How to make diseases disappear | Rangan Chatterjee | TEDxLiverpool

Translator: Queenie Lee Reviewer: Rhonda Jacobs I can make diseases disappear. To be more precise, I can make chronic diseases disappear. You see, chronic diseases are the long-term conditions, like type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, depression or even dementia. There are 15 million people in England who have already been diagnosed with a chronic condition. So that means looking out amongst you now, there are probably about 250 people in here who have one of these long-term conditions. Just one of these alone, type 2 diabetes, is costing the UK 20 billion pounds every single year, and I’m standing here before you saying I can make these diseases disappear.See, I’m not a magician, I’m what the Americans call an MD. That’s not a magical doctor, that’s a medical doctor or what I call a mere doctor. You see, the reason I can make diseases disappear is because diseases are just an illusion; diseases are not real. In fact, diseases don’t really exist, at least not in the way that we think they do. So 15 years ago, I qualified for medical school, and I was ready, I was full of enthusiasm, full of passion, ready to go out and help people. But I always felt like there was something missing. I started off as a specialist. I moved from being a specialist to becoming a generalist, or a GP.And I always got this nagging sense that I was just managing disease or simply suppressing people’s symptoms. And then, just five and a half years ago, came the turning point for me. See, five and a half years ago, my son nearly died. My wife and I, we were on holiday in France with our little baby boy, and she called out to me, said ‘He’s not moving, so I rushed there, and he was lifeless. I thought he was choking, so I picked him up, I tried to clear his airway. Nothing happened, and I froze. She called out to me and said, ‘Come on, we’ve got to get to hospital’. So we rushed there; we were worried because when we got there, he still wasn’t moving. The doctors were worried because they didn’t know what was happening. That night he had two lumbar punctures because they thought he might have meningitis, and he stayed in a foreign hospital for three days. What actually transpired was my son had a low level of calcium in his blood that was caused by a low level of vitamin D.My son nearly died from a preventable vitamin deficiency and his father, a doctor, knew nothing about it. You see, as a parent that is a harrowing experience that never leaves you. But I was a doctor, I was his dad; and the guilt that stayed with me, and is still here today, that changes you. So I started reading, I started reading about this vitamin deficiency. And as I started reading I started to learn a lot of science – a lot of science that I did not learn in medical school, a lot of science that I thought: ‘Hey, this makes lots of sense to me. So I started applying this science. I started applying it, first of all, with my son, and I saw the amazing benefits. So then I started applying it with my patients, and do you know what happened? People started getting better, really better. You see, I learnt how to resolve the root cause of their problems rather than simply suppressing their symptoms. Just over a year ago, I had the opportunity to make a series of documentaries for BBC One where I got to showcase this style of medicine.I’m going to tell you about one of the patients – a 35-year-old, Dotti, lovely, lovely lady, but she was struggling with her health, weight problems, joint problems, sleep problems. See, despite Dotti’s best efforts, Dotti was unable to make any sustainable changes. So I went into Dotti’s house, and in the first week I did some blood tests, and I diagnosed her with type 2 diabetes. Six weeks later when I left Dotti’s house, she no longer had type 2 diabetes. You see, her disease had disappeared.So health exists on a continuum. Okay? At the top right we’ve got disease, and at the bottom left we’ve got optimal health, and we are always moving up and down that continuum. Take Christmas, New Year, for example, right? We drink too much, we eat too much, we stay up late; we probably start to move up that curve. But if we recalibrate in January and February, we start to move back down it again. We get involved in medicine and give you a diagnosis of a chronic disease … here, but things have been starting to go wrong … back here. See, when I met Dotti, she was up here, she had a disease. You see, you can think of it a little bit like a fire that’s been burning in Dotti’s body for years; it’s getting bigger till it’s finally raging out of control. At that point, I can say, ‘Hey Dotti, you have a disease’.And I told her that, ‘You do have a disease.’ But what caused it in the first place? The thing we have to understand is that acute disease and chronic disease are two different things. Acute disease is something we’re pretty good at as doctors, we’re good at this. It’s quite simple. Okay? You have something like a pneumonia, that’s a severe lung infection. So in your lung you have the overgrowth of some bugs, typically a bacteria. We identify the bacteria, we give you a treatment, typically an antibiotic, and it kills the bacteria. The bacteria dies and hey, presto, you no longer have your pneumonia. The problem is we apply that same thinking to chronic disease and it simply doesn’t work, because chronic disease doesn’t just happen. You don’t just wake up with chronic disease one day and there are many different causes of chronic disease. By the time we give you that diagnosis, things have been going wrong for a long, long time.So when I met Dotti and she had her ‘diagnosis’, her blood sugar was out of control, because that’s what people say, many people say that type 2 diabetes is a blood sugar problem, but they’re missing the point. There is a problem with blood sugar in type 2 diabetes, but type 2 diabetes is not a blood sugar problem. The blood sugar is the symptom, it’s not the cause! If we only treat symptoms we’ll never get rid of the disease.So when I met Dotti, I said, ‘Dotti, you’ve got a problem with your blood sugar. Dotti, for the last few years your body has become more and more intolerant to certain foods. At the moment, Dotti, your body does not tolerate refined or processed carbs or sugar at all. So you’ve got to cut them out. So what does that do? Well, it stops putting fuel on Dotti’s raging fire. But then we’ve got to work out what started the fire in the first place? And what was the fuel that caused it to burn for so long? In most cases of type 2 diabetes, this is something called insulin resistance.Now insulin is a very important hormone, and one of its key functions is to keep your blood sugar tightly controlled in your body. So, let’s say you’re at the bottom left in optimal health, like all of us in here, and you have a breakfast of say, a sugary bowl of cereal. What happens is your blood sugar goes up, but your body releases a little bit of insulin, and it comes back down to normal. As you move up that curve, you are becoming more and more insulin resistant; that means you need more and more insulin to do the same job. And for all those years before you get anywhere near a diagnosis, that raised level of insulin is causing you a lot of problems. You could think of it a little bit like alcohol. The very first time you have a drink, what happens? Say, you have a glass of wine, one or two sips, maybe half a glass; you feel tipsy; you feel a little bit drunk. And as you become a more seasoned and accustomed drinker, you need more and more alcohol to have the same effect; so that’s what’s going on with insulin.You need more and more insulin to have the same effect, but that insulin itself is problematic. And when the insulin can no longer keep your sugar under control, at that point we say, ‘Oh, you’ve got a disease’; at that point, you have type 2 diabetes. So what causes this insulin resistance that then causes type 2 diabetes? Well, there are many different things. It could be your diet. It could be that your diet for the last ten years has been full of processed junk food. That could be a cause. Or there’s something else. What if it’s the fact that you are chronically stressed? Work stress, emotional stress, perceived stress. For me, just seeing my email inbox sometimes, that’s a stress. See, that raises levels of cortisol in your body, and cortisol, when it’s up, raises your sugar which causes insulin resistance. What if it’s something else? What if it’s the fact you have been sleep deprived because you are a shift worker? See, in some people, one night’s sleep deprivation can give you as much insulin resistance as six months on a junk food diet.What if it’s the fact that as you’re getting older, you’re losing muscle mass? That causes insulin resistance. Or what if it’s something to do with something we call your microbiome? See, inside our body, we have trillions of bugs living there, and the balance of those bugs is critical for our overall health. If you have a disruption to that balance, you can get the overgrowth of certain bacteria, and on their jacket, these bacteria have something called lipopolysaccharide, or LPS. And what that does is when it gets in your blood, it causes insulin resistance. You see, the problem is there are many different causes of insulin resistance, and if we don’t address the causes for that particular patient, we will never get rid of the disease. That’s what I did with Dotti, and that’s why six weeks after I met her, she no longer had a disease. What about something else completely unrelated? What about depression? You see, one in five people are going to get depression at some point in their lives.So what is depression? There’s no blood test for depression; there’s no scan for depression. Depression is simply the name that we give to a collection of symptoms. But what causes the depression? Well, we know that many cases of depression are associated with something called inflammation. Now this isn’t the same inflammation as if you trip up, you sprain your ankle, it gets red, it gets swollen, it gets hot for a few days. But this is entirely different. This is chronic inflammation. This happens when your body thinks it is under constant attack. Now, King’s College London three weeks ago published a study on this. This is current up-to-date stuff. Patients with depression, if they had high levels of inflammation in their body, they did not respond to antidepressants.Take a step back, it sort of makes sense, doesn’t it? Because an antidepressant is designed to raise the level of a chemical in your brain. But what if the cause of your depression is actually coming from your body and the inflammation that’s in your body? Surely, it makes more sense to address that. See, what causes this inflammation? Well, your diet plays a part in that, your stress levels play a part. Chronic sleep deprivation. Physical inactivity. A lack of exposure to the sun gives you vitamin D.Disruptions in the gut microbiome. There are many different things. If we do not address the cause, we’ll never get rid of diseases. Diseases are the symptom. What about something else? What about Alzheimer’s disease? See? We’re all living longer, aren’t we? But we’re scared. We’re scared that as we live longer and as we live older we may have to live with the devastating consequences of things like Alzheimer’s.I’m sure many of us in here have experienced that ourselves, with our family. It’s a heart-wrenching condition, and we, the doctors, we’re scrambling around, and we’re trying to find the cure. There’s a professor in San Francisco, Professor Bredesen was actually demonstrating that you can cure dementia. He’s shown that you can reverse cognitive decline in his patients with dementia; and how is he doing that? Well, one thing he’s not doing is he is not saying, ‘Well, all these patients in my office have got dementia, Alzheimer’s disease, what is the cure?’ No, he’s going the other way; he’s saying, with all these patients, let’s say ten patients in my office, he’s trying to work out what have been the triggers for the last 20 years that have ended up with this patient expressing themselves as dementia? And he identifies them, and he corrects every single one of them.And when he does that, guess what’s happening? They are reversing their symptoms, they are no longer being classified as having dementia. It’s a brand new way of looking at disease. It’s looking at what is causing this disease in this individual patient. It’s totally different. So what factors is he looking at? Well, he’s looking at their diet; he’s looking at their stress levels, their sleep quality, their physical activity levels, their exposure to environmental toxins, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera. Is this starting to sound a little bit familiar? See, what if all these seemingly separate diseases actually at their core share common root causes? See, we need to update our thinking: Our genetics are not our destiny. Our genes load the gun, but it’s our environment that pulls the trigger. All these factors here, these are the factors that basically interact with your genes and determine how your genes are expressed, whether you are in optimal health, whether you have a disease, or whether you are somewhere in between.Collectively, as a society, I genuinely believe we can do better and we have to do better. Type 2 diabetes alone is costing us 20 billion pounds a year. Just a 1% saving there would be 200 million pounds. I think we can do way better than 1%. In the United States today, the new generation of kids that are born have a lower life expectancy than the generation before them. Is this evolution or is this devolution? You see, we need to evolve the way that we practice medicine. We need the medicine of aetiology, not symptomatology – the medicine that asks why, not only tells you what. This is personalized medicine, this is precision medicine, this is progressive medicine. And actually, if you take a step back, this is preventative medicine in its purest form. We have got to stop applying 20th century thinking to 21st-century problems. We need to take back control, empower ourselves, and re-educate ourselves away from our fear of disease and right back down the curve to optimal health.Because if we do, together, I genuinely believe that we can change not only our health, not only the health of our communities, but maybe, just maybe we could start to change the health of the entire world. Thank you. (Cheers) (Applause).

Generalized Anxiety Disorder: Symptoms

> Talk about generalized anxiety disorder and how that differs from a panic attack, so what are the differences? > The worrier — okay — The client is not a warrior worrier but their warriors as well, the constant worrier. That’s… so we talked the last segment about how much panic attack and panic disorder has to do with the physiological the cardiorespiratory system, the worrier may be perfectly come from here down. — okay — up here what if, what if, what if, ain’t quite a lady explained if it’s generalized anxiety… I don’t think of the the language it’s just kind of all the time… and sometimes not very situational. It’s not about when one thing is really going wrong in your life and you get anxious and it’s sustained because over time that situation has to resolve itself — right — you’re in a crisis in your relationship one of your kids is sick you’re you know things go on in our lives where yes our anxiety elevates our adrenaline sort of rushes to kind of help rescue us and channel us and direct we and we don’t always calm down that’s very different from a panic attack for example but it does have that 20 minutes… You know like 20 minutes sequence to it, but when we’re in a state of anxiety all the time people are restless they can’t sleep they’re overly medicated because the world is a dangerous place. > And there are so many symptoms, we do have a graphic that shows some of those signs and symptoms of anxiety and I can relate to a few of these so well. And like you mentioned it’s it’s almost a voice in your head that you can’t quiet, so easily. Can you talk a little bit about these signs and symptoms? > Well this list is not serve different from the last list we looked at in the last segment. exactly I actually… it’s almost the same except for me either this was broken up for some reason, but these are all the symptoms of the panic attack except you’re not having them at that high level and you don’t have that cluster for that I mentioned, but you know we talked about feeling weak or tired problem sleeping I mentioned just a few minutes ago they’re all there but they’re just there at kind of a low level… so maybe your heart’s being just a little more quickly particularly at certain times of the day than you know somebody else is how it would be or maybe you’re just more prone to perspire sleep disturbance is very very common, but the first one is what it feels like I’m nervous, I might irritable I’m on the edge…

