Magnesium for Anxiety and Depression? The Science Says Yes!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bkgDhihL02M
Hi, I’m Dr. Tracey Marks, a psychiatrist, and I make mental health education videos. Today, I’m talking about the critical role magnesium plays in your mental health that you probably didn’t realize.
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Magnesium is considered one of the essential minerals that’s involved in more than 300 different body processes, including keeping your heart beating and maintaining electrical stability of your nervous system. Magnesium is used by the body to regulate serotonin and other neurotransmitters, and some researchers believe that low magnesium is the problem behind treatment-resistant depression. How could that be? Well, magnesium is an NMDA receptor blocker.
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Blocking NMDA increases the brain chemical called BDNF, which is brain-derived neurotropic factor.
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BDNF is like fertilizer for the brain cells.
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Neuro means brain and trophic is Greek for feeding. BDNF is one of the chemicals that’s responsible for cell regrowth and neuroplasticity.
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Neuroplasticity is the ability to improve nerve connections by destroying damaged nerves and growing new ones. Think of it as neuro-flexibility.
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There’s another popular NMDA blocker called ketamine. Ketamine was approved as a medication for treatment-resistant depression in 2019. Ketamine is a hallucinogen, and so it’s not very easy to take for depression, but it works very fast by its powerful effect on increasing BDNF. I have a video talking more about ketamine for depression. Magnesium also helps anxiety, and here’s how.
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You have NMDA receptors in your amygdala. Those receptors control fear conditioning and avoidance behaviors.
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Avoidance is key in maintaining phobias. I talk a little bit about it in the video that I did on safety behaviors. So blocking the NMDA receptors in the amygdala and the rest of your limbic system decreases your fear response and avoidance, thus reducing anxiety. Another way magnesium helps anxiety is it decreases glutamate, which is a brain chemical that stimulates and excites the cells, and it increases GABA, which slows cell activity. Benzodiazepines and most sleeping pills work by increasing GABA.
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Now, you may be thinking if magnesium is so good and it’s already in our food, why would anyone be depressed or anxious? We all eat magnesium, right? Wrong.
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According to the National Institutes of Health, 68% of the population doesn’t eat enough magnesium, and that’s most of us, and therein lies the problem. Even if you consume enough magnesium, stress and anxiety deplete magnesium levels, and here’s how that works.
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When you have a physical stress, like an illness or anxiety, you get an increase in your sympathetic nervous system.
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You get elevated levels of cortisol and adrenaline. These elevations make you excrete more magnesium through your urine, so during times of stress and anxiety, even people with normal levels of magnesium can become temporarily magnesium deficient. In one of the studies that I have referenced in the description, the researchers saw this phenomenon when they studied a group of college students during final exams week.
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The students had normal levels of magnesium before the exams and became deficient while under the stress of exams. And if you have a temporary situation that can make your magnesium dip, you can recover when that stress goes away.
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But imagine the person who has an anxiety disorder or who’s depressed.
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That person becomes magnesium deficient, and the magnesium deficiency keeps them anxious and depressed.
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It’s like a loop that feeds on itself.
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So anxiety depletes your magnesium, and low magnesium makes you anxious or depressed. How much magnesium do you need? The recommended daily amount for men is 400 to 420 milligrams, and for women, it’s 310 to 320 milligrams, and it’s always best to get your vitamins and minerals from nutrient-dense food.
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Nutrient-dense food is food that has a lot of minerals relative to the calories.
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The highest natural source of magnesium is pumpkin seeds, carrying a whopping 156 milligrams for one ounce. Three ounces of cooked chicken breasts only contains 22 milligrams.
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There are good reasons to take supplements. Supplements are good if you just can’t eat enough through your food, or if you have digestion problems, and as we get older, we have less stomach acid, which can lessen how much of it you absorb. Another reason to take magnesium supplements is if you have depression or anxiety. Having those conditions suggests that you may still have reduced magnesium levels. Antidepressants do increase magnesium levels, but as I mentioned before, some people whose depression doesn’t get much better with antidepressants may be stuck in depression because of low magnesium. We still don’t have that much research evidence to support using magnesium as an add-on agent, so your doctor may not have recommended magnesium because nutrition and mental health are relatively new focus in medicine, but the research evidence is growing.
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Here’s what 225 milligrams of magnesium looks like, at least for the brand I use. They’re pretty big capsules, and it still doesn’t meet my daily requirement.
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I’d still have to eat my ounce of pumpkin seeds to get closer to my requirement. If you take other supplements, it can be a chore getting down all these pills. There are several different formulations of magnesium supplements.
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Here’s some of the popular options.
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Magnesium oxide has a lower absorption but a higher concentration of elemental magnesium.
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Because it’s not absorbed well, it can cause diarrhea. Sometimes it’s paired with calcium as a combination tablet, because calcium is constipating.
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Magnesium hydroxide is sold as the laxative called Milk of Magnesia.
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You don’t want to take it as a nutritional supplement, because you don’t want to have diarrhea every day. Magnesium citrate is the most common form of magnesium supplementation, and it’s better absorbed.
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Magnesium diglycenate and magnesium aspartate are more biologically available than magnesium oxide, but still less than the citrate version.
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Biologic availability refers to how much of the pill your body actually uses.
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Magnesium L-threonate is supposed to be more absorbed by the brain, but the research on this is still new.
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The most common side effect associated with magnesium is diarrhea, and you see this most often with the oxide and hydroxide forms. So that’s magnesium, an important nutrient for your brain health. If you haven’t already seen it, take a look at this video on gut health and depression. Thanks for watching. See you next time.
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How to Deal with Negative Emotions – Distress Tolerance

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=puoddnGTAJk
Hi, I’m Dr. Tracey Marks, a psychiatrist, and I make mental health education videos.
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I’ve talked about dialectical behavior therapy, or DBT, as the best treatment for borderline personality disorder. But there are modified forms of DBT that can be helpful for other conditions like bipolar disorder, anxiety, eating disorders, depression and post-traumatic stress disorder. Today I’m going to teach you one of the many techniques that’s used with DBT to be able to manage your emotions.
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It’s called distress tolerance.
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Distress tolerance is the skill of being able to accept the emotion that you’re feeling without resorting to coping behaviors that make your situation and your overall condition worse. The top three categories of negative emotions are sadness, anger, and fear.
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And we all have different degrees of tolerance for these kinds of emotions. It’s a normal reaction to wanna get rid of the negative emotions.
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But what you do to get rid of these emotions makes all the difference in what happens to the emotions. Let me explain.
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Suppose I lose my job.
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I’m going to be upset about that. It’s not realistic to think that I can just take the news and say, “Oh, that’s a shame, but I’m happy to be alive.” That’s unnatural.
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We’re built to experience a wide spectrum of emotions, from happiness to sadness to anger to fear. You may say a person who’s secure in themselves and in their faith has no reason to be fearful.
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But if a bear walks into the room and bares his teeth at me, I will wet my pants and run. Being afraid and wanting to run is an adaptive response for self-protection. So we’re all wired to experience the full spectrum of emotions in response to both external and internal experiences. Internal experiences would be what you’re thinking about in your head.
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How you tolerate and experience the different emotions is molded and shaped by your temperament, which is your nature, and your upbringing, which is how you were nurtured. I like to call your temperament your factory-installed reflex.
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It’s basically what you were born with and is based on your genes.
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But you can be raised to believe that certain emotions like anger are bad and you should never show your anger. If you grow up believing this, then you’re going to have serious issues dealing with and being or feeling angry. You may tell yourself that you’re not angry, but your mind knows that you are, and the anger will show up as anxiety. Or unprocessed anger can show up as depression because that’s more acceptable than demonstrating anger or even admitting that you’re angry.
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So you have to be able to accept and handle the range of emotions that you experience. If you have trouble with that, then on an unconscious level you will find a way to manage that emotion.
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And here are some of the maladaptive or not so great ways that we try and escape the negative emotions when we can’t accept them. Avoidance.
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This is avoiding situations or seeking reassurance from people.
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You can also make futile attempts to distract yourself from the emotion. Numbing.
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You can use alcohol and drugs to numb the feeling, or binge eating, or even over-sleeping so that you don’t have to feel the pain.
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Another way to escape is to use self-harm, and this could be cutting or punching yourself or even pulling out your hair.
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Escaping the distressing emotion only works in the short term. What you do to escape it can cause more problems for you in the long term.
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So, what does it mean to tolerate the distressing emotion instead of escape it? It means you accept it, make room for it, sit with it, and let it pass on it’s own time. There are several techniques within DBT to help you tolerate distress.
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Here is one that’s based on the concept of mindfulness. I talk more about mindfulness in this video.
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The link will be in the corner and in the description. But in short, when you think mindfully, you focus on what’s going on at the moment with acceptance and no judgment. It’s just observation.
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And this is how you’re going to treat your negative emotions.
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Here is a template for how you can think about them. Let’s go back to my example of losing my job.
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I’m enraged because I think my company lied to me about keeping me around during the transition from one company to the next. And, to make matters worse, the job went to someone I trained.
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Now consciously I think, I’m so upset. But unconsciously, my real thoughts are, I hate my boss and I wanna beat him down to the ground. But with my upbringing, ladies don’t think like that, and especially a Christian woman.
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That’s evil to think such a thing.
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So I’m not consciously aware of my aggressive impulses, that’s what a therapist would help me see, and instead I bury my anger in a pan a brownies and I pick out my eyebrows.
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Here’s what I wanna do to process my rage, and this is a mindfulness exercise.
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Recognize and allow the emotion. This reflection is best made after I first hear the news that I’m being let go. I wanna deal with this early before I get to the pan of brownies.
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So I would say I’m feeling angry at Bob. In fact, I hate him.
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But I’m not bad because I have this feeling and I can allow myself to have it.
