Category: Anxiety

Being healthy doesn’t always mean not having any physical ailment. You could be very healthy and physically fit but still experience sadness more than happiness, mental fatigue, and irritation and many such things.

Psychological health is the condition of your mind and emotions. It is as important as your physical well-being because your mind channels energy to your body. This means that if your mind is sad, no matter how healthy you are, nothing will feel good.

Let’s look at some symptoms of psychological distress –

• Irritable mood – it can include facing difficulties with sleeping, lack of concentration, low energy, loss of interest in things, anxiety, etc.

• Changes in behaviour – short temper, making sudden shifts between being happy and sad, indulging in more arguments with people, among other things.

• Social interaction – withdrawing from people, or being overly interactive in order to drown out one’s own thoughts and anxiety in public places.

• Drop in grades and staying behind all the deadlines, losing interest in even the most favourite chore, feeling the need to just sit doing nothing for hours on end.

If you’re feeling any such things, it could your mind’s way of alerting you about its illness. There is nothing to worry about because if there is a problem, there is also a solution to it.

Let’s look at some easy ways in which you can boost your mental health quotient-

• Look after your basic needs – we all have two very basic needs as human beings: eating and sleeping. If you haven’t given your body enough food or sleep it can start to feel lethargic and moody. Let’s compare it to a car for better understanding. No matter how fancy and new the car is, if you don’t put petrol and keep its battery charged, it won’t deliver its best.

• Don’t compare – we are all different people, unique in our own ways. There may be so many things you’re not good at that your friends excel at, but there must also be just as many things where you are better than them. If you keep comparing yourself to others you will never find happiness. You must understand that no one is better than anyone because everyone is so different.

• Know your strengths and weaknesses – you are your biggest critic and biggest fan. It is very important for you to know your own positive and negative points. This helps you because then you know the areas in which you can push yourself to achieve excellence and those in which you can take baby steps to improve. A quote by Einstein can explain this point better, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

• Don’t forget to laugh – laughter is the best medicine and nobody can disagree. Even if you have to force yourself to laugh, the activity releases chemicals inside your brain that calm it down and fill it with positivity.

• Connect with others – nothing can lift your spirits better than other people. If you are feeling too low, go out and meet some friends, meet new people. Even if it is for a short time, they can make you forget all your woes.

• Get active – an empty mind is a devil’s workshop. If you sit idle for too long, your mind gets an opportunity to dwell on negative thoughts. By keeping it busy for long, it not only becomes sharp but also stays healthy.

• Don’t lose hope – this is one of the most important things you must remember. Life is not a smooth road; it is a rollercoaster ride. When you are experiencing upswings it won’t look so bad but it is when you are down below that you must remember to not lose hope. Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you down a bit but enjoy the smooth ride after words. Don’t stay on the road bumps too long.

• Gratitude – Being grateful for every little thing in your life goes a long way in keeping you mentally and emotionally stable, a simple Thank you to the universe for a pleasant day, food to eat, Family support, friend circle, a job etcetera brings in a sense of peace and joy which has the ability to multiply when we are grateful.

Only because your mind and emotions don’t hurt physically or leave scars doesn’t mean they don’t need your attention. You need to look after yourself both physically and mentally because these aspects of well-being are very strongly interconnected.

Wellness is the complete integration of body, mind, and spirit – the realization that everything we do, think, feel, and believe has an effect on our state of well-being. – Greg Anderson

Being healthy doesn’t always mean not having any physical ailment. You could be very healthy and physically fit but still experience sadness more than happiness, mental fatigue, and irritation and many such things.

Psychological health is the condition of your mind and emotions. It is as important as your physical well-being because your mind channels energy to your body. This means that if your mind is sad, no matter how healthy you are, nothing will feel good.

Let’s look at some symptoms of psychological distress –

• Irritable mood – it can include facing difficulties with sleeping, lack of concentration, low energy, loss of interest in things, anxiety, etc.

• Changes in behaviour – short temper, making sudden shifts between being happy and sad, indulging in more arguments with people, among other things.

• Social interaction – withdrawing from people, or being overly interactive in order to drown out one’s own thoughts and anxiety in public places.

• Drop in grades and staying behind all the deadlines, losing interest in even the most favourite chore, feeling the need to just sit doing nothing for hours on end.

If you’re feeling any such things, it could your mind’s way of alerting you about its illness. There is nothing to worry about because if there is a problem, there is also a solution to it.

Let’s look at some easy ways in which you can boost your mental health quotient-

• Look after your basic needs – we all have two very basic needs as human beings: eating and sleeping. If you haven’t given your body enough food or sleep it can start to feel lethargic and moody. Let’s compare it to a car for better understanding. No matter how fancy and new the car is, if you don’t put petrol and keep its battery charged, it won’t deliver its best.

• Don’t compare – we are all different people, unique in our own ways. There may be so many things you’re not good at that your friends excel at, but there must also be just as many things where you are better than them. If you keep comparing yourself to others you will never find happiness. You must understand that no one is better than anyone because everyone is so different.

• Know your strengths and weaknesses – you are your biggest critic and biggest fan. It is very important for you to know your own positive and negative points. This helps you because then you know the areas in which you can push yourself to achieve excellence and those in which you can take baby steps to improve. A quote by Einstein can explain this point better, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

• Don’t forget to laugh – laughter is the best medicine and nobody can disagree. Even if you have to force yourself to laugh, the activity releases chemicals inside your brain that calm it down and fill it with positivity.

• Connect with others – nothing can lift your spirits better than other people. If you are feeling too low, go out and meet some friends, meet new people. Even if it is for a short time, they can make you forget all your woes.

• Get active – an empty mind is a devil’s workshop. If you sit idle for too long, your mind gets an opportunity to dwell on negative thoughts. By keeping it busy for long, it not only becomes sharp but also stays healthy.

• Don’t lose hope – this is one of the most important things you must remember. Life is not a smooth road; it is a rollercoaster ride. When you are experiencing upswings it won’t look so bad but it is when you are down below that you must remember to not lose hope. Disappointments are like road bumps, they slow you down a bit but enjoy the smooth ride after words. Don’t stay on the road bumps too long.

