This Happens in the Unseen World When We Fast and Pray

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What happens in the unseen world When you fast and when you pray It’s the story of Moses and the Amalekites
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Moses and the children of Israel fighting the Amalekites and God told him to go up on the mountain and lift his hands Toward heaven
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He said in Exodus 17 and verse 8 verse 11 lift your hands Moses God commanded him to and as long as he had his hands and a physical Posture raised toward heaven and obedience to what God told him to do
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with a physical command and place a posture the way what he did with his body as long as as
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He had physical obedience. He was winning the battle in the unseen world because of his physical obedience
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This story ‘m is important because it reinforces the fact that physical obedience listen bring spiritual release You can say well if god’s gonna win the battle he’ll just win the battle
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But in this story god said what you do with your physical body Moses? Determines whether or not this particular battle is going to be one because
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physical obedience brings spiritual release that’s why this story is so important that somehow there is a connection between what we do physically and What happens spiritually what we do here with our physical bodies?
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Makes a difference of what happens in the unseen world Angels were released into that battle when he raised his hands physically if his hands started coming down Because God told him to do it and if his hands started coming down
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Then the angels with withdrawal and the enemy would begin to defeat Hebrews chapter one says that angels are sent out to render services on behalf of those who inherit salvation it says the angels of
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God are spirits that are set as as flames of fire It says that in that same chapter later in that same chapter there. He’ll make his ministers flames of fire. His he Mentions that there is breath there is wind this wind and fire
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that’s what angels are like and he said I’ll release those angels and they will be dispatched into the Situation so get it. Now. Here’s the point hands are raised and as long as Moses obeys what God tells him to do
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with a physical act The battle is won because of what he’s doing
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physically with his body If his hands go down then he begins to lose the battle You see the Bible said lift up your hands without wrath
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Or doubting the word wrath means don’t get mad about the instruction God’s giving you to do something physically Do it without wrath and then do it without doubting doubting means don’t question What good does it do?
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Don’t question when God tells you to do something Physically, he said lift your hands don’t stand there arguing with God saying I don’t have to do that No, the truth is
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physical obedience brings spiritual release every time In the modern church, we have reduced everything down to feelings and intellect and not to any physical actions I
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Feel like I’m humble, so I never have to get on my knees and bow before the Lord. I Feel like I love the Lord and I worship him on the inside and I don’t have to clap my hands I don’t have to raise my hands. I don’t have to stand to my feet and worship God
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Physically with my body God knows my heart. I Feel faith so I don’t have to risk anything I have faith in my heart Everything gets reduced down in the modern day Church to internal stuff and there is no outward manifestation
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But if you tell your wife or your husband, I love you on the inside, but you never show it on the outside they’re gonna question you and God says sometimes I demand of my people a physical act of obedience
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before I release spiritual reward and Fasting is one of those acts of obedience
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there are times when God requires of all of us a physical action a physical action why because there’s a connection between
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The physical action here and the spiritual power that is released there Moses with his hands up as long as his hands are up Israel wins
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physical obedience releases spiritual power favor help
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protection healing miracles blessing and When you begin to fast and pray you release God’s supernatural Power and forces of heaven. I’m going to show you this right out of the Bible, you know
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I hear this little saying higher levels higher devils, and that’s a good saying and I get it you know that the higher you go up in God the more the devil fights you but it’s almost that’s statement almost glorifies the devil to me higher
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Levels higher – it’s almost says I don’t want to I don’t want to I don’t want to go too high cause then the devil And know who I am and really attack me. He already knows who you are and Who is protected more on a battlefield a
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private a new enlisted soldier or a Five-star general who has more soldiers around him protecting him the private or the general the truth is listen to this
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higher level Higher angelic protection higher angelic
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Participation in the assignment. God has given you the greater. God trusts you with greater assignments the greater He’s like Elijah when he when his servant went out said oh my god, the Assyrians are surrounding us What are we gonna do prophet?
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He said just relax Lord opened his eyes and he looked out and when he looked again He saw chariots of horses and fire Surrounding them because the higher the call on your life and assignment the higher the divine protection
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of God around you and Your family don’t be afraid to dream big to ask big to believe could be I’m not gonna back down Cuz I’m scared the devil will fight me more if we keep doing more
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We’ve just begun and we’re going to higher levels and we’re gonna have more angelic protection clap your hands and praise God if you believe Chapter 10, I’ll begin reading with verse 2 in those days. I
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Daniel was mourning three full weeks. I Ain’t no Pleasant bread no meat no wine Came in my mouth
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Nor did I anoint myself at all till three whole weeks were fulfilled verse 10 Suddenly while I was fasting while I was eating vegetables
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While I was seeking God while I was praying I made a vow I told God if you read Daniel chapter one, he goes into detail of what he ate He said I ate vegetables and water and I abstained from pleasant food
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He said while I was in this three-week time an angel came verse 10 suddenly a hand touched me that made me tremble on my knees and on the palm of my hands and he
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Said Oh Daniel man greatly beloved Understand the words I speak to you. This is an angel talking to him and notice
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He said I come and this is how God feels about you Daniel greatly beloved Understand the words I speak to you stand upright for I have been sent to you
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while he was speaking the word to me I Started to trim it Verse three. He said I ate no Pleasant bread
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Listen carefully the word pleasant there is desirable. I ate no Pleasant or desirable bread
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What’s interesting is when when Daniel 11 said our Daniel 10 and verse 11 says old Daniel man greatly beloved the word greatly beloved is the same word described
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desirable old Daniel Greatly desired. I ate no desirable bread
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God’s response was Oh Daniel You are greatly desired by me I Ate no desirable food. I became a man greatly desired by God during this 21 days
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There’s a difference folks between God’s love and God’s favor God’s love is 100% full-on seven days a week It 24 hours a day. There’s nothing you can do that can make him love you more
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There’s nothing you can do that can make him love you less. You don’t earn it. You can never deserve it His love is full. His love is free and God loves you There is a difference between God’s love and God’s favor
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Favor is different because it is initially given to us as a gift and It’s increase in our life is dependent upon our stewardship of what we do to gain God’s favor
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The love of God is it is absolutely full and free It’s perfect love and it’s full and it’s yours, but the favor of God does not come In its fullness on your life
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Until you do certain things that gets God’s attention You can’t by God’s favor, but you do not get more of God’s favor without sacrifice
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The increase of favor comes from obedience and sacrifice Daniels story is a story of favor It’s a picture of unusual increase of favor
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God says when you win my favor when you do things there’s something about you doing a physical act of obedience that brings spiritual release a favour and blessing Look out
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Miracles will come favor will come Blessing will come God will raise you up It’s less of you and more of him and you know when you get there to God be the glory
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he said Daniel man greatly beloved understands the words that I speak to you stand upright For I’ve been sent to you. Do not fear Daniel. Listen
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from the first day you set your heart to understand and Humble yourself before God your words were heard. I Have come because of your words
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Listen now the Angels talking but the prince of the kingdom of Persia withstood me twenty-one days There was a principality over Persia witches Iran, and this strong demon power Withstood me the angel said for 21 days
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But because you kept fasting and praying Michael one of the chief Prince’s Michael came to help me There are three major angels Gabriel Michael and Lucifer Lucifer failed Gabriel brings messages
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but Michael is the warring angel and he was sent as reinforcements to break through the enemy’s resistance Now let me explain something to you
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There is no battle between God and Satan God God’s not warring with the devil God said if I by the finger of God cast Satan out, all God’s got to do is flip his finger He gave the devil the finger and and cast him out of heaven
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There’s not like this speak about there is no war between God and Satan but listen, everything was created for purpose there is a war between the Angelic forces and demonic forces and you and I get to vote who wins
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That’s what this story teaches that there are angels and demons that are battling and Angels have the answer to prayer and they’re battling and you and I what we do
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physically can release spiritual power to those angels We vote in the Battle of the heavenlies
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Let me close with this thought in that story In mark chapter 17 when the disciples said why could we not cast this devil out? Jesus gave two reasons
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he said you have unbelief and You are a perverse generation In other words, he was saying to his own disciples because that’s who asked him
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number one if you have unbelief you have you have disconnected from God you Have disconnected from the word You have disconnected from praise and worship you have disconnected from church you have disconnected from my presence you have
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disconnected from hunger in for me and When you disconnect from God unbelief begins to take over your not faith filled Unbelief begins to take over your life fear anxiety
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hopelessness despair And he said first of all your unbelief you’re disconnected from God and watch this and your perverse comes from the word pervert In other words, he’s saying you you’re not connected to God and on top of that you’re too connected to the world
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But let me tell you how you fix that this kind comes by fasting and prayer What is prayer prayer is connecting to God? Connecting back to God fasting is disconnecting from the world
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Disconnecting from the lust of the flesh the lust of the eyes the pride of life. I don’t care who you are Constantly. I am your pastor. I am your preacher I do this full-time and I constantly have to go back and align myself and say God help me
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Because I’m disconnecting from you and I’m connecting to the world and that’s why I love This season when we get real when we get honest when we get to this place where we feel like we’re disconnected from God We’re too connected to the world in comes fasting and it disconnects us from the world and in comes prayer it
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reconnects us to God and suddenly We have Dominion and power over the enemy and a fresh anointing and we obtain the favor of God again on our lives
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Somebody give him a great shout of praise Don’t you want that? Say this if I give up desirable food
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I’ll become very desirable to God the next 21 days That’s not a boastful statement that’s not an arrogant statement but the fact that God can say over me all he did was
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gave up meat and bread and sugar and Ate vegetables and God said Oh Daniel
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You are greatly desirable, too Because you’ve doing something physical that brings
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5-Minute Breathing Exercise / Meditation for Improving HRV | Rick Rubin & Dr. Andrew Huberman

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When we were out in the lobby you mentioned that you have a breathing exercise, a coherence breathing exercise, that you thought might be useful for us to do now and perhaps for some of the listeners to join in. Yeah, let’s do it.
