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5 Things Never Share With Anyone | Albert Einstein Quotes | Quotes | Einstein| Quotes_Change_life

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Five things you should never share with anyone  Albert Einstein everyone has a problem but if   yours become so alarming others will leave theirs  and debate yours there are things you should share   with people and there are things you never share  with people no matter how close they are to you
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Albert Einstein summarized those things  into just five because if you are able   to keep these five things private  other things will fall into place let’s look at the five things you should  never share with people by Albert Einstein
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number one The Secret of your success this does   not mean that you cannot motivate  and inspire people with your success   going about sharing those secrets to your  success with everyone is not advisable
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in this world we live in you don’t actually know   what people are really made of  we still have good ones no Dot it will be an advantage for you to go about  your normal business without having to  
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share how and the things you do in secret  that make you more successful than others   if you tell someone The Secret of your  success people will try to do the same   thing but if they fail they will accuse you of  not telling them the truth so never tell anybody  
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The Secret of your success [Music] number  two don’t share your problem with anyone sharing our problems makes us feel lighter and  less burden but instead of solving the problem   telling it to people can actually increase it in  fact 70 percent of people are happy to hear about  
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your problem and 10 percent really care so think  twice before telling someone your problem [Music]   when you go about sharing your problems with   people you open yourself up to  be used as an objective gossip
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so many people don’t really care about your  problems some of them are happy that you have them best thing you can do for yourself is to   find a way to solve your problems  without opening yourself to people
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no matter how much you trust them your  problems should remain private unless you   are sharing it with your doctor therapist or other  Professionals for professional advice and help number three don’t share your dreams with anyone
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if you have already set your goals and your  dreams in life it is best to keep them to yourself   because sharing them can affect your point of view  and your purpose and you can get caught up in it always remember that you cannot  get the same advice or opinion  
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from others because everybody  has a different point of view talking about point of view your dream  may seem like a joke or even worthless   to so many people you might be seeing  light while they are seeing Darkness
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point of view differs everyone must  not agree with you but that is not   a problem keep it to yourself and work on  it consistently until it becomes a reality number four don’t share with  anyone how much you earn
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your income is definitely something that  others should not be aware of if you go   about sharing everything about your income  and personal finance with people you will   soon attract unnecessary hatred for yourself  [Music] your income and personal finances  
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should be between you and yourself if  you need advice concerning your money   you should channel the questions to the  appropriate Authority not to your friends number five don’t share your  family problems with anyone
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there is no family that dong have a problem  some have big problems while some have small   ones but sharing the problem with someone  would never solve these problems sharing   with others only aggravate the problem  [Music] it is called family problems  
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and it should remain within the family and its  members no third party should take part in it every family has its own different problem but if   yours becomes too alarming others  will leave theirs and debate yours
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How to Remove Negative Thoughts? Sadhguru Jagadish Vasudev Answers

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Sadhguru: There are no subtractions and  divisions in our mind, there is only addition   and multiplication. ‘I will just remove negative  thoughts and I will have positive thoughts,’   all the best, it’s not going to work. It’s just  that you need to pay little attention as to how   it functions. You will see there is a distinction  between what is you and what you have gathered. Well, see the way the question is asked and also  the way normally it’s addressed is, people think   there is something called as negative thought and  positive thought. They want to remove the negative   thoughts and have only positive thoughts. For  such people, I would ask them to just experiment   for ten, fifteen seconds. Let them forcefully  remove one thought from their mind. For example,   next ten seconds, just don’t think of  a monkey. Try not to think of a monkey   for next ten seconds – you will see, you will  be full of monkeys. So, what I am saying is,   this is the nature of your mind, because  in this mind, all the three pedals are   throttle – there is no brake, there is no clutch  – whatever you touch, it will only go faster.
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In this kind of mind, people have been taught  from moral teachers and religious teachers,   “Do not think about bad things.” Well,  since then, it’s been a full-time job.   So, there is no way you can handle the mind like  this, this doesn’t need any great enlightenment.   If you spend two minutes with your eyes  closed, you will realize, you cannot do   anything forcefully with this mind. So, ‘I want to  remove negative thoughts,’ do not ever go in this   direction, because what you want to remove will  become your quality, always you will be on it.   “So, what should I do?” The thing is this –  without understanding the fundamental mechanism of   this mind, because our mind, human mind is the  most sophet… sophisticated computer on the planet.   Even all the supercomputers have come out of this.   When this is the case, is it not important that  we understand the mechanics of how it functions? One simplistic aspect of how  it functions is – there are no   subtractions and divisions in our mind, there  is only addition and multiplication. If you try   to do something with it, it will say, “One more.”  If you try hard, it will multiply into many more.   In this mind, you don’t try to identify what is  positive, what is negative and try to remove it.   First of all, one needs to understand, this  mind of yours, this body of yours is supposed   to serve you. The life that you are is important.  Body and mind are vehicles that must serve us. If you sit in a vehicle, it must go (Laughs),  where you want to go. If it goes to its own   destination, what is the point of such a  vehicle? It’s just a nuisance. Right now,   most human beings are unfortunately, experiencing  this fantastic possibility of human mind   as a nuisance, as a troublesome thing. Well,  this is the most beautiful thing you have.   It’s just that you need to pay little attention  as to how it functions. One simple thing is this –   first and foremost process is… that’s why  we put out this process called ‘Isha Kriya.’   This is to distance yourself from your  physiological and psychological process.   There is something called as, “You” which exists.  This is not a composite of all your thoughts and   emotions and physiological processes. Beyond  that, there is you. If you close your eyes,   even if you cannot see anything, you’re still  there. It is through the window of your eyes   that you are looking out, but if you close your  eyes, it doesn’t mean that you don’t exist,   you still exist. So, beyond your thought you  still exist, beyond your emotion you still   exist, so that you, the life that you are,  this has to come into your experience. Why is it that you’re not allowing  that to come into your experience,   which is the most significant aspect of who you  are? Who you are right now, the most significant   aspect is – you and me are alive right now,  this is it. ‘What I’m thinking, what you’re   thinking’ is not the important thing. We are  alive right now, that is the important thing.   So, it is important that you focus on this  fundamental sense of aliveness within you,   and then you will see there is a natural  distance between you and your thought process.
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Once there is a distance between your  psychological process and your physiological   process, this is the end of suffering. Because  there are only two kinds of suffering that human   beings go through – physical suffering and mental  suffering. Once you create a little space between   you and your mind, between you and your body, this  is the end of suffering. This is something every   human being has to experience and know, otherwise  thinking, “I will just remove negative thoughts   and I will have positive thoughts,” all the  best, it’s not going to work. One hundred percent   it’s not going to work, because nobody can  remove it, they can avoid it for some time. So, when negative thoughts come, you say,  “Ram, Ram, Shiva, Shiva,” whatever you want,   but this is just avoiding, it’s not gone. The  moment you stop that, it will pop back with   great force, otherwise it will come back in your  dreams. So, it’s very important. First of all, you   need to understand – your anger, your resentment,  your fear, your anxieties, the negativity that   you generate; generally resentment, anger,  it is always directed towards somebody.   But we need to understand this is poisons that we  are drinking and expecting somebody else to die. Fortunately, life doesn’t work like  that. If I drink poison, I die.   If I drink poison, you don’t die. So, we need to  understand this. When I say, “Poison” – today,   you can have yourself chemically analyzed. Right  now, ‘what is your blood work?’ What it says,   five minutes of intense anger, check your blood  work and see, there will be lots of negative   elements in it. Literally, you’re poisoning  yourself. So, do you want to poison yourself?   Definitely not. Now the very question is coming  from certain helplessness, ‘What shall I do?’ Don’t do anything. Just sit back and just concern  yourself with something which is the life process,   maybe your heartbeat, maybe your breath,  maybe just the sensation of being alive.   Depending upon how sensitive or how perceptive  you are, accordingly, find something, it could   be a sensation in the body, it could be breath,  it could be heartbeat, it could be anything,   something which indicates life to you. Just pay  attention to that for some time. Slowly, you will   see there is a distinction between what is you and  what you have gathered, which includes both your   physiological and psychological possibility  or mess, whatever you’ve made out of it.
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Supercharge Your Therapy Sessions: 35 Essential CBT Tools for Trauma

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CEUs are available at AllCEUs.com/CBT-CEU everybody and welcome to this video  on 35 trauma-informed cognitive   behavioral therapy techniques  i’m your host dr donnelly snipes
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as the title implies in this video we’re going to  review 35 cognitive behavioral therapy tools that   can be used to help people feel safer and more  empowered now if you’re looking for a specific   tool there are time stamps down in the video  notes just fyi because 35 is a lot of tools  
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so that can help you jump around  a little bit more if you need to in terms of the principles  of trauma-informed cognitive   behavioral therapy the goal is to use people’s  strengths build on what they’re already doing  
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help people recognize that they are the experts on  their own lives and tools and strategies they’ve   developed in order to cope with stress  cope with life until now may not be the   most effective may not necessarily be the most  helpful like in the case of addictions but they  
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were developed to help that person survive  help them see the survivor in themselves   we want to help them identify secondary  effects of trauma like depression   anxiety poor communication skills abandonment  anxiety you know there’s a whole host of things  
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help them see how that’s maybe related to trauma  and promote self-care help them develop tools   so they can start moving toward the rich  and meaningful life that they envision the first and most basic tool is a behavioral  one and that is to create safety we need to  
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help people feel like they are safe so their  hpa access or their threat response system can   take a break we don’t want to have them feeling  constantly hyper vigilant constantly being   on guard and have an exaggerated startle response  so if we can help them feel safer and at home  
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in the car anywhere else they spend a fair amount  of time it’s going to reduce the intensity and   maybe even the frequency that that stress response  system is activated it’s going to help their body   start to recalibrate and that is wonderful when  they start feeling empowered when they start  
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looking at environments at places and saying  you know what there are things that i can do   to help myself feel safe that is huge now  there’s a lot of types of safety though and   we need to help them create a sense of physical  safety from self and others now physical safety  
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from others is pretty obvious we want them to not  be afraid that they’re going to be assaulted or   hurt in some way physically by another person but  safety from self is also important we want them to   feel like they have tools to deal with  overwhelming emotions so they don’t engage in  
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self-injurious behavior or addictive behaviors  or other behaviors that could potentially be   destructive affective or emotional and cognitive  safety from self and others is another type of   safety we need to help them develop recognizing  that that inner critic in their head can feel  
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very threatening can feel very intimidating  a lot of times and can intensify trauma   helping them figure out how to deal with that  inner critic is another aspect of creating safety   as well as helping them develop safety from  others emotionally and cognitively being able to  
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set those boundaries and say this is how i feel  these are my thoughts you don’t have to agree   but you can’t i’m not going to let you  take them from me i’m not going to let you   invalidate my thoughts or feelings and then  environmental safety from self and others  
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or from others and environmental safety  is different than physical safety physical   safety has to do with my body and not letting  people injure myself environmental safety means   creating an environment in which people don’t  have to fear for the things that they cherish  
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their belongings they don’t have to worry that  somebody’s going to encroach on their environment   that somebody’s going to take their environment  from them maybe kick them out on the street for   example so we need to help them look at all  aspects of safety and do as much as they can  
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to reduce their feeling of threat and increase  their feeling of safety and empowerment i believe it’s also important that people create  a rescue pack to have with them this safety rescue   pack can help people feel grounded safer more  empowered in a variety of situations because  
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you can’t possibly plan for every situation  and how you’re going to feel safer in you   know every single situation so a rescue pack  can be helpful in that rescue pack i encourage   them to create a thought list that has distress  tolerant mantras such as i can get through this  
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this will this too shall pass i have friends  that can help me whatever distress tolerance   thoughts that they find helpful usually somewhere  between three and ten thoughts that they can have   that they can just read over when they’re  feeling distressed can be very very helpful  
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activities is something else they can do to  trigger that vagus nerve trigger that relaxation   response or sometimes just help them stay grounded  or turn their attention completely from whatever   is making them feel nervous breathing slow  diaphragmatic breathing will help trigger  
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the vagus nerve bubble stuff blowing bubbles  blowing up balloons or blowing bubble gum also   has the same effect because it slows breathing  down and can help trigger the relaxation response   keeping a phone with them which most people have  now so that’s not too outlandish is also important  
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so they have the ability to reach out to a friend  to reach out to someone who can listen who can   provide support who can help them feel safer in  the event that they don’t have anybody then making   sure they have the number of the local crisis line  so they have somebody that they can reach out to  
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and narration is another activity that can  be really helpful when people are feeling   unsafe if they narrate what they’re doing it  can help them stay grounded avoid dissociating   and be more aware of what’s going on and how  they are safe in the moment and sensations  
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essential oils or wax tarts are wonderful because  sometimes just smelling something that promotes a   sensation of relaxation or brings back a positive  memory can help trigger that relaxation response   and that can be really helpful likewise having  something that they can smell that can displace a  
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trauma trigger a smell that triggers their  trauma can also be helpful so if there’s a   particular cologne that triggers memories  of their trauma when they’re in the store   if somebody walks by they have that cologne on  then the person can reach into their rescue pack  
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and get one of those essential oils or wax tarts  or whatever out and smell that so it displaces   that it turns their attention to something  else if they want to for people who have a lot   of especially olfactory sensory triggers they  may consider using something like fix vaporub  
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or some other type of rub that lotion or  something that is scented and rubbing it right   below their nose so they are smelling that  pleasant scent the whole time and they’re not   waiting until they might be triggered keeping an  anchoring object with them something they can hold  
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something they can feel whether it’s a you  know those little tiny um stuffed animals i   don’t know what to call them that kids used to  attach to their backpacks when i was in school   those can be helpful because you can  stick those in a purse or something  
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a worry stone or prayer beads or something  else that the person can hold they can feel   that helps them feel anchored can be very very  helpful sometimes jolting yourself if you will   out of a particular memory is can be really  helpful you can splash cold water on your face  
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now i wear makeup so i am not inclined to go into  the bathroom when i’m feeling stressed and throw   cold water on my face because that’s going to make  my mascara run that’s not a good thing ice packs   can be helpful and this was one that you probably  aren’t going to use a whole lot because they’re  
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not reusable but the instant ice packs can be  used if you can’t access cold water to put on   your wrists on your neck or splash on your face  to help jolt you out of a particular distress   spiral some people have particular music that they  like to listen to or playlists that they listen to  
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that help them feel empowered that help them feel  safer that help them calm down whatever feeling   they’re looking for and on the other end of the  spectrum sometimes noise-canceling headphones   can be really helpful if for example one  of their triggers is the sound of ambulance  
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sirens you can’t make ambulances not run therefore  if they are feeling particularly stressed   having noise cancelling headphones can be helpful  to block out the sound of that particular trigger   i know the other morning something was going on  in our town and it was early morning so sound  
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was traveling but no joke for 30 minutes  it was just siren after siren after siren   and for somebody who’s triggered by sirens that  would have been pretty pretty intense for them the next cognitive behavioral technique is  distress tolerance and if you’re familiar  
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with dialectical behavior therapy you’re  probably familiar with distress tolerance   i have distilled the stress tolerance activities  down from accepts and improves which is what   linehan uses and they’re wonderful but i’ve  simplified it because a lot of people have  
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difficulty remembering all of those tags thoughts  distress tolerant thoughts we’ve already talked   about those and having people develop a list of  distress tolerant thoughts that can help them feel   safer and more empowered activities to reset  the hpa axis and improve vagal tone that is  
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to trigger the rest and digest to trigger the  relaxation response that can be that diaphragmatic   breathing that you do just breathing or  blowing bubbles or blowing up balloons   it can be through a vagus nerve massage where  you’re massaging one finger behind the ear  
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one finger right on the tragus the little flippy  flop thing on the ear and just gently massaging   yawning is another thing and now that i  rubbed my tragus i’m getting ready to yawn   yawning is another activity that stimulates  deep breathing but it also triggers the  
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relaxation response guided imagery is  another tool in the distress tolerance toolbox if you will and you notice on the recovery  pack that we just talked about on the rescue pack   i had thoughts activities and sensations but i  didn’t have guided imagery because when people are  
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feeling threatened when they’re needing  that rescue pack they’re not wanting to   check out they’re not wanting to use guided  imagery they’re not going to feel safe enough   to transport themselves somewhere else a lot  of times however when they are in a safe place  
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if they’re having flashbacks if they’re having  intrusive feelings sometimes it’s not even a   memory it’s this feeling that comes from out of  nowhere guided imagery can be helpful and that   guided imagery can take the form of a mental  vacation going to their favorite vacation spot  
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and identifying five things that they see when  they get to that spot four things they hear   three things they smell two things they  can feel that can really help people   turn their attention to something that  promotes dopamine and relaxation chemicals  
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being released which can help down regulate that  stress response which is what we’re doing with   the stress tolerance we’re not trying to avoid it  we’re trying to down regulate the stress response   so the person can get in their wise mind another  image people can use is one i just call it safety  
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whatever that looks like to them for some  people they envision a force field around   themselves for other people they have an angel on  their shoulder for other people they have their   god carrying them like you hear in the poem  footprints in the sand whatever they envision  
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that helps them feel safer and the moment can  be incredibly empowering and if they’re hurt   in some way distress tolerance can be helpful  if they’re feeling pain especially physical pain   they can envision healing whether it’s  you know nanobots or their immune cells  
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knitting together or healing the injured part  they’ve actually done studies on people with   hiv and aids and found that guided imagery  that focuses on the immune system actually does   increase the the number of t helper cells  which i thought was kind of cool and sensory  