• Gratitude – Being grateful for every little thing in your life goes a long way in keeping you mentally and emotionally stable, a simple Thank you to the universe for a pleasant day, food to eat, Family support, friend circle, a job etcetera brings in a sense of peace and joy which has the ability to multiply when we are grateful.

Only because your mind and emotions don’t hurt physically or leave scars doesn’t mean they don’t need your attention. You need to look after yourself both physically and mentally because these aspects of well-being are very strongly interconnected.

Wellness is the complete integration of body, mind, and spirit – the realization that everything we do, think, feel, and believe has an effect on our state of well-being. – Greg Anderson

Have you wondered how there is a median of people whether in the world, workforce or wherever that are Good at what they do? Yes, millions right? How about the number of people you know or have read or heard about that are GREAT? Well yes, lots but they are the exception to the rule. Why? How did that happen for them? Many of you may have the inclination to say they were helped, born with it or are just plain lucky.

I am here to tell you that you too can be GREAT at whatever your heart and soul have determined for you. Those gut feeling, excitement when thinking about a passion or wants in your life. I know that feeling and have suppressed it for many years only to realize there is more to me, more to my life and what’s more is, just thinking about it makes my soul jump for joy and send me signs that are indicating I knew it all along but for one reason or another pushed that dream, that feeling, that wish down until it was almost lost.

Here are 8 ways to go from Good to Great without winning the lottery… but you never know now do you? I know that one small change in your outlook, habits or beliefs will have immediate effects in your life.

1. Cut the negative thinking crap out of your head and thoughts. This one thing alone will bring you benefits you cannot imagine. It is a habit and like any habit it takes willpower and dedication to overcome. Turn every single thing you normally would have a negative spin to and see what possible positives there is. Is it a learning experience, is it a lesson, is it going to impact your wellbeing? Not likely. I know this is a hard habit to break because I have been there. This was the MOST valuable turning point for me that I have ever experienced.

2. Stop playing the victim. It is the most selfish, self-serving thing you do. It’s never your fault, it’s just the way your life is going, I never asked for this heartache and on and on. I could probably write a book of all the LAME excuses people have to keep themselves stuck in this comfortable role. Star health, positive self-talk. Think about all the amazing things you have in your life that you are grateful for. Make this a habit. Gratefulness is key to cracking the shell of self-pity which is exactly what playing the victim is.

3. BE GRATEFUL!!! For what you may ask? If we were standing face to face my expression to this would reveal that I would think you were a fool. Honestly! Think about one thing you are grateful for right now before reading on. Got it? I knew it. Nice start my friend! You are well on your way. Now for 30 days IN A ROW, say out loud 2 things you are grateful for each day. Shake it up a bit. Have fun because I now there are so many things we all take for granted.

4. Be responsible for your own life. You own it! No one can tell you what to do and you doing it without you yourself ALLOWING that to take place. Be strong. Set your boundaries so you learn to say no to things that is not really you. Do you want to change careers? Do you want to get rid of clutter but others make you feel guilty about getting rid of it? Do you want to take a course on something? Regardless of what it is. Where there’s a will there’s a way. There are online course that are free of charge, Organizations that will come to pick up your donations for free and on and on. IF you want a change and life feels a bit like your purpose is dying… get off the pot and do something about it.

5. Create a Vision Board or wall. Cut out from magazines things you would like to materialize in your life. Print out pictures from the internet. Whatever it is big or small look at this as much as possible and feel deep inside how good that feels to you to have this in your life. My vision board is in my bathroom against the side of the mirror where I can see and feel the energy every time I walk in that room. I also have another vision area by my treadmill. This daily vision helps to visualize what it is you want to materialize in your life and also helps to raise your energy vibrations to create and attract that very thing. It is such a feel good thing.

6. Smile. Get that frown or scowl off your face. You are sending out negative vibes to the world and are less likely to have positive people and influences enter your life. It is an extremely powerful message to the world when you are smiling and enjoying life. Good things come faster to happy people. Look around you if you start to feel that smile leaving you. Even on the ride to work there are people, children, bill boards, vehicle, the sun, the moon, the clouds etc that are some of the millions of things that we have in our life and seeing the beauty or fun in them is a great way to look at the world and smile.

7. Stop reading the newspaper and watching the news. I cannot think of anything that is a downer more that those two things. It is that simple and the results are amazing. Who cares if you don’t know the latest fad or catastrophe? I hear about things like that and I tell people I chose not to take part in news that will not benefit my positive energy and thoughts. Saves time and money as well. Grab a good book or go for a walk or spend time with family or friends that will keep you in a high positive vibration.

8. Meditate. Many people think this is a waste of time. On the contrary. It is so extremely valuable at any age. The benefits of sitting and quieting the mind and getting rooted with your body and mind is not only amazing it is the direct line to your soul. Meditation reduces stress, improves concentration, is a vital part in a healthy lifestyle, increases happiness, slows aging, increases self-acceptance, lessens worry, anxiety and impulsivity, helps manage ADHD, and increases grey matter concentration in the brain. These are but a few of the amazing benefits of meditation. It does take practice but practice makes perfect.

I have given you 8 simple ideas to assist you from being Good to heading in the fast lane to GREAT! There comes a time in your life that you need to take an inventory of what is working versus what isn’t and make a change. This is your life. How do you want to live it? It’s up to you.

Namaste

Have you wondered how there is a median of people whether in the world, workforce or wherever that are Good at what they do? Yes, millions right? How about the number of people you know or have read or heard about that are GREAT? Well yes, lots but they are the exception to the rule. Why? How did that happen for them? Many of you may have the inclination to say they were helped, born with it or are just plain lucky.

I am here to tell you that you too can be GREAT at whatever your heart and soul have determined for you. Those gut feeling, excitement when thinking about a passion or wants in your life. I know that feeling and have suppressed it for many years only to realize there is more to me, more to my life and what’s more is, just thinking about it makes my soul jump for joy and send me signs that are indicating I knew it all along but for one reason or another pushed that dream, that feeling, that wish down until it was almost lost.

