{"id":150666,"date":"2023-07-08T17:38:16","date_gmt":"2023-07-08T21:38:16","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/?p=150666"},"modified":"2023-07-08T12:51:26","modified_gmt":"2023-07-08T16:51:26","slug":"8-signs-of-an-anxious-attachment-style","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/150666","title":{"rendered":"8 Signs of an Anxious Attachment Style"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"8 Signs of an Anxious Attachment Style\" width=\"660\" height=\"371\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/g-466psrXrA?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n(upbeat music) – [Narrator] Hey Psych2Go\r\nWelcome back to another video, before we start, we’d\r\nlike to thank you all for the support that you’ve given us. Psych2Go mission is to make psychology and mental health more\r\naccessible to everyone, and you help us do that, so thank you, now back to the video. Are you always insecure\r\nabout your relationships? Do you need constant reassurance from your partner or loved ones? Attachment theory\r\ncategorizes the way we act in relationships into three-man attachment styles, in today’s video, we will be focusing on the anxious attachment style, which according to mind-body green is a type of insecure attachment\r\nstyle rooted in a fear of abandonment and insecurity\r\nof being under-appreciated. The anxiety or insecurities you may feel in your relationship today may be due to an anxious attachment style\r\nyou developed as a child.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nRemember if you find yourself relating to the points we mentioned,\r\nbe kind to yourself, and know that you can always work towards improving your behaviors, with that said, let’s\r\nlook at the eight signs of an anxious attachment style. Number one is feeling\r\ninsecure in relationships. Are you always worried\r\nabout not being good enough for your partner? Does it get in the way of your happiness? A sign of an anxious attachment style is feeling insecure in your relationships, and this insecurity may\r\nmanifest in several ways. For instance, you may find\r\nyourself very reactive to your partner’s words and actions, or find that you need constant reassurance from your partner to feel okay.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nNumber two is, the looming fear of abandonment. Are you scared that your\r\npartner will leave you even when nothing is wrong? This fear of abandonment\r\nis pretty common for people with an anxious attachment. It’s likely stemming from\r\nfeelings of abandonment and insecurity about your\r\nparents when you were a child. According to how Healthline\r\nthis fear and worry that your partner will leave you, often results in a tendency to become overly\r\ndependent on your partner, which may negatively\r\nimpact your relationship and your emotional wellbeing. Number three is trust issues. You have a hard time\r\ntrusting your partner. Maybe you find it hard to\r\nbelieve in your partner when they say they won’t leave you, or when your friends tell you that they truly care about you, whatever it is, this\r\ndifficulty to trust others may stem from a combination\r\nof feeling insecure about your relationships, and fearing that your\r\npartner or your friends are going to abandon you in time.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIf it gets out of hand,\r\nthis distrust of others may result in losing your relationships. Number four is clinginess. Have other people called you clingy when it comes to you\r\nand your relationships, maybe you’re over-reliant, or\r\noverdependent on your friends, family, or partner. Unlike some of the other signs, clinginess can be a common\r\ncoping mechanism for fears that come with the\r\nanxious attachment style. According to the attachment project, people with anxious\r\nattachment develop clinginess because they’re afraid of being alone. Number five is emotional neediness. Do you always need other\r\npeople’s attention? According to Abby Moore from\r\nMindbodygreen many people with an anxious attachment\r\nstyle are emotionally needy because they did not receive the proper emotional nurturing\r\nand security as a child. And this emotional neediness\r\nmay manifest into behaviors where they constantly seek reassurance, soothing, and attention from\r\nthe people in their life. Number six, harsh reactions to criticism. Are you the type to\r\ntake criticism to heart? Does it have a strong\r\nimpact on your self-esteem? While it is not uncommon to\r\nbe sensitive to criticism those with an anxious attachment style might view criticism more intensely.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/236151\/pexels-photo-236151.