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we talked about that briefly here and we’re  going to talk about it some more because   distress tolerance is sort of woven throughout  cognitive behavioral therapy but sensory tools   can help people trigger that relaxation response  so that can be smells that help them feel relaxed  
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it doesn’t have to be essential oils it can  be anything that triggers a positive memory   or a positive feeling like coffee for me if  i smell good coffee that’s just absolutely   amazing and it triggers that little bit of an  endorphin rush and that relaxation response  
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sites whether it’s pictures of their kids or of  their dog or of a beautiful landscape what is it   that they can look at that may help them feel  calmer or more more safer in the moment sights   smells sounds what can they listen to that might  help turn their attention away from their distress  
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for a moment we’re not ignoring it we are turning  our attention away from it we’re taking a break   until the stress response can be dampened some so  the person can address it through their wise mind breath work i already mentioned this a little  bit but breath work is so incredibly important  
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in therapy and cognitive behavior behavioral  therapy in just everything well we need   breathing we need oxygen to live  but slow deep breathing especially   diaphragmatic breathing or belly breathing  actually can help trigger the vagus nerve  
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they call it respiratory vagus nerve stimulation  or rvns so square breathing we’ve talked about   in multiple other videos is when you breathe in  for four you hold for four you exhale for four   and you hold for four and then you repeat that  a couple of times when you slow your breathing  
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it automatically triggers your heart rate to slow  down when your breathing and your heart rate slow   down your stress response system says oh guess i  don’t need to be freaking out right now so you’re   manually overriding by slowing your breathing  you’re manually overriding your stress response  
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now obviously if there is an impending threat  right before you no matter how slowly you breathe   you’re going to be getting other feedback that is  going to keep you from becoming completely relaxed   but even in the face of stress
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slowing your breathing can help mitigate  that stress response so you can maintain   your quote wits about you um a little  bit more effectively so square breathing   is ultimately the foundation of what we’re  talking about but there’s a lot of ways to  
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slow your breathing down some people feel like the  square breathing or taking a few deep breaths is   corny or they don’t feel comfortable doing it  whatever okay fine as i mentioned yawning is   a wonderful way to slow your breathing and  you can force yourself to yawn you can also  
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massage your vagus nerve and that may encourage  a yawn you can do different vagus nerve   stimulation exercises that can trigger yawning  laughter when we laugh especially again belly   a good old belly laugh you’re going to take a  deep breath in and then you go fall until you  
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have exhaled so you’re doing a slower exhale you  just don’t really pay attention to it i encourage   people to create a playlist on youtube or i don’t  know if you can do playlists on tick tock or not   but create a playlist that stimulates that guffaw  that stimulates that good belly laughter that they  
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can turn to when they need to um trigger their  relaxation response i mentioned already bubble   gum when you blow a bubble you’re going to  blow slowly so it doesn’t pop in your face   bubble stuff and you can get the little tiny uh  bubble stuff containers that they use for parties  
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you can get that at target or walmart or online  i’m sure and you can carry that with you and   so you can just pull it out and blow bubbles  whenever now being 50 years old people look at me   like i’m a little odd if i pull bubbles out in the  middle of the parking lot and start blowing them  
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but you know if you don’t care then no big deal  balloons are another thing and you can do this in   your car or so if you’re having a bad moment maybe  you can go to your car you’ve got a balloon there   you can blow it up again to blow up  a balloon you’re going to inhale big  
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and there then you’re going to blow blow  blow so you’re slowing your breathing   and those are things you can keep with  yourself party noise makers and i don’t   know what else to call them they’re the  little noise makers that you blow on and  
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they make that horrible screeching sound  or whatever however you characterize it   kids especially love those because they’re loud  and annoying but that can be one other option   or dragon breathers and that’s what i have  a picture of here you can use a toilet paper  
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roll or you can use one of those plastic cups  a red solo cup or something and then you cut   strips of tissue paper and glue it to one end  and you cut out the other end so it’s a tube   if you’re using a cup and then when the  child is distressed they can take a big  
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breath and then they can blow and let all  that anger out through the dragon breather   and last but not least fitness trackers  fitness trackers monitor your heart rate   so instead of thinking about breathing if  you’re thinking about lowering your heart rate  
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well you’ve got to slow your breathing in order  to lower lower your heart rate so some people   will use their fitness tracker and they will  just sit back for a minute and then they will   intentionally slow their breathing so  they can reduce their heart rate when your  
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relaxation response is triggered  your heart rate is going to go down   so that is a clear indication that you  have manually overridden that hpa axis another one of my favorite techniques is defining  your rich and meaningful life for people to figure  
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out you know where am i going how should i use  my energy what’s important for me to focus on   ultimately it’s important to know where they’re  going or know where they want to go so what does   that rich and meaningful look life look like for  them and this is just an example of a vision board  
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that i created you only have so much time and  energy how are you going to use yours what people   are important in your rich and meaningful life  how are you going to use your energy to nurture   those relationships what things like health are  important in your rich and meaningful life and how  
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how much energy are you going to use to nurture  that career is another one i’ve got on mine   how much energy am i going to use to nurture  that and what does that look like in my rich   and meaningful life and then again this is mine  so all my critters and my farm are on here too  
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but this gives people something  to look at and they can start   every day looking at this and saying all  right these are the things that are important   and this is how i’m going to allocate this is how  i’m going to spend my energy today or this week  
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so it helps get them focused and then if they  have to make a decision if something comes up   during the day they have the ability to reflect  look at this again and they can just take a   picture and keep it on their mobile device they  can look at that picture again and ask themself  
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all right is devoting energy to  whatever this is that’s come up   helping me move toward my rich and meaningful life   or is it stealing energy from the things that  are important in my rich and meaningful life  
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so i really love this vision board as  a tool not only to have on the wall   but also to have on the mobile device to help  people regroup and refocus throughout the day once they’ve defined their  rich and meaningful life  
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then we move on to what haze in acceptance  and commitment therapy calls purposeful action   mindfully acknowledging the present this is  where i am right now this is what’s going on   it’s not good it’s not bad it just is and then how  should i use my energy right now given my context  
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what is the most effective way to use my  energy to deal with the current situation   that will help me move toward the things that are  important in my rich and meaningful life do i need   to address it is it something that is in my way  is it something that i need to do something about  
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okay if so then let’s make a plan is it something  that really doesn’t matter i’m just getting all   tied up about it but in the big scheme of  things it doesn’t keep me it’s not blocking me   from moving toward my rich and meaningful  life i’ve just got gotten distracted by it  
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or should i change my reaction to the situation  moving from anger for example to compassion   maybe somebody does something in my life that  triggers my anger is holding on to that anger   is continuing to be angry at them helping  me move towards my rich and meaningful life  
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or is it stealing energy that i could be using  spending on nurturing other relationships   or even having compassion for them purposeful  action is another tool of empowerment   because it helps people recognize that  they have options and that is so important
00:26:30
now symptom locks bear with me with the symptom logs because i’m  going to show you a few different ways to do   it however you know i got some of my foundation  knowledge i got my minor in behavior modification  
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so that gave me just enough knowledge to be  dangerous sometimes but symptom logs were one   of the big takeaways that i got from that  and symptom logs are important because you   know for example when you’re on a diet or if  you’ve got small children or a puppy at home  
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when you are seeing that thing every day when  you’re interacting with that thing every day   whether it’s yourself your kid your puppy you  may not notice incremental changes and then all   of a sudden one day you’re like whoa you’ve grown  up or whoa you’ve mastered the piano or something  
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um but so the same thing is true with  mental health symptoms when people are   dealing with it day in and day out they  may not notice the incremental changes   so symptom logs can be really really helpful  not only for documenting those baby steps  
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toward their rich and meaningful life but  also to help people see how far they’ve come   every couple of weeks you can look at it and say  okay let’s look at the how far you’ve come and   it gives you the ability to look for trends you  can look for triggers for particular symptoms  
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you can look for vulnerabilities what things  or situations make a person more vulnerable   to reacting to situations with anger you know  sometimes it something may happen and it may not   bother them at all they get cut off in traffic for  example other times they get cut off in traffic  
00:28:23
and they just fly into a rage what’s different  why were they more vulnerable the second time   so symptom logs can provide us a lot of  information because it gives us a better peek   into what happened in dialectical behavior  therapy linehan talks about backward chaining  
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ideally the person completes the symptom log when  it happens but you can do it at the end of the day   symptom logs need to at the very least include  the date it happens the time is it eight in the   morning because some people are more irritable  or in a better mood first thing in the morning  
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versus late at night and vice versa so what  date does it occur what time does it occur   what triggered the symptom if known or if there  were distressful thoughts what was the theme   what was the intensity of the experience if  they’re having a flashback or if they’re having  
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an anxiety attack was it a one i noticed  it but wasn’t a big deal was it a two   i noticed it it was uncomfortable but i managed  to get through it was it a three it was really   difficult to keep moving forward while i was  having this symptom or was it a four and in a  
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four the symptom is just all-encompassing  and they can’t continue doing what they were   it kind of shuts them down for a minute  how long did it last was it five minutes   or five hours how did it impact their energy  mood productivity relationships said another  
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another way how did it impact those things that  are important in their rich and meaningful life   what vulnerabilities and this goes to that  backward chaining what vulnerabilities were   present if they had an anxiety reaction were they  over caffeinated or dehydrated or was their blood  
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sugar low or were they in a particular environment  that they tend to find stressful anyway   what did they do to cope was it effective  and what do they want to try to do the next   time maybe they want to do the same thing  the next time because it was effective  
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great if it wasn’t effective they may  choose to try to do something else   if the symptom seems ever-present like anxiety  some people feel anxious quote all the time okay   have them complete the log every hour  that they’re awake now i know that seems  
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like a lot and if they’re working full time  that might not be practical if they’re not   working it’s definitely doable if they’re in  residential treatment it’s definitely doable   so you can adjust how often they do their  check-ins but definitely every couple of hours
00:31:30
once they get this information once they’ve  got the data then it’s going to be important   to review the logs for themes in triggers and  vulnerabilities i encourage people to make a   pictograph of the frequency intensity and duration  of their symptom so they can get an idea of  
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how often is this happening and kind of how bad  is it in this one you can see from 8 am to 9 am   the person was having an anxiety  attack it lasted for a whole hour   which is why it’s as wide as it is and the entire  time they were having it it was at a level of a  
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three so it felt pretty damn overpowering they  still kept moving but it was really overpowering   and then at nine o’clock or 9 15 that went  away and then at 10 30 they had another little   anxiety attack but that only was a one  and it only lasted for about 30 minutes  
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and then at 12 30 12 45 whatever they had  another one that was a big one i mean it was   all-encompassing full-out panic attack  and that lasted for almost 30 minutes   so then when somebody brings this in  i would talk with them and i would say  
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you know what were the triggers and maybe at  8 a.m the person’s anxiety ramped up because   they knew they had to go to work and work is just  really really a huge source of stress right now   or they knew they had to go to work and they were  going to have to ride the subway and the subway  
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is one of their triggers from their trauma  so their anxiety went up really really high   but then they got to work at nine o’clock  everything was okay they de-escalated sweet   and then at 10 30 they had to go to a meeting  with their boss and that was a little stressful  
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they got along with their boss fine so it’s not a  big deal but it was a little bit stressful having   to do that and then at 12 30 that was after  lunch was over and they were getting ready to   go back to work and they got cut off in traffic  and it triggered an anxiety attack that lasted  
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20 or 30 minutes okay so by looking at this we  can see how long they’re lasting and then we   can more granularly look back and go okay what’s  triggering and see if there are themes that are   triggering anxiety at particular times of day or  in particular places because that can help the  
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person gain more awareness and be better able to  prepare or adjust in order to reduce their stress now you have a lot of these charts laying around  that’s great you may be able to look at them   but it’s hard to really get see incremental  progress when you’re still looking at four  
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or five episodes a day and they’re all  still pretty high it’s hard to know   are we making progress are we reducing the  frequency intensity or duration and you know   sometimes it may be obvious but sometimes it  may not be i use a mathematical formula so  
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here the first block is 1.25 hours so for an  hour and 25 minutes she was feeling you know huge   amounts of anxiety the intensity was at a level of  a three so you can see 1.25 hours level of a three   and then the next one was at 10 30 that lasted  half an hour it was an intensity of a one and  
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then we had this other one over here that was a  half an hour that was in an intensity of a four   in order to take into account the frequency  intensity and duration because we’re looking   for an overall improvement it doesn’t matter  whether it’s frequency intensity or duration  
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i multiply the number of hours by the intensity  and add it all up then their average anxiety   is the number of total hours  they were feeling anxious   divided by the total intensity so the mathematical  formula here was a 0.36 so if we had to  
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average out her anxiety over the entire day um  what we would be looking at is a .36 remember one   is they’re they’re feeling it and ideally we  don’t want people feeling anxious all day every   day so i’d like to see that a lot closer to a 0.0  than a 0.3 but next week we would go through and  
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add up the data and do this again now for some  people this could be too data-driven and i get   that so you can skip the mathematical formula if  it’s not for you but i think the charts are at the   very least very helpful because people can really  get a quick vision of do we see things going down
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now an alternative log if somebody feels like  they are anxious all the time they’ve got   generalized anxiety then there’s not going  to be any particular time that they have a   symptom or they have an episode it’s just kind  of all the time so remember i said assessing it  
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on an hourly basis and this is a chart on an  hourly basis if you do it every two hours then   it would adjust accordingly so each  hour the person asks themselves   how am i feeling on a scale of one to four  and we have three hours that it was a three  
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we have one hour that it was a three  and a half and then you can see   that towards the evening towards the end  of the day it actually went down to a one   we want to ask the person you know what  was different at 3 pm then at 8 am what  
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was triggering your anxiety throughout the day  and why did it go down at 3 pm but also why was   it still present at all at 3 pm what else  is contributing or maintaining your anxiety   and maybe it’s just ruminating or anticipating  having to go to work the next day i don’t know
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you can do the same mathematical formula here  and for this person based on that chart their   average anxiety over the course of the day was a  1.88 so they’re still feeling some pretty intense   anxiety and we would look for that number to  gradually decrease over the course of treatment
00:38:47
the next technique we’re going to talk about  is systematic desensitization and ownership and   these are similar or similarly related techniques  they’re not exactly the same but i lumped them   together systematic desensitization and ownership  helps the person alter their reaction to triggers  
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or stimuli in the environment think about it  like an allergy shot for cognitive allergens   it creates an environment of safety and  empowerment when they start realizing   that things do not have to control them  then they can start feeling more empowered  
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they mastered the ability to use breathing  relaxation and distress tolerance skills to   down regulate their stress response when they  feel triggered just because i smell this smell   just because i see this thing it may trigger a  trauma feeling but i d it doesn’t have to consume  
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me i can address it i can help myself feel  safe and i can get control of that situation so the example i use for systematic  desensitization is snakes because a lot of people   have a fear of snakes but it can be anything the  first step is to learn about the trigger learn  
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about whatever it is whether it’s snakes or flying  or in the case of trauma triggers like the smell   of a particular cologne you may not have to learn  a lot about that but you recognize that oh okay   the smell of this cologne triggers a trauma  memory all right now what do i do about it  
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well we’re going to take away the power of  that trigger we’re going to take away the   power of that stimulus so we have the person think  about the stimulus and so think about the snake   or think about what that’s smelling that cologne  and their anxiety is going to go up their stress  
00:40:50
response is going to go up and then they’re  going to use distress tolerance skills to trigger   the relaxation response to dampen that stress  response so they can get into their wise mind   once they’re in their wise mind then they can  effectively address the facts of the situation  
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in this situation at this time  am i safe i smelled that smell   triggered my stress response all right i’m going  to push down my stress reaction i’m going to   dampen my stress reaction get into my wise mind  in this situation at this time does that smell  
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represent a threat to me or is it just  somebody that walked past me in the store   the important thing is helping people  get into their wise minds so they can   effectively evaluate the facts in the current  context once they can think about a snake and  
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it doesn’t trigger that stress response they’ve  been able to decouple that stress so just thinking   about it doesn’t trigger that response anymore  then think about being in a room with a caged   snake so it’s not just some snake somewhere it’s  a snake in the same room with you it’s in a cage  
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but it’s in the room and they go through the  same process practicing imagining that and   down regulating their stress response until  thinking about being in a room with a caged   snake doesn’t trigger that response think  about being in a room with someone else holding  
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a snake so now the snake’s not even in a  cage but somebody else is holding on to it   thinking about that we’re not nowhere  near being in the same room with a snake   yet we’re just helping the person envision  imagine these situations and learn how to  
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down regulate the stress response  to their cognitions to their beliefs   think about petting a snake someone else  is holding and then think about holding a   snake once a person can move through all  of these things and it doesn’t trigger  
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their anxiety response it doesn’t trigger their  stress response anymore then you can move toward   you know maybe going to a pet store where  you’re in an environment with a caged snake   and again there would be more steps to  desensitizing to that particular stressor  
00:43:30
but it can be really helpful not again not only  for snakes or spiders or planes or phobias but   also for other triggers so people can think about  smelling that smell and then they can get to the   point where they can actually smell the smell and  it doesn’t trigger that stress response for them
00:43:56