Here are 8 ways to go from Good to Great without winning the lottery… but you never know now do you? I know that one small change in your outlook, habits or beliefs will have immediate effects in your life.

1. Cut the negative thinking crap out of your head and thoughts. This one thing alone will bring you benefits you cannot imagine. It is a habit and like any habit it takes willpower and dedication to overcome. Turn every single thing you normally would have a negative spin to and see what possible positives there is. Is it a learning experience, is it a lesson, is it going to impact your wellbeing? Not likely. I know this is a hard habit to break because I have been there. This was the MOST valuable turning point for me that I have ever experienced.

2. Stop playing the victim. It is the most selfish, self-serving thing you do. It’s never your fault, it’s just the way your life is going, I never asked for this heartache and on and on. I could probably write a book of all the LAME excuses people have to keep themselves stuck in this comfortable role. Star health, positive self-talk. Think about all the amazing things you have in your life that you are grateful for. Make this a habit. Gratefulness is key to cracking the shell of self-pity which is exactly what playing the victim is.

3. BE GRATEFUL!!! For what you may ask? If we were standing face to face my expression to this would reveal that I would think you were a fool. Honestly! Think about one thing you are grateful for right now before reading on. Got it? I knew it. Nice start my friend! You are well on your way. Now for 30 days IN A ROW, say out loud 2 things you are grateful for each day. Shake it up a bit. Have fun because I now there are so many things we all take for granted.

4. Be responsible for your own life. You own it! No one can tell you what to do and you doing it without you yourself ALLOWING that to take place. Be strong. Set your boundaries so you learn to say no to things that is not really you. Do you want to change careers? Do you want to get rid of clutter but others make you feel guilty about getting rid of it? Do you want to take a course on something? Regardless of what it is. Where there’s a will there’s a way. There are online course that are free of charge, Organizations that will come to pick up your donations for free and on and on. IF you want a change and life feels a bit like your purpose is dying… get off the pot and do something about it.

5. Create a Vision Board or wall. Cut out from magazines things you would like to materialize in your life. Print out pictures from the internet. Whatever it is big or small look at this as much as possible and feel deep inside how good that feels to you to have this in your life. My vision board is in my bathroom against the side of the mirror where I can see and feel the energy every time I walk in that room. I also have another vision area by my treadmill. This daily vision helps to visualize what it is you want to materialize in your life and also helps to raise your energy vibrations to create and attract that very thing. It is such a feel good thing.

6. Smile. Get that frown or scowl off your face. You are sending out negative vibes to the world and are less likely to have positive people and influences enter your life. It is an extremely powerful message to the world when you are smiling and enjoying life. Good things come faster to happy people. Look around you if you start to feel that smile leaving you. Even on the ride to work there are people, children, bill boards, vehicle, the sun, the moon, the clouds etc that are some of the millions of things that we have in our life and seeing the beauty or fun in them is a great way to look at the world and smile.

7. Stop reading the newspaper and watching the news. I cannot think of anything that is a downer more that those two things. It is that simple and the results are amazing. Who cares if you don’t know the latest fad or catastrophe? I hear about things like that and I tell people I chose not to take part in news that will not benefit my positive energy and thoughts. Saves time and money as well. Grab a good book or go for a walk or spend time with family or friends that will keep you in a high positive vibration.

8. Meditate. Many people think this is a waste of time. On the contrary. It is so extremely valuable at any age. The benefits of sitting and quieting the mind and getting rooted with your body and mind is not only amazing it is the direct line to your soul. Meditation reduces stress, improves concentration, is a vital part in a healthy lifestyle, increases happiness, slows aging, increases self-acceptance, lessens worry, anxiety and impulsivity, helps manage ADHD, and increases grey matter concentration in the brain. These are but a few of the amazing benefits of meditation. It does take practice but practice makes perfect.

I have given you 8 simple ideas to assist you from being Good to heading in the fast lane to GREAT! There comes a time in your life that you need to take an inventory of what is working versus what isn’t and make a change. This is your life. How do you want to live it? It’s up to you.

Namaste

Our minds are bombarded daily with incoming stimulation that have the potential to move us. Stress has become an accepted part of our existence. We live in the “age of stress” and for the more sophisticated individual, it is referred to as angst. Pharmaceutical drugs are increasingly on the rise, and being prescribed to many young adults creating a dependency at a young age and leading to serious side effects that require more pharmaceutical drugs.

Eastern teachings use their own psychic screening known as meditation. Meditation reduces stress and anxiety, improves happiness, increases self-esteem, strengthens the immune system, improves the functioning of the brain, and slows down the aging process. Meditation does this by stimulating brain waves. Brain waves are at the root of all our thoughts and emotions, and therefore our behavior. If we take control of our brain waves, we take control of our reality. We can literally become the masters of our destiny, rewrite our subconscious programming, and consciously create the person we want to become.

You don’t need to meditate for years in order to enter the same level of consciousness that monks do. There are binaural sounds you can listen to that put you in different brain waves. I recommend Kelly Howell’s Scared Ground that move you into different level of consciousness.

Beta Wave (12 – 38 HZ)

We are in beta when we are awake, engaged in logical tasks, reasoning, and exercising judgement. Beta waves are critical for problem solving, and responding to the world. However, beta is also associated with stress, anxiety, and feeling wired. All states that are mentally fast paced ineffective for dealing with the complexities of the world. You can’t respond to a stressful life by being in a stressful state or brain wave.

Alpha Wave (8-12 HZ)

Alpha is often referred to as the bridge between the conscious and the subconscious mind. It is associated with relaxation, calmness, being grounded, and can be understood as being relaxed and aroused at the same time. The term alpha male and female refer to this brain wave, and not the beta wave we are led to believe. Alpha waves improve concentration, memory and learning. There’s fantastic program called the Silva Mind Control Method that uses alpha waves and guided imagery to rewire the subconscious mind.

