{"id":150445,"date":"2023-04-30T03:48:36","date_gmt":"2023-04-30T07:48:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/?p=150445"},"modified":"2023-04-29T21:00:31","modified_gmt":"2023-04-30T01:00:31","slug":"can-this-book-help-with-social-anxiety","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/150445","title":{"rendered":"CAN THIS BOOK HELP WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY?"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"CAN THIS BOOK HELP WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY?\" width=\"660\" height=\"371\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/ilvZUcKvU-4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSocial anxiety is absolutely brutal to live with, but can this unconventional book help you out with your social anxiety, stay tuned as we discuss what is up everybody. This is Chris from the rewired soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution today,’s problem is social anxiety and I haven’t done a book review in a long time. I’ve been kind of just not even really slacking.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI’ve just been like picking up books and going through them and not finishing them all the way because they get kind of and all this other stuff.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nBut I’m back and I’m gon na be doing some book.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nReviews like the book reading are reignited in me, so, like this book is gon na surprise you, but first let me preface this by talking about my history with social anxiety like so many people who meet me, like they’re, so shocked when I tell them That I used to have social anxiety as I did.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIt was brutal.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nMy brain was constantly going a million miles a minute.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI was so concerned about what I was doing.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nWhat I was saying when I was thinking where you were looking at and all these other things I was trying to read you and I didn’t know if I was making you uncomfortable and all sorts of stuff like.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI was always worried about saying something that might offend or make somebody uncomfortable like.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI was just extremely socially awkward and it made me fumble over my words, even more, which made it even more awkward, and it was just terrible. It was so terrible and, like I just couldn’t talk to people unless there was somebody like that, I knew and if you’re socially anxious, you know exactly what I mean.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo what I try to do when I read books, no matter what book it is like, I try to see what we can learn from it and most of the books.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI do read our mental health books and this book has been on my list for a while, but I haven’t picked it up.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nCuz it’s, not a mental health book.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI’m, like you know, I bet this book might be able to help people who are socially anxious and it’s interesting because I don’t think a lot of people’s.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSocial anxiety would pick up this book if they saw it in a bookstore or on Audible or Amazon or Kindle or whatever it is they might not pick it up, but it’s good.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo I’ll be honest with you.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI’m only three chapters in I’m, like you, everybody who subscribed to my channel, who has social anxiety, needs to read this book.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nNo, you asked me, Chris.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nWhat are you talking about? What book is it? Well, it is called what everybody is Saying by Joe Navarro alright, so I listen to all my books on Audible. I just listen while I’m driving to work or if I’m doing some like tedious tasks at work.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI just have an audiobook playing and like so just to preface this book, so this guy Joe Navarro.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nHe is an ex-FBI agent and it was one of the best the reason why it was one of the best is that he’s amazing.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nReading body language, this book blends neuroscience with the science of body language, so that’s, something that sold me on this book.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nFor those of you who’ve been around for a while, I’m, really into neuroscience understanding how the brain works helps with understanding how we behave and how we think, and the way we do things in our mental health and all that kind of Stuff, so here’s the thing when it comes to social anxiety.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nA lot of it is this concern that we don’t know what people are thinking, what’s going through their mind, but think about it for a second.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIf we could better understand a person,’s body language and what certain things meant, then we could know if, if this person’s enjoying the conversation, if they’re, trying to get out of this conversation, if they’re uncomfortable, if they’re Nervous, like we can read all these different things and that’s just absolutely amazing.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo I’m just going to give a few little things that are in this book so far, but I’m only about three chapters in and I’m hustling through it because I joined the psych book club with some buddies.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nWho I play fortnight with and I was super excited when they told me they were reading this book about you.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI need to get this book. I want to join your book club because not many of my friends read you know what I mean, so I’m glad that I get to like talk and discuss this stuff with other people besides you.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI love you, but I need some more human interaction, so anyways the book kind of starts with, and it goes through kind of like a curriculum of what this book’s gon na be about, but throughout it like Joe Navarro.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nHe kind of gives some examples of these different cases.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nHe worked and things that he learned and all sorts of stuff and kind of like his childhood and why he became fascinated with understanding body language because he came from another country and didn’t speak English.