in terms of ownership or immersion when  you’re regularly exposed to something   and able to manage your response  it loses much of its power   now this isn’t something that i recommend  i don’t recommend flooding for people to do  
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on their own but it is a technique that people  can use especially with what i call annoyance   triggers it’s not a trigger that triggers  this cascade this flood of stress chemicals   but it’s enough to trigger a stress response  it triggers their resentment their irritability
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if it is a smell or a saying  sometimes people have have   success making it their own making it  theirs to control so they start wearing   that particular perfume or they start using that  particular scent to as a fragrance in their house  
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i had a client one time who had a significant  other that had a particular saying   and every time he heard that saying after they  broke up it just brought back a flood of memories   and just triggered his anger he’s like oh when  people say that it makes me want to climb the wall  
00:45:14
so i encouraged him for the next week  to use it himself you start saying that   whenever you can you start saying that make it  your own so it’s no longer associated with her   it’s something that you do and then if you don’t  want to say it anymore after that that’s fine  
00:45:32
associated with positive things like smells  activities or holidays if something triggers a   stress response try to pair it with something else  positive as much as possible and regularly expose   yourself to it while regulating your stress  response and this is one i use for bridges  
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because i can’t get away from bridges where  i live but i don’t like bridges however i’ve   gotten to the point where i can drive over them  and they don’t really bother me that much anymore systematic desensitization  should be undertaken with  
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care to prevent moving forward too quickly  and causing additional anxiety or trump   re-traumatizing yourself it always starts with  ensuring you feel safe and empowered and every   scenario needs to end with the person feeling  safe and empowered so they feel safe and empowered  
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they imagine the stressful  situation and then they de-escalate   before beginning any type of exposure  even imaginary exposure it is essential   to have mastered the skills of distress  tolerance and emotion regulation
00:46:57
mindfulness is another wonderful  cognitive behavioral tool   mindfulness means turning off autopilot  and being non-judgmentally aware   of your thoughts feelings needs and behaviors  in the present moment it helps connect thoughts  
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feelings and behaviors and promotes prevention  and early intervention of distress think about   how operating on autopilot may contribute to  sickness anger outbursts or relapses of depression so there are a lot of different kinds of  mindfulness and the first one we’re going  
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to talk about is personal mindfulness start with  being as being mindful as soon as you wake up in   the morning at each meal and before going to  bed and for a lot of people that i work with   i encourage them to set push notifications to  remind them to check in and be mindful i know  
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you need reminders to be mindful but  each time they check in with themselves   throughout the day they ask themselves how do i  feel physically how do i feel emotionally and why   what do i need right now to continue feeling great  if they’re feeling awesome great keep it going  
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or improve the next moment if they’re  feeling tired hungry run down anxious   checking in with themselves and figuring out what  is it that i need to do to improve the next moment grounding can be thought of as another kind  of mindfulness and it’s a technique to help  
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people feel connected to the present moment  and not swept up by emotions or thoughts two   of the most common grounding activities  are the 54321 and the describe an object   in 54321 when the person starts feeling stressed  they identify five things they see four things  
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they hear three things they smell two things  they feel and if possible one thing they taste describing an object can mean holding an object  it can be your phone it can be your purse it can   be your grounding object and just describing it  to yourself is it cold is it hot is it soft is  
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it bumpy whatever sensations you get from it but  that encourages the brain to stay anchored in the   present moment which can help with dissociation  it can help with anxiety and it can help with   triggering that relaxation response as  people turn their attention away from the  
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anxiety provoking stimulus to what is helping them   stay relaxed in the moment i find the describing  object is really helpful when i go in to get shots   because to this day i am terrified of needles  but that helps me a lot i’ll be holding  
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a grounding object and thinking about  what it feels like and all those things   so when i get the shot i’m not thinking about that  i’m not anticipating it hurting i’m not tensing up general mindful awareness uh encourages  people to be aware of the moment not just  
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themselves but the moment in general become more  mindful in your actions as you’re doing them   what do you see what do you hear what do you smell  when you’re out on a walk have that open awareness   where you’re just noticing anything that’s there  it’s not necessarily good or bad you’re just  
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noticing it you’ll be surprised at all the  things that you typically probably overlook and mindful reflection is an activity in which   people reflect on their activities at  the end of the day by asking themselves  
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what did i do and for each of each thing that they  did throughout the day was doing this an effective   use of my energy to move toward the things that  are important in my rich and meaningful life   or was doing this whatever it was what a  happy healthy successful person would do  
00:51:26
some people like the rich and meaningful life  you know does it help me move toward my goals   other people want to act as if fake it till  you make it as they say so they ask themselves   was i acting like a person who was happy  healthy and successful would have acted examples  
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you know when you’re reflecting on the  day if you got sucked into video games   for three or four hours it’s easy to do asking  yourself was this an effective use of my time   to move me toward my rich and meaningful life if  you were playing video games with your best friend  
00:52:06
and it was good bonding time well then maybe it  was if not maybe it wasn’t you know it’s up to   each individual to decide was this important  is this something that you really like doing   is it a hobby does it promote relaxation well  then maybe it was an effective use of energy  
00:52:25
you can do the same thing for dwelling  on resentments or eating unhealthfully   was it effective at helping  you move towards your goals   was it something that a happy healthy  successful person would typically do
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an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of  cure mindfulness is essential to health and   well-being because it can help you become your  own consistently empathetic responsive best friend   it can help you become more aware of the situation  and notice the good and the beauty in in life  
00:53:02
in addition to the stressors and also become  more aware of how how you’re using your energy   and whether it is moving you  forward or keeping you stuck authenticity is the next tool we’re going to  talk about and i love authenticity it means being  
00:53:22
true to yourself people often become inauthentic  because they’re trying to get approval from others   their self-esteem is low so they’re looking  for somebody else to tell them they’re okay   they may be inauthentic because they’re afraid  of being rejected abandoned or in today’s society  
00:53:42
cancelled or they may be inauthentic because  they’re just operating on autopilot they’re not   acting mindfully they have always just kind of  done whatever happens and hadn’t haven’t really   stopped to think about is this me is this me  being authentic or is this me just being impulsive
00:54:04
i use the metaphor for chocolate  chip cookies when i talk about   relationships and when i talk about authenticity   when you have chocolate chip cookies you’ve got  sugar cookies and you’ve got chocolate chips  
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both of them are just fine on their own thank  you very much one doesn’t pretend to be the other   they are authentic in who they are now if you  put them together in relationships when you   have two authentic people that join together you  can get something that is potentially infinitely  
00:54:35
better than either one of those things all  by themselves because they enhance each other   they don’t complete each other they’re already  complete by themselves they enhance one another when you’re practicing on authenticity it’s  important to become mindful of your thoughts  
00:54:56
feelings and needs and act in accordance with them  instead of being a chameleon so mindfulness is a   precursor to authenticity it’s also important to  help people separate approval or disapproval of   behaviors from themselves not everybody’s going to  like what you do if you’re behaving authentically  
00:55:18
not everybody may like your choices but does that  mean they dislike you or they dislike your choice it’s important for people to ex explore and  address their fears related to being authentic and   a lot of people have fears about being authentic  for very legit reasons these days unfortunately  
00:55:41
and if it is an office because of that radical  authenticity or being yourself a hundred percent   of the time may not be safe for everybody in every  situation so it’s important that they practice   being assertive and authentic sharing themselves  with safe other people first and then deciding  
00:56:05
is it important for me to be authentic here is it  important for me to be authentic on social media   is it important for me to be a hundred percent  authentic at work and only the individual can   figure that out and if they can’t  be a hundred percent authentic  
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is that an environment that’s  healthy for them to be in   and again only they can decide but that’s part of  the empowerment of cognitive behavioral therapy   helping people recognize that they are  good enough they are deserving of love  
00:56:40
they are in a position they are empowered to help  keep themselves safe and that also means safe from   harm from others and safe from others being   mean to them if you will if they’re authentic  from taking away their authentic selves
00:57:03
authenticity means moving from what moving from  being aware of thoughts wants and needs to acting   in a way that’s in accordance with them so if you  know that you like italian over mexican food or   that’s what you want an authentic person would  be mindful they would recognize hey i want to go  
00:57:25
for italian food and they would tell people that  they would assert that if you’re being inauthentic   then you may know that you have a craving for  italian food but you know what no i don’t care   where we go i don’t have any preference well  that’s inauthentic yes you do have a preference  
00:57:45
being authentic can be scary at first and is  often advisable to not advisable to suddenly   start practicing what i call radical authenticity  which can make the person feel really vulnerable   not suddenly deciding that okay starting today  i am going to be a hundred percent authentic  
00:58:05
all the time that is a radical shift not only  for the individual but for everybody around   them and it could upset the apple cart  so to speak it may take people a minute   to get used to someone suddenly becoming  authentic so which can set them up  
00:58:26
for not so great reactions from significant others  but also when you’re authentic you’re putting   your true self out there you’re making yourself  vulnerable and making yourself vulnerable can   be extremely scary especially for people with  a history of abandonment rejection or trauma  
00:58:46
so it is important to use this with care  yes it’s great when people feel like they   can be authentic but it’s something that  a lot of times people need to build up to as people become more authentic have them notice  how it impacts their mental and physical health
00:59:09
thought stopping is the next tool thought  stopping helps us redirect our brain and we can   engage in thought stopping by simply telling  ourself no not now not thinking about it   sometimes that helps sometimes people need to  replace the thought with a mantra a prayer or  
00:59:30
grounding activities to sort of drown out whatever  that thought is to turn their attention if the   thought keeps coming back okay then ask yourself  what’s the benefit to ruminating on this thought   why does it keep coming back why do i keep feeling  like i need to think about this is there anything  
00:59:54
that the person can do to address the thought and  improve the issue at this moment so for example if   you’re waiting on test results from the doctor  that aren’t going to be in for another six days   what’s the benefit to ruminating on that why  does it keep coming back is there anything you  
01:00:12
can addre do to address the thought in the moment  and the answer is no you just gotta wait and be   patient so sometimes people will write it down and  put it into their thought box a lot of times it   can be helpful for people who have um persistent  thoughts ruminations whatever you want to call  
01:00:32
call it they write these things down and then they  schedule 30 minutes a day that’s their worry time   so these thoughts pop up and instead of saying  no i’m not going to think about it ever it’s   no i’m not going to think about that right now  i will think about it this afternoon during my  
01:00:50
worry period encourage people to start small  try to stop having the thought for five minutes   and if they make it to five minutes then great   thought may come back let’s try 10 minutes now  see if you can make it 10 minutes without thinking  
01:01:06
about it and it can be empowering to the person to  recognize that they are getting better at learning   how to stop some of those annoying thoughts  or those annoying voices that want to chime in perspective taking is another tool look  perspective taking means looking at the  
01:01:30
bigger picture to understand the reactions of  other people as sometimes as well as yourself you   know stepping back and trying to get a different  perspective there are four p’s in perspective   taking predisposing what were the background  factors that contributed to the behavior whether  
01:01:49
it’s another person or yours if the client has a  history of trauma that’s one of those predisposing   factors that may contribute to them reacting with  fear or anger in particular situations for example   precipitating factors so  you have somebody who’s been  
01:02:13
exposed to trauma somebody who’s endured trauma  and so they already have an hpa axis that’s   you know turned on they already  tend to be more hyper vigilant   precipitating factors are vulnerabilities and  contextual factors that precipitate their reaction  
01:02:31
they have this history and then they’re in a  situation in which they feel somewhat unsafe   they’re in this situation where there’s lots of  hustle and bustle maybe they’re at the airport   and there’s just lots of people going around  and bumping into one another and they start  
01:02:46
feeling really stressed out because it is feels  like an unsafe environment they feel vulnerable   provocations what provoked or triggered that  behavior and if you’re talking about trying to   understand somebody else’s reaction then looking  at your own behavior and saying in what way might  
01:03:08
i have inadvertently provoked that behavior  and i say inadvertently because a lot of times   we may trigger somebody’s anger and we didn’t even  mean to we didn’t maybe we didn’t think clearly   before we said something or maybe we have no idea  what we did to trigger that person’s behavior  
01:03:27
but recognizing um that there  may be something that we did okay   doesn’t mean we meant to and plans if you  reacted with anger or anxiety and you regret it   recognizing where that came from and asking  yourself well did i have good intentions did  
01:03:50
i go into this situation saying yeah i’m  just going to be kind of nasty about this   or did i have good intentions but the  predisposing precipitating and provoking factors   led me in a different way same thing with  when you’re dealing with somebody else  
01:04:09
if you’re interacting with them and they react  strongly to something that you say it’s important   to ask yourself you know why are they perceiving  it differently than i am what predisposing factors   what historical or experiences might they  have had that caused them to interpret this  
01:04:27
situation differently in what way might have  i have inadvertently provoked the behavior   and did the person really  ultimately have good intentions   they may have not intended to get into an  argument with you but it just it ended up there
01:04:49
self forgiveness is the next tool we’re going  to talk about remember that forgiveness does not   mean that you agree or condone the situation  or what happened but you’re choosing to stop   using your energy to beat yourself up the  four r’s of self forgiveness responsibility  
01:05:11
yeah you need to take responsibility for  the aspects that you’re responsible for   but that’s it only take responsibility for the  aspects that you’re responsible for if something   happened between you and someone else as they say  it takes two to tango there are probably a lot of  
01:05:29
other factors that were out of your control take  responsibility for what you’re responsible for   the second r is remorse well if you’re work  working on forgiveness then you do feel remorseful   you feel guilty but just feeling guilty keeps  you beating yourself up guilt is self-anger so  
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feeling remorse is your body’s way of saying okay  here’s some energy now you can use this energy   to learn from this situation so you can stay safe  in the future or you can fix the mistake you made   which takes us to rectifying or making  amends what do you need to do to  
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fix this situation make amends or just learn from  it sometimes you can’t fix it and the final r   is releasing past hurt and accepting  imperfection forgiving yourself and   saying all right you screwed up it doesn’t  make you less lovable it just means you’re  
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human you’re fallible you’re imperfect and  you forgive yourself you’re going to choose   to not continue using energy beating yourself  up for something that you have rectified and taken responsibility for
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forgiving others is very similar forgiveness  still means choosing to stop giving energy   to that person or memory  that is causing you distress   forgiveness can involve recalling the betrayal  recal recalling what happened that is causing  
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you to feel angry or resentful explore why  you might be afraid to forgive them why are   you wanting to hold on to this energy why  are you afraid to learn and let go altruism   visualize forgiving this person as a gift to  yourself and your significant others i’m forgiving  
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this person over here so i’m not tying all my  energy up in it anymore which is great because now   i have all this energy freed up that i can give to  myself and my significant others learn from it and   adjust your expectations sometimes people ain’t  gonna change therefore recalling the betrayal  
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what happened and what do you need to  learn so you don’t get hurt in the future living in the and is another tool  that can be helpful for forgiving   you can have a rich and meaningful life  
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and not be able to trust this person anymore  if that’s what has to happen it doesn’t mean   you’re going to continue to be angry at them you  you’ve just learned that they’re not trustworthy   so living in the and means you can have a rich  and meaningful life and forgive other people
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sometimes it’s easier to  forgive smaller things first it can help to empathize without minimizing  you can empathize and try to understand   why somebody did what they did maybe  even have compassion or pity for them  
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but not minimize it you’re not saying oh i  have pity for you i understand why it happened   and you know i guess it wasn’t really that bad no   i i can empathize with what you were going through  and maybe why you reacted with such anger however  
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this is how it impacted me and i am not  going to diminish the impact it had on me   just because you were going through a bad thing  so i’m going to empathize without minimizing safely share your feelings this isn’t always  possible but sometimes it can be helpful to safely  
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share your feelings with that person or maybe  even with your higher power or just your journal   but sometimes you need to get them out sometimes  there are things that quote need to be said that   are going to keep bouncing around in your head  until you can say them so say them in a safe way  
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and then practice thought stopping even  after you’ve chosen to forgive somebody   every once in a while that resentment or that  anger is going to creep back up and you’re   going to remember what happened and that’s when  thought stopping comes in handy and you can say  
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nope handled that already not going to revisit it and then the abcdes of cbt a and if  you remember back to basic cognitive   behavioral therapy this is one of your basic  tools a is the activating event what happened  
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c is the consequences of the activating event  and we want to consider all of the consequences   not just your emotional reaction but your physical  reaction your cognitive reaction how did it change   the way you think about people and the world your  relationship reaction how did it change the way  
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you feel about your ability or the trustworthiness  of people in the world so the activating event and   the consequences but between the time that  something happens and you get angry or that   hpa axis that stress response gets triggered you  have a litany of automatic beliefs that come from  
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schema come from past experiences your brain’s  going okay let me tell you how to interpret this   a lot of times these beliefs because they’re  based on past experiences may not be a hundred   percent accurate in the present context which  is why we go down to d after you’ve identified  
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what those beliefs are then you dispute each  one of them based on the facts in the current   context is this belief still a hundred percent  accurate based on the facts in the current context once you’ve identified what is actually true  in the current context then you can evaluate  
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the effectiveness of your reactions for helping  you use your energy and time to move toward your   rich and meaningful life so okay maybe something  happens it triggers rage in you you get really   angry that somebody did something you go  through your beliefs and you dispute them and  
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you determine yeah you know they betrayed me it  was a big hurt okay so evaluate the effectiveness   of your reaction is holding on to anger is  dwelling and stewing on anger and holding   on to this resentment is that an effective  use of your time and energy to help you move  
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towards your rich and meaningful life or would  something like forgiveness be a more helpful tool cognitive distortions is another  basic cognitive behavioral therapy   tool that we look at and there are five maybe six  uh big ones that frequently come up when i work  
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with people and all or none thinking this person  always does this or this person never does this   i encourage people to pay attention to their  cognitive distortions to their um extreme   language and if they say always or never to  reframe that and start saying sometimes or often  
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look for exceptions if you say that  jane never calls when she’s going to   be late look back are there exceptions  are there times when jane did call   personalization means taking what somebody  else does personally it’s my fault  
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or they looked at me with this horrible  look they must be angry at me what are   three alternatives that have nothing to do with  you magnification or catastrophing which means   making a mountain out of a molehill or assuming  that the worst case scenario is going to happen  
