Harvard negotiator explains how to argue | Dan Shapiro

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– I personally feel uncomfortable around conflict.
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– Now, we’re here today to find out how to argue. – But conflict is useful.
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The question is, how do you deal with conflict the most effectively? Here we go.
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I am author of Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally-Charged Conflicts.
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Have you found yourself in an argument that felt so frustrating, so at a core aggravating? – That’s the silliest opinion I’ve ever heard. – It felt just nonnegotiable? Well, congratulations, you’re a human being.
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We all experience conflict in our lives, and seeing what’s going on in our world today, my hunch is you were probably having at least one of these conflicts about politics.
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Our country has fallen into what I believe is a tribal trap. Anything that that other side says, I shall not believe, I shall not give any credibility to, and I’m gonna do everything I can to prove I’m right, you’re wrong, and to stifle you down to raise me up.
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The problem is not with the what, what are we arguing about, the problem is with the how.
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– How should we argue? – How can we be more effective? And what I’ve found is that there are three big barriers that we can actually overcome to have more effective conversations.
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The big things, one, identity, two, appreciation, and three, affiliation. Let’s start with identity.
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– Now, first of all, this is a hot issue. – Why do we get so emotional in these conflict situations? It often goes back to something deeper: identity. What are the core values, the core beliefs that are feeling threatened inside of you as you’re having that conversation with the other side? The moment your identity gets hooked in these conflicts, all of a sudden your emotions become Boy, this is a wholly different conflict now. It’s now your pride.
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Your sense of self is on the line.
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You need to know who you are and what you stand for. What are the values and beliefs that are driving me to fight for this stance on this issue? The more you understand who you are, the more you can try to get your purpose met and stay balanced, even when the other threatens those core values and beliefs.
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Each side wants to feel appreciated, and yet the last thing they wanna do is to appreciate the other side. That’s a problem.
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– Listen and understand.
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– When you’re in the midst of the conflict, don’t talk. Take the first 10 minutes.
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Consciously listen to the other side.
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What’s the value behind their perspective? What’s the logic, the rationale? Why do they hold this perspective on immigration or healthcare? Once you truly understand and see the value in their perspective, let them know I hear where you’re coming from, and you know what? That makes sense.
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There is nothing more in the world that we like than to feel appreciated.
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Recognize your power to appreciate them. Third, affiliation. What’s the emotional connection like between you and the other side? We typically approach these conflict situations as me versus you.
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My opinion on healthcare versus yours, my party’s perspectives on immigration versus yours. That’s just gonna leave the two of you like rams butting heads.
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– Find common ground. – Turn that other person from an adversary into a partner, so it’s no longer me versus you, but the two of us facing the same shared problem. Ask the other person, “Look, what’s your advice “on how we can get as many of our interests met “at the same time?” Change the nature of your conversation.
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Now, you put these three things into practice, it can transform your relationships.
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Imagine what would happen if we started a revolution, but a positive revolution of greater understanding, greater appreciation, greater affiliation, how we could transform politics, how we could transform our country and ultimately our world.
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I believe it’s possible, but it starts with each one of us.
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When Life Hurts, Care Less About It | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius

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Once the most powerful man in the known world, Marcus Aurelius attempted to live virtuously, following Stoic principles.
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Unlike many Roman Emperors, he did not indulge in the many pleasures he had access to, like getting drunk on wine and watching sadistic games in the Colosseum.
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Marcus Aurelius wanted to fulfill the task Fortune had given him, which was serving humanity. So, he cared deeply about fulfilling his purpose.
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But to do so, he had to care less about the things that aren’t worthy nor wise to care about.
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And these things are many.
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One of the essential concepts in Stoicism is the schism between things we control and do not control, which Epictetus’ Enchiridion explains so clearly. Most (if not all) things beyond our own actions are not up to us. Does that mean we should renounce the world? Not necessarily.
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But the Stoics believed that we should be realistic about our limited influence on these things and that we create an unnecessary burden for ourselves if we aren’t. When life hurts, it often means that we care about things we have no control over, and by doing so, we let them control us and play with us like puppeteers.
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Then, we blame the puppeteers for pulling our strings while, in actuality, we allow them to do so.
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But if we stop caring about them, they lose power over us, and we’ll be undisturbed. For Marcus Aurelius, being unperturbed by things outside of his control allowed him to cope with the many responsibilities and challenges he faced as an emperor and to focus on the task he believed he was given by the gods. For Epictetus, it meant freedom.
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For other people, not being moved by external forces (or a selection of them) could be a way to focus on goals that do matter.
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And for others, it could simply be a path to a happy, carefree life. When life hurts, what are the things we should stop occupying ourselves with? And how do we do it? This video is an exploration and free interpretation of Marcus Aurelius’ philosophy on how to care less about things that aren’t worth caring about.
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By the way, you’ll find more Stoic wisdom in this book – Stoicism for Inner Peace – which contains my collected works on remaining calm and focused in these challenging times. You’ll find a link in the description.
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In his Meditations, Marcus Aurelius repeatedly differentiates between present, past, and future.
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In each category, the ancient Roman Emperor has valuable things to say about how we either care too much about them, or in the wrong ways, or about the wrong things.
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For clarity and structure, this essay is subdivided into these categories, starting with… The future As Seneca once stated: we suffer more in our imagination than in reality, implying that our thoughts are the source of our suffering.
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When it comes to the future, our imagination often goes wild, inventing countless scenarios of what could happen (but probably never will).
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Beforehand, we think of ways to handle possible outcomes while shivering because of the idea of ‘not knowing how the future will eventually play out.’ In some instances, what happens is what we anticipate.
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But in many other instances, Fortune surprises us, overwhelming us with events we couldn’t have anticipated.
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For example, we could have spent years preparing for a well-earned retirement only to receive, right before the first day of our twilight years, a deadly cancer diagnosis that gives us just a few more months to live.
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The possibility of such events leads many to continuous worry: the best could happen, but the worst as well! And what if the Third World War breaks out? What if I lose all my money? Such adverse outcomes are very well possible.
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But as long as they aren’t happening in the present, we cannot deal with them, as these events simply aren’t happening (at least, not yet): they only exist in our thoughts. The future only bothers us because we think about it, as it does not exist outside the mind.
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Marcus Aurelius wrote that it’s not the weight of the future pressing upon us but that of the present alone.
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It’s not the future that hurts us but how we deal with it in the present. The misery of the future happens in the present.
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And ironically, it’s not the future unfolding in the present, as when we encounter it, it’s already present.
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The misery of the future is our worrying about it now.
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When we care too much about future events, life eventually begins to hurt as we suffer them in our imagination, letting them dictate our present.
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So, what does Marcus Aurelius say about caring too much about the future? First, let’s consider the following quote: Never let the future disturb you.
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You will meet it, if you have to, with the same weapons of reason which today arm you against the present. End quote.
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He pointed out that if he could cope with the present, he could also cope with the future. He told himself not to picture everything dreadful that could happen but instead stick with the situation at hand.
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When he focused on the present, he realized he could bear it.
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And if that’s the case, why wouldn’t he be able to handle what’s yet to come? This attitude resembles the idea of ‘Amor Fati,’ the love of fate, but then fortified with trust that we’ll be able to get through it. (2) The past Marcus Aurelius reminded himself of how fast existence passes by and disappears in the infinite beyond our grasp.
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The past, as the future, is a realm we cannot operate in.
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What’s gone is gone, and unless we invent the time machine, we can’t change anything about it.
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Marcus Aurelius stated, and I quote: Remember that man lives only in the present, in this fleeting instant; all the rest of his life is either past and gone, or not yet revealed.
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Short, therefore, is man’s life, and narrow is the corner of the earth wherein he dwells. End quote.
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Despite the narrowness of our lives, which only occurs in the present moment, we’re often overly occupied with these areas that lie outside of it and cannot be entered: the future and the past.
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Marcus Aurelius stated that the past “signifies as much as nothing and is at present indifferent.” It’s not that events that have happened in the past don’t influence the present or that we cannot learn from past events.
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It’s just that we cannot work with the past, as it’s out of our reach.
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And often, our memories of the past are scrambled, and ways to verify what exactly happened are limited.
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We rely on recollections from personal perspectives and different viewpoints of ourselves or others. So, the past is not only out of reach; our remembrance of it is most likely inaccurate.
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Yet, we keep caring about past events, often repeating them in our minds, re-experiencing the pain they caused us.
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Some believe that by thinking about the past, we may have some control over it. But that’s an illusion.
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The past is gone.
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All we try to control are our thoughts about something that’s been flushed away, never to return.
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“I wish I could have done this differently,” many people say. But they wish for the impossible.
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Nothing can be gained from such thoughts, as they evoke desires we can never fulfill. Instead of focusing on the past events in themselves, Marcus Aurelius focused on his reaction toward them.
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We cannot control past events.
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Most likely, we also couldn’t prevent them when they occurred in the present.
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But we can control how we position ourselves toward these events. Initially, we might consider the past unfortunate.
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We might have had difficult childhoods or experienced the ending of friendships or failed business ventures.
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But, according to Marcus Aurelius, the nature of these events isn’t so important; what counts is how we handle them. He stated: It’s unfortunate that this has happened. No.
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It’s fortunate that this has happened and I’ve remained unharmed by it—not shattered by the present or frightened of the future. It could have happened to anyone.
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But not everyone could have remained unharmed by it.
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Why treat the one as a misfortune rather than the other as fortunate? Can you really call something a misfortune that doesn’t violate human nature? Or do you think something that’s not against nature’s will can violate it? But you know what its will is.
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Does what’s happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness, and all the other qualities that allow a person’s nature to fulfill itself? End quote.
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Interestingly enough, Marcus Aurelius doesn’t discard the value of the past entirely. He believed we could learn from the past by looking at its rhythm: how things come and go, repeating themselves, so we can “extrapolate” the future. (3) The present Marcus Aurelius frequently mentions that the present moment is all we have; it’s the narrow field we’ve access to.
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From the present, we can stare into the endless abyss of the past and the impenetrable darkness of the future.
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Marcus Aurelius encouraged himself to stick with what was in his control: this moment. But even when we let go of the past and minimize our worries about the future, we may still very well care too much about things not worthy of concern: the things happening as we speak. We are often dissatisfied with the ways life plays out in the moment.
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And when things don’t go as we wish, we tend to get angry, sad, or depressed.
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But according to Marcus Aurelius, being emotionally disturbed by what Fortune throws at us is pointless.
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How the world around us unfolds itself is not up to us; how we react to it is. Yet, we tend to get disturbed because we don’t like what’s happening or what we want to happen doesn’t happen.
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Marcus Aurelius stated that we shouldn’t fight what we’re compelled to.
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He compared people who struggle with Fortune to pigs, kicking and squealing when sacrificed: it’s no use, as we can’t avoid what the gods have in store.
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We cannot stop people from wanting to fight wars; we cannot stop natural disasters from happening; we cannot prevent our bodies from aging.
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In the same way, we cannot force the world to grant our wishes; we’re not guaranteed that the people we’re attracted to are also attracted to us, nor assured that all human beings have the same shots at life. It’s just not possible.
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Yet, we spend a lot of time and energy resisting what is and what we cannot change through any means in our arsenal.
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We’re angry because we don’t have what we want and sad because we’ve occurred what we don’t like, and thus, the present moment becomes a torture chamber in which we suffer at Fortune’s every whim.
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Or, reversely, we’re so enamored with the present moment that we cling to it.
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We’re afraid to lose what we have, so again, we let Fortune control us.
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But from our total entanglement in all around us, fleeting and ungovernable, we’re often unable to see what’s truly up to us: our choices, actions, and opinions. Marcus Aurelius saw the law of nature as our master; if we run from it or feel grief or anger about it, we’re nothing more than deserters and fugitives.
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We must accept the ways of nature, embrace them, and focus on dealing with them instead of wasting our energy being disgusted by or clinging to our circumstances. A way to accept the present he wrote in the 7th book of his meditations, arguing that we should focus on what we have, not what we lack, but with caution. I quote: Treat what you don’t have as nonexistent.
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Look at what you have, the things you value most, and think of how much you’d crave them if you didn’t have them. But be careful.
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Don’t feel such satisfaction that you start to overvalue them —that it would upset you to lose them. End quote.