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I’m going to make space for it and I do not need to be afraid of it because I’m not going to take action against Bob. I can control myself.
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So I don’t need to get rid of this feeling. So here I am, admitting to the worst possible emotion that I can have about this situation.
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I wanna assume that I’m gonna downplay it in my mind, so go ahead and blow it up and own it.
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I’m not just mad, I hate him. But there’s no judgment here. It’s just an emotion. That’s it.
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I’m not going to act on it.
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I’m just gonna let it sit here with me. Next, you wanna watch the emotion.
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Let me watch this anger and hate and see what it does. While I’m watching it, I’m gonna call it what it is. Anger and rage.
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I don’t have to get caught up in it.
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Where do I notice the emotion in my body? I notice it in my shoulders. I feel tense.
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But it’s just an emotion, nothing more, nothing less. I am not my emotions.
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I simply watch my emotions.
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A good analogy is to think of the emotion as an ocean wave. I’m not gonna struggle and fight this wave, I’m gonna go with it and float with it, I may even ride this wave to the shore. The next step is to be present.
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You’re gonna turn your attention to what you’re doing now, what’s in front of you, and there’s two ways that you can do this.
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The first is to use your five senses.
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I’m going to notice what’s going on with all my five senses. What can I feel? What can I touch? What do I hear? What do I see in front of me? What do I smell? What do I taste? Another way you can be present is to turn your attention to your breath.
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My breath is my anchor for the moment. I take note of how I inhale and how I exhale.
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What do you do when the emotion comes back? When the emotion returns, you say, that’s okay, that’s what emotions do. They come and they go.
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But I’m gonna watch it again. I’ll let it sit here in the room with me, or I may float with it up and down again, just like the ocean wave. That’s the exercise.
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You should write it down as a script and say it to yourself.
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I have a template for you in the description. These negative emotions do cause distress, but accepting this distress doesn’t mean that you enjoy it nor does it mean that you try and fake like it doesn’t matter to you. Accepting the emotion is about changing the way that you look at it.
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You see it for what it is, and in my case, rage, and then I change how I pay attention to it.
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It’s like I’m detaching from the sting of the emotion because I’m simply observing it as one of many emotions that I can experience.
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So I don’t have to fear that it’s gonna consume me because I’m over here and it’s over there. And how I pay attention to the emotion changes how it affects me. Give it a try.
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I have a template for this exercise in the description. See you next time.
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The ONE RULE for LIFE – Immanuel Kant’s Moral Philosophy – Mark Manson

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0nz0iaNvVpE
[Music] depending on your perspective Emanuel Kant  was either the most boring person on the planet   or a productivity Hacker’s wet dream for over 40  years he woke up every morning at 5:00 a.m. and   wrote for exactly 3 hours he would then lecture  at the same University for exactly 4 hours he  
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followed that up with lunch at the same restaurant  each day then in the afternoon he would go on an   extended walk through the same park on the same  route leaving and returning home at the exact same   time every day K spent his entire life in kbur  Prussia I mean that literally he never left the  
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city despite the ca being an hour away he never  saw it Kant was efficiency personified he was so   mechanical on his habits that his neighbors joke  that they could tune their clocks based on when he   left his apartment each day he would would leave  for his daily walk at 3:30 p.m. have dinner with  
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the same friend every evening and return home to  finish work and go to bed at exactly 10 p.m. it’s   easy for us to scoff at a guy like this what a  loser seriously get a life dude but K was one   of the most important and influential thinkers  in modern history he did more to steer the world  
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from his single room apartment in Prussia than  most Kings and armies ever did before or since   if you’re living in a Democratic Society that  protects indiv idual rights you have can’t to   partially thank for that he was the first person  to ever Envision a global governing body that  
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would guarantee peace across much of the world he  prescribed SpaceTime in such a way that it later   inspired Einstein’s discovery of Relativity  he came up with the idea that animals could   potentially have rights themselves he invented the  philosophy of Aesthetics and beauty and resolved  
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a 200-year philosophical debate in the span  of a couple hundred Pages he reinvented moral   Philosophy from top to bottom over throwing ideas  that had been the basis of Western Civilization   since Aristotle Kant was an intellectual badass  if brains had balls K would have been made out  
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of steel his ideas particularly about ethics  are still discussed and debated in thousands of   universities today and that’s what I want to talk  about K’s moral philosophy and why it matters now   you might be saying really moral philosophy who  cares man show me a shiny Sunset inspirational  
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quote or a cat meme well that right there is  moral philosophy anytime you say who cares or   what’s the big deal you’re essentially questioning  the value of something is it worth your time and   attention is it better or worse than something  else these are all questions of value and they  
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all fall under the umbrella of moral philosophy  our moral philosophy determines what we value what   we care about and what we don’t care about and our  values determine our decisions actions and beliefs   therefore moral philosophy applies to everything  in our lives got it kant’s moral philosophy is  
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unique and counterintuitive can’t believe that  for something to be good it had to be Universal   that is it can’t be right to do something in one  situation and wrong to do it in another if lying   is wrong it has to be wrong all the time it has to  be wrong when everyone does it period if it isn’t  
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always right or always wrong then it cannot be a  valid ethical principle Kant these universalized   ethical principles categorical imperatives rules  to live by that are valid in all contexts in every   situation to every human being well holy [ __ ]  universal laws that dictate all morality for every  
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human being sure you want fries with that it’s  so impossible it sounds ludicrous but Kant made   a hell of an attempt in fact he made a number of  attempts at creating categorical imperatives some   of those attempts were quickly ripped the shreds  by other philosophers but others have actually  
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held up the test of time to some degree one of  them in particular has kind of stuck and in all   of my years reading and studying philosophy  psychology and other Sciences it is one of   the most powerful statements that I’ve ever come  across its implications reach into every part of  
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each person’s life in a single sentence it sums  up the bulk of all of our ethical intuitions and   assumptions and in each situation it points to a  clear direction of how we should be acting and why   okay enough foreplay here’s kant’s rule act that  you use Humanity whether in your own person or in  
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a person of any other always at the same time as  an end and never merely as a means okay what the   actual [ __ ] let’s back up for a second can’t  believe that rationality was sacred when I say   rationality I don’t mean like Sudoku or chess  Grandmaster rationality I mean rationality as  
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the fact that we are the only known creatures in  the universe that are able to make the decisions   weigh options and consider the moral implications  of each and every action basically Consciousness   to the only thing that distinguishes us from the  rest of the universe is our ability to process  
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information and act consciously in the world and  this to him is special it’s exceedingly special   for all we know we are the only shot the universe  has at intelligent self organization therefore   we need to take it seriously and therefore  rationality and protecting conscious Choice  
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must be the basis for all of our moral reasoning  Kant wrote that quote without rationality the   universe would be a waste in vain and without  purpose to K’s mind without intelligence and the   freedom to exercise that intelligence we might  as well just be a bunch of rocks nothing would  
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matter therefore Kant believed that all morality  is derived from the protection and promotion of   rational Consciousness in each individual so how  do you do that well cons rule above let’s restate   State con rule in a more modern language to make  it more easily digestible quote each person must  
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never be treated only as a means to some other  end but also be treated as an end themselves   okay let’s say I’m hungry and I want a burrito I  get in the car and I drive to Chipotle and I order   my usual double meat monster that makes me oh so  happy on a weekly basis in this situation eating  
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the burrito is my end goal it’s ultimately why I’m  doing everything else getting in the car driving   buying gas and so on all these things I do to get  the burrito are the means I.E the things that I   must do in order to achieve my end if you call a  friend to find out how they’re doing calling them  
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is a means finding out how they’re doing is your  end if you leave a party early so you can wake   up in the morning leaving the party is the means  and waking up early is your end means are things   that we do conditionally I don’t want to get in  my car and drive but I want a burrito therefore  
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driving is the means to my burrito end an end is  something that is desired for its own sake it is   the defining motivating factor of our decisions  and behaviors if I wanted to eat a burrito only   because my wife wanted a burrito and I wanted  to make her happy then the burrito is no longer  
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my end it is now a means to an even greater  end making my wife happy and if I only wanted   to make my wife happy so I could hopefully get  laid tonight now my wife’s happiness is a means   to a greater end of sex likely that last example  made you squirm a little bit and think I’m kind  
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of a dirt bag and that’s exactly what Kant is  talking about his argument hell his rule states   that treating any human being as a means to some  other end is the basis of all unethical Behavior   so treating a burrito as a means to my wife’s  end is fine after all as far as I know burritos  
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don’t have rational Consciousness but if I treat  my wife as a means to the end of sex now I am   treating her as a means and Kant would argue that  that is some shade of wrong let’s give K’s Rule   The Common Sense check lying is wrong because  you are misleading another person’s conscious  
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behavior in order to achieve your own goal you  are therefore treating that person as a means   to your own end therefore lying is unethical  cheating is unethical for a similar reason you   are violating the expectations of other rational  and sentient beings for your own personal aims  
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you are treating the rules and expectations  agreed to with others as a means to your own   personal end that is wrong violence same deal  you were treating another person as a means to   some greater political or personal end bad very  bad cons formulation checks all the boxes that  
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we would expect from a theory of morality but it  goes Way Way Beyond Common Sense Morality In fact   I will try to argue that K rule plausibly extends  to pretty much everything that we value is right   and good today check it out the moral implications  of K’s rule the list below is incomplete some of  
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the items K explicitly wrote about but others are  extrapolations that I’ve taken from his work and   applied to my own values my hope is that by the  end of it you will see the incredible flexibility   of the single moral maximum to extend almost all  areas of human life example one laziness okay I  
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can be as lazy is the next Guy full disclosure  and I often feel guilty about it but we all know   that [ __ ] off in the short term inevitably harms  Us in the long term but for whatever reason this   short-term gain versus long-term loss calculation  never seems to inspire or move us but that’s not  
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why Kant thinks it’s wrong in fact Kant would say  that this is the wrong way to think about laziness   it’s insufficient comp believed that we all had a  moral imperative to do the best that we can at all   times but he didn’t say to do your best because of  self-esteem or personal utility or contributing to  
