{"id":150210,"date":"2023-01-17T09:48:44","date_gmt":"2023-01-17T14:48:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/?p=150210"},"modified":"2023-07-31T19:41:14","modified_gmt":"2023-07-31T23:41:14","slug":"10-signs-of-narcissistic-victim-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/effectsofanxiety.net\/archives\/150210","title":{"rendered":"10 Signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"10 Signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome\" width=\"660\" height=\"371\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/4LiWgnJZOr4?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n(soft instrumental music) – [Amanda] Hey Psych2Go\r\nfamily, and welcome back. If you’re new to this channel and by the end of the video\r\nyou enjoy our content, do consider subscribing and\r\njoining the Psych2Go fam. Now, let’s begin. Narcissistic victim syndrome is a term that collectively\r\ndescribes specific and often severe side effects\r\nof narcissistic abuse. Many experts acknowledge\r\nnarcissistic abuse can have a serious long-lasting\r\nimpact on emotional health, although it is not recognized\r\nas a mental health condition. As a result of chronic abuse, victims may struggle with\r\nsymptoms of PTSD or complex PTSD. If they had additional trauma such as being abused by\r\nnarcissistic parents. (beeping) (upbeat music) With that in mind, here are\r\n10 signs that might suggest you have narcissistic victim syndrome. Number one, you felt like you\r\nhad a perfect relationship with that person in the beginning. When you’re in a romantic relationship, this type of abuse usually begins slowly and it creeps up on you\r\nafter you fallen hard and are in love with your partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIn the early stages of the relationship, this is when the love\r\nbombing usually occurs. They may shower you with\r\ngifts and affections and it can feel very intense. Then slowly, manipulative tactics start to invade the relationship and will replace the love bombing. In the case of narcissistic parents, they might also offer\r\nlove, adoration, praise, and financial support, until you do something to displease them and lose their favor. They use tactics such as\r\ngaslighting and silent treatment which can leave you\r\nquestioning your own sanity. And this is something that sticks with you even after you’ve cut\r\nties with that person. Number two, you feel like\r\nyou’re walking on eggshells. A common symptom of trauma\r\nis avoiding anything that might make you relive\r\nthat particular trauma.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nWhether it be people,\r\nor places, or activities that pose the threat to you, you may feel like you’re\r\nconstantly worrying and being careful about what\r\nyou say or do around people because that is how you used to behave when you were around your abuser. You may present as\r\nanxious and introverted, especially when in the\r\npresence of other people, though you’re simply\r\nacting out of extreme fear. Number three, you may have\r\nexperienced smear campaigns once the relationship ended. When breakups happen, it’s\r\ncommon for people to take sides. This is no different when it\r\ncomes to a narcissistic abuser. They will twist your words and tell their version\r\nof the story to others to try and get them to\r\nfeel sorry for them. They can often drum up\r\nsupport from your loved ones by insisting that they only\r\nhave the best interest at heart.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThen when you try to talk\r\nabout the abuse that happened, your loved ones might side\r\nwith the abuser over you. This can drop barriers between you and the people\r\nin your support network and leave you feeling isolated. Number four, you feel\r\nisolated and vulnerable. When no one will listen\r\nto you or your concerns, this can leave you\r\nfeeling very much alone. When you feel alone, you’re vulnerable to further\r\nmanipulation from your abuser. They may pull you back\r\nin with fake apologies, a hand of kindness, or by brushing their past\r\nabuse under the rock. This tactic, which is called hovering, is the perfect time to pounce when you’re lacking in support since you are more likely\r\nto doubt your perceptions of the abuse when you can’t\r\ntalk to anyone about it. Number five, you’ve developed\r\na pervasive sense of mistrust.