{"id":153920,"date":"2024-11-29T09:09:05","date_gmt":"2024-11-29T14:09:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/?p=153920"},"modified":"2024-11-28T19:54:54","modified_gmt":"2024-11-29T00:54:54","slug":"9-habits-that-are-destroying-your-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/153920","title":{"rendered":"9 Habits That Are Destroying Your Confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"9 Habits That Are Destroying Your Confidence\" width=\"660\" height=\"371\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_RtUt0RsGMc?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\r\n\r\nCheerful upbeat, music, bell, chiming Amanda, Hey Psych2Goers, and welcome back to another video. If you’re new here, welcome to Psych2Go Confidence.\r\n\r\nSome people are born with an innate streak of confidence.\r\n\r\nWhilst it takes a little time for others to develop confidence as they develop from children into adults, there will be times when your confidence takes a knock right.\r\n\r\nIt’s common to feel like you wish.\r\n\r\nYour confidence was better, While other things that are out of control may impact your confidence, such as other people.\r\n\r\nIt’s, important to know which things you are in control of and how you can prevent yourself from destroying your confidence.\r\n\r\nSo here are nine habits that are destroying your confidence Number one.\r\n\r\nYou care too much about what other people think.\r\n\r\nHow many times have you said to yourself Cartoon I don’t care what other people think about me?\r\n\r\nAmanda, Honestly, the tally isn’t quite encouraging. Is it Cartoon laughing Cartoon No Amanda That’s? Okay? It’s common to care about what other people think, especially if we’re trying to impress them As human beings.\r\n\r\nYou want to be liked and respected by others.\r\n\r\nHowever, when you value other people,’s, thoughts and opinions above your own, and change your behavior to reflect what you think others want to see.\r\n\r\nYou’re doing more harm than good for yourself Number.\r\n\r\nTwo negative thinking cartoons I’m, not good enough.\r\n\r\nI can’t do this.\r\n\r\nAmanda You’ve had one too many of those days.\r\n\r\nHave. ‘t you Cartoon Uh, huh Amanda.\r\n\r\nYou become what you think, If you always think you’re, not good enough, then you’ll never be confident.\r\n\r\nDo you have thoughts that you can never get that promotion, even though you are qualified That’s, negative thinking Indulging in pessimism creates a self-fulfilling prophecy Cartoon. Oh boy, Amanda Yeah, you’re gradually destroying your self-confidence with all of these thoughts. Reframing those negative thoughts to say I am good enough to get this, job and I need to show: my skills: can reinforce a more, positive mindset: It 39, s crucial, to focus: on what you can do instead of worrying about the outcomes that you can’t Control Number three social media living.\r\n\r\nDo you compare your lifestyle with your friends on social media Or how many times have you thought that your social media life is better than your own life? The pretty pictures people paint on social media, as we know, are not always as they appear to be.\r\n\r\nIf you consistently find yourself comparing yourself to others living in your own version of reality, and only putting out what you want the world to see, then you may notice that this has an impact on your confidence in the real world.\r\n\r\nOnce you start to understand that this is not what everyday life is like, then you should start to feel more grounded.\r\n\r\nNumber four self-deprecating talk When you diminish what you do you’re taking shots at your self-confidence.\r\n\r\nIf every time you speak in a personal or professional setting – and you say that you’re – not that great – you’re diminishing your worth and value When you’re constantly communicating that you’re, not that great it’s bound to make.\r\n\r\nYou feel less than confident Writer C S, Lewis once said, Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but it’s.\r\n\r\nThinking of yourself less So remember that and try not to confuse humility with self-deprecation Number five.\r\n\r\nThe blame game is your favorite sport.\r\n\r\nWhen you find yourself in a situation that you are not happy with such as a job that you hate, do you tend to find excuses and blame everybody else or everything else for what is happening? This destroys your self-esteem and you feel less confident about being able to manage your situation.\r\n\r\nYou’ll need to develop an exit plan for your self-esteem In his video.\r\n\r\nHow To Beast explains this idea of blaming acts as a defense mechanism, So, rather than pass the blame taking ownership of your situation should jumpstart your confidence fingers crossed Number six.\r\n\r\nYou set the bar low for yourself When you disclaim.\r\n\r\nI’m not very good at this, so don’t have any expectations.