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society or whatever he went even further than  that he argued you should do your best because   anything less is to treat ourselves as a means  rather than an end yes you can treat yourself   as a means as well you’re sitting on the couch  refreshing Twitter for the 28th time and you’re  
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treating your mind and your attention as a mere  pleasure receptacle you are not maximizing the   potential of your Consciousness in fact you are  using your Consciousness as a means to stimulate   your emotional ends this is not only bad Kant  would argue but it’s unethical you are actively  
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harming yourself example two addiction Believe It  or Not Kant wasn’t a total party pooper he enjoyed   some wine with his lunch he smoked the pipe but  only at the same time each morning and only one   bowl of tobacco Kant was not necessarily anti-un  what he was against though was pure escapism  
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he wrote that using alcohol or other means of  escaping one’s own life was unethical because   it requires you to use your rational mind and  freedom as a means to some other end in this   case getting [ __ ] up comp believed in facing  one’s problems he believed that suffering is  
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sometimes warranted and even necessary in life  we tend to judge the immorality of addiction by   the damage it causes to others but Kant believed  that first overindulgence was fundamentally the   act of being immoral to oneself the harm it  did to others was merely collateral damage it  
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was a failure to confront the reality of one’s  own mind and Consciousness and this failure is   akin to lying to oneself or cheating oneself out  of precious life potential and to can’t lying to   yourself is just as unethical as lying to others  example three people pleasing and seeking approval  
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okay I know it’s not a good strategy to be kissing  people’s asses all the time but unethical really   isn’t being really nice to people and making them  happy an ethical thing to do well not necessarily   seeking approval in people pleasing forces you  to alter your actions and speech to no longer  
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reflect what you actually think and feel so  right there you are already treating yourself   as a means rather than an end but it gets worse  because if you alter your speech and behavior   in order to make others like you then you are  also treating them as a means to your end you  
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are altering and manipulating their perceptions  of you in order to Garner a pleasant response   from them K would undoubtedly argue that this  is also unethical how dare you tell me my shirt   looks good on me you ethical piece of [ __ ] I’ve  written that length about how people pleasing and  
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seeking approval leads to toxic relationships  but again as usual Kant takes it even further   because Kant was [ __ ] hardcore like that  example four manipulation or coercion even if   you’re not lying but you’re communicating with an  attitude and a purpose of gaining something from  
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someone without their full knowledge or explicit  consent then you are being unethical K was big on   fully informed consent he believed it was the  only way for there to be healthy interactions   between individuals it was Radical for his time  and it’s something that people still struggle to  
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accept today there are two areas in the modern  world where I think that consent issue is huge   and K would have a lot to say about it the first  is obvious sex and dating under K’s rule anything   short of explicit fully informed and fully sober  consent is ethically out of bounds this is a hot  
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button issue today and I personally think people  make it far more complicated than it needs to be   it basically just means being respectful people  assume this means asking for permission 20 times   on a date but it’s not all you have to do is  State how you feel ask them how they feel and  
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then respect whatever response comes back to  you that’s it it’s not complicated respect was   also sacred within K’s moral framework because  Kant believe that all conscious creatures have a   fundamental dignity that must be respected at all  times and by everyone for Kant consent was the act  
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of demonstrating respect anything that didn’t lead  towards consent between two people was to some   degree disrespectful I know that makes Kant sound  like an angry grandmother but the implications   of the consent issue are far reaching and wide  touching every human relationship that we have  
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the other modern area that is problematic is sales  and advertising pretty much every marketing tactic   is built around treating people as a means to some  end that is making money in fact Kant struggled   much of his life with the ethical implications of  capitalism and wealth inequality he believed that  
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it was impossible for anyone to amass a fortune  without some degree of manipulation or coercion   along the way therefore he was dubious of the  entire system he wasn’t anti- capitalist per se   and communism didn’t exist yet but the Staggering  wealth inequality of his time did make him uneasy  
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he believed Anyone Who Had Mass the fortune  had a moral imperative to give much of it   away to the starving masses example five bigotry  might as well throw it in here especially since   Enlightenment thinkers were Infamous for having  pretty racist views which were common in the time  
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interestingly K despite saying some pretty awful  [ __ ] about race early in his career turned the   intellectual corner and realized later in his life  that no race has any right to subjugate any other   it makes sense after all racism and other forms  of bigotry are textbook cases of treating other  
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people as means rather than ends Kant came to the  conclusion that if all rationality is sacred then   there’s nothing permitting European special  privileges over any other nations or races   he also became vehemently anti-colonialist K  argued that regardless of race the violence  
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and oppression required to subjugate populations  would destroy people’s Humanity in the process   it was the ultimate unethical institution this  was completely radical for the time radical to   the point of being considered absurd by many  but Kant reasoned that the only way to prevent  
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war and oppression was to form an international  government that organized and bound nation states   together centuries later the United Nations would  largely be based on his vision example six the   duty of self-improvement most philosophers of the  Enlightenment believed that the best way to live  
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was to increase happiness as much as possible and  to reduce suffering as much as possible as well   this approach to ethics is called utilitarianism  and is still the predominant view held by many   thinkers today K had a completely different take  on how to go about improving the world let’s call  
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it the Michael Jackson Maxim because K like  Michael believed that if you want to make the   world a better place take a look at yourself  and make that change but instead of grabbing   his crotch comp made his argument with brutal  rationality and here’s how he argued it comp  
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believed that generally it is impossible to  know whether a person deserves to be happy or   suffer because you can never truly know what their  intentions and aims were when they acted similarly   even if you should make others happy there’s no  way to precisely know how to make them happy you  
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do not know their feelings values or expectations  you do not know the implications your actions will   have on them on top of that what actually  constitutes suffering or happiness in most   non-extreme situations is unclear your divorce  may cause you incredible pain today but in a year  
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it might be the best thing that ever happened  to you you may relish the joy of a celebration   with friends but maybe it’s distracting you from  pursuing something that would prevent more future   suffering therefore K argued the the only logical  way to improve the world is through improving  
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ourselves this is because the only thing we can  truly experience with any certainty is ourselves   K defined self-improvement is developing  the ability to adhere to the categorical   imperative and he saw self-improvement as a duty  an undebatable obligation put on us all to K the  
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reward or punishment for not following one’s  duty was not in heaven or hell but in a life   made for oneself adherence to morality produced  not only a better life for yourself but a better   life for all those around you similarly failure  to adhere to morality would produce unnecessary  
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suffering for oneself and for those around you con  rule has a ripple effect your improved ability to   be honest with yourself will increase how honest  you are with others and your honesty with others   will influence them to be more honest with  themselves which will then help them improve  
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their lives this is true for all aspects of K’s  rule whether it’s honesty productivity charity or   consent the Michael Jackson Maxum suggest that  kant’s rule once adopted by enough people will   generate a snowball effect in the world enacting  more positive change than any calculated policy  
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or institution the duty of self-respect Kant  intuitively understood that there is a fundamental   link between our respect for ourselves and our  respect for the world the way we interact with   our own psyche is the template which we apply to  our interactions with others and little progress  
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can be made with others until we’ve made progress  with ourselves he would likely be disgusted with   the self-esteem movement today seeing it as just  another way of treating people as a means to some   end of feeling better self-respect isn’t about  feeling better self-respect is about knowing  
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your own value knowing that every human no matter  who they are deserves basic rights and dignities   that every Consciousness is sacred and must be  treated as such Kant would argue that telling   ourselves that we are worthless and shitty is  just as wrong as telling others that they are  
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worthless and shitty lying to ourselves is just as  unethical as lying to others harming ourselves is   just as repugnant as harming others self-love  and self-care are therefore not something you   learn about or practice they are something you are  ethically called on to cultivate within yourself  
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even if they are all you have left the impact  of kant’s philosophy Khan’s philosophy if you   dive into it is riddled with inconsistencies  and issues but the power of His original ideas   is undoubtedly changed the world and strangely  when I came across them a year ago they changed  
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me I had spent most of my 20s pursuing many of  the items on the list above but I pursued them   for practical and transactional reasons I pursued  them as a means because I thought that they would   make my life better meanwhile the more I worked  at it the emptier I felt but reading Kant was an  
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epiphany and only 80 Pages Kant Swept Away decades  worth of assumptions and beliefs he showed me that   what you actually do doesn’t matter as much as  the purpose behind doing it and until you find the   right purpose you haven’t found much of anything  at all K wasn’t always a hum drum roue obsessed  
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dork he wasn’t always the mayor of boreville in  fact in kant’s younger years he was a bit of a   party Hound as well he would stay up late drinking  wine and playing cards with his friends he’d sleep   late and eat too much and host big parties it  wasn’t until he turned 40 that he dropped it  
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all and developed the routine life he later made  famous he said that he developed this routine at   40 because he realized the moral implications  of his actions and decided that he would no   longer allow himself to waste the precious time or  energy his Consciousness had left Kant called this  
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developing character AKA building a life designed  around maximizing your own potential he believed   most people can’t develop true character until  they reach middle age because until then they   are still too seduced by the fancies and whims of  the world blown this way and that from excitement  
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to Despair and back again we’re too obsessed  with accumulating more means and are hopelessly   oblivious to the ends that drive us to develop  character a person must Master their own actions   and master themselves and while few of us can  accomplish that in a lifetime Kant believed  
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it’s something we each have a duty to work towards  in fact he believed it was the only thing to work [Music] towards what’s up everybody Mark  Manson here and what you just heard is an   excerpt from the number one New York Times  bestseller everything is [ __ ] a book about  
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The Benefit of Living With No Purpose – Alan Watts

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dx4yW0mjezw

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So then, here is a conception of  nature as something you must trust;   outside nature – the birds, the bees,  the flowers, the mountains, the clouds,   and inside nature, human nature. Now  nature isn’t trustworthy, completely.  