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look at the facts in the situation based  on the facts how accurate is your belief   minimization is the same way and sometimes  people will minimize the impact of drinking   for example and that can be faulty if they are  having if they’re in recovery for alcoholism  
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they may also minimize their strength  and their power and their ability to   move towards their goals they may  minimize their own effectiveness   and so it’s important to look at the facts is  it true that you are powerless in this situation
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and then assuming can be broken down into  mind reading and jumping to conclusions   a lot of times when people grew up in  dysfunctional environments they learn   to try to anticipate other people’s needs in  order to get approval and prevent punishment  
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and they carry that with them into adulthood  unfortunately it’s not common to be able to   effectively read other people’s minds open  communication is a whole lot more effective   so if you are mind reading if you’re assuming  that you know what somebody is thinking  
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or wanting check it out what are the facts what  do you actually know versus what are you assuming   related is jumping to conclusions maybe your  best friend doesn’t text you back or stands you   up for lunch a lunch date that you made three  weeks ago you jumped to the conclusion that um  
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something terrible happened and she’s as my mother  would always say lying dead in a ditch somewhere   um that’s jumping to conclusions so  look at the facts based on what you know   you don’t know why they didn’t  show up for your lunch date
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when i’m working with clients  i have a cognitive distortions   worksheet that i give them and i encourage  them to go through it when they have   stress when they feel anxious when they feel angry  when they feel distressed they write down what the  
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activating event was what the trigger was and then  b is the beliefs they write down those beliefs   and then they evaluate each one of  those beliefs for cognitive distortions alternate problem formulation is another cool  one or i think it is and i use the mnemonic  
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peace corps for this and this kind of puts  together a lot of what we’ve been talking about   so the person identifies the problem they identify  early experiences they’ve had that may impact how   they perceive the situation so maybe they have  their um anxious around authority figures that’s  
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the problem early experiences we look back  at early experiences with authority figures   well not so good so yeah it makes sense why this  person might have anxiety around authority figures   a stands for assumptions rules and attitudes  what are your assumptions about people who  
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are in authority positions based on your early  experiences so you’re seeing how this is all   starting to connect our past helps us try to  interpret the present but it’s not always a   hundred percent accurate so we need to understand  why am i assuming this to be true c is core  
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beliefs what are your core beliefs about people  if you have core beliefs that people are only   out for themselves and they’ll throw you under the  bus any chance they get then you’re going to feel   less trusting and probably be more apprehensive  than if you think that people are altruistic
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e stands for effectiveness of  assumptions core beliefs and reactions   based on all this stuff in the current  context how effective are my assumptions and   core beliefs at helping me function and then  the core part is looking at that context in  
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with the facts that i have in this context at this  time what are my options to handle the situation   what resources do i have to  help me handle the situation   if i do the things that are within my control  that i have options and resources for what’s  
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the probability that things are going  to go well and where can i find support another technique that i really like is tragic  optimism and this can be you um summarized in   the mnemonic crab grass and i like crabgrass  because it is an example of tragic optimism  
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i don’t know if it grows in the northern states  but in the southern states we have this weed   that we call crabgrass and it will take over your  lawn it is just a bugger and a half to get rid of   but it tends to be very resistant to heat and  weather and it stays green for a really long time  
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so if your goal is to have a green lawn crab grass  can be really freaking awesome if your goal is to   have this perfect fescue or bermuda grass lawn  then yeah crabgrass is not your friend but so   tragic optimism means embracing the good with the  bad recognizing the current situation and saying  
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all right it is what it is what do i  want is there hope that it can get better   and um so you start out by creating a vision what  is your vision of your rich and meaningful life   tragic optimism doesn’t mean ignoring the  bad it means acknowledging the bad saying  
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okay this happened this sucks maybe in my rich  and meaningful life i would be able to work   on the farm until i was 80 years old but  hey i had to have both knees replaced   okay so my vision of being able to  work on the farm until i’m 80 years old  
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may not be doable anymore so radically acceptance  right radically accepting what’s going on   all right i had to have my knees replaced  it is what it is therefore uh how can i   have a rich and meaningful life and have  some knees that don’t work as well anymore  
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and that is the our part of crabgrass so i see  what i want i recognize what is and then i try to   figure out okay how can i mesh these two together  how can i still have a rich and meaningful life   and accept this adversity a stands for anticipate  the positive a lot of times we can get stuck in  
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the negative anticipating the positive means  trying to find hope trying to find compromise   in what’s going on instead of anticipating the  worst b stands for be present be aware be mindful   of what’s going on how you feel in the moment  and then address it if like the example i gave  
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your vision for your rich and meaningful  life suddenly took a hard left turn okay   well acknowledging that and radically accepting it  living in the end that’s all well and good but you   may also have some grief that you’ve got to deal  with so being present helps you identify and say
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i hear all that i see all that is logical but i  also need to acknowledge how i’m feeling right now g stands for growth and learning this is  an unfortunate experience how can i use it   as a growth experience what can i learn  from it in order to improve my life  
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r is realistic goals and expectations okay well  maybe i can’t work independently on the farm until   i’m 80 years old but what can i do i can still  have chickens i may not be riding horses anymore   but i can still have chickens i can still do  some gardening so those are realistic goals  
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based on the new reality radical  acceptance of the new reality   a stands for affirm yourself one step  at a time when something bad happens   we want it to go away we want to feel better but  we generally don’t go from misery to exhilaration  
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like that so affirming yourself recognizes um  and acknowledges the positive steps you’re taking   toward adjusting to this new situation s is find  solutions to the problem any problems that come up   because you’re having to make some adjustments and  then the final s is in serenity accepting what can  
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and cannot be changed you know in the example i’m  using you can’t get back your 20 year old knees   so if you don’t have that you can’t get that  back you have to accept that that cannot be   changed and potentially again process it  through grief for whatever you need to do
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challenging questions face palm when we start to  feel distressed when we start to feel overwhelmed   it’s important to evaluate our beliefs what  are the facts for and against your belief   not your assumptions not emotional reasoning  what are the facts for and against your belief  
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what additional factors need to be considered  like the context like the other people that   were there like whatever what else contributed to  the situation and how it turned out what is the   context of the situation and are you using extreme  language are you using all or nothing words
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p stands for probability or likelihood  if you’re having this belief that’s   catastrophic that’s stressful in nature  what is the probability or likelihood   that the worst case scenario is going to  play out a stands for alternate explanations  
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what are some alternate explanations for why this  might be happening or what might have happened   because sometimes we assume we know what happened  and why it happened and that’s not it i mean think   about a car you can take it into a mechanic and he  says oh it’s the compressor and he changes out the  
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compressor and the air conditioner still doesn’t  work and he’s like oh well what are some alternate   explanations learn from it and move forward and  moving forward can be really difficult because whatever triggered that feeling triggered that  stress response and it’s important to learn  
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how you’re safe learn what you have power over  and recognize that you do have the power to   move forward it may come back and visit you  occasionally but you can stop those thoughts radical acceptance and i love  the mnemonic well i created it so  
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uh face it um f stands for fact for and against  your belief radical acceptance means accepting   the moment as it is it is what it is and if  that phrase bugs you you know you may want to   look at why but a lot of times that phrase bugs  people because they don’t like accepting things  
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they don’t like not having complete  control over things but sometimes you don’t   it is what it is okay so what are the facts for  and against your belief what is going on right now   a is acceptance that radical acceptance  embracing the present and acknowledging  
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that it is what it is and you don’t have to  like it but you may not be able to change it   by recognizing this you eliminate should you  eliminate saying well it shouldn’t be this   way or it should be this way it’s not it just is  which also helps you reduce the amount of energy  
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wasted being angry over something that you don’t  like in the moment and you have no control over c stands for control once you’ve identified  the facts and accepted them then you can   identify which aspects of the situation  you can control which ones you can’t  
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and the best way to use your  energy to cope with the situation   continue to worry stay angry miserable is  that helpful what aspects can you control   how can you change your situation or the  way you feel about the situation and then e  
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stands for evaluate the effectiveness  of your choices so you’re facing it successive approximations and scaffolding is  another tool that i have used a lot and i really   love successive approximations means striving  to get a little bit better or closer to the goal  
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every single time so maybe if you’re learning how  to shoot free throws you know the first time you   shoot the ball and it just whiffs completely  misses the backboard the rim everything all   together all right well then you practice and  the next time you get the ball up there and  
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it grazes the rim that’s better it’s closer the  next time it hits the backboard but bounces off   okay and then the fourth time you hit it up  there and it actually sinks in the bucket   now for most people it’s not going to be a 1 2  3 4 like that but you get the analogy that i’m  
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making successive approximations means looking  for a little bit of improvement every single time   scaffolding goes along with  successive approximations   and means letting somebody do something up until  the point they need help the goal is to prompt  
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successive approximations so they get a little bit  better and need a little less help each time think   if you’ve ever tried to teach your kid to tie  their shoes you know tying shoes can be difficult   so the first you want to get them so they  can slide the shoe on their foot that’s the  
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first step and then it’s crisscrossing the laces  and pulling them tight and then making the bow   and then the rabbit goes around the tree and  then pulling the ear through you know how it   goes when you’re trying to teach children to  tie their shoes there’s a lot of steps in it  
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but you want to let them do as much as they  can because that helps them feel empowered   that helps them feel more capable and that  helps them learn how to do it and then once   they get to the point where they’re stuck then  you can either talk them through it or take over  
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and then the next time hopefully  they’ll get a little bit further   but this can be applied to things like tying shoes  washing clothes learning a computer program school   work folding a fitted sheet one of the banes of  my existence or even things like anger management
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heartiness is represented by commitment control  and challenge and this is a concept that was   proposed way back in 1978 but it’s still true  and useful today commitment means identifying   all of the things in your rich and meaningful  life to which you are committed that you are  
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that are important to you that you  want to devote your time and energy to   looking at that so you may have your house you  may have your garden you may have your animals and   your kids and your friends and your job and you  know all these things out here well that’s great  
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at any one point in time it’s likely that every  single one of them is probably not going perfectly   but heartiness encourages us instead of focusing  on the one sliver of the pie that’s going bad   to acknowledge the part of the pie that’s going  bad and recognize everything that’s going well  
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which helps buffer so we don’t feel hopeless  overwhelmed dejected sometimes people   will do this can chart this out using a  pie chart where each part of their life   that’s going good is shaded in green and each  part that’s not going well is shaded in red  
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other times people have used green and red  solo cups you know the little plastic cups   and they’ve put marbles or rocks representing  each thing that’s important to them   in the cups accordingly and hopefully the  green solo cup ends up with filled up more  
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with a lot more rocks than the red solo cup so  people have a visual representation of hey you   know yes this stuff over here is going crappy  but look at all this stuff that’s going well c stands for control of those things the ones  that are going crappy as well as the ones that  
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are going well what aspects can you control the  things that are going well how can you continue   to use your energy to keep those things going  well the things that are going crappy how can   you use your energy to help them improve if at all  and challenge instead of seeing it as a barrier  
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that keeps you from moving toward your rich and  meaningful life seeing things that are not going   so well as a challenge recognizing the ways that  you’ve endured difficult situations in the past   and then like an athlete constantly strives  to get stronger better or faster how can this  
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experience be seen as a challenge to help you  strengthen the skills that you already have   to get around or over or under this  particular obstacle that’s in your path playing the tape through is another one that  i really like too often we make decisions or  
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assumptions based on emotions we feel angry  we feel anxious we want to fight or flee   so we do things out of anger or anxiety  instead of instead of our wise mind playing   the tape through means considering all  the factors and options both in the short  
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and the long term so it’s kind of like  playing a game of chess with in life it’s important to beta test  before acting or reacting for example quitting a job maybe you hate  your job and you want to quit your job and  
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in the short term oh my gosh that would  be such a relief that’s that’s true but   play the tape through what are the long-term  consequences of quitting your job right now   or maybe you have difficulty being around people  places or things that are triggering or you you  
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choose to be around people places or things that  are triggering maybe you’re somebody who’s in   recovery from alcoholism and you start minimizing  and say and rationalizing and saying oh you know i   haven’t had a drink in two years so i can go meet  my friends at a bar and i’ll just have club soda  
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that’s rationalizing you want to play the tape  through you think you can but in the long run   how likely is that to happen what are the  potential consequences of taking that risk decisional balance activities are it’s  a chart that is proposed and used a lot  
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in motivational interviewing and when you  practice decisional balance you encourage   people to look at the benefits and the drawbacks  not only to change but also to staying the same   the benefits to change well helping them figure  out why is it that they want to change that one  
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seems pretty obvious you know how is it going to  help them feel better physically get more sleep be   healthier have more energy feel happier improve  their relationships improve their finances you   know okay all those things so that one may seem  pretty obvious but then we want to talk about what  
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are the drawbacks to change and sometimes people  look at me like i’m crazy when i ask them that   but the goal is to try to figure out what things  might get in their way what might prevent them   from changing what might make them decide you  know what it’s not worth all this effort so what  
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are the drawbacks and we go again through what  emotionally how are you going to feel what are   what’s scary or anxiety provoking about change  physically when we’re talking about addiction   one of the drawbacks to change physically  is the withdrawal symptoms okay well how  
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can we mitigate those so they’re not quite as  intense so they don’t make you as miserable   interpersonally what are the drawbacks to  change sometimes when people change it means   they lose some friends or change their social  circle and that can be really intimidating  
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financially what are the drawbacks to change  well we’re talking about addiction for example   residential treatment can be really expensive in  the short term but in the long term um maybe not   and then legally if there  are any legal consequences  
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and then you do the same thing for staying the  same what are the benefits to staying the same   what do you like about what you’re doing now and  then what are the drawbacks to staying the same   and by going through all four of these  quadrants by breaking it down very granularly  
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you can help people identify  their motivations for change   and then areas that you need to address  that might serve as obstacles to change dialectics radical acceptance and cognitive  restructuring means embracing the positive  
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and negative aspects of a situation dog hair  and sometimes i’ve mentioned in other videos   that around my house it feels like i’m trying  to brush my teeth and eat oreos at the same time   because we have three dogs and four cats and two  teenagers and so our house is always needing to  
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be dusted which drives me crazy i i don’t like  dust and and dog hair and everything all around   but i love my animals more and if i have a  completely sterile house that would be beautiful   but i wouldn’t have my animals and that would  break my heart i can’t imagine living without  
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animals so yeah the dog hair not  ideal but the love of my animals   is much more important feeling vulnerable in  a relationship well when you start to care   about somebody you’re going to often feel more  vulnerable and that can be anxiety provoking  
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but feeling vulnerable and that little bit of  anxiety also means that you care about somebody so   embracing the good with the bad and recognizing  you can’t have one without having the other   or feeling anxiety or distress when  doing particular therapy activities  
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therapy recovery treatment whatever  you want to call it often involves debriding at least old wounds opening  up old wounds and doing it carefully   obviously is important but i’ve never worked  with somebody in the 20 some odd years that  
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i’ve been practicing that the entire time  we’ve worked together it’s been a cakewalk   if we did i wouldn’t be  doing my job the whole goal   is to process those issues and those traumas  that bring up sadness or fear or even anger  
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and work through them so yeah it’s uncomfortable  to feel some of those feelings sometimes   but once you process them then you’re able to move  forward so you can’t have one without the other and autobiography can be really helpful and you  can do autobiographies a lot of different ways  
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from the adult self assuming  you’re working with an adult   they write their autobiography that’s the way we  usually do it i’ve also had people write their   autobiography from someone else’s perspective  if have write your autobiography as if your  
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mother or your grandmother or your best friend  were telling me all about you so it’s writing your   biography so to speak or they can write their  autobiography autobiography from their child   self perspective and obviously this just goes up  through a certain period of time but going back  
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to maybe when that trauma happened or before  that trauma happened having them write their   autobiography from the perspective of that five or  six year old you know what were they seeing what   were they feeling what were they experiencing and  then seeing how that changes as the child grows
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you can also engage in letter writing and i use  the term letters but in this day and age you can   write old-fashioned letters by hand you can type  them you can do videos or you can even practice   what we call a gestalt therapy empty chair  technique any of these what you’re doing is  
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you’re getting words and thoughts out of your  head and putting them out here you can write   letters to your future self to your past self  or to other people from your past maybe they   were really important to you or maybe they were  really traumatizing to you but you got something  
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to say to them you can write these letters to any  of these people in the voice of your past self so   maybe the six-year-old that was neglected  needs to write a letter to their caregiver   you can write it in the voice of your present  self so as a 26 year old you can write a letter  