Part 1: Anxiety & School – Identifying Anxiety and What To Do About It

Kelcey Schmitz: We want to welcome you to our presentation today which is part of a series on anxiety and the return to school. My name is Kelcey Schmitz and I work for the University of Washington at the School Mental Health Assessment, Research and Training Center or SMART Center, as the School Mental Health, lead to the Northwest Mental Health Technology Transfer Center, our the center is located in Seattle. So, whether you are returning 100%, virtually, hybrid, or all in person, we do think you’ll find this session relevant to your situation. Our funder SAMHSA has asked that we provide this disclaimer that the views, opinions, and content expressed in this presentation do not necessarily reflect the views, opinions, or policies at the Center for Mental Health Services, the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration, or the US Department of Health and Human Services. The University of Washington SMART Center The Northwest MHTTC acknowledge that we learn, live and work on the ancestral lands of the Coast Salish people who walked here before us, and those who still walk here, we’re grateful to respectfully live and work as guests on these lands with the Coast Salish and Native people who call this home. We encourage you to learn about the ancestral lands you’re joining us from. On the next slide, I want to spend just a moment to tell you about the Mental Health Technology Transfer Center Network. It was funded by SAMHSA in late 2018. The MHTTC network includes 10 Regional Centers, a National American Indian and Alaska Native Center, and National Hispanic and Latino Center and a Network Coordinating Office. We know that many of you may be joining us from outside of our region, and we want to make sure that you know about the MHTTC where you are located. You can visit the MHTTC Network to find a center near you or to check in with other centers across the nation. So just briefly, I want to introduce those of you who are new to our center. The Northwest MHTTC supports the School Mental Health workforce in Alaska, Oregon, Washington, and Idaho, and on this slide, you can see a variety of ways that you can get in touch with us. You can see our website and email on how to reach us, a link to sign up for our newsletters, and social media accounts for a variety of ways that you can connect with us. We do send out monthly newsletters, as well as training and resource blasts. So, please sign up and be in the know about what we’re offering. So, at this point, I want to invite our guests to come on video. Dr. Kendra Read and Dr. Jennifer Blossom will be spending the rest of our time with us today. They’re going to present some amazing content and then have generously offered to answer any questions that you might have during our Q&A session. So again, at this point, I am going to turn it over and want to give a warm welcome to our guest presenters today. Thank you. Kendra Read: Thank you so much Kelcey for that warm introduction. So, appreciated. So as Kelcey mentioned, my name is Kendra Reed. I am a clinical psychologist and the director of anxiety programs at Seattle Children’s Hospital and Jennifer blossom is also a clinical the psychologist was recent with us at Seattle Children’s as a postdoctoral fellow and is embarking on her new academic career as a professor at the University of Maine. Alright, here we go. Here’s more about our introductions here. Both of we hold expertise in the assessment and treatment of anxiety and mood disorders, including OCD in youth. So that is what we are here to talk about with you all today. As our disclosure, we don’t have any conflicts of interest. We won’t be discussing any off-label product use, and we have no commercial support or sponsorship. This is not a co-sponsored talk, so nothing to disclose here. Our objectives during our presentation, today are to review how anxiety presents in educational settings, to discuss and learn more about the empirically supported strategies to address problematic anxiety in educational settings and to describe school-based approaches for anxiety that encourage and reinforce those empirically supported strategies of approach versus avoidance. We’ll get more into that shortly. Okay, so I like to start here with everybody. I am sure all of you have experienced anxiety and some form or another in your lives, because anxiety is a human emotion, we all have it. So, I’m going to describe anxiety to you all like I would to a family coming in to seek services with us because I think it’s really helpful to hear how we would describe it so that you can implement this in your work with families but what I want everybody to know, kids, adolescence, parents, and you all as educational providers is that anxiety is a normal, adaptive, and protective feeling. This is our body’s natural alarm system. It’s the system that says “Hey, watch out danger, danger, danger, get out of here” when something is actually a threat to our safety. So, it’s an important feeling that we have, it is a good thing and then often, in many cases, it can be something that is kind of a performance boost for us. If I didn’t feel anxious at all about an upcoming test, I might not even crack the book for it. So, anxiety isn’t all bad and I like to start there with everyone because anxiety gets a really bad rap. We hear the word anxiety, we’re like, oh, no, must not feel that but in reality, anxiety, as I said, is a human emotion. We all have it, and it is often a really important one. Though anxiety can become really problematic when it causes significant distress or interferes with functioning for youth or their families. So when it grows, when that natural alarm system grows to be too big for the situation, and I use this example a lot with the families that I’ve worked with, but if we go back to that natural alarm system, I use this analogy of a smoke alarm or a fire alarm in somebody’s house. That is a useful tool. We want them installed in fact that it helps our homes be up to code and we need fire alarms and sometimes those fire alarms go off when there’s no fire, right? So, I tell this story of how in my old house, the smoke alarm would go off every time someone took a shower, which is true and was very problematic because we also have a husky. So it was very loud all of a sudden, and during the shower, the last thing you want to do is get out to like deal with the loud things that are happening but that’s kind of like what happens in the bodies of people who have problematic anxiety. Their body and their mind is going “fire, fire, fire! Oh, no!” but there’s no fire. There’s no smoke right. There’s, no, there’s no true threat to their well-being. There is a perceived threat that is inaccurate, right? but we don’t want to, quote-unquote gets rid of anxiety, I’m not in the business of curing anxiety, because that would be problematic. That’d be like uninstalling all of the fire alarms in folks’ homes that would, houses would start to burn down. Those alarms are there for a reason. So, we don’t want to uninstall those alarms. We don’t want to take the batteries out but instead we want to recalibrate that alarm to take a second to say, wait for a minute, is there actually smoke? we need to stay in the situation to see is it as bad or as problematic, as I am assuming in this moment. So, I’ve, we’ve also included here a table of some common fears and worries that crop up at several different developmental stages and these I think are important to note just to point out how anxiety is super common and pops up all the time and in fact, we see themes for, for youth throughout their developmental stages for when we typically see anxiety about this or that. All of that to say pre-school on, you can still meet criteria for quote-unquote, anxiety disorder, or have problematic anxiety in the specific topics if kids are really starting to pull away from their peers, in terms of the amount of distress and interference they are experiencing with regard to these topics. So, the main takeaway point from this is anxiety is totally normal. We don’t want to get rid of it altogether. I always tell kids; you’d end up at the hospital for a different reason. That would be bad, but our job is to help them stay in this situation to recalibrate that false alarm that’s going off. Say, wait a minute, is this as bad, is this, is there really smoke? We’ll hand it off to you Jen. Jennifer Blossom: Great, thank you. So at this point, we’d like to welcome everybody to use the chat function and let us know from your perspective what you’ve seen in your students and kiddos, what anxiety looks like. So, if you wouldn’t mind taking a moment to enter into the chat, different behaviors or different things that you’ve heard from your students, school avoidance, it looks like is the first thing off the bat that is definitely something that Kendra and I see often stomach aches, I’m seeing a lot of withdrawal and isolation. Some tears, shutting down, sometimes aggression. We see anger, outbursts, and aggression that can come up as a way to avoid. Covering face, crying, this is great. Thanks so much for jumping right in here and keeping them coming. So a lot of fear. Some I’m seeing sometimes that people are seeing self-harm or suicide ideation, suicidal ideation, a withdrawal that there’s a lot of reaching out to parents that kids are afraid to participate or they’re not answering questions, difficulty regulating. Something that we often see particularly in a school setting is kids going to the nurse excessively, difficulty paying attention. That’s like a very common one. Sometimes looking for substance use or using substances as a way of avoiding anxious feelings, sleep disruption. Somebody mentioned, seeing that kids are on their phones a lot and that’s particularly common, right? because if we’re focused on our phones and looking down at the screen in front of us, then that doesn’t mean we do not have to interact with those around us or face things that might be anxiety-provoking in our immediate environment. Great. Excellent. Thank you so much for sharing. So, you’re mentioning a lot of the things that you’ll see on the slide here are things that you’ve just mentioned. So in particular, one of the things as we were preparing for this talk to think about is how is anxiety manifesting? How is avoidance manifesting now that a lot of schools or a lot of classes are remote, so kids are meeting via, via zoom or some other video conferencing platform and one of the things that we’re thinking of is that there are in some capacity, it’s maybe easier to fully avoid participation in school. So, school avoidance is definitely a common problem. The hallmark of anxiety, just as Kendra was describing, initially, the the hallmark of anxiety is that our bodies react when there’s a the situation in which we were worried about an immediate threat or danger and the automatic response to that is avoidance. Right? If there is a fire in my house, I want to get out of the house. That’s how I stay safe. The problem is that when that an alarm system is going off for things like talking in class or asking teacher for help, then avoidance becomes really problematic because you’re avoiding situations that allow you to participate in the classroom or learn what you need to do or get the help that you need and so oftentimes, what we see is avoidance when kids are physically in school, it might include going to the nurse’s office frequently, a lot of, you were mentioning stomach aches, others might have complaints like headaches. Avoidance might be asking to leave the classroom for a short period of time, excessive bathroom use, either due to semantic distress or because that’s an opportunity to leave classroom. When thinking about the class meetings via zoom, this avoidance can be not joining the zoom session or joining, but not responding verbally to questions, not participating verbally, using the chat function instead, or using the chat function and only responding to the teacher, so not responding so that all students can see. This might also be, you know, avoiding using (and we’ll talk about this on the next slide) but avoiding using the zoom camera function, there might be a lot of missed class or participation due to aches and pains or complaints about illnesses and oftentimes when we think about this from an anxiety perspective, is that when there’s additional medical workup, there’s additional testing that there’s not an underlying organic or medical cause for these semantic complaints. So, frequent stomach aches without an underlying medical etiology are commonly associated with anxiety and in some ways, this is because of cultural differences and emotional expression. So, just describing anxiety as more of a somatic experience is more common, particularly in Latinx cultures and so this is something that we might see more commonly there’s a there can be a lot of distress related to sleep, or eating difficulties. So, students may be less likely to eat while at school. This might not be something we’re seeing when we’re all on zoom based, but definitely something that’s pretty common when we’re in the brick and mortar schools. Additionally, excessive reassurance seeking is something that’s pretty common and this is something that we see with students in the classroom happens very frequently with parents but certainly with teachers and other school personnel as well and this is you know, the kind of thinking about your typical student that is on top of classwork but still asking very frequently about due dates are making sure they’re getting the rules just right are they fully understand the expectations for a specific test or project, and that they’re asking excessively and possibly even repeatedly asking the same question. As Kendra was just describing, when there’s an alarm going off when there’s an alarm system going off in your head or your body, it can be really hard to focus, right? If I was standing here trying to talk to you all and there was a smoke alarm going on, behind me, trying to keep track of what I’m supposed to be saying and which side we’re on would be really hard. So oftentimes, anxiety can look like in-attention and this can impact school performance and in some ways appear more commonly like symptoms of ADHD, but it’s actually, anxiety that’s getting in the way because it’s really hard to focus when you’re feeling anxious. So school avoidance, this is something that I saw very commonly in the chat. So, this can include excessive tardiness up to an including chronic absenteeism, particularly when thinking about Zoom meetings. I started to talk about this on the last slide, but showing up late to Zoom meetings are not showing up at all showing up and not turning the camera on and I do want to pause here for a moment and just make note of that they’re very valid reasons in which some students are not comfortable turning a camera on, it might be unsafe for them to Share information about their school environment, or their housing environment, or where they’re living and that might drive, drive them to keep their camera turned off and in som cases, it might be because o anxiety and worry around ho they look or where even though you know, they’ll see, they’ll say something about that they’ll say something silly or wrong o people will laugh at them. think you know, there’s on the thing that that I’ve though pull up here is when if you al were on camera right now there would be little panels of love 300 people showing up on the screen and when students are joining as part of a classroom there might be 20 or so 30 or s students showing up on the screen but in, in somebody’s somebody’s mind who has anxiety they’re thinking about it. Like what’s happening right now, I’ the only camera on screens that means everyone’s looking at me and that can really drive a lot of avoidance. I also saw a lo in the chat, that they there’ angry outbursts, or there’ difficulty regulating emotions Sometimes, what can happen I somebody feels really anxious about completing a specific task, and they refuse t complete the task, or if they get upset or dysregulated, cr or yell, they’re sent, they’re sent out of the room or they’re asked to leave the area so that that doesn’t disrupt the students and what happens over time is that kids learn. If get really upset or I yell and say that I’m not going to do it then I don’t have to do that thing that feels really hard an it makes me scared and anxious So over time, those angry outbursts can actually be drive-by anxiety even though the might on the face look more oppositional or quiet Sure and I just wanted to note, there was one question in the Q&A that I felt was really relevant to this moment of noting that some school districts are only having students use their name in the the video function of zoom and not have their video on and there’s concern that students might be zoning out or not connecting, if that’s happening all the time and from my perspective, I think that’s certainly possible. I think it’s hard for us to really know there’s a lot of uncertainty for us and I also want to reflect on how you, we have, you know, roughly 315 participants joining right now and so much engagement, even though I can’t see any of you, so hard to know, for sure. I think there’s a lot of uncertainty and there might be, as Jen pointed out, there might be some good reasons for students to have their videos off. In terms of an equity perspective, both in terms of like Internet bandwidth and the home environment and safety concerns around that and it does certainly allow youth who are anxious about being seen on zoom to avoid the situation. So, I have sort of mixed feelings about it from that perspective. Thanks for jumping in there. So, what we know about the causes and factors that maintain anxiety, it’s complex, there’s not one cause or likely one general issue that goes on for when a child experiences problematic anxiety. Did you know that kids can be genetically predisposed to anxiety? So oftentimes, anxiety runs in families, so there might be an anxious parent or an anxious grandparent, and then we’re more likely to see anxiety in kids and the ways that that’s expressed come up and up in a couple of different ways. So, there are temperamental factors, kids who experience behavioral inhibition, they are less likely to engage with novel situations, they’re more cautious and careful in novel situations and this is, these are temperamental factors that we can actually observe as young as children as young as a few months old, that you can start to see these characteristics. They tend to just be more careful and cautious. This is not the kid who’s running out at recess on the first day of school, the new school just checking out all the gym equipment. This is maybe the the kid who’s kind of carefully following their other classmates and looking around to kind of get a lay of the land before jumping into anything and we also know that anxiety can be learned through observing others in the child’s environment. So, we think a lot about social learning about anxiety and in particular thinking about the ways that adults and other kids might model anxious behaviors for kids. So, watching as somebody appears overly cautious or if their – kids might be – observing their parents avoidance in certain situations, and that they learn that over time. There’s also a big factor of kids might be getting reinforced for avoiding. So, there might be inadvertent situations where well-meaning adults, teachers, parents, and other adults are trying to help a child feel better, be able to manage a situation and they’re actually reinforcing the anxiety. So, one of the ways that we think about this calmly coming up is that is excessive reassurance provision. So, “You’ll be okay. You’ll be okay. There’s nothing to worry about.”. Oftentimes, that’s really communicating the feeling of anxiety that kids are learning that they can’t handle it that they really need that help from others in their environment. We also know that kids with anxious brains, that alarm system again, as Kendra was saying, it’s really sensitive. So, that means that it’s really picking up on potentially nuanced or minute indicators in the environment that suggest that there might be something threatening. So, I’m walking into a room of 50 people and I hear one person laugh, and I, I’m automatically thinking, “They must be laughing at me. My shirt is so stupid. I can’t believe that, that I decided to wear this today.”. You know, they’re walking, they’re walking through on the bus to go home for school and somebody starts whispering to a neighbor. They must be whispering about me, anxious brains are really detail-oriented. It’s a strength and it can mean that if they’re really detail-oriented, they’re picking up on things that could possibly be threatening, especially at school that comes up frequently walking in, you’re often in large groups of people. Sometimes you’re meeting new people you’re changing classrooms. Each class may have a different group of students. At the start of school, you’re thinking about where we all are right now, students are just trying to get up to speed on what different teachers expect. In particular now, in the learning environment that we’re all managing, figuring out how to manage expectations and what is needed. There’s a lot of information to process and anxious, anxious feelings to really pick up on the things that suggest that there might be something dangerous or threatening. We also know so in addition to attending to those things, we also know that there’s a higher likelihood of misinterpreting things as threatening. So, you know, walking, walking past someone in the hallway or if you’re in a zoom meeting, and look at perceiving that maybe the teacher frowned for a moment and kind of a subtle shift in facial expression, that somebody with anxiety is more likely to interpret that negatively and personalize it. So that you know, the teachers disappointed in something that I did, or oh, they thought what I said, was silly or wrong. So, there are a number of things that come up in terms of processing information in the environment that can cause anxiety and then, in addition, thinking about environmental and life stressors, and that’s certainly something that is relevant for all of us in the current situation and when we think about this as a causal factor for anxiety, we distinguish it from traumatic experiences. So, experience of a specific trauma is considered something separate from anxiety and the treatment looks a little bit different from anxiety and what we know about most anxiety disorders and kids who experience some kind of problematic anxiety is that many of them do not actually have a specific traumatic event-related to that, their experience of anxiety. Oftentimes, what happens is that there’s a constellation of factors right, they might be predisposed to this experiencing anxiety because of genetics that they got from their parents and then if they exhibit some behavioral inhibition, they’re more cautious in new situations and then they’re reinforced for that the cautious approach in those situations but over time, this becomes problematic, and can lead to problematic anxiety. Great. So when we think about how this plays out, and how over time, these factors can contribute to the cycle of avoidance, so that it continues and becomes truly impairing. So looking at the picture on the the left hand of the screen, the cycle of avoidance, what we think about is using that information to figure out how we can intervene and help move the child to the cycle of approach which is the right-hand, right-hand side of the screen. So the goal is to use this information about how we understand that anxiety is learned and maintained overtime to figure out what can we do and what can well-meaning adults in the child’s life do to help them address problematic anxiety. So, if we start with the example of the cycle of avoidance, what oftentimes happens is that child the child may encounter a situation and they notice, anxious feeling. So, they start to notice that their heart rates increasing, they might notice kind of tightness, they notice that their shortening of breath, and they, they have this naturally occurring experience of anxiety and what the body and the brain is telling you to do at that moment is avoid, is to leave the situation. So, a child experiences that anxiety, anxious emotions and physical experience, and then they avoid and what happens after they avoid is that somebody, some well-meaning adults again notice what’s happening, noticing a child having a hard time and jumps in and says “Oh, are you okay? Hey, what’s going on come here” what you know, comfort to them, you’re not feeling well. I want to make you feel better, completely understandable he jumps into say, Oh, you know “what’s going on? tell me what’s going on?” and the child then experiences anxiety reduction, right anxiety goes away. And what they’ve learned because of that is that if I feel anxious, I can’t handle it, what I need to do is avoid and when I void, then I get comforted for that I get reinforced for avoiding and when this pattern plays out over time, and what happens that anxiety symptoms start to creep in earlier and earlier, the avoidance becomes more and more problematic. If this is something that the child was experiencing, walking into a specific class, this can begin to escalate to the point of you know, it’s the fifth period and fifth periods really hard for me, and then avoiding fifth period and then more and