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And then if you want to talk about it after, we can. Sounds good.
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The reason I started doing this is I have relatively low heart rate variability and you want to have a higher one. So I looked at all the things that can raise your heart rate variability, and I started doing this breathing technique specifically for heart rate variability, and it went up. Awesome. So it’s… Great. tested.
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Great. Let’s do it together.
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Here, I’ll play it.
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It’ll say, “Take a deep breath,” and then you’ll hear the sound of a, if you follow me for the first inhale and exhale, you’ll know what sound means what.
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And you do this eyes closed, typically? I do it eyes closed.
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Okay, we’ll close our eyes.
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[chime rings] [guide inhales] [Rick inhales] [guide exhales] [men exhale] [slow breathing] [chimes ring] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] [slow breathing continues] [chimes ringing continues] That was five minutes. I like that.
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Feels nice, doesn’t it? Yeah.
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I noticed I don’t spontaneously breathe at that cadence. I breathe quite a bit faster.
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Mhm. So especially on the exhale. Mhm.
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So once I got into a rhythm of it, yeah, the mind just goes pseudo random for me. What about for you? Does your mind tend to go one place? I do, now I count. So the reason I knew it was five minutes is because it’s six breaths per minute, and I counted 5, 1, 1, 1, 2, 1, 3, 1, 4, 1, 5, 1, 6, 2, 1. So I was occupied with a task. How often do you do that? At least once and sometimes twice a day. I aim for 10 minutes a day, but if I get to 20 minutes a day, it’s noticeable in my heart rate variability results. Do you do the coherence breathing at a particular times of day, or just whenever it occurs to you? I think it depends on where I am and what else is going on in my life.
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So it, there was, I had a window of a very specific thing that I was doing. I would do coherent breathing and I would do squats, just air squats.
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And in one location where I didn’t have any other equipment. And then I found a way, like, where I was doing treading water, which you got to experience with me. I would tread water, and then after treading water I would get out of the pool, sit in the sun and do the coherent breathing.
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How Your Gut Bacteria Controls Your Mood

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95% of Serotonin is produced and stored in the gut  not the brain. Research has uncovered a connection   between your gut bacteria and depression. In  your lower intestine and colon there is a   garden of microscopic bacteria, fungi and viruses,  this collection of organisms is called the gut   microbiome. Now individually they are minuscule  but collectively they weigh about the same as   your brain, and when fed the right food they  become an incredible pharmacy, they produce   vital chemicals that are key to your immune  system and they produce neurotransmitters   such as Gaba and serotonin. Gaba has a calming  effect on the body and mind and serotonin plays   a crucial role in regulating mood, sleep, appetite  and pain sensitivity. Let’s look at Emily, she has   always been known for her cheerful and outgoing  nature but after a long course of antibiotics   she found herself plagued by persistent feeling  of sadness, Emily was eventually diagnosed with   depression. Now what is really interesting here  is that she had a happy childhood, no traumas, a   good relationship and supportive friends, so the  depression made no sense to her, but one day she   stumbled upon a fascinating article about the  connection between the gut and mental health.   She learned that antibiotics actually kill off the  good gut bacteria and this can cause depression.   So doing some further research Emily decided  to take charge of her gut health and started   to incorporate probiotic rich foods such as live  natural yogurt, sauerkraut and kimchi into her diet.   These foods contain live bacteria that helped  populate her gut with beneficial microbes and   to further support her gut health she minimized  processed foods and refined sugars which are   known to kill off the good bacteria. So as time  passed Emily noticed little changes she began to   experience improved digestion, increased energy  levels and a more stable mood. Her depression   started to lift and she felt more resilient  and better equipped to handle life’s challenges.   Now as a psychotherapist I’m more than aware  that treating depression isn’t always as simple   as changing your diet, depression is a complex and  chronic mood disorder that’s influenced by many   factors including genetics, environment and your  history but what I’m trying to illustrate is that   a vast amount of research has shown a definite  link between your gut microbiome and your mental   health. For example scientists transplanted poo  from depressed mice into sterile mice, now the   sterile mice had no gut microbes but once the poo  transplant had taken place the previously sterile   mice demonstrated behavioural and physiological  features characteristic of depression.   Researchers are now experimenting with faecal  microbiota transplants in humans and this has   shown improvements in bipolar disorder, depression,  insulin sensitivity, Crohn’s disease as well as   reductions in anxiety and ADHD symptoms. So you  can see that researchers are moving towards the   development of microbiota based interventions  in the treatment of depression. For example   there are now a lot of studies that illustrate how  probiotics reduce depression and anxiety symptoms,   now researchers are calling these probiotic  psychobiotics and the main constituent of   these psychobiotics is the bifidobacterium and  lactobacillus families. Fermented food containing lactic   acid such as cultured milk and yogurt products,  sauerkraut and sourdough bread have been   found to increase levels of the bifidobacteria  and lactobacillus families. I think it’s really   empowering that you can increase serotonin by  the food you eat and this really conflicts with   the notion that you need antidepressants  because you have a chemical imbalance in   your brain, remember 95% of serotonin is actually  produced and stored in the gut not the brain.   The Council for Evidence-Based Psychiatry says, “Although scientists have been testing the chemical   imbalance theories validity for over 40 years, and  despite literally thousands of studies, there is   still not one piece of direct evidence proving  the theory correct”. The chemical imbalance theory   originally came from pharmaceutical companies  as a way of marketing their antidepressants   and if you think about it there is not, and never  has been, a test to measure your brain chemicals.   You cannot measure neurotransmitters  from a blood test, MRI scan or a CT scan.   I’m not saying don’t use antidepressants but I  do believe that rather than relying so heavily   on antidepressants we do need to address the root  cause of depression from a psychological therapy   and increase the growth and diversity of your gut  microbiota. So you’ve gut talks to your brain and   your brain talks to your gut, the communication is  bi-directional. Your gut and brain send messages   via your vagus nerve, so the vagus nerve connects the  gut and brain through what is called the gut brain   axis, all of which play a vital role in sleep, pain,  mood, hunger and stress. It communicates information   from the gut to your brain using neurotransmitters  such as serotonin and glutamate and gut hormones.  Suddenly the idea of having a gut instinct  makes sense, so if you ever notice how language   is rich we’ve gut based expressions? Have you ever  had a gut-wrenching experience or butterflies   in your stomach? Your emotions, brain and gut  are intricately connected, in fact your gut is   frequently called your second brain, it even has  its own nervous system, the enteric nervous system.   The enteric nervous system is embedded in the lining  of your gastrointestinal tract beginning in your   oesophagus and extending down to your anus,  it consists of more than 500 million neurons.  So scientists are now recognising the  importance of a healthy and diverse   gut microbiome in the role of good mental health.