Theta Wave (4-8 HZ)

Your deep seated beliefs, programming and unconscious patterns dwell in theta. The border between alpha and theta is the optimal range for reprogramming your subconscious mind and for visualization. People who practice the law of attraction enter the alpha-theta range and visualize the future they want to manifest. Hypnotists can achieve incredible results in self transformation by putting their clients in the theta state and using guided imagery. Theta can be experienced as deep relaxation, and understood as that moment you enter REM. In theta, there is a deep oneness between yourself and other beings.

Delta Wave (0-4 HZ)

Delta waves are associated with the deepest states relaxation, healing, restoration, and said to be the bridge between the conscious and universal mind. As infants we were regularly in delta, however, as we get older we tend to go there less. That could be linked to many factors such as our lifestyle, diet, smoking/drinking habits, and emotional patterns. Your ability to enter delta and rejuvenate yourself is directly liked to your immune system.

Gamma Wave (40 – 100 HZ)

Lighting produces gamma waves and so does your brain, although they’re not the same. Gamma waves in the brain are associated with peak performance, and super learning and can be understood as the feeling of being blessed or having grace. Experienced monks have said that gamma waves lead to compassion, incredible memory, and impeccable self-discipline. People who are depressed are usually suffering from low gamma waves.

By meditating three times a day for 15-20 minutes, you can significantly improve your happiness, self-esteem, and rewire you brain for success. In my experience, the best technique I found is to put myself in the alpha-theta state, and vividly imagine the type of person I want to be and the future I want to create, and act as if it has already happened. The brain can’t tell the difference between a real experience and one vividly imagined. Use it to create the reality you want.

Our minds are bombarded daily with incoming stimulation that have the potential to move us. Stress has become an accepted part of our existence. We live in the “age of stress” and for the more sophisticated individual, it is referred to as angst. Pharmaceutical drugs are increasingly on the rise, and being prescribed to many young adults creating a dependency at a young age and leading to serious side effects that require more pharmaceutical drugs.

Eastern teachings use their own psychic screening known as meditation. Meditation reduces stress and anxiety, improves happiness, increases self-esteem, strengthens the immune system, improves the functioning of the brain, and slows down the aging process. Meditation does this by stimulating brain waves. Brain waves are at the root of all our thoughts and emotions, and therefore our behavior. If we take control of our brain waves, we take control of our reality. We can literally become the masters of our destiny, rewrite our subconscious programming, and consciously create the person we want to become.

You don’t need to meditate for years in order to enter the same level of consciousness that monks do. There are binaural sounds you can listen to that put you in different brain waves. I recommend Kelly Howell’s Scared Ground that move you into different level of consciousness.

Beta Wave (12 – 38 HZ)

We are in beta when we are awake, engaged in logical tasks, reasoning, and exercising judgement. Beta waves are critical for problem solving, and responding to the world. However, beta is also associated with stress, anxiety, and feeling wired. All states that are mentally fast paced ineffective for dealing with the complexities of the world. You can’t respond to a stressful life by being in a stressful state or brain wave.

Alpha Wave (8-12 HZ)

Alpha is often referred to as the bridge between the conscious and the subconscious mind. It is associated with relaxation, calmness, being grounded, and can be understood as being relaxed and aroused at the same time. The term alpha male and female refer to this brain wave, and not the beta wave we are led to believe. Alpha waves improve concentration, memory and learning. There’s fantastic program called the Silva Mind Control Method that uses alpha waves and guided imagery to rewire the subconscious mind.

Theta Wave (4-8 HZ)

Your deep seated beliefs, programming and unconscious patterns dwell in theta. The border between alpha and theta is the optimal range for reprogramming your subconscious mind and for visualization. People who practice the law of attraction enter the alpha-theta range and visualize the future they want to manifest. Hypnotists can achieve incredible results in self transformation by putting their clients in the theta state and using guided imagery. Theta can be experienced as deep relaxation, and understood as that moment you enter REM. In theta, there is a deep oneness between yourself and other beings.

Delta Wave (0-4 HZ)

Delta waves are associated with the deepest states relaxation, healing, restoration, and said to be the bridge between the conscious and universal mind. As infants we were regularly in delta, however, as we get older we tend to go there less. That could be linked to many factors such as our lifestyle, diet, smoking/drinking habits, and emotional patterns. Your ability to enter delta and rejuvenate yourself is directly liked to your immune system.

Gamma Wave (40 – 100 HZ)

Lighting produces gamma waves and so does your brain, although they’re not the same. Gamma waves in the brain are associated with peak performance, and super learning and can be understood as the feeling of being blessed or having grace. Experienced monks have said that gamma waves lead to compassion, incredible memory, and impeccable self-discipline. People who are depressed are usually suffering from low gamma waves.

By meditating three times a day for 15-20 minutes, you can significantly improve your happiness, self-esteem, and rewire you brain for success. In my experience, the best technique I found is to put myself in the alpha-theta state, and vividly imagine the type of person I want to be and the future I want to create, and act as if it has already happened. The brain can’t tell the difference between a real experience and one vividly imagined. Use it to create the reality you want.

So the rational mind is the dominant in a person, but what happens if the intuitive mind becomes dominant?

Let me tell you about an experiment, where a man did exactly that.

Firstly, how the heck you differentiate between the two. What comes from the intuition is more in the form of feeling and that feeling is pure, there is no clutter in it. It is like a state of balance, which is energising. It is free, connecting, expanding, and integrating in its nature. You do not think about it, you feel it. The rational mind creates thoughts, which in themselves have no emotional richness. They are more still, stable, even. They are bringing meaning, sense, connecting the elements, holding the picture together.

Anyway, the subject started the experiment from the beginning of September 2009. What he did, was letting the intuitive mind lead the way, and the rational mind just translating that in actions in the present, which is opposite of the usual relationship where the rational mind is trying very hard to figure out how things are going to happen.

In this experiment the logical (rational) mind’s role was not to figure out what will happen, but how to make things happen now. It is important to say that on conscious level the person had no idea, what will happen in the future. As the intuition was telling him what to do in the moment, but not communicating why and how this exactly relates to the future. Sometimes it was giving the subject a hint but more a temporary direction, rather than anything solid related to the future.

What happened?