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;h=650&amp;w=940\" \/>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nInstead of seeing criticism\r\nas a way to help you grow, you may take it as a rejection, and let it amplify your\r\nfears and insecurities, which may ultimately\r\nlead to low self-esteem. Number seven is ambivalence\r\ntowards intimacy. Do you crave intimacy, or\r\ndo you find it overwhelming? Some people with anxious\r\nattachments walk this fine line between craving and fearing\r\nemotional and physical intimacy. And this perception of intimacy may be due to emotional neglect\r\nduring your childhood. So while you have a deep\r\ncraving for intimacy, you may not know how to, or be comfortable with accepting it. And number eight, feeling unworthy. Do you feel unworthy of love, or that you aren’t good\r\nenough for your relationships? People with an anxious attachment may have low levels of self-esteem, and a negatively distorted\r\nview of their self-worth. This lack of self-esteem is\r\nlikely to stem from insecurities and fears of being abandoned, or unwanted by your parents or loved ones, which may lead to a belief\r\nthat you’re not worthy enough for your relationships.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nWe hope you enjoyed learning\r\nabout some of the signs of an anxious attachment style. Do you relate to any of the\r\nthings we’ve mentioned above? Let us know in the comments below. If you found this video helpful, be sure to like and share this video with those who might benefit from it. Don’t forget to subscribe and\r\nhit the notification bell icon to get notified whenever I\r\ndecide to go post a new video. The references and\r\nstudies used in this video are added in the description below.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThanks for watching, and we’ll\r\nsee you in our next video.\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=g-466psrXrA\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">As found on YouTube<\/a>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/flywait.darekw.hop.clickbank.net\/\">SeanCooper🗯<\/a> The Shyness &amp; Social Guy \u21dd The 3 WORST Mistakes You Must AVOID If You Want To Overcome Shyness (PLUS: 1 weird trick that targets the root biological cause of shyness so you can stop being nervous, awkward, and quiet around people\u2026) By Sean Cooper, <a href=\"http:\/\/flywait.darekw.hop.clickbank.net\/\">The Shyness &amp; Social Anxiety Guy<\/a>. The fact that you\u2019re reading this article tells me you may have already reached a point where you feel your shyness is NOT going away on its own\u2026 or you fear it\u2019s getting worse and worse. And I don\u2019t want you to waste one more day living a life where you feel left out, bored, or depressed because you don\u2019t have the relationships which would make you happy. That\u2019s why I\u2019ve put together this page to help you avoid the worst mistakes that keep many people stuck with shyness for years\u2026<\/p>\r\n<a href=\"http:\/\/flywait.darekw.hop.clickbank.net\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/i.ibb.co\/86wXnBD\/R-27.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"64\" height=\"117\" \/><\/a>\r\n\r\noften giving up hope of ever improving as you watch other people have interesting \u201cnormal\u201d lives without you. Yet this doesn\u2019t have to happen.","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>&nbsp; (upbeat music) – [Narrator] Hey Psych2Go Welcome back to another video, before we start, we’d like to thank you all for the support that you’ve given us. Psych2Go mission is to make psychology and mental health more accessible to everyone, and you help us do that, so thank you, now back to the video. &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/150666\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">8 Signs of an Anxious Attachment Style<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":150663,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[1,138,468],"tags":[60457,33937,60459,60455,60462,33938,60466,60463,59942,60467,41366,60473,60476,60470,39665,337],"class_list":["post-150666","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anxiety","category-community","category-health-care-policy","tag-8-signs-of-an-anxious-attachment-style","tag-anxious","tag-anxious-attachment","tag-anxious-attachment-style","tag-anxious-attachment-styles","tag-attachment","tag-attachment-style","tag-attachment-styles","tag-attachment-styles-in-relationships","tag-attachment-theory","tag-avoidance","tag-dismissive-avoidant","tag-fearful","tag-fearful-avoidance","tag-psych2go","tag-relationships"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/07\/htmlF_IMG_64a9607d442a4.jpg","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150666"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=150666"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150666\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":150708,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/150666\/revisions\/150708"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/150663"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=150666"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=150666"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=150666"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}