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uh in the voice of your present self telling  your past person what happened or telling your   past self what happened you know you’re in  the present writing a letter to your past   self or writing a letter to your child self  or even your future self or you can write  
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it in the voice of your future self you can  imagine yourself as being happy healthy and   in that rich and meaningful life writing a letter  to your present self about the things that you   learned or the changes that you made so how are  you different in your rich and meaningful life  
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there’s a lot of different permutations of  this and i encourage you to get creative journaling kind of similar you can journal by  just doing a daily reflection like writing a diary   you can keep symptom logs some people  aren’t into the whole prose thing  
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you can practice mindful journaling so sitting  down in the moment and spending 10 15 minutes   writing what you’re thinking  seeing hearing feeling   you can journal about a particular feeling  happiness so you’re going to write about the  
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things that make you happy or the things that  make you angry you can keep a gratitude journal   or journal from the perspective of the inner  child the manager or the firefighter and these are   archetypes if you will from internal family  systems theory the inner child is the part of  
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you that may have experienced trauma and is still  scared and is still sort of huddling back in the   corner so that child may come out and journal and  talk about what it feels like for them right now   the manager is the part of you that just tries to  get things done and they tend to be less emotional  
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and more practical and putting one foot in front  of the other but they can get frustrated by the   inner child that is you know fussing and anxious  and needy and the firefighter who is the emotion   response who’s constantly trying to just make  it stop hurting and you know throw water on it  
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or you can write it from the perspective  of the firefighter that gets exhausted by   getting called out all the time you can do  journals in text or in video or audio format   you can change if you’re writing it you can  change your writing utensils you can use a  
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pen or a pencil or a crayon or even  charcoal you can make your journals   verbal where you’re writing words or graphic  where you’re scrapbooking or drawing things guided imagery is one of the final  techniques we’re going to talk about  
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but guided imagery can be used for emotional or  physical pain people can be helped to envision   a dial like a knob on the television i guess  we don’t have those anymore but you understand   um on the stove we still have knobs on a lot  of stoves where they’re turning it down they  
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actually turn down the intensity the  volume of their emotional or physical pain   they can envision their emotion or their physical  pain as a color and maybe it starts out as red   and then it turns to blue or it starts out as  completely opaque and you just can’t even see  
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the thing that’s hurting and if it’s  your elbow it’s your elbow if it’s an   emotion maybe it’s your heart it’s red and  opaque and you can’t see anything and then   as the pain goes away it becomes more and  more transparent until it goes away completely
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nanobots you can tell i watch science fiction but  or or your helper t cells or your immune system   you can envision your body healing itself  or sometimes you can envision like if you’re   having anxiety you can envision a wave coming  over you and just whooshing it away sometimes  
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it can be helpful to be sitting under a fan  when you do that but guided imagery can take   just about any form somebody wants it to take  how would you see this getting better and then   encouraging them helping them actually  see it getting better envisioning it  
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you can use guided imagery for anticipatory  anxiety too if somebody has to do a speech   or they’re anticipating something that’s stressful  or they’re anticipating heaven forbid the death   of a loved one you can help them use guided  imagery to envision themselves successfully  
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navigating that situation it may not be you  know all ribbons and roses and butterflies   but they can start to feel more empowered  feel more capable of handling that situation you can use guided imagery for growth you can  right before you go to sleep you can envision  
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what you want to do better or how you want  to be tomorrow you can start reprogramming   your subconscious right before you  go to sleep and then when you wake up   theoretically that has been imp imprinted on your  subconscious a little bit now it’s not going to do  
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things like overnight but they have done  a lot of research that has shown that   meditating or using guided imagery  to change your subconscious is most   effective if done right before sleep and  then guided imagery for sleep and the old  
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counting sheep thing that most of us told our kids  to do is an example of guided imagery the person   is closing their eyes and they’re envisioning  they’re seeing this image of sheep jumping over   a fence and that guided imagery can help them  trigger their relaxation response and focus their  
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attention on a pleasant safe empowering scene  instead of going all over the place and thinking   about the meeting they’ve got tomorrow and what  happened today and this that and the other thing and health literacy can’t end something on with  cognitive behavioral therapy without talking about  
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education and cognitions part of cognitive  behavioral therapy is helping people understand   the connection between their mind and their  body or their thoughts and their symptoms   helping them understand the  connection between their thoughts  
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their feelings how they perceive the world  and how they react and helping them learn   and understand the connection between their  past experiences and their present reactions it’s also important for a lot of people especially  those who encounter trauma early on to understand  
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to be educated about the impact of cognitive  development on their perceptions children think   differently than adults children tend to think  in all or nothing terms and very personally very   egocentrically so whatever happened the  way i perceive it must be the way it is  
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whatever happened is all my fault and it’s all or  nothing so if people’s perceptions when they were   children were formed that way and formed that way  around trauma then in the present they may still   perceive things in very um extreme terms so we  need to help them understand that those schema  
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that were formed when you were going through that  trauma when you were developing were very normal   because that’s how a nine-year-old that’s how  an eight-year-old thinks in the present you have   different abilities your brain actually changes  as you get older so maybe we can re revisit that
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cognitive behavioral therapy is not appropriate  for everybody but for many trauma survivors it   can be helpful to have practical tools to better  understand address and respond to their thoughts   feelings and behaviors in context so they don’t  feel like these flashbacks and feelings come out  
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from out of nowhere and they’re powerless against  them trauma-informed cognitive behavioral therapy   always empowers the person to learn about the  tool decide whether it’s one that they want to use   and arrive at their own conclusions when  evaluating thoughts beliefs and perceptions
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Anxiety Relief: A Sample 15 Week Masterclass with 20 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Strategies

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CEUs are available at AllCEUs.com/Anxiety-Master hey there everybody and welcome to this video  on 20 anxiety relief strategies i’m your host   dr donnelly snipes in this video i’m going to  walk you through the basic strategies that i  
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use to address generalized anxiety in someone  who comes into my office now it’s important   to remember that every person is different and  every person may display their anxiety slightly   differently so this just gives you a general  idea of tools and techniques that i might use  
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we’re going to start out by looking at what i go  over in the assessment or intake interview and   how that relates to the symptoms of  anxiety then we’ll explore other things   that i rule out or rule in that might  be contributing to the person’s symptoms  
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then we summarize the typical interventions that  i use when treating generalized anxiety disorder   and i finish up by listing 15 psycho-educational  topics that i think are important   for everybody to have in a foundation treatment  program if you’re not familiar with some of these  
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tools or techniques that i’m using that’s okay  i’ve linked to longer videos that i’ve done on   each one of them in the notes to this video so  just scroll down look at some of those videos   and you’ll be up to speed so let’s start out with  the intake assessment or the diagnostic criteria  
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remember anxiety is a feeling it’s an emotion  so the first criteria for diagnosing generalized   anxiety is excessive anxiety that’s difficult  to control on most days for at least six months   about a variety of things it’s not about one  specific thing it’s about a variety of things  
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it’s also important to recognize that just  like you wouldn’t wait to go to the doctor   until you had a pneumonia you also are likely  going to do better if you start addressing anxiety   when you notice it instead of waiting until  you’re at a crisis point or until you accurately  
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and completely fulfill diagnostic criteria just  because you haven’t had it for six months or more   doesn’t mean it doesn’t need to be addressed so we  start out with this first symptom and i ask people   about what triggers their anxiety what causes  them to feel anxious what things do they think  
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about when they’re feeling anxious and  i make a list of these things as we talk   and then we examine those triggers for themes are  they related to things like loss or abandonment   or rejection or failure or loss of control and we  start trying to group them together a little bit  
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to help the person get a better understanding  maybe of where their anxiety might be coming from   then i asked them about their  anxiety vulnerabilities now   remember vulnerabilities are different  than triggers triggers are things that  
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kick off the anxiety response vulnerabilities  are things that make people more likely   to be triggered when they encounter certain  stimuli so being over caffeinated being unrested   being sick being in a strange environment all of  those may be vulnerabilities for people’s anxiety  
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and i go through each one very systematically  we look at physical vulnerabilities   such as being over caffeinated or having low  blood sugar having poor sleep being in pain   then we move on to affective vulnerabilities  if the person’s already feeling stressed out  
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or overwhelmed about things maybe they’re just  starting to feel burned out then that may make   them more vulnerable to react to things with with  anxiety then we look at cognitive vulnerabilities   when they are in a particular mood perceiving  the world as either optimistic or pessimistic  
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does that make them more likely to feel anxiety  and then we’ll look at environment are there   particular environments that contribute to their  anxiety like i mentioned earlier being in a   strange place or maybe being in an environment  where there’s lots of activity like your kid’s  
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preschool classroom or a very busy restaurant as  opposed to your home or the library and finally   we’ll look at relationship vulnerabilities if  you will and that is people in the person’s life   that may make them more vulnerable to  react with anxiety are there people that
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make the person feel on edge that may contribute  to them being a little bit more hyper vigilant so   they’re more likely to become anxious and notice  for example micro expressions after we go through   the themes the triggers and the vulnerabilities  then we go to effective coping strategies what  
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is the person doing right now that helps them  either a little bit kind of take the edge off   their anxiety or maybe it helps them relieve their  anxiety even if just for 5 10 minutes 30 minutes   those are things that we can build  on and that helps me understand  
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the types of tools that might  be effective for that person   the next characteristic or criteria for diagnosis  of anxiety disorder is feeling restless keyed up   or on edge now this is different than anxiety this  is having difficulty sitting still and this is a  
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common symptom of adhd so the person may have  anxiety but they also may have concurrent adhd   or concurrent ptsd that is contributing to their  sense of restlessness so no matter how much of the   anxiety that we treat this particular symptom may  continue to be present unless we also address it  
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so again i asked them about what triggers your  restlessness what triggers your inability or   difficulty sitting still and are there any  vulnerabilities that make it more likely that   you will have difficulty sitting still or that  you you will feel more keyed up a lot of these  
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often overlap with the anxiety triggers but  it’s still helpful to take a look at them   then i asked them about their strengths and  coping strategies for dealing with feeling   restless or keyed up what do you do when you have  to sit still and you feel restless maybe it’s in  
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a staff meeting or on an airplane or something  else what strategies can you use that help you   cope with that sense of restlessness and edginess muscle tensions sleep disturbances and being  easily fatigued are all additional symptoms  
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and they can all be caused by a variety of things  muscle tension can be caused by poor ergonomics   and pain for example that is completely unrelated  to anxiety so again we can treat the anxiety   and we can address the stress related muscle  tension but if there’s also muscle tension for  
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other reasons we need to pay attention  to that too because muscle tension is   perceived by the body as a stressor and  that is going to trigger the stress response   which is going to make the person more  vulnerable to anxiety so i ask about  
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different triggers for their muscle tension and  what’s an effective coping strategy whether it’s   progressive muscular relaxation or massage or  heat or stretching what is it that helps them   reduce their muscle tension in terms of sleep  disturbances sleep can be disturbed for a lot of  
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reasons your circadian rhythms can be out of whack  your hormones can be out of whack you’re you could   be experiencing pain that is impacting your sleep  none of those are necessarily directly related to   the anxiety but they could be contributing  to maintaining the symptoms so i asked about  
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what are triggers for sleep disturbances for  example watching particular movies before going   to sleep or checking their email before going  to sleep and what vulnera vulnerabilities exist   for sleep disturbance what things make you  more likely to have difficulty going to sleep  
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and what are some effective street sleep  strategies that the person currently uses   sleep hygiene is a big focus of early treatment  for dare i say just about every disorder that i   treat because when a person is sleep deprived  when they’re not getting good quality sleep  
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it contributes to a whole bunch of symptoms  physical symptoms cognitive thinking symptoms   emotional symptoms as well as emotional ability  and difficulty regulating their emotions   so sleep strategies are important and i generally  provide people in the initial intake a link to a  
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video on sleep hygiene and a handout on sleep  hygiene so they can evaluate their own sleep   and then if they’re easily fatigued why is this  is it because they’re not getting good sleep okay   that could be it is it because their nutrition  is poor if you’re not getting good b vitamins  
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or if you’re stressed all the time so your body  can’t use the food that you are eating nearly   as effectively or if you’re eating foods that  don’t provide all the nutrients for your body to make energy available then nutrition may be a  cause of fatigue or a contributor to your fatigue  
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over and above fatigue caused by poor sleep  and being anxious or stressed out all the time   tension can contribute to fatigue even  though you may not notice that you’re   holding a lot of muscle tension holding that  tension keeping those muscles clenched takes  
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energy and that contributes to fatigue and finally  deconditioning people who are anxious and people   who are depressed often feel overwhelmed and  exhausted because of life so going to the gym   that’s a pie in the sky thought they feel like  they barely have the energy to get through the day  
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they can’t imagine mustering the energy to work  out but even deconditioning in terms of not being   able to spend as much time cleaning the house or  working on the yard just doing regular activities   of daily living may seem completely overwhelming  so they’re not doing them and after a period of  
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time the body loses its conditioning it loses its  stamina the good thing is stamina can be rebuilt   but it’s not something that comes back overnight  it’s something that has to be gradually rebuilt   and what helps the person improve their  energy when they’re feeling fatigued  
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you may not be able to go from feeling completely  exhausted to ready to go to the gym but if you’re   feeling fatigued is there something that can put  a little pep in your step besides caffeine and i   ask people about music are there particular songs  or playlists they listen to that can give them a  
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little boost music can actually help increase  dopamine and norepinephrine which make energy   more available to us so music’s one maybe deep  breathing or just getting up and moving around   or going outside into bright light those are  all tools or techniques that help some people  
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get a little bit of energy like i said it’s not  going to be a panacea but we want to look at   any strategies that work for the person at least  a little bit and then we can build on those two more criteria for anxiety disorder include  difficulty concentrating or your mind going blank  
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and irritability when you’re stressed when you  feel anxious you’ve got that fight-or-flight   system going on you’ve got your brain in rescue  mode if you will so your brain is paying more   attention to all the threats because it doesn’t  feel safe it’s paying attention to more things  
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that are going on around you because it doesn’t  feel safe which means if you’re in an environment   where there’s a lot of distractions maybe in a  busy restaurant or even at work if you work in a   open area with lots of other people moving around  it may be more difficult to maintain your train of  
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thought because you’re thinking and then all of  a sudden your hyper vigilance makes you go over   here to pay attention to that person that just  walked in or over there to pay attention to sally   who just dropped something on the floor and  then you completely lose your train of thought  
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so it’s important for people to  recognize when they’re feeling   anxious what environments what situations  what conditions make them more vulnerable   to having episodes where they can’t concentrate  or their mind goes blank and what can help them  
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a lot of people find that in this particular  situation having noise cancelling headphones on   sitting in a quiet environment at work  maybe in a carol or in a private office   can help them focus more effectively and  what effective coping strategies do they have  
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to help them deal with this difficulty  concentrating in their mind going blank   making lists is a big one if they have a bunch  of stuff to do at work but they’ve got a lot   of anxiety it may be hard to remember okay what is  it that i’ve got to do next but if they make lists  
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that can help them keep track and  follow along with what they need to do   and irritability is that sense of being  short-tempered if you will and it’s important   for people to recognize what makes them irritable  irritability is sort of you can think of it as a  
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mild form of anger and anger just like anxiety  is a response to a threat when a person feels   anxious when a person feels exhausted when  a person feels vulnerable for some reason   then they’re more likely to respond to  any sort of outside input especially  
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stressful outside input with irritability it’s  like i just can’t take one more thing go away   it’s important for people to  recognize that and recognize   what their triggers are for irritability when  they’re angry i’m sorry when they’re anxious  
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what things tend to trigger their short fuse  if you will and what makes them more likely   to be triggered for example being too hyped up  on caffeine or being exhausted or being in pain then i move on to ruling out no matter how much  work a person does on their anxiety and their  
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thoughts and cognitions about their anxiety   if there are underlying physical issues or other  mental health issues that aren’t being addressed   there’s only so much progress the person can  make it’s important to recognize that people are
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not just a bunch of independent parts everything  interacts so if somebody’s in pain physical pain   that’s going to trigger their stress response  which is going to make them more vulnerable to   anxiety in order to make them less vulnerable to  anxiety helping them address anxiety is great but  
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we also have to address that pain so the stress  response system the hpa axis isn’t always turned   on we want to rule out thyroid imbalance hyper  or hypothyroid estrogen fluctuations lyme disease   nutritional deficiencies food sensitivities excess  caffeine or stimulants and that can come from the  
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form of energy drinks or diet pills or other  herbs that somebody may be taking that have   stimulatory effects medication side effects some  medications have in their list of side effects can   contribute to anxiety it’s important to recognize  that when serotonin gets too high for example  
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it can contribute to anxiety some people  when they start taking antidepressants   feel anxiety for the first couple of days  because all of a sudden their body’s being   exposed to more serotonin than it was prior  to taking the medication now eventually  
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it all balances out but it’s important to  recognize that that is a potential side effect   alcohol and benzodiazepine withdrawal also  contribute to feelings of anxiety now alcohol   related anxiety tends to be much shorter than  benzodiazepine withdrawal when you withdraw from  
