Are you Codependent with Anxiety? Free Anxiety Course Introduction

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[Music] How’s your relationship with anxiety? Does it drive you crazy? Does it get in the way of living your life? Do you get stuck worrying and feeling sick to your stomach or sweaty? When you get all codependent with anxiety, it can really mess up your life. Have you ever had an uncle or a coworker, the type who tried to convince you that the world was flat or something? Maybe your relationship with anxiety is a bit like that. Oh, hey, hey. Oh. [Music] Hey. How you doing? Did you know there’s going to be a massive cheese shortage, and it’s gonna send the markets into a Great Depression. Now is a great time to invest in cheese stocks.
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No there’s not. Oh, no, yeah. Yeah, this is a conspiracy from the cheese barons, but first they’ve gotta increase market share by taking out the potato farmers so they can destroy Coca-Cola. Like, where did you hear that? Like, where where are you getting your information? But first they have to take out the potato farmers with cheese-scented laser beams. And if you try to debate him with facts, he only gets more persistent. Okay. Are you serious? Cheese-scented laser beams? Have you ever seen one? I’ve got a friend who works in the silos in Idaho, and his brother’s the governor and says that they’re putting mind-altering drugs in the water. No, listen, listen. I’m sure that if they were putting mind-altering drugs in our water it would show up in the wastewater studies. Like, I know someone who works with the DWR. Look, I – you have been a little bit brainwashed. Come here, come here. Give me a hug. Only with anxiety, it sounds a little bit more like: Oh, hey, hey. How’s it going? Oh, hi, anxiety. Didn’t expect to see you here. Well, I guess I shouldn’t be that surprised. Hey, um, did you know everyone’s looking at you? They’re all looking at you. They’re they’re all wondering why you’re here. Like, where did you hear that? Like – Yeah, I mean, I I heard, I heard Megan and Bob talking about you over there. They’re they’re probably just looking at me because I dyed my hair, and it looks great. Oh, I’m glad you like your hair. I mean, uh, yeah, I mean I guess it’s – I better not say what other people might be thinking. Okay, they probably think it sucks. Sarah invited me here. Why why would she invite me if she didn’t want me to be here? Maybe she was just trying to be nice.
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Like, she didn’t actually want you to come. Yeah, well, maybe everyone’s staring at me because I’m arguing with myself. Now, maybe your uncle – or in this case, your anxiety – makes you so uncomfortable that you just stop going places. You stop going to parties, you stop seeing the people you love because you just don’t want to be around him (your uncle) or it (the anxious voice in your head). Maybe you’ve created a life where you avoid anxiety, but you’ve had to cut out a bunch of things because of that. Now, in this course I’m not gonna promise you that your anxiety will go away or that you’ll magically never feel fear or worry again, but in 30 days you can learn to transform your relationship with anxiety. Now, anxiety itself is not a disorder. It’s what we do with anxiety that determines the quality of our life. When we believe the lies that anxiety tells us, when we let it make choices for us, when we let fear run the show, an anxiety disorder can make us miserable. And when we struggle against it, when we try to like force the anxiety to go away, it often gets louder. So like a relationship with that overbearing family member, I’m going to teach you the skills to set boundaries on your anxiety – like texting before dropping by. Oh, wait, that’s for family. You’ll learn things like knowing what to say to anxiety, how to spend less time with it, and how to not let it bother you so much. And as you build this healthy relationship with anxiety, you might even find that occasionally it has something good to say. Not often, but occasionally it helps you just a little because anxiety serves a function. And learning how to relate to anxiety can give you back your life. In this course you’ll learn how to transform your relationship with anxiety. You’ll learn how to drop the struggle with anxiety and set boundaries on your worries so that you can decrease your worry by 75% or more. You’ll learn how to stop overthinking and get back to enjoying yourself. You’ll learn how to handle that inner critic so that you can maintain your sense of self and you can let go of doubt and work through fears. So just like with that difficult family member, you can learn the skills to show your anxiety compassion, to listen to what it has to say but not believe everything it says, and to live your own life the way you choose – a life that you value that is rich and meaningful. [Music] Oh, hey, hey, you’re probably ruining your children.
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Oh, oh, hi there, worry. Um I don’t have time to talk about this with you right now, but I do have five minutes later. Uh let’s talk at five, okay? [Music] This just in. Breaking news. Um everything is awful, and it is going to be awful forever, and it’s probably actually going to get worse, regardless of all the advances in science, medicine, technology . . . Okay. Well, you can say what you want, but I don’t have to believe you. It’s just terrible. [Music] Oh my goodness, oh my goodness, darling, don’t jump off that diving board. You could fall. Basically, you’re gonna learn how to be the Mahatma Gandhi of worry management: peacefully holding your truth, standing up to lies and oppression, and gaining independence from the trap of anxiety. In this course you’ll learn 30 skills to have an entire toolbox of options for managing anxiety. And when you practice them, you can learn to take your life back. So here’s how the course works: I’ll be publishing all 31 main videos to YouTube, but you can watch the entire series with the extra skills, ad-free, with a workbook, with bonus resources and access to Q and A’s with me on my website. I’m publishing one video per week to YouTube, but I’ll publish the videos to the online course as soon as they’re ready. The first section is all about changing your mindset around anxiety, changing how you think about anxiety, learning how it works, what you’re doing that feeds it, and how to drop the struggle with anxiety. Section 2 teaches you about the thinking patterns that you’re doing that make anxiety stronger and louder and, of course, how to adjust how you think, to set boundaries on anxiety, and drastically decrease it. And then in Section 3 you’ll learn how your nervous system’s response creates this feedback loop that either calms anxiety or exacerbates it. You’ll learn how to lean into your sensations, to lean into the wisdom of your body, and turn on its natural ability to soothe itself. And then in the last segment of the course, you’ll learn how to take back the confident and meaningful life that you really care about. You’ll learn how to get back to doing the things that you care about and bring back the joy and purpose that you used to have in life. So this section is all about moving in your valued direction. Now, this course isn’t just academic; with each lesson there are actionable skills and practical exercises to retrain your nervous system to be more resilient and centered. It’s like lifting weights for your calmness muscle. And like I said before, the course comes with a workbook, bonus lessons, Q and A’s, and lots of body-calming skills and resources to help you feel confident to know what to do when anxiety does pop up and how to set boundaries on it so that it doesn’t impact your life anymore. Everyone feels some anxiety, but you don’t have to let it run the show.
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You can really learn the skills to change anxiety. So here’s your first somatic skill: let’s start by having you curl up. Put your head down, shrink yourself down into like a hunchy little ball like this. Okay. And then say, “I can do this. Okay. I can do this. I can do this.” Notice how that feels. Your body is sending the message to your brain that you’re actually not capable. Now, put your shoulders back, chest out, chin up, and just say, “I can learn new skills. I can learn new things.” Your body is sending you the message that you are competent, you’re capable to learn the skills to manage and work with your anxiety. Now, I know you can do this. Let’s go. [Music]