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So are you going to make some changes to your diet to improve  the growth and diversity of your   microbiome? Let me know in the comments  and if you’ve enjoyed this video you may   be interested in the video on the screen  now and I look forward to seeing you soon.
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Stuck In Freeze: Trauma And Your Nervous System

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It’s not the event that causes trauma it’s your  physiological reaction. For example David and   John witnessed a violent pub fight in which two  people died, David froze in absolute terror, he felt   disconnected from his body, he couldn’t move and  he couldn’t respond. He was actually immobilized   for more than three hours and he was eventually  taken home by a kindly police officer. Once at home   he sat alone staring at the wall until the early  hours of the morning. Now John also witnessed the   violent attack but his nervous system reacted  in a very different way, he felt a sudden surge   of adrenaline and his muscles tensed primed for  action. He ran to the back of the pub and managed   to escape via the fire exit, when at home he spent  the evening talking to his wife about the event.   David and John witnessed exactly the same  event but their nervous systems reacted very   differently, David developed PTSD and John didn’t.  But why? There are constant movements within your   inner landscape, salivation, breathing, heart  rate, muscle tension, perspiration and so forth. Now they are a product of the harmony between the  two branches of your autonomic nervous system the  sympathetic which acts as a body’s accelerator  and the parasympathetic which is your body’s brake.   The sympathetic branch of your nervous  system is responsible for the fight or   flight response, it’s like the accelerator of  a car. So when John ran out of the pub it was   his fight or flight response that had primed  him for action. His amygdala, his brain’s alarm   bell, sent a distress signal to his hypothalamus  which activated his sympathetic nervous system.   His adrenal glands responded by pumping  adrenaline into his bloodstream which   caused his heart to beat faster pushing  blood to his muscles and other vital organs.   The parasympathetic branch of the autonomic  nervous system is responsible for rest and   digest, and social engagement, think of it like  the brake pedal of a car. It puts a brake on   arousal by slowing down your heart rate, relaxing  muscles and returning your breathing to normal.   There’s actually a very simple way you can  experience these two systems for yourself,  if you take a deep breath in you activate the  sympathetic nervous system, when you exhale you   activate your parasympathetic nervous system. Now  John’s sympathetic nervous system enabled him to   get away from the dangerous situation but it was  the kind face, soothing tones and physical contact   from his wife that brought him to a sense  of calm and safety. John received the message   ‘you’re safe with me’ which reset his physiology  by activating his parasympathetic nervous system.   Basically John’s a parasympathetic system opened  and then stayed open because he felt safe in his   wife’s presence, so the social engagement with  his wife helped John’s nervous system reset   after the trauma. Now David responded in a very  different way, he froze, his nervous system shut   down and expended as little energy as possible.  This is called the freeze response and it’s the   ultimate emergency system. Now during the freeze  response the parasympathetic system comes in so   strongly that it overwhelms a sympathetic arousal  and sends a person into a state of freeze. This   can be a full collapse, dissociation or partial  freeze such as an inability to think clearly.   The freeze response may be momentary such as a  deer in the headlights but in humans the freeze   response can continue indefinitely. Peter Levine  trauma expert and the creator of somatic experiencing   maintains that when in the freeze state your energy  is tightly activated and doesn’t discharge so   your nervous system concludes that you’re still  in danger and the symptoms of trauma are born.   Unfortunately unless you release the trauma from  your body and nervous system you remain stuck in   a traumatised state now. Peter Levine often uses  a prop to demonstrate what’s going on in the body   during trauma, this prop is a slinky, I have one  with me today. So the slinky represents your energy   and arousal level, if you’re walking around day to  day this would demonstrate your energy and arousal   level. If you’re running it’s more like this and if  you’re in fight or flight mode then your energy is   really aroused but when you’re overwhelmed your  energy can become locked down in your nervous   system and we have the freeze response. Now when  this energy doesn’t get released it leads to a   whole host of trauma symptoms such as flashbacks,  nightmares, feelings of being unsafe, pain and PTSD.   So by using this slinky we can see that  John mobilised his energy by running away   and this was then soothed by talking to  his wife, the social engagement system.   But David’s energy was locked down, stuck  and frozen in time hence his PTSD diagnosis.   According to Levine David experienced PTSD  due to an incomplete biological process that   got locked in his body and nervous system so  when completing trauma work with David we need   to discharge this energy gradually by the process  of titration. So the key is to get a little bit of   discharge at a time so a little bit of energy  is released and again and again and so forth.   So little by little his nervous system resets.  How do you release trauma from the body?   Levine suggests the bottom-up approach to trauma  work which refers to the type of therapy which   starts its work at the base of the brain the  limbic system this is the part of the brain   that’s responsible for the fight flight or freeze  response. So the therapist would first facilitate   a sense of safety and then use body-based  interventions with the aim of releasing   trauma’s impact on the body. Now to activate  this bottom up process you can use a range   of activities such as exercise, rhythmic movement,  diaphragmatic breathing, yoga, EMDR and much more.   Bottom-up approach is focus on body sensations,  movement impulses and emotions, basically these   interventions allow you to release the traumatic  event from your body and nervous system so you can   then relearn how to inhabit your body. By contrast  the most prevalent approaches to psychotherapy   today are top down approaches such as CBT, a  top-down approach involves a therapist working   directly with the thinking part of the brain, the  prefrontal cortex, the aim of a top-down approach   is to change thinking so interventions such as  challenging thoughts, socratic questioning and   thought records are all top-down interventions. But  when someone is stuck in the freeze response they   can’t process verbal communication well that’s  because they’re prefrontal cortex, the logical,  analytical, thinking part of the brain, is offline.  Bessel Van Der Kolk the author of The Body Keeps   The Score, says: “You cannot do Psychotherapy or  psycho-education when people are frozen because   when you’re frozen nothing can come into your  brain until the frozenness is stopped”. This is   why when helping someone come out of the freeze  response relying on words alone often fall short. You better off treating freeze  with somatic or bottom-up approaches.
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Now I’ve already given examples of bottom-up  approaches such as diaphragmatic breathing and   yoga but equally important is the activation  of the social engagement system. According to   Polyvagal Theory we all communicate with each  other via our social engagement system, facial   expression, tone of voice and body language, so by  communicating cues of safety we can enable someone   to stabilise in our presence and eventually thaw.  Remember talking to his wife was one of the key   things that helped John move out of the fight or  flight response. Sadly David had nobody to talk   to which only served to embed the freeze response.  Now to find out how the social engagement system   can help regulate your nervous system and  move you out of the freeze response please   view my video on polyvagal Theory which is on the  screen now and I look forward to seeing you soon.