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alcohol usually it’s two or three days that the  person experiences high blood pressure increased   anxiety etc and then things start to level out  i’m not going to say their anxiety goes away   but it levels out quite a bit with benzodiazepines  or anti-anxiety medications it can take a lot  
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longer for the anxiety to go away a lot  of people also experience rebound anxiety   when their anti-anxiety medication starts to leave  their system so if they’re taking a short acting   anti-anxiety medication it may start helping them  feel better real quick but then as it starts to  
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leave their system their anxiety rebounds and it  feels like it’s even stronger than it was before   they took the pill in the first place and it’s  important if that’s occurring to talk with your   doctor about whether there are more longer  acting options that would reduce the rebound  
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anxiety or if there are other treatment options  which there are in in lieu of benzodiazepines   pain as i mentioned can also contribute to  keeping that stress response that hpa axis   turned on keeping the person hyper  vigilant when you’re in pain you tend to be  
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kind of guarding because you don’t want to hurt  anymore you don’t want to get injured anymore   and it can make people more likely to respond with  anger or anxiety so we do need to address pain   whether it’s chronic pain like from fibromyalgia  or intermittent pain like from frequent migraines  
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we still need to address what’s going on for  people who have intermittent pain they can also   experience anxiety because they dread having  another episode for people with chronic pain   they can have anxiety related to the chronic pain  worrying that it’s going to get worse and worrying  
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that it’s going to keep them from having the life  they want ptsd post traumatic stress disorder has   a lot of anxiety related symptoms however people  can have both generalized anxiety as well as ptsd   ptsd symptoms are focused mainly around triggers  reminders of the trauma whereas generalized  
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anxiety the anxiety is about more things but if  a person has ptsd they are going to likely be   hyper vigilant which is going to make them more  vulnerable to anxiety about a variety of things   obsessive-compulsive disorder has an anxiety  component people have these obsessions  
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that they are they can’t get out of their head  and they’re worried that if they don’t do if they   don’t do x if they don’t engage in a compulsion  then it is going to end up causing bad things   or they may just have this repetitive intrusive  thought that they ruminate on that contributes to  
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their anxiety and social anxiety remember i said  generalized anxiety the person is anxious about a   multitude of things in social anxiety the anxiety  is specifically about being negatively evaluated   by people can you have both yes potentially but we  do need if somebody has a social anxiety component  
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we need to make sure that we’re addressing  that in addition to the generalized anxiety the general treatment flow that i go through  with general with generalized anxiety   in this initial meeting we have talked about  triggers vulnerabilities and current effective  
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strategies that the person uses so i take all  of those and i put them into a spreadsheet   and we look for themes and i give them to the  per give the spreadsheet to the person so they   are more aware they can start identifying  vulnerabilities and triggers that they  
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want to address i also refer people to their  primary care to rule out physical causes and   contributors like hormone imbalances nutritional  deficiencies chronic pain if they need to be   or they want to be referred to a nutritionist  or a sleep specialist i also make a referral  
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to those particular people at that point in time i  also have people start keeping a daily anxiety log   in which they note the date the time the trigger  or triggers for their anxiety the intensity   of their anxiety on a scale of one to four one  being yeah i noticed it but it wasn’t a big deal  
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two is i felt anxious but i was able to get  through just fine three is i felt really anxious   but i managed somehow to get through it and  pushed through but it was really really hard   and four the anxiety was overwhelming i just i  couldn’t i was paralyzed so date time triggers  
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intensity duration did it last five minutes or  five hours and what interventions what things did   they do that helped to either reduce their anxiety  or help them recover after the anxiety episode and then henceforth each week we review their  anxiety logs that’s like the first thing that  
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i do with people after i ask them you know  how’s your week been we look at the anxiety   logs and i evaluate it for repeating triggers and  repeating themes for their anxiety then we process   at least three of their triggers for their anxiety  and i use the fcp method what are the facts for  
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and against your belief about this situation what  aspects did you have control of in this situation   and based on the facts and your ability  to control the factors you had control of   what’s the probability that this  actually would have ended up being  
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a catastrophe would have actually ended up  being a notable threat that’s where we start   a lot of times helping people move away from  emotional reasoning into factual reasoning gives   them a sense of new perspective and a greater  sense of mastery over the situation they may not  
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feel like they can control it yet but they’re  feeling like they have a better understanding   eventually as we go through the treatment process  people will learn about cognitive restructuring   dialectics living in the and purposeful action and  hardiness and we’ll apply each one of those tools  
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as they learn them when we process their  triggers i also look at their anxiety   logs for potential vulnerabilities and i and i  identify mitigation strategies include setting   and maintaining boundaries assertiveness  and trigger management so for example  
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if one of their common triggers was interacting  with their boss or interacting with their   sister-in-law then i would say okay what  mitigation strategies could we use how can   you effectively set and maintain healthy  boundaries and manage this trigger in a meaningful  
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way may not be able to completely prevent the  anxiety but how can we help you move from a four   where you’re completely paralyzed by your anxiety  to a three where you can start you can get through   it it sucks but you can get through it and  then eventually we’ll get down to a one  
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we discuss what tools have been effective  in the past week it’s really important in   my mind to help people identify and build on  their strengths and realize the power that   they already have realize the resources that they  already have that they may be taking for granted  
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and then i provide a video handout and worksheet  on a particular psycho-education topic and it’s   important for a lot of people to have a video  that kind of explains it and walks them through it   and then a handout or worksheet to apply  it why do i do this for in between sessions  
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because i feel that people’s money is best  spent when they’re in session with me actually   processing stuff the psychoeducation component i  think is something in most cases is something that   people can spend their time learning between  sessions i don’t want to waste their money
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lecturing them when they could watch a video on  it i want to spend their time in session actually   using what they’ve learned  and applying the information so the psycho-education topics that i  think are important for everybody to  
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learn about the function of anxiety its connection  to the stress response and the impact of fight or   flight on perception and problem solving and i  mentioned that several times in this video that   when we’re in fight-or-flight mode we don’t pay  attention to the good stuff we are actually more  
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aware of more of the threats in the environment  because we are on high alert so to speak   which means we tend to perceive the world as  more dangerous and because of all that because   of the glutamate and the norepinephrine and  everything else in our brain it makes it harder  
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to think clearly our brain is has tunnel vision  adrenaline haze whatever you want to call it that   is geared towards helping us fight or flee  not think about all the possible options   and problem solving so until people can get  into what linehan called the wise mind until  
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people can get out of that high anxiety state  it’s going to be difficult to problem solve   then we talk about distress tolerance  skills which are the skills that people   need when they feel anxious to help them  remember that they can tolerate the distress  
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so they don’t feed into it by saying oh my  gosh this is going to overwhelm me i’m not   going to be able to handle it these distress  tolerance skills help people feel more empowered   even in the face of anxiety and can  help them get into their wise mind  
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we talk about circadian rhythms and sleep  hygiene because it’s so important for developing new skills for learning new things  as well as for helping the hpa access the threat   response system recover that people are getting  good quality sleep then i talk about nutrition  
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and neurotransmitter support what we eat is  broken down to make neurotransmitters to make   hormones to repair the body so if we’re eating  like crap we’re probably going to feel like crap   a lot of people want to get straight down to the  nitty-gritty of how can i improve my serotonin  
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my dopamine my norepinephrine and ultimately  everything is in a fine balance so if one goes up   one happy chemical goes up the other ones are  likely going to go up too but that requires   a healthy diet for example making serotonin to  break down tryptophan we need to have vitamin  
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b we need to have calcium we need to have  zinc we need to have iron we need to have   tryptophan itself and then to break down it goes  from tryptophan to 5 ht then to break that down   even more we need even more vitamins and  minerals so it’s important that people  
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understand the importance of a healthy diet but  also understand the regular foods that they can   eat to support their body’s ability to make those  neurotransmitters like spinach and bananas and   cocoa and tea and colorful vegetables it’s not  anything that’s really weird wild and radical
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next we talk about mindfulness the difference  between focused mindfulness so you’re focusing   on something like a candle flame or open  awareness mindfulness where you’re walking through   a park for example and you’re not focusing on  any one thing in particular you’re just noticing  
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quote everything as you walk down the  path that open awareness encourages you to be mindful be in the moment instead of  thinking instead of being in your own head   and then mindfulness in terms of the self scan  mindfully scanning your your head heart and gut  
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so to speak how am i feeling emotionally how am i  feeling physically what am i needing emotionally   what am i needing physically right now the next  lesson is on compassion and loving-kindness   developing compassion for yourself as well  as other people a lot of times anxiety  
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comes from fears of being rejected  fears of being criticized fears of   not being good enough and sometimes that comes  because your own inner critic is just harsh   and hateful so developing self-compassion  recognizing that it’s okay to be imperfect  
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can be helpful to encourage people to move towards  self-acceptance as opposed to self-abandonment   and loving-kindness meditation is helpful to   inspire compassion for others even  others that are being kind of difficult
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the next unit or topic is cognitive distortions  what they are their function and restructuring   them cognitive distortions include think  things like all or none thinking mind reading   and catastrophizing and over personalization so  we talk about how those thinking errors are likely  
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thinking strategies that formed in childhood  before you could think more critically so to speak   and often remained unchecked then we talk  about alternatives such as looking for   alternatives instead of thinking it always  happens or it never happens looking for exceptions  
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you know when has this happened if i if i say it  never happens is that true or are there exceptions   if i’m taking things too personally instead of  saying it’s all about me or the person’s mad at me   or hates me what are three other explanations  for why they may have given you a dirty look  
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besides you you were they even did they even see  you or were they caught in their own thoughts   then we move on to optimism and i  have in here tragic optimism because   unbridled optimism can be just as unhealthy as  unbridled pessimism tragic optimism includes  
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an element of dialectics and living in the  and in tragic optimism we recognize what is   but we have hope that it can get better we  recognize the good and the bad and the present   and we have hope that we can make a difference  to move towards a more rich and meaningful life
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unit 9 looks at schema schema  are our brains cliff notes   our brain shortcut to help us interpret what  to happen you have schema about everything   stop lights i’m assuming everybody who’s  watching drives and so you have a schema  
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when you see a stop light that’s on yellow  you have a schema that tells you how to react   if you think that yellow lights are really long  and you’ve got plenty of time to get through   then you’re going to keep on going or maybe even  floor it if you think that yellow lights tend to  
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change really quickly and you don’t want to run  the red light then you’re probably going to stop   so based on your past experiences with yellow  lights you’re going to react in the current moment   probably without thinking about it you’re  not going to sit there and go okay well the  
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last three times i came to this light it changed  really fast it’s just sort of an automatic process   that’s the beauty of schema it helps us do some  of our things in default mode or on autopilot   unfortunately if somebody’s been exposed to trauma  or has been anxious for a long time then their  
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schema may have been altered to expect that  the world is going to always be a dangerous   disempowering un unpleasant place so it’s going  to be important to evaluate their schema back then   that may have been true in the current context  at the current time is this schema still accurate  
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if so okay how do we deal with it if not how can  you adjust your schema relationships are the same   way if you’ve been in multiple bad relationships  you may expect that people aren’t trustworthy   but that really sets everybody else up to be  at a loss because you’re just expecting they’re  
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going to behave badly if you adjust your schema  and you say okay in this context at this time   with this person are my beliefs about  what’s going on are my expectations true   or am i just assuming based on other  people’s behaviors and past experiences
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number 10 is creating a rich and meaningful  life vision board helping people visualize what   things are important in their rich and meaningful  life what things do they currently have that are   important in their rich and meaningful life and  instead of using their energy just holding on to  
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anxiety and tossing it around in their hands like  a hot potato how can they instead use that energy   to nurture the things that are important in their  life and what kind of a difference would that make   number 11 is acceptance purposeful action  and heartiness helping people recognize  
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that sometimes life just sucks it is what  it is so to speak but using their energy   purposefully instead of using their energy  to be angry about it and stew on it and pout   using their energy and saying okay can’t change  this situation but what can i change what can  
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i use this energy for that would help me  move closer to a rich and meaningful life number 12 moves into relationships and  interpersonal behaviors and i start out   with setting and maintaining boundaries a  lot of times people feel anxious because  
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they have never been taught how to set boundaries  and maintain them they have other people have   encroached on their boundaries and told them  what to think or what to feel or criticized them   for how they think or how they feel and so  learning how to set and maintain boundaries is  
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really important to helping people feel empowered  and safe in any relationship in section 13 we talk   about secure attachment positive self-talk and  the inner child so there’s a lot there hopefully   by this point in treatment people’s triggers  and anxiety experiences are a lot less intense  
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and a lot less frequent so they have more time  to spend on developing additional skills but in   order to feel safe in order to feel loved people  typically need to have some secure attachments   including a secure attachment with self feeling  like you can be there to respond to your own needs  
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so we talk about what secure attachment  looks like how secure attachment is developed   how to use positive self-talk to enhance  your secure attachment with yourself   and to help heal your inner child that may  have been wounded because of past things  
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in unit 14 we talk talk more about the inner  critic because the inner critic is huge and   contributes to a lot of people’s anxiety the  inner critic may bring up past stuff remember   back then you failed you’re going to fail again  which can trigger anxiety or the inner critic can
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bring up anticipatory things you  think you’re going to be able to   do this you’re going to fail and  then this is what’s going to happen   and the sky is going to fall so getting that  inner critic under control is really important  
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in 15 we talk about listening without  defensiveness because defensiveness is a   anxiety anger threat reaction when people feel  like they’re being criticized or when people   feel like others don’t necessarily agree with  them the automatic reaction for a lot of people  
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is to feel threatened and to get defensive  so we talk about how to hear other people’s   opinions maintain your own boundaries and not  get defensive you don’t have to agree with them   but it’s important to be able to listen and then  finally in unit 16 we talk about assertiveness  
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in order to feel safe and empowered which is what  you need to do to feel not threatened to feel less   anxious it’s important to be able to assertively  communicate your thoughts wants and needs   so we talk about any barriers to assertiveness  and how to assertively communicate what you  
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need to others while still respecting  their boundaries and maintaining yours that gives you a general overview of the types  of things that i go through in a 12 to 16 week   treatment program with somebody who presents with  generalized anxiety now remember every individual  
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is different so i may add things like a unit on  abandonment anxiety or a unit on grief and loss   for people based on what their the themes of their  anxiety triggers are but the skills that i have   already gone over the skills that i’ve highlighted  in this presentation i think are essential  
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Carl Jung – How to Find Your Soul (written by Eternalised)

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This after skool presentation was  written and narrated by eternalized [Music] Swiss psychologist Carl Jung saw how the modern  materialistic world of money pleasure Fame and  
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power did not lead to happiness but rather an  increasing sense of meaninglessness anxiety   suffering and loneliness he sought to bring  our attention back to the search of our soul   and to restore our connection with herself  our innermost Sanctuary life is a journey  
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of discovering ourself which is our true and  complete personality consisting of both our   conscious and unconscious lives this is what Jung  calls the individuation process our journey of   psychological maturation it is the indestructible  Foundation that supports us when we can no longer  
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support ourselves like a rock that the waves keep  crashing over standing unmoved despite the Raging   of the sea to be in contact with this deeper part  of ourselves is to be in a state of Tranquility   undisturbed by wild emotional fluctuations the  goal in life is not not Perfection but wholeness  
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for Jung there are two stages of life that  are part of individuation the first half of   life is oriented towards the outer  world work education relationships   Etc we must throw ourselves into the fire of life  and expose ourselves to daily life and hard work  
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which solidifies our personality natural life is  the nourishing soul of the soil which provides a   rich source of nutrients that heals us this is  why contact with nature is important we mustn’t   get lost in abstract thinking to the detriment  of practical life it is the body the feeling the  
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instinct which connects us with the soil in his  old age Jung continued to Value this way of life   he wrote I have done without electricity and  tend the fireplace and stove myself evenings   I light the old lamps there’s no running water  and I pump the water from the well I chop the  
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wood and cook the food these simple acts make  and simple and how difficult it is to be simple   this anchoring in reality is a prerequisite for  the second half of life where our Focus shifts   to our inner World our quest for individuation and  this is the phase of Life Jung is mostly concerned  
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with the realm of the unconscious the world of  the inner life is as infinite as the world of   the outer life man lives in Two Worlds many people  however have neglected this part of themselves and   only remain half alive they are unprepared by  the natural transition into the second half of  
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life and fall into a mid-life crisis because they  have not learned to align Both Worlds when we are   confronted with the real and crushing problems of  life we desperately search for our soul we realize   that the values we have learned from society  provides no help to us Conformity is the great  
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destroyer of self-hurt the opposite to courage in  our society is not cowardice it is Conformity we   are often persuaded to take the Apparently easier  Road of merging with the crowd and forgetting   ourselves it requires courage to stand against  the crowd a person can be surrounded by a crowd of  
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people and yet feel completely alone because he’s  alienated from himself the search for the soul   is a solitary task and when we avoid the soul it  keeps on stirring it disturbs us makes us restless   and gives us no peace however these problems are  important they are incentives for us to undertake  