more relief that they experienced by avoiding the fifth period might try out to help I don’t even go to the school then I never have the risk of attending the fifth period. This is how anxiety and avoidance can play out over time and become really impairing. So with that in mind, we take that information and we figure out okay, so what do we need to do to help the child, approach the situation and learn the goal? As Kendra said we don’t want to get rid of anxiety, anxiety is really helpful. What we want them to do is learn that they can handle and they can tolerate anxiety. Over time in some of these situations that are not objectively life-threatening or risk of injury, that they are better able to handle it and overtime, their anxiety in those situations might decrease but we really want to focus on tolerating that initial fear and being able to function even when feeling those anxious feelings. So, when we work to help kids overcome anxiety, overcome problematic anxiety. We want them to actually practice doing the thing that makes them anxious and oftentimes, this can seem surprising or counterintuitive, when we’re talking with people about how we think about anxiety but if you think about it, this is, you know, this is a common, a common colloquialism that we hear, right? Face your fear. The idea is, we want you to practice experiencing this so that you can learn you’ve got this, you can do it and that means we typically take gradual steps. So, we want to think about what’s the thing that makes the child really anxious and then we want them to bring on that anxiety. So, take a step towards that situation. So, can you think about a child who’s really scared about getting shots? It might be that first, we’re going to ask you to look at pictures of a needle and then you’re going to work, work towards watching a video of somebody getting a shot up to an including getting a practice shot and until you notice you know what, oh, I noticed I feel a little anxious, but I can do it. I can do what I need to do. So that I can go to the doctor when I need to so that I can get the vaccines when I need to. When we work on the cycle approach, we bring on that anxiety. We encourage the child we validate this is hard, but we know you can do it, we ask them to face that fear and then instead of providing comfort, instead of providing comfort after a child has left a situation or has avoided the situation, we jump in and provide lots of reinforcement, and praise about brave behavior. Right. So, “this was so hard for you, and you still walked into that classroom, I’m so proud” and what, what the child learns in that situation, is that they’re actually able to handle more than they thought they could, or if the worst possible situation that they thought was going to happen happened that they were still able to handle it and do it and over time by reinforcing that bravery, we see less and less impairment, related to anxiety and potentially over time, reduced anxiety in those situations. So, from here I really wanted to go over what we know is are the evidence-based interventions for anxiety, problematic anxiety, or anxiety disorders. So, because I think what we want to do is take the components that we know work from evidence-based therapy and talk about how we can apply those to educational settings. So, we know that the evidence based intervention for anxiety the most helpful thing is cognitive behavioral therapy and cognitive behavioral therapy has, it looks at the common connection between thoughts, feelings and behaviors. So for example, if you hear you’re going to an amusement park and you think I love roller coasters, you’re going to feel really excited, and you’re going to ride them, and then all that’s gonna feedback to next the time where you’re like, loved it. It was so much fun. Can’t wait to do it again but if you hear you’re going to an amusement park and you think I’m going to die on a roller coaster, you’re probably going to feel anxious, probably try to avoid it, sit on the fence, not go at all. I’m sick, I can’t go, right and all that’s going to feedback to the next time you hear you have to go to an amusement park, you’re like, the the only reason I lived is that I never stepped foot on those grounds, even though everybody else probably lived or you probably wouldn’t be revisiting that amusement park, right? So, we really want to help people tackle changing the cycle in that thoughts, feelings behavior cycle in two places. That and that is thoughts and behaviors. A lot of times, people come into our offices because they have problematic feelings. They feel really anxious and that’s the problem but we actually don’t target that directly because our whole point is that I actually that’s a really normal feeling, right? but so we want to change how we think about situations that are kind of bringing about that feeling of anxiety, and we want to change our behavioral spots what we do in those situations in order to reduce problematic anxiety over the long run, and that changing the behavior part is exactly what Jen was talking about that facing your fear part and that in CBT is called exposure or facing your fears and exposures that we know are the most a critical piece of treating anxiety disorders, it’s the most the important thing you can do. It’s helped kids of kids approach anxiety-provoking situations, rather than avoid them so that they can have new learning experiences and realize this isn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be or I am much more capable of handling this than I’ve ever given myself credit for or the anxiety has given me credit for. So that’s, that is the most evidence-based treatment and the most important the component within that treatment. So, as we move on, we’ll be talking about how do you do exposures in a school setting. I do want to take a very quick note to say, a lot of times, historically, treatments for anxiety have focused a lot on relaxation strategies and more recently, our field has moved away from focusing on using relaxation strategies for several reasons. One, and kind of, you know, really importantly to me is that it’s really a contradictory message to send kids, you know, we’re starting off by saying anxiety is totally normal but calm your body down, you’re starting to feel anxious, take those deep breaths, right. So, that’s a really confusing message and it starts to build and reinforce this fear of this, those somatic symptoms that start to build when kids feel anxious. So, we want to avoid that contradictory message and instead, help them build mindfulness to the situation. You know, mindfulness not being synonymous directly with relaxation, but just building awareness without judgment of like, oh, there’s my stomach again. Oh, I’m doing that thing where my hands are shaking because I’m feeling nervous. So, awareness without judgment of those feelings of anxiety without feeling like they have a responsibility to tamp it down to bring it down. Kendra Read: The other really the important thing to note is that relaxation strategies have been shown to not contribute to two outcomes for problematic anxiety. So, these strategies are not helping kids in the long run, so we no longer focus on them and I think that’s really important to note because I hear from a lot of schools, where that is the primary focus of their anxiety intervention in the school setting and I would rather than move more toward focusing on how do we do exposures in this situation. Jennifer Blossom: So, the other a piece about empirically supported treatments for anxiety in school settings are around or I mean, not necessarily schools, but empirically supported interventions for anxiety is the medication side. So, there are medications that we know are helpful to youth experiencing problematic anxiety, primarily SSRIs, or Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. It’s not recommended that anxiety or that medication is the primary or the only line of treatment for anxiety and we do know that youth with CBT and medic who’ve received both CBT and medication together, respond to the best intervention. So, oftentimes families will start with CBT and then consider medications if they’re not responding as we’d like because anxiety is just too high for them to benefit from treatment and then when we bring meds on board, they seem to get a boost so they’re able to engage more in the treatment and benefits. So, that’s just something to note that kids the research show that kids who get that combined treatment does the best and kids who get just medications or just therapy, do about even not statistically different. All that’s better than a placebo pill and all that’s way better than nothing. Kendra Read: So, how do we support students with anxiety? and at the risk of sounding like a broken record here, I just want to emphasize that the best practices to consider in a school setting are those that encourage approach instead of avoidance. So, I think what becomes really, really hard about this is that it means that you will experience anxiety. As we do exposures. We help families bring on the anxiety. If we are not experiencing any anxiety, anxiety during an exposure. We’ve picked the wrong exposure. We need to have that alarm kind of going off. So it can have a moment to say, wait a minute, so my alarm is going off. Is there smoke, right? Is there something bad that’s happening? What is the other evidence in the situation? Rather than just evacuating, right? So, it’s hard to watch kids experience anxiety, it feels like we’re doing something wrong. It goes against our instincts as parents, as educators, as compassionate people. It’s hard for Jen and me still, even though we do this as a job. So, I think it’s just really important to note that this, this can feel uncomfortable for everybody. If I go back to the cycle that Jen was talking about, you’ll notice that as adults come in, or peers come into rescue youth who are experiencing anxiety, everybody’s anxiety goes down. So, we are also reinforced for kids avoiding and we want to watch out for that trap because we really need for them to have those new learning opportunities in situations where they experiencing anxiety. Jennifer Blossom: Kendra, I want to just jump in here because I noticed a question that popped up in the question and answer that I think, is particularly relevant when we think about encouraging approaches and encouraging exposure and facing your fears. There was a question that came in asked about how anxiety intersects with racial microaggressions or experiences racism and thinking about how those situations the alarm is picking up on a real threat to somebody’s well being or invalidating them and how oftentimes when people are experiencing that they’re faced with invalidation. They’re told that it’s not a real threat. So I’m curious how you see that intersecting with the decisions to pursue exposure, what other options there might be? Absolutely. So, I think as I read that question, I think one thing that I want to think about there is that we are not telling kids whether or not the threat is real and I think that’s where people tend to fall into that a trap of gaslighting, right? because in for gaslighting somebody is like, oh, this is a threat, this is a problem and other people are dismissive of it and say, “No, it’s not what are you talking about.” right? and when it comes to anxiety for you, we are not weighing in on whether something is threatening or not. Our job is to better help them be able to examine the evidence themselves. and sometimes we do come to the conclusion jointly that actually, this is a dangerous situation. There is a real threat here, in which case, there’s a different intervention that needs to happen in order to, to ensure one’s safety, right, but I think that is really key. We do not want to fall into the trap of weighing in and saying, This is no big deal. Just get over it. That is problematic if there is a true threat and it is very problematic, even if there is not a true threat, right, because it’s also super invalidating for people who are like, actually, this is really hard for me, right? So either way, that’s problematic for us to say, this is no big deal. This isn’t a problem. We want to – our goal is to help them evaluate the situation and really pull in more evidence. Kendra Read: One of the things that Jen noted earlier is that youth and actually people with problematic anxiety tend to interpret the information around them in ways that are either extra picking up on threatening situations or misinterpreting things, so we just want to be careful and for into – for when we think about racial microaggressions, this may not be misinterpretations and often are no misinterpretations. So, we want to be really fair and saying, in laying out the evidence for what’s, what’s happening. So, we can be really clear and not behaving conversations where we’ve already arrived at a decision and we’re just teaching you, that’s where or dismissive in some way. Anything you would add to that, Jen? Jennifer Blossom: I think, to the point that you’re making one of the things that we think about when approaching a situation that kiddo or family is describing as anxiety-provoking, just kind of a decision tree that we work through and initially you ask is the fear realistic? So when I think about the question that was asked, and the consequences of racism? The answer to that would be yes. Right? The fear is realistic in that situation and when that situation arises, then we work on figuring out is this something that kiddo should know how to manage? If there are specific things that we want them to know how to manage, then we want to give them the skills to do that. So, that’s kind of our initial decision point there and I think that that’s where we want to be thoughtful of the experience of racism, there’s a very real reason why that would be immediately threatening to somebody. So that’s, that’s the lens in which we would approach it. Yeah, totally agree. Totally agree. All right. So, in terms of what teachers can do, truthfully, we want teachers to work with students and families as issues come up to encourage this idea of approach instead of avoidance. I think Jen and I have both read a lot of different, you know, IEP or 504 plans that have clauses in it that end up accidentally reinforcing avoidance and then our feedback is, is around how to turn this piece around so that we’re actually moving toward the feared situation and learning more adaptive responses, rather than encouraging avoidance, just in order to reduce that experience of anxiety and in many ways, we use a school to home note, which I’ll show you in a second. I’m sure many of you have used variations of these notes for different behavioral concerns that have come up in classrooms and the application of this to anxiety is not really so different but as you work with youth with anxiety, I really think about how to be supportive and what it actually means to be supportive to somebody with anxiety and that means to approach situations with this an important combination of both validation and confidence. It’s the “I know it’s hard and I know you can do it.” combination. Oftentimes, we see people fall into traps where they’re just, you know, holding on to one of those two pieces of that equation. So either just validating like this is so hard and kind of getting stuck in the admiration of the difficulty, or holding on to the confidence piece of like, buck up, kid, come on, you can do it, this is no big deal, and both of those alone are problematic and in terms of moving anxiety intervention forward, so we really need the combination of both of those to build a supportive environment. Kendra Read: So just, you know, as I mentioned, this is an example of a school to home note, as we apply it to anxiety and I would imagine, you know, I kind of took the framework from this directly from our ADHD disruptive behaviors clinic, which shows you just how similar the behavioral approaches can be. So essentially, we just want to set a behavioral goal with a family around anxiety, obviously this example is for a younger child. If you look at the smiley faces and all of that, we want to set like a really specific, observable, time-limited, you know, smart goal around an anxious anxiety or brave behavior. So for this child, this example child, their goals are around, walking into class independently, whispering to the teacher three times throughout the day, and raising their hands during specials and then we want to make sure that we’re giving them opportunities to reach these goals, tracking their progress and then finding having some way of coordinating that information back to parents so that they can or other caregivers, so they can really reward and reinforce their youth progress toward more brave versus avoidant behaviors in the school setting. Jennifer Blossom: Kenda, if you could just go back to the last slide there is relevant to one of the questions that came in asking about what age you can use these principles with kids and, as noted, as Kendra noted here with the smiley faces, this is a school to home note that’s really designed for, you know, kiddo as young as in kindergarten, what we know is that you can employ these strategies, you can use these approaches with kids as young as three, you know, oftentimes, we’re then talking more to the adults in the kid’s life. So, talking to the teachers, talking to the parents or other caregivers, that these skills and these strategies still work well, even with really young kids and that oftentimes, if we can catch them that early, we’re just setting them up for better success so that we can really leverage the strengths of that of those brains that are wired more towards anxiety and help them meet their goals. Absolutely, thanks, Jen and I would say that actually, our anxiety programs go down to age two at Seattle Children’s, and all the way up through age 18 and beyond. I mean, not at Children’s but these principles are universal, regardless of age and there are just some adaptations in terms of exactly how you would apply this for different age groups. So as Jen mentioned, for kids, I would say roughly seven and younger, I’d be working much more with parents than with kids directly. That’s really different than those then you know, it’s a different kind of story or opportunity for those of you in school settings. So we can talk more about that in the question and answer period if you would like. Kendra Read: Okay, as I mentioned, in terms of supporting youth with anxiety in school settings, we tend to see some common pitfalls, of tending more toward accommodation versus approach in anxiety-provoking situations in formalized 504/IEP plans and I -accommodation is this good word, bad word. In a school setting, it tends to have a really positive connotation. In the anxiety world, it has a really negative connotation. So, accommodation means essentially, you know, being complicit with a child’s anxiety and helping them avoid anxiety-provoking situations. So when Jen and I talk about accommodating anxiety, we’re thinking of, you know, parents who will never ever go out on a date night because their child doesn’t want to be alone or who will never eat at the same table as their kid because their child can’t handle it, different things like that. So just want to note that we use that word really differently across our different settings but in general, it has it all goes back to that approach versus avoidance difference. So, a lot of problematic pitfalls that we run into are things like these contra-indicated accommodations, like extra time, not calling on a student or allowing, directly allowing avoidance of certain specific activities. Extra time is a really tricky one and I know, we have a lot of conversations about this all the time, it comes from a good place of wanting youth who may be distracted by their anxiety to have more time to, you know, manage that, when in reality, what tends to happen when we give you extra time, when we give youth with anxiety extra time is that they tend to spend that time worrying or engaging in more anxious behaviors more avoidance, so it ends up not being a helpful intervention in the end. My internet connection is a little unstable. So, apologies if I’m breaking up. As I mentioned, things like relaxation strategies, strategies, and journaling are not bad things to do, but they’re also not helpful. So we would not want those to be considered the primary interventions for anxiety in any setting and really, it also comes down to really requiring this partnership from all parties, from teachers, specialists, caregivers, so that there is a clear plan for what we’re working on and how we’re going to be approaching this in a situation that is supportive to the child, so involving that combination of confidence and validation. The “I know it’s hard, and I know you can do it, and here’s what we’re going to work on” and I think sometimes we’ve, you know, heard from school-based personnel who feel kind of reticent to approach exposures in their setting thing like, “Well, I’m not a therapist, maybe I shouldn’t be doing this.” but in reality, we all have ownership and agency in this in this behavior change and this change about problem problematic anxiety, even if you’re not a quote-unquote therapist or psychologist, we need youth to practice exposures in all settings in order for this to generalize to all settings. So, it’s really important that these things are practiced in the school setting as well. Okay, Jen, come back for our Q&A. Jennifer Blossom: So, we have been working with a lot of people internally at Seattle Children’s, as Kendra mentioned, I was there. The working remotely, as I’m sure many of you are just over a month ago, as well as many, many people throughout the greater WWAMI region and there’s been a few common questions that have come up that we opted to highlight here and I’m also aware that there have been a number of questions that may have been coming in over the Q&A section. So, thank you so much for sending those in, please feel free to continue sending those. So, my thought is that we’ll just jump right into the question and answer questions that are coming in. So I think one, one question in which I’m seeing kind of a few iterations are going back to this idea of the 504 plan and how we develop a 504 plan that acknowledges and integrates the evidence-based recommendations for anxiety and one of the ways that I think about that is really getting concrete on some of the goals in the school setting and instead of providing, providing kind of a blanket statement, like more time to finish something is figuring out where the child currently is, what are they currently able to do and where do we want them to be? and then how do we find those steps to get them towards that ultimate goal? So, how can we phrase something that allows them to take steps towards participating in the class? You know, being able to complete that assignment when they’re asked to, in particular, think about a a child who might have difficulty speaking in the classroom, one of the questions that came in was relevant to whether we can apply these principles to selective mutism and the answer is certainly yes, Kendra and I do this a lot. Kendra has a specialty clinic that specifically works with families and helping kids learn how to speak in settings that they feel uncomfortable doing so. So, thinking about a 504 plan in particular with a selective mutism kind of focus, if you have a child who is completely nonverbal, who is not able to speak out in the classroom, oftentimes what happens is we find that teachers are jumping in or providing answers for them. Other students might recognize again, well-meaning compassionate people jumping in providing answers for them, what we want to do is help, help encourage the child to start to be able to answer the question themselves. So, a 504 plan might say something like – initially might say something like respond to nonverbal. So, being able to shake your head yes or no, that’s still providing some kind of information in engaging in some kind of communication. If there’s a complete absence of communication, then it might be being able to whisper an answer to the teacher. So we can think about what is the steps and how can we integrate them into the 504 plan? So that we’re getting the student and supporting them to be able to answer a question in the middle class when, when other students’ peers are there. I would just add that, you know, I know that 504 plans often we can’t change them as quickly as we would like to change behavioral goals. So, sometimes I encourage schools to phrase a 504 accommodation or an IEP the goal, you know, honestly, IEP s with their, like the goal framework kind of lend themselves a little bit more to this idea but the idea that we’re going to gradually be approaching and, you know, moving from totally not speaking to respond, you know, 80% of the time to the teacher in at least a voiced response. So, you know, if you put your hand on your throat, you feel your hand vibrating, right, and we just state in the plan that we’ll be identifying weekly goals. The teacher will be providing, enough opportunities for the child to reach their goal, and we’ll be providing support for the child to try again and just kind of discuss what the communication plan from school to home looks like because that can – that looks different for every school that I’ve worked with, depending on what’s feasible. There’s no one exact right way to do it and that gives us a little bit more