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The Hidden Weapon Against Depression: Behavioral Activation Explained

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SApOxZ7BMwE
Depression is a complex mental health condition that can affect multiple aspects of your life, including your thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and physical wellbeing. When you’re depressed, you tend to disengage from your usual routines and withdraw from your environment.
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When you do this, you don’t get the psychological reward from pleasurable activities, and this creates a feedback loop that perpetuates more depression.
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A very effective intervention that is often underutilized is behavioral activation. That’s what I’m talking about today.
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I’m Dr. Tracey Marks, a psychiatrist, and I make mental health education videos. First, let me explain a little more about the cycle of depression and how it leads to the inactivity that makes your depression worse.
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A single depressive episode can be triggered by many different factors: loss, trauma, prolonged stress, or a genetic predisposition and no identifiable trigger. Once depression sets in, you can experience persistent negative thoughts, like, “I’m worthless,” “No one cares about me,” and feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a lack of pleasure in things that you previously enjoyed.
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Also, another thing that can happen when you get depressed is even the smallest things feel really hard and you have no motivation to exert the energy that you don’t have to do these hard things.
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Then because of these negative thoughts and feelings, you withdraw from social situations, avoid responsibilities, and neglect hobbies and interests. This leads to less involvement in activities that once brought joy or a sense of accomplishment. As things progress, you become more and more inactive mentally and physically. You may sleep more or stay in bed more even if you’re not asleep. You can feel sluggish all the time and even feel mentally foggy and slowed.
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Feeling like this makes you continue to not do very much because you don’t feel well, and then the loop just keeps circling on itself and you feel more and more lonely and hopeless.
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You may even blame yourself for being inadequate. Research shows that participating in constructive activities, even in minor amounts, can have a positive reinforcement effect. And we’re not talking about exercise here, although exercise also improves depression because it increases brain derived neurotropic factor, called BDNF.
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BDNF is a brain chemical that promotes nerve growth. I talk more about the science of how exercise impacts your mood and rewires your brain in another video that you can watch after this one. The activities of behavioral activation can be anything that you normally do that you’re now not doing much of.
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You’re reengaging with these activities, even if you don’t feel like it, and over time, repeated exposure to these activities produces a sense of accomplishment and productivity that is positively reinforcing and offsets the negative thoughts you have about yourself and the world when you’re depressed. Behavioral activation is a form of cognitive behavioral therapy and it is purely behavioral.
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You’re looking into modify what you’re doing instead of what you’re thinking, but what you do affects how you think about yourself and your environment, so we’re indirectly addressing your negative thoughts by changing your behavior. How do you do it? The first thing you want to do is monitor your activity. It’s easy when you’re depressed to slip into this low activity state and not be aware of just how much you’re no longer doing. You may know that you’re not doing a lot, but you’ve lost perspective and can’t appreciate the change as much. Keep track of your activities for a week.
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Break down each day into morning, afternoon, and evening. For each segment of the day, write down what you did and how you felt about it on a scale from 1 to 10 with 10 being awesome and 1 being awful. You don’t have to write down every single thing, like “I brushed my teeth and used the bathroom.” In fact, you can probably eliminate going to the bathroom from the list because that’s not really an activity.
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That’s a body function that’s going to happen whether you’re lying in bed or not.
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The activities on this tracker are intentional things that you do that you don’t have to do to live. To help you identify these things, you can answer the W questions. What were you doing? Who were you with? Where were you? You want to make sure you write down things soon after you do them.
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It’s much harder to remember things hours later.
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I have a handy activity tracker that you can use for this, or you can keep track on your phone.
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But you want to keep the tracker or your phone nearby so you can immediately write down what you did. You’re only tracking for a week, and you want to record activities even if they seem trivial like doing laundry. After you’ve monitored your activities for the week, next thing you want to do is review your activities and how you felt with each of these activities. What were you doing when you felt your best? What were you doing when your mood was the lowest? Also, think about these questions.
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What activities made you feel the most connected to people? What activities made you feel the most accomplished? Can you see a relationship between your mood and activity level? In general, we get more satisfaction out of life when we are doing things that align with our core values, or doing things that are important to us.
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When we get depressed, we tend to lose sight of our values and things that are meaningful, so step three would be to reflect on your core values. There are different ways to think about your values. You can find articles online about common values that people have.
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You can also use this values assessment that is part of this Life in Action workbook that I created. Look at the chart and circle the values that most resonate with you. The next step is to plan your activities. You’re going to create a list of activities from a few sources: your activity monitoring sheet, your values assessment, and you’ll need to include essential activities of daily living like preparing meals, laundry, paying bills. I mentioned earlier you don’t have to list every single thing like brushing your teeth.
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You could group all of your grooming as just a grooming activity because you don’t want the list to be too long you can’t fit it in the space.
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Then you can also use the activity menu that’s included in the workbook to help brainstorm some other activities.
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The last step is to schedule and plan the activities. You can use the same activity tracker that you used from the activity monitoring in the first step.
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You are going to need to be patient with this process. Getting active won’t make you feel better immediately. It takes time.
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But the more you do it, the easier it gets. You become more motivated and more energized and feel better about yourself. If you really struggle to do this, you can ask a friend or a family member to help you brainstorm some activity ideas, help you realize your values, or hold you accountable for sticking to the things that you scheduled.
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Connecting with people you care about in and of itself is extremely valuable and can be one of your activities. If you don’t have much support, a therapist can also help you create a behavioral activation plan. To get started with this, you can download the activity tracker free from my new Mental Wellness Store.
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Or if you’re on my email list, it was sent to you, and you can get the Complete Life Action Workbook from the Mental Wellness Space Store.
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It includes the activity tracker, values assessment, activity menu, and activity planner. If you are part of my Mental Wellness Space community, the workbook is included in your membership. Watch this video for more on how exercise helps rewire your brain. Thanks for watching. See you next time.