The subject at the time was in his third year at university and had started working part-time since the summer after his second year. The person reduced the amount of studying in hours approximately 3 times compared to the past year. In year two the subject achieved 66.78% on average compared to year three where the GA was 72.96%.

The subject spent approximately a month where he was not using a watch to coordinate his schedule (no alarm in the morning, not looking at the clock to determine if he should go somewhere and etc.). In this time the subject needed to go to his part-time work, go to seminars and lectures in the university and etc. The person was working a job, which was shift based and the shifts were on a random basis (including early mornings). He was following his intuition when to go, what to do. The result was that the person was occasionally late for some seminars, lectures and shifts, but usually small amount of time (10-15 minutes). He skipped some seminars or lectures, which didn’t affect the individual negatively in any way. He was not fired from work or disciplined, he didn’t fail the course, he didn’t become a FAILURE. The subject had much more efficient way of living as he had more time for many things, lost less energy and there was increased synchronicity in his life. He reported multiplied excitement, passion, joy and that he felt that his life is much better organised compared to when the rational mind was leading.

It is important to mention that a key component for this experiment to be reproduced is the cognitive processing technique of the subject. This method is linked with self-awareness. Every time the subject experienced negative emotion (feeling of fear, anxiety, contraction, weakness) due to stimuli from the environment he was investigating his subconscious definitions. This process happens by analysing the situation in which the feeling occurred and what kinds of definitions are triggered by the stimuli and changing them with preferred definitions. For example the subject in the experiment had a coursework with a deadline in a month time. The rational mind if leading would have said: “please let’s start now or in a week’s time as we need to plan and we don’t know how long it will take” and etc. The intuitive mind didn’t say that at all. Actually in this case it mentioned the coursework 3 days before the deadline. But because there was the definition in the subject that good results are achieved by hard work, the closest the deadline, the more negative emotion the subject was experiencing as to the fact that he was not doing the coursework. So as he was feeling that negative emotion of anxiety, contraction and etc. described above he started investigating to find the definition. The person began first by asking himself when that negative emotion occurred, what it was connected to. In this example when he remembered about the coursework. In the majority of cases, it is not very straight forward process because the subject will go through number of definitions, which will not be the core definition. I will use analogy to give you better understanding. Imagine a problem. To solve a problem permanently you need to reach the root cause of the problem and to do that you will first go through multiple peripheral causes. Same with definitions! The way to know if you successfully have changed the core belief does not require any effort. If you have identified correctly and changed with preferred definition in the same situation, you will get a different result. You will not experience the negative emotion, but instead the intuitive feelings more clearly. Using that technique you will be able to recognise the intuition, which is a clear and pure feeling and you will know when there is just a small bit of mud in the water leading to the inability to drink it.

Important note: Definitions are subconscious. Every time you are executing this process you tap in the subconscious and bring out certain definitions, you investigate them, change them and then you put them back in the subconscious. When you re-experience the situation you must not think about the changed definition. It is already in the subconscious and it is automated process.

Would you experiment?

Please feel free to comment and share your thoughts. Thanks for reading.

So the rational mind is the dominant in a person, but what happens if the intuitive mind becomes dominant?

Let me tell you about an experiment, where a man did exactly that.

Firstly, how the heck you differentiate between the two. What comes from the intuition is more in the form of feeling and that feeling is pure, there is no clutter in it. It is like a state of balance, which is energising. It is free, connecting, expanding, and integrating in its nature. You do not think about it, you feel it. The rational mind creates thoughts, which in themselves have no emotional richness. They are more still, stable, even. They are bringing meaning, sense, connecting the elements, holding the picture together.

Anyway, the subject started the experiment from the beginning of September 2009. What he did, was letting the intuitive mind lead the way, and the rational mind just translating that in actions in the present, which is opposite of the usual relationship where the rational mind is trying very hard to figure out how things are going to happen.

In this experiment the logical (rational) mind’s role was not to figure out what will happen, but how to make things happen now. It is important to say that on conscious level the person had no idea, what will happen in the future. As the intuition was telling him what to do in the moment, but not communicating why and how this exactly relates to the future. Sometimes it was giving the subject a hint but more a temporary direction, rather than anything solid related to the future.

What happened?

The subject at the time was in his third year at university and had started working part-time since the summer after his second year. The person reduced the amount of studying in hours approximately 3 times compared to the past year. In year two the subject achieved 66.78% on average compared to year three where the GA was 72.96%.

The subject spent approximately a month where he was not using a watch to coordinate his schedule (no alarm in the morning, not looking at the clock to determine if he should go somewhere and etc.). In this time the subject needed to go to his part-time work, go to seminars and lectures in the university and etc. The person was working a job, which was shift based and the shifts were on a random basis (including early mornings). He was following his intuition when to go, what to do. The result was that the person was occasionally late for some seminars, lectures and shifts, but usually small amount of time (10-15 minutes). He skipped some seminars or lectures, which didn’t affect the individual negatively in any way. He was not fired from work or disciplined, he didn’t fail the course, he didn’t become a FAILURE. The subject had much more efficient way of living as he had more time for many things, lost less energy and there was increased synchronicity in his life. He reported multiplied excitement, passion, joy and that he felt that his life is much better organised compared to when the rational mind was leading.

It is important to mention that a key component for this experiment to be reproduced is the cognitive processing technique of the subject. This method is linked with self-awareness. Every time the subject experienced negative emotion (feeling of fear, anxiety, contraction, weakness) due to stimuli from the environment he was investigating his subconscious definitions. This process happens by analysing the situation in which the feeling occurred and what kinds of definitions are triggered by the stimuli and changing them with preferred definitions. For example the subject in the experiment had a coursework with a deadline in a month time. The rational mind if leading would have said: “please let’s start now or in a week’s time as we need to plan and we don’t know how long it will take” and etc. The intuitive mind didn’t say that at all. Actually in this case it mentioned the coursework 3 days before the deadline. But because there was the definition in the subject that good results are achieved by hard work, the closest the deadline, the more negative emotion the subject was experiencing as to the fact that he was not doing the coursework. So as he was feeling that negative emotion of anxiety, contraction and etc. described above he started investigating to find the definition. The person began first by asking himself when that negative emotion occurred, what it was connected to. In this example when he remembered about the coursework. In the majority of cases, it is not very straight forward process because the subject will go through number of definitions, which will not be the core definition. I will use analogy to give you better understanding. Imagine a problem. To solve a problem permanently you need to reach the root cause of the problem and to do that you will first go through multiple peripheral causes. Same with definitions! The way to know if you successfully have changed the core belief does not require any effort. If you have identified correctly and changed with preferred definition in the same situation, you will get a different result. You will not experience the negative emotion, but instead the intuitive feelings more clearly. Using that technique you will be able to recognise the intuition, which is a clear and pure feeling and you will know when there is just a small bit of mud in the water leading to the inability to drink it.

