmares during sleep may also reinforce a negative association between dread and sleep. Number four. You use fear language. Do a lot of your sentences start with, “I’m concerned, I’m
afraid, or I’m worried?” According to a licensed
clinical psychologist, Alicia H. Clark, PsyD PLLC, “The regular use of such phrases “may indicate a deeper problem. “Even though it may sound normal, “sometimes this fear language
can be a sign of anxiety “that is most often brushed off.” Number five. You’re not able to sit still. Can you be still when you’re sitting down? Perhaps you can’t help but tap your foot or scrum around in your chair. According to Dr. Clark, being restless and unable to sit still can be a subtle sign of anxiety. However, it’s important to note that being unable to sit still can also be a classic example of attention deficit
hyperactivity disorder, ADHD, since sitting down is an
under-stimulating task that is unrewarding to the brain. Number six. You apologize excessively. Do you say sorry a lot? Another sign of anxiety
is when a word of apology comes too often and easily, even when it’s not your fault or when it’s out of your control. With anxiety, you may find yourself still over-apologizing for the situation. According to Dr. Juliana Breines, an Assistant Professor of Psychology at the University of Rhode Island, “If you’re always hard on yourself “and have a tendency to
beat yourself up for things, “then it’s likely “you’ll also tend to over-apologize.” And number seven, you
forget important details. Are you always told off for
overlooking small details and making small mistakes? Sometimes, when you have anxiety, you may feel overwhelmed with thoughts, such as about how things may go wrong that you end up not paying attention to the things happening around you. This can make you overlook crucial moments in detail that are important. So if you find yourself
missing important details or forgetting crucial
information a lotta the time, it may be a sign of anxiety. What do you do when you’re anxious? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe, and share this video with those
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see you in the next one. (lighthearted music).
Narcissistic abuse can trigger
anxious and nervous feelings that can trigger physical symptoms. The stress of chronic abuse may send your stress
levels into overdrive. As a result, your immune
system may take a severe hit leaving you vulnerable to
physical ailments and disease. You may notice symptoms such
as appetite changes, nausea, stomach pain, muscle aches and
pains, insomnia, and fatigue. Number eight, you may have
issues setting boundaries. The experience of narcissistic abuse can often leave you with
little respect for boundaries. This may be because when you tried to set
boundaries in the past, you may have been met with
challenges from the abuser who gave you the silent treatment until you did what they wanted. Once you end the relationship or gain distance from
a narcissistic parent, you promise yourself that
you won’t answer their calls or physically see them at all. However, even if you’ve tried to cut ties, your abuser is confident that they will eventually wear you down because you’ve set aside
your boundaries with them so many times before. If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, you might also have trouble
setting healthy boundaries in your relationships
with others in the future. Nine, you may be questioning
your own identity. When facing abuse, many people
adjust their self-identity to accommodate an abusive partner. You may have stopped
doing things you enjoy or spending time with friends and family to better appease your abuser. These changes can often
lead to a loss of identity during and after the abuse. It’s not uncommon for
victims of narcissistic abuse to experience dissociation and attachment from the physical world. Dr. van der Kolk writes
in his book titled, “The Body Keeps The Score” that dissociation is the essence of trauma. The overwhelming experience
is split off and fragmented so that the emotions,
sounds, images, thoughts, and physical sensations
take on a life of their own. Oof! Number 10, you may find
it hard to make decisions. When there has been a negative pattern of devaluation and criticism in your life, you might have very little self-esteem and confidence in yourself. Narcissistic abusers can make statements that imply that you are
unable to make good decisions. Abusive partners may have called
you stupid, or ignorant, or they might’ve insulted you with a false and affectionate tone. They can manipulate you into believing you
imagine parts of reality making it seem less important
than it is. This type of controlling and deceitfulness can affect the way you
make future decisions. So, did you relate to any of the signs? Let us know in the comments below. I wanted to take a second
to say that I… Um, sorry. Hi, it’s Amanda, the voiceover voice. I’m reading the script for the first time and I related to it. So I wanted to add a point that, in taking the time to learn about narcissistic
victim syndrome, you’re empowering yourself. Once you know you can grow. Acknowledging the effects of being in a narcissistic relationship is the first step to healing from one. As we close out, we want to say that not all
abuse is linked to narcissism, and not all people with a diagnosis of narcissistic
personality disorder will engage in abusive behavior. However, if you feel you might be a victim of this type of abuse, we encourage you to reach out for help. Talk to someone you can trust, like a good friend, a family
member, or a therapist. It’s not easy to leave
an abusive relationship, but with the right support,
you can move on with your life and start to heal from your past hurts. Like and share this video if it helped you and you think it could
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Number four, not feeling pain. Another sign of dissociation
is not feeling pain. There is research suggesting that dissociation not only
minimizes painful memories but also the physical
pain attached to them. However, the connection
between dissociation and pain is not solely related to trauma. People who experience chronic pain can also experience dissociation. For some who experience dissociation as a result of a mental health condition, the feeling of not feeling in your body can sometimes lead you to self-injure. Although it makes sense to do something to bring you back into your body, self-injuring is not the best option. And number five, a loss of self-identity. Another aspect of dissociation
is depersonalization, it’s similar to derealization in the sense that you feel like you
are watching yourself. However, depersonalization
makes you feel distant from your mental process, you feel that you are an
observer of your own life. Depersonalization can
occur with other symptoms on this list, it can be a very scary feeling like you don’t have any
control of your body. Some clinicians believe that
extreme stress or trauma can produce depersonalization. So, do you relate to any of these signs? Dissociation can be frightening and, in some cases, intrusive. It’s not like a physical illness where a diagnosis and treatment are administered via exams, but there is treatment, among them being
psychotherapy, medication, family therapy, and clinical hypnosis. If you experience any of these symptoms, please reach out to a medical health
professional for treatment. Please like and share this with friends who might find some good
advice in the video as well. Make sure to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification
bell for more content. All the references used are added in the description box below. Thanks so very much for watching and we’ll see you the next time.My Name Is Dr. Joe Vitale