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Nevertheless, accepting one’s circumstances can be difficult; especially when we face significant hardships and life gives us lemons repeatedly. Can’t we just have a break? But to Marcus Aurelius, adversity is not an excuse to behave like squealing, screaming pigs.
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He argues it’s an opportunity to “practice virtue,” or in other words, to apply Stoic philosophy to one’s life.
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The art of living isn’t about how amazing and fortunate our external circumstances are, as they’re unreliable, weak, fickle, and not our own.
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It’s about how we face the events we meet; that’s what we should care about, according to the Stoics.
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As Marcus Aurelius stated: Because to me the present is a chance for the exercise of rational virtue—civic virtue—in short, the art that men share with gods.
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Both treat whatever happens as wholly natural; not novel or hard to deal with, but familiar and easily handled. Thank you for watching.
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How to Think Clearly | The Philosophy of Marcus Aurelius

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Almost everyone thinks they are a good thinker, but in reality, few people really are. A truly great thinker is constantly growing and evolving, so take a look around you: how many people do you see moving forward in life? How many people do you see solving problem after problem? And on the contrary, how many people do you see running in circles? How many people do you see still trying to solve the same problems they were working on years ago? The better you get at thinking, the better you get at solving problems. And good thinking begins with clarity.
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A clear thought is unambiguous, captures the essence of a thing, and is formulated logically. A clear thought can be communicated through a simple if-then statement.
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For example, if you turn on the tap, then you can get water. A clear thought leads to clear and intentional action.
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For example, the statement “if you turn on the tap, then you can get water” leads to clear action when you’re thirsty.
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And clear and intentional action leads to clear feedback.
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When you go to test the tap for water, you will immediately find out whether your original thought was true or not.
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Either water will come out or it won’t.
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And because clear feedback proves or disproves your thought, it helps improve your understanding of the world.
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Either you’ll find out that your understanding of the world is correct or incorrect, and finding out you are incorrect helps you move closer towards correctness.
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And the more correct your worldview is, the better you’ll be at solving problem. Let’s take a look at an example.
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Marcus Aurelius earned the titles of “the last of the Five Good Emperors of Rome” and “philosopher-king” by becoming a great leader.
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And he became a great leader by becoming a great thinker.
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And he became a great thinker by learning to think clearly.
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And he learned to think clearly by writing a private philosophy for himself which we now refer to as his _Meditations_.
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In his _Meditations_, Aurelius organizes his thoughts in a logical way, reflecting on the relationship between his actions and their effects.
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And if you want to think clearly and improve your ability to solve your own problems, it would be wise of you to do the same. Organize your thoughts.
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Reduce their ambiguity and make them clear by turning them into simple if-then statements. Clear logic leads to clear thoughts.
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Clear thoughts lead to clear and intentional action.
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Clear and intentional action leads to clear feedback. Clear feedback leads to an improved understanding of the world.
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And a clearer understanding of the world leads to a better ability to solve problems.
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For example, let me formulate a clear, logical thought: “if I publish a how-to video with a philosopher in the title, then it will get over 100 000 views”. That’s a clear thought with clear logic.
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That clear thought leads to clear action: I will write that video and publish it. Now when this video is published, I’ll get clear feedback.
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We’ll both find out if that thought is true.
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And once I find out whether that thought is true or false, my understanding of the world will improve.
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And by improving my understanding of the world, I’ll be better equipped to solve my problem of being a successful YouTuber.
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So in conclusion, good thinking begins with clear thinking, and clear thinking begins by turning your thoughts into unambiguous, logical statements.
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Benefits of Rosemary for Brain Function

 Benefits of Rosemary for Brain Function in Hamlet, Act, 4, Scene, 5, Ophelia notes that rosemary is for remembrance, an idea that goes back at least a few thousand years to the ancient Greeks who claimed that rosemary comforts. The brain sharpens understanding, restores lost memory and awakens the mind. After all, plants can be considered little chemical factories that manufacture all sorts of compounds that could have neuroprotective benefits. So let’s cut down on processed foods and eat lots of phytonutrient-rich whole plant foods, including perhaps a variety of herbs. Even the smell of certain herbs may affect how our brain works. Unfortunately, I’ve found much of the aromatherapy literature scientifically unsatisfying, like there’d, be studies like this, offering subjective impressions and so fine sure sniffing. An herbal sachet is indeed easy, inexpensive, and safe, but is it effective? They didn’t compare tests, scores, or anything Even when there was a control group where researchers had people do a battery of tests in a room that smelled like rosemary, lavender, or nothing, and even when they did compare test results. The lavender appeared to slow them down, and impair their performance, whereas the rosemary group seemed to do better, But maybe that’s just because of the mood effects. Maybe the rosemary group did better just because the aroma kind of pepped them up And not necessarily in a good way, maybe kind of overstimulating. In some circumstances, there have been studies that measured people’s brain waves and were able to correlate the EEG findings with the changes in mood and performance, along with objective changes in stress hormone levels. But is this all just because pleasant smells improve people? S moods Like if you created some synthetic rosemary fragrance with a bunch of chemicals that had nothing to do with the rosemary plant. Would it still have the same effect We didn’t know until now that aromatic herbs do have volatile compounds that theoretically could enter the bloodstream by way of the lining of the nose or lungs and then potentially cross into the brain and have direct effects? But this was the first study to put it to the test. They had. People do math in a cubicle infused with rosemary aroma, and so yes, they got that same boost in performance, but for the first time showed how much better they did correlate with the amount of a rosemary compound that made it into their bloodstream. Just from being in the room, and so not only did this show that it gets absorbed, but that such natural aromatic plant compounds may be playing a direct effect on changes in brain function.  If that’s just what smelling it can do? What about eating rosemary? We have studies on alertness and cognition and reduced stress hormone levels, by inhaling rosemary. However, there were no clinical studies on cognitive performance following ingestion of rosemary. Until now, Older adults, average age 75 were given two cups of tomato juice, with either nothing or a half. A teaspoon of powdered rosemary, which is what one might use in a typical recipe, or a full teaspoon, two teaspoons, or over a tablespoon of rosemary powder, and they even gave them some placebo pills to go with it to even further eliminate any placebo effects. Speed of memory is a potentially useful predictor of cognitive function during aging, and what they found is that the lowest dose had a beneficial effect, accelerating their processing speed, but the highest dose impaired their processing speed, maybe because the half-teaspoon dose improved alertness, while the 4 Teaspoon dose decreased alertness, So rosemary powder at the dose nearest to normal, culinary consumption demonstrated positive effects on speed of memory. The implicit take-home message being more isn’t necessarily better. Take high doses of herbal supplements extracts tinctures, just cooking with spices is sufficient. A conclusion, no doubt pleasing to the spice company that sponsored the study. No side effects were reported, but that doesn’t mean you can eat the whole bush.This poor guy swallowed a rosemary twig which punctured through the stomach into his liver, causing an abscess from which 2 cups of pus and a 2-inch twig were removed, so explore herbs and spices in your cooking Branch out. Just leave the branches out.As found on YouTubeNatural Synergy $47.⁰⁰ New Non-Invasive Alternative. To Electro-Acupuncture, Producing Astounding Results… Self-Application Is Easy, Rapid Response. You’re about to discover how both chronic and acute pain, skin conditions, migraines, and hundreds of ailments all stem from the same root cause ꆛ Yin Yang Ailments🗯 such as➯➱ ➫ ➪➬ Chronic pain⇝Low immunity⇝Chronic acid reflux⇝High blood pressure⇝Addictions⇝Fibromyalgia⇝Allergies⇝Osteoarthritis⇝Headaches⇝Low back⇝pain Asthma⇝Headaches⇝Depression and anxiety⇝Urinary problems… to name just a few…Natural-Synergy-770x645

9 Things Social Anxiety Makes Us Do

 Soft music Instructor, Hey Psych2goers, and welcome back to another video. Before we start, we would like to give you a big thanks for all the support that you’ve given us. Psych2Gos mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone. Now let’s begin. Are you extremely afraid of being judged by others? Are you very self-conscious in everyday social situations? Do you avoid meeting new people? These are all trademark signs of social anxiety, which affects approximately 15 million people in the United States alone. Social anxiety disorder is classified as a significant amount of fear, embarrassment, or humiliation in social or performance-based situations. It goes far deeper than mere shyness, where shyness is more of a personality. Trait social anxiety disorder can cause significant disruption of your daily life. Before we begin, we would like to mention that this video is created for educational purposes only and is not intended to substitute a professional diagnosis. If you suspect you may have social anxiety, disorder, or any mental health condition, we highly advise you to seek help from a qualified mental health. Professional With that said here are nine things that social anxiety makes us do One repeatedly double checking the location and time. Do you find yourself repeatedly checking your phone to make sure you’re in the right place? It can be terrifying for those with social anxiety to arrive late or walk into the wrong room. So double or even triple-checking information is necessary. Even if you know you’ve got the details right. It can bring you peace of mind just to make sure it may be the difference between walking in with confidence or hesitation and two rehearsing conversations in your head ahead of time. While this may be a subconscious practice at first many people who face social anxiety rehearse things they’re going to say before they have the actual conversation. This often begins as imagining future conversations or running through a list of important points to discuss. Some people find it more helpful to physically practice having a conversation as well. That being said, not everyone who rehearses their conversations beforehand necessarily has social anxiety, Memorization and practice are both common tools to aid. You feel nervous whether you’re anxious about public speaking talking to a specific person or being social in general Number three avoiding phone calls, even though it’s become a bit of a joke among millennials and Gen Zer, who prefer to text avoid phone Calls is actually a fairly common behavior for people with social anxiety. Psychologist Lindsay Sharfstein told Headspace. Anxiety is typical for all of us. It’s a universal emotion that we can all relate to. For the most part. We know that individuals are not afraid of phones. They have phones in their office backpack purse. What they’re typically afraid of is the evaluation or judgment that may happen when they’re on a phone. This may be why some people prefer to text instead of talk on the phone. The more one can put between themselves and the other person the more comfortable they generally feel interacting Four faking phone calls Have you ever pretended to be in the middle of a call just to avoid talking to someone or worn headphones to discourage others from approaching you, Although it’s safe to assume that phone calls are not something that people with social anxiety look forward to faking, a call can come in handy.  It can be a lot easier to act busy rather than face the awkwardness of an unwanted conversation. So, this can become a habit of avoidance. If you have social anxiety, five constantly worrying about how everyone sees you. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, those with a social anxiety disorder are increasingly concerned about how they are perceived by others. The last thing they want is to come off as awkward, fumbling, or boring. You’ve likely felt this way at some point throughout your life, whether it’s the desire to fit in with friends or make a good impression on a potential employer with social anxiety. However, this pressure to perform feels constantly heavy and can lead to full-blown panic attacks when in social or performance-based situations Number six is feeling lonely. Even when you’re surrounded by people, People with social anxiety can share this feeling with those who battle, depression and other mental illnesses as well. So, unfortunately, a lot of people can relate to this isolating feeling When social anxiety keeps you from being your true self. It can be difficult to feel included at all. It’s frustrating to be close to others, but not be able to connect with them in a comfortable way. If you’re struggling to effectively communicate and are extremely hesitant to even start a conversation that adds to your feelings of loneliness, even when you’re, surrounded by others, Number seven clenching your teeth and other physical discomforts, you feel shaky or lightheaded when faced with A social situation: Does your heart rate speed up or do your hands tremble? The stress that comes with social anxiety can manifest through physical symptoms. Many of the symptoms are signs of nervousness such as sweating, flushing, and feeling shaky According to Mayo Clinic. You might also be dealing with muscle tension, feeling that your mind has gone blank, or having trouble catching your breath. Number eight obsessing over how you look When you’re, constantly worried about how others perceive you. You’re likely to be concerned with how you look as well. You might have a distorted body image and think that you’re less physically attractive. Your thoughts can flit from your hair to your clothes or flaws in your skin. Thinking that it’s just all wrong In an attempt to feel comfortable in your own skin, you might spend an inappropriate amount of time and money on fixing your appearance, such as shopping for better clothes, getting high-end beauty products, or going on diets. If you think you’re overweight and number nine, you feel more like yourself around the people. You’re comfortable with Yourself, think you’re picky about who you spend time with, and triumph over shyness by conquering social anxiety disorder, Dr. Marie B. Stein and John R. Walker discusses behavior in children called selective mutism. This is when a child speaks and acts normally around select individuals but is completely silent around everyone else or when placed in certain situations. This is a more extreme example, but it shows how those with social anxiety are more likely to relax and open up around people. They already know and trust, do you or anyone you know resonate with any of these points mentioned in this video? If you’re concerned about social anxiety disorder, we encourage you to speak with a mental health professional. They can help you overcome any fears or debilitating problems you might have If you enjoyed watching this video, give us a thumbs up and share it with someone who might find it helpful as well. The studies and references used in this video are listed in the description below Don’t forget to hit the subscribe button for more Psych2go videos and as always thanks for watching and we’ll see you next time.As found on YouTubeNatural Synergy $47.⁰⁰ New Non-Invasive Alternative. To Electro-Acupuncture, Producing Astounding Results… Self-Application Is Easy, Rapid Response. You’re about to discover how both chronic and acute pain, skin conditions, migraines, and hundreds of ailments all stem from the same root cause ꆛ Yin Yang Ailments🗯 such as➯➱ ➫ ➪➬ Chronic pain⇝Low immunity⇝Chronic acid reflux⇝High blood pressure⇝Addictions⇝Fibromyalgia⇝Allergies⇝Osteoarthritis⇝Headaches⇝Low back⇝pain Asthma⇝Headaches⇝Depression and anxiety⇝Urinary problems… to name just a few…Natural-Synergy-770x645