Important note: Definitions are subconscious. Every time you are executing this process you tap in the subconscious and bring out certain definitions, you investigate them, change them and then you put them back in the subconscious. When you re-experience the situation you must not think about the changed definition. It is already in the subconscious and it is automated process.

Would you experiment?

Please feel free to comment and share your thoughts. Thanks for reading.

Happiness is life’s most desired goal. But we can never achieve it while we continue to look outside of ourselves, as it is an inside job.

“Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude”.

Throughout our evolutionary journey we have tried every strategy imaginable and searched almost everywhere in our quest for true happiness. We have had some great experiences and learnt a lot along the way, but we have never found what we are searching for. Eventually, we grow tired of searching and turn our attention to the one place we haven’t looked so far; inside ourselves. True happiness is not something that can be sought and acquired; it is our soul’s natural state of being, and we can only connect with by going within.

Anything we do, it is simply our inner quality that we are going to spread. We cannot do anything of tremendous value for our planet until anything of accurate value occurs within us. Thus, if we want to be connected to the world, the first thing we must do is to transform ourselves right into a happy beings.

It doesn’t matter what we do in our life, whether it is business, studying or giving assistance to someone or some cause, we’re doing it because deep down, it gives us satisfaction. Each activity that every individual executes on this globe rises from a desire. We were not unhappy when we were a child, as joy and happiness is a source which resides within each one of us. So all we have to do, is to go for it and take charge of that joy which is residing in us.

Everything in universe is in order. The sun comes wonderfully well up in the sky. The flowers flourish beautifully, no stars falls along, and the galaxies are functioning perfectly. Today, the whole cosmos is occurring divinely well, but just a negative thought worming up on our brain enables us to believe that today is a poor day.

Suffering occurs basically when most human beings shed perception in regards of what this life is all about. Our emotional process become far larger than the existential procedure, or our petty creation become far more critical compared to GOD’s Creations, to place it bluntly. This is the way to obtain all suffering. We miss the complete sense of what this means to be alive here. An emotion within us or a thought within our mind establishes the nature of the experience right now. And our thought may have nothing to accomplish even with the restricted reality of our lifestyle. The entire creation is happening beautifully well but just one considered emotion can ruin everything.

Anything we consider as “our mind” isn’t ours basically. It is merely society’s empty talk. Everyone and anyone whom we encounter on a daily base put some idea or information in our head and we truly have no choice about whose idea we accept or don’t accept. These information are advantageous once we learn HOW TO process them and use them. This accumulation of opinions and information that we collect is simply useful for our survival on the planet. It is not something which is related to who we are.

First thing we need to do in the morning when we get up, is to smile. At whom? No one. Since just the fact that we have woke up is not a small matter. A lot of thousands of people who slept yesterday evening didn’t wake up today. Isn’t it great that we woke up? So look as you wake up, look around you, if there is someone, and then smile at them. Because this morning, for numerous people, someone precious to them didn’t get up. Then venture out, take a deep breath and look at the bushes. They didn’t die yesterday either.

You may think this is really funny, but you won’t know its reality until someone dear to you doesn’t wakeup. So don’t wait until you understand the value of it. Appreciate what you have, be happy that you are alive and everyone who matters to you is still around.

Of course, people who do not have food or the basic needs for living can feel physically miserable and their needs must be addressed. Our duty as a human being is to help and take care of such people when we encounter them. But most people are unhappy not as a result of what they don’t have. It is because they compare their life to others. You are driving on a motorbike, you see somebody in a Mercedes and you become unhappy. But for someone who is driving a bicycle, your motorbike seems like a limousine.

Life is about learning and appreciating what GOD has created for us on this plant. It is not about twisting and distorting it. When we rely on the external situation to make us joyful and content, we could never feel true happiness. The quality of our life doesn’t depend on what car we drive, how much money we have in a bank account, or how big our house is, but how content and happy we feel inside.

Although each one of us is unique, and what works for one may not for other, but there are simply areas that tend to make a big difference to people’s happiness in life; and crucially they are all areas that are within our control:

1 – Care for others genuinely: Caring genuinely for others around us is essential to our happiness. Being caring means wishing the best for others, and acknowledging in them the same wants, needs, aspirations, and even fears that we have too. It means providing a listening ear, noticing when someone needs help, and helping our community without asking for a reward. Being caring allows us to have empathy for others and to live a life based on affection, love, and compassion for the people around us.

2 – Connect with people: “Happiness is influenced not only by the people you know, but by the people they know”. This means that by surrounding ourselves with happier people we become happier, we make the people close to us happier, and make the people close to them happier. People with strong and vast social relationships are happier, healthier and live longer. Close relationship with family and friends brings love, compassion, meaning and belonging into our lives and grow our sense of self-worth. “To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground” ~ Stephen Covey

3 – Notice the world around you: Taking Notice is about observing those things that we find beautiful and being mindful of them in our daily life. It can be easy to rush through life without stopping to notice much. Paying more attention to the present moment, to our own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around us; can improve our wellbeing. Becoming more aware of the present moment not only help us to enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better, but also recognize anew things that we have been taking for granted.

4 – Have something to look forward to: Happiness in anticipation is the key here. By having something to look forward to, no matter how our situations, bring happiness into our life, well before the circumstance happen. If your life is series of undesirable duties, commitments, and unpleasant tasks, take some time to find out something that YOU would find enjoyable. And make time to do it. “Happiness is the anticipation and the realization of the fulfilment of a dream”.