flexibility to work on those successive shaping steps of moving from, you know, just, you know, shaking our head, no, to mouthing no, to then whispering, to then talking. So, the exposures in school said, that’s one example. Kendra Read: There are exposures in school settings that can look so many different ways. It just really depends on the different situations. So sometimes we are, you know, as the adults in the situation, setting up some social opportunities, for one child to talk to another, sometimes it’s like, okay, just so you know, I’m going to call on you during this part of the day or sometimes I – a lot of kids have, are so anxious about making any mistake or they redo and redo and redo their work or they, you know that or there work has to be perfectly neat. So, then we have them turn in work that they finished with their nondominant hand or they definitely made a mistake in there on purpose and they’re going to turn it in and see what is so bad about this, what is the worst thing that happens when I turn in a mistake? So there are all sorts of different exposures that you do in a school setting and it just so depends on the specific fears that the child is endorsing. Okay, so let’s, there was a the question at the top about PTSD and anxiety, and whether or not they can co-occur or would not be concurrently diagnosed, and absolutely PTSD and anxiety disorders can co-occur 100% they can be diagnosed at the same time, we just want to be careful that we’re not to double-counting the same symptoms and we want to be clear that not every anxiety disorder, you know, anxiety disorders don’t come about because someone definitely experienced a traumatic event. Right. You know, fear of spiders doesn’t mean they’ve definitely experienced like a horrible situation with spiders, for example, or for selective mutism. This is one of the big ones, where there’s this myth that they’ve experienced a traumatic event and that’s why they’re not speaking. Not true, but for PTSD, you know, that is like one of the only DSM diagnoses where we know exactly that there was an event that precipitated the onset of this disorder. So, it is common for youth who have are just getting anxious. Pre-traumatic event say they have social anxiety. A traumatic event happens they get in a really bad car accident and they can’t get back in the car anymore. They have true PTSD related to the car accident, and they have social anxiety. So these two things were not double-counting, but they are happening at the same time. Okay, Jen, I’ll let you pick one. Jennifer Blossom: So, I’m seeing a lot of questions and just getting some clarification around skill-building and why we are recommending against using strategies like relaxation or journaling and so in particular, just thinking about why Kendra talks about relaxation in terms of the message that sends or the threat of the physical experience of anxiety and the general idea is that we want kids to have that physical experience of anxiety and know that does not automatically mean that the worst is going to happen or that they’re not able to handle those feelings. There are many situations we’re experiencing that physical anxieties, really helpful. In the beginning, Kendra was talking about, you know, if you’re preparing, if you have a test on Friday, and I have no anxiety about that, then I’m probably outside playing with my dogs not sitting – in front of a book trying to understand the material, right? In some ways, anxiety is really helpful and adaptive. What can become problematic is when anxiety is so high about the test that I can’t even think about opening the book, because I’m so worried that I’m not going to be able to, to learn what I need to learn. So, we really want to help, help kids and help students figure out that I can notice that I’m experiencing some of that anxiety but I can still do the things I need to do. I feel anxious about the test but I’m still able to sit down and focus on the material and study the way that I need to. When we tell them, “Oh you notice that your heart is racing or you notice that your muscles feel tense. Let’s take a moment and sit back and spend some time breathing.”. What we’re doing is we’re sending the message that bad anxiety is really something to be worried about or scary that they aren’t able to handle those feelings and then what happens is when they walk into class to take that test, and they’re feeling those same feelings, they think they can’t handle it. So, what we want them to do is practice handling and practice tolerating. When I think about a strategy, like journaling, one of the things that I think about is that, you know, anxious brains again, they do a really good job of thinking. They’re constantly thinking, they’re constantly coming up with the what-ifs, what if, what if, that’s what gets in the way of sleep, that’s what gets in the way of paying attention in class. So, if we ask somebody to write down all of those thoughts, and those what-ifs, we’re not necessarily giving them the skills or the strategies to still be able to do what they need to do and in In some cases, we may be letting those what-ifs allow for avoidance because now they’re writing about those what-ifs instead of doing that thing, that’s hard and this is something Kendra and I have just recently started talking about kind of how can we rephrase and reframe thinking about exposure and practice based on your fear as the coping skill. I think that’s one of the things that can get lost or is confusing is that when we think about facing your fears that we’re ignoring that, that is still is learning a coping skill because what I’m learning is that when I feel anxious, I can still do what I need to do. When I feel anxious, I can still pick up that book and sit down and read the first paragraph when I feel anxious, I can still open my computer to start writing that essay. That’s a coping skill and the way that you build that coping skills by taking those smaller steps until you’re able to do that thing that’s really hard. What would you add to that? Kendra Read: I would just want to add about there’s this piece that we call expectancy violations. We also want kids to have those learning experiences, to see that the thing that I expect to happen, really doesn’t always happen, or even if it does, it’s not as bad as my brain is assuming it is. This is the coping skill and I think a lot of people get wrapped up in the toolbox, and I need to give kids all these other things to do when they feel anxious but the thing we need them to do is to practice staying in the situation, and quote-unquote, riding the wave. So, I’m seeing some other questions about like, what do we do in situations? Like when a kid is anxious, what do I do? and really, when that happens for me, like all day long, I just want to – I sit with them and I say, okay, so you’re experiencing anxiety, what’s happening in your body right now? How are you feeling it? What’s your number? I want them to practice rating on a scale from say, zero to 10, how anxious they feel. So, that’s one way that they can build some mindfulness of saying like, okay, I’m at like a seven right now and I’m noticing that my stomach really hurts and that’s like, okay, so what are are you thinking at this moment? I’m thinking, I’m totally going to fail this presentation, I’m going to bomb it, everybody’s gonna laugh, etc, etc. And say like, okay, well what is happening in this situation is anybody laughing? Like, well, I can’t hear that anybody’s laughing. So maybe they’re not. Maybe they are in their own homes, but nobody’s mics are on everybody’s automatically muted. So, if I don’t know, if they’re laughing, how will it ever change my life? So, just some thinking through some different situations like that to think through that expectancy violation, violating what we expect – the anxious anticipation of what’s going to happen. Okay. Jennifer Blossom: I see, I think we, I hope we answered some of the questions about the Final Four Planner IEP is about how we can approach it. I see some questions about like homeschooling and one on one the school supports, and how do we help families understand this and man, is it hard, you know, I just want to validate that like, as much as we do this for a job, we don’t convince every family that this is the important way to go and we really try to, to bring them in and discuss how, you know, you know, one of the other programs run at Children’s like a school avoidance program, which is not running this fall because most schools are remote. So, there’s no brick and mortar school to avoid for most of our students, but what I tend to see is that the families that pull out into homeschooling because of anxiety, those kids tend to have really escalating very problematic anxiety, very interfering anxiety that continues for years. So it does become a really big problem and so I just want to describe that the trajectory that I see for them before they make that decision and be very clear that homeschooling online homeschool, which like we’re all pigeonholed into that right now because of COVID or most of us are, so we’re not making that decision because of anxiety but when we do make that decision because of anxiety, it is contraindicated. It is problematic in terms of changing this cycle. So it’s very, very much not recommended. ] Kendra Read: Jen, do you have a the question you wanna? Jennifer Blossom: Yeah, I was just searching through the Q&A’s and I see a lot of questions and thinking about how we can adapt some of these recommendations and approaches, particularly for older students. So, thinking about high school students, and thinking about, there were some comments about the student kind of report card can be more challenging with a high school student and I think, you know, in some ways, really just kind of working, working with the student and figuring out kind of what’s going on for them at school and at home. I think one of the things that we know that comes up commonly when working with families is that oftentimes parents are not necessarily as attuned to some of the things that may be coming up at school for their kiddos, Kendra and I have worked with families where, you know, after kind of years of school difficulty and some anxious avoidance in high school, that’s when the parent found out about kind of what was going on. So I think, really making sure to work as a team. In some capacity, I think something that can happen developmentally is when working with younger kids that there’s a tendency to exclude them completely as if they can’t understand these principles. When, as Kendra says two and three-year-olds, even if they’re not coming in for the treatment the session, they get the idea that was brave, awesome job, right. So we can still be working with them directly and integrating these strategies with really young kids and in the same way when you’re working with high school students, just as you would reach out to parents for, for other types of concerns, if you were seeing chronic absenteeism or if there was a lot of missed work but bringing parents in to support high school students are a really helpful and great opportunity too as much alignment as we can get with practicing some of these strategies both in and outside of school, I think can be really helpful and effective and when we think about some of the types of anxiety that we see, more commonly, social anxiety is much more common in adolescence. By very definition, adolescence is a time period where we are more prone to peer evaluation and judgments and that’s an opportunity that’s ripe for the onset of social anxiety and fears, and really coming up with creative ways to practice bringing on that anxiety, like answering a question, just wrong, purposefully making a mistake or having a long pause in the middle of a presentation. Wearing a t-shirt to a zoom meeting with a huge stain across the front, you know, thinking about ways that you can help bring that on because one of the things I know from working with lots and lots of teams with social anxiety is that it’s really hard for them to be in these situations and they really want those peer relationships and connections. So, figuring out how we can work with their own goals and use their own motivation to help them take those steps, towards doing the things that they want to do. What would you add to that Kendra? Kendra Read: You know, I’m not sure that there’s a whole lot more I would add to that, Jen. You know, one of the things that I’m noticing a lot of the questions are just like, yes, but how do we do exposures? Yeah, how does what does it look like? and so I just wanted to give a couple of more examples for different kinds of areas that kids are anxious, about and how we can do that in a school setting. So, we’ve talked a little bit about how to set up, you know, brave talking exposures for selective mutism. So, really, it’s setting a goal for Okay, so today we’re going to whisper three times and so I’m going to give three opportunities for you to whisper with me one on one, or I’m going to get five opportunities and your goal is to do three out of five. So, I’m going to come by your desk and say, what was the answer to number four? and you’re going to tell me to practice whispering to me the answer to number four. A lot of times as Jen was noting, we need some kid involvement in some youth involvement in setting this goal. We need them to know what the goal is, so that they can practice reaching it and they can, we can give them some forced choice of like, okay, so it sounds like from your parents that, you know, we’re going to work on, you know, saying hi to a peer. So do you want to practice that? This time of day or this time of day? Do you want to do that with you know, you sit next to Johnny and Susie, do you want to practice with Johnny or Susie first and I’ll be listening. So just some, some different examples like that. Practicing making mistakes, practicing, turning in imperfect work. I think I’ve said those already. Jen, do you have any other specific exposure examples? I don’t want to overcomplicate really what exposure is it really is simple. So like I’m telling a kid, okay, let’s go do some trivia with some people down the hall. Here’s a list of trivia questions I’m going to give them I want you to get two of those wrong and then we just go do it. It’s really as simple as that. Jennifer Blossom: Yeah, I think one of the things that come to mind, particularly when we think about the context of COVID-19, is that everyone is managing a lot of uncertainty right now and not being able to tolerate uncertainty is a hallmark of anxiety, right? Anxious brains want to plan they want to know they want to be able to anticipate what’s going to come up, that’s where worry comes from. Worry is a maladaptive coping strategy that if I think about something enough, or if I think about all the possible outcomes, then I’ll be prepared to handle them. So, when we think about the current situation, in particular for kids, maybe who didn’t have, didn’t have much anxiety before wasn’t really getting in the way but right now with COVID and everything and that there’s been a lot of back and forth, of not knowing what to expect for school and as they get used to the startup school still having, you know, trying to navigate what’s going to be expected in terms of grades or things like that is really opening up opportunities to practice tolerating uncertainty. So in going with the example that Kendra had just had, of asking them to go answer questions that they’re not going to know what the questions are in advance and being prepared to answer questions that they’re unexpected for, or having, you know, coming up with a plan that’s not shared and advanced so that they can they can tolerate being in a situation that they weren’t able to think about and plan for really thinking about what are ways that we can think about some of the uncertainty that is typical of everyday life, COVID-19 is causing a lot of stress and a a lot of realistic anxiety for people, particularly when we think about the disproportionality of COVID risk and consequences of COVID we know that there are going to be significant mental health concerns for particularly communities of color. So we want to think about, what are the things happening right now? How can we, again, assess, understand the full context for this kiddo? What are things that are coming up? What are the objective risks that they might be facing? and then what are ways that this anxiety might be creeping in that it’s getting in the way of them being able to do the things that they are able to do right now that they are able to participate in staples that are going to keep them connected to some of those, those social supports? and how can we leverage some of the strengths that they might have currently, certainly, Zoom meetings, Zoom parties, Zoom classrooms are not the ideal setting for many people, but there are ways that we can still encourage that participation and get creative with getting kids involved. So I think, you know, the uncertainty piece is one that I think comes up a lot. In particular, I think again, we think of that as the – perhaps more commonly with older kids, but certainly right now with COVID, because it’s just a prime situation for us all to be thinking about it. So, think of just different creative ways that you can help kids experience situations that they’re not able to prepare for. I’m curious Kendra, have some other ideas that you might have about thinking in a new school context or particularly in the online school context? What are ways to introduce uncertainty that would allow students to be able to better tolerate that? Well, I think there are just a lot of natural opportunities that come up that we can capitalize on. Sometimes I set up like more contrived situations of like, okay, we’re going to do exposure and you’re not going to know what it is or sometime this weekend, your parents are going to change their plans. You don’t know when you don’t know how you don’t know what it is. So different things like that and their job is to tolerate that meaning to keep their behavior within you know, appropriately behavioral bounds, they can still experience anxiety and frustration and so I would just note like, there are so many natural opportunities coming up for us to tolerate uncertainty every day with COVID and remote learning, and will we have internet connection? and will this work and, and all the other things happening around us like, the wildfires, like there’s so much uncertainty, and so much we don’t know and, and just sitting in that place of like, what if we don’t know? What if there’s no answer? and that feels really anxiety-provoking, but we just need to sit in that place. So I see a lot of questions of like, but what do I do during the exposure? What do I say to them? and I really, especially when they’re starting to get really anxious, and I really just say I want them to check in with them just repeatedly to say like, hey, what number you at, what do you – what are you doing? I know this is hard, but I know you can do this. So just keep going back to that supportive statement of I know this is how I think you can do it. I know you can stick with this situation, and then point out all the little ways that they are already doing it. Like, life is uncertain, and you survived every moment of uncertainty up until today. So, is there any evidence that you’re not going to survive the uncertainty hereafter? No, we have no evidence that that’s true. Might we have evidence that the opposite is true? So the truth is, we all survive uncertainty every minute of the day. I don’t know what, I don’t know actually what’s going to happen in the next hour of my life. I have some things that might, you know, help me predict that but I don’t actually know. So I think just pointing out all these little successes that they may not be giving themselves credit for during the exposure of like, you’re still here, you’re doing it like we’re just going to ride this wave. You don’t have to do anything to make this feeling come down. You are not responsible for that. It just will. It is what it is. So we just need to stay in this situation. So I really want everybody to release themselves have the responsibility to make themselves calm down, but it’s nobody’s responsibility. It’s just what goes up will come down and we’re just going to ride that wave. Is if you think about it, like you’re in the ocean, and like the waves are coming and you’re trying to push them back, like calm down waves, like they’re just gonna knock you over, right? So instead if we ride that wave, and we accepted remindful of it, and we’re like, okay, like, how hard is this? What number is this? Okay, this is a really big wave, oh, I’m going up really high. Wow I’m going really fast into the shore, right? We just want to observe what’s happening. We’re more likely to experience improvement and greater success in the situation than if we’re like must calm down, got to force this down. So, I really want to let go of that sentence. Kendra Read: I’m jumping around a lot, but I’m feeling the Jen, what did you want to add? the pressure of time. So, I just want to note that there are some Jennifer Blossom: Yeah, so I think just to kind of end and questions in there around partnering with PCPs and other medical professionals. I want to say that Jen, and I do have an o going connection with PAL, or t e Physician Access Line here in the Northwest and we are c eating a, together with our collaborator Nat Young Bluth in intervention for primary care for anxiety and OCD. So that is forthcoming and for those of you who are school nurses, I just want your job to be is to help them to connect this these some of he somatic feelings that address some of the questions that come up with how to help what you’re experiencing to anxiety not being a part of the goal-setting with others around like may e their goal is to not check-in at the nurse so much, which me ns that they’re avoiding the classroom, potentially avoiding the thing that’s anxiety-provoking, and potentially trying to just exit altogether. That’s less so happening in the times of COVID but just in terms of what we typically see. support when kids are in the thick of the anxiety, while anxious brains do a really good the job of being detail-oriented, those details tend towards the threat. So, sitting with them and commenting on what they are doing while they’re feeling anxious is really away an effective way to be supportive of students and help get them engaged in exposure situations. So, if you notice that they are feeling anxious, or they share with you that they’re feeling anxious, commenting on what they’re able to do in that moment, finding what it, finding, even if it’s a small step, something that they are doing at that moment that is helping them be effective in whatever the strategy is. So, thinking back about participating in a zoom class, if a student went from not participating at all to using the chat, jump on that, that’s the first step towards talking in-class and joining via video and joining the class. So, an an effective strategy is really focused on what they’re doing well because at that moment, it’s hard for them to see it and that’s going to be a really rewarding opportunity for you and for them to be able to continue taking these steps towards facing their fears. This has been really great. I’ve so appreciated all the questions that you’ve raised. Kendra, and I love doing these types of presentations and as she’s noted multiple times, it’s a bit of a different situation not seeing any faces, but we’ve really appreciated the engagement and so looking forward to working with you and meeting with you again, in just a few weeks and with that, I’ll turn it, Kelcey. Kelcey Schmitz: All right, thank you. A huge thanks to Kendra and to Jen for their presentation today. I know for me, personally and professionally, I couldn’t take notes fast enough and for those of you who have participated today, just a reminder that we will have the recording up for you who like me will probably be watching this and sharing it with other people who need to see this. On the next slide, it’s just a a reminder of how you can get in touch with us. We have many opportunities for you to participate in live webinars, we have many recorded School Mental Health webinars that you can check out. We have a newsletter, that we send out monthly newsletters and event blast to you. So, we just highly encourage you to connect with us, especially if you’re in our Northwest region but you’re also welcome outside of our region, as well as reaching out to your local regional center to get more support and then our last slide is to thank you and a reminder that part two, managing anxiety during COVID-19 will happen on October 20. So we hope that you will register for that. I will say this, this session sold out so if you haven’t registered already for session two, it might be a good opportunity for you to take care of that now. We know we still have lots of questions in the Q&A and we will carry those forward to future events that we have with Kendra and Jen. So, huge thanks to Kendra and Jen. Huge thanks to our Northwest School Mental Health team that is been working behind the scenes to help with the chat and the Q&A and just keep this webinar running smoothly with that, we will officially end the webinar but keep the room open for just a few moments. So, you can take down those links and complete the evaluation but at this time, I want to thank everyone and we will end the webinar…