10 Signs of Hidden Anxiety

 According to the American Psychological Association People with anxiety have a future-oriented fear which leads them to avoid anything that could potentially trigger a stress response. In 2017, the National Institute of Mental Health reported that approximately forty million people worldwide suffer from anxiety disorders that are highly treatable but recent surveys show that only 36.9% of those suffering from it seek treatment This might be because most people with anxiety worry about the judgment of others and how the stigma against mental illness might negatively affect their lives. Does this sound familiar to you? Do you worry you might be suffering from anxiety and just don’t realize it? Here are ten tell-tale signs of hidden anxiety to look out for. 1. You don’t like talking to people face to face. You can easily keep a conversation going for hours when you’re texting or chatting online with a friend but talking to someone in person… No… That’s an entirely different story. Even if you already know them well or have talked to them online you still get tense and nervous talking to them in person You have trouble making eye contact or finding the words to respond and you want to end face-to-face conversations as soon as they begin to 2. You’re always self-conscious. Do you walk into a room and immediately feel like everyone is staring at you, listening to you, and judging your every move? Or perhaps you’re overly conscious of the way you walk, the way you eat, the way you sit, the sound of your voice when you talk and so on This could be a sign that you have hidden anxiety 3. You’re easily upset or irritated. Has anyone ever told you you’re too sensitive? Do you find your feelings getting hurt easily? Are you quick to get angry or upset with others over the littlest things? This kind of emotional volatility may be a sign that you have high-functioning anxiety. As anxiety can often make us easily overwhelmed and emotionally imbalanced, frequent mood swings, temper tantrums, and irritability can be expected when you’re overly anxious four. You’re panicky and easily startled. Anxiety makes you want to be as in control and vigilant as possible. An unexpected phone call, a random knock on the door, an email with no subject, or a forgotten task you can easily finish. Anything is enough to send you reeling with panic. You go into a tailspin whenever something catches you off-guard and you find it hard to relax even when the smallest things don’t go exactly as planned. 5. You’re indecisive. Do you have trouble making even the simplest of choices? Are you afraid of making up your mind about something because you’re so sure that whatever decision you make is going to be the wrong one? Oftentimes, anxiety can manifest as perfectionist tendencies, fear of failure, or distrust in oneself. If you can’t make your own choices without thinking about it for hours and hours first or consulting with all your friends and family, you might be harboring some hidden anxiety. 6. You overthink past conversations. You have a tendency to get hung up on past conversations no matter how much time has passed since then. You analyze the other person’s body language, facial expressions, choices of words, and even the tone of their voice. You can’t help but think about what you should have done or said instead, and it drives you crazy and keeps you on edge every time you remember it seven. You’re always making yourself busy It’s common for people with anxiety to have a strong need to keep themselves busy They’d like to occupy themselves with simple tasks and do as many things as possible in a day because sitting still and doing nothing for a long time can make them feel restless and on edge 8. You talk yourself down all the time.  Life isn’t always kind to us, and self-love and a balanced lifestyle don’t come easily. Living with anxiety, especially if it’s hidden or suppressed, can make it hard for us to feel good about ourselves and let ourselves feel happy. It makes us believe that we don’t deserve it and traps us in a vicious cycle of negative self-talk and constant pressure to be perfect. 9. You have a lot of negative thoughts. Are you a pessimist who is quick to find the downsides in every situation? Do you find yourself getting upset or stressed out over even the most minor inconveniences? Is every day a constant battle with yourself against the spiral of panicked and rational thoughts you have? In 1997, famed psychologist and cognitive therapist, Aaron Beck, termed this kind of thought pattern as catastrophic thinking, which he often observed in his patients who suffered from anxiety. And 10. You experience physical symptoms. Sometimes anxiety can be entirely physical because while your conscious mind may not always be aware of your anxiety it will definitely make itself known to your body. Things like erratic heartbeats, chest palpitations, muscle tension, a clenched jaw, shaky hands up sweating are all indicative of anxiety. Your body may be trying to let your mind know that you’re feeling anxious and stop it before it gets any worse. Do you relate to any of the problems listed here? Or do you do your best to seem ok? And hide your symptoms because you feel embarrassed about your anxiety? The truth is: you’re not alone and having mental health issues is nothing to be ashamed of. What do you plan to do next? Let us know in the comments below! Don’t forget to like this video and subscribe to Psych2Go for more psychology content. Thanks for reading and we’ll see you soon…As found on YouTubeNatural Synergy $47.⁰⁰ New Non-Invasive Alternative. To Electro-Acupuncture, Producing Astounding Results… Self-Application Is Easy, Rapid Response. You’re about to discover how both chronic and acute pain, skin conditions, migraines, and hundreds of ailments all stem from the same root cause ꆛ Yin Yang Ailments🗯 such as➯➱ ➫ ➪➬ Chronic pain⇝Low immunity⇝Chronic acid reflux⇝High blood pressure⇝Addictions⇝Fibromyalgia⇝Allergies⇝Osteoarthritis⇝Headaches⇝Low back⇝pain Asthma⇝Headaches⇝Depression and anxiety⇝Urinary problems… to name just a few…Natural-Synergy-770x645

Yoga Put to the Test for Headaches, Diabetes, Osteoarthritis, and the Elderly

 “Yoga Put to the Test for Headaches, Diabetes, Osteoarthritis, and the Elderly” Yoga is an ancient mind-body discipline which originated in India thousands of years ago, and that’s where most yoga studies are done to this day. This has raised concerns that national pride might incline Indian researchers to quietly shelve any negative results and just publish studies showing yoga works. This fear is not without precedent. For example, research conducted in China, Japan, Hong Kong, and Taiwan were found to be uniformly favorable to acupuncture; all trials, without exception, were positive. Now, one possible explanation for this finding is that acupuncture is just more effective in countries where it is traditionally practiced, but it’s a little suspicious. So, are Indian yoga trials more likely to be positive than those from other countries? They looked at hundreds of Randomized controlled trials of yoga, both done in India and done in other countries, and trials on yoga conducted in India had about twenty-five times the odds of reaching positive conclusions as those conducted elsewhere. Again, yes, yoga might be more effective in India than elsewhere, but it is a little suspicious. So, for example, if you’re interested in whether yoga is helpful for treating headaches, and you read that yoga appears to be helpful For those suffering from tension-type headaches, but then you find out that nearly all such studies were conducted in India, what do you do with that information? Also, notably, none of the control groups had any sort of exercise component, though this may be less critical for tension headaches, since neither aerobic exercise training… Nor does strength training appear to help them. So, if we’re to believe the Indian study conclusions, yoga may indeed help with tension headaches, but even they found no effect for migraines. What may help migraines, though, are other types of exercise, specifically aerobic exercise, decreasing migraine pain intensity, frequency, and duration, at least in the short term. What about the benefits of yoga practice compared to physical exercise in the management of type 2 diabetes? A significant reduction in both short-term and longer-term blood sugar control was noted in the yoga groups compared to other exercise control groups. However, the findings may need to be interpreted with caution, since nearly half of the studies didn’t define and adhere to a well-planned exercise regimen in the control group. Furthermore, an exercise intervention comparable in intensity to yoga was followed only in three out of the eight studies included. And, for what it’s worth, The majority of the studies, six out of eight, were from India. When yoga was carefully compared to sham yoga, which consisted of chair exercises, standing exercises, and slow walking to match the yoga session, the relative yoga benefits evaporated. Both yoga and sham yoga had identical effects on blood sugar status. Hence, further well-controlled Randomized trials are required prior to drawing conclusions about the benefits of yoga in comparison to physical exercise in patients with diabetes. Similar tentative conclusions were reached for yoga for osteoarthritis. Put all the studies together and yoga may indeed be effective for improving pain, function, and stiffness in individuals with osteoarthritis of the knee, compared not only to doing nothing but compared to other kinds of exercise. They had some issues with the quality of some of the studies, and so only a weak recommendation for the use of yoga for osteoarthritis, but hey, if you like yoga or if yoga is the only kind of exercise you’re willing to do, then It’s probably better than nothing. Finally, in this video, Let’s look at the effects of yoga compared to active and inactive controls meaning like compared to other exercise regimens or just like doing nothing on physical function and health-related quality of life in adults aged 60 and older. Compared to doing nothing, They found clear evidence that yoga improves physical function and psychological well-being in older adults, so it definitely better than nothing. What about compared to other exercises? Yoga pulled ahead for lower limb strength and lower body flexibility, but for improving balance, mobility, and walking speed, yoga appeared comparable. Psychologically, yoga appeared to beat out other exercises for alleviating depression in older adults, but not anxiety or perceived mental health in general.As found on YouTubeNatural Synergy $47.⁰⁰ New Non-Invasive Alternative. To Electro-Acupuncture, Producing Astounding Results… Self-Application Is Easy, Rapid Response. You’re about to discover how both chronic and acute pain, skin conditions, migraines, and hundreds of ailments all stem from the same root cause ꆛ Yin Yang Ailments🗯 such as➯➱ ➫ ➪➬ Chronic pain⇝Low immunity⇝Chronic acid reflux⇝High blood pressure⇝Addictions⇝Fibromyalgia⇝Allergies⇝Osteoarthritis⇝Headaches⇝Low back⇝pain Asthma⇝Headaches⇝Depression and anxiety⇝Urinary problems… to name just a few…Natural-Synergy-770x645

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Skills and Counseling Techniques with Dr. Dawn-Elise “Doc” Snipes

 CEUs are available for this presentation at AllCEUs.com/CBT-CEU Hi everybody and welcome to today’s presentation on cognitive behavioral therapy skills. Like the other The presentation we did on assert not assertive community treatment acceptance and commitment therapy, which is also based on providing information about skills that can be used not providing an evidence-based practice We couldn’t cover that in a full hour or just an hour so over the next hour we’re going to define cognitive behavioral therapy and its basic principles a lot of us are familiar with this but it’s going to be a good review and it also may highlight some nuances that you didn’t know about will identify factors impacting people’s choice of behaviors explore causes and impact of thinking errors and identify common thinking errors and their relationships to cognitive distortions so why do we care well as therapists we want to help people figure out the best way to live a happy healthy meaningful goals-driven life for some people that’s going to mean using some cognitive behavioral interventions that can be in addition to mindfulness that can be in addition to a lot of other things but it’s important to help people understand that the way we believe things to be the way we interpret things is going to affect our reactions so for example think about a situation you know you’ve walked into and maybe you walked into it with a small child and it was a different situation it was a new situation but you know it was no big deal you walked in it was not a threatening situation to you because you were like hey I got this the little kid walks in and goes oh wow there are a lot of people walking around here, this is really scary same situation as two different perceptions you probably didn’t have much of a stress reaction going on whereas the little child probably had this fight-or-flight thing going on grabbing onto your hand like please don’t let go Atlanta Airport is a perfect example if you’ve ever taken a little kid through Atlanta Airport it gives you an idea about how People can perceive things differently and when you enact that fight-or-flight reaction you’re going to have all those stress hormones you’re going to have all either anxiety or anger or whatever that goes with it it may serve to exhaust the person and leave them feeling hopeless and helpless so what we want to do is help people see that but we also want to help them see that when They’re depressed when they’re tired when they’re sick things are going to seem a lot worse a lot of times because they don’t have the energy to perceive it differently I mean when you’re sick it’s overwhelming to think of going through Atlanta Airport so this is what we want to help people