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It will sometimes let you down with a wallop, but  that’s the risk you take, that’s the risk of life.   What is the alternative? “I  do not trust nature at all.   It has got to be watched.” You know what that  leads to? It leads to 1984 and Big Brother,  
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it leads to the totalitarian state   where everybody is his brother’s policeman,  where everybody is watching everybody else   to report them to the authorities. Where  you can’t trust your own motivations,  
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where you have to have a psychoanalyst  in charge of you all the time to think,   to be sure that you do not think  dangerous thoughts or peculiar thoughts.   And you report all peculiar  thoughts to your analyst  
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and your analyst would keep a record of  them and report them to the government.   And everybody is busy in  keeping records of everything.   It’s much more important to record  what happens than what happens.  
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This is already eating us up, it’s much more  important that you have your books right   than that you conduct your business in a good  way. In universities it is much more important   that the registrar’s records be in order than  the library be well-stocked. After all, you know,  
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your grades are all locked up in safes,  and protected from thievery and pilfering,   and they are the most valuable property that  the university has; the library can go hang.   Then further more, the main functioning of a  university is, as a sensible person would imagine,  
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to teach students and to do research. So  the faculty should be the most important   thing in the university, on the contrary, the  administration is the most important thing.   The people who keep the records, who  make the game rules up. So the faculty  
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are always being obstructed by the administration  and forced into irrelevant meetings,   and to do everything but scholarship. Do you know what scholarship means, or what   a school means? The original  meaning of schola is leisure.  
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We talk of a “scholar and a gentleman” because a  gentleman was a person who had a private income   and he could afford to be a scholar. He did  not have to earn a living and therefore he   could study the classics and  poetry and things like that.  
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Today nothing is more busy than a school. They  make you work, work, work because you have to get   through on schedule. There are expedited courses,  and you go to school so as to get a union card,   to get a Ph.D. or something you could  earn on living. So, on the whole, it’s a  
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contradiction of scholarship. Scholarship  is to study everything that is unimportant,   not necessary for survival, all the  charming irrelevancies of life.   So you see, the thing is this, if  you do not have room in your life  
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for the playful, life is not worth living. All  work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, but if the   only reason for which Jack plays is that he can  work better afterwards, he is not really playing.   He is playing because it is good for him,  
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he is not playing at all. You have  to be able to be a true scholars,   you have to cultivate an attitude to life in which  you are not trying to get anything out of it.   You pick up a pebble on the beach: look at it,  beautiful, don’t try to get a sermon out of it.  
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Sermons-in-stones and God-in-everything be damned  – just enjoy it! Do not feel that you have got to   salve your conscience by saying that this  is for the advancement of your aesthetic   understanding. Enjoy the pebble.  If you do that, you become healthy.  
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You become able to be a loving, helpful human  being. But if you can’t do that, if you can only   do things because they’re somehow, you are going  to get something out of it, you are a vulture.   So,  
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we have to learn, you don’t have, you  know, you don’t have to go on living,   but it is a great idea, it is a great thing if you  can learn what the Chinese call “purposelessness.”   They think nature is purposeless.  
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When we say something is purposeless, it  is a put-down. There is no future in it,   it is a washout. When they hear the word  purposeless they think that’s just great.   It is like the waves washing against the shore,  going on and on, forever, with no meaning. A  
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great Zen master said, as his death poem, just  before he died, “From the bathtub, to the bathtub,   I have uttered stuff and nonsense.” The bathtub  in which the baby is washed at birth, the bathtub   in which the corpse is washed before burial,  all this time I have said many nonsenses.  
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Like the birds in the trees go twee,  twee, twee. What is it all about?   Everybody tries to say, “Ah, yes, it is a mating  call – purposeful. They are trying to get their   mates, you know, by attracting them with a song.”  That’s why they have colors, and why butterflies  
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have eye-like designs on them for self-protection,  an engineering view of the universe.   Why do we do that? We say, “Well,  it is because they need to survive.”   But why survive? What is that for? Well, to survive.  
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See, human beings really are a lot of tubes,  and all living creatures are just tubes.   These tubes have to put things in one end and let  them go out at the other. Then they get clever   about it and they develop nerve ganglia on one  end of the tube – the eating end called a head.  
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And that has got eyes and ears, and it has  little organs and antennae, thing like this,   and that help you define things to put in one  end so that you can let them out the other.   Well, while you are doing this, you see,  the stuff going through wears the tube out  
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and so, the show can go on, the tubes  have complicated ways of making other   tubes which will go on doing the same thing,  in at one end, out the other. And they say,   “Well, that is terribly serious. That is awfully  important. We have got to keep on doing this.”  
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Then when the Chinese say nature is  purposeless this is a compliment.   It is like the idea of the Japanese word yugen.   They describe yugen as watching wild  geese fly and be hidden in the clouds;  
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as watching a ship vanish  behind the distant island;   as wandering on and on in a great  forest with no thought of return.   Haven’t you done this? Haven’t you gone on a walk  with no particular purpose in mind? You carry a  
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stick with you and you occasionally hit it  at old stumps, wander along and sometimes   twiddle your thumbs. It is at that moment  that you are a perfectly rational human being;   you have learned purposelessness.  All music is purposeless.  
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Is music getting somewhere? If it were, I mean,  if the aim of music or the symphony were to   get to the final bar, the best conductor  would be the one who got there fastest.   See, dancing, when you dance do you aim to  arrive at a particular place on the floor?  
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Is that the idea of dancing?   The aim of dancing is to dance. Is the present.  This is exactly the same in our life.   We think life has a purpose. I  remember the preachers who used to say,  
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when I was a small boy, I’ve always heard it, we  must follow God’s purpose, his purpose for you   and his purpose for me. When I asked these  cats what the purpose was, they never   knew! They never knew what it was, they had  a hymn “God is working his purpose out as  
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year succeeds to year. God is working his  purpose out and the time is drawing near.   The time on the earth should be full of the glory  of God as the waters cover the sea.” What’s the   glory of God? Well, they weren’t quite sure. I’ll tell you what it is.  
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In heaven all those angels are gathered around  the glory of God. That is to say the which than   which there’s no whicher. Catholics call it the  beatific vision, the Jews call it the shekhinah.   There all are angels standing around and  saying hallelujah, hallelujah, hallelujah. It  
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means nothing. They’re just having a ball. See, that’s what happened in the beginning.   When the God created the universe it  was created like all star, all planets,   all galaxies, they are vaguely spherical.  He created this and said have a ball.  
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But before he said that, he said  you must draw the line somewhere.   That was the real thing he said first,  before ‘let there be light’ that came later.   First thing was you must draw the line  somewhere. Otherwise nothing would happen.  
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You’ve got to have the good guys, the bad  guys, you’ve got to have this, you’ve got   to have that, the black and white, light and  darkness. You must draw the line somewhere.   Now, here is the choice. Are you going to trust it  or not? If you do trust it, you may get let down,  
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and this “it” is yourself, your own nature and all  nature around you. There are going to be mistakes,   but if you don’t trust it at all,  you are going to strangle yourself.   You are going to fence yourself around with  rules and regulations and laws and prescriptions  
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and policemen and guards – and  who’s going to guard the guards.   And who’s going to look after Big Brother to  be sure he doesn’t do something stupid. No-go.   Supposing I get annoyed with somebody in the  audience and I’m going to throw this ashtray  
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at them but I don’t want to hit my friend sitting  next to that person. I want to be absolutely sure   this ashtray hits that individual. And so I don’t  trust myself to throw it. I have to carry it along   and be sure I hit that person on a head. See,  I don’t throw it because I can’t let go of it.  
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To throw it I must let go of it . To live I must have faith.   I must trust myself to the totally  unknown, I must trust myself, to a nature   which does not have a boss. Because  a boss is a system of mistrust.  