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Vagus Nerve Stimulation – 3 Tricks to Stop Anxiety Fast

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Do you get stressed out and anxious? Do you find  yourself just overthinking things that are totally   out of your control? You know when I was growing  up, I had this dog named Zack and he was just as   anxious as me. He’d get all worked up and  shake and tremble. But with my dog I could   just scratch on his belly and every single  time within about a minute he would completely   calm down. And I thought wouldn’t it be great if  me and you, what if we had a technique like my   dog where we could just scratch our belly when  we’re feeling overwhelmed and stressed out and   calm ourselves down? Well, I later in life  learned there is a technique and it’s called   vagal nerve stimulation and I’ll show you how to  do it. Hey, my name is Lucas. I’m a yoga teacher   and in this short video I’ll show you some  ancient yoga techniques for stimulating your   vagus nerve to calm down, to de-stress, and  to find more peace and balance in your life.   Just a quick disclaimer: if you’re suffering from  generalized anxiety disorder, clinical depression,   any serious mental illness, please check with  your doctor. I’m a yoga teacher, I’ll just be   sharing with you things that I’ve picked up  over two decades of teaching and practicing   yoga. Let’s talk about the vagus nerve. What is  it? Well, your vagus nerve is your tenth cranial   nerve and the name vagus comes from the Latin “to  wander” like a vagabond. Your vagus nerve wanders   throughout your thoracic cavity and your nervous  system, of course. This is your body’s electrical   signals. And the vagus nerve innervates and  also gives signals to lots of the most important   functions of your body. Things like breathing,  and heart rate, and blood pressure, and orgasm, so   many different things. For the sake of this video  let’s think about the vagus nerve in relation to   your parasympathetic nervous system response.  In our body we have different nervous systems   but your autonomic nervous system this is, like  the name suggests, usually automatic. And there   are two main branches to your autonomic nervous  system. One is called your sympathetic nervous   system, that’s your fight or flight response.  This is for exercise, for busy work, through   physical exertion, through hunting. And then you  have your parasympathetic nervous system response,   and this is rest and digest, peace and love,  deep cognition, and those feelings of cool, calm,   and collectedness. The reason I’m sharing with  you this is because our vagus nerve is largely   responsible for our parasympathetic nervous system  response. Now our autonomic nervous system, in an   ideal world it’s automatic, and we have periods of  our day where we’re fight-or-flight, go, go, go,   clean the house, do the laundry, empty the inbox.  We have periods of our day when we’re resting and   digesting, and problem solving, and thinking, and  loving, and collected. In our modern life it’s not   really like that. In our modern life you open up  your phone and you’re bombarded by crisis news.   You go to work and you’re overwhelmed with more  work than a person could really handle in a week,   and many of us are managing family and work and  lifestyle stress that’s really through the roof,   not to mention things like air pollution, noise  pollution, processed food. It’s a lot to take in.   And so our autonomic nervous system it gets  dysregulated and many of us get stuck in a   fight-or-flight response. That’s where  at 11 o’clock at night you’re feeling   completely physically exhausted, but  you’re mentally wired. You’re wired,   but tired. I’m sure you know the feeling. Despite  all of your best efforts, you just can’t seem to   self-soothe, like my dog rubbing its belly. And  this is where your vagus nerve can be really,   really important. Now many of you know the feeling  of being wired but tired, but sometimes you’re not   really sure what’s going on. When we think about  your vagus nerve in relation to the self-soothing,   we often talk about vagal nerve tone. The  terminology can get a little bit confusing,   but if you think about this vagus nerve and you  think about its role in your rest and digest   response, when you have high vagal tone that  means your ability to self-soothe is really high.   That doesn’t mean you don’t get stressed out, that  doesn’t mean you don’t get anxious or worried,   you will, but it does mean that you’re able  to respond rather than react. That means   when somebody cuts you off in traffic, rather  than spinning out with anger for three hours,   within a couple of minutes you’re able to respond  and collect yourself. That doesn’t mean you never   get worried or anxious about the future, but it  does mean that you’re able to let it go at night,   put your head on the pillow and go to bed.  That would be indicative of high vagal tone.   Now the opposite is what a lot of us suffer from.  Low vagal tone. We’re not able to self-soothe.   What happens is somebody cuts you in line at the  grocery store and you’re angry and ruminating   about it for the rest of your day. What happens is  you get an angry email from a vendor at work and   again you just can’t let it go and it’s 11 o’clock  and you’re spinning, and spinning, and spinning.   This is low vagal tone. To check in with your  vagus nerve, to check in with your nervous system   in general, there’s a few techniques that can be  really helpful. The first one I’ll share with you   is called the nasal cycle test. Some of you have  done this with me before. It’s a very simple test,   doesn’t work for everyone, but it’s pretty  effective for most people. Take your index finger,   put it underneath your nose, and let’s  exhale three times through your nose.
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What we’re looking for is to identify which  nostril, right or left, is dominant. Which nostril   is the air flowing through more freely? Your right  nostril is indicative of a sympathetic nervous   system state. Your left nostril is indicative  of a parasympathetic state. Let’s check again.
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Right nostril, fight-or-flight. Left nostril, rest  and digest. Why is this relevant? Well it’s not   that fight-or-flight is bad and rest and digest  is good. There are times in our day when we’d   like to be stimulated with our sympathetic nervous  system, we need blood flow to our muscles and our   heart and our lungs, we need to get things done.  But there are other times when we need to be cool,   calm, and collected. So if it’s 11 o’clock  at night, like I mentioned before, and you’re   wired but tired, and you’re in your right nostril,  that’s indicative of low vagal tone. Let me give   you another test. Now this is a weird one. You  need your phone. So hold up your phone and put   on a selfie video. Stick out your tongue and  make a “ha” sound like this “haaaaa”. And now   take a look at the video. What you’re looking for  is in the back of your throat there’s this thing,   you’ve seen it before when you’re brushing your  teeth, it’s called your uvula. Your uvula is   this little piece of tissue that hangs down in  the back of your throat. And because your vagus   nerve innervates your soft palate, remember I told  you this nerve wanders all over the place, it also   wanders up into the back of your mouth, your soft  palate. When you have a vagal nerve dysregulation,   sometimes that uvula can actually be deviated, it  can be off to the side. This test is really easy   to do with a selfie video or just in the mirror in  the bathroom and it can give you an indication if   you’re in an imbalanced state. The third technique  is subjective but it works really well too. What   we’re looking to do is cultivate interoception,  understanding what’s going on inside your body,   not just what’s going on in the news, or in  your environment. And a simple way to do that   is to close your eyes and check in. How are you  feeling right now? Are you ruminating about things   that happened earlier today? Are you worried and  anxious about things in the future? Do you feel   like there’s a dark cloud of anxiety hovering  over your head? Or are you able to let things   go? This simple check-in, again, can be indicative  of high vagal tone if you can self-soothe,   or low vagal tone if you’re out of balance. OK,  now that we understand what the vagus nerve is,   its role in your parasympathetic nervous system,  now that we have a few techniques for checking in   with our nervous system and checking in with our  vagal tone status, let’s take a look at three,   simple, weird techniques for stimulating  your vagus nerve. Remember we’re   looking to do what I used to do with my  dog, scratch its belly to make it relax.   These techniques, there are lots of different  techniques for stimulating your vagus nerve,   these are weird ones you probably haven’t seen  them before, but they’re very, very effective and   they’re pretty well researched. The first one is a  yoga technique called Bhramari. It’s a humming bee   technique, where we make a low resonant humming  sound to oscillate and vibrate the back of our   throat. Your vagus nerve comes down either side  of your neck and it’s wrapped in a carotid sheath.   This is essentially like a plumbing tube that goes  down the side of your throat and inside that tube   you have your jugular vein, you have your carotid  artery, but you also have your vagus nerve.   And when we vibrate the back of your  throat it can massage that biggest nerve   and stimulate it, like the dog, and help  you to relax. Here’s what it looks like. Try to make a low, slow, resonant sound. It  looks kind of funny, sounds kind of funny. If   you’re embarrassed just go in the bathroom and  close the door. Let me show you one more time. I’d encourage you to do 10 rounds of Bhramari,   slow, low, oscillating exhales, that  will massage your vagus nerve. It also,   as an added bonus, it helps to release  nitric oxide in your perinasal sinuses,   which is a vasodilator and a bronchodilator.  Really helpful for your cardiovascular health,   but also helps to relax you as well. The next  practice is a pranayama practice, a yoga breathing   practice. Of all the different things you can  do to stimulate your vagus nerve, breathing   is probably the most effective and consistent.  This practice has a couple of important elements   and one of them is the chin lock. In yoga this is  called jalandhara bandha and it looks like this. We’ll use the chin lock at the top of the breath  to hold our breath, and when my chin is locked   in towards my chest it puts pressure on that  carotid sheath where my vagus nerve is and   again will help to massage the vagus nerve. The  second thing I’ll do is I’ll breathe very slowly   and deeply. In fact, I will exaggerate my  diaphragmatic breathing. Your vagus nerve   passes through the opening of the diaphragm, so  when you do exaggerated diaphragmatic breathing   it massages your vagus nerve. It  can help to relax you as well,   so we get kind of a double whammy effect.  It’s called triangle breathing because we   breathe in to the count of four one side of  the triangle, we’ll lock and hold for four,   we’ll release and exhale for four on the  way down. Let me show you how it works.   I’ll use a traditional pranayama mudra with my  right hand to control my nose and I’ll inhale. Close my nose, lock and hold. Lift my chin, exhale.