How Your Brain Can Turn Anxiety into Calmness

(whooshing) – [Narrator] This program is a presentation of UCTV for educational and non-commercial use only. (upbeat music) – Marty is a delight to have here and a delight to introduce, especially to a room full of people who are interested in learning about mind-body medicine. Marty Rossman has probably done more to bring integrative medicine to where it’s at, especially regarding mind-body medicine than any other person I will ever get to introduce or perhaps even get to shake hands with. Marty was very early on was one of the proponents of medical acupuncture. He was a founding board member of the American something or other. American Board of, American Academy of Medical Acupuncture, he tells me. He has been instrumental in developing guided imagery to the robust field that it is today. He works as well a great deal with hypnosis, with many different techniques to help calm us down to help us get to a point of relaxation. Using hypnosis, health hypnosis, biofeedback, bodywork, but especially guided imagery. He is a member of the advisory board for the Osher Center for Integrative Medicine, and I was interested to discover he’s also a member of the advisory board for the Rosenthal Center for Complementary Medicine at Colombia University in New york. I’ve known Marty for several years now. I’ve been privileged to attend several talks that he’s given. I know that he’s a great speaker. – Well, thank you very much. That was very kind of you to say. Good evening, everybody. So how many of you have ever worried about anything? (audience laughing) Has anybody here ever worried about anything? Okay, good, that’s our topic tonight. And of course, everybody worries sometimes, and some people worry all the time. And if you’re one of those people who finds themselves worried all the time, I think that you might get something very useful. I hope that you get something very useful out of tonight’s talk. If you just worry intermittently, I hope you get something useful anyhow, but you don’t probably don’t need it quite as much. So I’m calling my topic tonight Worrying Well, and I’m still looking for a subtitle, but tonight we’ll call it how to use your brain to relieve anxiety and stress and turn it into more desirable things like calmness and confidence. Worry, I think, gets a lot of bad press because we don’t use it very well, and so when I call it Worrying Well, it’s really about what is worry? How do we do it? What’s the purpose of it? Is it possible that worrying has a positive function, which it does? Worry basically is an adaptive function. It’s something that allows us to go over and over something in our minds in an attempt to solve a problem or resolve a situation, so I think that that’s adaptive. We, humans, have been born with faculties in our brain that as far as we know don’t belong to any other creature on Earth, and it has allowed us to come from being a pretty vulnerable prey animal on the African savanna to becoming the dominant creature on Earth. We don’t have many tools for survival if you look at a human as an animal. We’re pretty vulnerable. We don’t run very fast. We don’t have big teeth. We don’t have big claws. We can swim a little bit but not very well. We can’t fly very well. So out there, without a lot of technology and on the African savanna, we are meat basically. And we’ve got systems built into our system that we inherited from the development of other prey animals that lead to things like fight and flight response, which are adaptive in some situations and maladaptive in others. But one of the things that are, that one of the qualities that we’ve developed is, or one of the mental abilities and functions is imagination. I could really make a strong case that imagination is one of the key things, and maybe the key mental faculty that separates the human from all other forms of life. Imagination lets us remember things from the past. It lets us project things into the future and think about how things would be in the future if we did something this way or that way. And everything that exists on Earth that wasn’t made by God or nature, take your pick, or some combination of the two. Everything else that exists, everything that humankind has created started in somebody’s imagination. That’s where it made its first appearance on Earth, as somebody’s imagination. “Ooh, we could do that. “Could make it round, it’ll roll. “We could chip these.” They noticed that two rocks chipping together make fire and they figured out a way to do that. So imagination, you could make a case that outside of God or nature, the human imagination is the most powerful force on Earth. And the thing is, very few of us have ever really been taught how to use it. Most of our education, especially all the way through to higher education, is on using other mental faculties, which also have made us very powerful. The ability to analyze. The ability to calculate. Linear, logical, rational, scientific ways of thinking have also contributed to us being very powerful because they allow us to take the things that we imagine and make them real in a certain way, but a lot starts in the imagination. Worry is a function of imagination. If you didn’t have an imagination, you wouldn’t be worried. That’s what lobotomies are about. (audience laughing) And that’s what a lot of certain medications are about. So we used to joke at our academy for guided imagery that if we could find a simple, non-toxic way to do a vaginectomy, we could resolve everybody’s worry and stress problems. You just wouldn’t be very worried. You wouldn’t do much, either. You wouldn’t be creative, but you wouldn’t be worried if we could do that. So I think rather than taking the imagination out, what we wanna do is learn how to use it better, and so a lot of what I’m gonna share with you about Worrying Well or worrying more effectively has to do with how you use your imagination. So worry and stress have a lot of overlap, right? And we often use them interchangeably. I’m gonna spend a little time to differentiate these things a little bit, but they do overlap quite a bit. And then anxiety also overlaps with worry and stress. They’re all a little bit different, and they’re very interrelated. They share in a lot of different kinds of ways. The reason this is important is that our consciousness and our ability to become self-conscious is potentially the greatest tool that we have for improving our lives. And it also, if we don’t know how to use it, can be something that can make our life miserable. So I like this Ashleigh Brilliant quote. “Due to circumstances beyond my control, “I am master of my fate and captain of my soul.” So you’re it. If you wanna do something about your anxiety, your stress, the way that you think, the way that you create your life. You are the captain whether you like it or not. So we might as well learn how to use these capacities ’cause there’s really no going back. I think sometimes unconsciously we try to go back with other ways of managing anxiety and stress like drinking too much or taking drugs, medications, or eating too much. All the millions of ways we have of going unconscious and kind of trying to just put our head in the sand and maybe it’ll go away, which it frequently does. So it’s not that it’s not a good strategy in the short run, but as a total life plan, it’s kind of lacking, okay? It won’t take you where you want to go. So how are worry, stress, and anxiety different? So worry is a type of, this is how I think about it, and I can be argued with. I’m not sure that any of this is actually true. I’m kind of throwing it out there. I’m writing a book on it. So if I’m wrong, please tell me before the book is written. But it seems to me that worry is a type of thinking, okay? And our friend here Ziggy says, “The figments of my imagination are out to get me.” That’s kind of the most common use of the imagination is just letting your imagination kind of go to the worst scene scenarios, getting kind of entranced or hypnotized by your worries and letting your imagination scare you. ‘Cause I think in a sense, the most common unconscious use of the imagination is to drive ourselves crazy or worry ourselves sick. So the bar is set pretty low. That’s the good news. We can learn to use it more on purpose and do better than that. So worry is a type of thinking. It’s a repetitive kind of thinking. Sometimes a rumination, it’s generally troubled. It often has to do with things that are either in the past or the future, okay? It’s the opposite of being here now. It’s the opposite of the present center. That doesn’t mean it’s bad, and that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t have a function. But we’re in our brain, we’re thinking about something. We’re going over and over it. And again, I think that’s because of the adaptive function of worry, I always assume that something is there is an attempt by nature or by life to solve a problem or to give us an advantage. So if you think about what could the advantage be of being able to go over a problem over and over in my mind? Well, I think it’s kind of like if you have a big, tangled ball of yarn or thread. And you’re trying to untangle it and you find a loose place and you pull it for a while and you get some looseness, and then it gets stuck again so you turn the ball over and you find another loose place and you free up some more stuff, and you turn it over again and you free up some more stuff. And if you keep doing that, turning it over and over, looking at it from different angles, finding the loose places, finding where things are knotted together. Excuse me, if you persevere with it, more often than not, you’re gonna get that whole thing untangled and then go on to the next tangled mess that you find, okay? But you are likely to get that one untangled, and I think that’s the function of worry. It lets us, it makes our concerns transportable so you can think about it at any time, and that can be an advantage or a disadvantage. And I think that that depends on whether you’re using your brain or you’re being run by it. That your brain is an incredible organ. Your mind has something to do with it. And at least in certain circumstances, your mind can learn to use your brain in better ways. That’s what this is about. So it’s very easy though for this adaptive function of problem-solving and turning things over and over to become a habit or to become repetitive and to become ruminative and just kind of become its own thing. And I think there are a couple of reasons for that. One is that worry can serve kind of a magical function. There’s a magical, the unconscious function of worry. A couple of ’em actually. So one is that most things that you worry about never happen. Most things that you worry about never happen, and if you, that’s an old rubric that we’ve all heard and I found myself wondering, “Well, is that really true?” So I’ve been teaching this as a six-week class, this Worrying Well class. I’ve taught it a few times now, and I’ve asked people at the beginning of the class to list all the things that they find themselves repetitively worrying about. And then sometime later on, we’ve just checked in with the first class, which was about nine months ago, to see how many of those things have happened, and not very many of them have happened. So I don’t know if anybody’s ever studied that really before, but you could do it yourself by writing them down and then checking it in about six months or a year. Now the interesting thing about that, the way that the brain works is, at some unconscious level of the brain, the brain could conclude that the thing didn’t happen because you worried about it, right? (audience laughing) That’s the function, and there’s an old story about a woman who walks around her house. She’s an old woman. She’s walking around her house every day. Mumbling, walking around her house. She walks around her house all day long until she’s curved a rut around her house, and that goes up to about the middle of her thighs. And finally, one of their neighbors can’t take it anymore. He goes over and he says, “I hope you don’t mind if I ask you “why you walk around your house all the day, every day.” And she says, “Well, I’m keeping it safe from tigers.” And he says, “Well, we’re in Indiana. “There aren’t any tigers here.” And she says, “See?” (audience laughing) (laughs) So we may get rewarded for worrying because so many of those things don’t happen, and at some magical, unconscious primitive level of thought, those two things could be connected. The other thing that has been researched is that sometimes, worrying about things distracts us from things that are actually bothering us. So that worrying about little things and do-lists and so on, always fussing and always worrying and always having something to fuss up about and to worry about actually distracts us from something that might be deeper and more emotional and actually be harder for us to take. So, and we know that that’s a function. That’s actually been studied. So that worry prevents deeper, richer, more emotional-laden thinking, which typically comes in images and comes in the quiet times. So if there’s a lot of feeling there that’s hard to process or hard to feel or that’s unprocessed and that we’ve never dealt with, it’s in a sense useful to keep the mind very busy. Because if you get quiet, your emotions will come up. And ultimately, we think that that’s a good thing. Emotions are natural, they’re healthy. They have the wisdom to them that most of us have not also been educated in. But they can be hard to feel. Nobody, very few people have very much trouble feeling joy. Although a lot of times we’re blocked from feeling joy because we are unable or unwilling to feel other emotions. When you start feeling one emotion, the others go, “Hey, the door’s open.” And they might wanna come up and be felt. So there are functions of worry, and again, some of them unconscious, magical, maybe not in our best interest over time. Others adaptive, problem-solving, go over the problem. So it behooves us to kind of learn what we’re doing with the worry, and that gives us choices in terms of what we’re doing with the rest, okay? So worry’s a thinking function, whereas anxiety, anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling. It’s usually in the chest or the upper abdomen. Not always, but it’s most often up in this area or this area. It’s an uncomfortable feeling of fear or apprehension or dread. Dread is, it’s that feeling, “Oh my God, something bad is going to happen, I know it. “Something bad is going to happen.” You don’t know. It may be attached to something or it may be free-floating and not attached to anything. And anxiety often comes with physical symptoms like rapid heartbeat, pain in the chest, sweating, shortness of breath. There’s often a feeling of anxiety if anxiety is very strong, like panic attacks. There’s often a very characteristic feeling that comes with panic attacks and the feeling is of impending doom. People with panic attacks feel they’re about to die. And it’s often, again, since the symptoms are often in the chest or the abdomen, we see these things in medicine all the time. And you could really make a case for one of the maybe the primary functions of a primary care doctor is seeing if there’s anything else but anxiety going on because anxiety can cause so many symptoms in so many systems of the body and make us afraid. A sense that something bad is gonna happen. Anxiety is a function of a part of the brain that is the emotional part of the brain. It’s called a limbic system or the emotional brain, so worry belongs to the thinking part of the brain. And there’s a lot of interaction, but worry belongs in the thinking part of the brain, the cortex. Anxiety typically comes from the limbic or emotional part of the brain, and I’ll show you what that looks like. And stress, which is the third leg of our uncomfortable stool here, is actually a physical response to a threat, real or imagined. And in modern life, most of the threats are either perceived or imagined, but they’re not. So somebody’s probably told you the story of the saber-toothed tiger and the fight-or-flight response and so on. That this was a response we think was designed by nature. So when you walked out of the cave and you ran into a big predator like a saber-toothed tiger, part of your nervous system fires off and you get a big shot of adrenaline and your heart beats faster and your blood clots faster and your blood pressure goes up and your muscles get supercharged and you’re ready to run, or run the fastest two miles you’ve ever run in your life or fight the tiger to death. And then it supercharges you. It’s that kind of thing we hear about when a mother moves a car to save the baby. The thing is that this response can go off in response to threats that are not predators. That is not, it can go off in response to stock market movements, economic changes, thinking about aging, thinking about whether you can meet your responsibilities. All kinds of stuff, and all kinds of stuff that is, that unless you know where the off button is on your television or your radio or your computer, that you can just literally pump into your brain 24/7 if you stay up. All the bad news of every bad thing that has happened around the world to anybody, or if it’s a slow news day, what could happen, okay? As the H1N1 flu, ’cause it’s not a terribly, doesn’t look like a terribly dangerous flu right now, but it could become really dangerous. And that’s what’s got everybody scared and everybody freaked out and standing in line. What could happen, so? And yes, there’s a balance between, again, being able to predict the future and take measures to prevent things happening that don’t need to happen, and freaking out for months about something that probably will never happen. It’s a yin-yang kind of relationship. So stress is, the important thing here is that stress is a physical response. It’s not stuff that happens to you. It’s a physical response that your body has to survive short-term stress. And if you survive that short-term stress like fight like the saber-toothed tiger, you’ve either killed it or you’ve run away from it. And run as fast as you can, climb the highest tree that you can. You’ve burned up all these stress chemicals, and when the tiger goes away, you kind of limp back to the cave and breathe a big sigh of relief and tell everybody about how you killed the tiger or ran away from the tiger. And your body rested and compensated and recharged itself and replaced all the chemicals that it used during that intense 20 to 30-minute flight. Or else the tiger has eaten you and you don’t have any more stress. (audience laughing) But one way or another, it’s all over in about 20 or 30 minutes. (audience laughing) Okay? So there’s none of this year of stress that goes on if you’re a good worrier, where you wake up in the morning and the first thing on your mind is, “Oh my God, what’s gonna happen with this? “Am I gonna be able to do this? “Am I gonna be able to beat that?” And so forth. And of course, the really good worriers are not only doing it during the daytime. You’re up at night, too, because you can’t sleep, right? And so it’s taking you, and that takes your resilience away, and it becomes a real negative, vicious cycle. So, to review. Worry is a type of repetitive, circular thinking. Anxiety is an uncomfortable feeling of fear or dread. Stress is a physical response that prepares you to meet challenges so it’s interesting to look at. This is sort of a somewhat dated model of the brain. It’s called the Triune Brain, but it’s good enough for government work. We can work with this model, okay? This is that there is what’s called the cortical brain or the neo-cortex. The big, gray matter, wrinkled, the big brain that we’re so proud of that allows us to speak and add and calculate and reason and so forth. And imagine, and do all these things that again, as far as we know, no other creature on Earth does, and that is really the most adaptive thing that’s helped us survive and dominate. Lower down, limbic system, midbrain, okay. The basic brain, we call it the reptilian brain. That’s the brain we share with lizards reptiles and amphibians. That’s the oldest part of the brain. That part of the brain basically concerned with survival. It basically sorts things into two or three categories. “Can I eat this? “Can it eat me? “Can I mate with it?” That’s basically what it’s concerned with, okay? (audience laughing) It sorts down all the information that you receive into those three things, okay? And it acts like that. It acts reflexively and instantaneously. Just like if you come across a lizard on the path and you make a move towards it, it’s gone like that. It doesn’t go inside. It doesn’t do a Woody Allen thing. “Should I move? “Should I not move? “Would it be better for me? “Is this dangerous? “Is it not dangerous? “How dangerous is it?” It doesn’t do any of it, it’s just gone, okay? If there’s any indication that there’s a threat, it sets off the stress response and it’s gone. The thing is, this developed evolutionarily from the bottom up, okay? This was, this part of the brain developed first. And then as animals developed, the limbic system pretty much developed in mammals, and others, in warm, furry creatures, who characteristically have social relationships. And for mammals, for most mammals, not all mammals, social relationships like feelings of pride of lions and packs of wolves and families of people and things like that have adaptive value. We do better when we’re connected to groups. We have more strength. We have more problem-solving ability. We have emotional support. We are social creatures, and our social positions mean a lot to us. And all that emotional processing happens mostly in this limbic system, and then on top of it, the big, smart, intellectual brain. Every layer added new possibilities and new complexity to our ability to understand our world and to navigate our world. And part of the problem when we look at this whole issue is that the new guy is very entranced with himself, okay? The thinking brain thinks that nothing was important before he came along. And I saw he kind of deliberately. It could be she too, but it’s a kind of, it’s not that there aren’t tremendously bright and intellectual women, but it’s kind of thinking analysis, logic, that kind of thinking on a yin-yang scale we typically characterize as a kind of masculine thinking. Not that it doesn’t belong to women too. Whereas the feeling, the intuitive, tends to be more kind of receptive, softer. It has its own logic, but it’s not the same as the logic of mathematics and science, okay? So this brain is very good at, especially the part of the brain, the part that’s suited for verbal and mathematical skills, which typically is in the left hemisphere of the brain. And there’s some variation, but that typically is in the left brain, which is called the dominant hemisphere. Speech capability, mathematical capability, and so on. Whereas on the right side of the brain in the same area, lie areas of the brain that have to do with the body image, with emotional recognition and facial expressions, tone of voice, and those kinds of skills. So they each have their place. I mean, logical skills have to do with building buildings like this and building MRIs and doing the kind of incredible science that goes on in a university setting like UCSF and looking through electron microscopes and doing chemical analysis. And these are tremendous Fats, don’t misunderstand me. They’re completely useless in a relationship, okay? It doesn’t matter how many Nobel prizes you have. You may not be able to maintain a marriage. Would be if that’s the only kind of intelligence you have, right? And you may not be able to maintain good relationships with people. Whereas somebody who emotionally, and in terms of social networking and understanding and compassion and empathy, may have a different kind of intelligence, as well as an intellectual kind of intelligence. So my point is that these are different kinds of intelligence that are useful in different situations. What has happened since the the advent of the age of reason and which is, and the the advent of discovering the immense power of our intellectual capabilities, I think has been a devaluing and ignoring of the earlier kind of intelligence that has to do with our relations with each other and with other living things and with our environment. And I think that a lot of the crisis we’re seeing is we’re trying to come back to that and own those relationships while still maintaining our ability to be technically creative and help solve those problems that way. I think that these have been around a lot longer. This guy’s really fascinated with himself and sometimes thinks he’s the only game in town. So the reason we used to say when we’re talking about left and right hemisphere, and I don’t wanna go into it’s too deeply tonight, but the reason that the left hemisphere is called the dominant hemisphere … Can anybody guess? It does dominate, but the main reason that it’s called the dominant hemisphere is that it’s the one that names things. It’s the verbal hemisphere. It’s the one that gives people, thinks, “I’m the dominant hemisphere, “and you’re the subdominant hemisphere. “I’m the major hemisphere, you’re the minor hemisphere.” And it’s kind of a joke, but I think it’s also true, and we have valued that. Think about your education. How many hours of emotional education did you get? How many hours of education in using your imagination did you get? Or your intuition? So your education, and I’m not saying that it was, hopefully, at least when I went to school, it was reading, writing, arithmetic. It was that left-brain, analytic, logical skills. Tremendously useful, but not all of us. And this other kind of intelligence, I think we need a lot more education experience with it. Learn how to communicate with it, and that’s why in a little while I’m gonna talk about imagery, which is its coding language in a sense of this more emotional and intuitive brain. So here’s a kind of a picture of a real brain cut in half this way. And I don’t know how well you can see this, but there’s the wrinkled cortex, neocortex. It goes all the way around. And then in the center, this area here more or less is the limbic or emotional brain. And you can see that there’s an, and then this would be the reptilian, reflexive, survival brain. And you can see there are lots of connections between the two, so that this brain could send messages into this brain and create an emotional reaction, which would send messages down to this part of the brain and sent it out to the body and vice versa. Like for this guy. So this guy’s having a, he’s not having a good day. He’s having a rage reaction, and without going through all of these things, just if you want to study this, you can, but something didn’t match up with his expectations, okay? That’s where most anger comes from. He had an expectation. Something didn’t come up to it. It sent some kind of a message of danger or threat to this emotional brain. It’s signaled his lower brain that to get ready for a fight, and this thing sends out, through all the cranial nerves and spinal cord and so on, messages to every organ in his body and your physiology changes very dramatically. When you’re angry, when you’re frightened, when you’re sad, when you’re happy, when you’re calm, you are physiologically different than, okay. So there are plenty of connections and this is basically just to show yes, there’s a real wiring diagram and a real chemical messaging system. So anxiety, stress, and worry are interactive, they’re bidirectional. If you tend to be anxious, that emotional brain is gonna be pumping out more messages of, “Lookout.” It may not know what it’s looking out for, but it’s gonna be more vigilant. It’s going to raise the, it’s gonna send more messages to the cortex to be on guard for problems. And then the cortex is gonna be able to imagine all the problems that there could be out there, and it’s gonna send messages back and they can get into a real, kind of a reverberating circuit. All these parts of the brain are chemically sensitive, and of course in medicine, typically we try to chemically manipulate these things if somebody’s got a real anxiety disorder. We’re not talking about anxiety disorders which where the anxiety level is just cranked up high despite the thinking here. But we try to manipulate that with medications. Those of us who have studied nutritional medicine know that there are naturally occurring molecules. That there are molecules in our foods that can be used as nutraceuticals to modify how active or upregulated the nervous system is or downregulated, so we try to do it through more natural molecules, but the other thing to know about this is that they’re also thought-sensitive. That thoughts become chemicals at a certain level and those chemicals stimulate the physical mechanisms that underlie our reactions, so. And that’s gonna be our focus tonight, is about thinking. For any of you who have any doubts that the mind and body are really connected and create physiology, just real quick, this is biofeedback data. And to make it simple, this is muscle tension. This is an electrical response in the skin. This is fingertip temperature, which is a sign of either stress or relaxation. This nice, even white line here is respiration. So this guy is sitting in a biofeedback therapist’s office with a bunch of sensors hooked up to his muscles and his fingertips to measure the way that his circulation responds to stress. And he’s got a belt around his chest, and he’s just breathing nice and around his abdomen, this is actually his abdomen. And he’s breathing nice and normal, even. He’s just sitting there relaxing. There’s not much going on, so. You won’t be able to read all this stuff. Just watch what happens here. So he’s a guy. This is an actual patient who has a phobia about driving over bridges and he lives here. (audience laughing) Okay. Bad combination, right? So he’s sitting, so he goes to the biofeedback therapist. Here he’s just sitting there relaxing. Then the biofeedback therapist asks him just to think about, just imagine approaching the Golden Gate Bridge. And all of this goes in the same direction. There’s an immediate fight-or-flight response. Just goes off from imagining driving across the bridge. You can see it best here, what happens to his breathing. It just goes to the pod. It’s just very shallow, very irregular. Stops breathing into his abdomen. His skin temperature, actually this reversed. It should go decrease. His muscle tension goes up. He’s physiologically ready to defend his life by imagining going to the bridge. Now, if he can learn to get his breathing under control again his therapist can guide him to think about some other things that are more relaxing. They typically break it down. “Just think about coming down the stairs “and seeing your car keys.” In a person who’s developed a phobia, that would be enough to stimulate a huge reaction. Now, if the person then can learn to breathe more deeply and to induce a relaxation response, which most people can, while he’s imagining that, go back to the calm physiology. By the time he gets to the place where he can actually imagine driving across the bridge and staying calm, he’ll be able to go across that bridge. That could take months to get to. There’s a lot of practice in here, but it’s a good example of a mind-body connection and how much we respond to just thinking about things. So there’s a lot, how many have heard the term neuroplasticity? Has that been talked about here? So it doesn’t mean your brain is made of plastic. It means that your brain is changeable, and there’s been a lot of literature lately about how changeable the adult human brain is. Up until very recently, the dictum was we have an adult brain, that’s it. Your cells die off, but that’s about it. And you can’t teach an old dog new tricks and all that kind of stuff. And we know now, how many of you have read this book by Norman Doidge, “The Brain That Changes Itself?” It’s an astounding book on brain science. A couple of, an example, there are researchers now that have developed techniques, sending, taking people who have been blind since birth. Hooking up a little video camera to an electric device that kind of draws a picture on their back by poking ’em. Kind of a thing that puts multiple little pokes and gives them a picture on their back, and they start to see. Okay, they can see so that they can walk around. Now they have it where a little video camera and glass goes to a little wafer on the tongue that sends out little electrical signals. And they start, and they can see. Probably not like most of us who can see naturally and normally, but they can see. They can walk around the room and not bump into objects and so forth, okay? And what happens over time, what they found was, in these people, that watching a device called a functional MRI, which can show us what parts of the brain are active while people are thinking, that it was the part of the brain in the occipital cortex that processes visual information, that took all of this data from their back or their tongue and started putting pictures together. So the brain’s taking this data and putting pictures together ’cause that’s what it does. Normally it gets the input from your eye, but if we can get the information some other way, it can create new pathways that create these abilities. Isn’t that astounding? So part of Jeffrey Schwartz at UCLA, his research has been with people with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, which has been traditionally a very difficult condition to treat, and finding very structured, repetitive exercises, which, fortunately, obsessive-compulsive people are very good at. (laughs) (audience laughing) By focusing their mind in a certain way, they literally can change, not only their behavioral patterns but that their brains change after a decent period. We’re talking about months of practice so that you can actually lay new hardwiring down, as well as change your mind. You can change your mind in a nanosecond, but it seems to take weeks to months to change your brain. But when you change your brain, now you’ve got a new default position installed, and you don’t have to be the same way that you were before. Louann Brizendine, who’s a professor of psychiatry here at UCSF, wrote this, how many have read this book, “The Female Brain?” If you never read another book in your life, and if you’re either male or female, (audience laughing) you should read this book. This is an astounding book. A really astounding book about the brain how it’s organized and what different capabilities there are. Both genders have similar capabilities, but it’s a bit of a digression, but it was tremendously useful to me to learn from this book that all fetuses as they’re growing in the womb are female, are male at the beginning. And at eight weeks, yeah, they’re all female. They’re all female. At eight weeks, the fetus with the Y chromosome gets a wash of testosterone, and do you know what that testosterone does to the brain? You’re gonna love this. (audience laughing) It explains so much. (audience laughing) It kills 80% of the neurons in the male brain that process emotional communication. (audience laughing) This is apparently brain science. And when they get it again when they’re 14 or 15, I don’t know how many of you remember being 14 or 15, or if you have a 14 or The 15-year-old son who sits at the table like this and looks like a cretin and spends all of his time in his room and is barely human, and he was a brilliant, loving little kid. He’s got testosterone poisoning, which is again, seriously, (audience laughing) is again, killing neurons in his brain that have to do with emotional communication. And increasing the parts of his brain that have to do with sexuality and aggressiveness, okay? While the female’s brain is still maintaining this big part about four to five times as much brain area is devoted to emotional communication. To talking about sensing emotional nuances. This is why in general you ladies are so much better at it than we are and you like to talk to each other about all that stuff. You like to talk to us about it. You don’t understand why we don’t understand. Okay, this would be like, and this is no offense. I need a better archetype, but this would be like my dog who has 20,000 times the smell neurons in his nose than I do. This would be like my dog asking me, “Why don’t you smell that Jake was here earlier? “I’m sniffing his book. “Why don’t you, I’m living in a world of smell. “Smell is all around us.” It’s a world of smell to the dog, right? I don’t smell any of it. I don’t hear the high-pitched sounds ’cause his brain is tuned differently, so. This is has saved my marriage. (audience laughing) This discover. And when you wonder, and when the guys, these are all overgeneralizations and I’m playing it up a little bit, but your guy may not be able to tell what you’re feeling as easily as you can tell what he’s feeling. It’s a different world. He just may not, he’s just like, and this is what guys always say to each other. “Why is she mad? (audience laughing) “I don’t get it. “Why is she mad? “I asked her out to lunch on Tuesday. “She got mad at me. “I don’t know why.” So one mystery is not exactly solved, but the brains are organized differently. It’s really fascinating. That is a great read. All right, I’m gonna go ahead and go on before I get stoned here. The brain changes throughout life and here’s the basis of my interest in thinking about how we think. Thinking about how we worry. What if the blind can learn to see, then the anxious should be able to learn to relax. I would think it’s much easier to learn to relax than it is to see when you’ve never seen it before. I may be wrong, but this is kind of at the center of it. If our brain is capable of that kind of learning, then what do we need to do to teach it? And this is a great term that comes from Jeffrey Schwartz’s self-directed neuroplasticity, which is fascinating because you’re using your own mind to change your own brain. Really an interesting concept. As one of my favorite Gary Larson cartoons that have to do with this, this is the ultimate self-help technique. And the guys here are reading these books, like “Do It By Instinct” and “Dare To Be Nocturnal.” (audience laughing) “Predator-Prey Relationships.” And the best one of course is “How to Avoid Natural Selection,” which is (mumbles). (audience laughing) So this is ultimate, I mean, our greatest self-care tool. So let’s talk about how we can think about this, and this is how I’m thinking about it now. I’m thinking that there’s good worry and bad worry. And by that, I mean good worry is functional worry. It’s the worry that’s trying to solve a problem and that has some potential to solve a problem. And that, and if we separate our worries into good worries and bad or futile worries, okay, we can treat each one of them differently. We can use our brains differently. So good worry is, “I’m worried about this project. “I’m worried about where to go to school. “I’m worried about whether I’m gonna be able “to pay for my kid’s education.” Real stuff to worry about. It’s not that there’s any lack of real stuff to worry about, but stuff that, if you asked yourself, “Is it likely “that I could actually do something about this?” That you would say either yes or maybe? As opposed to, when you actually write out the stuff you’re worried about, a lot of times you find out, you look at stuff and you say, “Well, “I can’t do much about that, ‘2012.’ “Gee, I’m worried that the world’s gonna end in 2012.” What are you gonna do about that? Okay, are you likely to be able to do anything about that? You might wanna put that on your bad worry list, okay? And just enjoy the movie as a great roller coaster ride. So good worry anticipates and solves problems. Bad worry, circular, habitual, magical. Doesn’t go anywhere. Doesn’t lead to solutions, scares you. In a sense, it starts to become a type of auto-suggestion, right? ‘Cause you’re thinking about this thing all the time, you’re scaring yourself. You’re sending out those fear pathways and that makes it harder to use your brain when you’re feeling that way. And so, how many of you are familiar with the Serenity Prayer? How many of you have heard of it before? Okay, now I wanna ask how many of you are in 12-step programs? (audience laughing) The 12-step programs adopted the Serenity Prayer. The Serenity Prayer goes back probably as far as Roman times, and then in modern times was attributed to a theologian in WWII, but the 12-step programs have adopted it. It’s a brilliant prayer thought. If you don’t like prayer, just take off the God word, okay? But the Serenity Prayer goes, “God,” or whatever, “grant me the serenity “to accept the things I cannot change, “the courage to change the things I can change, “and the wisdom to know the difference.” Okay, so if we use the Serenity Prayer as kind of the skeleton of our Worrying Well practice, we wanna think about separating things we’re worried about into things you can change, things you probably can’t change. And then if some are leftover that you’re not sure of, where you need the wisdom to know the difference, I’m gonna talk to you at least about ways that you can use imagery to help with all three of those things. So the first question is if you’re not sure about something and you need more wisdom, how do get more wisdom? Besides living another 30 or 40 years, okay? By which, I mean that’s not all that useful when you’ve got an immediate problem. So there are ways, ordinary ways to access more wisdom. Talk to people that you think are wise. If you have wise friends, if you have wise teachers, see if they’ll talk to you and you can share your problem, listen to ’em, consider what they say. That’s one good source of wisdom. This stands for what would Jesus, Buddha, Dalai Lama, or Yoda do? (audience laughing) So if you don’t have access to a wise friend or teacher, this is a type of imagery technique. Think about what would somebody that you imagine is genuinely wise, what would they say in that situation? Remember Hillary Clinton got all kinds of flack from people when she was the First Lady ’cause she said she was in a circumstance where she wasn’t sure what to do and she thought a lot about Eleanor Roosevelt and what Eleanor Roosevelt would have done in that situation, and of course, all the kooks got up on her. “She’s into spiritualism,” and so on. She was conjuring the ghost of Eleanor Roosevelt. She was imagining what a wise, ethical, role-model would do in that situation. It’s a perfectly natural and very intelligent thing to do. What would somebody with class and wisdom and caring and morals do in this situation? And if you took it another step and you do it guided imagery where you actually relax, you go into a meditative or relax, just a relaxed state, and you kind of daydream that you were walking in the garden with Eleanor Roosevelt, and you told her what was going on and you imagined that she spoke back to you. That’s not spooky. As long as you know that it’s not really Eleanor Roosevelt, or if it is, that she’s, that you’re not identifying with her. You’re not the person in the crazy house who thinks that they’re Jesus, but you could imagine what Jesus would say. What Jesus would do, if Jesus is important and meaningful to you. Or if what the Dalai Lama would do or what your wise grandmother would do, or what your wise grandmother would do if you had a wise grandmother, right? So you start accessing, what would it be like if I were to approach this from a wise place and you take the time to quiet down and take the time to get deeper inside. And that’s what we do with imagery we sometimes call inner wisdom imagery or inner advisor, inner guide, inner ally, inner whatever. You can have your higher power, guardian angel. People have called this by different names throughout history, and some people feel like, “Well, you are calling on on a spirit.” And other people feel like, “It’s just a way to get to the part of my brain “that has this wisdom.” Because there is a part of all of us that has a lot of wisdom. Do you know when it comes out? It comes out when your friend’s in trouble. When your friend comes to you for advice ’cause they can’t figure it out, right? And have you ever noticed how easy it is to advise your friends? Good advice, usually. And if it’s a serious thing, you take time to think about it. You don’t just give them a glib answer. You take some time and you think about it. You go down as deep as you can inside yourself and you give them that wise advice. The thing is, it’s probably easier for you to get to your wisdom than your friend if your friend is really frightened. Because when we are frightened, when we’re anxious, when we’re worried, there’s a psychological phenomenon called regression. We tend to regress. We tend to feel like we’re too little, we’re too weak, we don’t have the resources, we don’t know what to do. We’re wishing that somebody bigger, wiser, stronger were there to tell us what to do. And we feel more childlike and that blocks our access to our own wisdom. And that’s why taking the time to go to actually do a relaxation practice, relax your body, shift your mind, imagine that you go to a place that’s beautiful and peaceful and safe so that you get out of that fearful loop. You imagine, or you invite an image, of someone or something wise and loving, and that cares about you, whether it’s someone or something you’ve ever met or something you just make up. You just imagine you imagine what it would tell you or show you or do with you, and it’s quite remarkable what can come from meditation like this. Does that make sense to people? And so it’s easier to do that for your friend because as much as you love your friend, you’re probably not gonna be as freaked out as they are if it’s a serious situation. We see this all the time. The most commonplace that I see in my practice is with people who’ve just been newly diagnosed with cancer, and they’re just shocked and freaked out as most people are. And in the meantime, they’re visiting all these different doctors and oncologists and trying to become an oncologist in two weeks and learn the whole field of oncology and figure out their best option. While emotionally, they’re feeling like a three-year-old. So, it’s very difficult for them to make decisions that way. These kinds of techniques, if you start early and help them connect to a deeper level enough that scared child can really make a difference in terms of wise decision-making. So sometimes they give, your inner advisor will say something like this. “The secret of living without frustration and worry “is to avoid becoming personally involved in your own life.” This is definitely a good treatment for worry, okay? But usually, and that’s not bad advice. Here’s how I think this thing kind of works. So if we go through this process of thinking about the worries, I actually have people in class write them down and then go through and separate them. I mean, it sounds mechanical. It’s just using our ordinary intelligence. Separate them into three columns. Things you think you could change if you wanted to, things you think you couldn’t change if you wanted to, and things that you’re not sure about. And people rarely do this, so we carry it around in our heads. Just writing it down is often very helpful for people in sorting it out. And then where we want to get to is down here, either if it’s something you can’t change, basically what you wanna do is get to a place where you either get to a place of some kind of acceptance. Some kind of coming to terms. Or you turn it around into an intention or a prayer. So in other words, you’re worrying about something. That something’s gonna happen, but it’s not something that you can physically do something about. It’s interesting to see what happens if you take it and you turn it around and you put it into a positive visualization of what you would rather have happened, okay? So, I’m gonna skip the whole argument here about whether or not that has a physical effect and the secret. Whether we just make something happen by changing our intention, sometimes it seems that we do and sometimes we don’t. But what does happen when people, in other words, some friend gets diagnosed with cancer and you are overcome with worry because you are just worried that she’s gonna die, okay. Or be sick or go through some horrendous thing ’cause you care for your friend. That’s a typically normal reaction. But you find yourself losing sleep and you’re thinking about and you’re just getting obsessed with it and so on. Well, and there’s nothing more that you can do. You’re bringing her food and you’re a source of support and so on, but you aren’t personally going to be able to cure that cancer, okay? But now you start to say, “Okay, instead of constantly imagining “what I don’t wanna have to happen, “I’m gonna think about what I would rather have happened, “so I’m gonna start to imagine that she gets great treatment “and that her cancer responds “and that she comes through that treatment “and she survives it and she comes out being “an even stronger and healthier person. “That if it’s up to, if it was up to me, “if I was God, that’s what would happen.” And I don’t know if that’ll make any difference, but that’s where I’m gonna put my energy, instead of putting my energy over here. And whether it changes the outcome or not, way beyond me, but what it does do is that when people start focusing on that image, they become less anxious. You become less anxious because you feel like, “I’m doing what I can be doing “and I’m putting my energy into what I wanna see happen.” Does that make sense? And there’s a lot of principles of suggestion that are at work there. There are a couple of analogies I use for people. One is, I’m not a skier myself. A mountain biker and I skied. I don’t know how many of you are, but you can imagine being a skier. So imagine that you’re up on the top of a very steep, very challenging ski run. What you wanna do when you’re up there at the top before you start, before you push off, you wanna check it all out. You wanna see, “Hey, there’s a big rock over here. “I don’t wanna bump, hit that. “There are big trees over here. “I don’t wanna hit those.” Then what you wanna do, and any skier will tell you, that you wanna see what the line is that takes you through safely through those things. And once you start skiing and you’re going fast or riding your bike downhill or any other thing that’s like that, what you wanna focus on is you wanna focus on where you wanna go, not on where you don’t wanna go because if you fixate on that rock, you will crash into it. Because that is how your body-mind is put together. It tends to go where you look. The other example I use for people is if you wanna hit a bullseye in a dartboard, it helps if you look at it, okay? If you look at it, you’re not guaranteed to hit it but you’re much more likely to hit it than if you close your eyes or your attention is just all over the place. And if you keep looking at it, even if you keep missing, your whole nervous system is wired to recruit resources and to control your body so that you get closer and closer to it and that you hit it more and more often. So it’s goal-setting, it’s focusing your intention on what you wanna have happened. Does that make sense? Without doing that, I was talking to a psychiatrist friend of mine the other day about this and he says, “I think you’re talking about intention deficit disorder.” (audience laughing) ‘Cause a lot of this comes down to whether how much control we can have about where we put our attention. So we put our attention in this case on a, if you’re a prayer, if you’re a religious person and you have a way of praying, then you pray for the outcome that you desire. If you’re not a religious person, if you don’t pray, you visualize or you intend it. You say, “If it’s up to me, “I’m worried that my friend will succumb. “I don’t want that to happen.” “But the way that I’m gonna put my energy “into her getting better, “into imagining that she gets better.” And if nothing else, it’ll help you. It’ll help reduce your anxiety level. Sometimes a little, sometimes a lot. So the other thing is, is that on the other side is if something that you can change, there’s a couple of processes for doing this. One of the questions is sometimes people don’t act on things that they can change because they feel like they don’t have enough creativity. They haven’t been able to solve a problem. They don’t have the guts, the courage to act on it. They don’t have the assertiveness. They don’t have the confidence. So imagery, and I’m gonna hopefully share with you imagery that you can experiment with yourself is a fantastic way of both accessing and building these kinds of personal qualities in yourself so that you can be more effective in making changes that you want to, okay. And leading to an action that can actually resolve these problems. So imagery is a type of thinking, people often say that it involves your senses. Thoughts that you can see, hear, smell, feel, daydreams. It’s a language, it’s an emotional language. It’s a synthetic, just thought language. It’s a language of the arts. It’s all the visual arts, drama, poetry, painting. Even music, dance, images that bring, convey a lot of information, but not in the same way that an equation conveys information. That makes sense. It’s the difference between listening. I think Einstein once said, “You could break a Beethoven sonata down “into wavelengths and frequencies, “but you’d be missing the point.” So there’s that linear, scientific part. There’s that experiential part. We’re after that. So imagery, it’s a natural way that we think. It’s very closely linked to emotions. It’s natural, if you think about it as a coding language, it’s a coding language of the emotional, intuitive gray. And it’s just that we haven’t had much education in using it, and runaway imagination is probably the primary source of modern stress. It’s not just what’s happening, it’s what you think will happen to you, and how it will affect you that sends the signals down into your body. On the other hand, developing a skillful imagination is one that you can use to send messages of calmness, confidence, creativity, and there are a lot of different ways to use it. Your most potent tool for stress relief, but you need to learn some skills to use it on purpose. So the imagery, what the imagery does is if we’re having a problem that we can’t solve in that cortex, the imagery brings the limbic brain into it. It brings the emotional, intuitive intelligence to that issue or problem, so it just brings a whole other big area of the brain to bear on whatever the problem is. So it doesn’t take anything away. It adds intelligence to your problem-solving. So you can calm your brain with imagery, just like you can make it anxious. I could take you through a little imagery, just ask you to imagine the scariest thing you’ve ever been through. Don’t do that right now. If we went through it and had you really, “What do you see? “What do you hear? “What do you smell? “Imagine you’re there again.” You could work up pretty good anxiety. If I asked you instead to imagine that you go to a place that’s peaceful and beautiful to you and that you just loved to be in, we have nothing to do and it’s safe and it’s the right temperature and notice what you see and hear and smell and immerse yourself in that daydream. Your brain will send messages down through the limbic system, down into the lizard brain. It’ll say, “It looks beautiful, peaceful, and safe. “It sounds beautiful, peaceful, and safe. “It smells nice. “It’s peaceful here, it’s safe. “Hit the All Clear button.” And your body will shift into that. So there’s that place is, “Where right now do I wanna focus my attention? “What train of thought do I wanna put my attention on?” And again, few people have ever really been taught this, so we have got … I’ll get to the commercial aspect later, but it’s one reason that I’ve devoted as much time as I have to write books and doing audio CDs and downloads to teach people these skills. They’re very, they’re simple skills. Your imagination is your birthright. It’s built into you. Nobody ever really just taught you how to do some fairly simple, but potentially profound moves with them that can literally change your life depending on what you’re doing. It can certainly improve your life. So rather than talk with you more, I wanna offer you a chance. Let’s do it, would you like to do some imagery? Some guided imagery instead. We’ll rest your left brain. We’ll fan it off, cool it off. So I wanna share with you fairly simple imagery that we call evocative imagery. How many of you have used guided imagery on purpose before? So a fair number. Maybe half or a little more than half. So this is a way to use imagery to help you access particular quality that you might wanna have more of. Okay, and that could be, it could be courage, it could be confidence, it could be created, it could be patience, it could be humor, it could be assertiveness. Any quality that you wanna think about. And the way that we usually use this, and you could do this is to think about the situation that you’ve got going on, that you have had difficulty solving or resolving. And you just feel like you just haven’t been able to resolve it and it seems like something that you could potentially solve or resolve. Well, you just don’t feel you have enough fill-in-the-blank to do this. You need a little more, again, courage, assertiveness, patience, humor, whatever it is, okay? If you can’t think of one right off the bat, just think about a quality that you would like to experience more of in yourself. Joy, calmness, again, confidence, self-love. Whatever floats your boat. Just some quality you’d like to experience more of. And give it a name. Think about the name of it, and you could do a couple of qualities. I wouldn’t do more than, sometimes it’s unclear what you need more of. I feel like I need more, I don’t know if it’s courage or I need more strength, so you could do them both kind of together. Kinda know what you’re after. But think about a specific quality or a couple of qualities that you would just like to feel more of in yourself, okay? And then let yourself be as comfortable as you can be in your seats. You can close your eyes. You don’t have to. But it’s usually easier to pay attention to your imagination and your inner world if you do. And then just let yourself take a couple of deeper breaths in your breathing. Let your breathing get a little deeper into your abdomen, and- (exhaling) let your out-breath be kind of a letting-to-go kind of breath. Without forcing anything or straining anything, just, again, drawing a deeper breath into your abdomen and to your belly, letting the out-breath be a letting kind of a breath. Just inviting your body to begin to soften or relax. And just another time or two as you welcome the breath into your body. Just notice that you’re literally bringing fresh energy and oxygen into your body. You can invite it to circulate and flow around your body in the bloodstream to every cell of your body. Brings fresh energy. And as you let the breath out, if you like, just let it be an invitation to your body, your mind, even your spirit, to just let go of any tension or discomfort you don’t have to hold right now. And you don’t even have to worry about whether you need to hold or what you can let go of. Just invite the body to soften. The mind begins to quiet. And invite your body to continue to soften and relax. Perhaps to become a little more spacious without worrying about how it does that. Feel free to shift or move to be even more comfortable. And if you haven’t already let yourself go inside to a place that’s very beautiful to you, let yourself daydream yourself to a place that’s very beautiful, peaceful, safe. And that might be a place that you’ve actually been in your life. Either in your outer life or even in your inner life. Or it might be a place that just comes to mind right now, an imaginary place, or some combination. It doesn’t really matter, as long as it’s a place that’s beautiful to you and peaceful and safe. And if more than one place comes to mind, just pick whichever one attracts you the most right now. And imagine in your own way that you’re actually there. And take a few moments to just look around and notice what you imagine seeing in this beautiful, peaceful place. Notice the colors and the shapes and the things that are there, and don’t worry about whether it’s very vivid and clear like your usual eyesight or whether it’s kind of vague or it comes and goes, but just notice what you imagine is there in this peaceful, beautiful place, safe place. And notice what you imagine hearing in that place, or if it’s just very quiet. Notice any sounds you imagine hearing. Notice if there’s an aroma or a fragrance or a quality of the air. And notice what time of day or night it seems to be. And I wonder if you can tell what season of the year it is. Just notice, find the spot in that place where you feel most comfortable and at ease. And just trusting your instincts just like a dog or a cat will circle and find the most comfortable place to be and let yourself get comfortable there. And then think about a quality that you think you’d like to feel more of. The name of a quality, a particular quality or feeling state that you’d like to feel more of. And then let yourself go back in your memory to some time when you experienced yourself having that quality in yourself. Just let your memory go back to some time when you felt that quality in yourself. And some of you may not have a memory of having that quality, so let yourself go to some time when you witnessed somebody else expressing that quality or embodying that quality. that could be a real person a fictional person, or a historical person. And if you found a time when you yourself had this quality, imagine that you’re there again now. And notice what you see, what you hear, what you feel as you’re feeling that particular quality within you. And if you’re imagining somebody else embodying that quality, imagine that you bring them inside you so that you can feel what it feels like to have that quality inside you. And then notice where you feel that quality most strongly in your body. You might want to just gently scan through your body with your attention from head to toe and back up as if your attention were a sonar beam or a radar beam, and just see if you, where do you feel that particular quality most strongly in your body? Strongest in your feet or your legs? Your pelvis? Abdomen? Chest? Your neck and shoulders? Arms and hands? In your face? Just notice wherever it seems to be strongest. And let it grow a little bit larger. Imagine that you can just allow it to grow a little bit larger and stronger, just a little bit. And notice how it feels to feel that quality in yourself. And notice what your posture wants to be like as you feel that quality more strongly in yourself. And if you’re comfortable with it, imagine that you turn up the volume on that quality like you had control, like a volume control on a radio or television, and you turn it up so that it radiates out from wherever it’s centered in all directions. Radiates out and fills your body with that particular quality. And as you feel that in your face, notice how your face feels. And as you feel that quality, notice what you imagine your voice would be like if you were in touch with that quality when you spoke. And if you like the feeling of this quality, go ahead and turn it up even more so that it overflows the space of your body and fills the space around your body for a foot in every direction. And imagine that it radiates inside your body and touches every cell in your body with that quality. From the deepest part of your bone marrow to your bones. To your connective tissues, your muscles. The organs and your pelvis. In your abdomen. In your chest. Especially in your brain. Your spinal cord and your nervous system. As if every cell of your body were touched by a ray of this quality. As if you were a sponge and you were bathing in this quality and could soak up as much as you’d like. And if you like, you can turn it up even stronger and bigger, fill the space around your body for several feet in every direction. You can experiment with that. Never turn it up so strongly that you’re uncomfortable, but if you like the way it feels, imagine you can turn it up. That there’s an abundant source of this quality, and you can turn it up so that you fill the space around your body for 12, 15, 20 feet around. Fill the room with it. Fill the bay area with it. Fill the world with it. Just experiment, and then let yourself turn the volume into whatever’s most comfortable for you right now. No matter how strong or weak, how big or small that is, just permit yourself to let it be like listening to music when you’re all by yourself. Whatever volume is most comfortable for you right now is exactly the right volume. And just let yourself rest in that for a few more minutes. And just take a moment before you bring your awareness back into the room. Just take a moment to review what’s happened in this brief imagery experience. What quality you were looking to experience more of. Whether you have or not. What it was like. And if there’s anything in particular that you want to bring back from this experience and remember when you come back to the outer world. And before you come back to the outer world, take a moment. If there’s a particular situation that you wanted more of this quality to address, imagine addressing that situation while being in touch with this quality. And just notice whatever you notice. Notice whether it seems the same or different in any way. Whether bringing more of this quality into the situation seems to change anything about it or your relationship to it. And before you come back to the outer world, just remember that you can recall this quality, access it, feel it, built it more strongly in yourself anytime you like just by going through this process again. And so when you’re ready, just let the images go back to wherever they came from and become aware of the room that we’re in together. And just gently start to bring your awareness from your inner world back out to the outer world. Us in this room here together. And if you like, just very gently stretch your body and feel your fingers and toes and everything in between. I wanna give you just a few minutes to write or draw anything that you wanna remember about this experience. This is just for you. I’m gonna give you about three or four minutes just to write or draw anything, and I would recommend that you do it, whatever happened. Even if nothing happened. Let’s take three or four minutes and write about the experience, especially about anything that you want to remember that you thought was important or that you thought was interesting about this experience. Let’s just have some discussion. Comments, questions? Did everybody hear that? Sometimes you get into such a stressful state and an anxious state, it’s just. She’s had experiences where relaxation, guided imagery have been very useful. And other times when she’s been so stressed and so anxious and upset that she couldn’t even get into it, or if she did, it just didn’t even touch it. And yes, that can happen. This is not a magic panacea. So sometimes that’s a place where you can use somebody else to help you or to take enough time or to do some things that are, get a massage, take a hot tub. Talk to a friend. This is a place where medications may come in. I find a double shot of Jack Daniels works really well. I wouldn’t recommend it as a daily diet, but it certainly helps really get your anxiety level down, and you may be able then to relieve enough of the anxiety that you can pay attention to these things. So there are many other things we can do, from medications to nutrients to other relaxants to doing whatever you need to get to that place, where you can focus. One of the qualities of imagery thinking is that it can help you connect with the bigger picture and how things are connected in kind of a bigger picture, so that can include your faith. Or you may find, “Well, if that happens, “I don’t want that to happen. “But maybe there’s a good part of it, “or maybe I’ll just deal with it the best that I can.” So that’s just to expand the picture and let yourself kind of go out to what the consequences might be. Because that’s part of really sorting it into things that you might be able to do, something about things you can’t do something about, is to let yourself run it out. Does that make sense to you? Yeah? So sometimes when people are making treatment choices that are very difficult, I’ll invite them to imagine that they’re at a crossroads. Again, this happens when, and if they go down this road, they choose this kind of treatment, and just imagine walking down that road and just imagine it going as far as you can and see what you imagine go down this road or go down as far as you can see what you imagine. Along the way, you’re just gonna flesh out the picture, and part of that’s gonna be able to see, “Is there something I can do about that? “Is there not something I can do about that? “Which one do I imagine “is gonna ultimately be better for me?” And kind of make that choice. What’s the difference between imagining going to the beach and being at the beach? So imagining being in a quiet, peaceful, safe place is the next best thing to actually being there. And it has certain advantages in that you can go anytime you want. And it’s, you can be there very quickly, and it’s very inexpensive. So you can go, so I’d like to go to the beach in Hawaii a lot. But I can’t go every day ’cause I work and I have responsibilities and so on, and I’m lucky if I can go every couple of years. But, I can, when I decide, “I’ve had enough, I need a break.” I can take a few deep breaths and I can close my eyes and I can be back in a particular, floating in the water just off of a beach. And I can immerse, when I do immerse myself and take the time to notice the different sensory qualities. What we know now from looking at brains on the functional MRI, is that if I make an effort to notice what I imagine seeing and hearing and feeling in the weightlessness of my body as I’m floating and the lapping of the waves on the surf and the smell of the plumerias and the humidity in the air, and I go through all that sensory stuff, that when I’m noticing what I’m seeing, the part of my brain that processes vision is active. When I’m noticing the sounds I’m hearing, the parts of my brain that process sound is active. When I’m noticing the sensory details, that part of my brain’s sensory cortex is active. So what you have is you have more and more parts of your cortex sending messages down to those lower, more reflexive parts of your brain and they’re saying, “It looks like I’m in Hawaii, sounds like I’m Hawaii. “It feels like I’m in Hawaii. “It smells like I’m in Hawaii.” And that part of your brain just goes, “Okay, all clear.” Sends out the All Clear signal, and a lot of things in your the body starts to go to work in a more effective manner that haven’t been able to work as well when you’re constantly reacting to messages of, “Lookout. “What’s next? “How am I gonna get that done? “Danger, threat, problem.” So on and so forth. Which is where we spend so much of our time, and that, so this little lizard brain is sitting there, “Lookout.” Right? And it’s constantly getting the body prepared for that and that’s exhausting. So if we’re spending 98% of our waking time and half our sleeping time dealing with those kinds of things, we see why we get exhausted. We get wired and tired. We have trouble sleeping. The body starts to signal that it needs something. So finding a way to get to those deeper levels and plug in a couple of those relaxation places as just a basic tool is I think one of the real fundamental benefits of guided imagery, which is a type of meditation at that level. And I really appreciate your attention. Thank you very much. I hope it was useful. (audience clapping) (upbeat music).