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The Illusion of MONEY, TIME & EGO – Alan Watts

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dYSQ1NF1hvw

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Well i have a sort of suggestion and that is this that before we decide either to save the planet or to destroy it
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we pause for a moment of silence i don’t mean that kind of grim silence which one observes when somebody says such and such a famous person has just died and we’ll
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observe a moment of silence in his honor and everybody frowns and thinks very serious thoughts that’s not silence at all. I mean real silence
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in which we stop thinking and experience reality as reality is because after all if i talk all the time i can’t hear what anyone else has to say
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and if i think all the time and by that i mean specifically talking to yourself some vocally inside your skull if i think all the time i have nothing to think about except thoughts
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and so i’m never in touch with the real world now what is the real world some people have the theory that the real world is material or physical i say it’s made a kind of a stuff
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other people have the theory that the real world is spiritual or mental but i want you to point out that both those theories of the world are concepts
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of words and the real world is not an idea it is not words reality is you will find therefore that if you get with reality
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all sorts of illusions disappear and i will mention several illusions that have not this kind of existence let’s begin with some very down-to-earth ones
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like money money is a very useful method of accounting it is a measure of wealth in the same way as
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inches are measures of length and grams measures of weight you cannot eat money you could have a fantastic quantity of dollar bills and stock certificates
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on a desert island they would be useless to you what you would need would be food and animals and companions
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money simply represents wealth in rather the same way that the menu represents the dinner only we are psychologically perverted in such a way
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that we would some of us would rather have money than real wealth but you know you cannot drive in five cars at once even though they be cadillacs you cannot live simultaneously in six houses
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or eats 12 roasts of beef at one meal there is a limit to what one can consume so that’s one of the sort of confusions i’m talking about another
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is that we confuse ourselves as living organisms with our idea of ourselves that is to say with the conception of myself which is called
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the personality or ego we that is what we have been told we are and it’s an extremely crude and limited conception of oneself
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of the actual unique living organism and we get unhappy because we’re thinking of ourselves in this way because we
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think well gee i’m going to die i once talked to a woman who came to me and said she was afraid of death and uh we went into it in a long conversation i said what are you really
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afraid of and she thought it over and thought it over and he said you know what i’m going to be afraid of is what other people are going to say
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they’re going to say poor old gert she couldn’t last it through because you see who you think you are is entirely dependent on who people have told you you are
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you’re not that then another thing that bothers bothers us is time most people nowadays say i have no time of course you don’t
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because you are not aware of the present you know the present is represented on your watch by a hairline that is as thin as possible as is consistent with visibility and so everybody thinks the present is
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instead of now the present is the only real time there is no past and there isn’t a future
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and there never will be we think ordinarily of the present as an infinitesimal point at which the future changes into the past
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and we also do a terrible thing we imagine ourselves to be results of the past and we’re always passing the buck over our shoulders like when god approached adam in the garden
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of eden and said hast thou eaten of the fruit of the tree whereof i told thee thou shouldst not eat and adam said this woman thou gave with me she tempted me and i did eat
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and god looked at eve and said hast thou eaten of the fruit of the tree whereof i told thee thou shalt not eat and she said the serpent beguiled me and i did eat and god out of the corner of his eye looked at the serpent
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serpent said nothing so you see we’re always passing the buck you don’t realize that the past is caused by the present as the wake of a ship
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flows back from the prowl now the wake doesn’t drive the ship any more than the tail wags the dog but we’ve all got excuses my mother had a fit while she was carrying me in the womb
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uh they didn’t bring me up right and then they go to the mother and say how is it that you could have been so irresponsible with your children and she says well it was my parents didn’t bring me up right either and so
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everybody passes the buck but the truth of the matter is it all begins here this is where the creation begins
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and you’re doing it and won’t admit it because of course you’re all god in disguise jesus found that out and they crucified him for saying so
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so you would this is a very odd thing for westerners to understand and particularly for americans because we are so fixated on the future when we say want to put something down we say it has no future
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well do you much better to have a present because if you don’t it’s useless to make plans because when they work out you won’t be there to enjoy them you’ll be thinking
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of something else so we don’t we realize that we are living out of now and throwing the past behind us
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PTSD Treatment Options – How to Find a Good Trauma Therapist

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-d66DiFwvc
Hi everyone. I’m Emma McAdam, and I’m a  licensed marriage and family therapist.   And I make mental-health education videos.  And I’ve made a lot of videos about trauma   and trauma treatment. And so I get asked in a  lot of emails this question: How can I find a  
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therapist who does trauma treatment like you? And  it’s a great question, not because I’m the world’s   best trauma therapist, that is not the case, but  because when it comes to therapy, it’s really good   to be an informed consumer. There are hundreds of  different types of therapy, and every therapist is  
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different in how they approach issues. So  whether you’ve never tried therapy before   or you’ve worked with other therapists in  the past and you want something different,   learning about different treatment  modalities can be really helpful.  
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So first, what is trauma? Trauma is  any experience that was overwhelming,   threatening, that caused pain, distress, or  fear to the point where you felt helpless.   It can include assault and abuse and witnessing  tragedy. It could include frightening medical  
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experiences, near-death experiences, or  a severe loss. But basically when your   response to these situations interferes with  your life, you might receive a diagnosis of PTSD.   Or, if the abuse was ongoing for long periods of  time, you might get a diagnosis of complex PTSD.  
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And symptoms include nightmares; feeling tense or  anxious all the time; being jumpy; feeling numb   or detached; feeling exhausted and depressed;  struggling in relationships, sleep, and and work.   So while almost all therapists have some skills  in treating depression, anxiety, and trauma,  
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because these are such universal problems, not  all therapists specialize in trauma treatment.   So that means that most therapists have at  least a handful of tools to treat trauma,   but some therapists have a lot of skills and  interventions and resources and experience to  
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help you out. And that’s not exclusive to trauma.  The more specific you can get with your diagnosis,   the more specific you can get in finding a  therapist who has interventions tailored to   your needs. Okay. So what are the trauma treatment  options out there, and how do you find a therapist  
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who uses them? There’s a gazillion ways to do  therapy, but I’m going to highlight the ways that   are research-backed, meaning they have a strong  body of consistent evidence that these treatments   are effective. So the first approach to treating  PTSD is cognitive therapy. And this is called  
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a top-down approach. So it includes cognitive  behavior therapy, cognitive processing therapy,   and prolonged exposure. Cognitive approaches focus  on talking about your trauma, changing how you   think about it, and changing behaviors that might  be making it worse. So for example, you would  
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tell your trauma story, and your therapist would  notice that you blame yourself for your abuse,   and then they would help you to challenge that  type of thinking and replace it with something   healthier, like placing the responsibility on the  abuser and forgiving yourself. Now, CBT has a lot  
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of research for a couple of reasons: it’s been  around for a long time and it can be standardized.   They can, they can put it in a manual and say,  “Oh, in session one, do this. In session two,   do this. And then they can measure outcomes.  Most therapists include some form of talking  
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and examining thinking patterns as a part of  therapy, but with a CBT therapist they may have a   very clear set of instructions for you. Prolonged  exposure is another type of cognitive therapy.   It’s essentially exposure therapy. You talk about  your trauma over and over until it’s no longer as  
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scary for you. Essentially, you teach your brain  that you can face your trauma and be okay. Now,   cognitive approaches have been around for a  long time, and they have a lot of research   behind them. One study at Kaiser showed that  even just the simple act of a doctor saying,  
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“I see that you have a history of trauma or abuse.  I’m sorry that happened to you. Would you like to   talk about it?” and then just listening – just  that simple act of addressing trauma without any   specific interventions – this decreased the  physical symptoms of trauma in a significant  
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way. So I I don’t mean to minimize the  effectiveness of talk therapy with trauma,   but I think that I and many other therapists  find that trauma treatment benefits from a   really well-rounded approach. And cognitive  therapies focus on thoughts and memories,  
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but they don’t do much to address the physical  reactions of trauma. Cognitive therapy can also   be really uncomfortable, and in some cases, you  know, re-traumatize the participant by having them   talk about trauma without the skills to calm their  body down. Now, that being said, cognitive therapy  
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is still an effective approach. According to the  VA, around 53% of people who do cognitive therapy   no longer have PTSD after three months of  treatment. EMDR is another great approach to   treating trauma. It’s got a lot of research behind  it. It incorporates body-based soothing with  
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cognitive work while also including eye movement  and bilateral movement as a part of the treatment.   EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and  reprocessing. So basically, scientists found out   that when we have bilateral movement –  so that’s moving your eyes back and forth  
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or patting your legs one and then the other –  that it stimulates the part of the brain that   processes memories. And this is similar to what  happens in REM sleep, rapid eye movement sleep,   because when you dream, your eyes move  back and forth. And this is a critical time  
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when your brain processes memories without too  much emotion so that it can file them away.   So with EMDR and somatic approaches there isn’t  nearly as much of a focus on retelling the   trauma story or challenging thoughts or homework  assignments. And according to the VA, around 53%  
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of people who do EMDR no longer have PTSD after  three months of treatment. Okay. The next type of   therapy, this next group of therapies incorporates  a much more body-based approach or a bottom-up   approach to healing trauma, and it includes  somatic experiencing, sensory motor therapy,  
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and polyvagal approaches to trauma treatment.  So these approaches focus on the body and the   nervous system and how they get stuck in a trauma  response, and they teach people skills to soothe   the body and turn off the fight/flight/freeze  response and to activate their nervous system and  
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work through the physical tension of trauma. And  it’s based off of the work of Bessel van der Kolk,   Peter Levine, Stephen Porges, Pat Ogden, Deb Dana,  and others. And it’s gaining a lot of momentum,   and the research behind its effectiveness is  growing. Interventions include things like yoga,  
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learning nervous system calming skills, gaining  a greater awareness of your body’s reactions,   and working with your body to restore a sense of  calm. And I teach a bunch of these skills in my   free course, Grounding Skills for Anxiety, Stress,  and PTSD. So if you’d like to learn some of them,  
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just check out the link in the description. When  someone asks me how to find a trauma therapist who   does trauma work the way I do, this approach is  one that I’m drawn to the most. Now, I understand   a lot of cognitive work. I’ve read books or  attended trainings on most of the approaches.  
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And for me, the body-based approach really  adds a lot to the cognitive work that many   people have already tried. Somatic  experiencing is also a newer approach,   so there’s less research behind it, but studies  are promising. Some smaller studies have found  
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that 67% of people experience a reduction of  PTSD symptoms, and a meta-analysis of 16 studies   found overall positive effects  of somatic experiencing therapy   on PTSD symptoms. Okay. Another type of therapy  is narrative therapy. And this is often used in  
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a small-group setting. It’s another approach  that has been used with good results. And   basically you just get a group of people together  to talk about and work through their experiences.   People explore their narrative or their  interpretation of traumatic events with  
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other people, and they create a new story around  their humanity. And it has a lot of good evidence.   Medication is another option to treat PTSD, and it  can be combined with therapy. Antidepressants like   Prozac, Paxil, Effexor, and Zoloft can be helpful  at treating overall symptoms. And basically,  
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medication helps to quiet the alarm system that  seems to be constantly stuck in the on position.   According to the VA, medication is  effective for 42% percent of people. Also,   prazosin can help with nightmares, and anxiety  medications can help with the anxiety symptoms.  