start understanding is it’s two sides of the same coin they interact if one is you know kind of going wonky is going to affect the other one the good thing is If one’s going really well the other one’s going to go well if you’re Having positive thoughts you’re probably going to feel pretty good there’s an activity and I think we’re going to talk about it later it’s called the coin flip activity and I asked client clients to flip a coin in the morning and in the morning if it turns heads then they have to be the most positive Pollyanna all day long look for the silver lining and everything smile walk with their head up hold those nonverbals up and see how they feel at the end of the day besides a little sore because there are muscles they’re using they haven’t been used in a while if it lands on tails they can just be their normal selves which generally if they’re seeing me means that they are depressed anxious stressed out angry about something in the negative realm then we Talk about how things seemed different on the days when you were feeling better when you were walking taller when you were smiling even our nonverbals it doesn’t even have to be sickness it can be our nonverbals that can make us feel or make our body feel heavy and tired and make it seem like it’s a whole lot harder to deal with life as a person who perceives the world generally good and believe they can deal with challenges as they arise that good old self-efficacy will be able to allow their stress response system to function normally so if they’re like you know what I can deal with whatever life throws at me I’ve got it and maybe I need help with it maybe I’ll need to ask for support but I’ve got it it’s not going to completely overwhelm me with people who see the world as hostile unsafe and unpredictable You know for a variety of reasons whatever happened to make their scheme as such that they don’t believe that people or the world is trustworthy are predictable They are always on guard they’re always kind of like a hamster in a cage that has Have you ever had a hamster hamsters doesn’t recognize you and goes Hey that’s my own Or human contact score hamsters go run under their little house And you just kind of open the cage and stick your hand in there and flip over their house and you’re like come here and give me cuddles and you’re like you know 200 times bigger than they are so the little hamster is like freaking out this is what it’s like for people and obviously, I’m exaggerating but this is what it’s like for people who have a negative perspective a negative view or a hostile view of the world so kind of keep that little hamster in your mind cognitive behavioral therapy we have core beliefs those things that are in our hearts when I talk with my clients about honesty step one and that’s what they’ve got to do to start recovery is get honest with themselves first and then other people we talk about head heart and gut honesty do you think it’s right does it seem like the right thing to do does it feel right in your heart you know does it make you happy it doesn’t make you feel good and then the Spidey senses is your gut saying and or Is your gut fine if one of those is saying this might not be the right choice and we need to think about what’s going on so we have those core beliefs and I put them in the heart just because that’s the middle of the head heart and gut but you have core beliefs about yourself whether you’re good with You’re bad whether you’re effective at certain things yadda You have core beliefs about other people same thing good bad effective predictable and you have core beliefs about the future and a lot of that goes with locus of control but also your past experiences if the world in the past is seemed unfriendly and uncontrollable and you’ve perceived it that way then you’re going to expect the future to be uncontrollable so what we want to do is help people look at their schemas and their core beliefs about themselves others in the future and figure out kind of what they want it to look like these schemas are going to affect your behavior your thoughts and your feelings and you know you can pick wherever you want to start it doesn’t matter because all three interfaces with one another so if you haven’t let’s Start with negative thoughts If you have negative thoughts then you might feel anxious angry stressed dysphoric which will affect the behavior you’re going to do different things than if you have positive thoughts about something you feel excited and energized you’re going to have different behavior the best thing example I can give you is if you’ve ever done public speaking or had to present something Some people detest public speaking it’s just terrifying for them to get up in front of a group of people so their thoughts are I’m going to trip up I’m going to forget what I’m going to say I’m going to make a fool of myself I’m going to you know it can go on forever that when you get on a roll you can get on a negative roll and go on forever or positive hopefully get on that roll with those thoughts you start holding onto Those thoughts remember as we talked about in a CT the other day when you hold those thoughts and you kind of mush them around in your mind and you come to believe them that you’re going to make a fool of yourself and it’s going to be awful you’re going to start feeling terrified which is going to likely affect your behavior if you go out on the stage and you’re terrified You’re going to probably stutter you’re probably going to get foggy-headed You’re going to have that fight-or-flight reaction so there’s an adrenaline rush and you start sweating and you can’t focus and you can’t concentrate you want to away as opposed to somebody like me who loves public speaking and I’m just like cool I get to go out there and try to engage however many people are in the audience it’s a game for me because when I can see your faces I enjoy trying to figure out and make eye contact with people and figure out what it is that they’re there for what is it that’s going to make them tick what resonates with them so my behavior as You can kind of see right now when I go out there I’m excited and I want to engage people and it’s a fun experience for me again just like the airport the same experience for two different people and two very different interpretations and reactions to it so what effects I don’t like the term rational but when We’re talking about CBT irrationally comes up a lot I like to replace it with helpful because every behavior in its weird sort of way is or probably was rational at one time that being said we’re going to get back to that stress affects our behavioral choices if we’re under stress we can have negative emotions negative emotions will affect our thoughts if we’re feeling sad we’re probably going to look at the dark side if we feel sad we’re going to look at the bottom falling out if we’re happy we’re probably going to look for that silver lining physical factors if you’re in pain sick sleep-deprived poorly nourished so your body can’t produce the neurotransmitters it needs to or heaven forbid intoxicated you’re probably not going to make the same decisions as you would if you were comfortable healthy well-rested nourished and not Intoxicated any of those things can impact how you perceive a situation or how you react in a situation, especially the intoxication whereas in your intoxicated State in your sober state, you may think that you want to do something but then you’ve got that filter that does not not a good idea in an intoxicated State or even in a manic state if you’re you know if you have somebody with bipolar that filter kind of goes away so the behaviors that someone may normally not do because they have a rational filter That goes you know punching this guy out is probably not the best idea right Now the filter goes away when you’re sleep-deprived you’re less generally People are less patient generally people don’t have as much of a filter thing about watching your children if you have children or your grandchildren or even yourself I know myself when I’m sleepy I am giddy as all get-out and things I wouldn’t normally say because they’re you know stupid I’ll just come out and say anyway and my kids just roll their eyes or the mom you’re overtired could go to bed, uh but that’s okay You know I’m okay with that In that situation now if I acted that way at work it would be a worse thing environmentally if you’re introduced to a new or unique situation and you perceive it as stressful because the unknown we know can be stressful then you may not make as rational of a choice or as helpful of a choice because you Maybe trying to escape the same thing as exposure to UNPROFOR bellowing for a word here but UNPROFOR ball is the best I could come up with we all prefer certain situations some people like I said would rather do just about anything then get up in front of a lecture hall of a hundred and fifty people and talk but if they have to do it then they’re going to be under stress which may affect how they do things so we want people to understand that their perception and their feelings are affected by a lot of other things not Just you know an emotion here or a particular memory there’s a lot that goes into it and social if peers your family convey irrational thoughts as necessary very standards for social acceptance people may tend to cling more to it to those unhelpful thoughts and unhelpful behaviors you know in CBT they say irrational because quote nobody wants to associate with those people you know who are those people and why can’t we associate with them there are a lot of things if you think back think high School you know high school is pretty rough if we’re going to talk about having irrational thoughts and cognitions if you have to be part of this particular group to be accepted you have to do this you have to do that but do you do you do those kinds of all-or-nothing statements are cognitive distortions and while they may have served a purpose in some way shape or form in the past we need to encourage our clients to take a look at them now and go are they still helpful ways of thinking is it still helpful for me to think that I am only successful if I live in a million-dollar house in a gated community and do this that and the other or can I be can I define success as a different way or do I define success differently and lack supportive peers to buffer stress so we had those peers who caused stress by talking about the half dues and categorizing and lots of attributions but then there’s Also not having somebody to go you know does this make any sense because sometimes we are our own worst enemies and if we go to a friend and we go you know this is what I’m thinking and I think I have to do this in order to be acceptable to be loved or you know whatever the case may be Most people are not going to use those exact phrases A good friend is probably going to listen and go yeah you’re right or no that’s way off so supportive peers are essential to reminding us to consciously regularly check in with our cognitions to make sure that they are hopeful and rational so a note about irrationality and this is mine this is not from CBT the origins of most beliefs for rational and helpful given the information the person had at the time and their cognitive development their ability to process that information so concepts schemas and core beliefs that people formed when they were five are probably going to be very egocentric you know the person is going to feel like everybody sees it my way because this is how I see it you know just like A five-year-old does A five-year-old doesn’t think Well you know let me take Johnny’s perspective is no he assumes that Johnny sees it the same way so it’s going to be egocentric It’s probably going to be focused on only one aspect of the situation because small children can’t focus on multiple aspects and it’s probably going to be dichotomous it’s all-or-nothing Mommy loves me mommy hates me and it could be personalized you know Everything a lot of kids think that everything has to do with them so if something happens something bad happens many times Children will take it personally or be afraid it’s going to happen to them Again you know if Hurricane Katrina hurricane Andrew those sorts of things you know we saw a lot of trauma in children and they developed very real fears about thunderstorms and hurricane season And if you’ve watched Florida hasn’t had a notable hurricane in years now but There’s a lot of stuff that goes into that but young people During some of those really bad hurricane seasons perceive those situations differently okay so we need to help people understand that if we especially if we use the term irrational those thoughts you form when you are knee-high to a grasshopper and they made perfect sense to you back then but now that you’re an adult you’ve got more experience and you’re able to take different perspectives your brain is more developed Let’s take a look at it and see if you can look at different perspectives and Come up with something a little more helpful maybe a different way of perceiving this situation the irrational irrationality or unhelpful Nosov Fox comes when those beliefs are perpetuated without examination so something a the belief that you formed when you’re five you’re still holding when you’re 35 and you’ve never questioned it you’ve never gone you know does this make sense is This is helpful to getting me toward where I want to be Most of us don’t know We form these attitudes and beliefs when we’re you know growing up when we’re in elementary school middle school high school from watching TV to being around our peers from being around our family in our community and we get all This input of the way things should be and a lot of times people don’t stop to question and go and go Well does this make me happy Is this really what I want and they can be irrational if they continue to be held despite causing harm to the person so the person continues to hold this belief even though it is causing them general emotional cognitive harm is making them miserable we need to look at what’s motivating them to hold on to that belief why is that belief so important and how can we make it so they can live a happy values-driven life with an emphasis on the harness and how can we make it less harmful sometimes it’s more productive for clients to think of these thoughts as unhelpful or helpful instead of irrational sometimes when I say irrational to clients and you know I’m the same way if somebody says you’re being irrational I’m like oh I’m not it elicits this instantaneous defensive reaction it’s like when you tell them they’re being resistant they’re like I am NOT resistant so helpful or unhelpful and then we talk about why it is unhelpful in getting them toward their goals basic principles of cognitive behavioral therapy we teach or help clients learn to distinguish between thoughts and feelings I can think something is scary I’ll probably feel it but if I have an automatic you know feeling I walk into Atlanta Airport and I see yeah I went to an airport in New York I can’t even remember which one it was because my plane was diverted and I got off and I walked out there and I have never seen so many people packed in his place like sardines before in my life I was just completely overwhelmed that was kind of an automatic feeling now that was a feeling based on you know who knows it was overwhelming to be surrounded by that many people so then I had to separate the thoughts and go Okay what am I thinking that’s making me feel so overwhelmed and at that point you know I didn’t know how to get to my gate and all that other sort of stuff with traveling I don’t travel well but encouraging clients to stop and go okay why am I feeling this way what are my What thoughts am I having that are contributing to these dysphoric feelings CBT helps people become aware of how thoughts can influence feelings in ways that are sometimes not helpful We have hecklers in our gallery the automatic tapes that we plaything memories that we have whatever you want to call them when you try something When you are just going through daily life you hear these voices in the back of your head and not real voices but that is saying you’re never going to make this or if you would have just blah blah blah then you’d be a better person helping clients become aware of those thoughts and how they’re Negatively influencing