\r\n\r\nIt immediately makes others question your ability Disqualifying yourself verbally reassures you that others won’t have high expectations from you and won’t be disappointed, But by setting yourself at this level, naturally, your confidence is going to be low, as is your sense of value.\r\n\r\nSo when you put confidence in it, it instills confidence in others about you as well Number.\r\n\r\nSeven thinking that you don’t have anything to say or contribute to a discussion.\r\n\r\nWhy don’t you tend to get involved in conversations at work or social events? Is it because you don’t believe that you have anything meaningful to add, Maybe Amanda? Well, this, too is destroying your confidence, as you may feel like people will be bored with what you have to say, or that they’ll think that you’re, not smart Yeah or they’ll make fun of me Amanda.\r\n\r\nThis is a story that you’ve told yourself, and you’ve started to believe that it’s. True, It may be that the topic of conversation is not something that you’re particularly interested in or know a lot about, but it should not be allowed to cost you your confidence.\r\n\r\nOkay, number, eight! You dismiss compliments Guilty as charged right.?Cartoon Mm hmm Amanda Yeah me too.\r\n\r\nWe often receive compliments by deflecting or shying away from accepting them, because we’re embarrassed or we don’t believe the comment By deflecting.\r\n\r\nWe’re not only selling ourselves short but challenging the judgment of the person complimenting us Cartoon Uh.\r\n\r\nOh Amanda, Accepting compliments.\r\n\r\nGraciously doesn’t make you an egomaniac.\r\n\r\nWe can accept, compliments graciously and take them on board when developing our confidence And number nine ruminating.\r\n\r\nEver find yourself repeatedly going over what you didn’t, get right or situations you didn’t like An example of this may be that you continuously think about something.\r\n\r\nYou said during a presentation of your work. Colleagues Rumination is taking thinking to another dimension altogether.\r\n\r\nEven though thinking is considered necessary for problem-solving, ruminating is focused on the problem and not on finding the solution.\r\n\r\nIn her article for Forbes, Jamie Kaluga wrote that When you ruminate on your poor decisions or setbacks, consistently, even the most confident people can struggle at times and it’s perfectly normal.\r\n\r\nYou are unique individuals with different skills, So use them to your advantage, Using positive affirmations every day, where possible can help to remind you of your strengths and what you want to develop.\r\n\r\nDo any of these describe your experience, Or did any of these points describe you If you have any comments or feedback regarding this video? Please leave them in the comment box below We love hearing back from our viewers, and your feedback is so important for us when we’re creating content at Psych2Go.\r\n\r\nIf you found this video helpful be sure to hit the like button and share it with those out there diminishing their confidence due to their habits, Don’t forget to subscribe to Psych2Go and hit the notification bell for more new videos.\r\n\r\nAs always, thanks for watching See you next time,\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=_RtUt0RsGMc\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">As found on YouTube<\/a>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n\u1da6\u02e2 \u02b8\u1d52\u1d58\u02b3 \u1d4d\u1d58\u1d43\u02b3\u1d48\u1da6\u1d43\u207f \u1d43\u207f\u1d4d\u1d49\u02e1 \u1d57\u02b3\u02b8\u1da6\u207f\u1d4d \u1d57\u1d52 \u02e2\u1d49\u207f\u1d48 \u02b8\u1d52\u1d58 \u1d43\u207f \u1d58\u02b3\u1d4d\u1d49\u207f\u1d57 \u1d50\u1d49\u02e2\u02e2\u1d43\u1d4d\u1d49? \u026a\ua730 \u028f\u1d0f\u1d1c \ua731\u1d07\u1d07\u1d0b \u0262\u1d1c\u026a\u1d05\u1d00\u0274\u1d04\u1d07 \u1d00\u0274\u1d05 \u026a\u0274\ua731\u026a\u0262\u029c\u1d1b\ua731 \u026a\u0274\u1d1b\u1d0f \u1d1b\u029c\u1d07 \u1d18\u1d00\ua731\u1d1b, \u1d18\u0280\u1d07\ua731\u1d07\u0274\u1d1b, \u1d00\u0274\u1d05 \ua730\u1d1c\u1d1b\u1d1c\u0280\u1d07 \u1d21\u026a\u1d1b\u029c q\u1d1c\u1d07\ua731\u1d1b\u026a\u1d0f\u0274\ua731 \u1d00\u0299\u1d0f\u1d1c\u1d1b \u029f\u1d0f\u1d20\u1d07, \u0280\u1d07\u029f\u1d00\u1d1b\u026a\u1d0f\u0274\ua731\u029c\u026a\u1d18\ua731, \u1d0f\u0280 \u1d0d\u1d0f\u0274\u1d07\u028f – \u1d04\u1d0f\u0274\u0274\u1d07\u1d04\u1d1b \u1d21\u026a\u1d1b\u029c \u028f\u1d0f\u1d1c\u0280 \u1d00\u0274\u0262\u1d07\u029f \u1d1b\u1d0f\u1d05\u1d00\u028f <a href=\"https:\/\/aef5aa-t-ztics23v7-ljxbw4j.hop.clickbank.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">https:\/\/aef5aa-t-ztics23v7-ljxbw4j.hop.clickbank.net\/<\/a>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/aef5aa-t-ztics23v7-ljxbw4j.hop.clickbank.net\/\"><img decoding=\"async\" style=\"width: 176px; height: 176px;\" src=\"https:\/\/i.ibb.co\/Mf9Bwx3\/R-5.jpg\" alt=\"\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cheerful upbeat, music, bell, chiming Amanda, Hey Psych2Goers, and welcome back to another video. 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