{"id":152264,"date":"2024-03-05T14:14:27","date_gmt":"2024-03-05T19:14:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/152264"},"modified":"2024-03-05T14:14:27","modified_gmt":"2024-03-05T19:14:27","slug":"how-to-stop-overthinking","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/152264","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop Overthinking"},"content":{"rendered":"
https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=CVFbUTjATGc<\/div>Overthinking is easy to slip into.00:00:03<\/a> Think about a time you distinctly remember overthinking.00:00:06<\/a> You feel your heartbeat rise and your eyes dart.00:00:10<\/a> Thoughts fire at unprecedented speeds as you struggle to pick up the pieces.00:00:14<\/a> You work yourself up, imagining all kinds of scenarios in your head, overloading it with stress.00:00:20<\/a> Now ask yourself this, how many times have you felt silly or a strange wash of relief because the overthinking led to nothing? More often than not, situations aren\u2019t as complex as you may think.00:00:33<\/a> Overthinking can lead to procrastination, and a lack of self-confidence, and destroys the time you have with yourself while potentially affecting those around you. Of course, this isn\u2019t a blanket statement.00:00:45<\/a> Neglecting certain aspects in fear of overthinking will cause avoidable issues. Still, it\u2019s worth noting the damage overthinking can cause.00:00:54<\/a> More significantly, however, there are plenty of solutions to overthinking.00:00:59<\/a> These aren\u2019t instant fixes – undoing a thought process in your head is often a daunting task, so before watching the rest of this video, take some time to forgive yourself. Self-improvement is all about understanding why you do things a certain way and moving forward.00:01:16<\/a> This is no different.00:01:19<\/a> Accept you can’t control external events For anyone, overthinker or otherwise, control is critical for feeling in charge of our lives.00:01:28<\/a> It\u2019s represented in all kinds of ways, from your morning routine to planning a wedding. For overthinkers, however, the desire for control can extend further. It can extend to external events way beyond an overthinker\u2019s grasp.00:01:44<\/a> The more they take on in their mind, the heavier that responsibility weighs, even if there is no responsibility in the first place.00:01:51<\/a> Let\u2019s say you\u2019re an overthinker and you\u2019ve just completed a job interview.00:01:55<\/a> You\u2019ve done everything you can – asked the right questions, composed yourself throughout and gave as good a version of yourself as possible.00:02:04<\/a> The interview ends and all you can do is wait.00:02:08<\/a> For some, that\u2019s that chapter closed until you find out more.00:02:11<\/a> For those who struggle with overthinking, the brain goes into overdrive. Thoughts about your performance, how you ended the call and what emails you can send after the fact all play on the mind when in reality, you\u2019ve done all you can. Accepting that you can\u2019t always control external events helps put your mind at ease. Think of it like a roadblock for intrusive thoughts.00:02:34<\/a> A helpful way to bring this to life might be by writing down the things out of your control and sticking them somewhere prominent as a continued reminder of what not to think about.00:02:45<\/a> Taking action (no matter how imperfect) One of the biggest causes of procrastination is an overhanging sense of imperfection.00:02:54<\/a> While it is simple to write any number of tasks on your to-do list, actually completing them is another thing entirely.00:03:00<\/a> How many times have you done everything you set out to do in one day? One of the most difficult challenges facing overthinkers is getting started.00:03:09<\/a> Before beginning, overthinking can lead to performance anxiety and subsequent procrastination.00:03:14<\/a> It may sound too easy to simply \u2018take action\u2019, but the more you break it down, the easier it becomes.00:03:21<\/a> Again, let\u2019s use the job interview example from earlier.00:03:25<\/a> You\u2019ve been tasked with creating a presentation for the potential role.00:03:29<\/a> It\u2019s due in just a few days but you haven\u2019t started; the task itself seems daunting as all manner of questions and scenarios run through your head: \u2018What if the technology lets me down?\u2019, \u2018What if they hate the presentation?\u2019, \u2018Where do I even begin?\u2019 These questions and scenarios bounce around in an overthinker\u2019s head until the task itself has grown from a small hurdle into an unsurmountable climb. The solution, as we\u2019ve touched on, is quite simple. Break it down.00:03:59<\/a> Find the smallest, most achievable part of your task and run with it.00:04:03<\/a> Pick something that doesn\u2019t require perfection and secure that coveted feeling of achievement.00:04:08<\/a> In this example, simply opening, titling, and saving a presentation document would be a solid, achievable start.00:04:17<\/a> Stop following through on all your thoughts You may occasionally see videos captioned \u2018when you let the intrusive thoughts win\u2019 doing the rounds on TikTok and YouTube. Intrusive thoughts are the Alfred to an overthinker\u2019s Batman.00:04:30<\/a> The thing is, most people get them and they can be completely random. For example, have you ever stepped in a lift and been tempted to push all of the buttons at once and run? Perhaps your intrusive thoughts are more innocent, such as wondering what would happen if you got on a random train instead of the usual.00:04:48<\/a> I don\u2019t know, but whatever way these thoughts materialise, they\u2019re there.00:04:53<\/a> A problem arises when these thoughts aren\u2019t left in the void your brain leaves for such a thing.00:04:59<\/a> Giving intrusive thoughts credence is a surefire way to overload your predominant line of thinking and overwhelm your mental energy resources.00:05:07<\/a> A tip if this is you? Stop following through on all of your thoughts. Not all of them need to be listened to.00:05:15<\/a> It\u2019s as simple as recognising that not every thought is a good one. Our minds are not immaculate – human error is prevalent.00:05:23<\/a> You\u2019d be forgiven for conflating this with self-doubt, as reminding yourself that not every thought needs listening to could cause you to doubt the authority of your voice. If you\u2019re worried that\u2019s the case, work on tracing the severity of your thoughts down. Ask yourself, \u201cwill this matter in five days?