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Medication does come with the possibility of  side effects, and the benefits may go away if you   stop taking the medication. Now, I don’t think  that there is one approach to trauma treatment   that is best for everyone, so you may need to try  a few different things to find out what works for  
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you. Also, a combination of approaches may be  best. Many therapists will integrate a cognitive   approach with body-soothing skills while also  encouraging you to work with a doctor to explore   medical treatments as well. Regardless of which  approach you want to try, it’s important to find  
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a therapist who is experienced. So let me show  you one way I recommend doing that. So if you   go to psychologytoday.com (not a sponsor), their  therapist finder tool has some great filters. So   you just start by entering your location, and then  you can select trauma-focused EMDR or somatic, and  
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then you can see a list of the providers in your  area. You can also filter by gender, religion,   by the insurance they take, and a bunch of other  characteristics. Now, just because someone says   they’re trauma-informed or they practice a certain  modality doesn’t mean they’re certified in it.  
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So for someone to be EMDR certified, they need to  have done something like 40 hours of training and   50 plus hours of supervised practice. So look  for a certified provider whenever possible.   To become a certified somatic experiencing  practitioner you have to do eight training  
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modules of four to six days in length spaced  out over two and a half to three years, so   this is really different from someone who’s just  trauma informed or has a different certificate.   There are a ton of other approaches to  trauma treatment that are gaining popularity,  
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but they they just don’t have  as much research behind them.   These include brain spotting, neurofeedback,  mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy,   tapping. And there’s a lot of other things that  you can try that may help, but they don’t have as  
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much evidence behind them. And so other other  interventions include things like journaling,   dancing, exercise, improving your overall  mental health, certain nutritional approaches,   and sharing your story with compassionate  people. All these things can be really helpful;  
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they’re just not necessarily meeting that gold  standard of evidence-based treatment. Now, for   all we know, these may work. But the further you  get away from research, the less we know about how   the treatment will affect you. I’m pretty cautious  about recommending treatment without rigorous  
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evidence, but I do encourage people to try a few  things until they find something that works for   them. So there you have it: a handful of different  approaches to treating trauma. I hope this helps   you choose a treatment option that works for  you. Thank you for watching, and take care.
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Discerning of Spirits 💥 This is a Powerful Weapon

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=16muBXh9ytA

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Today I’m going to speak about the remaining gift of revelation, distinguishing or discerning of spirits. The ability to recognize, identify   and distinguish between various  kinds of spirits that confront us.   And in this connection we need to bear in mind  that the Christian ministry is a ministry in   the spiritual realm. In Ephesians 6:12 Paul says  we are not fighting enemies of flesh and blood   or persons with bodies, but we are  arrayed against an evil spiritual kingdom,   spirits of wickedness. And so it is essential that  we are equipped to handle our spiritual enemies. The purposes of this gift, I  would suggest, are fourfold.   First of all, to lift the veil that  covers the unseen spiritual world.   The world that we really have to  deal with if we’re to be effective.
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Secondly, to enable us to see  as God sees. In 1 Samuel 16:7   the Lord told Samuel this, “For God sees not as  man sees, for man look at the outward appearance,   but the Lord looks at the heart.” This gift of  discerning of distinguishing of spirits enables   us to go below the outward appearance  and see the condition of the heart.
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The third purpose of the gift is to protect us  from deception. We are reminded that sometimes   Satan comes to God’s people as an angel  of light. He appears to be very beautiful,   very good and very wise. But his whole  purpose and intention is evil and destructive. The fourth purpose of this gift is to enable us  to diagnose people’s problems and so help them. Now the gift is discerning of spirits,  it’s not just discerning of evil spirits.   There are various kind of spirits that confront  us in the Christian walk. Let me mention four:   First of all, the Spirit of God, the Holy Spirit.  It is very important to discern the Holy Spirit.   Secondly, there are angels, both  good angels and evil angels. Thirdly,   thee are demons or unclean spirits. And fourthly,  there is the spirit of man, the human spirit. Now I want to give you some examples  of the operation of this gift   from the New Testament. First  of all in the ministry of Jesus.   In John 1:47 and following, you read  how Nathanael came to Jesus and it says: “Jesus saw Nathanael coming to Him,   and said of him, ‘Behold, an Israelite  indeed, in whom is no guile!’” (NAS) How did Jesus know that there was no guile  in Nathanael? There was no outward way of   knowing it, but He discerned in Nathanael  a guileless spirit. Nathanael was amazed. “He said to Him, ‘How do You know  me?’ Jesus answered and said to him,   ‘Before Philip called you, when you were  under the fig tree, I saw you.’” (NAS) Probably Jesus was standing preaching and  Philip was standing there somewhere in the   background under the fig tree listening,  but Jesus looking over the heads of those   who were closer to Him, saw that face  and discerned that guileless spirit.   Nathanael was amazed, but Jesus said  to him, “This is only the beginning.” “And He said to him, ‘Truly, truly, I say  to you, you shall see the heavens opened,   and the angels of God ascending and  descending upon the Son of Man.’” (NAS) Jesus said, in effect, not merely will we discern  human spirits, but we’ll discern angel spirits   too. And of course, later on in the New Testament  this was fulfilled a number of times. For instance   in Acts 27 we read about Paul on the ship that  was being so terribly tossed by the storm.   They hadn’t seen the sun or the moon or the stars  for many days. All hope of survival was given up,   but an angel of God came to Paul on the ship.   And after that Paul stood up and spoke to  those men and encouraged them and he said this: “For this very night an angel of the God to  whom I belong and whom I serve stood before me,   saying, ‘Do not be afraid, Paul; you  must stand before Caesar; and behold,   God has granted you all those  who are sailing with you.’” (NAS) So we see that an angel came  to that storm-tossed ship,   but the only one who was aware of  the presence of the angel was Paul.   Paul discerned what the others could not  see, an angelic presence there on that ship. I’d giving you examples of two forms of discernment Jesus discerning a guile spirit in Nathanael and Paul discerning an angel of God on the ship. Now also from the ministry of Paul, I want to  give you an example of discerning an evil spirit,   a very significant and important example. This  describes what happened while Paul and Silas   and their company were in the city of Philippi to  bring the gospel to that city. And they were going   every day to a certain place of prayer, but there  was a slave-girl following them making dramatic   spiritual pronouncements about them. This is  the record as we find it in Acts 16:16–18: “And it happened that as we were going to the  place of prayer, a certain slave-girl having   a spirit of divination met us, who was bringing  her masters much profit by fortunetelling.” (NAS) The spirit of divination in Satan’s  kingdom is the fortunetelling spirit,   the one that predicts the future, that tells  you whether you are going to be rich or poor,   whether you are going to marry a  blonde or a brunette, whether your   mother or your aunt is going to die, and many  such things. That’s the spirit of divination,   the fortunetelling spirit. It is not from God, it  is from Satan. The Scripture then goes on to say: “Following after Paul and us, she kept crying  out, saying, ‘These men are bond-servants of   the Most High God, who are proclaiming  to you the way of salvation.’” (NAS) It is very significant that what she was  saying was absolutely true. That is an example   of Satan coming as an angel of light. But she was  nevertheless not serving God, but Satan. You see,   Satan’s purpose was to confuse the people  of Philippi. They were used to divination,   they were used to people with evil spirits. If  Paul and his company had accepted this girl and   her testimony, the people of Philippi would have  concluded, “Well, here is just another example of   what we have been used to all these centuries.”  But Paul didn’t fall into that trap. Through   discerning of spirits, he identified the spirit as  an evil spirit and this is how he dealt with it: “And she continued doing this for many  days. But Paul was greatly annoyed…   [Do you know that it is legitimate  sometimes to be annoyed?   To be annoyed with the devil is not a  sin.] …But Paul was greatly annoyed,   and turned and said to the spirit [not to the  girl, but to the spirit], ‘I command you in the   name of Jesus Christ to come out of her!’ And it  [the spirit] came out at that very moment.” (NAS) So the evil spirit was discerned by Paul  and then cast out in the name of Jesus.   That was a critical point. It  set the whole city in an uproar.   Satan’s purposes had been revealed and frustrated  and he became exceedingly angry and the most   unnatural tumult broke out in that city. That was  Satan’s response to his devices being revealed. Now let me give you just one example that is a  little similar from my own personal experience.   Actually, this incident in my life is mentioned  in Catherine Marshall’s book Something More.   It happened while I was ministering at a church  in Chicago. At the close of a service a lady came   to me and asked me for prayer. She said she had  personal problems. The Lord showed me, I think,   probably through the word of knowledge, that she  had been a spiritist medium. And I said that I   wasn’t prepared to pray for her. So she went  away but came back a few weeks later. She said,   “I have given up being a medium. I want you  to pray for me.” So I felt that I couldn’t   refuse. I wasn’t confident of her sincerity, but  I began to pray with her, and it was hard going.
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After a while I paused for a moment. And as I  paused, she began to look at me intently and   there was a kind of strange fixed stare in  her eyes and she said, “I see you in a car   and it’s wrecked against a tree and there’s  blood.” For a moment my heart sank and I thought,   “I’m going to be in a car that’s wrecked  against a tree.” And then I realized that   isn’t the Holy Spirit. That’s the spirit of  divination by which she operated as a medium.   And so the anger of God came over  me and I said, “You divining spirit,   I reject you! I do not accept that as my  destiny! I’m not going to be in any car   that’s going to be wrecked against a tree!  I refuse it! I will not accept it from you!” I don’t believe that the woman was  delivered. At least not at that   time. Because I really don’t believe that  she had repented of her evil practices.   But I really believe that that  was a turning point in my life.