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Soul work without the trials and tribulations of  life we aren’t likely to summon the determination   to overcome the indifference of daily life  people will do anything no matter how absurd   to avoid facing their own soul the gate that  leads to destruction is Broad and many answers  
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through it but the gateway to peace is narrow  and on me answers safe through Affliction of the   Soul it is wise to nourish the soul otherwise  you’ll breed dragons and devils in your heart   every psychic advance of man arises from the  suffering of the Soul embrace your grief for  
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there your soul will grow like the Primitive  indigenous tribesmen Jung recognized that the   loss of Soul leads to a sense of meaninglessness  in life when a tribe of people lose their feeling   that their way of life is worthwhile they may  stop reproducing or in large numbers simply lie  
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down and die besides streams full of fish food is  not the primary nourishment of man in place of our   current banana life Jung would ask us to embark  on a great adventure of self-knowledge which comes   upon investigating once in a world the unconscious  realm and for yum this is the true journey of life  
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without the soul the body is dead and without  the body the soul is unreal the soul is the   home of our Supreme values Dreams Are The Guiding  words of the Soul we must carry them in our heart   and go back and forth over them in our mind like  the words of the person dearest to us the dream  
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is a little hidden door in the innermost and  most secret recesses of the Soul opening into   that Cosmic night which was psyche long  before there was any ego consciousness   apart from dreams Jung developed the technique of  active imagination where you have a dialogue with  
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different parts of yourself that live in the  unconscious it is similar to Dreaming except   that you are fully awake and conscious during the  experience he discovered this technique when he   experienced The Dark Knight of the Soul or what  he calls his confrontation with the unconscious  
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a midlife existential catastrophe in which he  was overwhelmed with visions and plunged into   unknown depths it was as though he experienced  a psychological death and he decided that outer   death is better than inner death for that reason  he turned away and sought the place of the inner  
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life and thus began his search for his soul  this led to one of the greatest contributions   to mankind the red book Jung wrote my soul my  soul where are you do you hear me I speak I call   you are you there I have returned I am here again  I’ve shaken the dust of all the land from my feet  
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and I’ve come to you I am with you after long  years of long wandering I’ve come to you again   there is only one way to the soul and that is  your way there is only one salvation and that   is your salvation if the path before you is clear  you’re probably on someone else’s each one must  
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go his own way hence look into yourself for you  must fulfill the way that is in you when we are   in contact with our inner self we are more likely  to experience synchronicities that is Meaningful   patterns in life where the inner world is seen  to have a correspondence in external reality  
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the first step towards individuation is the  integration of the Shadow this is not our enemy   but our Ally it contains pure gold waiting to be  integrated into our personality it becomes dark   only when it is ignored we must learn to watch  our emotional impulses and be aware of projecting  
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our own problems onto other innocent people it is  only after the encounter with a shadow that we can   move on to the deepest part of the Soul which  Jung calls the Anima the female psychological   tendencies in man and the Animus the male  psychological tendencies in women these are the  
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contrasexual soul images in our psyche while the  integration of the Shadow is The Apprentice piece   the soul image is the Masterpiece the integration  of the anima is done through taking seriously the   feelings moods and fantasies of the unconscious  and bringing them into reality through creative  
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work such as painting writing sculpture or musical  composition the anima is the source of life and   when it is not integrated we feel lifeless and  depressed it enriches our life by making the   unconscious contents conscious the animus on the  other hand is the source of meaning it gives our  
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unconscious content meaning in the outer World  it endows a woman with qualities of initiative   courage objectivity and spiritual wisdom avoiding  cold and destructive Reflections or hidden   convictions about how life ought to be as if stuck  in a cocoon of dreamy thoughts which cuts a woman  
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off from the reality of life the integration  of the Soul image is what caused a path to the   most fundamental figure the self wholeness can  only be achieved through a union of opposites in   which our light and dark side are united Jung’s  individuation process is analogous to the great  
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work of the Alchemists where the Philosopher’s  Stone is a symbol of the self which is found   within oneself for Jung the task of alchemy  is psychological it is the art of expanding   consciousness of self-realization when we have  lost our way or do not know what to do with our  
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life we can only surrender to the higher wisdom of  the self our constant inner companion through life   Jung did not see himself as a Healer but as  someone who could guide you to heal yourself The   Cure ought to grow naturally out of the Wounded  individual this search for herself allows for  
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empathy Mutual understanding and they desire  to become an ally in other people’s Journeys   towards psychological maturation thus we improve  our relationship with ourselves with others and   with nature life is not a problem to be solved but  a mystery to be experienced we do not require any  
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esoteric knowledge to be in contact with herself  anyone can take the time to look within to reflect   on life’s meaning to give time and attention  to values interests and activities that bring   joy and fulfillment to one’s personal life who  looks outside dreams who looks inside awakes
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if you are interested in learning more about  the works of Jung head over to my channel   eternalized where I have explained these Concepts  more in depth thank you for watching foreign [Music]
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Use Your Thoughts to Optimize Your Health – Dr Joe Dispenza

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gDr9V_vmFY
[Music] we have three types of stress that we  process in the physical body we have physical   stress that’s like trauma accidents injuries  Falls and then you have chemical stress like   toxins or pesticides or pollutants or viruses or  bacteria or hangovers or nutritional deficiencies  
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and then you have emotional stress right and  emotional stress could be family tragedies   car accidents second mortgages single parenting  401ks you know whatever that is but each one of   those things physical chemical or emotional knock  the body out of homeostasis out of Regulation out  
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of balance the innate capacity of the body when  it’s not overstressed is that it wants to always   return back and regulate it wants to return back  to homeostasis it wants to return back to order   and that’s inate in us that’s an automatic  process that’s running through the autonomic  
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nervous system so we could say the job of the  autonomic nervous system is to create balance   and Regulation and homeostasis and it’s automatic  and that part of the brain sits under the thinking   neocortex and it’s called the chemical brain  or the emotional brain or the lyic brain or the  
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mamelon brain and it has all of those functions  that make blood sugar balanced hormone levels   digestive enzymes it’s it’s it’s it’s doing  what it can to take the body and constantly   repair it and regenerate it and move it back into  balance all of those stressors knock the brain and  
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body out of balance and the innate mechanism the  stress response brings it back to balance well it   just makes sense if you keep knocking it out of  balance over and over again and you keep moving   it out of homeostasis that imbalance is going to  become the new balance and now you’re headed for  
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disease because that autonomic automatic system  can’t regulate order in the body so a system then   is compromised the system breaks down and so if  it’s physical trauma you know your body can heal   if you rest it if it’s chemical imbalance you  take your uh Pharmaceuticals or you take your  
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nutriceuticals your vitamins your minerals your  herbs you intermittent fast you do anything you   can to get the body back so that it’s using more  energy for growth and repair but the big factor   is emotional stress 75 to 90% of every person  that walks into a Healthcare facility in the  
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Western World walks in because of psychological  or emotional stress pretty much four out of   five people what’s really causing their health  condition is that they’re emotionally stressed   and emotionally out of balance okay so what are  the emotions that are connected to the stress  
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hormones it’s anger it’s hatred it’s frustration  it’s competition it’s control it’s judgment it’s   Envy it’s jealousy it’s insecurity it’s fear it’s  anxiety it’s worry it’s angst it’s uh hopelessness   it’s powerlessness it’s guilt it shame its  unworthiness you know and psychology calls these  
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normal human States Of Consciousness these are  Altered States Of Consciousness so our response   to someone or something in in our environment or  our response to our own thought an image of what   could happen in the future a memory of the past  could actually cause chemicals to be secreted  
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from the brain that causes the body to actually  believe it’s living in that same environment of   fear or danger right so that thought when you’re  seeing that thought in your mind or remembering   that image it’s the image and the emotion it’s  the thought and the feeling it’s the stimulus and  
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response that’s immediately conditioning the body  into that state of imbalance so it’s a scientific   fact that the long-term effects of the hormones of  stress push the genetic buttons and create disease   if you can turn on that stress response just by  thought alone your thoughts are literally going  
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to make you sick that’s the greatest example of  the Mind Body Connection so the next fundamental   question is okay if our thoughts could make us  sick is it possible that my thoughts could make   me well well if that’s the case then then I’m  going to have to manage my attention and I’m  
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going to have to manage my energy because where I  place my attention is where I place my energy and   I’m going to have to inhibit that thought that has  conditioned the body to subconsciously be the mind   and the body is so objective that it does not know  the difference between the real life experience  
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that’s creating that emotion and the emotion that  person is fabricating by thought alone to the body   it’s exactly the same so the body’s believing  it’s being chased by a predator the body is   believing it’s in an offensive situation where it  has to attack the body’s believing it’s constantly  
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needing to be ready and it’s it’s constantly out  of homeostasis is constantly out of balance it’s   in emergency it’s in fight ORF flight it’s a  different system the autonomic nervous system   where you’re stepping on the gas where you’re  you’re mobilizing enormous amounts of energy  
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for some threat some Danger real or imagined  but that thought and that feeling the image the   emotion the stimulus response is conditioning the  body to automatically be the mind of that emotion   now the body becomes conditioned and addicted  now this gets to be a problem because people  
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get addicted to their own thoughts and they become  addicted to the life they don’t even like because   the response to the coworker to the boss to the  ex is actually giving them Rush of energy A Rush   of agine and they’re they’re associating that Rush  of energy with some problem or condition in their  
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life and now come time to change and manage  your attention and manage your emotion it’s   no different than Breaking addiction to anything  there’s Cravings the body wants to return back to   how it’s been conditioned into the familiar past  into the gnome the body starts saying to the mind  
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you can it’s too hard you’ll never change this  is too uncomfortable I don’t like this go back   to make the same Choice do the same thing create  the same experience feel the same emotion so you   can return back to the known and that’s how people  seamlessly return back to that same identity so we  
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only accept believe and surrender to the thoughts  that are equal to our emotional state we’ll never   accept believe and surrender any thoughts that are  not equal to your emotional state so you could say   I’m abundant I’m Eternal I’ll live forever I’m  healthy and wealthy and if you’re programmed your  
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body into that emotional state it’s going to say  you you’re not that take a person whose identity   is resentment and their identity is anger and and  frustration and betrayal and you ask them why are   you this way and they’ll say I’m this way because  of this event that happened to me 15 years ago  
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strong are the emotion we feel from some event the  more altered we feel inside of us the more that   chemical continuity is disrupted from something  that surprises us that alters our state the more   the brain freezes a frame and takes a snapshot  that’s called a memory but the problem is that we  
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think about that event over and over again after  it happens we’re producing the same chemistry in   the brain and body as if the event was occurring  and so the body is conditioned literally into   the past so you say a person’s resentful about  everything they’re seeing their life through the  
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lens of resentment and frustration and anger  and everything’s upsetting them well that’s a   self-fulfilling prophecy you say okay now it’s an  addiction you got to change that and the person   goes oh okay that makes sense and now now you got  to get out of the bleachers on the playing field  
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say okay these emotions could literally have  something to do with my health just saying if   I stop feeling these emotions what if I start  feeling these emotions okay what would be the   emotions that would make me happy these emotions  are making me feel really bad the memories are  
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making me feel really bad can I remember a  future how would I feel if my future could   happen I got to trade those emotions for different  emotions well if I’ve been practicing feeling   these emotions and I’ve conditioned my body be the  mind it’s going to take some time for me to start  
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making different chemistry with the intention of  making that chemistry getting my body back into   homeostasis and balance work on my breath when I  breathe I change my state practice breathing work   with your body so it can start to relax so that  it feels safe enough to feel something other than  
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that again and if it takes you 3 weeks it would be  worth it so then person then starts okay I really   know how to feel gratitude okay well maybe start  going out and giving and give to people I promise   you start giving you start feeling grateful and  then start practicing feeling gratitude teach  
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your body just for 15 minutes a day what it would  like to feel gratitude what would be like and our   data shows that you take someone to do that  for four days three times a day they make a   immunoglobulin called immunoglobulin a it’s your  body’s natural flu shot it’s the greatest immune  
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chemical we have 50% increase in the subjects we  studied in 4 days immunoglobulin went up 50% in 4   days where is that chemistry coming from they’re  not taking anything it’s coming from within them   right what is the emotional signature of gratitude  when you receive something or you just receive  
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something when something wonderful happened to  you or something wonderful is happening to you   you feel grateful so now if you’re in a state  of gratitude it makes total sense then you will   accept believe and surrender the thoughts that  are equal to that emotional state and you could  
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actually program your autonomic nervous system  to make the pharmacy of chemicals that causes   growth and repair to happen in the body and that’s  exactly what we’re discovering so then when people   understand why they’re doing it the how gets  easier so you can assign meaning to the task  
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and switch on the prefrontal cortex and when you  switch on that prefrontal cortex it wants to get   an outcome it doesn’t want to mess around it wants  the outcome you’re doing it for the outcome and   that’s kind of a strong intention and a change in  energy or an emotional state and that’s changing  
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your state of being and when you change your state  of being like that every day get ready because   you’re going to start having synchronicities and  coincidences and weird things start happening in   your life to prove to you that you’re actually the  creator of your life instead of the victim of your
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Anxiety Meditation with Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes

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Hello everybody and welcome to this video anxiety  meditations i am your host dr dawn elise snipes anxiety often occurs when we feel unsafe or  powerless it increases your stress chemicals   kicks off that hpa axis or the fight or flight  response and you start to have tunnel vision  
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and become more reactive and impulsive so  anxiety can be a problem now remember anxiety   is a feeling it’s a normal feeling that tells  you that hey there might be something to be   aware of there might be a threat it doesn’t  mean there is a threat the anxiety is just  
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telling you to check and see if there’s a threat  meditation can help calm your stress response so   you can think more clearly about what to do to  improve the next moment so if you look around   and you decide you know what there’s really not  a threat or whatever it is that is threatening  
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i have no control over like you know a pandemic  or something then meditation can help you   calm or or tamp down that stress response  so you’re not burning up tons and tons of   energy and feeling anxious like you’re going  to crawl out of your skin all the time it’s  
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important before you begin any sort of meditation  to examine your surroundings and make sure you are   safe from interruptions you don’t want to  get into this nice relaxed state and all   of a sudden have your phone go off or the  dog bark get into a situation where you are
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protected from interruption where you feel  safe in your environment you have the door   shut you may have the blinds drawn whatever it  is that makes you feel the most safe and secure   if you’re not comfortable closing your eyes some  people have trauma histories and they are not  
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comfortable closing their eyes and that’s cool  if you’re not then pick a stationary object in   the room to focus on when i do meditations i love  focusing on the a candle flame just that’s always   been something that has um attracted my focus so  candle flames work for me you can pick a spot on  
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the wall you can pick a vase whatever it is you  want just make sure it’s not something that’s   going to move around that you’ve got a track  you want to make sure it stays right there the next thing you need to do once you feel  like you’re in a safe environment think of an  
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empowering mantra that you’re going to repeat to  yourself and depending on what is triggering your   anxiety you may have several different mantras  that you rotate through depending on the type of   anxiety if you are facing some sort of adversity  you can tell yourself i’ve got this or this too  
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shall pass you know maybe you are getting ready to  go take a your graduate entrance exams or you are   going on a job interview or you are experiencing  some something distressful maybe you and your best   friend got into a disagreement and there’s tension  right there so this too shall pass can work  
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another set if it has to do more with failure  you can remind yourself progress not perfection   nobody’s perfect and it’s important to strive for  progress not perfection to learn from our failures   or just i can succeed if you are afraid of failure  and you’re getting ready to do something just  
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telling yourself i can succeed i may not succeed  at everything but i can’t succeed now obviously   i’m elaborating on some of these you want to pick  something that is not more than a few words to   repeat to yourself if your  anxiety has to do with rejection  
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you may say to yourself something like it’s not  about me or i am enough if you have anxiety about   uncertainty you don’t know what’s going to happen  next you can tell yourself something like stay   open to options or i’m not alone and i’m not  alone really appeals to people who don’t like  
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uncertainty they like control but knowing that  they’re not alone knowing that they’ve got   support people to help them through something  that is uncertain can be very reassuring   now you can come up with your own mantras these  were just a few that i i pulled out for you  
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to give you an idea of think something  that you might want to say to yourself   look at the root of whatever’s causing your  anxiety pick a mantra make sure you’re in   a safe place with time and practice you’ll  be able to trigger the relaxation response  
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with your mantra and a deep breath or two so you  may not have to go through the entire meditation   which is really awesome so when if you get used  to it you may be able to approach adversity   and take a deep breath tell yourself i’ve got  this and exhale and do that a couple of more times  
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and feel relaxed it can help you get grounded  once your body’s recognized that okay when we   start saying this it’s time to relax you may think  that’s a little corny but think about other times   in your past when somebody has said something  that has just a word has triggered a response  
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when i used to teach at uf i would tell my class  okay clear your desk it’s time to take a pop quiz   and those words would strike fear in the majority  of the people in my class and that would trigger   their fight or flight response now obviously  we want to do the opposite here my point is  
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that something as simple as a word can trigger a  fight or flight response or a relaxation response   so i’m going to tell you what we’re going  to do and then we’re going to start doing it   you’re going to start by sitting comfortably  you know you’re in a safe environment you’ve  