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I’ll show you one more time but without talking. So that’s triangle breathing. It’s four on  the way up, lock and hold, jalandhara bandha,   the chin lock for four, and then exhale for  four. I’d encourage you to do ten rounds   and see how you feel. It’s a very, very  effective practice. This last one is perhaps   the most unusual, the most strange. If you take  your index finger and your thumb and you make   kind of Pirates of the Caribbean earrings for  yourself by placing your index finger inside your   ears. And let’s massage by making small, gentle,  circular motions forward, one, two, three, four,   five. And now backwards, five, four, three, two,  one, very, very gentle. Let’s go forward, one,   two, three, four, five, and now backwards, five,  four, three, two, one. Remember I mentioned before   your vagus nerve is a vagabond, it goes all  throughout your thoracic cavity, it also goes   up into your neck, it also goes up near your  ears, your auricular branch, your ear branch   of the vagus nerve goes right up here. And so this  massage technique, it doesn’t work for everyone,   but for some people it works really well and the  reason I’m sharing it with you is because you   can do this one while you’re at work, you can do  this one while you’re driving, you can do this one   while you’re on a plane, and no one will even know  what’s happening. What we’re trying to do here,   what we’re focusing on, is stimulating your  vagus nerve to stimulate your parasympathetic   nervous system response to help you to manage  and mitigate the stresses of your life in a more   adaptive and a less reactive way. Great to have  you here. I hope you find that helpful. Here’s   what we covered. We talked about how our modern  lives just are a constant onslaught of stress,   mental, emotional, physical, all of the above.  We talked about how very often we get stuck   in our fight-or-flight response and we lack  the tools and the ability to automatically   self-soothe. So like my dog scratching its  belly we can use these techniques like Bhramari,   like triangle breathing, and like this ear  massage, to stimulate our vagus nerve. If you’re   interested in learning more about the vagus  nerve I’d really encourage you to check out   the work of Stephen Porges, also Deb Dana. Deb  Dana also teaches polyvagal theory. She’s been   a guest on the podcast, I’ll link up down in the  show notes. And lastly, Stanley Rosenberg’s work   on the vagus nerve is very, very helpful. I’ll  include references to all of these down below. If   you’d like more science-based yoga videos please  hit subscribe down below. Very helpful if you   hit that like button and if you have questions  I answer all the comments down below. You can   find my teaching schedule at yogabody.com and  I look forward to seeing you in the next video.
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How To Reset A Dysregulated Nervous System (in under 60 seconds!)

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Foreign [Music] okay so you may have heard this term disregulated nervous system but what does that actually mean and most importantly what can you do about it hey I’m Ben Ahrens co-founder
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of re-origin® where we teach you how to reclaim your health by retraining your brain and in this video I’m going to share with you a pretty quick technique that you can use to essentially reset a nervous system that’s been dysregulated and do it in under 60 Seconds so first what
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is the nervous system well we have a central nervous system which consists of the brain and spinal cord and then we have a peripheral nervous system which is all of the nerve endings that Branch out throughout the body that stem off of the spinal cord in this case we’re
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really talking about the central nervous system as that is the main resource allocator and sort of control center for all of these other various organ cells and systems in the body that need to be coordinated in certain ways in order for us to feel at ease healthy and
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what we basically know as homeostasis now you may have heard that the nervous system has these two main branches the sympathetic and the parasympathetic now the sympathetic branch of the nervous system you can think of as this part of you that’s fight or flight
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that gets you energized and basically shunts all of these bodily resources like blood and oxygen and nutrients to the extremities to your muscles and limbs to mobilize you for action you’ve I’m sure heard the classic analogy of being chased by a saber-toothed tiger if
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we were back in Paleolithic times the sympathetic nervous system would become activated to help you avoid the threat so obviously this is a good thing we want to have this if we’re crossing a street and a car whizzes by or something happens we need to escape the area
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we need this fight-or-flight mechanism intact to get us out of danger now the nervous system never just wants to bring you up and leave you there it always wants to give you a Fail-Safe or a mechanism for coming back down to Baseline to that homeostasis and that we call the parasympathetic
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nervous system and a good way to remember that is by the word power you can think of the word parachute it’s meant to slow you down return you back to the ground sometimes however if we’ve been dealing with ongoing stress or chronic illness or anxiety for a
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long period of time the brain can effectively effectively learn to over protect the body it can even become somewhat sensitized to regular stimuli and things in the environment and set off that it’s like setting off a car alarm when in fact there’s no burglar present
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when that’s the case we say that the nervous system may be dysregulated meaning it’s throwing out these survival outputs based on neutral or benign inputs and just to be very clear here the sympathetic nervous system or that state of fight or flight is not bad I know
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there’s a lot of conversation that we want to avoid fight or flight or get out of that state of course what we want is to avoid spending the majority of our time there we want to spend the majority of our time in that parasympathetic that calm rest and digest state where those
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bodily resources can be freed up and made available for long-term healing building digestion and procreation so the dysregulation or the problem comes in where somewhere down the line our brain and nervous system may have gotten the message wrong and is now continuing
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to keep us in that fight or flight State beyond the period where it’s really necessary and what that feels like can be like elevated heart rate nervous can feel like I’m tired and wired you can feel like there’s things going on in the back of my mind that I I need
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to attend to such that if I don’t attend to them everything might collapse right some of it can be that subtle feeling of like did I leave the coffee pot on all of these types of things may be indicative of a disregulated nervous system or what we also refer to as
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limbic system dysfunction now the good news is that the same way that your brain learns to over protect you it can also learn to come back to Baseline and I have a separate video on this if you want to search limbic system dysfunction with reorgan that video will pop
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right up and we’ll put a link in the description below but for now what do you do when you notice that your nervous system may be dysregulated well the number one thing is to know that the brain and nervous system likes order whenever we feel like we’ve been thrown for a loop
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or we’ve blown a fuse is how some people refer to it it can feel like being thrown into chaos our mind our thoughts are ping-ponging around and it’s hard to get a handle on ourselves so think of it like a car that’s kind of careening down the highway and instead of sitting in
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the driver’s seat we’re just sitting in the back seat going along for the ride and what we want to do of course is climb our way back into the driver’s seat get our hands on the wheel and essentially come back into that feeling of Safety and Security where we know
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we have control so there’s a few simple ways to do that and one of them is deep breathing specifically taking a breath with a double inhale at the top and a long exhale at the bottom I’ll give you an example and I’ll explain why this is so effective so it looks like
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this once more [Applause] so you see I inhale for a count of three or four and then at the very top
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I sniff in a little bit more air and then let it go so a couple of things are happening here one we’re actually getting a little bit more oxygen into the lungs which we know oxygenates the blood and the brain and can help us to focus so kind of like in martial arts when
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they do this type of breathing it puts a little bit of adrenaline into the bloodstream and can help sharpen our sense of focus so our focus goes from ping-ponging all over the place to more centered now the second reason is that the brain really likes Rhythm especially
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when it feels like it’s been thrown into chaos one of the things that can help us climb back is following a rhythm and for this reason putting on a song or something that has a strong beat or a steady Melody can be great but even creating that rhythm with your breath
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with your body can give your brain something regular to latch onto so it doesn’t feel so out of control or out of sync now another layer you can add to this is bilateral stimulation so this can be done by snapping fingers of your opposite hands so going back and forth
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and what we’re doing here is we’re now engaging the left and right Hemisphere and giving your brain something concrete to focus on again it’s rhythmic it’s easy it’s kind of enjoyable it’s interesting and lastly we can bring our hands to meet in the middle and we can put
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this whole sequence together so I’m going to share with you now the technique that I like to use to quickly in 60 seconds or less get myself out of that fight or flight feeling disregulated State and back into calm homeostasis I’m just going to demonstrate it then you
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can practice this on your own and share in the comments below if you found this effective for me it consists of the first part is taking that long inhale with the the double inhale and long slow exhale followed by a snap with the right hand a snap with a left hand and
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a clap in the middle it looks like this bear with me here foreign [Applause] [Applause] in if you like once more
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there you go so that’s something that I would do for about a minute as you can tell it incorporates all of those different aspects of breathing double inhalation long exhale bilateral stimulation and Rhythm putting it all together in a kind of neat little sequence give it a try let
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me know how it worked for you if you have any questions or comments drop them in the comment section below and I really look forward to hearing from you foreign [Music]
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How the body keeps the score on trauma | Bessel van der Kolk for Big Think+

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(text clicks) (pensive music) – Trauma is so ubiquitous that if you think you have never seen it, you have not looked.