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You see, when you go to a fortuneteller,  the fortuneteller predicts something evil   about your life, as often happens. If you say,  “Oh, isn’t this terrible! Think what’s going   to happen to me!” in a certain sense you are  submitting to Satan’s destiny for your lie.   And if you submit to it, very  probably it will be worked out.   What we have to learn to do is identify Satan even  in his deceptions, reject him, turn away from him,   turn to God and the Scripture and the Holy Spirit,  and receive God’s destiny for our life and believe   that rather than Satan’s destiny. But these days  it’s very important that we are able to discern   even when Satan comes to us in the  guise of an angel of light.
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The Most Effective Way To Release God’s Authority Over A Situation | Derek Prince

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4xFm8kv1Xg
Now, that’s trembling at the Word. That’s the first thing that happened with Moses.
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He suddenly realized the power that was in his rod and he ran from it. He was overawed.
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The second thing that he did was to take hold of the rod. By faith he gripped it and it became a rod again in his hand.
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So when we’ve trembled, then we need to take hold of God’s Word. We need to take a firm grasp on the Word of God. And there’s a Scripture near the end of the book of Psalms which to me is really impressive.
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Psalm 149 the last few verses.
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Psalm 149 beginning at verse 5: Let the saints be joyful in glory; let them sing aloud on their beds. The saints, I believe, is all true dedicated believers. The word saint, Hebrew word hasid.
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How many of you have ever heard of Hasidic Judaism? Very ultra Orthodox. It means somebody who trembles at the word of God who’s totally committed to it.
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Let the saints be joyful in glory; let them sing aloud on their beds. Let the high praises of God be in their mouth, and a two-edged sword in their hand, to execute vengeance on the nations and punishments on the peoples; to bind their kings with chains and their nobles with fetters of iron to execute on them the written judgment. This honor have all his saints.
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It’s an amazing series of statements if you can identify yourself as belonging to the saints. It says that we have to have the two-edged sword which is the Word of God, in our hands, the high praises of God in our mouth and with it we can execute vengeance on the nations, punishment on the peoples – are you seeing yourself in this scenario? Do you realize that this is something God has for you? To bind their kings with chains, their nobles with fetters of iron. I do believe that means in part the satanic principalities that rule the nations but not exclusively. And then it says in the closing verse to execute on the nations the judgment written.
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And it says this honor or this privilege have all his saints. Have you ever pondered on that? God has given us the privilege of executing judgment on the nations.
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The prayer life of many would be different if we began to see ourselves in that light. Now it says to execute the judgment written, or the written judgment. Where is the judgment written, where do we find the written judgment? That’s right, hold it up. That’s right, it’s in here. We are not the ones to make the judgments.
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God has made the judgments. But we have the privilege of executing the judgments on the nations, on their rulers. In other words, we have a unique and decisive part to play in history. See how important this is? And I’d have to say how far away many, many Christians are from even beginning to understand all that God has made available to us and all that God expects from us.
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But I want to emphasize we don’t make the judgments.
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We find the judgments in the written Word of God, but we execute them. How do we execute God’s judgments? By what one word? Proclaiming, that’s right.
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We release the judgments of God that are already written in the Scripture. We proclaim them, we are the heralds.
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We stand in the marketplace of the world and we say, Oyez, Oyez, and then we announce the decree of God.
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Now I think I’m going to try to be very practical and down to earth. We come to the next stage after he grasped the rod. What did he do next when he got back to Egypt? He stretched it out.
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He exercised the authority that was in the rod.
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Now I want to suggest to you that we need to do the same.
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We need to take the written Word of God and we need to stretch it out in any situation where the authority of God is needed. One of the ways – I’m not saying it’s the only way but I think in many ways the most effective way to release the authority of God into a situation is by proclaiming in faith and under the anointing of the Holy Spirit because remember, the word must go with the breath. But when the two go together, when the breath of God, the Spirit of God propels the Word of God out of our mouths we can release it into a situation and it has all the authority of Almighty God in that situation. God didn’t step down off the throne, take the rod out of Moses’ hand and say, Moses, I’ll do it. That’s what most of us, I think, expect to happen. God says, You’ve got the rod. You do it. But it is called the rod of God in the book of Exodus. It was God’s rod but Moses held it. Moses stretched it out.
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Moses and Aaron together. It didn’t make any difference. It was the rod that did the job.
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Use Your Thoughts to Optimize Your Health – Dr Joe Dispenza

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2gDr9V_vmFY
[Music] we have three types of stress that we  process in the physical body we have physical   stress that’s like trauma accidents injuries  Falls and then you have chemical stress like   toxins or pesticides or pollutants or viruses or  bacteria or hangovers or nutritional deficiencies  
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and then you have emotional stress right and  emotional stress could be family tragedies   car accidents second mortgages single parenting  401ks you know whatever that is but each one of   those things physical chemical or emotional knock  the body out of homeostasis out of Regulation out  
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of balance the innate capacity of the body when  it’s not overstressed is that it wants to always   return back and regulate it wants to return back  to homeostasis it wants to return back to order   and that’s inate in us that’s an automatic  process that’s running through the autonomic  
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nervous system so we could say the job of the  autonomic nervous system is to create balance   and Regulation and homeostasis and it’s automatic  and that part of the brain sits under the thinking   neocortex and it’s called the chemical brain  or the emotional brain or the lyic brain or the  
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mamelon brain and it has all of those functions  that make blood sugar balanced hormone levels   digestive enzymes it’s it’s it’s it’s doing  what it can to take the body and constantly   repair it and regenerate it and move it back into  balance all of those stressors knock the brain and  
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body out of balance and the innate mechanism the  stress response brings it back to balance well it   just makes sense if you keep knocking it out of  balance over and over again and you keep moving   it out of homeostasis that imbalance is going to  become the new balance and now you’re headed for  
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disease because that autonomic automatic system  can’t regulate order in the body so a system then   is compromised the system breaks down and so if  it’s physical trauma you know your body can heal   if you rest it if it’s chemical imbalance you  take your uh Pharmaceuticals or you take your  
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nutriceuticals your vitamins your minerals your  herbs you intermittent fast you do anything you   can to get the body back so that it’s using more  energy for growth and repair but the big factor   is emotional stress 75 to 90% of every person  that walks into a Healthcare facility in the  
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Western World walks in because of psychological  or emotional stress pretty much four out of   five people what’s really causing their health  condition is that they’re emotionally stressed   and emotionally out of balance okay so what are  the emotions that are connected to the stress  
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hormones it’s anger it’s hatred it’s frustration  it’s competition it’s control it’s judgment it’s   Envy it’s jealousy it’s insecurity it’s fear it’s  anxiety it’s worry it’s angst it’s uh hopelessness   it’s powerlessness it’s guilt it shame its  unworthiness you know and psychology calls these  
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normal human States Of Consciousness these are  Altered States Of Consciousness so our response   to someone or something in in our environment or  our response to our own thought an image of what   could happen in the future a memory of the past  could actually cause chemicals to be secreted  
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from the brain that causes the body to actually  believe it’s living in that same environment of   fear or danger right so that thought when you’re  seeing that thought in your mind or remembering   that image it’s the image and the emotion it’s  the thought and the feeling it’s the stimulus and  
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response that’s immediately conditioning the body  into that state of imbalance so it’s a scientific   fact that the long-term effects of the hormones of  stress push the genetic buttons and create disease   if you can turn on that stress response just by  thought alone your thoughts are literally going  
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to make you sick that’s the greatest example of  the Mind Body Connection so the next fundamental   question is okay if our thoughts could make us  sick is it possible that my thoughts could make   me well well if that’s the case then then I’m  going to have to manage my attention and I’m  
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going to have to manage my energy because where I  place my attention is where I place my energy and   I’m going to have to inhibit that thought that has  conditioned the body to subconsciously be the mind   and the body is so objective that it does not know  the difference between the real life experience  
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that’s creating that emotion and the emotion that  person is fabricating by thought alone to the body   it’s exactly the same so the body’s believing  it’s being chased by a predator the body is   believing it’s in an offensive situation where it  has to attack the body’s believing it’s constantly  
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needing to be ready and it’s it’s constantly out  of homeostasis is constantly out of balance it’s   in emergency it’s in fight ORF flight it’s a  different system the autonomic nervous system   where you’re stepping on the gas where you’re  you’re mobilizing enormous amounts of energy  
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for some threat some Danger real or imagined  but that thought and that feeling the image the   emotion the stimulus response is conditioning the  body to automatically be the mind of that emotion   now the body becomes conditioned and addicted  now this gets to be a problem because people  
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get addicted to their own thoughts and they become  addicted to the life they don’t even like because   the response to the coworker to the boss to the  ex is actually giving them Rush of energy A Rush   of agine and they’re they’re associating that Rush  of energy with some problem or condition in their  
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life and now come time to change and manage  your attention and manage your emotion it’s   no different than Breaking addiction to anything  there’s Cravings the body wants to return back to   how it’s been conditioned into the familiar past  into the gnome the body starts saying to the mind  
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you can it’s too hard you’ll never change this  is too uncomfortable I don’t like this go back   to make the same Choice do the same thing create  the same experience feel the same emotion so you   can return back to the known and that’s how people  seamlessly return back to that same identity so we  