their feelings and keeping them kind of stuck is a huge part of CBT we help them learn about thoughts that seem to occur automatically without even realizing how they may affect emotions again those thoughts from the they’re saying you’re not good enough You’re not smart enough and nobody’s going to like you Where did that come from and do you believe it you know maybe it came from somebody When you were in high school so was that a valid was that a valid source Maybe it came from somebody yesterday on Facebook was that a valid source taking in those thoughts and then figuring out is something I’m going to hold because it makes me happy or is this something that I’ve got to deal with because I’m having a negative reaction constructively evaluate whether these automatic thoughts and assumptions are accurate or perhaps biased the other thing to remember is a lot of our clients not all of them but a lot of them hold themselves to a standard there’s like up here and they hold everybody else to a standard that’s down here so they are a failure if they don’t achieve this but Everybody else is successful as long as they achieve this so encouraging them to take a look at how accurate and biased or unbiased are the thoughts and like I said they may be their thoughts they may be telling themselves these things evaluate whether the current reactions are helpful and a good use of energy or unhelpful and a waste of energy that could be used to move toward those people and things important not impotent important to the person road-rage you’re In the car you’re driving somebody cuts you off Okay natural reaction fight or flight reaction you’re just like slam on the brakes and do whatever you got to do aversive maneuvers you’re good so you could let it go at that point ago got Lucky on that one and keep driving most people not all but most found that 80% of drivers have reported incidences of road rage which is a high number but most people will start getting all fired up and irritated and grumpy and we and just rageful and so my question would be I hear that and I hear that it made you angry In retrospect did screaming at the person as you pass them at sixty miles An hour in your car with the windows rolled up does any good Did it Did any good at all what else could you have done with that energy if you wouldn’t have expended it all yesterday we had to wait for the vet to come by and my daughter just completely wore herself out worrying about when the vet was going to get there what he was going to say about her donkeys and was beside herself so by the time it got to evening and it was time for her to go to her martial arts class she didn’t have the energy to go she’s like um wiped out I just want to go to bed in retrospect we’re looking back and saying okay now Tell me what it was that you were so stressed out about and let’s talk about whether that was a realistic and helpful line of thought to perseverate on all day long and what could you have done differently because she didn’t bother to mention any of that to me yesterday and then developed the skills to notice interrupt and correct these biased thoughts independently causes of these thinking errors information processing shortcuts when we form schemas and we encounter a situation that reminds us of something in the past like when I go to my grandmother’s house I have a schema I have a belief system I have you know stuff that I know about my grandmother’s house so when I go to my grandmother’s house it’s kind of a shortcut to knowing what to expect when I walk in and how to behave how to do different things and it helps me plan and predict if you’re Using outdated or dichotomous all-or-nothing schemas may cause thinking errors because you may be now incorrectly processing current events mental noise some of us have it a lot of us have it Not everybody thinks about trying to focus and study for a final exam in the middle of a really busy sports bar okay this is a cause of thinking or you’re going to miss important things you’re not going to be able to focus you’re not going to necessarily attend to the correct things because there’s just so much else going on your attention is drawn in 17 different directions and or the brain’s limited information processing capacity due to age we talked about that before young kids think all or nothing they think dichotomously egocentric ly middle school-aged kids and older start developing the ability for abstract thinking, by the time we get older, you know as adults theoretically We’re able to you know think pretty well and think pretty clinically about different events but if we’re in crisis when someone is in crisis it could be like what we think of clinically as a crisis or it could be they’re just completely overwhelmed and burned out and have been burning the candle at both ends for three months they’re not going to process information quite as well They’re not going to take in all this stuff because they’re just like shell-shocked have you ever seen teachers in the hallway of like an elementary school Oh at the end of the second nine weeks they just kind of stand there with this blank look on their face they’re not processing as much as they were the first day of school and you know God loved them they have a lot to deal with but we need to help our clients understand that there are some times that they are going to have to really stop and focus write things down so they can remember or they can make decisions A little more my guess is most of us have times in our lives when we’ve been able to think through complex problems but then there are other times where you just can’t keep it all in your head and you’ve got to put it on a Whiteboard maybe that’s just me but we want clients to understand that they are not broken they’re not faulty they’re doing the best they can with the tools they have and the knowledge they have and our job is to help them see where some of this might have gone a little awry other causes of thinking errors and emotional motivations I feel bad therefore whatever I’m thinking must be bad if I’m scared that means whatever it’s coming on the other end of the phone is bad news moral motivations I did it because it was the right thing to do and that can be an excuse for doing wrong behaviors as well it can also be you know you can argue on The moral one social influence well everyone else is doing it so it must not be bad set that again a lot of times and this is where the frames approaching the Motivational interviewing is helpful It stands for feedback about the reality of what’s going on is everybody doing it let’s look at statistics you know not subjective information let’s look at objective information so the impact of these thinking errors makes people want to fight or flee when they get upset and we use upset as a kind of this all-encompassing garbage term emotionally they get depressed or anxious we don’t want to feel that way Anxiety and anger are flee or fight fight or flee it’s our body saying there’s a threat you got to do something depression is your body going I give up I just don’t I don’t even have the energy to do it anymore behaviorally some people withdraw because they Shut down We all know people get frustrated when they get overwhelmed When they start feeling hopeless or helpless they just kind of withdraw from Everything and everyone’s addictions numb that out so they don’t have to feel the dysphoria sleeping problem and changes when we start being on that constant fight-or-flight hyper-vigilant sort of thing going on in the body is always sort of turned on which means you’re not going to sleep as well then The circadian rhythms get messed up which starts causing exhaustion and lethargy and then everything seems harder because you’re sleep-deprived and then you start thinking more negatively and more hopelessly you see where this is going it’s a downward spiral and eating changes some people eat a lot more because they’re eating comfort foods some people eat a lot less because Their stomach is so torn up from the stress they can’t even think about holding anything down physical stress-related illnesses fibromyalgia gastrointestinal problems headaches neck aches backaches you know the whole the gamut of it when you start feeling bad when you start hurting generally it gets frustrating after a while and that frustration makes it kind of raises the bar brings you up a little bit so you’re That thatch closer to kind of just kind of being overwhelmed as you do You have as much of a cushion as you would if you were happy healthy well nourished not in pain and socially a lot of times we will get irritable or impatient with other people or withdrawal when we’re having these negative cognitions these thinking errors that are keeping us in a dysphoric state these effects of thinking errors contribute to fatigue a sense of hopelessness and helplessness which intensifies thinking errors This is an important concept that I want my clients to understand and I want to drive home in this presentation so thinking errors what are they emotional reasoning feelings are not facts and we want to help people learn to identify feelings and separate them from facts so if somebody says I’m terrified okay that is a feeling what are the facts supporting that feeling why are you are terrified what is the evidence that you are in some sort of danger Right now you know that danger may not be the right word for your client at that a particular point in time but what’s the evidence that there’s a threat in what ways is this similar to other situations maybe it’s triggering something from the past that was scary or you know you were too little to be able to handle it but you can handle it now and how if you dealt with similar situations Like in the past, we wanted people to just step back and get some distance between their feelings and their thoughts and try to figure out you know which thoughts are helpful and productive and even if a sought makes people anxious or angry it can be helpful it may be telling them hey dude you need to get your butt up and get out of there if it’s helpful it means it’s moving them toward where they want to be happy healthy safe and values-driven life so happy and helpful developed a stress tolerance skills when people use emotional reasoning they feel emotions which then they start attributing finding the facts to support those emotions instead of looking at all the facts we want to help them learn to tolerate their distress so they can kind of let that subside for a second they can accept their feeling they can name them They say I’m scared I’m stressed I’m angry and whatever but they don’t have to act on it right then they can tolerate the distress for a minute without having to try to make it go away and emotional regulation skills they can feel a feeling without having to make it go from zero to 120 You know if they feel sad they go I feel kind of sad instead of grabbing onto it and going I wonder what I feel sad about I must feel sad about all these sad things now I’m going to be sad and devastated so we want to help people learn how to regulate their emotions identify them accept them Whatever word you want to use tolerate them because feelings are there for a reason they’re there to tell you your brain thinks something’s going now thankfully we have that higher-order cognition stuff going on so We can contradict our brain and we can go you know maybe that’s not true in this situation cognitive bias negativity mental filter whatever you want to call it people who focus on the negative they walk in they get up in the morning and They look outside and it’s partly cloudy They get to work and they say instead of saying there was it was very light traffic they said there was a fair amount of traffic everything is always the flip side of what somebody who’s optimistic would say so asking them what’s the benefit to focusing on the negative in what ways is this helpful to you know some people say Well it keeps me from getting disappointed because I know It’s going to end up negative anyway so we can trap challenges that know that whatever it is they think they know and see if there have been exceptions when It hasn’t turned out that way What are the positives to this situation I give the example a lot of you know I wash my car or it rains and maybe I wanted to go out on a run that day but I can perceive it I can look at the positives you know the rain washed my car for me so I don’t have to do it now score it watered my garden all the better it knocked down some of the pollen out of there even better I can find and I can encourage people to find positives in a situation yes there are negatives there are negatives to every situation if you want to find them you’re going to find them but if you want to find the positives you can too which takes us down to what are all the facts there’s the positive and the negative and the neutral I told you Earlier about the coin toss activity having people toss a coin on the heads days they act like it is just the greatest day to be alive and see how Things are different when they do their journal because you know I have my clients do I’m sort of a mindfulness check-in in the morning and in the evening and preferably at lunchtime how are they feeling what’s their emotional state what’s their energy level on the happy days a lot of times it can be less and sometimes they need a little coaching throughout because some of those old patterns kick in but I want them to start challenging some of their automatic thoughts that we’re going to talk about in a minute disqualifying or minimizing the positive most of us can probably say we’ve had a bunch of clients that do this they are more than happy to tell you about all the things that they mess up but then when they do something right they minimize it encouraging people to hold themselves to the same standard they would hold everyone else to and I know I talked about that earlier ask them things like would it minimum would you minimize this.If it was your best friend’s experience your best friend came to you and said I just got into such-and-such college would you say awesome or would you say anybody can get in there how would that go ask them what is scary about accepting these positive things that you might have had an accomplishment for some people it means that it might mean other people expect more of them for other people they just don’t know how to accept the positive They don’t know how to accept compliments they don’t know how to be the center of attention and they don’t like it and then we want to look at why that is sometimes we disqualify the positive because it fails to meet someone else’s standards so as people might that be true here you know I know When I was growing up and going through college and going through school and everything got my doctorate but I will always not being not a real doctor because a Ph.D. is not an MD and I’m like really So is it somebody else’s standards or can I feel good about having a Ph.D. egocentrism My perspective is the only perspective I’ll being egocentric but it doesn’t work most of the time so encouraging people to take alternate perspectives Maybe you’re texting with someone and they say something that is not what you interpret as not the nicest thing and this happens in text messages a lot and they get upset now an egocentric thinking error would say that purse is just grumpy today Someone who’s taking other perspectives would stop and go back and read the text and go I wonder if maybe this could have been taken some other another you know obvious reaction is not what I intended So egocentrism if you hold on to that I don’t understand anybody else because You know I don’t see a problem with anything personalizing and mind-reading This is when you assume that everybody’s frowning because of something you did your boss walks down the hallway and looks at you and grimaces and continues to walk on oh I must have done something wrong No maybe he just got out of his senior management meeting that was five hours long and he’s got to go to the bathroom you know there could be a hundred different explanations for why that happened so encourage clients to ask themselves what some alternate explanations for this event that are doesn’t involve me you know why this might have happened if they hold on to that, I must have done something wrong but as soon as their boss calls them up and goes hey can you come to my office for a second