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We meet people who fly off the handle. We meet people who shut down.
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We meet people who are very difficult. You know, it is a rare family that doesn’t have a drug addict, alcoholic, disturbed person.
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You know, one thing I like to say when I give a lecture, “Are there any normal people, who come from normal families, in the audience?” And sometimes one or two people raise their hands. I say, “Can I please come to your family for Thanksgiving? Because I’ve never been to a normal family.” My name is Bessel van der Kolk.
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I’m a psychiatrist, neuroscientist.
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I have been studying trauma for about 50 years now. I’ve treated a whole variety of different traumatized populations, see trauma in many different countries around the world, and I am the author of the book “The Body Keeps the Score.” (pensive music) It’s important for people to realize that not every mental health professional knows what we’re talking about here.
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The mainstream system of psychiatry-psychology is that there is something wrong with you and I need to fix you.
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That’s a very different attitude than dealing with trauma. Around the time that I first started to work for the VA, a group of us started to define what trauma is and started to define what happens to people. 1978 was the year, and the Vietnam War was over by about six or seven years. The very first day that I met Vietnam veterans, I was just blown away.
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They kept referring back to their dead comrades. Their hearts seemed to be with the people who were no longer around.
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They had a hard time loving their wives and girlfriends.
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They had a hard time being in any way meaningfully involved in the present.
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These were guys who were my age, who were smart and competent, but they clearly were just a shadow of their former self. And what was also really striking is they were sort of passive much of the time.
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And then people told them something that was disappointing, and they went from zero to 10 and blew up and became extremely angry. Something seemed to have happened to them that made it very hard for them to modulate their responses to their environment.
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My colleagues and I started to think about how is what these guys suffer from different from what other people who are in psychiatry textbooks suffer from? So I dug up a book that was written in 1941 by Abram Kardiner who had been working with World War soldiers.
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He wrote, “These guys suffer from a physioneurosis. Their bodies continue to re-experience that very terrible, frightening situation, and that event keeps coming back in terms of images, behaviors, and physical sensations.” So that became the core of our definition of PTSD. We write, “These people have been exposed to an extraordinary event that’s outside of normal human experience.” And in retrospect, that shows us how ignorant and narrow-minded we were because it turned out that this is not an unusual experience at all.
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Trauma is actually – unlike what we first thought – extremely common.
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One out of five women in America has a history of sexual molestation.
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Even a lot of men have histories of sexual molestation.
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One out of four kids get beaten very hard by their parents. One out of eight kids see physical fights between their parents.
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People usually think about the military when they talk about trauma, but when we started to work with inner city kids, the amount of trauma that these kids experienced was just unspeakable.
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The nature of trauma is that an experience enters into your ears, into your skin, into your eyes, and it goes down into a very primitive part of your brain that automatically interprets what’s going on. Is this dangerous or is this safe? An event becomes traumatic when there is nothing you can do to stave off the inevitable and your body starts automatically going to the state of fight/flight or collapse.
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The lingering effect of trauma is that you continue to react to mild stressors as if your life is in danger. And so you tend to become hyperreactive. Somebody may irritate you in the supermarket. You may develop road rage.
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You may have a difficult time putting up with misbehavior from your spouse or your kids.
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And most people actually are barely aware or not aware at all that their reactions that they’re having right now are actually rooted in experiences that they’ve had before.
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That event itself is over, but you continue to react to things as if you’re in danger. So the big challenge of treating trauma is how do we help people to live in bodies that feel fundamentally safe? The tradition in mental health is to dismiss the reality of people’s lives.
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For example, it’s only in the past few years that people are beginning to talk about the impact of poverty or the impact of racism or the impact of unemployment. And people have sort of been labeling people, “Oh, there something wrong with you. Let me fix you.” But if you go to a physician or a mental health practitioner who doesn’t understand that, they’re going to try to fix you with drugs or cognitive behavioral treatment to not do these crazy things anymore. It usually doesn’t work very well.
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What was very clear is that being in a relationship where people can hear you, where you can talk about how badly you feel, where you can talk about your guilt, and where you can start opening up where these feelings come from, how old these feelings are, and how you develop these feelings in response to particular things that happen to you, that was actually quite helpful because you need to really develop a deep sense of, “This is what happened to me.
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This is what I’m dealing with, and I need to take care of the wounds that I’m carrying inside of myself.” This issue of self-compassion and really knowing that your reactions are understandable and are rooted in you getting stuck in the past is a terribly important part of beginning to recover from trauma.
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Most of us are survivors of one thing or another, some much worse than others.
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And so if people say what do you wish your legacy were, I’d say, I want our society to know about trauma and to really do all the things that are necessary so that people who grow up under extreme adverse conditions can develop a brain and a mind that can help them to become full fledged members of society. That’s our big issue, and that’s the big challenge that we have.