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only accept believe and surrender to the thoughts  that are equal to our emotional state we’ll never   accept believe and surrender any thoughts that are  not equal to your emotional state so you could say   I’m abundant I’m Eternal I’ll live forever I’m  healthy and wealthy and if you’re programmed your  
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body into that emotional state it’s going to say  you you’re not that take a person whose identity   is resentment and their identity is anger and and  frustration and betrayal and you ask them why are   you this way and they’ll say I’m this way because  of this event that happened to me 15 years ago  
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strong are the emotion we feel from some event the  more altered we feel inside of us the more that   chemical continuity is disrupted from something  that surprises us that alters our state the more   the brain freezes a frame and takes a snapshot  that’s called a memory but the problem is that we  
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think about that event over and over again after  it happens we’re producing the same chemistry in   the brain and body as if the event was occurring  and so the body is conditioned literally into   the past so you say a person’s resentful about  everything they’re seeing their life through the  
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lens of resentment and frustration and anger  and everything’s upsetting them well that’s a   self-fulfilling prophecy you say okay now it’s an  addiction you got to change that and the person   goes oh okay that makes sense and now now you got  to get out of the bleachers on the playing field  
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say okay these emotions could literally have  something to do with my health just saying if   I stop feeling these emotions what if I start  feeling these emotions okay what would be the   emotions that would make me happy these emotions  are making me feel really bad the memories are  
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making me feel really bad can I remember a  future how would I feel if my future could   happen I got to trade those emotions for different  emotions well if I’ve been practicing feeling   these emotions and I’ve conditioned my body be the  mind it’s going to take some time for me to start  
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making different chemistry with the intention of  making that chemistry getting my body back into   homeostasis and balance work on my breath when I  breathe I change my state practice breathing work   with your body so it can start to relax so that  it feels safe enough to feel something other than  
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that again and if it takes you 3 weeks it would be  worth it so then person then starts okay I really   know how to feel gratitude okay well maybe start  going out and giving and give to people I promise   you start giving you start feeling grateful and  then start practicing feeling gratitude teach  
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your body just for 15 minutes a day what it would  like to feel gratitude what would be like and our   data shows that you take someone to do that  for four days three times a day they make a   immunoglobulin called immunoglobulin a it’s your  body’s natural flu shot it’s the greatest immune  
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chemical we have 50% increase in the subjects we  studied in 4 days immunoglobulin went up 50% in 4   days where is that chemistry coming from they’re  not taking anything it’s coming from within them   right what is the emotional signature of gratitude  when you receive something or you just receive  
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something when something wonderful happened to  you or something wonderful is happening to you   you feel grateful so now if you’re in a state  of gratitude it makes total sense then you will   accept believe and surrender the thoughts that  are equal to that emotional state and you could  
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actually program your autonomic nervous system  to make the pharmacy of chemicals that causes   growth and repair to happen in the body and that’s  exactly what we’re discovering so then when people   understand why they’re doing it the how gets  easier so you can assign meaning to the task  
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and switch on the prefrontal cortex and when you  switch on that prefrontal cortex it wants to get   an outcome it doesn’t want to mess around it wants  the outcome you’re doing it for the outcome and   that’s kind of a strong intention and a change in  energy or an emotional state and that’s changing  
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your state of being and when you change your state  of being like that every day get ready because   you’re going to start having synchronicities and  coincidences and weird things start happening in   your life to prove to you that you’re actually the  creator of your life instead of the victim of your
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Are you Codependent with Anxiety? Free Anxiety Course Introduction

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kucxlrh74sg&list=PLiUrrIiqidTVqab7pZivzb-e-tMA8qjd-

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[Music] How’s your relationship with anxiety? Does it drive you crazy? Does it get in the way of living your life? Do you get stuck worrying and feeling sick to your stomach or sweaty? When you get all codependent with anxiety, it can really mess up your life. Have you ever had an uncle or a coworker, the type who tried to convince you that the world was flat or something? Maybe your relationship with anxiety is a bit like that. Oh, hey, hey. Oh. [Music] Hey. How you doing? Did you know there’s going to be a massive cheese shortage, and it’s gonna send the markets into a Great Depression. Now is a great time to invest in cheese stocks.
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No there’s not. Oh, no, yeah. Yeah, this is a conspiracy from the cheese barons, but first they’ve gotta increase market share by taking out the potato farmers so they can destroy Coca-Cola. Like, where did you hear that? Like, where where are you getting your information? But first they have to take out the potato farmers with cheese-scented laser beams. And if you try to debate him with facts, he only gets more persistent. Okay. Are you serious? Cheese-scented laser beams? Have you ever seen one? I’ve got a friend who works in the silos in Idaho, and his brother’s the governor and says that they’re putting mind-altering drugs in the water. No, listen, listen. I’m sure that if they were putting mind-altering drugs in our water it would show up in the wastewater studies. Like, I know someone who works with the DWR. Look, I – you have been a little bit brainwashed. Come here, come here. Give me a hug. Only with anxiety, it sounds a little bit more like: Oh, hey, hey. How’s it going? Oh, hi, anxiety. Didn’t expect to see you here. Well, I guess I shouldn’t be that surprised. Hey, um, did you know everyone’s looking at you? They’re all looking at you. They’re they’re all wondering why you’re here. Like, where did you hear that? Like – Yeah, I mean, I I heard, I heard Megan and Bob talking about you over there. They’re they’re probably just looking at me because I dyed my hair, and it looks great. Oh, I’m glad you like your hair. I mean, uh, yeah, I mean I guess it’s – I better not say what other people might be thinking. Okay, they probably think it sucks. Sarah invited me here. Why why would she invite me if she didn’t want me to be here? Maybe she was just trying to be nice.
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Like, she didn’t actually want you to come. Yeah, well, maybe everyone’s staring at me because I’m arguing with myself. Now, maybe your uncle – or in this case, your anxiety – makes you so uncomfortable that you just stop going places. You stop going to parties, you stop seeing the people you love because you just don’t want to be around him (your uncle) or it (the anxious voice in your head). Maybe you’ve created a life where you avoid anxiety, but you’ve had to cut out a bunch of things because of that. Now, in this course I’m not gonna promise you that your anxiety will go away or that you’ll magically never feel fear or worry again, but in 30 days you can learn to transform your relationship with anxiety. Now, anxiety itself is not a disorder. It’s what we do with anxiety that determines the quality of our life. When we believe the lies that anxiety tells us, when we let it make choices for us, when we let fear run the show, an anxiety disorder can make us miserable. And when we struggle against it, when we try to like force the anxiety to go away, it often gets louder. So like a relationship with that overbearing family member, I’m going to teach you the skills to set boundaries on your anxiety – like texting before dropping by. Oh, wait, that’s for family. You’ll learn things like knowing what to say to anxiety, how to spend less time with it, and how to not let it bother you so much. And as you build this healthy relationship with anxiety, you might even find that occasionally it has something good to say. Not often, but occasionally it helps you just a little because anxiety serves a function. And learning how to relate to anxiety can give you back your life. In this course you’ll learn how to transform your relationship with anxiety. You’ll learn how to drop the struggle with anxiety and set boundaries on your worries so that you can decrease your worry by 75% or more. You’ll learn how to stop overthinking and get back to enjoying yourself. You’ll learn how to handle that inner critic so that you can maintain your sense of self and you can let go of doubt and work through fears. So just like with that difficult family member, you can learn the skills to show your anxiety compassion, to listen to what it has to say but not believe everything it says, and to live your own life the way you choose – a life that you value that is rich and meaningful. [Music] Oh, hey, hey, you’re probably ruining your children.
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Oh, oh, hi there, worry. Um I don’t have time to talk about this with you right now, but I do have five minutes later. Uh let’s talk at five, okay? [Music] This just in. Breaking news. Um everything is awful, and it is going to be awful forever, and it’s probably actually going to get worse, regardless of all the advances in science, medicine, technology . . . Okay. Well, you can say what you want, but I don’t have to believe you. It’s just terrible. [Music] Oh my goodness, oh my goodness, darling, don’t jump off that diving board. You could fall. Basically, you’re gonna learn how to be the Mahatma Gandhi of worry management: peacefully holding your truth, standing up to lies and oppression, and gaining independence from the trap of anxiety. In this course you’ll learn 30 skills to have an entire toolbox of options for managing anxiety. And when you practice them, you can learn to take your life back. So here’s how the course works: I’ll be publishing all 31 main videos to YouTube, but you can watch the entire series with the extra skills, ad-free, with a workbook, with bonus resources and access to Q and A’s with me on my website. I’m publishing one video per week to YouTube, but I’ll publish the videos to the online course as soon as they’re ready. The first section is all about changing your mindset around anxiety, changing how you think about anxiety, learning how it works, what you’re doing that feeds it, and how to drop the struggle with anxiety. Section 2 teaches you about the thinking patterns that you’re doing that make anxiety stronger and louder and, of course, how to adjust how you think, to set boundaries on anxiety, and drastically decrease it. And then in Section 3 you’ll learn how your nervous system’s response creates this feedback loop that either calms anxiety or exacerbates it. You’ll learn how to lean into your sensations, to lean into the wisdom of your body, and turn on its natural ability to soothe itself. And then in the last segment of the course, you’ll learn how to take back the confident and meaningful life that you really care about. You’ll learn how to get back to doing the things that you care about and bring back the joy and purpose that you used to have in life. So this section is all about moving in your valued direction. Now, this course isn’t just academic; with each lesson there are actionable skills and practical exercises to retrain your nervous system to be more resilient and centered. It’s like lifting weights for your calmness muscle. And like I said before, the course comes with a workbook, bonus lessons, Q and A’s, and lots of body-calming skills and resources to help you feel confident to know what to do when anxiety does pop up and how to set boundaries on it so that it doesn’t impact your life anymore. Everyone feels some anxiety, but you don’t have to let it run the show.
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You can really learn the skills to change anxiety. So here’s your first somatic skill: let’s start by having you curl up. Put your head down, shrink yourself down into like a hunchy little ball like this. Okay. And then say, “I can do this. Okay. I can do this. I can do this.” Notice how that feels. Your body is sending the message to your brain that you’re actually not capable. Now, put your shoulders back, chest out, chin up, and just say, “I can learn new skills. I can learn new things.” Your body is sending you the message that you are competent, you’re capable to learn the skills to manage and work with your anxiety. Now, I know you can do this. Let’s go. [Music]
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