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picked your mantra then you get comfortable  sitting ideally both feet on the ground you   know in a relaxed position begin by focusing  on your breath you’re gonna breathe in for four   hold for four and breathe out for four you’re  gonna do that twice and then you’re going to  
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continue to breathe in for four hold for four  and exhale for four but you’re when you do this   then you’re going to start noticing your belly  expand and deflate so the first thing you just   want to focus on your breath and then you want  to start focusing on your breath and your body  
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the next step is to notice the cool  refreshing air as it passes through your nose   feel it moving through your entire  body you’re going to do that twice   finally you’re going to as you breathe in you’re  going to repeat your mantra and sit with it while  
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you hold your breath for that four and as you  exhale you’re gonna feel the bad energy and worry   leaving your body you’re going to repeat this 10  times then just sit with this feeling for a few   minutes noticing how relaxed your body feels  it’s that simple you’re going to gradually  
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work up to ramp up to focusing on your on your  mantra and relaxing your anxiety but the first   thing you got to do is start with your breath  i’m going to walk you through this mantra and   it will take about 10 minutes so go  ahead and sit down and get comfortable
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begin by focusing on your  breath breathe in for four   three hold for four two three and exhale for four three four let’s do that again breathe in  for four two three four hold for four two  
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three and exhale for four now when you breathe in for  four notice your belly expand hold for four
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and exhale for four feeling your belly deflate again breathe in and notice your belly expand hold for 4. and exhale for four
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now as you breathe in for four notice the cool  refreshing air as it passes through your nose   feel it moving throughout  your entire body hold for four and exhale for four
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again inhale noticing the cool  air as it passes through your nose   and feel it moving through your entire body hold for four
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and exhale or four now as you breathe in repeat your mantra breathe in for four tell yourself  that it’s okay that you’ve got this
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hold for four as you exhale feel the bad energy  and worry leaving your body let’s breathe in again repeat  your mantra to yourself
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hold and exhale feeling the energy the bad  energy and worry leaving your body breathe in again repeat your mantra really  believing what you’re telling yourself
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and exhale feeling the worry and  the bad energy leaving your body breathe in repeat your mantra feel the positivity  and the strength feeling your body hold and exhale feeling the bad  energy and worry leaving
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breathe in again repeat your mantra notice  how you’re starting to feel more calm sit with this feeling of calmness as you   hold your breath and then exhale feeling  the bad energy worry leaving your body
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breathing again repeating your  mantra believing your mantra feeling that breath you took absorbing  all of the negative energy and exhale breathe in again repeat your mantra
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sit with this feeling of calm and strength   feeling the breath absorbing  all of the bad energy and exhale breathe in repeat your mantra
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really believe how strong and safe you are  feel that oxygen absorbing the bad energy   and exhale feeling the bad energy and worry  leaving your body breathe in repeat your mantra repeat your mantra again  
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sit with it while you hold your breath for a  minute let that air absorb all the bad energy   and as you exhale really feel your body relaxing  and melting into the chair that you’re sitting in one more time breathe in
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repeat your mantra notice a sense of hope and  energy but also calmness sit with this for a minute
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and exhale feeling the last little  bit of that worry leaving your body notice how relaxed your body feels now sit with  this feeling continue to repeat your mantra until you’re ready to start rejoining  your activities for the day there are  
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Cued Progressive Muscle Relaxation | A Meditation for Anxiety

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Welcome everybody to this video on  cued progressive muscular relaxation   one of many techniques for meditation  to help cope with anxiety and depression   i’m your host dr donnelly snipes meditation and  cute progressive muscular relaxation can help  
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calm your stress response so you can use energy to  improve the next moment instead of staying stuck   when you’re stressed you often tense your muscles  reducing blood flow increasing pain and fatigue   the goal of cute progressive muscular relaxation  is to help you become more aware of tension  
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in your body and be able to release it in  the moment instead of letting it build up   cute progressive muscular relaxation can also  be helpful for people who have difficulty   sleeping because they can’t turn off their mind  
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in cued progressive muscular relaxation  you’re going to move from the top of your head   to the tips of your toes imagining pushing  the stress and bad energy out of your body   try it with your arms in your upper arms tense  them as tight as you can possibly tense them
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feel them being tight and then relax as you  relax feel the blood moving through your arms   and pushing out that bad  energy nourishing your muscles as with any meditation it’s important to examine  your surroundings and make sure you’re safe from  
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interruption make sure you’re in an environment in  which you feel safe and can relax you’re not going   to be disturbed by the phone by the dog barking  by the ups man for cute progressive muscular   relaxation it is preferable to be able to lay down  but at least get comfortable wherever you’re at  
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if you’re not comfortable closing your eyes  pick a stationary object in the room to focus   on it can be a vase a candle a spot on the wall  something that you can focus your attention on begin by turning attention to your body just kind  of do a scan notice where is their tension right  
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now where is this their discomfort you may  not have even noticed it until you started   looking for it now focus on your breath  i want you to breathe in for four hold
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exhale try that again breathe in hold and exhale now when you breathe  in notice your belly expand
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hold as you exhale feel your belly  deflate and push out that   negative energy again breathe  in feeling your belly expand
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hold and exhale feeling your belly deflate now when you breathe in notice the cool  refreshing air as it passes through your nose  
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feel it moving through and  nourishing your entire body hold exhale
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again breathe in feel the refreshing  air nourishing your body hold and exhale now each time you tense  a muscle group i want you to inhale   as you hold your muscles tense  you’re going to hold your breath  
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as you exhale you’re going to tell yourself relax  and feel the negative energy leaving your body   we’ll start with the scalp imagine a  string pulling your ears back and your   eyebrows up tense that scalp  as hard as you can and inhale
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hold that position hold your breath now exhale and relax feeling the negative energy  moving out of your scalp and down out your body tense your scalp again inhale holding your breath
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exhale relax and feel the  negative energy leaving your body now move down to your face inhale  and squinch up your face really tight   as tight as you can and hold
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exhale and relax your face feel the blood moving through  the skin on your cheeks inhale and tighten your face again hold
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and exhale feeling your face relax move down to your jaw tighten your jaw  clench your teeth as you inhale and hold exhale and relax letting your jaw just  drop open inhale and tense your jaw
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hold exhale and relax letting your jaw fall open now go  back up to your top of your head scan and feel the   blood moving through your scalp and your face  and your jaw and all of those muscles relaxing
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inhale and pull your shoulders to your ears  tightening your neck and your shoulder muscles hold and relax
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feel your shoulders dropping again inhale bring your  shoulders to your ears hold exhale and let those shoulders fall  and relax falling deeper into the chair  
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now move back to your shoulder blades and  imagine you’re squeezing a pencil between   your shoulder blades as you inhale  and squeeze those shoulder blades hold
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exhale and relax pull those shoulder blades back together  again squeezing as tight as you can   pushing all of that stress out of those muscles
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exhale and relax feel the  tension leaving those muscles now move to your upper arms your biceps tighten  your upper arms as tight as you can hold exhale and relax feel all of that  energy moving towards your fingertips  
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moving the bad energy away inhale  again tightening those upper arms hold and relax feeling the energy  move down to your fingertips
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now tighten your fists inhale tighten your fists  and curl them up to tighten your forearm and   your fists really grab all that negative energy  that’s been pushed down there hold it and as you   exhale relax and feel the energy just  leaving your fingertips all the bad energy
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let’s do that again inhale tighten your  fists and curl them up hold all that tension exhale relax and feel that negative energy being  pushed out as the blood is drawn to your fingers now tighten your shoulder blades  again because a lot of people store  
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tension all the way up in  their upper back hold that exhale and relax now tighten your chest muscles  kind of like if you were the hulk  
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tighten your chest muscles as you inhale and hold exhale and relax the chest muscles cover your heart we want to  disperse all of the stress from that area so  
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inhale and tighten those  chest muscles again and hold feel like you’re grabbing all that  stress and all that negative energy exhale and relax
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and feel the blood moving through that  area pushing out all of the tension move down to your stomach tighten your  stomach curl up like you’re curling into   a little ball tighten tightening your stomach  muscles as you inhale easier said than done
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relax as you exhale again tighten those abdominal  muscles as you inhale and hold as you exhale start to relax  
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you’ll feel the relaxation in your  stomach as well as your lower back now move down to your glutes or your  butt whatever you want to call it   tighten those muscles as tight as you can
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inhale and hold exhale as you relax one more time inhale and tighten  those glutes as tight as you can
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hold exhale and relax feeling the  blood coursing and pushing   that negative energy down towards your toes
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tighten your thighs as you inhale hold and keep it tight exhale and relax again inhale and tighten those thighs  as tight as you can a little bit tighter
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hold exhale and relax notice the feeling of warmth as  the blood moves the energy down towards your toes now tighten your calves as you  inhale by pointing your toes
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hold exhale and relax start to feel the warmth moving  through your calves and into your toes
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inhale and point your toes tightening  those calves as tight as you can exhale and relax now flex your feet as you inhale  tighten those shins as tight as you can
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hold exhale and relax one more time inhale as you tighten  those shins flexing your feet and hold
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exhale and relax you’ve pushed all  that energy down towards your toes   now inhale and curl your toes curl your feet up as  tiny as you can get them curling those toes tight hold and relax your feet exhale
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inhale and curl your toes hold and relax
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notice how calm and relaxed your body feels try to   make it relaxed even more try to make  it go even more limp as you inhale hold
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exhale and relax feeling yourself sinking  deeper into your seat and last time inhale hold exhale feeling yourself  sinking deeper into your seat sit and notice how you feel
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Anxiety Meditation with Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes

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Hello everybody and welcome to this video anxiety  meditations i am your host dr dawn elise snipes anxiety often occurs when we feel unsafe or  powerless it increases your stress chemicals   kicks off that hpa axis or the fight or flight  response and you start to have tunnel vision  
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and become more reactive and impulsive so  anxiety can be a problem now remember anxiety   is a feeling it’s a normal feeling that tells  you that hey there might be something to be   aware of there might be a threat it doesn’t  mean there is a threat the anxiety is just  
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telling you to check and see if there’s a threat  meditation can help calm your stress response so   you can think more clearly about what to do to  improve the next moment so if you look around   and you decide you know what there’s really not  a threat or whatever it is that is threatening  
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i have no control over like you know a pandemic  or something then meditation can help you   calm or or tamp down that stress response  so you’re not burning up tons and tons of   energy and feeling anxious like you’re going  to crawl out of your skin all the time it’s  
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important before you begin any sort of meditation  to examine your surroundings and make sure you are   safe from interruptions you don’t want to  get into this nice relaxed state and all   of a sudden have your phone go off or the  dog bark get into a situation where you are
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protected from interruption where you feel  safe in your environment you have the door   shut you may have the blinds drawn whatever it  is that makes you feel the most safe and secure   if you’re not comfortable closing your eyes some  people have trauma histories and they are not  
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comfortable closing their eyes and that’s cool  if you’re not then pick a stationary object in   the room to focus on when i do meditations i love  focusing on the a candle flame just that’s always   been something that has um attracted my focus so  candle flames work for me you can pick a spot on  
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the wall you can pick a vase whatever it is you  want just make sure it’s not something that’s   going to move around that you’ve got a track  you want to make sure it stays right there the next thing you need to do once you feel  like you’re in a safe environment think of an  
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empowering mantra that you’re going to repeat to  yourself and depending on what is triggering your   anxiety you may have several different mantras  that you rotate through depending on the type of   anxiety if you are facing some sort of adversity  you can tell yourself i’ve got this or this too  
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shall pass you know maybe you are getting ready to  go take a your graduate entrance exams or you are   going on a job interview or you are experiencing  some something distressful maybe you and your best   friend got into a disagreement and there’s tension  right there so this too shall pass can work  
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another set if it has to do more with failure  you can remind yourself progress not perfection   nobody’s perfect and it’s important to strive for  progress not perfection to learn from our failures   or just i can succeed if you are afraid of failure  and you’re getting ready to do something just  
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telling yourself i can succeed i may not succeed  at everything but i can’t succeed now obviously   i’m elaborating on some of these you want to pick  something that is not more than a few words to   repeat to yourself if your  anxiety has to do with rejection  
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you may say to yourself something like it’s not  about me or i am enough if you have anxiety about   uncertainty you don’t know what’s going to happen  next you can tell yourself something like stay   open to options or i’m not alone and i’m not  alone really appeals to people who don’t like  
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uncertainty they like control but knowing that  they’re not alone knowing that they’ve got   support people to help them through something  that is uncertain can be very reassuring   now you can come up with your own mantras these  were just a few that i i pulled out for you  
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to give you an idea of think something  that you might want to say to yourself   look at the root of whatever’s causing your  anxiety pick a mantra make sure you’re in   a safe place with time and practice you’ll  be able to trigger the relaxation response  
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with your mantra and a deep breath or two so you  may not have to go through the entire meditation   which is really awesome so when if you get used  to it you may be able to approach adversity   and take a deep breath tell yourself i’ve got  this and exhale and do that a couple of more times  
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and feel relaxed it can help you get grounded  once your body’s recognized that okay when we   start saying this it’s time to relax you may think  that’s a little corny but think about other times   in your past when somebody has said something  that has just a word has triggered a response  
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when i used to teach at uf i would tell my class  okay clear your desk it’s time to take a pop quiz   and those words would strike fear in the majority  of the people in my class and that would trigger   their fight or flight response now obviously  we want to do the opposite here my point is  
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that something as simple as a word can trigger a  fight or flight response or a relaxation response   so i’m going to tell you what we’re going  to do and then we’re going to start doing it   you’re going to start by sitting comfortably  you know you’re in a safe environment you’ve  
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picked your mantra then you get comfortable  sitting ideally both feet on the ground you   know in a relaxed position begin by focusing  on your breath you’re gonna breathe in for four   hold for four and breathe out for four you’re  gonna do that twice and then you’re going to  
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continue to breathe in for four hold for four  and exhale for four but you’re when you do this   then you’re going to start noticing your belly  expand and deflate so the first thing you just   want to focus on your breath and then you want  to start focusing on your breath and your body  
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the next step is to notice the cool  refreshing air as it passes through your nose   feel it moving through your entire  body you’re going to do that twice   finally you’re going to as you breathe in you’re  going to repeat your mantra and sit with it while  
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you hold your breath for that four and as you  exhale you’re gonna feel the bad energy and worry   leaving your body you’re going to repeat this 10  times then just sit with this feeling for a few   minutes noticing how relaxed your body feels  it’s that simple you’re going to gradually  
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work up to ramp up to focusing on your on your  mantra and relaxing your anxiety but the first   thing you got to do is start with your breath  i’m going to walk you through this mantra and   it will take about 10 minutes so go  ahead and sit down and get comfortable
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begin by focusing on your  breath breathe in for four   three hold for four two three and exhale for four three four let’s do that again breathe in  for four two three four hold for four two  
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three and exhale for four now when you breathe in for  four notice your belly expand hold for four
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and exhale for four feeling your belly deflate again breathe in and notice your belly expand hold for 4. and exhale for four
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now as you breathe in for four notice the cool  refreshing air as it passes through your nose   feel it moving throughout  your entire body hold for four and exhale for four
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again inhale noticing the cool  air as it passes through your nose   and feel it moving through your entire body hold for four
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and exhale or four now as you breathe in repeat your mantra breathe in for four tell yourself  that it’s okay that you’ve got this
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hold for four as you exhale feel the bad energy  and worry leaving your body let’s breathe in again repeat  your mantra to yourself
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hold and exhale feeling the energy the bad  energy and worry leaving your body breathe in again repeat your mantra really  believing what you’re telling yourself
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and exhale feeling the worry and  the bad energy leaving your body breathe in repeat your mantra feel the positivity  and the strength feeling your body hold and exhale feeling the bad  energy and worry leaving
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breathe in again repeat your mantra notice  how you’re starting to feel more calm sit with this feeling of calmness as you   hold your breath and then exhale feeling  the bad energy worry leaving your body
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breathing again repeating your  mantra believing your mantra feeling that breath you took absorbing  all of the negative energy and exhale breathe in again repeat your mantra
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sit with this feeling of calm and strength   feeling the breath absorbing  all of the bad energy and exhale breathe in repeat your mantra
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really believe how strong and safe you are  feel that oxygen absorbing the bad energy   and exhale feeling the bad energy and worry  leaving your body breathe in repeat your mantra repeat your mantra again  
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sit with it while you hold your breath for a  minute let that air absorb all the bad energy   and as you exhale really feel your body relaxing  and melting into the chair that you’re sitting in one more time breathe in
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repeat your mantra notice a sense of hope and  energy but also calmness sit with this for a minute
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and exhale feeling the last little  bit of that worry leaving your body notice how relaxed your body feels now sit with  this feeling continue to repeat your mantra until you’re ready to start rejoining  your activities for the day there are  
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