you know where their thoughts are going to go I’m getting fired I’m going to get laid off I don’t know what it was that I did wrong but he walked by me two weeks ago in the hallway and grimaced and I’m just I’m the worst person in the whole world But where did that come from so encouraging people to not necessarily assume they know what’s going on in someone else’s mind and not automatically attributing every person’s negative behavior to something they did How often and then ask them how often has it been about you now think about the last 10 times you’ve taken something personally how many of Those 10 times has it been about something you did versus something with the other person then the availability heuristic remembering what’s most prominent in your mind so asking clients what the facts ah the most obvious One that we talk about is plane crashes You know it is very dangerous to fly on a plane because you hear about all those plane crashes well yeah you hear about the airlines crashes but don’t hear about the 20,000 every day that land safely so you remember it and it seems more dangerous because that’s what is in your mind that’s what is available to you that’s what you’ve based your thought processes on because maybe you didn’t know that 20,000 planes or more fly and land just perfectly every day this can also be true with people remembering what’s most prominent in your mind sometimes and this can be very very true in domestically violent relationships if somebody falls in love with someone and that person is just the greatest person since sliced bread for the first four months and then the cycle starts and there’s this little tiny a sliver of the honeymoon period after the battering cycle and the person’s like That’s the person I fell in love with that’s what I remember and they try to focus on that that’s most prominent in their mind and they ignore the rest of the stuff so we need to encourage people to look objectively at the facts magnifying high and low probability outcomes what are the chances that this is going to happen how Many clients have worked with have gone to the doctor and gotten into a physical or get a test run and then the doctor had to call them back and This could be true for you too and the doctor had to call them back two or Three days later when the tests came back from the lab and that whole three days they were just in a panic because they were afraid they were going to get some terminal diagnosis so thinking about high and low probability outcomes another instance or example of magnification is somebody that thinks this is the end of the world whatever it I think I’ve told you before my little story about um tripping when I was walking down the hall at work and falling and yeah it was embarrassing my folders went everywhere and yeah but in that big scheme of things will it matter That much from now you know are people going to think Oh she is such a clutch she must be a ditz too no I mean they may have thought that at that time I don’t know but you know in six months nobody’s going to remember and then ask them in the past when something like this has happened when you’ve had to get a test done and you’ve had to wait on results or if you’ve done something that was embarrassing and you didn’t think you thought everybody was going to remember it forever how did you tolerate it how did you learn to deal with it building on those strengths that they already have all-or-nothing thinking errors These are things like love versus hate I love them or I hate them it’s all or Nothing she does this all the time or she never does it if I’m going to do it I’m going to do it perfectly or I’m not going to do it at all thank you all good intentions or all bad intentions you know sometimes we do things with good intentions that have some bad repercussions so did we do it with all Bad intentions are all good intentions and the answer is neither most of the time life is kind of in that middle-ground gray area encouraging clients to Look and find examples where something hasn’t been one of the polls when have they done something that they’re proud of that wasn’t perfect or when again When has somebody else done something that they were proud of that wasn’t perfect remembering that with availability heuristic remembering how often something happens and how long it’s been since you’ve seen that behavior and remember that sometimes good times are amazing but how frequent are they compared with the bad times another thinking error is a belief in a just world or a fallacy of fairness I just asked clients to identify for good people you know who’ve had bad things happen and in in reality we all have bad things happen good people do bad people do in between people do attributional errors and this is a pet of mine you know labeling yourself is not a behavior so global versus specific and I am stupid versus I’m stupid at math I don’t have good math skills it’s not about me it’s about the skills I can change skills stable I am and I always will be versus it’s something I can change it’s something I can learn internally It’s about me as a person versus it’s about a skill deficit or something I could learn or change and there’s you know lots of information on attributions out there on the internet if you need a refresher on it but we find that a lot of people who have dysphoria have negative global stable internal attributions so questions for clients remember the beliefs equal thoughts and facts plus personal interpretation another way of saying it is reality is 10% perception is 10% reality and 90% interpretation so what are the facts for and against my belief is the belief based on facts or Feelings Does the belief focus on one aspect or the whole situation Does the belief seem to use any thinking errors what are alternate explanations what Would you tell your child or best friend if they had this belief how would you want someone to tell what would you want someone to tell you about this belief so If you’re telling somebody about this what are you hoping they’re going to say in return and finally, how is this belief moving you toward what and who is important to you or moving you away from what or who is important to you now they can do a worksheet and have all of these or you can pick one or two of these questions that are most salient for your clients but they can have kind of at their fingertips so as they’re going through the day and something happens They can ask themselves ok what’s an alternate explanation Or you know Whatever it is this salient for that client’s irrational thoughts how do these thoughts impact the client’s emotions health relationships and perceptions of the world you know this is what we want to ask them How is this thought impacting you globally how may this thought have been helpful in the past Where did it come from How does it make sense from when you formed it in the past when you’re dealing with it ask the person if the thought is bringing you closer to those that are important Are there any examples of this thought or belief not being true and how can the statement be made less global less all-encompassing so it’s about a specific incident a specific situation less stable which means you can change it and less internal which means it’s not about who you are as a person but maybe something that you do or a skill that you have so we’re going to go through some of these thoughts real Quickly here mistakes are never acceptable and if I make one it means that I’m incompetent well never is kind of stable and I am incompetent is kind of global, that’s also that extreme all-or-nothing thinking so you can see where these cognitive distortions end up leading to unhelpful beliefs When somebody disagrees with me it’s a personal attack Well there’s Personalization If I ever heard it before maybe it’s not about you may be They’re having a bad day and you just happen to be the unlucky target or maybe they’re disagreeing with you because they have a different point of view and It’s not a personal attack it’s just their point of view If someone criticizes or rejects me there must be something wrong with me personalization all-or-nothing thinking global stable and internal something wrong with me as a person to feel good about myself others must approve of me Now this is one we’ve talked about external validation before and we can’t control other people to feel good about yourself how can you do that Besides necessarily requiring other people to approve of you to be content in life I must be liked by all people Wow I’ve never met anybody who’s liked by all people I’ve never even met anybody who’s been hated by all people but it’s important to help clients see how this is dramatic to say all people and for them to be content everybody has to like them I mean I like to be liked but if everybody doesn’t like me you know That’s pretty understandable My true value as an individual depends on what others think of me I would challenge this one this is all you know Also very personally I would challenge people to look at and say it so your child’s value as an individual depends on what other people think of Most people would say no but the perspective thing nothing ever turns out the way you want it to okay all-or-nothing thinking and probably availability heuristic if something bad just happened then they may be focusing on that which causes them to focus on all the other bad things in the past that have happened not to focus on that is okay you know bad thing happen but look at all these good things I won’t try anything new unless I will be good at it this fear of failure fear of rejection It just really paralyzes a lot of people when they get stuck with that thinking the area that they have to be perfect I am in total control of anything bad that happens is my fault well that’s egocentric and personal if They think they’re in total control that’s their perception of how the world Do they think if they’ve got everybody on marionette strings anything bad in the world that happens is their fault how powerful are they I feel happy about uh if I feel happy about life something will go wrong It happens sometimes but let’s look at times when you’ve been happy that something hasn’t gone wrong you know let’s get rid of that all-or-nothing thinking it’s not my fault my life didn’t go the way I wanted could be true but it seems like that’s making you unhappy so what do we do about that if I’m not in an intimate relationship I’m alone No, again that’s pretty extreme I’m either in an intimate relationship or I am alone and a loner and you know it’s just me and my 17 cats which follows with there’s no gray area so encouraging people to look at what these beliefs are saying important thoughts impact behaviors and emotional and Physical reactions emotional and physical reactions impact thoughts and interpretations of events so if you do something and it’s pleasurable and you have a great physical reaction you know let’s take bungee jumping or Skydiving if you go out there and it’s scary but you do it and you’re just 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Anxiety And Anxiety Recovery – Frequently Asked Questions / Part 1

 Drew Linsalata: This week on the anxious truth, we’re finally going to do a Frequently Asked Questions episode. Actually, we’re going to do two of them. This is the first one. So let’s go Hello, everybody. Welcome back to the anxious truth. This is podcast episode number 216. Recorded in July of 2022. The Anxious Truth is the podcast that covers all things anxiety, anxiety, disorders, and recovery. I am Drew Linsalata, creator and host of the anxious truth, I am happy that you’re here. Before we get cooking on part one of our Frequently Asked Questions episodes, I would like to remind you that the anxious truth is more than just this podcast episode, there are hundreds of other free episodes. There’s a ton of free social media content, there’s a large, engaged vibrant social media community around this podcast and around the work that I do. There are three currently three self-help books that I’ve written about anxiety and anxiety recovery that are legitimately helping tens of 1000s of people around the world right now. There’s also a free morning newsletter called the anxious morning, all of those things can be found all the time on my website, at the anxious truth.com. So go check that out, and avail yourself of the free resources. And I will ask you that if you are enjoying my work, you’re enjoying this podcast, and I’m helping you in some way. And you would like to find a way to help keep it free of advertising and sponsorships. Because frankly, I’m tired of turning down money from the anxiety bracelet people, you can find all the ways to support my work at the anxious truth.com/support. Never required, always appreciated. And yeah, I just appreciate you guys no matter what you do. So here we are in Episode 216. Really, and truly, I should have done this episode a couple of years ago, I’ve waited way too long to do frequently asked questions. These are the questions that get asked again and again and again. So I compiled a bunch of them myself. And then I also asked for help from some of my favorite people in the world, the admins and moderators in my Facebook group. Like what are the questions that we hear all the time in the group, that group is approaching 10,000 people, it’s very busy. And so we get these questions all the time. So in the eight years that I’ve been doing this podcast, these are the questions that I get asked again and again and again. So the reason why I’m doing this episode, and then next week, episode 217 will be part two of the frequently asked questions so that we can put them all in one place. And you could just pop on over to these two podcast episodes, or the corresponding YouTube videos on my YouTube channel. And just get those answers if you need them. It’ll just be an easy place for us to point people. Hey, here are the top 20 questions that we get asked Oh, listen to this. So let’s get into it. The first question that I’m going to cover, and I’m going to do these pretty quickly, I guess because I don’t want this to be a really long episode. I get asked all the time am I drew. Are you fully recovered? Or do you experience anxiety or panic attacks anymore? And the answer to that is Hell yeah. I am 100% totally completely recovered. I do not have any anxiety disorders anymore. I am completely confident in saying that that is no lie. Now, does that mean that I never experienced anxiety or panic? Now it doesn’t mean that at all. One of the things that you will learn if you’re just getting familiar with this work is that that is not what recovery looks like, I will tell you that I can have an anxious day down on them because I can experience stress and sometimes stress is anxiety for normal healthy human beings. So yeah, sometimes I feel anxiety. But all human beings experience anxiety, sometimes. I’m just not afraid of it anymore. And that’s the difference between anxiety and anxiety disorder. Can I have panic attacks? Sure, I might have a couple of panic attacks a year. Now. It’s been a long time since I had one the last time was probably eight months maybe ago. I tried to document the aftermath of that on my Instagram account. If you follow me over there. It’s a highlight of my stories. But yeah, I could I could have a panic attack today. It’s possible. I just don’t care if I do or I don’t. I mean, I prefer not to because it’s disruptive. But how do I know that I’m completely and utterly recovered and that I do not have an anxiety disorder anymore, that I don’t care? I just do not care whether I panic or don’t panic, and I don’t care whether I’m anxious or not. Because anxiety now occupies a regular normal, healthy space in my life. So that’s the difference between anxiety and anxiety disorders. I do not have an anxiety disorder. I’m no longer afraid of what I think and how I feel. Nor am I worried that I might be anxious or panicky tomorrow, because even if I were to panic right after I finished recording this podcast, it will start it will peak it will and the whole thing will be over in about 10 minutes. I’ll feel shaky for another half hour or 45 minutes and I’ll get on with my life. And that’s recovery. And that is me I am fully recovered 100% I’m not lying, I swear to God. So the next question that I get asked is full recovery actually possible? And while I just kind of answered that, so yes, I am 100% fully