Recognizing and Treating Problematic Fear & Anxiety in Children | John Piacentini, PhD | UCLAMDChat

Hi, I’m John Piacentini. I am a Professor of Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences at the Semel Institute at UCLA. I also direct the Cares Center at UCLA, which is the Center for Child Anxiety Resilience Education in Support, and this is the center where we work with the community to develop programs to prevent child anxiety and promote resilient children. Today, I’m going to be talking about how to recognize and treat problematic fear and anxiety in children. And you can ask questions on Twitter using the hashtag #UCLAMDChat, and I’ll be answering–have a few minutes at the end of the talk to answer questions for you, and it’s a pleasure to be here to be doing this for you today. So, what I’m going to talk about today is how to describe and distinguish between normal, mild, and clinically problematic fear and anxiety, to describe some of the signs and signals that your child might have an anxiety problem, and to describe effective strategies for helping your child to manage his or her fear and anxiety. So, first is, what is anxiety, and how do I know if my child has a problem? Well, anxiety is an expectation of something bad happening. So, children that are anxious look a lot like adults that are anxious, and anxiety is really worrying about things that might happen in the future. “Am I going to get sick? Am I going to get a bad grade on this test? Is something going to happen to mom or dad? Are kids going to tease me now?” This is a little different from fear, which–we think a lot about children being fearful and anxious– what fear is, fear is an immediate reaction to an actual threat or a perceived threat, so fear is really in the moment, I see a bee flying at me and I’m afraid I’m going to get stung, I hear a dog barking I’m afraid I’m going to get bitten. So it really is something that’s more immediate. Anxiety is really worrying more about things that might happen in the future. When we think about anxiety or fears, we think about normal and developmental fears. So, anxiety and fear are really important aspects of us and of animals as well, and anxiety and fear are really nature’s early warning system, kind of our burglar alarm, or our alarm to let us know when something might be dangerous or harmful and to avoid it. So, when we think about different kinds of normal fears at different ages, we can think about infancy–so we know about infants, stranger anxiety or stranger fears–when the infant’s first able to differentiate between different people, they recognize that somebody is new or different from their parent, to their mother, and that will make them anxious–loud noises, also. Early childhood, you tend to see the normal fear is changing a little bit, and that becomes separation anxiety, becomes much more common. So, children are really attached to their parents or other important figures in their life, and they can certainly be afraid about something bad happening to them or getting separated, and you can see that in little kids, 2, 3, 4, and even older, worrying, always wanting to be with mommy or know where mommy or daddy are. You also start seeing fears of things like monsters, things that kids really aren’t aware of or don’t understand that can also be scary. We’re going to talk a little bit more about what this means just in a minute. Middle childhood–as children are in school, they’re meeting other kids, they’re more broadly engaged with the world. The fears also morph a little bit or change to reflect that. So they start worrying about real world dangers, kids start hearing about earthquakes or floods or droughts or fires, and they start getting worried about that or kidnappers, and new challenges that come up to them. They may start worrying more about school or how well they’re doing in school because all of a sudden school and academics are becoming more more difficult in adolescence. We all know adolescence is a time where children really–and adolescents and teens–focus their attention more on their peers and how they’re doing relative to other to other kids and others in their social group. So it’s not surprising that the most common normative fears or normal fears in adolescents relate to social status, social group performance to other people like me. “How well am I doing at these different kinds of activities?” These are all completely normal fears that people have kids have. What I want to talk about in just a second is how do you distinguish these typical fears, or these the normal developmental fears, from problematic fears and problematic anxiety? But first, let’s talk about a couple just general points about anxiety in general that characterize anxiety in children. As I just said, mild fears are very common in children, everybody has fears or worries at different points, and again, these are quite typical. The number of fears tends to decline with age, so young children have a lot of worries about a lot of things. As you get older, you tend to have fewer specific fears, and some of this is because as we get older, we have a better understanding of how the world works, so one, you think about young kids that worry a lot about monsters, or there’s something under my bed at night, when kids are afraid to sleep, or there’s somebody outside my window, and for children, when they hear noises like floorboards creaking or a tree branch blowing against the window, they really want to understand what’s going on, what’s going on with that, so the logical explanation for a lot of kids is that there’s a monster under my bed, or there’s something under my bed, and that actually helps them try to understand what’s going on. As we get older, we realize it’s not a monster under the bed, it may be the wood creaking, or it may be the wind blowing, so specific fears tend to reduce in frequency over the course of age. Overall, girls report a greater number of fears than boys, but this is age-related, so prior to puberty, boys and girls tend to report the same numbers of fears and have the same kind of the problem with anxiety. It’s pretty similar across boys and girls. Once adolescence occurs and into adulthood, the number of fears and the rates of anxiety disorder are higher in females than they are in males. The manner in which children express their fear, anxiety, and sadness–also which, oftentimes you do see sadness or depression associated with anxiety problems in children is really related to their level of cognitive and emotional development– so young children are more likely to express their fear or anxiety by clinging, by crying, maybe by tantruming, by stomachaches and headaches, a lot of physical symptoms. As you get older, the fear may be –children, they become more cognitively mature, they may be more likely to express their fears to worries and thoughts and things like that. As I said earlier, fears often change as children grow older. For example, from concrete things like the monsters in the dark, fear of getting sick, to more abstract fears, will others like me, what about my future, what’s going to happen with the world? And again, this just really reflects children as they mature into teenagers and eventually into adults, just the ability to think more abstractly, to think about the future. They have a broader perspective on topics that are on their minds, and their anxieties are going to reflect these topics, and again, the focus of fears tends to change over time, as I said. So, more specific fears for younger children; typically more social anxiety or social fears as kids get older. That’s not to say that social anxiety or shyness doesn’t occur in young children–it does quite a bit, and specific fears also occur in older kids, so you can have phobias or specific fears of dogs or the dark or things like that, but in general, if we look at the population as a whole, the specific fears tend to be more common in younger kids, and social fear is more common in older kids. So, let’s start thinking a little bit about–so all these normal fears that kids have, and this is what fears look like in children at different ages, so when do we start talking about problematic anxiety or an anxiety disorder? Well, again, even short episodes of anxiety are pretty common in kids, so your child may have a meltdown or maybe be upset about the first day of school. Being nervous or anxious about that–again, the anxiety that your child expresses is going to be above average, it’s going to be typically more than he or she might express in other situations, but this, again, this is probably relatively normal, and when we think about these anxiety episodes that aren’t really problematic, we think that they’re typically associated with some kind of a circumscribed event, or a specific event. So, going to a new school for the first day, which can be stressful, loud thunder, or a thunder and lightning storm, having to give an oral report in school, maybe experience some teasing at school, or being in new situations where they have to go to their first, say, piano lesson or soccer practice–these kinds of situations are typically associated with some anxiety or some worry. And some kids may not want to go, or they may refuse to go, they may get upset, but in most children, these are relatively short-lasting, that once they get over these first day jitters, they feel more comfortable, and then the activities that they’re doing may be positive for them and the anxiety will go away. So a child that’s new in school and maybe nervous about going to a birthday party for a classmate because they don’t know anybody– that’s pretty common, but once the child gets to the party, if there’s other kids that are friendly and they’re having fun, their fear is quickly going to go away. Same thing with child going to their first soccer practice–could be pretty frightening for them, but once they are able to get more comfortable with the team and what’s to be expected of them, then they’ll do fine. So the short-term episodes of anxiety, there’s little outbursts that are predictable, that are related to specific events, again, are pretty normal, usually not something to worry about. So when do we need to start worrying about anxiety? What’s the difference between these normal episodes and more problematic anxiety? Well, there are a couple of things to look for. The first is the intensity of the fear. So, is the child’s fear response or anxiety response within expected limits? For example, being nervous on the first day at a new school, or is it really out of proportion to the actual threat? Is the child expressing some nervousness, and saying, “Mommy, I don’t know, I’m scared, I don’t want to go to school.” Maybe a little extra clingy, maybe a little bit of crying, again, would probably be considered normal in most situations. But throwing a full-blown tantrum, screaming and yelling, trying to break things, trying to run out of the school, again, that’s a little bit of a greater intensity. A lot of children may be afraid of dogs, you know, walking in the park. If a big dog walks by, the child may cling a little closer to mommy or to somebody, the babysitter, or to somebody else–again, that’s not that unusual. However, if a little dog walks by and walks up and starts sniffing the child, if the child gets really upset or runs away or starts to cry again, that’s probably out of proportion to the potential threat of that dog. So we’re looking for intense fears that are surprising in, kind of, the degree or intensity of the response to the situation. The frequency of fears is another important thing to look for. So, again, the first day of school– even the first few days or the week or two of school might cause some nervousness in the child. If these fears or nervousness lasts longer than that, if it’s going on for several weeks or month or longer, again, that may indicate some kind of a problem. If the child is starting to get upset about things, tantruming, clinging, crying multiple times a day or multiple times a week over the same situation–again, that may indicate that there’s some kind of a problem. Is the context of the fear focused on an innocuous situation? It’s one thing to be afraid of a bulldog that’s barking or snarling–that’s actually appropriate. It’s another thing to get really upset about a cartoon dog, cartoon that has a picture of a dog in it, or a picture of a dog in a book, or a small little dog. Or a child going to the birthday party of somebody that they know well, or a friend, or visiting cousins– again, if the situation–if you look at the situation and it’s hard to figure out why the child might be afraid in that situation, that might be an indicator of more problematic anxiety. And does the fear occur spontaneously? So when we think about about normal fear or normal anxiety, typically, it’s triggered by something that we can understand–as I’ve said, first day of school, seeing a scary dog, trying something new for the first time, having to give a report in class, for example–some children may express fear, panic attacks, or just crying or upset or clinging or worrying for no apparent reason, it just comes on out of the blue, and in these situations, again, we’re looking, thinking that this might be something that could indicate a problem. So we have normal anxiety, we have problematic anxiety. When is anxiety actually a disorder? So, we’ve heard of anxiety disorders, and this would be something that probably would warrant intervention, and there are a number of factors that we’re going to be looking at. When the anxiety leads to significant avoidance– so if the child refuses to go to school, the child refuses to go to piano lessons or to go to play in the soccer games or baseball games for their team, the child refuses to go to birthday parties, the child may even refuse to want to be around their cousins or other people that they’re familiar with, the child refuses to go to the park because they’re afraid that there are going to be dogs at the park– when we see the anxiety resulting in the child starting to avoid important things or things that they should be doing, again, that’s when we think that it might be time to talk to somebody about getting help. Similar to avoidance is interference–when the anxiety really starts interfering in with important aspects of the child’s life. And, again, this would be the same thing. School–if the anxiety is causing the child to be so upset in school that he or she can’t do their work or be involved in other activities, or if the child is actually missing a lot of school because of anxiety, again, that’s a problem. We see a lot of children oftentimes will go to the school nurse or go to the office and ask to call their parent to be picked up, complaining of like stomachaches or headaches or other kinds of things. When we see patterns like this, again, that suggests to us that there probably is something that needs to be looked at. In terms of other types of interference, we can think about interference in terms of social functioning– so if we think about the job of being a child, what’s the job of being a child? The job is to go to school, to learn, so to prepare them for the world, and also to develop social relationships so that they can have friends, they can learn how to get along with others, how to negotiate with others, how to plan, how to organize things. And when children that are anxious–especially children with social anxiety–start avoiding social situations, or if the anxiety interferes with their ability to have friends or to keep friends, again, that’s a problem, and that’s something that we’re going to think about, it’s time to maybe look for treatment. Distress is another thing that we’re looking at, so–it’s one thing for the child to tantrum or get upset before school, the first few days of school. If they become really upset, if the anxiety is really distressing, really troubling, or upsetting to them over longer periods of time, that’s something we’re thinking about maybe problematic, and it’s not only distress for the child, it’s also distress for other family members. If the child’s anxiety begins to interfere with the functioning of other family members–all of a sudden, the family can’t go out to dinner, they can’t go to the park, or can’t do fun things that they like to do because the child is too upset or anxious, again, that could be a problem. And that can really be distressing to parents or to siblings as well. If siblings aren’t able to have a friend come over to play because it will upset their brother or sister who’s anxious about being around other people, again, that can be both upsetting, distressing, and interfering. And finally, duration. So, we talked about duration. It’s okay to be nervous the first few days of school. If the anxiety lasts, you know, for weeks or months or longer, again, that’s something that we would look at as potentially troubling. So if your child has anxiety that isn’t really interfering, it’s a little bit upsetting but it usually goes away or resolves, that child may be okay, that might be fine, the child may grow out of that anxiety. If the anxiety is leading to avoidance of important activities, if it’s leading to interference with the child’s ability to make or keep friends, with their schoolwork, or kind of typical family functioning, if the child is is overly distressed, or other family members are distressed by the child’s anxiety, or if the anxiety is lasting for longer periods of time, these are all signs that the anxiety may be problematic enough to look for help. So how common are anxiety disorders in children and adolescents? So we’re talking about children that actually have anxiety that meets these prior criteria that is sufficient enough to cause interference in their life and to possibly trigger on treatment. Well, it’s really the most common child psychiatric disorder in the country. If you look at all the different anxiety disorders combined, up to about 12%-20% of children, based on large-scale surveys–and this isn’t surveys of just kids in clinics, this is surveys of kids in schools and in the community–up to 12%-20% of kids in the community suffer from anxiety that may be interfering with their lives in one or another ways. So, let’s think. If you look at a typical classroom–I mean, that may be 3-5 kids or more in every classroom on average would suffer from some significant anxiety disorder, and when we think about the different types of anxiety disorders, some are more common than others, and I’m going to talk just a little bit about some of these more common disorders, but separation anxiety social anxiety disorder and generalized anxiety disorder are typically the most common disorders that we see. Also, specific phobia. So a specific fear of dogs, heights, the dark, etc. can be quite common. Other disorders that we see in children are obsessive-compulsive disorder–it’s also reasonably common, less than the others, selective mutism–when children are afraid to talk or unable or refuse to talk in school or in social situations although they’re able to talk at home– we see is about 1% or 2% along with OCD, and then agoraphobia, which your children are afraid to leave home, or panic disorder–children that have recurrent panic attacks for no reason–these are less common in children. So, let’s talk about some of the more common disorders and what they really look like. So, separation anxiety disorder is basically a disorder in which the child is afraid to be apart from parents or other major attachment figures, such as a grandparent or somebody else that’s really involved in taking care of the child because they’re afraid that if they separate or are separated from their parent or this other major attachment figure, something bad is going to happen to them or to the parent, and they’ll never see each other again. So they worry a lot about bad things happening to others. They worry that something bad is going to happen to them, they’re going to get lost if they go out to the store, or that when they go to school, they’re going to get kidnapped, or something’s going to happen to the parent when parents go out at night or parents are out running errands, or at work that something bad might be happening to them and the child will be left alone. These children are afraid to be home alone. They oftentimes will follow mom or dad around the house. They may be very clingy, they may not want to be left in the room by themselves, difficult sleeping alone at night. Separation in children are the children that always want to get in bed with the parent or have a parent sleep with them, and they also complain a lot of physical symptoms like headaches or stomachaches, and these–often it’s headaches or stomachaches– are used an excuse to stay home from school, and this is a reasonably common disorder. You know, we think about separation anxiety occurring in younger children, and it does, but we also see separation anxiety in teenagers, and actually, now we recognize that separation anxiety can also occur in adults, so we can have maybe a spouse or an adult child living with parents that might be worried about bad things happening to another family member. So you tend to see the separation anxiety in terms of the different symptoms that you would look out for in young children. They’re just pretty explicit. They’re worried about something bad happening to Mommy or Daddy. There’s–something bad might happen to them. They may have nightmares about being separated, they may refuse to go to school or not want to go to school. Children, when they get a little bit older, they get extremely upset when a parent tries to go out. They’re going to be left with the babysitter. That can lead to tantrums and screaming and yelling, and a lot of cases, parents are stuck staying home. And then older kids, even teenagers and in high school, tend to also want to stay home from school and describe a lot of stomachaches and headaches and other physical complaints. Another common disorder is social anxiety disorder, or social phobia, and what social anxiety is, it’s a marked and persistent fear of social situations in which the child or the teen is going to be exposed to new people or possible evaluation. So really, what this cuts down to is a child or a teen saying I don’t want to talk to people, I don’t want to go to parties, I don’t want to give book reports, I don’t want to be in public because I’m afraid I’m going to do something really embarrassing or humiliating and it’s going to be really, really upsetting. So this is like an extreme, extreme form of self-consciousness, and in being exposed in situations in public, the child or adolescent can become extremely anxious. They will try to avoid these situations as much as possible. It really leads to a lot of interference in functioning, and to give this as a diagnosis, the symptoms need to be present for at least six months. So when we think about that, how social anxiety looks in different children, maybe can begin as inhibited temperament. So these are the really clingy, shy children that you tend to see, even as very, very young babies, may be associated with selective mutism–as I said, children that are afraid to, are unable to talk in public settings, although they can talk at home, and then rates of social anxiety disorder tend to increase with age, so it’s more common in adolescents. And it’s also quite common in adults, and a lot of adults who have social anxiety disorder report that the symptoms first began when they were in adolescence. What are some of the commonly avoided situations we see with social anxiety disorder? Parties, meeting new people, entering a group of peers, talking one-on-one, dating, certainly, being assertive, standing up for themselves, having to do a performance like a book report, a piano recital, a soccer game, or baseball game– extremely difficult for youth with separation and social anxiety disorder–and even eating in public or using public restrooms, writing in public at school, can all be signs of social anxiety disorder. So the third disorder I’m going to talk about is generalized anxiety disorder, and as the name suggests, these are children that are worried or afraid about just about everything, so it’s excessive anxiety and worry that it is almost always present, and it’s worry about a number of different things. So, kids with generalized anxiety disorder worry about how well they are at other things, am I as good as other kids, am I good enough in sports, am I good enough in school. They worry about being on time, they worry about the family running out of money, they worry about parents getting a divorce even when there’s no problems at home, they worry about the Middle East, they worry about world events. These are kids that really worry about just about everything. The worry is really difficult to control, and the worry is oftentimes associated with physical symptoms like fatigue, restlessness, difficulty thinking, difficulty sleeping, muscle tension, as you might expect, because these kids are always tense or anxious. So kids with generalized anxiety are very self-conscious. They require frequent reassurance, so one of the tell-tale signs of generalized anxiety disorder is constant reassurance seeking. “Am I going to be okay? Is this okay? I’m worried about this bad thing happening.” A lot of what-if questions. “But what if this happens? What if I get lost? What if I run out of lunch money? What if a burglar breaks into the house? What if something bad happens at school?” What if, what if–they really worry a lot about the future, and they’re trying to get reassurance that things are going to be okay. Unfortunately, the reassurance doesn’t work, and the kids continue to worry. So how does anxiety interfere at school, which is oftentimes where the symptoms may be maybe initially picked up? So, when we think about generalized anxiety disorder, we think about excessive worry about schoolwork, friendships, schedules, procedures, things that they need to do, health, and they’re asking the teachers or other people at school for reassurance or repeatedly asking questions to make sure that things are going to be okay. Social phobia, or social anxiety, again, has significant impacts at school because children try to avoid school, or they try to avoid participating in class or speaking in class. I mean the socially anxious child’s worst nightmare is getting called on by the teacher, even if they know the answer, so they oftentimes tend to shrink down and try to be unnoticed. Very worried about doing something embarrassing in front of other kids. They may avoid the lunchroom. They may avoid recess and go in the library or hideout somewhere because they’re afraid, again, of doing something dumb or embarrassing or being humiliated in public. And then separation anxiety disorder also–worrying about something happening to parents. So if a child is in class all day worried about being separated from Mom or Dad, they’re not going to be able to concentrate on their schoolwork. They also oftentimes will go to the nurse with stomachaches or headaches to get picked up, and they will try to avoid school whenever they can. So, these anxiety disorders really do have significant impacts in school, and looking at this list, you know, it’s easy to imagine the kinds of impacts or impairments that these disorders can cause socially or also cause at home or with or with family. Now, we’ve talked about school refusal and children not wanting to go to school because they’re worried about social anxiety, they’re worried about something bad happening to Mom or Dad, and those are really common reasons why children refuse school, but school refusal is much broader than that, and there are a number of factors that need to be looked at if your child is refusing to go to school or only goes under extreme distress, and there are a number of things in addition to anxiety. So, separation fears are something that we would need to assess. Is it because the child is afraid of bad things happening to child or to mom? Social anxiety, they’re afraid they’re going to have to talk to other kids or be called on in class. Some children have test anxiety, they get extremely nervous when they have to do a test, even if they know the material. Even if they’re really smart and well-prepared, when they sit down to do the test, they get so anxious that they don’t do well. Other children may be bored or demoralized they have learning problems, ADHD, that may make school hard for them. Bullying or teasing at school should also be something that would be looked at, and as I said, learning problems may be another issue. So if your child has a problem with school refusal or doesn’t want to go to school, anxiety, is it may be that there’s anxiety underlying this issue, but there may be other issues as well that need to be identified? What are some of the warning signs for problematic child anxiety? So we’ve gone over a number of factors, but there are a couple of more specific things to look for. When we’re thinking about trying to identify anxiety, extreme shyness is certainly a marker or risk factor for social anxiety disorder. Isolation–again, if the child is afraid to be around other people because of social anxiety, they want to stay with parent, they’re going to avoid doing things with friends, going on playdates, and other kinds of things like that. Avoiding social situations, extreme discomfort when the center of attention, avoiding schoolwork, not wanting to do schoolwork or doing other kinds of activities for fear of making a mistake– this is something common in generalized anxiety, sort of, the kids are afraid of making mistakes– children with anxiety expect bad things to happen. They worry about upsetting others, often ask questions or ask for reassurance a lot more than other kids. Perfectionism is something that we see in anxious children. Excessive worry about failure–again, this fear of making mistakes or bad things happening, and you can also see children that are nervous or tense, that they may be jittery, shaky, high-strung, unable to relax. That may also indicate that there’s an anxiety problem, and then children with anxiety often lack self-confidence. Physical symptoms we’ve talked about–physical symptoms like trouble catching breath, stomachaches, or headaches, nausea, sweating, dizzy, faint, or lightheadedness, increased heart rate–if you’re anxious, your heart’s going to beat faster– maybe harder catching your breath, you may be more likely to sweat, and we want to look at the functional role of physical complaints. So what does this mean? Well, that would be, if the child complains of these symptoms, what happens? Does something good happen? Or does something bad happen? So, children that complained of stomachaches or headaches on school mornings, or they complain about the day that they’re going to have a test or have to do an oral report in class, they complained of stomachaches or headaches and they get to stay home–that serves to reinforce these headaches because the headaches or stomachaches or physical complaints will keep them from being in anxious situations, and that’s a good thing to the kids, so a lot of times when children do develop these these physical symptoms as part of their anxiety, over time they may learn that the symptoms are able to get them out of doing things. So if they don’t want to do something, if they’re afraid to go to the soccer game or the piano recital or go to the birthday party, they complain of feeling sick, and they’re allowed to stay home. That’s important to look out for when we’re screening anxiety. If you’re thinking about, “Does my child have a problem with anxiety?” there are a couple of questions that you can ask. Does your child worry or ask for reassurance from you almost every day? Does your child consistently avoid certain age-appropriate situations or activities or avoid doing these things without a parent? Does your child frequently have stomachaches, headaches, or episodes of hyperventilation? And does your child have daily repetitive rituals that we might find an obsessive-compulsive disorder? Things like repetitive hand washing, or needing to organize or arrange things in certain ways. Now, if you can say yes to any of these questions, that doesn’t mean that your child has an anxiety disorder, but it means that it’s something that you should watch out for, some of the other things that we’ve been talking about, and if so, then that may be the reason to contact a mental health professional to get some advice on what to do. So we’ve talked about what anxiety is. I just will have the last couple of minutes. I want to talk about what are some ways to manage child anxiety and are some things that you can do to manage your child’s anxiety. Well, first of all, we need to understand a little bit better about how anxiety works, and when we think about the anxiety we think about anxiety being expressed in 3 different ways, we call these the 3 channels of anxiety. The first channel is thoughts, so children with anxiety tend to worry, they have negative or biased thoughts. So people with anxiety–children and adults–tend to see the world as a more dangerous place. They tend to see neutral things, or even positive things sometimes, as potentially dangerous. For example, going to a birthday party, going to Six Flags with friends–that would be fun to most kids– but to an anxious child, they might worry about getting sick or getting hurt or getting lost at Six Flags, or they may worry about not having any friends or people making fun of them at the birthday party. So this negative or biased thought is very characteristic of anxiety. And poor concentration–if the anxiety is making them worry, they’re going to have less ability to concentrate on the other things that are going on, like at school. Feelings or emotions or physical symptoms are the second channels, so physical symptoms like headaches, stomachaches, sweating, heart racing–are another way that anxiety is expressed, physically through the child’s body. And we can also add emotions here as well, so feelings of fear, worry, or feelings of fear, for example–and then behaviors. So the third channel is children with anxiety express their anxiety through some behaviors: avoidance– trying to avoid things or staying home, clinging, crying, tantrum, and the like, so we want to pay attention to both the thoughts that are associated with anxiety, the physical feelings associated with anxiety, and the behaviors. And in treatment, and what you can see–I guess this slide didn’t come out exactly right– but you can see that each of these circles–thoughts, feelings, and behaviors– all interact with each other. So if my thoughts get worse I start thinking about anxiety or something bad happening, that’s going to make my body, my heart rate starts racing faster, maybe I’ll get more short of breath, and that may lead me to start crying or clinging to Mom or avoiding things, and that they will lead my thoughts getting even worse and my feelings getting more pronounced and my behaviors getting more extreme, and you can see how that’s going to roll into a tantrum. And as an example–here we go– you can see this a little bit better here, the circle goes round and round and round, and the more scared I start getting in my thoughts, the more my body’s going to react in becoming more extreme, in terms of heart beating, etc., which is going to lead to more anxious behaviors, and again, that goes around and it gets worse. So as an example, for a child, giving an oral report in class is going to say the kids are going to think I’m stupid, and that’s going to lead to sweating and shaking and heart flushing. It may lead to avoidance or freezing, the child’s up in front of the class not being able to say anything, shaking– now they’re going to think I’m stupid, and that’s going to lead these physical symptoms to get worse, and that’s going to lead to even more avoidance, and the child’s really paralyzed now, and it goes around and around and around and it gets worse, and worse so in treatment, what we want to do is break the connections between the thoughts, the feelings, and the behaviors. And the way we do that is through something called cognitive behavior therapy, and in children, when we’re working with cognitive behavior therapy, oftentimes we will work on changing the thoughts and the feelings first by giving the children–so in terms of doing work with the feelings, we’re going to teach the children how to use deep breathing, muscle relaxation strategies, stress management strategies to reduce their heart rate, to calm their bodies, and then we can work with them to generate more positive thoughts, coping thoughts, how can they cope and turn these negative thoughts into more positive thoughts, and once we have them calm, and once we have them thinking more clearly, then we can work on the avoidance behaviors by helping them give book reports or playing soccer games, etc. So, it’s a very systematic type of treatment that we’re doing with these kids. The other thing that’s incredibly important to know about anxiety is something we call the anxiety cycle, and what we typically see when children are anxious is–it’s time to get up for school, say, for a child with separation anxiety, and the child starts worrying about something bad happening to Mom, or I have to give a book report in school, they start getting worried, and they get a stomachache, and they get upset, and they don’t want to go to school, and they may tantrum, and finally Mom or Dad just says forget it, just stay home. And what happens when they stay home? The anxiety goes away because the dangerous situation is gone. What this does is serves as negative reinforcement, and what negative reinforcement is, is if I do something and it makes a bad thing go away, I’m going to do that more and more, because it’s like a reward, and the bottom line is the more you give in to your child, the worse the anxiety gets. So if I let my child stay home when she’s anxious about going to school, that’s going to teach her that she can stay home from school by just tantrums, and every day, if she tantrums and I let her stay home, then she’s learning that tantrums are good, tantrums keep me home, tantrums keep me safe. So the more we give in to the tantrums, the more we’re teaching the child to use tantrums to stay home. In treatment, we want to break this cycle, and we want to–even if the child is upset, she still needs to go to school, or he still needs to go to school, we don’t give in to the tantrums, and again, this is something hard to do on your own if your child is having significant tantrums, but in treatment, this is what we would work on. But there are a couple of things, as my last two slides– there are a couple of things that you can do to try to break these cycles, and they are as follows: reward your child’s courageous behaviors–so as parents, we oftentimes tend to the things that worry us, so we pay more attention to the anxiety or to the negative behaviors than we do to the positive behaviors. We want to catch our children being courageous and encourage our children to be courageous. We may start with little things. It may be too much for the child to go to the soccer game, but maybe we can go to the playground with the child instead. Avoid giving in to your child’s fear behaviors. This is what I was just saying before. Don’t give in to their attempts to avoid things they should be doing. Children need to go to school. Children need to go to piano practice and soccer practice, because the more they go, over time, again, with the appropriate, you know, coping strategies and support, then the activities should become more familiar, should be more fun for them, and their anxiety will decrease. Teach your child how to communicate, how to cope, and how to problem-solve, and you can model this, you know, “Some things make me afraid too, but I just know that I can get through it, and I want to go see, so you may assume that something bad is going to happen, but let’s go see because the chances are that nothing bad will happen.” And again, for parents, the Most Important thing that you can do is to control your anxiety. It’s so important because as parents– and I’m a parent–and when our children are upset, we worry about those things, and the children see that anxiety. When they see us worrying, that makes them even more worried because now they think there’s something real going on, so we want to be brave, we want to control our anxiety even if we’re worried about our children. That doesn’t mean we can’t worry about our children. It just means we have to worry about them where the children can’t see that. So we’re being anxious, we’re being brave, and we’re encouraging and supportive of our children. It’s going to be important. That’s going to be helpful in terms of treatment, and then the final thing is when you get in these situations with a tantrum, the child is trying to avoid, what can you do? Well, the important thing is you want to disengage from the tantrum at the earliest possible point. If the child’s going back and forth, the worst thing you can do is get into a screaming match because the kids usually win the screaming matches, or if they don’t, by the time you’ve escalated to the point screaming, screaming, screaming, screaming, whoever winds up here, it’s going to be a pyrrhic victory because everybody’s so riled up about this. So what you want to do is avoid engaging in back and forth arguing. “You’re going to school,” “You’re going to soccer, here are your clothes, I’ll be back in a minute.” And try to avoid the back-and-forth. Now, when you try to disengage in this way, typically the child’s behavior is going to escalate, it’s going to get worse, but it’s important to wait that out. You want to avoid it, maintain a calm and non-emotional reaction. If you’re getting upset or angry, that’s going to make the child more upset or angry. We want to be neutral, we want to just avoid punishment and stay calm, and the calmest participant in these activities is going to win. If you can keep your calm, the child will eventually give up. If you get upset, then the child is is is more likely to win. As soon as the child calms down, even for a second, even for a moment, then you can engage him or her in a different activity. The child’s tant truming, you’re screaming, and if they just stop and settle for a minute, you can say, “Great. Let’s go get breakfast,” or “Great. Let’s do something else.” You want to take them out of the moment and engage in something that’s maybe a little bit more positive. And then you can work with them from that sense. And it’s okay to include a discussion of the event, to talk about what happened, but you don’t want to do it at the moment. You can’t do it at the moment when the child’s upset. The goal is that the child needs to calm down, and then you can talk to them about the event. These are all things that are done in cognitive behavioral therapy, which is an evidence-based treatment for anxiety. It’s the most well-tested treatment for anxiety, and it is what’s recommended for children with this problem. So I’m going to stop here, and I want to thank you for your attention, and I hope this was helpful. So I see we have a couple of questions here from Twitter. The first is “Is anxiety a genetic disorder?” Well, there’s been a lot of research showing that anxiety does have a genetic basis in some, but not all, cases. So we know that anxiety tends to run in families. Parents of anxious children are more likely to have anxiety, and there has been some research identification with anxiety, we’re not quite there yet. But yes, anxiety does have a genetic basis, but that doesn’t mean that all anxious children have this genetic basis. We know that genes or genetics accounts for a proportion of children with anxiety, and in terms of treating children with anxiety, it doesn’t make a difference if we’re using treatment, for kids, whether or not they come from an anxious family or not, so the fact that it might have a genetic basis in one child doesn’t make treatment more difficult with them. It is important, though, to include parents in the treatment of anxious children regardless of whether there’s a genetic relationship or not because parents are so important in helping children manage anxiety, as I just said in the last couple of slides. “What are the long-term effects of child anxiety?” Well, untreated, anxiety can stay chronic for a long time, and most adults with anxiety have the onset of their anxiety at some point in childhood. So it doesn’t necessarily go away by itself in all cases. In many cases, it will get better, it will resolve, but in a proportion of cases, it will stay and maintain for long periods, which can be significant because if you think about an adult with social anxiety disorder, again, they may not be comfortable in social situations, which may limit their ability to maximize their education to get the best possible job that they can get, and we do see there’s a higher risk over time, with untreated anxiety, for the individuals to develop depression and even use alcohol or other substances to help manage your anxiety. So there are some considerable risks. In severe cases of anxiety, a lot of children with treatment, they’ll go on to lead normal lives. “Does the brain of someone who suffers from social anxiety differ from a normal brain?” Well, there have been some studies looking at different areas of the brain, I mean, social anxiety–and there are some findings from neuroimaging studies and from similar kinds of studies suggesting there are some specific parts of the brain or circuits of the brain that may be overactive in individuals with anxiety, and this is really exciting work, and we’re hoping that we’re going to be able to develop better treatments as a result of this. And, “What literature can I read about anxiety?” Well, there are some great places to get more information about anxiety. One place is the carescenter@ucla.edu website, where we have information on that. There are some other great books and sites, as well. If you go on Amazon, there are some books on the anxiety that you can look at on child anxiety and about how to parent children with anxiety, so there are a lot of really great resources out there, and websites that you can find. And I think that is it. So, our time is up, and thank you very much…