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo he had to learn how to read body language to know if people liked him or didn’t like him, and this kind of helped him out before he learned English.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo then, like one of the first chapters, I think it’s, chapter 2.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThey start to talk about the limbic system and the prefrontal cortex, and things like that.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/3833370\/pexels-photo-3833370.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;h=650&amp;w=940\" \/>\r\n\r\nSo the limbic system, which is the most primitive part of the brain, is the strongest part of the brain.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIt is your emotional part of the brain right so, like he talks about how you can’t always believe what’s coming out of somebody’s mouth or their facial expressions, because, like they’re, actually not a good indicator.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nYou have to look at other cues on their body, which I’ll talk about in a second, and like for me like this book is kind of sold to people like you know, when you’re talking to your boss, you’re talking to A customer or you’re, talking to a client, we’re talking to a loved one or talking to your kids, but like for me. I’m like bad.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThis could help with social anxiety.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nYou know what I mean so understanding these things.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo what are the great things that I want to make some dedicated videos to? This is one of the first things it does.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIt talks about pacifying, behavior, okay, these are things that we do, unconsciously, that calm us down.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nOkay, so some people might rub the skin right below their neck or they might rub their neck like this because these are filled with a lot of nerves and it releases calming neurotransmitters in your body, so it calms you down it soothes, you, okay, so I want to make some more videos on that because if you’re somebody who just gets anxious or stressed there are some points on your body that you can touch that calm you down, so you could do it more deliberately.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo this next chapter Armand, he talks in an earlier chapter about like what do you think the most telling part of the body is and a lot of people would say face and things like that.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nBut if that was the truth, then why would a poker face even be a thing, so the feet are the best indicator for this, and this is something I’ve heard a very long time ago and it’s something that I noticed.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI even notice myself doing it so just some quick examples: if somebody has their feet turned towards the door or an exit.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThis means that they’re either uncomfortable or they’re in our curry, or they want to leave okay because that’s just our natural fight-or-flight instincts. Okay, so like when, when we get in these situations like our feet, they’re prepared to do something.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nOkay, then it also talks about how having a wider stance is more confrontational.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo we discuss how to kind of diffuse a situation to make sure that your legs are together, because even on that unconscious level, if you, if you have a wider stance – and you’re, like kind of in a heated argument with somebody, they’re, Getting more prepared to attack back right, even if it’s verbally, okay, so it also talks about other things about how, when you cross your legs, you feel comfortable, and the reason this is is is because the brain is not preparing you to leave.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo when you cross your legs, you’re actually off balance.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo if somebody’s crossing their legs near you, whether it’s, you know one leg over the other and in their lap or if it’s just crossing their ankles.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nOkay, because our center of gravity changes, so this means they’re very comfortable, so their brains not telling them hey, you might need to get out of this situation so like I find this very, very useful when like having conversations with other people noticing what their Hands are doing their arms are doing like there’s, one part where it talks about if somebody’s cupping their elbow.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThis is also something that means that they’re uncomfortable.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIf they move their hand, this means that they’re starting to relax.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo there are a lot of great tips in here, and I hope that some of you read it the more you understand about the brain and what we do, the more you will improve your mental health.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nOne of the reasons my mental health is so much better. These days are because I hate myself for this.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI’m gon na link a video up in the info card about something called the brain mechanic.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nOkay, the more you understand about your brain, the better you’ll be able to handle a variety of different situations, whether it’s, anxiety, depression, and things like that.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nBut I like this book because it’s how to tell if other people are uncomfortable or confrontational and all that kind of good stuff.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo if you want to join me on this journey and read this book, I’m gon na put a link down in the description below that’s an affiliate link.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo if you’re interested in it go ahead and buy it from Amazon, it doesn’t cost you anything and it helps support the channel.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nBut I would love for you to read this book check it out and tell me your thoughts on it and then maybe I’ll do a full book review after I’m done with it.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nAlright, anyways that’s – all I got for you today.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nSo if you like this video, please give it a thumbs up, and if you are new here, I’m always making videos to help you out with your mental and emotional well being go ahead and click that little round subscribe button and a huge.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. 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