5 – Avoid false beliefs and expectations: “Our authentic happiness is blocked by our false belief that life should be how we want it to be. The expectation that accompanies this false belief sets us up for disappointment, frustration, anger and unhappiness”. Our expectations create our reality and they change our lives emotionally and physically. Unreasonable expectations can make life extremely hard and unhappy. These expectations are actually designed by our ego, as nothing give our ego a stronger sense of self-identity as an experience that supports our sad life-story. “In other words, we unconsciously create expectations so we can feel sad and disappointed when they are not met. Our ego is addicted to sadness and painful emotions”. Master to drop all expectations and open your heart, begin to love yourself, and move beyond your ego. Embrace freedom from your ego.

6 – Be comfortable with who you are: Finding ourselves, our authenticity will help us to feel our beauty. When we endeavour to be who we are, to be true to ourselves, and accept ourselves with all our flaws and imperfections, we will automatically feel attractive and unique. Beauty is never dependent upon the approval of others. Quite the contrary, beauty is very much self-defined and self-created. “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh. By accepting ourselves and becoming kinder to ourselves we will be able to see our shortcomings as opportunities to learn and grow.

7 – Find a purpose in life: We all have intact potential, perhaps even areas of intelligence, to become something entirely different, or somehow more than what we appear to be right now. People who find meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do. They become less stressed, anxious, or depressed. But how do we find meaning and purpose in life? We’re all wired differently. Some of us feel more connected to nature, others find meaning by employing in nurturing. The key is to know what works for us. Learning to live our purpose is essentially a spiritual exercise, and an inside job. Search how and what give you that sense of fulfilment and deep connection; and then peruse it in all that you do.

8 – Train yourself to be more positive: There is the positive aspect in everything, in every person, in every situation. Sometimes it’s not obvious and we have to look hard. Even when we are faced with a difficult situation we can think to ourselves “What is good about this?” No matter how unpleasant the circumstance might look, we always can find something good if we take the time to think about it. Everything, good or bad is a learning experience. And there is always lesson to be gained from every bad experience. “There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there” ~ Paulo Coelho

9 – Live Mindfully: “Life is not what it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference” ~ Virginia Satir. Life is full of challenges. The way we manage them, can make a difference between whether we let them to control our lives, or we find a way to embrace every challenge as it arises. By practicing mindfulness we can find a more empowering way to react to the challenges life brings us. It also helps us to train our mind, manage our thoughts and feelings, and reduce stress and anxiety.

10 – Take care of your body: “Your body is precious. It is our vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” ~Buddha. There is a powerful mind-body connection through which emotional, mental, social, spiritual, and behavioural factors can directly affect our health. Being active makes us happier as well as healthier. By spending time outdoors, eating healthy foods, and getting enough sleep, we can improve our wellbeing. A serene mind really is nothing without a healthy body to carry it, so show your body the same compassion that you show everyone, by taking care of it.

It is positively time now that we look inside of ourselves and see HOW TO produce personal wellbeing. From our own experience of life we can clearly observe that wellbeing will come to us when we change our perception on life. We need to realize, if we are determined to create our happiness and wellbeing by the outside factors it will never happens. As nothing will be %100 the way we want them to be. When we accept this fact, then we will be able to work on ourselves as an individual to become the person we want to be. And happiness will be our only choice which has been our authentic nature by creation in the first place. “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” ~ Greg Anderson

Happiness is life’s most desired goal. But we can never achieve it while we continue to look outside of ourselves, as it is an inside job.

“Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude”.

Throughout our evolutionary journey we have tried every strategy imaginable and searched almost everywhere in our quest for true happiness. We have had some great experiences and learnt a lot along the way, but we have never found what we are searching for. Eventually, we grow tired of searching and turn our attention to the one place we haven’t looked so far; inside ourselves. True happiness is not something that can be sought and acquired; it is our soul’s natural state of being, and we can only connect with by going within.

Anything we do, it is simply our inner quality that we are going to spread. We cannot do anything of tremendous value for our planet until anything of accurate value occurs within us. Thus, if we want to be connected to the world, the first thing we must do is to transform ourselves right into a happy beings.

It doesn’t matter what we do in our life, whether it is business, studying or giving assistance to someone or some cause, we’re doing it because deep down, it gives us satisfaction. Each activity that every individual executes on this globe rises from a desire. We were not unhappy when we were a child, as joy and happiness is a source which resides within each one of us. So all we have to do, is to go for it and take charge of that joy which is residing in us.

Everything in universe is in order. The sun comes wonderfully well up in the sky. The flowers flourish beautifully, no stars falls along, and the galaxies are functioning perfectly. Today, the whole cosmos is occurring divinely well, but just a negative thought worming up on our brain enables us to believe that today is a poor day.

Suffering occurs basically when most human beings shed perception in regards of what this life is all about. Our emotional process become far larger than the existential procedure, or our petty creation become far more critical compared to GOD’s Creations, to place it bluntly. This is the way to obtain all suffering. We miss the complete sense of what this means to be alive here. An emotion within us or a thought within our mind establishes the nature of the experience right now. And our thought may have nothing to accomplish even with the restricted reality of our lifestyle. The entire creation is happening beautifully well but just one considered emotion can ruin everything.

Anything we consider as “our mind” isn’t ours basically. It is merely society’s empty talk. Everyone and anyone whom we encounter on a daily base put some idea or information in our head and we truly have no choice about whose idea we accept or don’t accept. These information are advantageous once we learn HOW TO process them and use them. This accumulation of opinions and information that we collect is simply useful for our survival on the planet. It is not something which is related to who we are.

First thing we need to do in the morning when we get up, is to smile. At whom? No one. Since just the fact that we have woke up is not a small matter. A lot of thousands of people who slept yesterday evening didn’t wake up today. Isn’t it great that we woke up? So look as you wake up, look around you, if there is someone, and then smile at them. Because this morning, for numerous people, someone precious to them didn’t get up. Then venture out, take a deep breath and look at the bushes. They didn’t die yesterday either.