\u201d If the answer is no, chances are it\u2019s not worth your time.00:05:44<\/a> Live in the present moment instead I know what you\u2019re probably thinking.00:05:49<\/a> Living in the moment is advice flung around in a far too carefree nature amongst the self-improvement community.00:05:56<\/a> But, as with a lot of seemingly tired cliches, its positive effects ring true. Overthinking is a challenge we face when we dedicate too much of our present-day energy on our future selves.00:06:08<\/a> Going through life with your future self in mind is a very healthy trait to have, but if taken too far, your present-day is at risk.00:06:16<\/a> Overthinking about details out of your control in fear of the potential for damage negates any effort you put into enjoying your life as you\u2019ll never get to enjoy the moment you\u2019re in.00:06:26<\/a> Living in the present moment helps to refocus and recalibrate wasted energy into a force of good.00:06:32<\/a> It can come in the form of simple exercises such as this.00:06:35<\/a> Look around you and notice: \u2022 5 things you can see \u2022 4 things you can touch \u2022 3 things you can hear \u2022 2 things you can smell \u2022 1 thing you can taste Tasks like these and journaling help highlight a sense of self in the present moment, freeing up time for self-reflection and limiting overthinking space. Understand motivation differently While at the outset motivation is merely the energy required to carry out a task or activity, if you look deeper, you\u2019ll find a critical cog in your well-being and your relationship with yourself.00:07:09<\/a> Firstly, let\u2019s view motivation from a typical standpoint. When the deadline for something like sending a bunch of emails or completing some tedious coursework comes along, you may find yourself searching for inspiration other than the consequences of not completing the task at hand.00:07:26<\/a> That search is often left wanting.00:07:30<\/a> Motivation doesn\u2019t work like that – you can\u2019t spend your day waiting for it to float into your lap.00:07:35<\/a> Instead, you must simply begin, whatever that looks like.00:07:39<\/a> Think back to earlier in this video when we spoke about taking action, no matter how imperfect. That applies here.00:07:47<\/a> When you\u2019re up and running, the motivation will follow – that human need to finish something we\u2019ve started.00:07:52<\/a> That snowball effect is motivation.00:07:55<\/a> To solve the issue of overthinking, understanding how motivation works can be a vital tool in your arsenal.00:08:02<\/a> When you know about the snowball effect, it becomes easier to let go of the intrusive thoughts and unrealistic \u2018what ifs.’ Overthinking ends when you begin While some of these steps may make it seem simple to stop overthinking, the reality is different.00:08:18<\/a> For many, it\u2019s how their brain works, so challenging that authority may seem daunting. If that\u2019s you, then fear not, you\u2019re not alone.00:08:27<\/a> In summary, throughout the solutions featured in this video, two key themes stand out: acceptance and action.00:08:35<\/a> When you forgive yourself for not being able to control everything, you can put your best and most important foot forward.00:08:42<\/a> Overthinking can cripple the sharpest of minds, so it\u2019s important to remember that it doesn\u2019t make you any less of a person.00:08:49<\/a> It simply means putting your present self in the driver\u2019s seat and putting faith in your decision-making.00:08:56<\/a> Would you like the full illustration from this video? Click here and I’ll send it right over! If you are already subscribed to my free Art of Improvement email newsletter, then there’s a copy of it already waiting in your inbox. Thank you for watching and have an awesome week!
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https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=CVFbUTjATGcOverthinking is easy to slip into.00:00:03 Think about a time you distinctly remember overthinking.00:00:06 You feel your heartbeat rise and your eyes dart.00:00:10 Thoughts fire at unprecedented speeds as you struggle to pick up the pieces.00:00:14 You work yourself up, imagining all kinds of scenarios in your head, overloading it with stress.00:00:20 Now ask yourself … Continue reading How to Stop Overthinking<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":152265,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[816],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-152264","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-environment"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/03\/1709666067-maxresdefault.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/152264","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=152264"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/152264\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/152265"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=152264"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=152264"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=152264"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}