recovered if you paraded me in front of one hundred therapists and toll and ask them to assess me and diagnose me. I am I’m completely confident I would bet you every physical asset I have in the world that 100% of them would find out the diagnosis to be had. But it’s not just me, right? So, I don’t want to say that well, because If I’m recovered, then that means everybody can recover. I just have seen too many people, hundreds of 1000s of people over the years that I’ve been privileged to interact with you guys have also reached a state of complete and full recovery, and will tell you the same thing that I just told you. Sometimes they get anxious, they might panic now and then they might have intrusive thoughts. And then they might experience anxiety sensations now and then, but they are 100% fully recovered from their anxiety disorder. So yes, I promise I would not spend the time that I do on this if I did not fully believe and see evidence every day and a large population of people that full recovery is, in fact possible. It is. It’s possible I see them every day. If you’re in my Facebook group, you see them every day, too. You just might not notice that. Or you might be skewed and thinking, Well, this person had a panic attack, I have been told I’ll use my own personal experience. I’ve been told by people online that because I had a panic attack eight months ago I’m lying, and I’m not recovered. What’s the point if you still can have a panic attack, and they’re missing the whole thing? And they can have that opinion if they want. That’s okay, we won’t see eye to eye. But sometimes the fact that you’re so desperate to never panic again, you’re so desperate to feel better, you’ll discount what recovery actually looks like, right now. I get that that’s okay, you’re getting there. As you work it down the road. As you get better with the process, you’ll start to understand what it really means. And you’ll see oh, yeah, people really do recover, and I can be one of them. So I promise full recovery is only possible I see it every day. And just about every therapist that you can find in the world that specializes in treating anxiety disorders will tell you that Oh, sure. It’s fully possible. Some people with OCD will say well, you can never cure OCD. But you can live without it crippling you and controlling your life. And that’s what sometimes gets debated. Because just like with anxiety, you may have thoughts, you may have intrusive thoughts now. And then they may pop up, especially when you’re stressed. But even then even people that say, well, it’s there’s no cure for that will tell you, but you don’t have to be crippled by it anymore. And that’s recovery. So that’s question number two. Question number three, Excuse me, this is a bit of a loaded question. And you guys know that it’s something that I don’t spend a whole lot of time talking about. But I have to address it because it comes up all the time every day. And question number three is, can I recover without medication? So I will if you aren’t really interested, I did a three-part series in this podcast about a year and a half ago, I don’t remember which episodes those are if you just go to the anxious truth.com and use the search tool and search for antidepressant or SSRI you’ll see those three episodes. I told the whole story. Can I recover without medication? Yeah, yeah. Now, let me preface this by saying that if you believe that you are better off on medication, and you think that you should just take that for the rest of your life, I am still going to 100% support you as one human being to another, I completely respect your ability to make a decision that you think is best for you. 100%. So I’m going to say that it is possible to recover without medication. But please do not tell me that I met shaming everybody, or anybody, you may choose to take medication. And that’s a perfectly valid choice. What I’m saying right now, doesn’t make that doesn’t make what I’m saying is untrue. And it doesn’t mean that I’m invalidating your path. But I get asked, Is it possible to recover without medication? And the truth of that is, is that I have besides me again, hundreds and 1000s of people that I’ve seen do it. So, what am I supposed to say? The answer is yes. Yes, it’s there. The evidence is right there. I’m evidence, as are these hundreds and 1000s of people that I see all the time. Again, if you were in my Facebook group, you know, people that have recovered without medication, you know, people who were on medication did the work of tapering off. Sometimes it was pretty fast. Sometimes it was a struggle. But yeah, you can people do recover without medication. So if you are taking meds now and you’re hoping one day to not I get you because that was me, that used to be me. Yes, you can come off it. Sometimes it’s difficult, that’s for sure. But is it possible to come off your medication and fully recover? It is possible. So, the answer to that question is, can I recover without medication as I did, and many, many people do, but your circumstance is yours and you get to make the decision that you think is right for you. And everybody should respect that. All right, so that’s all I’m going to say about medication. Please don’t ask me and tell me that I’m med-shaming anybody. I’m not excuse me. If you want to take medication, and you think it’s best for you to go for it. Don’t let anybody knock you down for that including me. So that fourth question is not really a question. It’s more of a statement and this is a thing that people will kind of not throw at me. They’re not being mean. I understand. And that is this statement. You know, that’s easier said than done. Drew, I, and I understand it totally is it completely. This is all easier said than done. But I will weighed down that I never talked about it being easy. In fact, I talked about how hard it is all the time, every single day, I will validate that this is very difficult. The recovery plan that I’m always talking about, and I’m not the only one, I didn’t invent this, remember, I did not invent any of this. I just seem to be good at relaying it to people and explaining it. To me, I guess. But I didn’t invent this. But nobody who’s in the business of treating anxiety disorders or being an advocate, whatever it is, and talks about the things that I talked about, and believes in this approach, nobody will tell you that it’s easy. So if anybody comes at you, and tells you that, you know, they have a fast way for you to cure your panic disorder, or your agoraphobia, or your OCD, or your health anxiety, run because there really aren’t really easy ways to do this. This is hard. The plan and the concept are simple. But the execution is hard. It is hard. And I’ve done a podcast episode about that. Now, if you go to the anxious truth.com/ 216, in the show notes of this episode, on my website, I will link the episodes that I’m referencing here, I did an episode entirely dedicated to that. Like, why is recovery so hard? Well, there’s a bunch of reasons why it’s hard. First and foremost you have to be brave, you have to face your fear. It’s counterintuitive. It’s the opposite of what you want to do. You’re running toward discomfort. Nobody wants to do that. So when you tell me, that’s easier said than done, my answer to you is correct. That is correct. I never promised you easy. I never talked about easy. I talked about it being hard all the time. This is easier said than done. It’s a simple plan, it’s really hard to execute for a variety of reasons. Right? So that’s not question four. It’s statement four. How’s that? So number five, in the hit parade here, and our frequently asked questions in this episode is, how can I be sure that this really is just anxiety? This is definitely a tough live question. I hear it all the time. But how can I be sure that it’s just anxiety? So let me put this into context. If you are a typical sufferer of things like panic attacks or agoraphobia, health, anxiety, whatever it happens to be, if you’re typical, and you kind of follow the patterns that most of us follow that I follow that many, many people follow, you have been checked out again, and again. And again, maybe you’ve been to the ER or the A&E, like you Guys call it in the UK. Maybe you’ve been to the emergency room in the hospital again, and again, and again, maybe you’ve been to 16 general practitioners and a bunch of specialists and you keep asking for different tests. And you always need to Well, what about this, let’s go to this symptom. You know, I bet you check that out. So the context that I’m talking about right here is that you have gone through all of that. You have been told by a team of medical professionals that there is nothing wrong with you right now. This is anxiety. So that’s the question that I’m answering, right? So it’s okay to get yourself checked out. Everybody does it. When new things come up in your body, it’s okay to check them out. There’s no crime in that. There’s nothing wrong with that. But once you have been checked out and given that medical clearance, how can I be sure that it’s really just anxiety? The doctor keeps telling me that everybody keeps telling me that drew. How can, I be sure? The answer to that question? This is a sucky one. And I did an episode on this too. So I’ll link that in the show notes of this one. The answer is you can’t ever be sure. That’s true. You cannot ever be 100% certain, but you don’t need to be right. So people who are not suffering in the grips of disordered anxiety and the irrational fear that comes with that. And the distortions of magnifications. Understand that they are not living in certainty either. They’re just willing to be certain enough. I did a podcast episode with Sally Winston, where she talked about, that she and Marty Self wrote a book called Needed to Know for Sure, which is a great, great book that I highly recommend. And she talked about being short enough, like air quotes, normal people, and I know you can’t see me because no video in this episode, but so-called normal people are short enough. People with disordered anxiety can never be sure enough. But the reality of this is part of the recovery process is that you are learning how to be short enough. And in the episode that I did titled How can I be sure this is really anxiety, I went into a thing that I call life math, and I talked about this, and the distortions and magnifications that really overblow the risk in your mind right now. But as you go down the road and you become more and more recovered and a little bit closer to to so-called normal that life math goes back to a normal state The risk is no longer overblown and you learn to be sure enough again. And trust me, that is a state that is perfectly okay. That’s the normal human state. How can I be sure that if I have pain in my chest after a stressful day it’s not a heart attack? I can’t be 100% Sure I can’t. But I don’t have to immediately assume that it is a heart attack and go into immediate emergency mode. So that’s the answer to that question. How can I be sure you can’t ever be 100% sure of almost anything in life, but you can learn to be short enough? And you can learn when anxiety goes back to a healthy position in your life, to navigate that uncertainty more productively and more effectively so that you know, now it’s time to call for help. It’s time to go see a doctor, you’ll know. Believe me, I know. Now, back then I had no idea. I thought it was always time to see a doctor. And I’m sure you do too, right now. And it seems super scary to not see that doctor, but you’ll get there. So let’s move on to Question six. Where are we 15 minutes? How can I be brave and face the anxiety without running? Look, this is at the core of everything that I talked about right is about going toward the anxiety or allowing it without resistance. I use the term surrender. Josh Fletcher talks about willful tolerance, Claire Weeks talks about acceptance and floating. So, we are allowing this scary stuff, the scary sensations, the disturbing thoughts, the OMG thoughts, the catastrophic guts, we’re allowing all of that. And We’re facing it and allowing it to reach its peak so that it comes back down naturally. And we can learn I can navigate through this. I don’t have to run from it. But that requires courage. Because I’m going to do a podcast episode on this shortly I would dedicate an episode to the fact that you will be afraid. Yeah, yeah, you’re going to be afraid you’re going to be uncomfortable, you’re going to be vulnerable and unsure and uncertain. And those are really tough things to just deal with to just sit in and allow. And people will ask me all the time, but how can I be brave? And do that? And the answer to that is, I can’t tell you how to be brave. And a lot of times it doesn’t. And I’ve done episodes on this to bravery. I’ve written my morning newsletter, the anxious morning, and did a whole series on bravery. How can I be brave and face anxiety without running? There are no lessons on how to be brave. Just gain an understanding that being brave doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. Brave means that you are in fact afraid. But you’re doing the thing that you have to do anyway. So, my best tip for how to be brave is to first start with an understanding that brave means that you’re afraid and if you take a leap of faith that you can you’ll be okay. Even if you’re afraid. That’s what bravery is. So, a lot of people are convinced that like, Well, I’m not brave, because I’m still really afraid. Yeah, you’re going to be afraid bravery doesn’t mean not being afraid. It means being afraid and doing it anyway. And before I move on from this question, I need to clarify that this is not I mean, yeah, there’s that old I don’t even know where comes from maybe it was a book self-help book. Feel the fear and do it anyway. Okay. Yeah, kind of like that’s a gross oversimplification. Do it anyway. Okay, a little bit of an oversimplification simplification. Just do it. You know, like the Nike slogan, do not ever let anybody tell you that my message or the message of anybody that sounds like me is just do it. That Frost’s me that grinds my gears in a big way. Recovery is not just doing it; nobody is telling you to suck it up. No one’s telling you to just do it. This isn’t a badass, hardcore character, proof of character, or strength thing. This is hard. Being brave is hard. And it’s nuanced. And You’d be braver on Tuesday than you are on Wednesday. And then Maybe you’ll be brave again on Sunday. You don’t know it waxes and wanes. So just allow all that, like, do the best you can. Sometimes bravery is very imperfect. Most of the time. It’s imperfect. That’s okay. But none of this just boils down to silly stuff, like just do it. Hate that don’t like that very invalidating. Okay, so the next question, this is a big one. And this is also a sensitive topic. Don’t I need to find the root cause of my panic attacks to get better? Sometimes the word healing don’t I have to heal to stop my panic attacks? Well, here’s the deal. When you are now afraid of the panic itself, and I’ve talked about this, I’ve talked about this. In some of my earliest episodes, anxiety is physical Anxiety disorders are cognitive. I’ve explained how these things come to be and the evolution of what an anxiety disorder looks like. But the crux of the matter here is, don’t I need to find the root cause. Don’t I have to heal my pain? Or my suffering in order to stop my panic attacks? The answer is maybe. But if you are now primarily concerned with the fact that you are anxious, then you have a different problem. So you may just have that problem in my life. That’s the only problem I’ve ever found. For whatever reason, I started to have panic attacks. I don’t know why I may never know why. But guess what, I fully recovered without ever finding out why. And I may never know one day I may know, I don’t know. But once I was only afraid of the next attack, once I became afraid of my own heartbeat, my own thoughts, my own emotions, my own lungs, me own legs. Once I became afraid of the state of being anxious itself, then if there was some sort of root cause or pain trigger, it didn’t matter anymore. So the litmus test here is, what am I afraid of? Right so if you walk out of your house, and you experience panic because you have been assaulted, and you are you feel unsafe because have the memories of that assault, then yeah, then that’s a root cause thing for sure.  