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ATOMIC HABITS – Tiny Changes that Create Remarkable Results – James Clear

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gdkBt9it84
[Music] it’s not that luck and Randomness and uncertainty  don’t play a role in life they do you know luck   luck is a part of all of our Lives to a certain  degree both good fortune and bad but by definition  
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you don’t have control over luck and your habits  also matter and I think that the reason they’re   so worthwhile uh to focus on and understand is  that they are the portion of your life that you   can influence that also determines your outcomes  it’s not just luck it’s not just habits but one  
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of those you have control over and so it makes  sense the only reasonable strategy is to focus on   what you can control if you spend all of your time  focusing on things you can’t control then you’re   just going to end up frustrated and so I think  habits are maybe the best lever for that talent  
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and genes uh they play a role and it’s important  you know people have natural predispositions to   things that make them better but what you find  is that nearly always when someone is a great   performer in a particular domain they are both  Well Suited so naturally talented or have some  
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kind of predisposition to that area and well  trained and so even if you are talented you   can’t succeed without having great habits to  to execute and to fully realize the potential   that you have your outcomes in life are often  a lagging measure of your habits you know like  
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a lot of the time people talk about you know I  want to have more money or I want to lose weight   or I want some kind of result but the truth is  your bank account is a lagging measure of your   financial habits your weight is a lagging measure  of your eating habits your knowledge is a lagging  
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measure of your learning and reading habits and  so it’s actually we think the thing that needs   to change is the bank account or the test score  or the number on the scale but actually the thing   that needs to change are the habits that precede  those outcomes every action you take is kind of  
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like a vote for the type of person you want to  become and if you can Master the right actions   if you can Master the right habits then you  can start to cast votes for this new identity   this desired person that you want to be and I  think that’s one of the reasons why small habits  
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matter so much they don’t necessarily transform  your life overnight right right away like doing   one push-up does not transform your body but it  does cast a vote for being the type of person   who doesn’t miss workouts or meditating for one  minute might got not give you an immediate sense  
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of calm in your life but it does cast a vote for  being a meditator the real goal is not to run a   marathon the goal is to become a runner goal is  not to write a book the goal is to become a writer   because once you’ve adopted that identity you’re  really not even pursuing Behavior change anymore  
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you’re just kind of acting in alignment with  the type of person you already see yourself to   be it’s kind of like true Behavior changes really  identity change because once you’ve changed that   internal story it’s way easier to show up each  day you’re not even really motivating yourself  
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that much to do it you’re just like this is who  I am now there’s a sort of an a misalignment of   rewards that often happens with habits so there’s  an immediate outcome an immediate reward and then   an ultimate reward and for your bad habits one  reason bad habits stick so readily that they they  
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form so easily is because bad habits often the  immediate reward is favorable right like what’s   the immediate reward of eating a donut it’s kind  of great it’s sweet it’s sugary it tastes good   it’s only the ultimate reward if you repeat that  habit for six months or a year or two years that  
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is unfavorable meanwhile good habits are often the  exact opposite the immediate reward of going to   the gym or going to the gym for like a week isn’t  really that great your body’s probably sore you   don’t have much to show for it your body looks the  same your weight hasn’t really changed but it’s if  
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you stick to that for six months or a year or two  years then the ultimate reward is favorable and   so a lot of the balance or a lot of the challenge  of building good habits and Breaking Bad Ones is   figuring out how to pull the long-term costs of  your bad habit habits into the present moment so  
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you feel a little bit of that pain right now and  have a reason to avoid it and pull the long-term   rewards of your good habits into the present  moment so it feels good and you have a reason to   kind of make it through that like valley of death  in the beginning and stick with it while you’re  
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waiting for those delayed rewards to accumulate  I think we could just summarize that whole uh   cognitive bias or mismatch uh misalignment of  rewards by saying the cost of your good habits   is in the present and the cost of your bad habits  is in the future and the fact that we prioritize  
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the present over the future ends up making a  lot of habit change difficult for that reason   if I was going to give some practical takeaways  uh I would say first thing that you can do is   probably optimize your environment because  sometimes that’s all you need to do so might  
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as well start there and then maybe it’ll take  care of itself you know like I mentioned putting   the apples in a bowl on the counter that  was all I need to do and then the habit   of eating apples every day was done uh or  maybe uh you know putting your TV inside a  
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wall unit or something maybe that’ll be enough  to reduce it or curb the The Habit unsubscribe   from the food blogs and now you’re not tempted  to eat as many cookies or something like that   um mobile phone super important yes right things  like that removing the the applications or like  
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you deleting Instagram off your phone well that  was enough now your Instagram habit is roughly   where you want it to be and you just look on  the desktop instead of on your phone and that   that was enough and now you’re you’re fixed  so environment design good place to start next  
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thing that I would recommend is the two minute  Rule and scaling your habits down making them   as easy as possible basically just down scale  it to a point where you can answer the question   can I stick to this habit 98 of the time without  fail no matter what the conditions and if you have  
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to say no to that then it’s probably too big to  start so you know pretty much every habit has   an entry point uh or the first thing that you try  to do just focus on mastering that and uh I think   that’s a good place to focus and then building  off of that the the last one that I recommend is  
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um there’s this great story that I mentioned  in the book about Twyla Tharp the famous dance   choreographer and instructor and she trains  for still even now she trains for two hours   a day she’s you know 50s 60s she’s been  training for a long time dancing her whole  
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career but she doesn’t actually focus on the  exercise habit The Habit that she focuses on   building is I put on my workout clothes and  my sweatshirt and I hail the cab on the side   of the street and if I’ve done that then I’ve  completed the habit and I think the the Insight  
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that she realized is that habits are often  the entry point not the end point they’re   the cab not the gym they’re like an entrance  ramp to the bigger routines in your life and   if you can master that habit that like little  decisive moment that determines what happens  
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in the next chunk of time then the rest of it  kind of Falls in line like I have this moment   each morning where either I open up Evernote  and I start writing the next article I’m going   to work on or I go to ESPN to check the latest  sports news and what happens in the next hour  
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is really determined by what happens in the  first like 30 seconds because if I go to ESPN   then the next hour is kind of shot but if I start  writing the article if I master that entry point   then I’m kind of speeding in the right direction  and the momentum carries me into the rest of the  
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task and I think that for me that’s a little bit  inspiring when it comes to building habits because   what you realize is that there’s actually not  that much to change there may be five or ten of   those little decisive moments those little entry  points throughout your day that determine whether  
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the next chunk of time is productive or not and  if you can organize your environment or join   a community or restructure your habits so that  those entry points are mastered then you’re much   more likely to live a good productive day and so  I think that those three things environment design  
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scale your habits down and master the entry points  those are some really good places to start foreign [Music] the information in this video comes from  the Fantastic book Atomic Habits by James Clear   this book is jam-packed with simple tools  that you can apply to change your habits and  
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Harvard negotiator explains how to argue | Dan Shapiro

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDj1OBG5Tpw
– I personally feel uncomfortable around conflict.
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– Now, we’re here today to find out how to argue. – But conflict is useful.
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The question is, how do you deal with conflict the most effectively? Here we go.
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I am author of Negotiating the Nonnegotiable: How to Resolve Your Most Emotionally-Charged Conflicts.
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Have you found yourself in an argument that felt so frustrating, so at a core aggravating? – That’s the silliest opinion I’ve ever heard. – It felt just nonnegotiable? Well, congratulations, you’re a human being.
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We all experience conflict in our lives, and seeing what’s going on in our world today, my hunch is you were probably having at least one of these conflicts about politics.
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Our country has fallen into what I believe is a tribal trap. Anything that that other side says, I shall not believe, I shall not give any credibility to, and I’m gonna do everything I can to prove I’m right, you’re wrong, and to stifle you down to raise me up.
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The problem is not with the what, what are we arguing about, the problem is with the how.
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– How should we argue? – How can we be more effective? And what I’ve found is that there are three big barriers that we can actually overcome to have more effective conversations.
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The big things, one, identity, two, appreciation, and three, affiliation. Let’s start with identity.
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– Now, first of all, this is a hot issue. – Why do we get so emotional in these conflict situations? It often goes back to something deeper: identity. What are the core values, the core beliefs that are feeling threatened inside of you as you’re having that conversation with the other side? The moment your identity gets hooked in these conflicts, all of a sudden your emotions become Boy, this is a wholly different conflict now. It’s now your pride.
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Your sense of self is on the line.
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You need to know who you are and what you stand for. What are the values and beliefs that are driving me to fight for this stance on this issue? The more you understand who you are, the more you can try to get your purpose met and stay balanced, even when the other threatens those core values and beliefs.
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Each side wants to feel appreciated, and yet the last thing they wanna do is to appreciate the other side. That’s a problem.
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– Listen and understand.
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– When you’re in the midst of the conflict, don’t talk. Take the first 10 minutes.
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Consciously listen to the other side.
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What’s the value behind their perspective? What’s the logic, the rationale? Why do they hold this perspective on immigration or healthcare? Once you truly understand and see the value in their perspective, let them know I hear where you’re coming from, and you know what? That makes sense.
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There is nothing more in the world that we like than to feel appreciated.
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Recognize your power to appreciate them. Third, affiliation. What’s the emotional connection like between you and the other side? We typically approach these conflict situations as me versus you.
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My opinion on healthcare versus yours, my party’s perspectives on immigration versus yours. That’s just gonna leave the two of you like rams butting heads.
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– Find common ground. – Turn that other person from an adversary into a partner, so it’s no longer me versus you, but the two of us facing the same shared problem. Ask the other person, “Look, what’s your advice “on how we can get as many of our interests met “at the same time?” Change the nature of your conversation.
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Now, you put these three things into practice, it can transform your relationships.
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Imagine what would happen if we started a revolution, but a positive revolution of greater understanding, greater appreciation, greater affiliation, how we could transform politics, how we could transform our country and ultimately our world.
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I believe it’s possible, but it starts with each one of us.
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