OCD and Anxiety Disorders: Crash Course Psychology #29

Ever heard a really good joke about polio? Or made a casual reference to someone having hepatitis? Or maybe teased your buddy by saying he has muscular dystrophy? Of course you have never done that, because you are not a terrible person. You’d never make fun of someone for having a physical illness, but folks make all kinds of offhand remarks about people having mental illnesses and never give it a second thought. How often have you heard a person say that someone’s psycho, or schizo, or bipolar, or OCD? I can pretty much guarantee that the people who used those terms had no idea what they actually meant. We’ve talked about how psychological disorders and the people who have them have often been stigmatized. But at the same time, we tend to minimize those disorders, using them as nicknames for things that people do, think, or say, that may not exactly be universal, but are still basically healthy. And we all do it, but only because we don’t really understand those conditions. But that’s why we’re here, because as we go deeper into psychological disorders, we get a clearer understanding of their symptoms, types, causes, and the perspectives that help explain them. And some of the most common disorders have their root in an unpleasant mental state that’s familiar to us all: anxiety. It’s a part of being human, but for some people it can develop into intense fear, and paralyzing dread, and ultimately turn into full-fledged anxiety disorder. Defining psychological disorders again: a deviant, distressful, and dysfunctional pattern of thoughts, feelings, or behaviors that interferes with the ability to function in a healthy way. So when it comes to anxiety, that definition is the difference between the guy you probably called phobic because he didn’t like Space Mountain as much as you did, and the person who truly can’t leave their house for fear of interacting with others. It’s the difference between the girl who’s teased by her friends as being OCD because she does her laundry every night and the girl who has to wash her hands so often that they bleed. Starting today, you’re going to understand all of those terms you’ve been using. We commonly equate anxiety with fear, but anxiety disorders aren’t just a matter of fear itself. A key component is also what we do to get rid of that fear. Say someone almost drowned as a kid and is now afraid of water. A family picnic at the river may cause that anxiety to bubble up, and to cope, they may stay sequestered in the car, less anxious but probably still unhappy while the rest of the family is having fun. So, in clinical terms, anxiety disorders are characterized not only by distressing, persistent anxiety but also often by the dysfunctional behaviors that reduce that anxiety. At least a fifth of all people will experience a diagnosable anxiety disorder of some kind at some point in their lives. That is a lot of us. So I want to start out with a condition that used to be categorized as an anxiety disorder but is now considered complex enough to be in a class by itself, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or OCD. You probably know that condition is characterized by unwanted repetitive thoughts, which become obsessions, which are sometimes accompanied by actions, which become compulsions. And it is a great example of a psychological disorder that could use some mental-health myth busting. Being neat, and orderly, and fastidious does not make you OCD. OCD is a debilitating condition whose sufferers take normal behaviors like, washing your hands, or double checking that you turned off the stove and perform them compulsively. And they often use these compulsive, even ritualistic behaviors to relieve intense and unbearable anxiety. So, soon they’re scrubbing their hands every five minutes, or constantly checking the stove, or counting the exact number of steps they take everywhere they go. If you’re still unclear about what it means for disorders to be deviant, distressful and dysfunctional, OCD might help you understand. Because it is hard to keep a job, run a household, sit still, or do much of anything if you feel intensely compelled to run to the kitchen twenty times an hour. And both the thoughts and behaviors associated with OCD are often driven by a fear that is itself obsessive, like if you don’t go to the kitchen right now your house will burn down and your child will die which makes the condition that much more distressing and self-reinforcing. There are treatments that help OCD including certain kinds of psychotherapy and some psychotropic drugs. But the key here is that it is not a description for your roommate who cleans her bathroom twice a week, or the guy in the cubicle next to you, who only likes to use green felt tip pens. And even though OCD is considered its own unique set of psychological issues, the pervasive senses of fear, worry, and loss of control that often accompany it, have a lot in common with other anxiety disorders. The broadest of these is Generalized Anxiety Disorder or GAD. People with this condition tend to feel continually tense and apprehensive, experiencing unfocused, negative, and out-of-control feelings. Of course feeling this way occasionally is common enough, but feeling it consistently for over six months – the length of time required for a formal diagnosis – is not. Folks with GAD worry all the time and are frequently agitated and on edge, but unlike some other kinds of anxiety, patients often can’t identify what’s causing the anxiousness, so they don’t even know what to avoid. Then there’s Panic Disorder, which affects about 1 in 75 people, most often teens and young adults. It’s calling card is Panic Attacks or sudden episodes of intense dread or sudden fear that come without warning. Unlike the symptoms of GAD which can be hard to pin down, Panic Attacks are brief, well-defined, and sometimes severe bouts of elevated anxiety. And if you’ve ever had one, or been with someone who has, you know that they call these attacks for good reason. They can cause chest pains and racing heartbeat, difficulty breathing and a general sense that you’re going crazy or even dying. It’s as awful as it sounds. We’ve talked a lot about the body’s physiological fight or flight response and that’s definitely part of what’s going on here, even though there often isn’t an obvious trigger. There may be a genetic pre-disposition to panic disorder, but persistent stress or having experienced psychological trauma in the past can also set you up for these attacks. And because the attacks themselves can be downright terrifying, a common trigger for panic disorder is simply the fear of having another panic attack. How’s that for a kick in the head? Say you have a panic attack on a bus, or you find yourself hyperventilating in front of dozens of strangers with nowhere to go to calm yourself down, that whole ordeal might make you never want to be in that situation again, so your anxiety could lead you to start avoiding crowded or confined places. At this point the initial anxiety has spun of into a fear of anxiety which means, welcome you’ve migrated into another realm of anxiety disorder, Phobias. And again this is a term that’s been misused for a long time to describe people who, say, they don’t like cats, or are uncomfortable on long plane trips. Simply experiencing fear or discomfort doesn’t make you phobic. In clinical terms, phobias are persistent, irrational fears of specific objects, activities, or situations, that also, and this is important, leads to avoidance behavior. You hear a lot about fears of heights, or spiders, or clowns, and those are real things. They’re specific phobias that focus on particular objects or situations. For example, the Chesapeake Bay Bridge in Maryland is a seven-thousand meter span that crosses the Chesapeake Bay, if you want to get to or from Eastern Maryland that’s pretty much the only way to do it, at least in a car, but there are thousands of people who are so afraid of crossing that bridge that they simply can’t do it. So, to accommodate this avoidance behavior, driver services are available. For $25 people with Gephyrophobia, a fear of bridges, can hire someone to drive themselves, and their kids, and dogs, and groceries across the bridge in their own car, while trying not to freak out. But other phobias lack such specific triggers, what we might think of as social phobia, currently known as social anxiety disorder, is characterized by anxiety related to interacting or being seen by others, which could be triggered by a phone call, or being called on in class, or just thinking about meeting new people. So you can probably see at this point how anxiety disorders are related and how they can be difficult to tease apart. The same thing can be said about what we think causes them. Because much in the same way anxiety can show up as both a feeling like panic, and a thought, like is my kitchen on fire, there are also two main perspectives on how we currently view anxiety as a function of both learning and biology. The learning perspective suggests that things like, conditioning, and observational learning and cognition, all of which we’ve talked about before best explain the source of our anxiety. Remember our behaviorist friend, John B. Watson and his conditioning experiments with poor little Albert, by making a loud scary noise every time you showed the kid a white rat, he ended up conditioning the boy to fear any furry object, from bunnies, to dogs, to fur coats. That conditioning used two specific learning processes to cement itself in Little Albert’s young mind. Stimulus Generalization, expanded or generalized his fear of the rat to other furry objects, the same principle holds true if you were, like, attacked by your neighbours mean parrot and subsequently fear all birds. But then the anxiety is solidified through reinforcement, every time you avoid or escape a feared situations, a pair of fuzzy slippers or a robin on the street, you ease your anxiety, which might make you feel better temporarily, but it actually reinforces your phobic behavior, making it stronger. Cognition also influences our anxiety, whether we interpret a strange noise outside as a hungry bear, or a robber, or merely the wind, determines if we roll-over and keep snoring, or freak out and run for a kitchen knife. And we might also acquire anxiety from other people through observational learning. A parent who’s terrified of water may end up instilling that fear in their child by violently snatching them away from kiddie pools or generally acting anxious around park fountains and duck ponds. But there’re also equally important biological perspectives. Natural selection, for instance, might explain why we seem to fear certain potentially dangerous animals, like snakes, or why fears of heights or closed in spaces are relatively common. It’s probably true that our more wary ancestors who had the sense to stay away from cliff edges and hissing serpents were more likely to live another day and pass along their genes, so this might explain why those fears can persist, and why even people who live in places without poisonous snakes would still fear snakes anyway. And then you got the genetics and the brain chemistry to consider. Research has shown for example that identical twins, those eternal test subjects, are more likely to develop phobias even if they’re raised apart. Some researchers have detected seventeen different genes that seem to be expressed with various anxiety disorders. So it may be that some folks are just naturally more anxious than others and they might pass on that quality to their kids. And of course individual brains have a lot to say about how they process anxiety. Physiologically, people who experience panic attacks, generalized anxiety, or obsessive compulsions show over-arousal in the areasof the brain that deal in impulse control and habitual behaviors. Now we don’t know whether these irregularities cause the disorder or are caused by it, but again, it reinforces the truism that everything that is psychological is simultaneously biological. And that holds true for many other psychological disorders we’ll talk about in the coming weeks, many of which have names that you’ve also heard being misused in the past. Today you learned what defines an anxiety disorder, as well as the symptoms of obsessive compulsive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, panic disorder and phobias. You also learned about the two main perspectives on the origins of anxiety disorders, the learning perspective and the biological perspective and hopefully you learned not to use “OCD” as a punch line from now on. Thanks for watching, especially to all of our Subbable subscribers who make Crash Course available to them and also to everyone else. To find out how you can become a supporter just go to subbable.com/crashcourse. This episode was written by Kathleen Yale, edited by Blake de Pastino, and our consultant is Dr. Ranjit Bhagwat. Our director and editor is Nicholas Jenkins, the script supervisor is Michael Aranda who is also our sound designer and the graphics team is Thought Cafe..

The Power Threat Meaning Framework

The Power Threat Meaning Framework is a new perspective on why people sometimes experience a whole range of forms of distress, confusion, fear, despair, and troubled or troubling behavior. It is an alternative to the more traditional models based on psychiatric diagnosis. It was co-produced with service users and applies not just to people who have been in contact with the mental health or criminal justice systems, but to all of us. The Framework summarizes and integrates a great deal of evidence about the role of various kinds of power in people’s lives; the kinds of threats that misuses of power pose to us; and the ways we have learned as human beings to respond to threats. In traditional mental health practice, these threat responses are sometimes called ‘symptoms’. The Framework also looks at how we make sense of these difficult experiences, and how messages from wider society can increase our feelings of shame, self-blame, isolation, fear, and guilt. The main aspects of the Framework are summarized in these questions, which can apply to individuals, families, or social groups: ‘What has happened to you?’ (How is Power operating in your life?) ‘How did it affect you?’ (What kind of Threats does this pose?) ‘What sense did you make of it?’ (What is the Meaning of these situations and experiences to you?) ‘What did you have to do to survive?’ (What kinds of Threat Responses are you using?) In addition, the two questions below help us to think about what skills and resources people might have, and how we might pull all these ideas and responses together into a personal narrative or story: ‘What are your strengths?’ (What access to Power resources do you have?) ‘What is your story?’ (How does all this fit together?)

 

Don’t Take It Personally

Who hasn’t felt the sting of rejection? It doesn’t take much for your feelings to get hurt—a look or a tone of voice or certain words can set you ruminating for hours on what that person meant. An unreturned phone call or a disappointing setback can really throw you off your center. It’s all too easy to take disappointment and rejection personally. You can learn to handle these feelings and create positive options for yourself. Don’t Take It Personally! explores all forms of rejection, where it comes from, and how to overcome the fear of it. Most of all, you’ll learn some terrific tools for stepping back from those overwhelming feelings. You’ll be able to allow space to make choices about how you respond. —Understand the effect that anxiety, frustration, hurt, and anger have on your interactions with others. —De-personalize your responses and establish safe personal boundaries that protect you from getting hurt. —Practice making choices about the thoughts you think and the ways you respond to stressful situations. —Understand and overcome the fear of rejection in personal and work relationships. Elayne Savage explores with remarkable sensitivity the myriad of rejection experiences we experience with friends, co-workers, lovers, and family. Because her original ideas have inspired readers around the world, Don’t Take It Personally! has been published in six languages.

Getting Help For Your Panic Attacks And Other Anxieties

Are you having trouble getting rid of your panic attacks and other anxiety-related problems? It is not easy to manage your anxieties, however here are some techniques a person can use to help conquer their panic attacks and other anxiety-related symptoms.The first step is that you should talk to a professional who can get you started on the right path of getting better. Getting help from a counselor or other professional is very important and can provide you much help and insights in dealing with your current problem.A good way to manage your anxiety is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your fearful or anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense.When overwhelmed with worry, a person may encounter a lot of scary thoughts coming at them all at once. Instead of getting upset, remember that these thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. From my interviews with various professionals, I’ve learned that usually, it is the fear behind the thoughts that gets us worked up. Ignore the fear behind these thoughts, and your worry should decrease.Sometimes, we get stressed when everything happens all at once. Instead of taking it out on someone else a person should take a deep breath and try to find something to do for a few minutes to get their mind off of the problem. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. This mental timeout can help you refocus on your current situation.Another thing to remember is that things change and events do not stay the same. For instance, you may feel overwhelmed today with your anxiety and feel that this is how you will feel the rest of the week or month. This isn’t correct. No one can predict the future with 100 Percent accuracy. Even if the thing that you feared does happen there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage.As a Layman, I realize that experiencing a panic attack is scary. The next time it happens remember to apply some of these techniques you recently learned. The key is to be patient and not to give up. In time, you will be able to cope with your panic attacks.

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Stop having panic attacks now: exposure, coping, and grounding

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