I would never ever invalidate that. It’s true. But if you started that way, and are now just afraid that well, if I walk into the house, and then I don’t like how I feel, that has become the primary fear. Well, now you have two problems, you have to work on the disorder and anxiety part. And then maybe There’s some healing, some trauma work to do. Yeah, that could be more than one thing can be true at one time. So, when I say that you do not need to find the root cause of your panic attacks or anxiety to get better. I’m talking about a situation where you have learned to be afraid of your own body and thoughts. Right. So, in that situation, the root cause kind of doesn’t matter anymore. It still might be there. And one day, you may do that work, maybe you’ll do that work simultaneously, as you’re doing the anxiety disorder, recovery work could be people do that. But to stand on your feet again, and no longer be afraid of your own heartbeat, which is the thing I use all the time. No, you don’t need to find a root cause. Whatever that root cause is, did not make you are afraid of your own heartbeat. It may have been the trigger that caused your heart to beat faster, and those first waves of anxiety as far as panic attacks. But now you’re afraid of your heart itself. So the root cause is on the back burner now, sorry, it is. And the beauty of some of this process is many, many people in our community come to this process and figuratively, metaphorically, they’re on fire, they’re burning, they’re burning, I can’t get out of my own bed, I can’t leave my bedroom, I cannot even walk to the other side of the house. without panicking. I have to sit in the dark all day. I’m super sensitized. I can do nothing I just panic, panic, panic all day long. I’m anxious, anxious, anxious, the thoughts, the thoughts, the thoughts. And they stopped digging for root causes, they started doing this kind of work, and they put the fire out. And then they discover like, Okay, I’m back to a state where now maybe I could do some of that root cause work. I see that every single day. And for those people, they have very difficult but sometimes very rewarding journeys and experiences. But digging for a root cause because everybody just assumes that panic is caused by some sort of unhealed pain is really a very damaging narrative in the anxiety disorder community. So no, you don’t need that. And I will tell you right now, if you’ve been working with anybody, whether they just be supportive friends, family members, or a therapist that has been digging for your root cause for two years, and you still can’t find it, and you still can’t leave your house, you got to rethink that relationship. I’ll say it. Okay, I can say that. So that is the answer to the root cause question. I’ve talked about this, all of the things I’m talking about today, I’ve written about that, in my books there another episode of the podcast are in the morning newsletter, and they’re in my social media content. They’re all there. So let’s move on to the next question. Another sort of hot topic that I catch a lot of heat about, why don’t I talk about things like nutrition or diet or supplements? I get asked, I don’t understand Drew. It’s a mind-body thing. Everybody loves the mind. The body loves the mind and body. Listen, I have no problem with mind-body. I’m cool with that. I don’t believe that the fact that there’s a connection between your mind and your body is news. Like, we kind of know this already. It’s not news. It’s not profound. It doesn’t necessarily inform the recovery process. Just like my answer to the last question, if you are afraid of your own heartbeat, or you have thoughts that you can’t, necessarily unhinged, unhitch from and they are dragging you up and down the street every day, even though you know they shouldn’t, and you know, they’re not true, but you get dragged around anyway. If you’re afraid of your own breath, if you’re terrified to be alone, because What if something happens, and nobody’s here to save me, because I might panic. And my anxiety might be dangerous this time, then there is nothing in your gut biome that’s going to Make a hill of beans a difference about that. Now, this is not to say that I don’t believe in taking good care of your body, we should all take good care of our bodies. There’s nothing wrong with that whatsoever. Again, these are not mutually exclusive things. I don’t talk about diet or nutrition or supplements, because everybody should take care of their bodies. But in this paradigm that I have embraced in my life, that many, many of us in this cognitive behavioral approach to anxiety disorders have embraced, that doesn’t enter into it. Really, you know, look, don’t let yourself get run down. Don’t be unhealthy. Take good care of yourself as best you can. But I’m going to tell you right now, that I have run across hundreds and hundreds of people who have fully recovered from a steady diet of sugar, processed foods, and cigarettes. They still got better. They probably have terrible gut biomes I’m guessing I’m no expert on that. But the reason why I don’t talk about those things is because even though you feel anxiety physically, an anxiety disorder is not a physical problem. Is it possible that I don’t know something in your leaky gut syndrome or something that caused your initial panic attack to maybe, but now you’re afraid of the attack? Itself. This is why the community is full of people who spent just gobs and gobs of money on all kinds of supplements and herbs and special diets and programs, who still are having a problem, they may have incredibly well-balanced gut biomes. And I know I keep going back to that, you know, they’re treating that air quotes the second brain as best as you, as we know, to treat it, feeding it the most, you know, whole organic foods and supplementing properly, but still can’t get better. There’s a reason for that. There’s a reason for that. So that’s why I don’t talk about nutrition or diet or supplements because, to me, it’s a red herring and recovery. It’s a thing that everybody should take good care of take, Please take good care of your physical health, please. Like I wouldn’t, you know, advise everybody to do that. But chasing diet, supplements, herbs in recovery is a red herring, it leads us down paths, and we don’t need to go and it becomes frustrating. Because I’m guessing that for every 100 people listening to my words, Right now, there are at least thirty-five of you who have a closet or a box, or a big plastic container full of at least 300 US dollars worth of vitamins, supplements, herbs, special diets, magnesium powder that you all were just hoping we’re going to be the answer. And I’m sorry that they weren’t. But that’s why I’m talking about this because it’s somewhat irrelevant in recovery. But please, please be healthy. Please take as good care of your body as you can. Okay, so question number nine, and then we’re going to do this one. And then one more, we’ll wrap it up. Why don’t I know I’m sorry. Question number nine is why we need a recovery plan. So, if you read my book, The Anxious Truth, which is my recovery guide, you’ll talk about having a plan all the time. Like why do we need to plan? So I know this is confusing for a lot of people, especially since we’ll talk about this in a question next week and episode 217. Like, but I don’t have panic attacks. I don’t know what my exposures are. So, what would my plan be? I understand that’s confusing, but why do I say that we should have a recovery plan? Look, you cannot plan every second of your recovery. So some people hear the plan and they think that they can literally plan every hour of every day specifically to optimize the recovery. No, you can’t this is you can’t become a robot. But the reason why I say we need a plan is that if we do not have a plan to follow, that informs the actions that we will take, we will too easily fall into only acting based on how we feel. We’ll only challenge ourselves on the good days when we’re feeling better. That’s bad that we don’t learn anything. When we’re feeling better. We will make our decisions based on our emotions, our symptoms, and our thoughts, We make a plan so that we can put some objectivity, and to that, I woke up this morning, and I’m anxious as hell. But my plan says that I go and do my exposures in the morning. So I will go do that. So a plan injects some much-needed two things, much-needed objectivity into the process? Because odds are if you’re still kind of lost right now and don’t know what to do. You’re making all of your decisions based on subjective judgments. How do I feel? What does this mean? What do I think about this? What might be wrong? Oh, my God, what could this be? That’s all subjective. We need objectivity. And a plan gives us objectivity. When we are in an anxious state, and we are frantic, and beside ourselves, we are terrible decision-makers. So a plan gets us out of the business of making decisions on the fly. Right? So American football teams, and I’ve talked about this all the time, create playbooks. They know who they’re playing on Sunday, they get ready and they know what the first 15 plays are that they’re going to run that’s just scripted, done. They have playbooks to tell us in this situation, we run this play in this situation, we’re on this plate. Yeah, there’s some creativity there, of course, but they don’t wait to make it up on the fly in the heat of a game. And this is the same reason why I talked about having a recovery plan. It’s so to me, it’s very important because otherwise you will be governed by your fear, your irrational fear distortions. magnifications, how you feel your symptoms, that stuff will just drag you around. And then you wind up in that situation where it’s like, I’m doing my exposures. Oh, well, when was the last time you did a driving exposure? Well, I was I being out on Friday and today’s Wednesday, like, but that’s not exposure that’s interrupted avoidance. There’s a difference and not to get into the details. But having a plan helps us stay clear of that trap. Right. So that’s why I say we need a recovery plan for objectivity and to get ourselves out of the decision-making game minute by minute when we’re suffering and when we’re not feeling good. Make the decisions ahead of time and then execute those decisions, no matter how you feel. A plan does that for us. So, question number 10, which will be the last one for this week. This is always one of my favorite ones. You guys have heard me say this before. This question any tips for dot fill in your symptom? Fill in your scary thing. Any tips for nausea, any tips for dizziness any tips or depersonalization? Any Tips for emetophobia any tips for You know, I can probably go for another 15 minutes a name all the specific things, Do any tips for that breathing or feeling? Any tips for that My nose getting tingly. Any tips for feeling like, you know having a panic attack at night? Like, no, no, I don’t have any tips for those things. I never have tips for those things. The reason why I don’t have tips for those things is that they’re all the same fear. Right? So, anybody who has ever gone down the road of trying to address each individual fear, like today, I’m afraid of my heart. This is a big one. Any tips for cardio phobia? How do I overcome a fear in my heart? And at the very same time, there are three people asking me how they overcome heart fear. There are four other people telling me that depersonalization is the worst possible thing, and how do they overcome that? And then there are three other people behind them that are talking about that short of breath, air hunger feeling, and that’s the worst for them. And they want to know how to overcome that. But the answer is the same all the time. In the Claire weeks world, and that’s really what launched this whole thing for me. Dr. Weeks talked about accepting and floating, letting time pass. It’s the answer for all of them. Even though I know that the thing that you want special tips for right now feels much scarier than the other things. And because it scares you more, you think it’s worthy of a special approach to try to specifically address that fear. But Especially if you’re new at this game, look around at the people who are further down the road from you. And almost without question, they will tell you that when I get over one fear another one often takes its place. So this is why I did a podcast episode about following the principles of recovery and not just instructions. I’ll link that one in the show notes. Anxious trip.com/ 216 for the show notes of this episode. I talked about that. Then learn the principles and apply the principles of allowing accepting floating, willful tolerance surrendering all of navigation. Right, he did a video with Lauren Rosen not too long ago, We talked about the thing, the tools that we use in recovery are not tools of eradication, they’re tools of navigation. So I know in my own personal journey, as soon as I learned to navigate air hunger, I was able to use those navigation skills. When I would have PVCs and skipped heartbeats, I was able to use those navigation skills when I experienced the realization or dissociative state. So I just forklifted the same navigation skills across multiple fears. And then it all became so obvious. And anybody who’s down the road and closer to recovery will tell you like Yeah, I thought they were all special. And it turns out they weren’t. So that’s why the answer to any tips for and then you insert your scary thing there is always the answer is always the same. And I say it again, and again. And again. I know I start to sound, you know, dismissive or flippant. And if you’re in my Facebook group, you’ve seen me post this at least once a month. Special Reminder, no symptom is special. None. No symptoms are special. I know you think that your symptom is but it is not. It is not. Because, like I said if your particular thing is that you’re afraid of your heart and you want to throw down like no, this is the scariest one. I’ll bring somebody in the room here that’s terrified of their own breath, and they will fight you like They will throw hands at you because they will insist that Theirs is worse. And the people who have air hunger will insist that theirs is worse and the people that are DPD our people, They will insist that there’s more than there’ll be a big Brawl because everybody is 100% convinced no but this one is this special? How could you not have a tip for this? I can’t tell you the number of times that I’ve had somebody say I would pay to have a rapid heartbeat. Like I’m so afraid of my breathing that I would pay to be afraid of my heart. I have had people say that. I wish I was dizzy. I wish I was dizzy. I’m so afraid of my heart. I wish I was dizzy. That must be a walk in the park. That’s easy. See what happens. So that’s why the answer to any tips is it’s all the same tip you’re going to have to work through navigating through the thing that you are afraid of. To learn that I don’t have to be afraid of it it’s super disturbing and uncomfortable and all of those things but not worthy of an emergency response. And when you learn it for one fear you forklift those skills to other fears and it becomes portable across multiple fears. And then when I say all your fears are one fear becomes painfully apparent, like holy cow, he was right. So if I can get through the air hunger I can get through the dizzy, I can get through the tingly toes. I can get through this and get like all of the things I don’t Okay, they’re nothing new. It’s just like Oh, thanks anxiety gets through another one than me? No problem. I know what to do with this without needing specific instructions for oh, I need special breathing instructions. Now I need special pdf instructions. Now I need special nausea instructions. You don’t need principles, learn the principles, apply them across multiple symptoms and fears and you’re good to go. So no, I don’t have any tips for and that is part one of our frequently asked questions. We did 10 questions today and we will do 10 More questions next week and Pod gets episode 217. So, come back For that, bookmark it. If you’re on YouTube, and you’re listening to YouTube and on YouTube, favorite the video, like When you want to ask these questions again, come back here, Like, listen to these again. And that’s it. 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