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nAre you hypervigilant? Do you worry and get anxious\r\nover other people’s intentions? The gaslighting techniques\r\nused by the narcissistic abuser may have contributed to\r\nhow you view the world. And you may find that you have\r\na hard time trusting anyone, including yourself. Number six, you may\r\nengage in self-sabotaging and self-destructive behavior. Victims often find themselves\r\nruminating over the abuse. This can enhance the frequency\r\nof negative self-talk and the tendency towards self-sabotage. Malignant narcissists\r\nwill try and program you, conditioning you for self-destruction. This could potentially lead you to engaging in risky\r\nbehaviors such as self-harm or even suicidal ideation. You might’ve developed a\r\nknack for punishing yourself because of the toxic shame you carry, put there by the hypercriticism and verbal abuse of your abuser. If you feel like you’re\r\nlacking in any motivation to pursue your dreams and goals, then this could be a result\r\nof narcissistic abuse. Number seven, you may experience unexplained physical symptoms. Narcissistic abuse can trigger\r\nanxious and nervous feelings that can trigger physical symptoms.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThe stress of chronic abuse may send your stress\r\nlevels into overdrive. And as a result, your immune\r\nsystem may take a severe hit leaving you vulnerable to\r\nphysical ailments and disease. You may notice symptoms such\r\nas appetite changes, nausea, stomach pain, muscle aches and\r\npains, insomnia, and fatigue. Number eight, you may have\r\nissues setting boundaries. The experience of narcissistic abuse can often leave you with\r\nlittle respect for boundaries. This may be because when you tried to set\r\nboundaries in the past, you may have been met with\r\nchallenges from the abuser who gave you the silent treatment until you did what they wanted.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/images.pexels.com\/photos\/897817\/pexels-photo-897817.jpeg?auto=compress&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;h=650&amp;w=940\" \/>\r\n\r\nOnce you end the relationship or gain distance from\r\na narcissistic parent, you promise yourself that\r\nyou won’t answer their calls or physically see them at all. However, even if you’ve tried to cut ties, your abuser is confident that they will eventually wear you down because you’ve set aside\r\nyour boundaries with them so many times before. If you’ve experienced narcissistic abuse, you might also have trouble\r\nsetting healthy boundaries in your relationships\r\nwith others in the future. Nine, you may be questioning\r\nyour own identity. When facing abuse, many people\r\nadjust their self-identity to accommodate an abusive partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nYou may have stopped\r\ndoing things you enjoy or spending time with friends and family in order to better appease your abuser. These changes can often\r\nlead to a loss of identity during and after the abuse. It’s not uncommon for\r\nvictims of narcissistic abuse to experience dissociation and attachment from the physical world. Dr. van der Kolk writes\r\nin his book titled, “The Body Keeps The Score”: Dissociation is the essence of trauma.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nThe overwhelming experience\r\nis split off and fragmented so that the emotions,\r\nsounds, images, thoughts, and physical sensations\r\ntake on a life of their own. Oof! Number 10, you may find\r\nit hard to make decisions. When there has been a negative pattern of devaluation and criticism in your life, you might have very little self-esteem and confidence in yourself. Narcissistic abusers can make statements that imply that you are\r\nunable to make good decisions. Abusive partners may have called\r\nyou’re stupid, or ignorant, or they might’ve insulted you with a false and affectionate tone. They can manipulate you into believing you\r\nimagine parts of reality making it seem less important\r\nthan it actually is. This type of controlling and deceitfulness can affect the way you\r\nmake future decisions. So, did you relate to any of the signs? Let us know in the comments below. I wanted to take a second\r\nto say that I definitely… Um, sorry. Hi, it’s Amanda, the voiceover voice.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nI’m reading the script for the first time and I really related to it. So I wanted to add a point that, in you taking the time to learn about narcissistic\r\nvictim syndrome, you’re empowering yourself. Once you know you can grow. Acknowledging the effects of being in a narcissistic relationship is the first step to healing from one. As we close out, we wanted to say that not all\r\nabuse is linked to narcissism, and not all people with a diagnosis of narcissistic\r\npersonality disorder will engage in abusive behavior. However, if you feel you might be a victim of this type of abuse, we encourage you to reach out for help. Talk to someone you can trust, like a good friend, a family\r\nmember, or a therapist.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\nIt’s not easy to leave\r\nan abusive relationship, but with the right support,\r\nyou can move on with your life and start to heal from your past hurts. Like and share this video if it helped you and you think it could\r\nhelp someone else too. The studies and references used are listed in the description below. 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