You may think this is really funny, but you won’t know its reality until someone dear to you doesn’t wakeup. So don’t wait until you understand the value of it. Appreciate what you have, be happy that you are alive and everyone who matters to you is still around.

Of course, people who do not have food or the basic needs for living can feel physically miserable and their needs must be addressed. Our duty as a human being is to help and take care of such people when we encounter them. But most people are unhappy not as a result of what they don’t have. It is because they compare their life to others. You are driving on a motorbike, you see somebody in a Mercedes and you become unhappy. But for someone who is driving a bicycle, your motorbike seems like a limousine.

Life is about learning and appreciating what GOD has created for us on this plant. It is not about twisting and distorting it. When we rely on the external situation to make us joyful and content, we could never feel true happiness. The quality of our life doesn’t depend on what car we drive, how much money we have in a bank account, or how big our house is, but how content and happy we feel inside.

Although each one of us is unique, and what works for one may not for other, but there are simply areas that tend to make a big difference to people’s happiness in life; and crucially they are all areas that are within our control:

1 – Care for others genuinely: Caring genuinely for others around us is essential to our happiness. Being caring means wishing the best for others, and acknowledging in them the same wants, needs, aspirations, and even fears that we have too. It means providing a listening ear, noticing when someone needs help, and helping our community without asking for a reward. Being caring allows us to have empathy for others and to live a life based on affection, love, and compassion for the people around us.

2 – Connect with people: “Happiness is influenced not only by the people you know, but by the people they know”. This means that by surrounding ourselves with happier people we become happier, we make the people close to us happier, and make the people close to them happier. People with strong and vast social relationships are happier, healthier and live longer. Close relationship with family and friends brings love, compassion, meaning and belonging into our lives and grow our sense of self-worth. “To touch the soul of another human being is to walk on holy ground” ~ Stephen Covey

3 – Notice the world around you: Taking Notice is about observing those things that we find beautiful and being mindful of them in our daily life. It can be easy to rush through life without stopping to notice much. Paying more attention to the present moment, to our own thoughts and feelings, and to the world around us; can improve our wellbeing. Becoming more aware of the present moment not only help us to enjoy the world around us more and understand ourselves better, but also recognize anew things that we have been taking for granted.

4 – Have something to look forward to: Happiness in anticipation is the key here. By having something to look forward to, no matter how our situations, bring happiness into our life, well before the circumstance happen. If your life is series of undesirable duties, commitments, and unpleasant tasks, take some time to find out something that YOU would find enjoyable. And make time to do it. “Happiness is the anticipation and the realization of the fulfilment of a dream”.

5 – Avoid false beliefs and expectations: “Our authentic happiness is blocked by our false belief that life should be how we want it to be. The expectation that accompanies this false belief sets us up for disappointment, frustration, anger and unhappiness”. Our expectations create our reality and they change our lives emotionally and physically. Unreasonable expectations can make life extremely hard and unhappy. These expectations are actually designed by our ego, as nothing give our ego a stronger sense of self-identity as an experience that supports our sad life-story. “In other words, we unconsciously create expectations so we can feel sad and disappointed when they are not met. Our ego is addicted to sadness and painful emotions”. Master to drop all expectations and open your heart, begin to love yourself, and move beyond your ego. Embrace freedom from your ego.

6 – Be comfortable with who you are: Finding ourselves, our authenticity will help us to feel our beauty. When we endeavour to be who we are, to be true to ourselves, and accept ourselves with all our flaws and imperfections, we will automatically feel attractive and unique. Beauty is never dependent upon the approval of others. Quite the contrary, beauty is very much self-defined and self-created. “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” ~Thich Nhat Hanh. By accepting ourselves and becoming kinder to ourselves we will be able to see our shortcomings as opportunities to learn and grow.

7 – Find a purpose in life: We all have intact potential, perhaps even areas of intelligence, to become something entirely different, or somehow more than what we appear to be right now. People who find meaning and purpose in their lives are happier, feel more in control and get more out of what they do. They become less stressed, anxious, or depressed. But how do we find meaning and purpose in life? We’re all wired differently. Some of us feel more connected to nature, others find meaning by employing in nurturing. The key is to know what works for us. Learning to live our purpose is essentially a spiritual exercise, and an inside job. Search how and what give you that sense of fulfilment and deep connection; and then peruse it in all that you do.

8 – Train yourself to be more positive: There is the positive aspect in everything, in every person, in every situation. Sometimes it’s not obvious and we have to look hard. Even when we are faced with a difficult situation we can think to ourselves “What is good about this?” No matter how unpleasant the circumstance might look, we always can find something good if we take the time to think about it. Everything, good or bad is a learning experience. And there is always lesson to be gained from every bad experience. “There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them will we understand why they were there” ~ Paulo Coelho

9 – Live Mindfully: “Life is not what it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference” ~ Virginia Satir. Life is full of challenges. The way we manage them, can make a difference between whether we let them to control our lives, or we find a way to embrace every challenge as it arises. By practicing mindfulness we can find a more empowering way to react to the challenges life brings us. It also helps us to train our mind, manage our thoughts and feelings, and reduce stress and anxiety.

10 – Take care of your body: “Your body is precious. It is our vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” ~Buddha. There is a powerful mind-body connection through which emotional, mental, social, spiritual, and behavioural factors can directly affect our health. Being active makes us happier as well as healthier. By spending time outdoors, eating healthy foods, and getting enough sleep, we can improve our wellbeing. A serene mind really is nothing without a healthy body to carry it, so show your body the same compassion that you show everyone, by taking care of it.

It is positively time now that we look inside of ourselves and see HOW TO produce personal wellbeing. From our own experience of life we can clearly observe that wellbeing will come to us when we change our perception on life. We need to realize, if we are determined to create our happiness and wellbeing by the outside factors it will never happens. As nothing will be %100 the way we want them to be. When we accept this fact, then we will be able to work on ourselves as an individual to become the person we want to be. And happiness will be our only choice which has been our authentic nature by creation in the first place. “Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.” ~ Greg Anderson